January 5, 2006

Comments (167)

  • wow

  • wow

  • believing I was loved.

  • thats a hard one, its sad to be in a situation like this

  • knowing I wasn’t loved

  • if i had to choose, #1

  • neither. i want to be truly ed!

  • Believing I was being loved.

    TRUTH? I CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH.

    Corny of me.

    o.o

  • I’d love to be first, but I bet I won’t be…

    I would rather think that I was loved. Without love, life is pretty meaningless. But then again, I only say ratarded stuff like that when I am in love… which is now, haha.

  • Knowing that I weren’t loved.

    I hate when people pretend that they care. It hurts me worse than them not loving me at all.

    Nicholas

  • Thinking I was loved.

  • ignorance is bliss

  • Both suck.

  • Reminds me of Flowers for Algernon… i’d rather believed im loved

    If you haven’t read that short story… (you probably have) then you should!

    -Anna

  • I would want to think that I was loved and be wrong.

    Always the optimist :)

  • Believing I was loved. Make-believe is much fun…

  • If you believe you weren’t loved you’d be believing a lie. If you think you’re going to be loved by everybody you’re dilusional.

  • it would depend… if my partner wanted to love me but didn’t, yet did his best to emulate love .. so well that i didn’t know that he didn’t love me… then i guess the first choice. i think having hope in your life is worth something… at least you could live your life happily thinking that you were loved.

  • it depends on when you found out you really weren’t loved . . .. . if i found out in the afterlife that I wasn’t really loved then the sting of it won’t be there (praying i make it to heaven) .. . . I have felt the pain of believing I was loved only to find out I wasn’t. At the same time, the memories of that friendship (though tainted) are still somewhat sweet. . . .

    sorry for rambling .. not sure if that makes sense

  • being loved sounds very nice…and if i’m wrong…o well

    -Chris

  • What’s the difference?  Either would be horrible.

  • Dang!  Good question.  I don’t know the answer to that.  I hate being lied to…. but…. geesh… Since I’m on Xanga Hiatus…. I can’t comment.  LOL

  • I would rather think I was loved, but not really then be depressed my entire life.

    IGNORANCE IS BLISS!

  • Believing I was loved. I can’t imagine going through life knowing that no one loved me.

  • the truth will set you free….

    i think in either case attitude is what makes you happy and that comes from inside.  so who cares if you are loved by others?  ultimately all you need to be happy is love for yourself.

  • #2

  • Well, knowing you have never been loved sucks. I think that finding out you’ve lived a lie your whole life would suck just as much.

  • believing i was loved, cuz you don’t know until the very end that you aren’t

  • As long as I didn’t find out I was wrong, I’d like to believe I was loved.

  • I would rather believe I was loved!!

  • Do I ever have to actually find out that I’m not?  If not, then definitely the first one!  I can’t imagine life knowing that no one loves you.

  • i agree with the first couple people, wow.  i guess believing i was loved.  although, i would want to know that there was no one to tell me i was wrong. 

  • Ignorance is bliss!

  • Wow .. good question.

    #2

    If I’m not going to be truly loved either way, I would rather know the truth than believe a lie.

  • That just sucks…..neither!!!   But I guess IF I had to choose one is what be belieing that I was loved would probaby be better than the other way around.

  • That’s too tough of a question for my brain to think of an answer for right now!

  • hard one… but I think I’d want to know the truth… I don’t know though, like I said…very hard.

  • believing i was loved. the other would depress me all my life

  • That is a tough one, but I think I would rather think I was loved.

    Have a blessed weekend & God keep you safe.  HUGS

  • Believing I was.   Definitely.

  • Believing, and hopefully never finding out your wrong. If you don’t find out, what difference does it make.

  • Surely there must be another choice.

  • 43rd!!!! :O

    Believing it, if I never found out I was wrong. Ignorance is bliss…

  • it depends on what happens (in your scenario) when life is over. but probably think im loved and not really be. life would be hell if you knew you werent loved.

  • This is in regards to ALL of the people in one’s life who -should- love a given person, right?

    I’d rather believe that I was loved than know without doubt that not one of the people I have shared my life with ever loved me. Parents, siblings, extended family, childhood friends, relationships… To have contact with so many people in what should be intimate relationships and know not one of them ever reciprocated would be unbearable.

  • Believing that I was loved.

    Maybe one day it would turn into love?

    Perhaps…

  • deffinatly thinking i WAS loved

  • That would be an incredibly unfortunate situation to be in. Honestly, I’d rather be disillusioned and think I were loved. It would matter unless I found out, which would be worse than either. I had somewhere picked up the knowledge that being very happy/angry is healthy, but being depressed can harm you immensely, even in the biological sense. I’d rather stay healthy and find my happiness elsewhere. Ignorance is bliss, isn’t it?

  • I would want to know that I wasn’t loved. I don’t want to go around believeing I am loved if that’s false. Give me the truth.

  • I’d rather not think about it, thank you.

    Unfortunately, I’d have to go with knowing that I wasn’t loved.  Now, granted that that knowledge would shorten my lifespan significantly, but I can’t handle the thought of living a lie.  Or being fooled.  I really can’t deal with that either.  So, I think I’d rather live a life of misery and still have the truth than a happy life based on lies.

  • Believing I was loved would win, hands down.  What I don’t know won’t hurt me.  However, I’m not sure what kind of person either of these scenarios describes.  A person who “knew” no one loved her couldn’t be all that lovable.  But neither could some clueless egotist who didn’t have enough sense to know no one could stand her.  But the latter would certainly be happier.

  • I have to be loved – that would suck if know one gave a care about me – Just stopping by.

  • that is a hurtful question…

  • Both aren’t good, but I think I would rather think I was being loved.

  • hard one

  • LOVED.

  • I think it would be better to believe that you were loved, as long as you never found out it wasn’t true!

  • I would want to think I was loved.

  • i’d have to agree with the person who said ignorance is bliss.

  • thinking I was loved and being wrong

  • believing i was loved and being wrong

  • Parts of me want to say believing I was and the rest of me wants to say that I’d just want to know the truth. I guess it all depends on the situation…Hmmm. Tough one!

  • Better to know the truth than to live a deceived life. :o (

  • i would choose no.1
    but could you imagine if no.1 was:  ”you believed you were loved the entire time but were told it was a big lie during the last minute before you died?”
    i think i would stir in my grave if that was the case :(

  • believing i was loved. it would be a lot more happier

  • That is never the case, God always loves you.(church answer)

    But since you have a gun to my back,lol, #1, better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.

    -Joshua

  • Knowing I was loved!!

  • believing I was loved.

  • i can only be happy when i’m ignorant…and i rather be happy

  • hmm… I’d believed I was loved and when I figured it out… I’d buy a  puppy.

    Miss Cow

  • Truth is best, but ignorance is bliss.

    In my current mood, I would choose the latter.

    Generally, I would choose the former.

  • Knowing I was never loved.

  • I don’t think I could stand it knowing that not one person loved me, that would hav to be the lonliest feeling in the world.

  • I’d pick believing I was loved only if I could be guaranteed I’d never find out I wasn’t.  Finding out my life was a lie would be WAY worse than never being loved at all. 

  • bizarrely,  a topic I have spent a lot of time thinking about, and however much it would hurt I think I would want to know the truth.  It would hurt so much more to realize at the end of my life that everything had been a lie, and that I had acted like a fool thinking people loved me when they didn’t.

    I would rather act according to the situation, and know the truth.  The truth is always better.

    -megan

  • the truth is always better even though it hurts.

  • believe.

    I’d leave a longer, more thoughtful answer but I’m exhausted.

  • I’d rather know that I’m not loved, I think….

    In such a case, for me, ignorance wouldn’t be bliss…

  • Nice site. Fortunately, I’ll never have to face this situation in reality, because Jesus died for me in love so that I may have life.. Makes ya think though. Thanks for the post.

  • if you mean humans, #2. it would probably be how it was supposed to be.

  • Believing I was loved.

  • believing i was loved and never find out the truth

  • I think in this case, ignorance might be bliss.

  • I’d rather know the truth…if I went with the first option, then I’d feel my life was a part of some big lie.

  • Ironically, I choose the latter. 

  • Ignorance is bliss.. but yet.. knowledge is power..

  • knowing I wasn’t…I would rather live in pain, than live with a lie.

  • it’d be nice to think that i was loved. but then again. that would be lying to myself. so… #2

  • Oh my. That is a really hard one. The saying, ” Ignorance Is Bliss” comes to mind right now…But…Is ignorance really bliss?
    Sometimes, seconds best is all you can have. Something is better than nothing right? I’d rather know I was never loved.

  • Believing, because at least I would be happy. I would be… I don’t know how to describe it… if I weren’t loved. I couldn’t live with myself, I guess, is a way to put it.

  • The only thing that matter is that i love. Anything outside of that is not in my control, and therefore, not my concern.

  • I’d rather know I wasn’t loved. It’s better to know the truth then to be lied to all the time.

  • Thinking that I was loved……………………………………….I guess what you know CAN NOT hurt you. Only when you know it hurts.

  • oops, what you DONT KNOW CANNOT HURT YOU

  • whole life feeling loved

  • hmm…. believe i was loved, ignorance is bliss.

  • lol…he is probably sick of the phrase ‘ignorance is bliss’

    hahaha

    -Chris

  • Believing wrongly…love the site by the way. I went back and read a lot of your old questions.

  • Neither… 

    *~Christi~*

  • Either would suck, but if I had to pick one, I’d rather spend my whole life knowing I wasn’t loved.  I think it would hurt worse the other way around.

  • I’d rather know I wasn’t loved…even though that would be the saddest life a person could lead.

  • yeah, I’m going with ignorance is bliss on this one.  In the end your life quality will have been better thinking there was love the whole time.

  • I would rather have the painful truth.  I do have the painful truth.  I have survived knowing it.

  • i want the truth – knowing i was not loved at all.

  • Ouch.  I can’t even wrap my brain around this one.

  • Why would you want to know you weren’t loved??  Especially if you never found out.  I’d rather live in a fantasy world than realize no one loved me.

  • i always want the truth

    j

  • knowing that no one loves me. why? because the truth is important. also, im not going to be horribly depressed if no one loves me. im not going to be extremely sad. im not going to be gloomy and im not giong to be a bit sad either. i can still enjoy the things i do. i can read and i can still have very enjoyable conversations. i can spend time with the people I love. i prefer that the people closest to me dont lie to me and pretend they love me. why would you ever want someone you really care about decieve you? the downside to not being loved isnt very big. people probably wouldnt talk to me as often but thats okay. im not saying this because i am currently unloved [actually, its the exact opposite, ive found the love of my life] but because this is how i feel.

  • the former.
    there are only a few people who can live with out love.
    but they’re dead.

  • I would rather know the truth than cling to a lie.

  • The latter

  • I’d pick thinking I was loved, because it would be for my whole life, right?

    but if I were to find out near the end of my life, I’d definitely be devastated.

  • I would rather believe I was loved.

  • I’d want to know I wasn’t loved.

    But, Ignorance is Bliss. So that is a hard question.

  • believing and being wrong.

  • As they say, ignorance is bliss.

  • thinking i was loved

  • believeing I was loved…

    u_u

    I’m glad I read this…

    THANKS!
    ~Lydia~

  • Having recently found out that my friends haven’t given a hoot about me since dot, I’ve come to realise the true meaning of that phrase “ignorance is bliss.” Then again, being the type of person I am I always believe it’s best to know the truth no matter what.

    It’s hard to say.

    In hindsight, the ignorance was grand but I wish I could have picked my friends better.

  • Duh.  This is far too complex. 

  • Knowing I wasn’t loved.

  • As you don’t say that I would LEARN that I was wrong, I would prefer to live life thinking I was.  That way my life would have a better quality about itself.

    Of course I know I AM loved.  I can ALWAYS count on God’s love.  I can also count on my wife and possibly my kids and other family members.  Then there is my giant fan base. 

  • believing a lie

  • I would rather spend my whole life knowing that I was not loved. Mostly because even if no one on this earth loved me, God always would and does. And I could probably amuse myself without people anyways. So, you know, I’d rather know than not know.
    God bless!
    Shohna

  • Believeing that I was loved…at least I could feel that feeling at least once in my lifetime.

  • Thinking I was loved and having it not be true. Ignorance is bliss!

  • spend my whole life believing i was loved.

  • You are getting too depressing Dan!!
    I guess the former. How do I know that isn’t the case anyway???
    Geez, now I’m all bummed.

  • Six months ago I would have said beleiving I was loved.  But I have a cousin who is going through a divorce (after 14 years of marriage) whose husband told her he never loved her and felt obligated to marry her.  OUCH!  Now I would say never be loved.

  • Not sure I like this question and its implications.  I pick neither. 

  • Is that like Mr. Churchill’s quote: be responsible & wrong or irresponsible & right?

    I’d like to be a little optimistic & idealistic & think every is loved by at least 1 other person in their world.  It would seem sad that you aren’t loved but if you love yourself than why does it matter?

  • At first I thought believing I was loved and then find out I was wrong, but now I’m thinking knowing that I wasn’t loved at all… I say that because I guess i wouldn’t want to get to the end of my life and think that all along I had special people all around to find out that they cared nothing about me. I feel I would then be left saying, that sucks and then I’d be almost dead wanting what I thought I had all along. So I chose knowing that I wasn’t loved at all because then I wouldn’t have any hurt feelings when I passed because I would be living the same everyday, living MY life for me truthfully with no expectations. I guess all in all I would want to be loved, but what if one day you wake up and everyone you know and love is gone without a trace? How miserable would you feel then?

  • Ignorance is bliss…

  • I don’t care what other people think

  • Hated by all and loved by 1 or loved by 1 and hated by all?

  • That’s the same thing, I mean one or the other.

  • believing you were loved would be the better one for sure. But if you wern’t truly loved, would you believe it? And if you wern’t and you could kind of tell you’d probably be pretty sad but you wouldn’t want to give up on your one and only kind of love experience.

  • Well, since I am loved, my answer is not unbiased, but I would rather be lied to than to feel that nobody ever loved me.  I would think that during the course of a lifetime one would somehow sense the lie though.

    Just please make sure she is an excellent actor.  I want to be fooled completely.

    L,r

  • ouch.  believing and being wrong. at least then you have SOMETHING!

  • I’m gonna have to go with #1…even though I don’t truly believe that there’s anyone on earth who isn’t loved by SOMEONE.

  • “One speck of hope is worth a carload of certianties.”

    “Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all”

  • hmm, thats a hard one, id probably say blieving i was loved. Then id have a better attitude in life.

  • That’s easy.  Number 2. 

  • I don’t think anyone could go through life not ever been loved. Even if it is for a short time we all have been loved. But I would want that love to be honest!

  • To know that I wasn’t loved because the truth sets you free and pain only strengthens you.

  • Oh and by the way ignorance is not bliss ignorance is just ignorance.

  • I would rather believed I was loved. Even though I hate liars and being lied to more than anything else.

  • probably spend my life knowing that I wasn’t loved because then it would hert so bad to know that someone could decieve u and u would believe a lie ur whole life.

  • believing that you were right, because in the end it’s not about how many “true” friendships youve had, its about the minutes of your life that you were happy.

  • dumb question

  • I would simply love.

  • believing I was loved, if I really believed it.

  • That is not our only options. We can know we are loved. John 3:16

  • It is best to believe you are. 

  • I would rather know I was loved and never doubt the honesty of someone’s feelings. It is a sad question.

  • Spend my whole life knowing I wasn’t loved.

    I have my reasons.

  • Probably the former, unfortunately.

  • I would rather know. But honestly, it’s hard to imagine this situation. You can always find new people.

  • I’d rather know I wasn’t loved than be loved fakely.
    I’ve been loved fakely, and it’s the most heartbreaking feeling
    Finding it out

  • Belief. That’s a potential for faith!

  • knowing I wasn’t loved, so I could find someone who would love me.

  • believing i was loved

  • Both.

  • I am not sure that I could spend my entire life wrongly thinking that I was loved without realizing that I wasn’t loved. You can tell when someone really doesn’t love you; sometimes, it takes a while, but it is discernable.

  • just fake it….like I do in bed haha kidding but I would rather spend my life beleiving I was loved, its just a better feeling. If I knew I never was loved I’d always feel left out and depressed.

  • This is freaky as HECK…DO NOT CHEAT (You’ll kick yourself later)
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  • knowing i wasnt loved

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