unless its two great friends compared to ten good friends
hmmm?
Loneliness is an individual phenomenon, I think.
I agree with CaptainScurvy. You can have a lot of friends, no matter how great, and still be lonely. It’s an individual thing.
The person with ten good friends probably has a deeper sense of lonely. Just because they have so many doesn’t mean they’re understood, whereas if you only have two extremely dear friends, it’s highly likely that there’s a deeper-set connection.
im with cmdll-theyre the same but if you had 2 best friends and 10 good friends then well…i was thinking it depends…..if you have 2 great friends thats all you need unless you were an outgoing partier who needed lots of ‘friends’ but …..
enuf rambling id rather hav 2 great friends, i can always make aqaitances
It all really depends on the person…. and who reallly has 10 GOOD friends….one true friend in this world is hard to come by
yea like what burgandykitten said…
I would say there both happy or they would have more friends.
This is confusing…
Neither.. loneliness cannot be defined by how many or how little friends you have. It depends on the individual in question’s personality.
Both. In my case with more…
I don’t know….probably the two friends, depending on how good they are of friends.Quality beats quantity but if you can’t get quality then quantity is the next best thing.
the last person by far how can you have a good relationship with 10 people? and equally love them Erica
I think that it depends on how many friends their friends have.
Oops I answered the opposite of what I meant…
loneliness doesnt really have to do with how many friends you have..or at least it doesnt directly depend on it
the one with only two. if it were ten aquaintences, then the one with ten would be more lonely.
Loneliness is loneliness no matter how many friends you have.
I don’t think happiness or lonliness can be determined by friendships. Humans are too fragile, too weak. Other human relationships can never completely satisfy.
depends on the person.. loneliness depends on more than the number of good friends you have. Many people are surrounded by a lot of friends but they are still lonely.
neither.
ten, two close friends is a good number of close friends who know you, while ten makes you feel popular they dont know you as well
wow! First time I’ve ever NOT seen someone say they were first…wow!
The person with none…..or the person with a lot of ok friends but no good ones.
me
It solely depends on the person.
It’s hard to say. One truly good friend might be enough for some people, plus there are other things to consider. If you have 20 close friends, but they all live hundreds of miles away, you could be pretty lonely.
I think lonliness is a state of mind. You are rich if you think you are. See what i mean, It’s all how you look at it!
Friendship depends on quality, not quantity.
if they’re all good friends, I’d say they’re equal
Loneliness is not based on how many friends you have.
I say 10 good friends.
I don’t know. I would assume the one with 10 good friends would be more lonely unless all of the 11 people were extremely close with eachother. If the person was good friends with all 10 people but only spent time with them individually then their time with eachother would be spaced out. I’m not sure if that makes any sense to you but it does to me..hard to explain.
I personally only have 3 really good friends and I’m fine with it…although I am trying to branch out..
-m.
RTC: LOL! Yeah… I never learned to appreciate free food until I came to college..
A person with ten good friends is more lonely, because you can’t get as personal with ten friends as you can with two.
Neither, as long as they are “true” friends.
DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU HAVE TWO OR TEN, YOU CAN STILL BE LONELY.
ten
nvm…just as long as you know they are all “real” friends.
Seriously… I’ll be democrat on Monday, Anarchist on Tuesday, Catholic on Wednesday, Republican on Thursday, and Baptist on Friday if it entails free pizza and Sprite…
the one with more, if it is a group friendship. that feels more superficial to me
What??? Loneliness doesn’t have to correspond with the # of friends you have. Loneliness is a feeling that anyone can have at anytime…..even when surrounded by friends.
NVRMND!
10 good friends
10′s too many to get close to.
The person with two friends, you’re always going to want more. Variety, I guess. Except if you’re going out with one of the two, that’s different. Although if you went out with someone and had 9 other good friends, it’d be better then the boy/girlfriend and another friend.
¿2 friends?
I think someone can be lone if they have 50 friends, it totally depends on the person.
I think they are both equal. They are not lonely. They have company. Quantity doesn’t matter in my opinion though. It’s quality.
: )
depends on who all of them are, the friends, and the befriended
It depends on the person and it depends on the friends.
I answer your questions with “it depends” A LOT.
The person who is the most lonely is the one who cannot spend time by themselves and must have friends to be happy.
*~Christi~*
Depends on what type of friends they are.
RTC:
Depends on the person doesn’t it…….’til the next
I think you can have 10 friends…but 10 close friends? Nope. I would rather have 2 GOOD friends
Not sure really – I would be happy with ten friends or two. A friend is friend either way.
Like many people have been saying, loneliness is individual. It may have less to do with the number of friends or the quality of friends and more to do with the person’s self esteem and view of the world and relationships. So it depends.
if they are equally good friends…obviously the one with 2 good friends would be more lonely.
Depends on your friends — quantity does not always equal quality.
the first one.
Hmmm…. How many friends you have doesn’t help loneliness so much. Some people have no friends, and they’re just fine. I have lots of friends, and I get lonely a lot. I’m not really sure that it can be determined. It’s an individual thing.
I think that the second one is more lonely cuz they have to spread out more of there time with all the 10 friends.. and it getts to be way more stressful!
HOW GAY!
2, even tho it sounds kinda shallow, the more the merrier ^.^
I’d have to go with the person with 10. Boy, you sure have some good stuff on here…..
loneliness is the human condition.
for me i think that the person with two because the person with ten doesn’t really have good friend the have good asociates. And just because they think that they are good friends they may not be. Haveing more friends does not make you more happy.
ttfn ( ta ta for now)
kita
you could be surrounded by 200 good friends and still be lonlier than someone with 2 good friends. too many factors to give a black and white answer.
I think that it all depends on if the person is naturally happy/secure or not. You can have great friends, but if you’re depressed, you’re still lonely. I think that if you’re stable then the more good friends the less lonely you’ll feel.
Depends on how good those two good friends are.
I don’t need a lot of close friends, but others do.
((( GRANDMA HUGS )))
Lori
two friends that really love you are always better. I am friends with so many people in my school, almost no one actually dislikes me, and I almost always have some sort of friend in any class, especially if it is an honors class.
but you now what – none of these people call me up, or ask me to do things.
I have two best friends, who I rarely see but who contact me all the time, and when I am with them I am way less lonely then when I am with my friends from school.
In fact, all you need is one good person, who you are great friends with. that’s all you need is one best friend, and the rest doesn’t really matter.
Loneliness is the human condition.
it all depends on how good the friends are.
Neither. You are never alone with friends. Doesn’t matter how many! Quality vs Quantity!
Neither are.
well i huees I’m one of them. no one appreciates me at all. i feel as if I’m invisible at school. Nobody seems top notice me except my “few” friends I have like 30 friends….but that’s nothing. trust me. We’re all in different classes. People destroy my stuff, shove me around and mock me. Losers. No wonder all my anger is taken out on my parents. I feel ashamed
you have NINE entries on FC as of right now. i’m gonna go and comment on all the posts that i missed and see if those make FC too. HAHAHAAA. yeah… i’ve got a lot of time on my hands.. hehe
I agree with most everybody. It depends on the person. Some people need lots of friends, some people don’t. If you need a lot and only have 2, you wouldn’t be happy. If you don’t want a lot but have 10, you wouldn’t be happy either. It’s all relative.
It’s how much trust is between them that counts….I think the one with 10 friends may know what it is like to be lonely, though.
Good friends? Neither.
Neither!
i think that they can both be equally lonely…..sometimes (like in my case over the past few days) it doesnt matter how many friends or enemies you have, you can still feel like you the only one in the entire world…..and you’re always the only one in your own mind!!
loneliness, like most friends, comes and goes throughout a life with no rhyme or reason. it just happens.
neither?? both?? depends on what they need and what they get out of the “friendship”
depends on what they see, value, want, and understand the experience of.
Is there a difference between the kinds of friendships with rhe 10 vs 2 people? If they are true, good friends then having 2 or 10 wouldn’t really matter, having that satisfying relatiopnship with others and feeling loved will help keep you from feeling lonely.
loneliness isn’t measured in numbers. it’s individual. it really depends on who these people with 2 and 10 friends are.
10 good friends. With so many, you can’t become as close to them without the others being jealous or being thretend by your relationship.
People can have million friends and still be lonely,
Mary
It is all relative.
Since lonliness comes from the inside out they are both lonely. Judi
It depends how loyal and “good” those friends you speech of are.
I’m the most lonely.. ever… Nobody likes me..
neither
Doesn’t matter how many friends you have. It’s how you feel inside…
A person with ten good friends. Unless you have that one good friend that you truly share a connection with then you might as well have no friends at all.
the person with 2 friends is lonelier. friends that travel in packs of 3s always have one odd person. 2 will always been closer and it rotates regarding who is the left out friend.
I’d say the person with 10 good friends. Because he’s more than likely not really close to them if he has so many. The one with 2 friends however, has little friends and is probably more close to those 2.
But of course, the person with no friends is always the most lonely.
Nicholas
define what “good friend” is.
it depends on the relationships you have with your friends. If you can have personal ocnversations with them, then there is no lonlieness. I used to be in a big ass group… never lonely. But now I only have a few good friends, and they rock… and still I’m rarely lonely.
10
10 good friends
neither, because you have good friends
ten people is more than two.
the person with 10.usually if u have alot of friends like that you are not really close with any of them. its better to have a couple close friends and then a few that are more like aquaintances.
The person with two good friends probably has deeper relationships than the person with ten good friends.
10 Good Friends. Fewer friends makes you closer to them. How do I know? I have only 2 good friends.
I thinkt they both are. Friends are great….But they aren’t the same as a person who really loves you. Its not the same as a person who wants to spend the rest of his/her life with you. You can be surrounded by 50 of your bestfriends…But you still feel that gnawing loneliness.
i remember psychology articles saying that loneliness depended on the person and not the quantity of friends.
neither they’re both equally lonely and miserable.. the one with ten has more friends, yet more than likely has weaker relationships.. not only that he/she is going to be overshadowed.. because the friendship is split ten way.. on the other hand the one with 2 friends will have less friends but a stronger relationship.. and will shine more… Quality or Quantity?
Whoever does not live in harmony with God or Tao or Allah or Jehovah or whatever you choose to call it, is the most lonely.
i will have to say the one with 10 friends. There is absolutely no woman or person that can communicate with 10 friends all at once. Someone will be lonely, or quite a few of them anyway.
neither, if you have good friends you are not lonely
I think it’s the one with 2 good friends. It’s kind of like being with people… if you are only with 1 or 2, you talk much more, visit much more, and all that… if you are in a room crowded with people, you are likely to feel much more lonely…
two friends over ten shallow friends.. you could be totally surrounded with friends.. yet still be lonely.
j
the person with 10
A person with ten good friends is more lonely. Having two friends who stick like glue, no matter the circumstances, is going to be treasure that most people do not have. Now, say you screw up and have ten friends who are moderately close – there are bound to be some who will back off and judge you. I would rather have two BEST friends than fifty good friends. God bless, Shohna
Depends on how accepted the person felt. Or maybe their individual preference.
That depends, who is holding the box of doughnuts?
Most likely the person with ten friends. As nice as it is to have lots of friends, how can you develop that close persoanl bond that you have when you only have a few friends?! I guess it also all depends on what your definition of friends is…
It all depends on the person, not the number of friends. If you have one very good friend, preferably of the opposite sex, you marry her/him. It all depends on how often you see your freinds too.
are the 2 as close to their friend…as the other 10 to theirs..?
umm..I’m saying neither…
~Lydia
its better with just 2 friends, you have deeper connections with them this way
i don’t think it matters how many friends you have as long as you equally love and are loved back in return
Duh. Depends on the nature of the friendships and on the personality/temperament of the individual. Two genuine, intimate friends are conducive to less loneliness than ten mere passing acquaintances. But some individuals – primarily those of the “sanguine” temperament – are quite satisfied with superficial, convivial relationships.
It’s not the number of friends that really matters…loneliness is an internal state, it’s not anything other people can resolve.
A person with 10 good friends is probably more lonely.
Neither
neither. anyone who can say they at least have one truly good friend is very fortunate. but just because they have “good friends” doesnt necessarily mean they arent lonely…
neither. anyone who can say they at least have one truly good friend is very fortunate. but just because they have “good friends” doesnt necessarily mean they arent lonely…
Unquantifiable.
i think that there are balances and weights…that we weren’t created to be alone but then ten people can bring a meaningful relationship or our downfall.
Same. 2 friends are just as good as 10 friends. Qualitative not quantitative.
I guess depending on how close the “good” friends were, I’d say the person with 10 good friends.
i think that it’s different for both friends of 2 and ten of good friends because there is a saying that you must go deep than wide.
Guess it depends on how many of those fiends are busy
ten good friends
they need so many friends in order to not feel ‘lonely’
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you said that both have good friends. therefore we know that they have strong relationships. we don’t know what personality these people have, but we do know for instance that God in His trinity was not lonely when each person had 2 other ‘good friends’ (e.g. Son with H.S. & Father). What one is more lonely? The one without God. They both have God? Then ultimately neither.
Niether are more lonely….
Great question… Neither or perhaps both, loneliness depends on the person. It is not the number of friends but how one embraces them. Just a person who cannot swim will drown in 10 feet of water just as easily as 100 feet of water.
It’s really not my call. Both may feel a tremendous sense of gratification. To each his own.
i can’t tell until i’m in that position. it’s the same way with all of those philosophical questions. you never really know until you’ve been put in that position. and, some people will have different results with each scenario.
????? do what now?
I would say neither, but if I had to choose, the person with 10 good friends. Good friends are hard to find, and the more you think you have, the more likelyhood there is for one of them to turn out bad. I would rather have 2 good friends than 10. However, I must say that I do have more than 2.
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I have four dear friends I wouldn’t trade for the world, and I am rarely lonely.
In elementary school, I had one good friend who I didn’t realize was good till she moved, and another who I thougt was my best friend but wasn’t. I was very lonely.
Personally, I would be happy with any number of good, real friends I have-be it one or ten. It’s quality, not quantity for me. If I have anyone who will understand me, I will not be lonely.
So it deends on the person, but if it were me neither situation would be lonely.
what about this if you died today would you go to heaven?
i dont think many people have 10 good friends…good as in the best out there at least
how do we define the the word good
good might mean that you smoke a joint together, or it might mean you were raised togther and like sibilings
the one with ten friends is more lonely because he is less personal
no idea what u mean… the dude with 10 good friends also has 2 good friends… so?
YOU !
I guess neither, the key word is good friend. Just to have one good friend is a good thing.
The 10 person its great to have close friends
i THiNK iF YOU’RE LONELY YOU’RE LONELY. iT DOESN’T MATTER THE AMOUNT OF HOW MANY FRiENDS YOU HAVE.
The person w/ 10 good friends is more lonely. State of feeling like they’re not really close to any one or two particular people…
loneliness is in the eye of the beholder…loneliness is relative. everyone has a different definition of lonely, and since lonely can be generally defined as a “feeling,” that makes individual differences even more prevalent. the level of loneliness a person feels under these two categories depends solely on the persons character traits, personality, and the way they live their life. basically, a persons’ definition of loneliness depends upon that persons personal condition. if you claim loneliness with a definition of being around less people, than the first choice obviously reigns. if you claim loneliness as being lonely in a room with more than 2 good friends (that who antic of “being lonely in the midst of a crowd of people”) than the latter would be the correct choice.
and, yet i ask…would it make more sense for the question to be, “who is more lonely: a person with 1 best friend, or a person with 10 mere aquaintances?” which, in turn would then depend upon the satisfaction of each individual. some are satisfied with 1 single best friend, yet others strive for a higher level of social interaction.
it’s all personal preference.
hm… depends on if their friends are friends with each other or not. if they aren’t, then the one with ten friends is most lonely. if they are, it’s the one with two.
They seem to be on the same level in terms of lonliness. It doesn’t matter the number of friends you have. A person with just one loyal friend could be more happy than the most popular kid in school.
A person with ten good friends because a person with two good friends would get even closer then a person with ten good friends.
is the man/woman needing friends to overcome loneliness in the first place?…if that’s the case…he/she may never have enough friends…
it would depend on the person’s opinion
a person with 10 good friends. the person with two is closer to his or her friends. creating an absence of lonliness.
-andii
depends..they may have good friends, but which ones make the hypothetical person feel more alive? the 2 friends? or the ten? That’s my determining factor
A person who does not live is lonely.
it depends on the person….gosh, you’re depressing me!
i think we’re asking the wrong questions. it’s not who is more lonely, this is purely hypothetical, let’s think on a higher scale. Then, would there truely be a question? Or would there be no question, because we would have no need for answers? What then? in reality i am sinking down because i am only coming up with questions, but think, if we had no need for questions anymore, if we didnt need answers, if we could just believe, just have faith that everything would be alright. then…..would everything truely be…alright?
I think it depends on the individual themselves. If they feel complete and whole by themselves, then they can always feel comfortable with others.
Quality over quantity.
I haven’t felt lonely in a long time with my 2 best friends.
Loneliness lies within the corridors of the mind.
Everything outside has to be reckoned.
N/A.
Neither.
Two. What if they both go out of town?
i think…. that all u really need is one good friend..
I don’t think loneliness has anything to do with how many friends you have. Loneliness, or the lack thereof, comes from within.
I don’t think that I can judge this situation.
It depends… On you and the so-called good friends.
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They’re both the same level of lonely.
the first
Neither
unless its two great friends compared to ten good friends
hmmm?
Loneliness is an individual phenomenon, I think.
I agree with CaptainScurvy. You can have a lot of friends, no matter how great, and still be lonely. It’s an individual thing.
The person with ten good friends probably has a deeper sense of lonely. Just because they have so many doesn’t mean they’re understood, whereas if you only have two extremely dear friends, it’s highly likely that there’s a deeper-set connection.
im with cmdll-theyre the same but if you had 2 best friends and 10 good friends then well…i was thinking it depends…..if you have 2 great friends thats all you need unless you were an outgoing partier who needed lots of ‘friends’ but …..
enuf rambling id rather hav 2 great friends, i can always make aqaitances
It all really depends on the person…. and who reallly has 10 GOOD friends….one true friend in this world is hard to come by
yea like what burgandykitten said…
I would say there both happy or they would have more friends.
This is confusing…
Neither.. loneliness cannot be defined by how many or how little friends you have. It depends on the individual in question’s personality.
Both. In my case with more…
I don’t know….probably the two friends, depending on how good they are of friends.Quality beats quantity but if you can’t get quality then quantity is the next best thing.
the last person by far how can you have a good relationship with 10 people?
and equally love them
Erica
I think that it depends on how many friends their friends have.
Oops I answered the opposite of what I meant…
loneliness doesnt really have to do with how many friends you have..or at least it doesnt directly depend on it
the one with only two. if it were ten aquaintences, then the one with ten would be more lonely.
Loneliness is loneliness no matter how many friends you have.
I don’t think happiness or lonliness can be determined by friendships. Humans are too fragile, too weak. Other human relationships can never completely satisfy.
depends on the person.. loneliness depends on more than the number of good friends you have. Many people are surrounded by a lot of friends but they are still lonely.
neither.
ten, two close friends is a good number of close friends who know you, while ten makes you feel popular they dont know you as well
wow! First time I’ve ever NOT seen someone say they were first…wow!
The person with none…..or the person with a lot of ok friends but no good ones.
me
It solely depends on the person.
It’s hard to say. One truly good friend might be enough for some people, plus there are other things to consider. If you have 20 close friends, but they all live hundreds of miles away, you could be pretty lonely.
I think lonliness is a state of mind. You are rich if you think you are. See what i mean, It’s all how you look at it!
Friendship depends on quality, not quantity.
if they’re all good friends, I’d say they’re equal
Loneliness is not based on how many friends you have.
I say 10 good friends.
I don’t know. I would assume the one with 10 good friends would be more lonely unless all of the 11 people were extremely close with eachother. If the person was good friends with all 10 people but only spent time with them individually then their time with eachother would be spaced out. I’m not sure if that makes any sense to you but it does to me..hard to explain.
I personally only have 3 really good friends and I’m fine with it…although I am trying to branch out..
-m.
RTC: LOL! Yeah… I never learned to appreciate free food until I came to college..
A person with ten good friends is more lonely, because you can’t get as personal with ten friends as you can with two.
Neither, as long as they are “true” friends.
DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU HAVE TWO OR TEN, YOU CAN STILL BE LONELY.
ten
nvm…just as long as you know they are all “real” friends.
Seriously… I’ll be democrat on Monday, Anarchist on Tuesday, Catholic on Wednesday, Republican on Thursday, and Baptist on Friday if it entails free pizza and Sprite…
the one with more, if it is a group friendship. that feels more superficial to me
What??? Loneliness doesn’t have to correspond with the # of friends you have. Loneliness is a feeling that anyone can have at anytime…..even when surrounded by friends.
NVRMND!
10 good friends
10′s too many to get close to.
The person with two friends, you’re always going to want more. Variety, I guess. Except if you’re going out with one of the two, that’s different. Although if you went out with someone and had 9 other good friends, it’d be better then the boy/girlfriend and another friend.
¿2 friends?
I think someone can be lone if they have 50 friends, it totally depends on the person.
I think they are both equal. They are not lonely. They have company. Quantity doesn’t matter in my opinion though. It’s quality.
: )
depends on who all of them are, the friends, and the befriended
It depends on the person and it depends on the friends.
I answer your questions with “it depends” A LOT.
The person who is the most lonely is the one who cannot spend time by themselves and must have friends to be happy.
*~Christi~*
Depends on what type of friends they are.
RTC:
Depends on the person doesn’t it…….’til the next
I think you can have 10 friends…but 10 close friends? Nope. I would rather have 2 GOOD friends
Not sure really – I would be happy with ten friends or two. A friend is friend either way.
Like many people have been saying, loneliness is individual. It may have less to do with the number of friends or the quality of friends and more to do with the person’s self esteem and view of the world and relationships. So it depends.
if they are equally good friends…obviously the one with 2 good friends would be more lonely.
Depends on your friends — quantity does not always equal quality.
the first one.
Hmmm…. How many friends you have doesn’t help loneliness so much. Some people have no friends, and they’re just fine. I have lots of friends, and I get lonely a lot. I’m not really sure that it can be determined. It’s an individual thing.
I think that the second one is more lonely cuz they have to spread out more of there time with all the 10 friends.. and it getts to be way more stressful!
HOW GAY!
2, even tho it sounds kinda shallow, the more the merrier ^.^
I’d have to go with the person with 10. Boy, you sure have some good stuff on here…..
loneliness is the human condition.
for me i think that the person with two because the person with ten doesn’t really have good friend the have good asociates. And just because they think that they are good friends they may not be. Haveing more friends does not make you more happy.
ttfn ( ta ta for now)
kita
you could be surrounded by 200 good friends and still be lonlier than someone with 2 good friends. too many factors to give a black and white answer.
I think that it all depends on if the person is naturally happy/secure or not. You can have great friends, but if you’re depressed, you’re still lonely. I think that if you’re stable then the more good friends the less lonely you’ll feel.
Depends on how good those two good friends are.
I don’t need a lot of close friends, but others do.
((( GRANDMA HUGS )))
Lori
two friends that really love you are always better. I am friends with so many people in my school, almost no one actually dislikes me, and I almost always have some sort of friend in any class, especially if it is an honors class.
but you now what – none of these people call me up, or ask me to do things.
I have two best friends, who I rarely see but who contact me all the time, and when I am with them I am way less lonely then when I am with my friends from school.
In fact, all you need is one good person, who you are great friends with. that’s all you need is one best friend, and the rest doesn’t really matter.
Loneliness is the human condition.
it all depends on how good the friends are.
Neither. You are never alone with friends. Doesn’t matter how many! Quality vs Quantity!
Neither are.
well i huees I’m one of them.
no one appreciates me at all.
i feel as if I’m invisible at school.
Nobody seems top notice me except my “few” friends
I have like 30 friends….but that’s nothing. trust me.
We’re all in different classes.
People destroy my stuff, shove me around and mock me.
Losers. No wonder all my anger is taken out on my parents.
I feel ashamed
you have NINE entries on FC as of right now. i’m gonna go and comment on all the posts that i missed and see if those make FC too. HAHAHAAA. yeah… i’ve got a lot of time on my hands..
hehe
I agree with most everybody. It depends on the person. Some people need lots of friends, some people don’t. If you need a lot and only have 2, you wouldn’t be happy. If you don’t want a lot but have 10, you wouldn’t be happy either. It’s all relative.
It’s how much trust is between them that counts….I think the one with 10 friends may know what it is like to be lonely, though.
Good friends? Neither.
Neither!
i think that they can both be equally lonely…..sometimes (like in my case over the past few days) it doesnt matter how many friends or enemies you have, you can still feel like you the only one in the entire world…..and you’re always the only one in your own mind!!
loneliness, like most friends, comes and goes throughout a life with no rhyme or reason. it just happens.
neither?? both?? depends on what they need and what they get out of the “friendship”
depends on what they see, value, want, and understand the experience of.
Is there a difference between the kinds of friendships with rhe 10 vs 2 people? If they are true, good friends then having 2 or 10 wouldn’t really matter, having that satisfying relatiopnship with others and feeling loved will help keep you from feeling lonely.
loneliness isn’t measured in numbers. it’s individual. it really depends on who these people with 2 and 10 friends are.
10 good friends. With so many, you can’t become as close to them without the others being jealous or being thretend by your relationship.
People can have million friends and still be lonely,
Mary
It is all relative.
Since lonliness comes from the inside out they are both lonely. Judi
It depends how loyal and “good” those friends you speech of are.
I’m the most lonely.. ever… Nobody likes me..
neither
Doesn’t matter how many friends you have. It’s how you feel inside…
A person with ten good friends. Unless you have that one good friend that you truly share a connection with then you might as well have no friends at all.
the person with 2 friends is lonelier. friends that travel in packs of 3s always have one odd person. 2 will always been closer and it rotates regarding who is the left out friend.
I’d say the person with 10 good friends. Because he’s more than likely not really close to them if he has so many. The one with 2 friends however, has little friends and is probably more close to those 2.
But of course, the person with no friends is always the most lonely.
Nicholas
define what “good friend” is.
it depends on the relationships you have with your friends. If you can have personal ocnversations with them, then there is no lonlieness.
I used to be in a big ass group… never lonely.
But now I only have a few good friends, and they rock… and still I’m rarely lonely.
10
10 good friends
neither, because you have good friends
ten people is more than two.
the person with 10.usually if u have alot of friends like that you are not really close with any of them. its better to have a couple close friends and then a few that are more like aquaintances.
The person with two good friends probably has deeper relationships than the person with ten good friends.
10 Good Friends. Fewer friends makes you closer to them. How do I know? I have only 2 good friends.
I thinkt they both are. Friends are great….But they aren’t the same as a person who really loves you. Its not the same as a person who wants to spend the rest of his/her life with you.
You can be surrounded by 50 of your bestfriends…But you still feel that gnawing loneliness.
i remember psychology articles saying that loneliness depended on the person and not the quantity of friends.
neither they’re both equally lonely and miserable.. the one with ten has more friends, yet more than likely has weaker relationships.. not only that he/she is going to be overshadowed.. because the friendship is split ten way..
on the other hand the one with 2 friends will have less friends but a stronger relationship.. and will shine more…
Quality or Quantity?
Whoever does not live in harmony with God or Tao or Allah or Jehovah or whatever you choose to call it, is the most lonely.
i will have to say the one with 10 friends. There is absolutely no woman or person that can communicate with 10 friends all at once. Someone will be lonely, or quite a few of them anyway.
neither, if you have good friends you are not lonely
I think it’s the one with 2 good friends. It’s kind of like being with people… if you are only with 1 or 2, you talk much more, visit much more, and all that… if you are in a room crowded with people, you are likely to feel much more lonely…
two friends over ten shallow friends.. you could be totally surrounded with friends.. yet still be lonely.
j
the person with 10
A person with ten good friends is more lonely. Having two friends who stick like glue, no matter the circumstances, is going to be treasure that most people do not have.
Now, say you screw up and have ten friends who are moderately close – there are bound to be some who will back off and judge you.
I would rather have two BEST friends than fifty good friends.
God bless,
Shohna
Depends on how accepted the person felt. Or maybe their individual preference.
That depends, who is holding the box of doughnuts?
Most likely the person with ten friends. As nice as it is to have lots of friends, how can you develop that close persoanl bond that you have when you only have a few friends?! I guess it also all depends on what your definition of friends is…
It all depends on the person, not the number of friends. If you have one very good friend, preferably of the opposite sex, you marry her/him. It all depends on how often you see your freinds too.
are the 2 as close to their friend…as the other 10 to theirs..?
umm..I’m saying neither…
~Lydia
its better with just 2 friends, you have deeper connections with them this way
i don’t think it matters how many friends you have as long as you equally love and are loved back in return
Duh. Depends on the nature of the friendships and on the personality/temperament of the individual. Two genuine, intimate friends are conducive to less loneliness than ten mere passing acquaintances. But some individuals – primarily those of the “sanguine” temperament – are quite satisfied with superficial, convivial relationships.
It’s not the number of friends that really matters…loneliness is an internal state, it’s not anything other people can resolve.
A person with 10 good friends is probably more lonely.
Neither
neither. anyone who can say they at least have one truly good friend is very fortunate. but just because they have “good friends” doesnt necessarily mean they arent lonely…
neither. anyone who can say they at least have one truly good friend is very fortunate. but just because they have “good friends” doesnt necessarily mean they arent lonely…
Unquantifiable.
i think that there are balances and weights…that we weren’t created to be alone but then ten people can bring a meaningful relationship or our downfall.
Same. 2 friends are just as good as 10 friends. Qualitative not quantitative.
I guess depending on how close the “good” friends were, I’d say the person with 10 good friends.
i think that it’s different for both friends of 2 and ten of good friends because there is a saying that you must go deep than wide.
Guess it depends on how many of those fiends are busy
ten good friends
they need so many friends in order to not feel ‘lonely’
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you said that both have good friends. therefore we know that they have strong relationships. we don’t know what personality these people have, but we do know for instance that God in His trinity was not lonely when each person had 2 other ‘good friends’ (e.g. Son with H.S. & Father). What one is more lonely? The one without God. They both have God? Then ultimately neither.
Niether are more lonely….
Great question… Neither or perhaps both, loneliness depends on the person. It is not the number of friends but how one embraces them. Just a person who cannot swim will drown in 10 feet of water just as easily as 100 feet of water.
It’s really not my call. Both may feel a tremendous sense of gratification. To each his own.
i can’t tell until i’m in that position. it’s the same way with all of those philosophical questions. you never really know until you’ve been put in that position. and, some people will have different results with each scenario.
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I would say neither, but if I had to choose, the person with 10 good friends. Good friends are hard to find, and the more you think you have, the more likelyhood there is for one of them to turn out bad. I would rather have 2 good friends than 10. However, I must say that I do have more than 2.
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I have four dear friends I wouldn’t trade for the world, and I am rarely lonely.
In elementary school, I had one good friend who I didn’t realize was good till she moved, and another who I thougt was my best friend but wasn’t. I was very lonely.
Personally, I would be happy with any number of good, real friends I have-be it one or ten. It’s quality, not quantity for me. If I have anyone who will understand me, I will not be lonely.
So it deends on the person, but if it were me neither situation would be lonely.
what about this if you died today would you go to heaven?
i dont think many people have 10 good friends…good as in the best out there at least
how do we define the the word good
good might mean that you smoke a joint together, or it might mean you were raised togther and like sibilings
the one with ten friends is more lonely because he is less personal
no idea what u mean… the dude with 10 good friends also has 2 good friends… so?
YOU !
I guess neither, the key word is good friend. Just to have one good friend is a good thing.
The 10 person its great to have close friends
i THiNK iF YOU’RE LONELY YOU’RE LONELY. iT DOESN’T MATTER THE AMOUNT OF HOW MANY FRiENDS YOU HAVE.
The person w/ 10 good friends is more lonely. State of feeling like they’re not really close to any one or two particular people…
loneliness is in the eye of the beholder…loneliness is relative. everyone has a different definition of lonely, and since lonely can be generally defined as a “feeling,” that makes individual differences even more prevalent. the level of loneliness a person feels under these two categories depends solely on the persons character traits, personality, and the way they live their life. basically, a persons’ definition of loneliness depends upon that persons personal condition. if you claim loneliness with a definition of being around less people, than the first choice obviously reigns. if you claim loneliness as being lonely in a room with more than 2 good friends (that who antic of “being lonely in the midst of a crowd of people”) than the latter would be the correct choice.
and, yet i ask…would it make more sense for the question to be, “who is more lonely: a person with 1 best friend, or a person with 10 mere aquaintances?” which, in turn would then depend upon the satisfaction of each individual. some are satisfied with 1 single best friend, yet others strive for a higher level of social interaction.
it’s all personal preference.
hm… depends on if their friends are friends with each other or not. if they aren’t, then the one with ten friends is most lonely. if they are, it’s the one with two.
They seem to be on the same level in terms of lonliness. It doesn’t matter the number of friends you have. A person with just one loyal friend could be more happy than the most popular kid in school.
A person with ten good friends because a person with two good friends would get even closer then a person with ten good friends.
is the man/woman needing friends to overcome loneliness in the first place?…if that’s the case…he/she may never have enough friends…
it would depend on the person’s opinion
a person with 10 good friends. the person with two is closer to his or her friends. creating an absence of lonliness.
-andii
depends..they may have good friends, but which ones make the hypothetical person feel more alive? the 2 friends? or the ten? That’s my determining factor
A person who does not live is lonely.
it depends on the person….gosh, you’re depressing me!
i think we’re asking the wrong questions. it’s not who is more lonely, this is purely hypothetical, let’s think on a higher scale. Then, would there truely be a question? Or would there be no question, because we would have no need for answers? What then? in reality i am sinking down because i am only coming up with questions, but think, if we had no need for questions anymore, if we didnt need answers, if we could just believe, just have faith that everything would be alright. then…..would everything truely be…alright?
I think it depends on the individual themselves. If they feel complete and whole by themselves, then they can always feel comfortable with others.
Quality over quantity.
I haven’t felt lonely in a long time with my 2 best friends.
Loneliness lies within the corridors of the mind.
Everything outside has to be reckoned.
N/A.
Neither.
Two. What if they both go out of town?
i think…. that all u really need is one good friend..
I don’t think loneliness has anything to do with how many friends you have. Loneliness, or the lack thereof, comes from within.
I don’t think that I can judge this situation.
It depends… On you and the so-called good friends.
neither