Yes. Also, maybe the child about to be adopted should be asked their opinion as well.
there aren’t actually many of us that appreciate the pressure…
best wishes buddy
i think so, altho i know the world doesn’t.
agree with purplefire40 because i’d like to have a say if i were the child.
yes. a heterosexual man and a heterosexual female should be the only people allowed to adopt.
Yes.
YES.
yes….if I were a kid, I wouldn’t want to be raised by two moms….
I personally think so, but in the long run, the heterosexuals’ opinions end up being viewed as hateful.
personally i dont think it should matter
its on ur mind when your awake..and its difficult to let go….i was working 60 hours a week and really concerned about missing my slot time to comment….it really eats into you…PLUS what to post next, your always watching the news and getting ideas, waking up in a cold sweat hehe….youll be doing all this now Dan …
I dont envy you buddy. I got a small manageable amount, I just started back to college and i miss one whole day and get home and find a mountain of things to do……grrrrrrr….
we await your next move with interest !
I know many heterosexual couples that aren’t fit to be parents but have kids anyway. If we have a say in whether gay couples can adopt, shouldn’t we (the general public) have a say whether heterosexuals should adopt? The answer lies in ones prejudices.
no, it shouldnt, love is what a child needs
it should be considered, but nothing should be based solely on that reason. Just as everything about a couple is considered before being given a baby.
Sexual orientatiom as in…. does he/she like men/women ==homosexuals? If so, Yes.
I don’t know, I had a couple of lesbian friends who had a daughter and they were some of the best parents that I have ever met but I also think that it is confusing for a child. However I would rather see a child adopted by loving homosexual parents than to stay in the system it’s whole life. Better to be confused than not loved at all….
Absolutely NOT.
I see so many hetero parents who should be sterilized.
no…..why are we so against homosexuals having children? i’ve seen plenty messed up kids in heterosexual families.
and it is true that kids are abused by heterosexual parents all the time. I think in the end it should be about love and who can provide a happy healthy home. homo or hetero.
Everything should be taken into consideration no matter what the decision is… it’s about a child’s life and future before it’s about gay rights. So yes. Most definitely.
Definitely not. All you need is love. The rest shouldn’t matter.
I think every child is special and ALL details of the home they would be raised in need to be looked at with condsideration to the individual child’s history and needs. I do not think you can stereotype a home by the orientation of the potential parent(s). Every situation is different.
yes
no. it doesn’t matter.
Yes, absolutely!
I say yes because it may be confusing to the kids but there are a lot of kids out there who need families and love. Plus it is a lot of heterosexuals that have no business having kids.
yes.
Yes, a child deserves to be raised by a mother and a father. None of this ‘single-parent’ business, either. How is it such a difficult concept??
Yes,
Children who need to be adopted don’t need to deal with more issues in there life. They need a stable normal family.
When so many children do not even have homes, and so many children out there that need homes, no homosexual people are not child abuser. Judi
Not their sexual orientation but their sexual behaviour and control of themselves must be scrutinized under a microscope. Otherwise the child may be getting set loose into the home of a sexual predator. And that is not good at all.
I don’t think so
Yes. As should every other significant aspect of an adoptive parent’s personality and life. It should all be considered.
I am stunned that so many commenters here think that the sexuality of a potential adoptive parent is not important enough to even be CONSIDERED. What are you people thinking? An agency whose job it is to find adoptive parents who are suitable for a given child should consider EVERYTHING POSSIBLE about the potential adopting parent.
Maybe you just didn’t read the question. The question was not whether an potential adoptive parent should be denied the privilege and responsibility of adopting a child because of their sexuality, but rather whether that person’s sexuality should be CONSIDERED as part of the process.
Have you all gone so PC, that you are unwilling to have a potential parent’s sexuality even CONSIDERED as part of the process? I can’t believe that. Suppose the applicant was a convicted child molester? What if the applicant was into bestiality? S&M? Rampant promiscuity? Rape?
Are you really saying that none of this should be considered? If so, then shame on you for not caring about children who are being adopted.
No, a good gay parent is better than a horrible straight one.
well no. I believe that its easier for a traditional couple to fight. Having a parent who is either gay or bissexual would also more than likely give the child a more open mind. However, if the child is old enough, their opinion shuold be asked for.
You know, Dan, sometimes your readers really piss me off! I haven’t seen anyone give one good reason why a child shouldn’t be adopted by a gay couple….
Can’t you folks think of one? Maybe not – because there is no good reason. A child needs love. That’s it. That is the most important thing a child needs.
nope… their love for a child should be… and i guess that they can take care of one…
dan, it looks like that person in the comment above my first one needs some happy words from you cause apparently he/she might be having a bad day…
no. look at the horrific number of disfunctional hetero families there are out there. sexual preference has little (if any) bearing on the healthiness of love…
No. Sexual orientation doesn’t make someone a better/worse parent.
Yes, I believe it should be a factor, but I also believe that the fiber of the relationship should be more important than their orientation. Think about it this way, a good parent will be a good parent whether they are heterosexual and single, married, homosexual and single, or homosexual in a long-term relationship.
no
No.
No! It doesn’t affect their ability to raise a child.
no.
Me_N_God said “if I were a kid, I wouldn’t want to be raised by two moms….” if a child was raised by two moms, or two dads, they probably wouldnt think that way.
No.
Yes I think it should be considered in the adoption process.
NO WAY!
Oh, By the way-my friend calli80 is new to xanga & already addicted. I reccommended your site to her….
I think that a potential parent’s sexual orientation should be considered, but I think that as long as they can prove that they can give the child the love and support they need and they aren’t gigantic freaks, why deny loving parents on a basis of sexuality.
No
I personally think not.
Yes.
I have some gay friends that I would choose to raise my child over some of my straight friends. So.. NO
No. Unless the child has a problem with homosexuals. Then again, maybe they’d learn to accept. But it shouldn’t be a reason to not be able to adopt.
no
I think that it shouldn’t matter what the sexual orientation of adopters are, since there are many other more important factors in determining whether or not they should be allowed to adopt. Usually homosexual couples are more prepared and in better situations when they decide to have kids, there’s no chance of a condom breaking or someone forgetting to take a pill, they have to have made the decision to have a child together and care for it together and that’s the important thing, not whether they like men instead of women or women instead of men. Parents aren’t the sole raisers of the kids anymore, children go to school and that does affect how they grow up as well. As someone said before me, there are many heterosexual couples that make far worse and less sturdy households than homosexual couples, and it’s also better to have them in a real home and being loved than left growing up in the system, at least that’s how I feel.
Actually, I changed my mind, maybe it should. Although sexual orientation has nothing to do with ability to be a good parent, the child may have a hard time with other kids making fun of them, or maybe other kids’ parents will have a problem with a child with two moms/dads. The child might have a harder life because of it.
shut up!
Yes! Kids shouldn’t have to live with two homosexual freaks if they have the choice. I would most definitely want the choice if I were adopted; I’d end up running away if I didn’t have the choice of going home with some queer homo’s or some normal people.
It’s just not right.
Nicholas
No, not at all.
wtf?
people are commenting saying that the child should be ASKED first??
since when did children get to choose their parents? i was adopted as a baby and my parents are WHACK (hetero too!) I would not have decided on them had I had the choice…
Regarding your Question:
NOOOOO!!!!! LET THE LOVING HOMOS ADOPT!!!! EQUAL RIGHTS!!! NO DISCRIMINATION!!!
GROW UP PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!
~ck
NO. A child needs love– why should it matter? Would it be better if they were left alone on the street? :/
Besides, there are plenty of hetero couples that aren’t fit to have kids.
Yes and no. I have mixed feelings about that. Parents of either gender could be good parents, or could be abusive.
no it shouldn’t. the child should be asked his/her opinion though.
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No. I work in child welfare and there are plenty of incapable straight parents. I am not aware of any research that proves being homosexual in itself makes someone a bad parent. If the adoptive parents have the right skill set and level of committment, sexual orientation should not be an issue. I think people object more because of their own misinformation and prejudices as opposed to what might be best for the children.
No freaking way. It has absolutely nothing to do with how they will behave as parents. Just prejudice.
Yes. Having been through the process of adoption twice. (our kids are all adopted) There are so many things they consider that seem total stupid and random, this factor should also be considered. As others have noted there are many hetro parents who stink at their job or are downright wrong as parents. Every factor needs to be considered.
Tim
No way. That’s just prejudice, not how they will behave as parents..
Absolutely 100% NO. Some of these “yes” comments have brought me to the verge of tears. So hateful and discriminating, full of prejudice from uninformed minds .. I don’t think that sexual orientation has anything to do with raising a child or being a good, loving parent. And the only reason a child would be confused is because of other people who told them that their family was “unnatural” or “immoral”. Children aren’t born to hate gays, they learn it.
I think everything should be considered. The fact that some hetersexual parents haven’t done a great job doesn’t automatically make it ok for anyone to have a child. I’m not saying homosexual orientation should be an automatic “no way”, but I do believe it’s in the best interests of the child to have a mom & dad.
Yes. It’s been medically / scientifically proven that a child is best off with parents of both sexes, with each parent contributing to the development of the child. Same-sex couples simply can’t offer all that a child needs to be emotionally well-rounded.
absolutely not
No…i think…^^ Have a nice day : )
I believe that in any decision, the entire situation – all the facts – should be considered. Sexual orientation of a parent is a factor, whether we admit it or not. I do believe it should be, as part of a thorough and compete decision-making process. However, it should not be the sole determining factor. I don’t believe that a person should be denied parenthood simply because of his or her sexual preferences. There are more factors to be considered than that – are they capable of raising a child? Of supporting and providing for all of their needs? Will they be caring and nurturing, and provide guidance for the child as s/he grows and develops? These are the important questions. If the child is old enough, they should be asked to voice their opinion as well.
I know many homosexual or bisexual people who would make such EXCELLENT parents. And yet, I see numerous heterosexuals that should never be allowed to reproduce, period. Much less raise a family.
okay, upon reading some people say that kids should have a parent of both genders? what about single mothers? widows and widowers? should their children be snatched away from them and given to a couple with a man and a woman? certaintly not. children can become fully functioning, happy, well adjusted members of society regardless of their parents sexual persuasion.
To clarify, you DID mean gay or straight, right? (just read Laserlawyer‘s comment.) If you mean child molester… etc.. then they should not be able to adopt)
Cripes.. why is it people think “deviant” when they think “gay”?
I still say I have some gay friends I would choose to raise my child over some straight ones.
yes
Yes of course!
Yes, sexual orientation should be a factor in determining adoptions.
No, fit parents whoever they may be should not have the right of loving a child taken away from them. (focus of the key word “FIT” parents.)
HECK NO! There is nothing wrong with that, sure if ur stupid and think there would be, ask the kid, but I’m sure they’d be happier being with 2 parental figures then none!
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!
A child deserves a MOTHER and a FATHER.
((( GRANDMA HUGS )))
Lori
Laserlawyer had the best comment by far, and basically said what I was going to.
Hell NO.
Homosexual couples can give a child just as much love and just as much of a stable home as heterosexual couples. To say that they can’t adopt is discrimination.
last! ha ha!
Absolutely not. If they are loving parents who can and will take good care of a child, they have the same right as any to do so. Homosexual couples have no gene that makes them inherently bad at raising children. They’re just people like everyone else.
As for turning the kids gay, that’s not likely to happen. First off, parents are not the only influence on a child, culture and peers are important, and from statistics I’ve seen it heterosexuals are still in the majority. Secondly, children of heterosexual parents still manage to find out later that they are homosexual. Thirdly, studies are still inconclusive as to whether or not homosexuality is inherited through genes or whether it’s caused by environmental factors.
Yes. Gay couples are not allowed to marry, and it’s Biblically wrong to be homosexual so they should not be allowed to have a child together.
NO… if homosexuals want to have a child they should. People think gay men will adopt a boy to rape it and vise bersa lesbians and little girls, but haven’t we learned straight parents do that too? Also, just because they are homosexual doesn’t mean they’ll do a terrible job in raising a child. Once again, straight parents can screw up a child’s life too. If homosexuals can’t adopt because of these reasons(and many MANY others), then straight parents shouldn’t either. So I don’t believe sexual orientation should have anything to so with raising a child.
yes
I’ll answer with another question: Two heterosexual parents want to adopt a kid. They are avid nudists, and nonviolent cultists that live in a small community. If you don’t think they should adopt, it’s because you belive that they’re ideas are farfetched and shouldn’t be passed on to that child, when, in all legality, they are doing absolutely nothing wrong. But who’s to say you’re wrong for thinking that they are unfit parents?
are you out of your mind to be asking this question? LOL..absolutely NOT! I know perfectly good couples and persons (male/male; female/female; male/female; married/unmarried; single/partners..whichever combo) who’ve done a heck of a lot better job than some couples who do not deserve to be parents. And, you have to think about it. Homosexual couples and those wanting to be single parents have such an uphill battle when it comes to adoption, but when they do become parents, they cherish the responsibility, thus making them or he/she better parents because they WANT to be parents.
No. You don’t need to have a specific sexual orientation to be a loving parent.
How does sexual orientation have any bearing on whether or not one is a good parent? Ever see the stories about heterosexual parents leaving kids in cars on hot days — to die, while they sit in the pub or casino drinking and gambling? Good and bad parents exist, regardless of orientation so I would vote no.
My ex husband is not a very good father, he’s also heterosexual, but being heterosexal didn’t make him less capable of parenting, lack of maturity did.
My answer is no.
Maybe it should be up to the woman giving up the baby….
Candy
yes ….
for the childs sake.
I’m not sure what you mean exactly.
If you are saying it is ok for an adopted kid to wind up with two daddies and no mommy or two mommies and no daddy, then I don’t think that is an ideal situation.
If you are asking if a gay man and his wife or a gay woman and her husband should be allowed to adopt, then I would answer yes.
In any case, I sometimes wonder if we give the child enough credit. We are wonderfully adaptable creatures and many people grow up under horrendous circumstances and turn out to be healthy adults.
Humans are amazing. Our Creator is amazing. Thanks God.
L,r
Yes. I don’t doubt that two men or two women can provide love to a child, but I still think it would be confusing to a child. And I don’t care what you say – other kids will tease the heck out of that kid in grade school and Jr High. (kids are mean)
heck yes. god’s plan was for children to have a mom and a dad
No
no, a loving family that happens to be guided by a gay couple may be able to provide more love and support then a drug addicted, crack sniffing heterosexual couple that forgot they had a child to raise.
i dont think a child has a developed enough mind to understand homosexuality and to pick his or her parents. that would be like requesting your dog to pick between the purple colored food or the orange colored food (dogs are colorblind). children just want to be loved.
NO. There are so many children in such desperate need for a good, loving home. Why deny them that luxury (it’s only too sad that being loved is a luxury and not a right) just b/c you’re too narrow minded to accept that homosexuals are people, too?
Yes definitely. If you mean two of one type of parent…then that should really be considered. Because it makes the child emotionally unbalenced. If they choose to be gay, then they have to live with the consequences of not having children, because they choose to go against God’s teachings. Children need a male and female parent.
Yes, without a doubt.
Yes, it should.
It could be a factor, but I don’t know if it should be the deciding factor.
YESSSSSS. It is disgusting to put a child through such horrid upbringing. it is absolutely horrible.
H
I’m adopted and I don’t think that it should matter. If there’s someone who wants to adopt a kid and love them, then so be it.
yes because heterosexual man and a heterosexual women should be the only ones who are allowed because thats the way God intended it to be.. we’ve changed enough lets leave these morals
as someone else mentioned.
Let the mother of the child who is up for adoption choose who she wants the parents to be.
No.
Absolutely.
Homosexuality is just plain wrong, unbiblical, un-natural, and should certain not be permitted and endorsed by allowing them to have children.
not at all.
no. why should it matter? to the people answering “yes” — what’s your reason for that?
What you are hinting at is that homosexuality can be a learned practice, from parents to children. Most Christian heterosexuals look down upon homosexuals as willfull sinners because they “choose to be gay.” However, ask any, or at least most, homosexuals about when they “chose” to be gay and little to none will answer that they chose, most, if not all, will answer that they were just always that way. And look at it this way, if we are to look down our noses upon gays for “choosing” to be that way, we are hypocrites for not holding ourselves to the same standard. When did you/we ever “choose” to be straight? Did you ever make the choice to be straight? I’m guessing not, you just always were that way. Looking further, if the assumption is that gay parents will turn out gay adopted children, then why is it that straight parents continue to turn out gay children?
To a degree.
If, for example, a kid is absolutely against having homosexual parents, then of course you shouldn’t force the kid to be with them. But I don’t think you should say, “No, you can’t adopt, because you’re a pair of homosexuals.”
x__Stephany
After losing my mom… I can say that there is definitely a need for BOTH gender roles as parents. And, I don’t believe that persons with un-natural sexual orientations can adequately provide that.
It doesn’t matter. Although I do think you should ask for the child’s preference also.
No. They say gay parents will raise gay kids, but straight parents raise gay kids too, so what’s the difference?
If God did not intend you to procreate within your relationship, why should you be given someone else’s child and taught immoral things like, “what really matters is what you like and how you feel and nobody else’s opinion or morals matter”.
Yes. Gay couples are not allowed to marry, and it’s Biblically wrong to be homosexual so they should not be allowed to have a child together.
Absolutely.Homosexuality is just plain wrong, unbiblical, un-natural, and should certain not be permitted and endorsed by allowing them to have children.
Omigod, why are some people such HATERS??? After reading other people’s comments, it’s astonishing to find how many self-proclaimed “Christians” out there have no compassion for other human beings. Is this the kind of bigotry that God wanted? Fine, I can respect that you feel that homosexuality is wrong, but to outwardly discriminate and deny other people the right to love other human beings does NOT follow the Christian values of kindness and compassion! Y’all need to find another religion cuz it’s not CHRISTIANITY!
I can’t wait for the day God comes down and yells at everyone: “THIS IS NOT WHAT I MEANT!!!”
YESSSSSS. It is disgusting to put a child through such horrid upbringing. it is absolutely horrible. H
As for this girl, I have a sneaking suspicion that she hasn’t even been around gay people or children who were raised by gay people. i know lots of children who were raised by heterosexual couples who were abusive as hell and they now live with post-traumatic stress disorder. THAT is what i call a “horrid upbringing.”
no
yes. for one thing, they dont get a father and mother figure in their lives. granted some kids in hetero families dont anyways, there’s no chance for it in a homosexual family. as a guy, who would you ask for dating advice? who teaches you to play sports, or how to fish?
yes
no all you need is the full attention, love, and guidance of your parent
Not soley. A child needs love, and a child’s sexual orientation is usually not influenced by their parents.
Absolutely not
Yes, but don’t count on it. Gay rights activists would go insane.
Omigod, why are some people such HATERS??? After reading other people’s comments, it’s astonishing to find how many self-proclaimed “Christians” out there have no compassion for other human beings. Is this the kind of bigotry that God wanted? Fine, I can respect that you feel that homosexuality is wrong, but to outwardly discriminate and deny other people the right to love other human beings does NOT follow the Christian values of kindness and compassion! Y’all need to find another religion cuz it’s not CHRISTIANITY!
I can’t wait for the day God comes down and yells at everyone: “THIS IS NOT WHAT I MEANT!!!”
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor theives, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” – 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Apparently that’s exactly what He meant.
I think you know my answer, Dan!!
Yes, a child should DEFINATELY stay in foster care for eighteen years instead of being adopted by two very loving people who desperately long to be parents simply because of who they chose to love.
Yet, I guarantee no one saying “Yes” to this question would claim to be racist.
No, No, No
I’m not sure. I lean towards yes, though
yes I am the mom of three adopted kids… Yes…
Kim
What is wrong with all of you? Or atleast the majority.
What is more important: That a kid is raised by two straight people, or that they have a home at all?
How many kids are lost in the foster care system? How many of them would be grateful for a home, whether with a mom and dad, two moms, two dads, or only a mom or a dad? They would have someplace they call home. Thats all that would matter.
I dont understand how some of you would deny a kid a steady family, and a home because the people raising him/her is gay. That’s fucking sadistic.
Why? Because of the humiliation at school from other kids? Maybe if parents taught love of all humans, not just their heritage, race, religion, then kids wouldnt be as cruel as they are to kids who are differnt. or have different families.
Anyone who says that homosexuality should be a factor in adoption is heartless.
(BTW: Read about the couple in Ohio, not far from me, who kept 11 mentally and developmentaly disabled children in wooden cages at night. Straight doenst mean good parents)
ananas comosus made the perfect point. Props to you!
No. Homosexual parents can be great parents. That shouldn’t be a sole factor in a decision. I know some heterosexual parents that should never have been allowed to breed…
children should only be adopted by SANE parents. It doesn’t matter what their sexual orientation is.
Oh, BTW, I am diagnosed PTSD, and my neither of my biological parents were gay. My regular “hetero” parents were just batshit crazy. And as a result of being raised by them, so am I.
No
Here’s a thought. WHY is everyone saying that homosexual couples should not marry? Because the bible says so? Well the bible also says you must follow Jesus. Maybe then ONLY Christian couples should marry. After all, this country should be able to enforce everything because the bible says so, right? Because we don’t live in a free country right?
So says the lesbian christian.
Oy.
Ugh. I didn’t mean MARRY, I meant ADOPT.
sheesh.
Yes
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor theives, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” – 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Apparently that’s exactly what He meant.
Although homosexuals, sodomites, thieves and all these other freaks of nature (and I say this sarcastically) may not “inherit the kingdom of God,” whatever that means, I’m pretty sure he didn’t mean for human beings to hate one another. How is making one set of people feel like shit supposed to achieve peace and harmony in the world? How is this “loving thy neighbor?” Perhaps God and Christians don’t agree with homosexuality, and that’s fine. But, in my opinion, you don’t love thy neighbor by punishing them; you do it with compassion and understanding. I strongly believe that in certain situations, you can love someone and not agree with them at the same time.
Well, I don’t know. It may or may not affect the child. In a normal family, and by that I mean the child lives with his/her biological mother and father, the mother and father have different roles. In my opinion at least. I’m not saying that all the mother does is clean and cook, but I hope whoever’s reading this gets what I’m talking about…?
So having two fathers or two mothers maybe affect the child. But it may not affect the kid in a bad way, who knows?
no
“Omigod, why are some people such HATERS??? After reading other people’s comments, it’s astonishing to find how many self-proclaimed “Christians” out there have no compassion for other human beings. Is this the kind of bigotry that God wanted? Fine, I can respect that you feel that homosexuality is wrong, but to outwardly discriminate and deny other people the right to love other human beings does NOT follow the Christian values of kindness and compassion! Y’all need to find another religion cuz it’s not CHRISTIANITY!
I can’t wait for the day God comes down and yells at everyone: “THIS IS NOT WHAT I MEANT!!!”
YESSSSSS. It is disgusting to put a child through such horrid upbringing. it is absolutely horrible. H
Posted 1/6/2006 at 6:23 PM by Kosmic_Blues”
If you want to talk God, we can talk God. first off, you’re not making a good argument by saying His name in vain right off the bat. second. many, MANY times throughout Paul’s epistles he speaks out against homosexuality. God let burning sulfur rain down on the city of sodom, for… sodomy maybe? but, you are right to a point. dont hate the sinner, hate the sin. none of us really have the right to ‘cast the first stone’ because we are all guilty. to me, homosexuality is wrong, and detestible. raising a child that way will screw them up later.
“As for this girl, I have a sneaking suspicion that she hasn’t even been around gay people or children who were raised by gay people. i know lots of children who were raised by heterosexual couples who were abusive as hell and they now live with post-traumatic stress disorder. THAT is what i call a “horrid upbringing.” Posted 1/6/2006 at 8:19 PM by meemee925″
1.2% of all children are abused in some way. an abuse rate of .001% is far too high, but dont think that heterosexual families do nothing but abuse kids. no news team is ever going to have “Family treats kids equally and with love” as their headline when there’s some kid being abused.
nooo.
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No. I don’t know about the potential psychological effects of having two parents of the same gender, but it can’t be any worse than growing up in a fundamentalist Christian family, as made apparent by 96% of your commenters.
why is ps_x_BANG misquoting the bible? apparently, this is what the bible actually says:
“Do not be deceived; neither fornicators nor adolaters nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes* nor sodomites nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanders nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God.”
*boy prostitutes were young men or boys who were kept for purposes of prostitution. the sodomites would be the adult males who took part in sexual practice with these boy prostitutes.
And we all know that rape has to do with power and control, not with sex or homosexuality.
If you want to talk God, we can talk God. first off, you’re not making a good argument by saying His name in vain right off the bat.
I don’t care (no offense, but I’m pissed) if I use god’s name in vain. But I apologize and I will stop saying it on this site cuz I realize it offends others. I’m not even christian, but I’m speaking as a HUMAN BEING.
second. many, MANY times throughout Paul’s epistles he speaks out against homosexuality. God let burning sulfur rain down on the city of sodom, for… sodomy maybe?
Okay, how are you gonna say that the bible speaks out many times against homosexuality, yet you give me such a weak example? “sodom for…sodomy maybe?” unless you asked the guy if that’s what he really meant, don’t twist the bible to fit your views. Or at least find a quote that explicitly says: HOMOSEXUALITY IS WRONG.
but, you are right to a point. dont hate the sinner, hate the sin. none of us really have the right to ‘cast the first stone’ because we are all guilty. to me, homosexuality is wrong, and detestible.
I can accept that. Just don’t take away another person’s right to love another human being.
raising a child that way will screw them up later.
where is your EVIDENCE that this is true??? I know folks who were raised by same-sex couples and they’re living just fine. Not to mention that I’ve read studies that sexual orientation has no significant impact on a child’s uprearing. And if there are differences, they are due to other factors such as a parent’s inability to respond adequately to a child’s emotional needs which has nothing to do with one’s sexual orientation. Don’t just be spoutin’ off crap without backing it up.
1.2% of all children are abused in some way. an abuse rate of .001% is far too high, but dont think that heterosexual families do nothing but abuse kids. no news team is ever going to have “Family treats kids equally and with love” as their headline when there’s some kid being abused.
I DON’T think that all heterosexual families do is abuse kids. My point is that sexual orientation has nothing to do with how well a child is raised. And if all someone can do is just say, “I think homosexuality is gross so that’s why kids shouldn’t have same-sex parents…” what kind of argument is that???
Who a parent is attracted to has nothing to do with their parenting skills. It’s ignorant to think that at all. It’s proven that children raised by homosexuals grow up just fine, and it’s also fairly obvious that not all children raised by heterosexuals grow up very well at all.
Someone raised by a gay couple could really learn to have an open mind and to not judge people. Someone raised by ignorant rednecks could learn to be prejudiced and close minded.
It’s the quality of love given, not who the love comes from.
I bet a lot of the people on this site could have greatly benefited from same sex parents. Especially the “christians” who think they have a right to be hypocrites about their own religion.
The bible says homosexuality is wrong? Well, it also says you’re not supposed to eat shell fish. Read the whole thing, and don’t pick the pieces that happen to be convinient.
“Let he who hasn’t sinned cast the first stone.” Am I to assume everyone who has said homosexual parents are unworthy have raised their kids perfectly without any mistakes? I didn’t think so.
If people put in half as much effort into making themselves a better person as they put into controlling other people’s lives, the world would be glorious.
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what you choose to do behind closed doors in your love life shouldnt matter..
if the world was reversed and heteosexuals were the outsiders, they wouldnt see why they couldnt adopt..
anyone that can provide a loving, caring, stable home for a child should..
PERIOD
and also, to whoever the God person was.. (now offense I don’t know who said it)
Not everyone that adopts children is christian NOR believes in the bible.. sorry to tell ya hun, but this country is absed on freedom of religion.. and you can’t throw a bible at someone as an excuse when you don’t even know what belief system these people go by..
not to mention that if you want to proclaim SIN.. i know, as I’m sure do yu, that ALL SINS are the same in teh eyes of God.. regardless of how major WE see them.. NO SIN IS LARGER THAN ANOTHER..
back up off the preaching train please.. thank you
No, there behaviour should affect it, hell I wasn’t even a mother and I got discriminated against…
If you’re a good parent, you’ll raise a good child. Your sexual preference doesn’t matter.
Yes. I think that parents are best when they are man and woman. This is not a comment on the parenting ability of homosexual couples or the love they would show to the child. Instead it is a comment on their lifestyle. I believe that the homosexual lifestyle – even a monogomous relationship – is not an environment to raise a child in.
Noooooooooooooooo! As long as they can provide a loving environment, why should it matter?
It may be a little confusing at first, but at least the child will come to understand the concept and respect it, rather than be a hateful little brat.
I finally read through all the comments…the number of social activism and experiments upon children should be minimized. There are studies that have show no impact on kids by the parents of homosexuals. There have been studies that show that there is an impact. I think people on both sides would agree that there is a greater likelyhood of the kids becoming homosexuals as adults; I understand that not everyone would consider this a negative outcome.
Why jepardize or potentially jepardize the kids future for a social experiment? Parenting is not a right; it is a priviledge. A child is not a means to make a person feel good about themselves. It is a repsonisibilty and an obligation. This is not a stance based on hatred of a single group (homosexuals); it is based on love for the child.
The lesbian and gay couples (my wife was in theatre so that is many) that I have known that have been in committed relationships have broken up at a much higher rate than married couples I know. None of my close friends have divorsed; several of my wife’s have. From my experience the couples who were also parents did a good job of parenting, but their commitment to each other was not as deep as the heterosexual couples I know which led to the separations. This is not a scientific study – simply observations. The rate of marriage stabilty might reflect my peers (scientists) vs my wife’s (theatre), but I am not so sure of that.
As a side note, saying there are heterosexual parents who are poor is not an arguement for gay parents. It is a distraction. It is akin to my child saying “but my friends can stay up that late”. It is a complete irrelevant fact. No one would argue that there are heterosexual parents who are poor parents.
Yes. Psychologically, children need a mother and father figure as a frame of reference for their own expected gender roles and responsibilities. I have nothing against gay marriages or relationships, but when you take the upbringing of a child into your hands, that’s a different story.
wat kinda question is that bitch!
yes. it’s not a question if heterosexual parents are better or worse than homosexual parents would be but a question of morality. I’m sorry but no matter how much you would like us to believe it, homosexual behavior is not a lifestyle.
no, that’s stupid, studies have shown time and time again, that it doesn’t affect their emotional or physical well-being, so after that, denying an orphan a real family is just bigotry…
no
In a way because the child should have a normal life but if there is two willing parents to love a child and care for the child then that would be nice to.
Yes. Maybe the environment of the home isn’t suitable for a child. It can confuse children and make them feel like outcasts. I’m not saying that gay people are terrible parents, its just the child might not be able to handle it.
No. But at the same time, there is potential for older children to already have their own ideas about this…their thoughts/needs/beliefs also need to be considered.
Wait a sec… I commented this yesterday and it was erased… what the heck?
My answer is a resounding NO!!!!!!!!!!
Wait… it wasn’t erased.. I dunno.
i think that it SHOULD matter….im sorry if this is “politically incorrect” but it is UN-NATURAL and WRONG to live that way, but should 2 people decide to demorralize themselves that way, they should NOT involve a child who should grow up learning TRUE values and morals instead of living the way other people expect everyone to live….just my opinion.
no, but I hope the parents consider the problems the child will face in school growing up.
It is not the sexual orientation of the couples that matters. It is the love they provide.
You provide a great aspect to the Xanga community. And I am glad you are apart of it. I read it all the time.
As a gay man who someday wants children, well…I think that answers your question there. How does the fact that I’m attracted to other men affect how I’m able to raise a child? It makes about as much sense as saying my orientation affects how I’m able to drive, or write a computer program. What are people so afraid of, we’re going to adopt children and “convert” them? Are we going to molest them? Are we going to hold wild sex orgies (because that’s what “the gay” do, some think) in front of them and their friends?
I have older gay friends who have raised a child together. Quite honestly, this child is a better kid than about half the products of straight parents I know. At the same time, I know plenty of “my people” that would not make good parents, and I know plenty straight couples that should wear permanent chastity belts to keep them from becoming parents.
I don’t have a child now because I know I’m not ready for one. I don’t have the financial backing to support a child, and I don’t have the time right now to devote to raising a child. I do not believe that “raising a child” means handing it off to someone else while you go off and do whatever for 12 hours a day/night, like happens so much these days with kids.
Bottom line, it’s all about the kids. ANY couple…gay, straight, or undecided…that shows they can provide a stable foundation for a child should be allowed to raise a kid. As someone said before, parenting is a “priviledge”. There are just as many straight couples who in no way, shape or form be allowed to raise kids. For someone to say that my husband and I can’t raise a child because we’re gay is ignorant and invalid.
P.S…saw this in featured content, and just my chance decided to click on it. I think I’m going to subscribe now. lol
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And another thought…what do these people who say gays shouldn’t have kids think about single parents, both male or female, who raise their own kids? Is one straight parent better than two committed homosexual parents? Can one parent only do half the job of two, gay or straight? Do they do less of a job than a couple? My best friend for years raised her kids after getting divorced, and did a damn good job of it. I challenge anyone to say that she can’t raise kids because she’s single.
OK, stepping off the soapbox now.
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I like the questions you ask on here .
I feel that no matter what the sexual orientation is of the couple that they should be able to adopt. If they are capable of giving that child love and a good home why shouldn’t they be allowed to adopt? There are too many children out there that need love and a good home. No matter what your sexual orientation we are all capable of love. Although some more then others.
A child should be given to the care of the parents who will provide the best, especially if the child is unable to make that kind of decision for themselves. If they are old enough they should be asked their opinion.
Not unless they’re creepy like a necrophiliac or pedophiliac or beastiality oriented or something.
But if you’re getting at whether GLBTQ people should be allowed to adopt without hesitation to discuss their sexual orientation, I say yes. But then, I’m biased because I fall into that category and think I would be a great parent, and really also wanted to adopt.
(I have this principle in mind where I really don’t want to bring more children into the world until the ones who are here are taken care of.)
Would you ask the same question of black couples who want to adopt ? Sexual orientation shouldn’t be an issue. Ability to look after a child should. Unless of course we want to bring up another generation of bigots – in which case all children should be brought up in a white middle class home. And go to church every Sunday.
yes
well hmm let me see i have noth’n against gays, being that haha im in<3 w/ 1…well he likes me 2…so does that make him bi..he said hes confused..n’ways pnt being i agree w/ “trailertrashprincess”…& i think that it can b confusing 2…yah kno..but maybe it will hlep the child not 2 grow up judging every1…every1 needs <3 no matter wat there sexual preference is…& i dont kno wat effect they would have on there childs sexual preference..i doubt they would b like ur gay!! lol…try’n 2 force it on them…i dkn y ppl r gay,…is it nuturing or is it sumth’n else? then again wat do i kno ha ha…im not an expert…< miranda
NO
NO! ABSOLUTLY NOT!
no, someone’s sexual orientation will have nothing to do with whether or not they’re a good parent.
i don’t think that sexual orientation should be a factor at all in the adoption process. what should really count is the love that the child being adopted will recieve. even though this child will be exposed early to homosexuality, in the long run, this child may learn not to discriminate or be prejudice because of sexual orientation. the lord knows the world could use more of that.
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no because its the potential parents and child’s opinion. if the child is uncomfortable, wouldn’t the government AND the parents consider it? plus a lot of heterosexual parents are retards and shouldn’t be allowed ot breed plus its total prejudice. plus i think its stupid and that homosexuals are people too and deserve to marry and adopt. otherwise how the hell are they gonna have kids? plus divorces are getting higher and higher in married couples, doesn’t that contribute in the adoption factor? i’m not saying it should, but it’s important to think- happy hetero couple this yea,r next year or in five years they are fighting over custody and propterty. see what i mean? and this is what it boils down to- NO.
i think it’s important that both the parents and the child will be comfortable with each other’s orientations. Sticking a same-sex couple with an older child who has a strong dislike for queer people might be more work for the parents than they’d bargained for. On the other hand, placing a queer child with a heterosexual couple who will psychologically abuse the child– even under the guise of guiding the child to what’s “right”– is wildly irresponsible.
If the child is an infant that has not yet had the time to either develop its orientation, or any opinions on others’ orientations, then it should be adoptable by any competent parents.
Yes. It would affect the kid’s childhood.
while i do think it’s important to have a male and female parent together, i say who cares as long as kid is being cared for and loved.
i know gay couples that’d treat their kids better than tons of straight couples i know.
yes
definitly. do you honestly think a child would not be impacted by his parents? after all 50% of gays have over 500 partners, over 1100 sexual parners (Source: U.S National Center for Heath Statistics) Bringing up a child in a homosexual envirnment twists the childs view of society and alters his view of right and wrond, and whats normal. Kids aren’t supposed to have two dads or two moms. after all, the ancient Greeks had homosexual relations, and look what happened to them. also, gays are 107% more likely to be invovled in criminal activities (U.S National Center for Health Statistics) liberals say i’m being discriminative and limiting homosexual rights. i don’t discriminate, i state the facts. i’m fine with homosexuals having the same rights as citizens and i don’t care what they do together. but when they try to publicly marry, or adopt children, thats when its time to say,”Enough is enoogh. It’s time to take control.” Let’s take control.
should be considered but i don’t think it should be an important factor
Sometimes.
NO!!!
Nope. I’ve not ever seen a case where a child was traumatized by having homosexual parents. Actually in every case I’ve seen those children seem to have come out better.
It shouldn’t matter., in my opinion.
Definately not. The child should have some say, but it should not be left up to some board somewhere to decide who is fit to have a child. I see plenty of heterosexual parents screaming at their 5-6 year old children and picking them up by their arms. But then I know two lesbian parents who are the nicest ladies you’d ever meet.
i dont think so.
NO!
yes. a child needs to be raised in a stable and normal environment, or THEY are the ones that are going to pay for it. Mom and dad are supposed to be the example of a healthy relationship….not that thats always the case….but there is no way mom and mom or dad and dad could display a normal healthy heterosexual relationship for their heterosexual child. it just wouldnt happen. a child also need the love of a mother and the strength of a father. psychologists back this up. plus…the child would definatly be mad fun of at school if he had gay parents. not that this is right. but thats what would happen.
hell no, there are so many same sex couples that would give a loving home to a child in need better than a straight couple. As long as they go to a loving home. Should a single person be allowed to adopt? Isnt that like saying on a mother and father can raise a child right? what about if just a mom or just a dad did it? Twice the love if a same sex couple did it if you ask me….
No
i DON’T THiNK iT MAKES A DiFFERENCE. iF A KiD iS GAY THERE GAY AND iF THEY AREN’T THEY AREN’T, THERE PARENTS SEXUAL ORiENTATiON DOESN’T CHANGE THAT ONE BiT.
AND THERE PARENTS CAN’T MAKE THEM GAY BY BEiNG GAY. PLUS, THEY CAN BE A GOOD PARENT.
I think yes.
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no. only their ability, financially and emotionally, should be in consideration. end of story.
HELL NO
no
why would it matter
hetero parents can be just as dysfunctional as anyone
It shouldn’t matter.
yes, boys need dads for examples, and moms to be able to relate to women, and girls need moms for examples and dads to be able to relate to men. Without parents of both sexes, kids are far worse off developmentally.
Also, you can not be born gay. It can not be genetic. You get your genes from your parents. Parents are people who have sex that produces offspring… strait people. So strait people would not pass on gay genes.
Yes.
DEFINATELY. a kid should grow up with a mom and a dad, not two moms, or two dads….
from TheTheologiansCafe:
liberals say i’m being discriminative and limiting homosexual rights. i don’t discriminate, i state the facts. i’m fine with homosexuals having the same rights as citizens and i don’t care what they do together. but when they try to publicly marry, or adopt children, thats when its time to say,”Enough is enoogh. It’s time to take control.” Let’s take control.
that’s totally contradictory. to discrimate is to treat others differently based on race, class, sex, etc. so when you prevent gay people from trying to publicly marry of adopt children, that’s treating them differently, cuz other people are afforded those rights.
also, in response to your statistics, straight people are no angels either. they can be just as promiscuous and can treat their children horribly. since gay people can’t accidentally get pregnant like straight people can, they must have put a lot of thought into wanting to adopt and have children. from that perspective, i’d think they’d actually make great parents.
yes, boys need dads for examples, and moms to be able to relate to women, and girls need moms for examples and dads to be able to relate to men. Without parents of both sexes, kids are far worse off developmentally.
Posted 1/8/2006 at 12:37 AM by kellenlewis1
you sound like someone who came from a great home. however, there are a lot of children out there who have both a mom and a dad who end up being horrible role models. besides, as children get older, their influences shift from their caregivers to their friends. plus there’s the media like tv and magazines and books out there, too. they’ll get their gender role models from somewhere.
Yes
I do not want to offend anyone, but I believe that a heterosexual couple should be the only eligable people to adopt a child. If we hold up our day to day questions and concerns to the Bible – the measuring stick God has given us – we will see things more clearly. God saw that Adam was alone in the garden of Eden, and he made Eve – a woman – for his companion. He did not make two women or two men. He made a man and a woman and told them to marry and procreate. (Genesis 1:27-28, Genesis 2:21-24) Also, a careful study of passages such as Leviticus 18:22 and Romans 1 will show that homosexuality is an abominaion in God’s eyes. I’m sure the account of Sodom and Gomorrah from Genesis 19 is familiar to all of us; It is mentioned numerous times in the New Testament as well, to show how vile they were in God’s sight. We know that the cities were destroyed because of ungodliness; one of their main problems was homosexuality. (2 Peter 2:6, Jude 7) A child deserves the best home possible. Don’t you think that God’s plan – a mom and a dad who love each other – is probably the best one?
Just wanted to add another thought… Our decisions bring about consequences. Something to think about when making a decision is the consequences it will bring. Homosexuality is not determined by genetics and something we have no control over. Homosexuality is a choice people make for themselves, and when they choose to pursue those desires they should realize that one of the consequences of that decision is not being able to parent children. God designed the home a specific way, and there is a reason a gay couple cannot have children of their own: they don’t need to have children, period! That is just one of the consequences a gay couple faces. We should all step up and be responsible for our actions, instead of skating around the consequences.
no
40 peer-reviewed studies confirm that kids raised by homosexual couples are just as healthy and stable as kids raised by heterosexual couples. Those who answer “no” not only ignore the actual data, but show total lackof respect towards those without loving parents. I think that is outrageous
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Yes. Also, maybe the child about to be adopted should be asked their opinion as well.
there aren’t actually many of us that appreciate the pressure…
best wishes buddy
i think so, altho i know the world doesn’t.
agree with purplefire40 because i’d like to have a say if i were the child.
yes. a heterosexual man and a heterosexual female should be the only people allowed to adopt.
Yes.
YES.
yes….if I were a kid, I wouldn’t want to be raised by two moms….
I personally think so, but in the long run, the heterosexuals’ opinions end up being viewed as hateful.
personally i dont think it should matter
its on ur mind when your awake..and its difficult to let go….i was working 60 hours a week and really concerned about missing my slot time to comment….it really eats into you…PLUS what to post next, your always watching the news and getting ideas, waking up in a cold sweat hehe….youll be doing all this now Dan …
I dont envy you buddy. I got a small manageable amount, I just started back to college and i miss one whole day and get home and find a mountain of things to do……grrrrrrr….
we await your next move with interest !
I know many heterosexual couples that aren’t fit to be parents but have kids anyway. If we have a say in whether gay couples can adopt, shouldn’t we (the general public) have a say whether heterosexuals should adopt? The answer lies in ones prejudices.
no, it shouldnt, love is what a child needs
it should be considered, but nothing should be based solely on that reason. Just as everything about a couple is considered before being given a baby.
Sexual orientatiom as in…. does he/she like men/women ==homosexuals? If so, Yes.
I don’t know, I had a couple of lesbian friends who had a daughter and they were some of the best parents that I have ever met but I also think that it is confusing for a child. However I would rather see a child adopted by loving homosexual parents than to stay in the system it’s whole life. Better to be confused than not loved at all….
Absolutely NOT.
I see so many hetero parents who should be sterilized.
no…..why are we so against homosexuals having children? i’ve seen plenty messed up kids in heterosexual families.
and it is true that kids are abused by heterosexual parents all the time. I think in the end it should be about love and who can provide a happy healthy home. homo or hetero.
Everything should be taken into consideration no matter what the decision is… it’s about a child’s life and future before it’s about gay rights. So yes. Most definitely.
Definitely not. All you need is love.
The rest shouldn’t matter.
I think every child is special and ALL details of the home they would be raised in need to be looked at with condsideration to the individual child’s history and needs. I do not think you can stereotype a home by the orientation of the potential parent(s). Every situation is different.
yes
no. it doesn’t matter.
Yes, absolutely!
I say yes because it may be confusing to the kids but there are a lot of kids out there who need families and love. Plus it is a lot of heterosexuals that have no business having kids.
yes.
Yes, a child deserves to be raised by a mother and a father. None of this ‘single-parent’ business, either. How is it such a difficult concept??
Yes,
Children who need to be adopted don’t need to deal with more issues in there life. They need a stable normal family.
When so many children do not even have homes, and so many children out there that need homes, no homosexual people are not child abuser. Judi
Not their sexual orientation but their sexual behaviour and control of themselves must be scrutinized under a microscope. Otherwise the child may be getting set loose into the home of a sexual predator. And that is not good at all.
I don’t think so
Yes. As should every other significant aspect of an adoptive parent’s personality and life. It should all be considered.
I am stunned that so many commenters here think that the sexuality of a potential adoptive parent is not important enough to even be CONSIDERED. What are you people thinking? An agency whose job it is to find adoptive parents who are suitable for a given child should consider EVERYTHING POSSIBLE about the potential adopting parent.
Maybe you just didn’t read the question. The question was not whether an potential adoptive parent should be denied the privilege and responsibility of adopting a child because of their sexuality, but rather whether that person’s sexuality should be CONSIDERED as part of the process.
Have you all gone so PC, that you are unwilling to have a potential parent’s sexuality even CONSIDERED as part of the process? I can’t believe that. Suppose the applicant was a convicted child molester? What if the applicant was into bestiality? S&M? Rampant promiscuity? Rape?
Are you really saying that none of this should be considered? If so, then shame on you for not caring about children who are being adopted.
No, a good gay parent is better than a horrible straight one.
well no. I believe that its easier for a traditional couple to fight. Having a parent who is either gay or bissexual would also more than likely give the child a more open mind. However, if the child is old enough, their opinion shuold be asked for.
You know, Dan, sometimes your readers really piss me off! I haven’t seen anyone give one good reason why a child shouldn’t be adopted by a gay couple….
Can’t you folks think of one? Maybe not – because there is no good reason. A child needs love. That’s it. That is the most important thing a child needs.
nope… their love for a child should be… and i guess that they can take care of one…
dan, it looks like that person in the comment above my first one needs some happy words from you cause apparently he/she might be having a bad day…
no. look at the horrific number of disfunctional hetero families there are out there. sexual preference has little (if any) bearing on the healthiness of love…
No. Sexual orientation doesn’t make someone a better/worse parent.
Yes, I believe it should be a factor, but I also believe that the fiber of the relationship should be more important than their orientation. Think about it this way, a good parent will be a good parent whether they are heterosexual and single, married, homosexual and single, or homosexual in a long-term relationship.
no
No.
No! It doesn’t affect their ability to raise a child.
no.
Me_N_God said
“if I were a kid, I wouldn’t want to be raised by two moms….”
if a child was raised by two moms, or two dads, they probably wouldnt think that way.
No.
Yes I think it should be considered in the adoption process.
NO WAY!
Oh, By the way-my friend calli80 is new to xanga & already addicted. I reccommended your site to her….
I think that a potential parent’s sexual orientation should be considered, but I think that as long as they can prove that they can give the child the love and support they need and they aren’t gigantic freaks, why deny loving parents on a basis of sexuality.
No
I personally think not.
Yes.
I have some gay friends that I would choose to raise my child over some of my straight friends. So.. NO
No. Unless the child has a problem with homosexuals. Then again, maybe they’d learn to accept. But it shouldn’t be a reason to not be able to adopt.
no
I think that it shouldn’t matter what the sexual orientation of adopters are, since there are many other more important factors in determining whether or not they should be allowed to adopt. Usually homosexual couples are more prepared and in better situations when they decide to have kids, there’s no chance of a condom breaking or someone forgetting to take a pill, they have to have made the decision to have a child together and care for it together and that’s the important thing, not whether they like men instead of women or women instead of men. Parents aren’t the sole raisers of the kids anymore, children go to school and that does affect how they grow up as well. As someone said before me, there are many heterosexual couples that make far worse and less sturdy households than homosexual couples, and it’s also better to have them in a real home and being loved than left growing up in the system, at least that’s how I feel.
Actually, I changed my mind, maybe it should. Although sexual orientation has nothing to do with ability to be a good parent, the child may have a hard time with other kids making fun of them, or maybe other kids’ parents will have a problem with a child with two moms/dads. The child might have a harder life because of it.
shut up!
Yes!
Kids shouldn’t have to live with two homosexual freaks if they have the choice.
I would most definitely want the choice if I were adopted; I’d end up running away if I didn’t have the choice of going home with some queer homo’s or some normal people.
It’s just not right.
Nicholas
No, not at all.
wtf?
people are commenting saying that the child should be ASKED first??
since when did children get to choose their parents? i was adopted as a baby and my parents are WHACK (hetero too!) I would not have decided on them had I had the choice…
Regarding your Question:
NOOOOO!!!!! LET THE LOVING HOMOS ADOPT!!!!
EQUAL RIGHTS!!!
NO DISCRIMINATION!!!
GROW UP PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!
~ck
NO. A child needs love– why should it matter? Would it be better if they were left alone on the street? :/
Besides, there are plenty of hetero couples that aren’t fit to have kids.
Yes and no. I have mixed feelings about that. Parents of either gender could be good parents, or could be abusive.
no it shouldn’t.
the child should be asked his/her opinion though.
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No. I work in child welfare and there are plenty of incapable straight parents. I am not aware of any research that proves being homosexual in itself makes someone a bad parent. If the adoptive parents have the right skill set and level of committment, sexual orientation should not be an issue. I think people object more because of their own misinformation and prejudices as opposed to what might be best for the children.
No freaking way. It has absolutely nothing to do with how they will behave as parents. Just prejudice.
Yes. Having been through the process of adoption twice. (our kids are all adopted) There are so many things they consider that seem total stupid and random, this factor should also be considered. As others have noted there are many hetro parents who stink at their job or are downright wrong as parents. Every factor needs to be considered.
Tim
No way. That’s just prejudice, not how they will behave as parents..
Absolutely 100% NO. Some of these “yes” comments have brought me to the verge of tears. So hateful and discriminating, full of prejudice from uninformed minds .. I don’t think that sexual orientation has anything to do with raising a child or being a good, loving parent. And the only reason a child would be confused is because of other people who told them that their family was “unnatural” or “immoral”. Children aren’t born to hate gays, they learn it.
I think everything should be considered. The fact that some hetersexual parents haven’t done a great job doesn’t automatically make it ok for anyone to have a child. I’m not saying homosexual orientation should be an automatic “no way”, but I do believe it’s in the best interests of the child to have a mom & dad.
Yes. It’s been medically / scientifically proven that a child is best off with parents of both sexes, with each parent contributing to the development of the child. Same-sex couples simply can’t offer all that a child needs to be emotionally well-rounded.
absolutely not
No…i think…^^ Have a nice day : )
I believe that in any decision, the entire situation – all the facts – should be considered. Sexual orientation of a parent is a factor, whether we admit it or not. I do believe it should be, as part of a thorough and compete decision-making process. However, it should not be the sole determining factor. I don’t believe that a person should be denied parenthood simply because of his or her sexual preferences. There are more factors to be considered than that – are they capable of raising a child? Of supporting and providing for all of their needs? Will they be caring and nurturing, and provide guidance for the child as s/he grows and develops? These are the important questions. If the child is old enough, they should be asked to voice their opinion as well.
I know many homosexual or bisexual people who would make such EXCELLENT parents. And yet, I see numerous heterosexuals that should never be allowed to reproduce, period. Much less raise a family.
okay, upon reading some people say that kids should have a parent of both genders? what about single mothers? widows and widowers? should their children be snatched away from them and given to a couple with a man and a woman? certaintly not. children can become fully functioning, happy, well adjusted members of society regardless of their parents sexual persuasion.
To clarify, you DID mean gay or straight, right? (just read Laserlawyer‘s comment.) If you mean child molester… etc.. then they should not be able to adopt)
Cripes.. why is it people think “deviant” when they think “gay”?
I still say I have some gay friends I would choose to raise my child over some straight ones.
yes
Yes of course!
Yes, sexual orientation should be a factor in determining adoptions.
No, fit parents whoever they may be should not have the right of loving a child taken away from them. (focus of the key word “FIT” parents.)
HECK NO! There is nothing wrong with that, sure if ur stupid and think there would be, ask the kid, but I’m sure they’d be happier being with 2 parental figures then none!
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!
A child deserves a MOTHER and a FATHER.
((( GRANDMA HUGS )))
Lori
Laserlawyer had the best comment by far, and basically said what I was going to.
Hell NO.
Homosexual couples can give a child just as much love and just as much of a stable home as heterosexual couples. To say that they can’t adopt is discrimination.
last! ha ha!
Absolutely not. If they are loving parents who can and will take good care of a child, they have the same right as any to do so. Homosexual couples have no gene that makes them inherently bad at raising children. They’re just people like everyone else.
As for turning the kids gay, that’s not likely to happen. First off, parents are not the only influence on a child, culture and peers are important, and from statistics I’ve seen it heterosexuals are still in the majority. Secondly, children of heterosexual parents still manage to find out later that they are homosexual. Thirdly, studies are still inconclusive as to whether or not homosexuality is inherited through genes or whether it’s caused by environmental factors.
Yes. Gay couples are not allowed to marry, and it’s Biblically wrong to be homosexual so they should not be allowed to have a child together.
NO… if homosexuals want to have a child they should. People think gay men will adopt a boy to rape it and vise bersa lesbians and little girls, but haven’t we learned straight parents do that too? Also, just because they are homosexual doesn’t mean they’ll do a terrible job in raising a child. Once again, straight parents can screw up a child’s life too. If homosexuals can’t adopt because of these reasons(and many MANY others), then straight parents shouldn’t either. So I don’t believe sexual orientation should have anything to so with raising a child.
yes
I’ll answer with another question: Two heterosexual parents want to adopt a kid. They are avid nudists, and nonviolent cultists that live in a small community. If you don’t think they should adopt, it’s because you belive that they’re ideas are farfetched and shouldn’t be passed on to that child, when, in all legality, they are doing absolutely nothing wrong. But who’s to say you’re wrong for thinking that they are unfit parents?
are you out of your mind to be asking this question? LOL..absolutely NOT! I know perfectly good couples and persons (male/male; female/female; male/female; married/unmarried; single/partners..whichever combo) who’ve done a heck of a lot better job than some couples who do not deserve to be parents. And, you have to think about it. Homosexual couples and those wanting to be single parents have such an uphill battle when it comes to adoption, but when they do become parents, they cherish the responsibility, thus making them or he/she better parents because they WANT to be parents.
No. You don’t need to have a specific sexual orientation to be a loving parent.
How does sexual orientation have any bearing on whether or not one is a good parent? Ever see the stories about heterosexual parents leaving kids in cars on hot days — to die, while they sit in the pub or casino drinking and gambling? Good and bad parents exist, regardless of orientation so I would vote no.
My ex husband is not a very good father, he’s also heterosexual, but being heterosexal didn’t make him less capable of parenting, lack of maturity did.
My answer is no.
Maybe it should be up to the woman giving up the baby….
Candy
yes ….
for the childs sake.
I’m not sure what you mean exactly.
If you are saying it is ok for an adopted kid to wind up with two daddies and no mommy or two mommies and no daddy, then I don’t think that is an ideal situation.
If you are asking if a gay man and his wife or a gay woman and her husband should be allowed to adopt, then I would answer yes.
In any case, I sometimes wonder if we give the child enough credit. We are wonderfully adaptable creatures and many people grow up under horrendous circumstances and turn out to be healthy adults.
Humans are amazing. Our Creator is amazing. Thanks God.
L,r
Yes. I don’t doubt that two men or two women can provide love to a child, but I still think it would be confusing to a child. And I don’t care what you say – other kids will tease the heck out of that kid in grade school and Jr High. (kids are mean)
heck yes. god’s plan was for children to have a mom and a dad
No
no, a loving family that happens to be guided by a gay couple may be able to provide more love and support then a drug addicted, crack sniffing heterosexual couple that forgot they had a child to raise.
i dont think a child has a developed enough mind to understand homosexuality and to pick his or her parents. that would be like requesting your dog to pick between the purple colored food or the orange colored food (dogs are colorblind). children just want to be loved.
NO. There are so many children in such desperate need for a good, loving home. Why deny them that luxury (it’s only too sad that being loved is a luxury and not a right) just b/c you’re too narrow minded to accept that homosexuals are people, too?
Yes definitely. If you mean two of one type of parent…then that should really be considered. Because it makes the child emotionally unbalenced. If they choose to be gay, then they have to live with the consequences of not having children, because they choose to go against God’s teachings. Children need a male and female parent.
Yes, without a doubt.
Yes, it should.
It could be a factor, but I don’t know if it should be the deciding factor.
YESSSSSS. It is disgusting to put a child through such horrid upbringing. it is absolutely horrible.
H
I’m adopted and I don’t think that it should matter. If there’s someone who wants to adopt a kid and love them, then so be it.
yes because heterosexual man and a heterosexual women should be the only ones who are allowed because thats the way God intended it to be.. we’ve changed enough lets leave these morals
as someone else mentioned.
Let the mother of the child who is up for adoption choose who she wants the parents to be.
No.
Absolutely.
Homosexuality is just plain wrong, unbiblical, un-natural, and should certain not be permitted and endorsed by allowing them to have children.
not at all.
no. why should it matter? to the people answering “yes” — what’s your reason for that?
What you are hinting at is that homosexuality can be a learned practice, from parents to children. Most Christian heterosexuals look down upon homosexuals as willfull sinners because they “choose to be gay.” However, ask any, or at least most, homosexuals about when they “chose” to be gay and little to none will answer that they chose, most, if not all, will answer that they were just always that way. And look at it this way, if we are to look down our noses upon gays for “choosing” to be that way, we are hypocrites for not holding ourselves to the same standard. When did you/we ever “choose” to be straight? Did you ever make the choice to be straight? I’m guessing not, you just always were that way. Looking further, if the assumption is that gay parents will turn out gay adopted children, then why is it that straight parents continue to turn out gay children?
To a degree.
If, for example, a kid is absolutely against having homosexual parents, then of course you shouldn’t force the kid to be with them. But I don’t think you should say, “No, you can’t adopt, because you’re a pair of homosexuals.”
x__Stephany
After losing my mom… I can say that there is definitely a need for BOTH gender roles as parents. And, I don’t believe that persons with un-natural sexual orientations can adequately provide that.
It doesn’t matter. Although I do think you should ask for the child’s preference also.
No. They say gay parents will raise gay kids, but straight parents raise gay kids too, so what’s the difference?
If God did not intend you to procreate within your relationship, why should you be given someone else’s child and taught immoral things like, “what really matters is what you like and how you feel and nobody else’s opinion or morals matter”.
Yes. Gay couples are not allowed to marry, and it’s Biblically wrong to be homosexual so they should not be allowed to have a child together.
Posted 1/6/2006 at 3:50 PM by
angela10281
Absolutely.Homosexuality is just plain wrong, unbiblical, un-natural, and should certain not be permitted and endorsed by allowing them to have children.
Posted 1/6/2006 at 7:03 PM by
Lattany
Omigod, why are some people such HATERS??? After reading other people’s comments, it’s astonishing to find how many self-proclaimed “Christians” out there have no compassion for other human beings. Is this the kind of bigotry that God wanted? Fine, I can respect that you feel that homosexuality is wrong, but to outwardly discriminate and deny other people the right to love other human beings does NOT follow the Christian values of kindness and compassion! Y’all need to find another religion cuz it’s not CHRISTIANITY!
I can’t wait for the day God comes down and yells at everyone: “THIS IS NOT WHAT I MEANT!!!”
YESSSSSS. It is disgusting to put a child through such horrid upbringing. it is absolutely horrible. H
Posted 1/6/2006 at 6:23 PM by
Kosmic_Blues
As for this girl, I have a sneaking suspicion that she hasn’t even been around gay people or children who were raised by gay people. i know lots of children who were raised by heterosexual couples who were abusive as hell and they now live with post-traumatic stress disorder. THAT is what i call a “horrid upbringing.”
no
yes. for one thing, they dont get a father and mother figure in their lives. granted some kids in hetero families dont anyways, there’s no chance for it in a homosexual family. as a guy, who would you ask for dating advice? who teaches you to play sports, or how to fish?
yes
no all you need is the full attention, love, and guidance of your parent
Not soley. A child needs love, and a child’s sexual orientation is usually not influenced by their parents.
Absolutely not
Yes, but don’t count on it. Gay rights activists would go insane.
Omigod, why are some people such HATERS??? After reading other people’s comments, it’s astonishing to find how many self-proclaimed “Christians” out there have no compassion for other human beings. Is this the kind of bigotry that God wanted? Fine, I can respect that you feel that homosexuality is wrong, but to outwardly discriminate and deny other people the right to love other human beings does NOT follow the Christian values of kindness and compassion! Y’all need to find another religion cuz it’s not CHRISTIANITY!
I can’t wait for the day God comes down and yells at everyone: “THIS IS NOT WHAT I MEANT!!!”
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor theives, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” – 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Apparently that’s exactly what He meant.
I think you know my answer, Dan!!
Yes, a child should DEFINATELY stay in foster care for eighteen years instead of being adopted by two very loving people who desperately long to be parents simply because of who they chose to love.
Yet, I guarantee no one saying “Yes” to this question would claim to be racist.
No, No, No
I’m not sure. I lean towards yes, though
yes I am the mom of three adopted kids… Yes…
Kim
What is wrong with all of you? Or atleast the majority.
What is more important: That a kid is raised by two straight people, or that they have a home at all?
How many kids are lost in the foster care system? How many of them would be grateful for a home, whether with a mom and dad, two moms, two dads, or only a mom or a dad? They would have someplace they call home. Thats all that would matter.
I dont understand how some of you would deny a kid a steady family, and a home because the people raising him/her is gay. That’s fucking sadistic.
Why? Because of the humiliation at school from other kids? Maybe if parents taught love of all humans, not just their heritage, race, religion, then kids wouldnt be as cruel as they are to kids who are differnt. or have different families.
Anyone who says that homosexuality should be a factor in adoption is heartless.
(BTW: Read about the couple in Ohio, not far from me, who kept 11 mentally and developmentaly disabled children in wooden cages at night. Straight doenst mean good parents)
ananas comosus made the perfect point. Props to you!
No. Homosexual parents can be great parents. That shouldn’t be a sole factor in a decision. I know some heterosexual parents that should never have been allowed to breed…
children should only be adopted by SANE parents. It doesn’t matter what their sexual orientation is.
Oh, BTW, I am diagnosed PTSD, and my neither of my biological parents were gay. My regular “hetero” parents were just batshit crazy. And as a result of being raised by them, so am I.
No
Here’s a thought. WHY is everyone saying that homosexual couples should not marry? Because the bible says so? Well the bible also says you must follow Jesus. Maybe then ONLY Christian couples should marry. After all, this country should be able to enforce everything because the bible says so, right? Because we don’t live in a free country right?
So says the lesbian christian.
Oy.
Ugh. I didn’t mean MARRY, I meant ADOPT.
sheesh.
Yes
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor theives, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” – 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Apparently that’s exactly what He meant.
Although homosexuals, sodomites, thieves and all these other freaks of nature (and I say this sarcastically) may not “inherit the kingdom of God,” whatever that means, I’m pretty sure he didn’t mean for human beings to hate one another. How is making one set of people feel like shit supposed to achieve peace and harmony in the world? How is this “loving thy neighbor?” Perhaps God and Christians don’t agree with homosexuality, and that’s fine. But, in my opinion, you don’t love thy neighbor by punishing them; you do it with compassion and understanding. I strongly believe that in certain situations, you can love someone and not agree with them at the same time.
Well, I don’t know. It may or may not affect the child. In a normal family, and by that I mean the child lives with his/her biological mother and father, the mother and father have different roles. In my opinion at least. I’m not saying that all the mother does is clean and cook, but I hope whoever’s reading this gets what I’m talking about…?
So having two fathers or two mothers maybe affect the child. But it may not affect the kid in a bad way, who knows?
no
“Omigod, why are some people such HATERS??? After reading other people’s comments, it’s astonishing to find how many self-proclaimed “Christians” out there have no compassion for other human beings. Is this the kind of bigotry that God wanted? Fine, I can respect that you feel that homosexuality is wrong, but to outwardly discriminate and deny other people the right to love other human beings does NOT follow the Christian values of kindness and compassion! Y’all need to find another religion cuz it’s not CHRISTIANITY!
I can’t wait for the day God comes down and yells at everyone: “THIS IS NOT WHAT I MEANT!!!”
YESSSSSS. It is disgusting to put a child through such horrid upbringing. it is absolutely horrible. H
Posted 1/6/2006 at 6:23 PM by Kosmic_Blues”
If you want to talk God, we can talk God. first off, you’re not making a good argument by saying His name in vain right off the bat. second. many, MANY times throughout Paul’s epistles he speaks out against homosexuality. God let burning sulfur rain down on the city of sodom, for… sodomy maybe? but, you are right to a point. dont hate the sinner, hate the sin. none of us really have the right to ‘cast the first stone’ because we are all guilty. to me, homosexuality is wrong, and detestible. raising a child that way will screw them up later.
“As for this girl, I have a sneaking suspicion that she hasn’t even been around gay people or children who were raised by gay people. i know lots of children who were raised by heterosexual couples who were abusive as hell and they now live with post-traumatic stress disorder. THAT is what i call a “horrid upbringing.”
Posted 1/6/2006 at 8:19 PM by meemee925″
1.2% of all children are abused in some way. an abuse rate of .001% is far too high, but dont think that heterosexual families do nothing but abuse kids. no news team is ever going to have “Family treats kids equally and with love” as their headline when there’s some kid being abused.
nooo.
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No. I don’t know about the potential psychological effects of having two parents of the same gender, but it can’t be any worse than growing up in a fundamentalist Christian family, as made apparent by 96% of your commenters.
why is ps_x_BANG misquoting the bible? apparently, this is what the bible actually says:
“Do not be deceived; neither fornicators nor adolaters nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes* nor sodomites nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanders nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God.”
*boy prostitutes were young men or boys who were kept for purposes of prostitution. the sodomites would be the adult males who took part in sexual practice with these boy prostitutes.
And we all know that rape has to do with power and control, not with sex or homosexuality.
If you want to talk God, we can talk God. first off, you’re not making a good argument by saying His name in vain right off the bat.
I don’t care (no offense, but I’m pissed) if I use god’s name in vain. But I apologize and I will stop saying it on this site cuz I realize it offends others. I’m not even christian, but I’m speaking as a HUMAN BEING.
second. many, MANY times throughout Paul’s epistles he speaks out against homosexuality. God let burning sulfur rain down on the city of sodom, for… sodomy maybe?
Okay, how are you gonna say that the bible speaks out many times against homosexuality, yet you give me such a weak example? “sodom for…sodomy maybe?” unless you asked the guy if that’s what he really meant, don’t twist the bible to fit your views. Or at least find a quote that explicitly says: HOMOSEXUALITY IS WRONG.
but, you are right to a point. dont hate the sinner, hate the sin. none of us really have the right to ‘cast the first stone’ because we are all guilty. to me, homosexuality is wrong, and detestible.
I can accept that. Just don’t take away another person’s right to love another human being.
raising a child that way will screw them up later.
where is your EVIDENCE that this is true??? I know folks who were raised by same-sex couples and they’re living just fine. Not to mention that I’ve read studies that sexual orientation has no significant impact on a child’s uprearing. And if there are differences, they are due to other factors such as a parent’s inability to respond adequately to a child’s emotional needs which has nothing to do with one’s sexual orientation. Don’t just be spoutin’ off crap without backing it up.
1.2% of all children are abused in some way. an abuse rate of .001% is far too high, but dont think that heterosexual families do nothing but abuse kids. no news team is ever going to have “Family treats kids equally and with love” as their headline when there’s some kid being abused.
Posted 1/7/2006 at 12:29 AM by CoachDerelicte
I DON’T think that all heterosexual families do is abuse kids. My point is that sexual orientation has nothing to do with how well a child is raised. And if all someone can do is just say, “I think homosexuality is gross so that’s why kids shouldn’t have same-sex parents…” what kind of argument is that???
Who a parent is attracted to has nothing to do with their parenting skills. It’s ignorant to think that at all. It’s proven that children raised by homosexuals grow up just fine, and it’s also fairly obvious that not all children raised by heterosexuals grow up very well at all.
Someone raised by a gay couple could really learn to have an open mind and to not judge people. Someone raised by ignorant rednecks could learn to be prejudiced and close minded.
It’s the quality of love given, not who the love comes from.
I bet a lot of the people on this site could have greatly benefited from same sex parents. Especially the “christians” who think they have a right to be hypocrites about their own religion.
The bible says homosexuality is wrong?
Well, it also says you’re not supposed to eat shell fish. Read the whole thing, and don’t pick the pieces that happen to be convinient.
“Let he who hasn’t sinned cast the first stone.” Am I to assume everyone who has said homosexual parents are unworthy have raised their kids perfectly without any mistakes? I didn’t think so.
If people put in half as much effort into making themselves a better person as they put into controlling other people’s lives, the world would be glorious.
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what you choose to do behind closed doors in your love life shouldnt matter..
if the world was reversed and heteosexuals were the outsiders, they wouldnt see why they couldnt adopt..
anyone that can provide a loving, caring, stable home for a child should..
PERIOD
and also, to whoever the God person was.. (now offense I don’t know who said it)
Not everyone that adopts children is christian NOR believes in the bible.. sorry to tell ya hun, but this country is absed on freedom of religion.. and you can’t throw a bible at someone as an excuse when you don’t even know what belief system these people go by..
not to mention that if you want to proclaim SIN.. i know, as I’m sure do yu, that ALL SINS are the same in teh eyes of God.. regardless of how major WE see them.. NO SIN IS LARGER THAN ANOTHER..
back up off the preaching train please.. thank you
No, there behaviour should affect it, hell I wasn’t even a mother and I got discriminated against…
If you’re a good parent, you’ll raise a good child. Your sexual preference doesn’t matter.
Yes. I think that parents are best when they are man and woman. This is not a comment on the parenting ability of homosexual couples or the love they would show to the child. Instead it is a comment on their lifestyle. I believe that the homosexual lifestyle – even a monogomous relationship – is not an environment to raise a child in.
Noooooooooooooooo! As long as they can provide a loving environment, why should it matter?
It may be a little confusing at first, but at least the child will come to understand the concept and respect it, rather than be a hateful little brat.
I finally read through all the comments…the number of social activism and experiments upon children should be minimized. There are studies that have show no impact on kids by the parents of homosexuals. There have been studies that show that there is an impact. I think people on both sides would agree that there is a greater likelyhood of the kids becoming homosexuals as adults; I understand that not everyone would consider this a negative outcome.
Why jepardize or potentially jepardize the kids future for a social experiment? Parenting is not a right; it is a priviledge. A child is not a means to make a person feel good about themselves. It is a repsonisibilty and an obligation. This is not a stance based on hatred of a single group (homosexuals); it is based on love for the child.
The lesbian and gay couples (my wife was in theatre so that is many) that I have known that have been in committed relationships have broken up at a much higher rate than married couples I know. None of my close friends have divorsed; several of my wife’s have. From my experience the couples who were also parents did a good job of parenting, but their commitment to each other was not as deep as the heterosexual couples I know which led to the separations. This is not a scientific study – simply observations. The rate of marriage stabilty might reflect my peers (scientists) vs my wife’s (theatre), but I am not so sure of that.
As a side note, saying there are heterosexual parents who are poor is not an arguement for gay parents. It is a distraction. It is akin to my child saying “but my friends can stay up that late”. It is a complete irrelevant fact. No one would argue that there are heterosexual parents who are poor parents.
Yes. Psychologically, children need a mother and father figure as a frame of reference for their own expected gender roles and responsibilities. I have nothing against gay marriages or relationships, but when you take the upbringing of a child into your hands, that’s a different story.
wat kinda question is that bitch!
yes. it’s not a question if heterosexual parents are better or worse than homosexual parents would be but a question of morality. I’m sorry but no matter how much you would like us to believe it, homosexual behavior is not a lifestyle.
no, that’s stupid, studies have shown time and time again, that it doesn’t affect their emotional or physical well-being, so after that, denying an orphan a real family is just bigotry…
no
In a way because the child should have a normal life but if there is two willing parents to love a child and care for the child then that would be nice to.
Yes. Maybe the environment of the home isn’t suitable for a child. It can confuse children and make them feel like outcasts. I’m not saying that gay people are terrible parents, its just the child might not be able to handle it.
No. But at the same time, there is potential for older children to already have their own ideas about this…their thoughts/needs/beliefs also need to be considered.
Wait a sec… I commented this yesterday and it was erased… what the heck?
My answer is a resounding NO!!!!!!!!!!
Wait… it wasn’t erased.. I dunno.
i think that it SHOULD matter….im sorry if this is “politically incorrect” but it is UN-NATURAL and WRONG to live that way, but should 2 people decide to demorralize themselves that way, they should NOT involve a child who should grow up learning TRUE values and morals instead of living the way other people expect everyone to live….just my opinion.
no, but I hope the parents consider the problems the child will face in school growing up.
It is not the sexual orientation of the couples that matters. It is the love they provide.
You provide a great aspect to the Xanga community. And I am glad you are apart of it. I read it all the time.
As a gay man who someday wants children, well…I think that answers your question there. How does the fact that I’m attracted to other men affect how I’m able to raise a child? It makes about as much sense as saying my orientation affects how I’m able to drive, or write a computer program. What are people so afraid of, we’re going to adopt children and “convert” them? Are we going to molest them? Are we going to hold wild sex orgies (because that’s what “the gay” do, some think) in front of them and their friends?
I have older gay friends who have raised a child together. Quite honestly, this child is a better kid than about half the products of straight parents I know. At the same time, I know plenty of “my people” that would not make good parents, and I know plenty straight couples that should wear permanent chastity belts to keep them from becoming parents.
I don’t have a child now because I know I’m not ready for one. I don’t have the financial backing to support a child, and I don’t have the time right now to devote to raising a child. I do not believe that “raising a child” means handing it off to someone else while you go off and do whatever for 12 hours a day/night, like happens so much these days with kids.
Bottom line, it’s all about the kids. ANY couple…gay, straight, or undecided…that shows they can provide a stable foundation for a child should be allowed to raise a kid. As someone said before, parenting is a “priviledge”. There are just as many straight couples who in no way, shape or form be allowed to raise kids. For someone to say that my husband and I can’t raise a child because we’re gay is ignorant and invalid.
P.S…saw this in featured content, and just my chance decided to click on it. I think I’m going to subscribe now. lol
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And another thought…what do these people who say gays shouldn’t have kids think about single parents, both male or female, who raise their own kids? Is one straight parent better than two committed homosexual parents? Can one parent only do half the job of two, gay or straight? Do they do less of a job than a couple? My best friend for years raised her kids after getting divorced, and did a damn good job of it. I challenge anyone to say that she can’t raise kids because she’s single.
OK, stepping off the soapbox now.
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I like the questions you ask on here .
I feel that no matter what the sexual orientation is of the couple that they should be able to adopt. If they are capable of giving that child love and a good home why shouldn’t they be allowed to adopt? There are too many children out there that need love and a good home.
No matter what your sexual orientation we are all capable of love. Although some more then others.
A child should be given to the care of the parents who will provide the best, especially if the child is unable to make that kind of decision for themselves. If they are old enough they should be asked their opinion.
Not unless they’re creepy like a necrophiliac or pedophiliac or beastiality oriented or something.
But if you’re getting at whether GLBTQ people should be allowed to adopt without hesitation to discuss their sexual orientation, I say yes. But then, I’m biased because I fall into that category and think I would be a great parent, and really also wanted to adopt.
(I have this principle in mind where I really don’t want to bring more children into the world until the ones who are here are taken care of.)
Would you ask the same question of black couples who want to adopt ? Sexual orientation shouldn’t be an issue. Ability to look after a child should. Unless of course we want to bring up another generation of bigots – in which case all children should be brought up in a white middle class home. And go to church every Sunday.
yes
well hmm let me see i have noth’n against gays, being that haha im in<3 w/ 1…well he likes me 2…so does that make him bi..he said hes confused..n’ways pnt being i agree w/ “trailertrashprincess”…& i think that it can b confusing 2…yah kno..but maybe it will hlep the child not 2 grow up judging every1…every1 needs <3 no matter wat there sexual preference is…& i dont kno wat effect they would have on there childs sexual preference..i doubt they would b like ur gay!! lol…try’n 2 force it on them…i dkn y ppl r gay,…is it nuturing or is it sumth’n else? then again wat do i kno ha ha…im not an expert…< miranda
NO
NO! ABSOLUTLY NOT!
no, someone’s sexual orientation will have nothing to do with whether or not they’re a good parent.
i don’t think that sexual orientation should be a factor at all in the adoption process. what should really count is the love that the child being adopted will recieve. even though this child will be exposed early to homosexuality, in the long run, this child may learn not to discriminate or be prejudice because of sexual orientation. the lord knows the world could use more of that.
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no because its the potential parents and child’s opinion.
if the child is uncomfortable, wouldn’t the government AND the parents consider it?
plus a lot of heterosexual parents are retards and shouldn’t be allowed ot breed
plus its total prejudice.
plus i think its stupid and that homosexuals are people too and deserve to marry and adopt. otherwise how the hell are they gonna have kids?
plus divorces are getting higher and higher in married couples, doesn’t that contribute in the adoption factor? i’m not saying it should, but it’s important to think- happy hetero couple this yea,r next year or in five years they are fighting over custody and propterty.
see what i mean?
and this is what it boils down to- NO.
i think it’s important that both the parents and the child will be comfortable with each other’s orientations. Sticking a same-sex couple with an older child who has a strong dislike for queer people might be more work for the parents than they’d bargained for. On the other hand, placing a queer child with a heterosexual couple who will psychologically abuse the child– even under the guise of guiding the child to what’s “right”– is wildly irresponsible.
If the child is an infant that has not yet had the time to either develop its orientation, or any opinions on others’ orientations, then it should be adoptable by any competent parents.
Yes. It would affect the kid’s childhood.
while i do think it’s important to have a male and female parent together, i say who cares as long as kid is being cared for and loved.
i know gay couples that’d treat their kids better than tons of straight couples i know.
yes
definitly. do you honestly think a child would not be impacted by his parents? after all 50% of gays have over 500 partners, over 1100 sexual parners (Source: U.S National Center for Heath Statistics) Bringing up a child in a homosexual envirnment twists the childs view of society and alters his view of right and wrond, and whats normal. Kids aren’t supposed to have two dads or two moms. after all, the ancient Greeks had homosexual relations, and look what happened to them. also, gays are 107% more likely to be invovled in criminal activities (U.S National Center for Health Statistics) liberals say i’m being discriminative and limiting homosexual rights. i don’t discriminate, i state the facts. i’m fine with homosexuals having the same rights as citizens and i don’t care what they do together. but when they try to publicly marry, or adopt children, thats when its time to say,”Enough is enoogh. It’s time to take control.” Let’s take control.
should be considered but i don’t think it should be an important factor
Sometimes.
NO!!!
Nope. I’ve not ever seen a case where a child was traumatized by having homosexual parents. Actually in every case I’ve seen those children seem to have come out better.
It shouldn’t matter., in my opinion.
Definately not. The child should have some say, but it should not be left up to some board somewhere to decide who is fit to have a child. I see plenty of heterosexual parents screaming at their 5-6 year old children and picking them up by their arms. But then I know two lesbian parents who are the nicest ladies you’d ever meet.
i dont think so.
NO!
yes. a child needs to be raised in a stable and normal environment, or THEY are the ones that are going to pay for it. Mom and dad are supposed to be the example of a healthy relationship….not that thats always the case….but there is no way mom and mom or dad and dad could display a normal healthy heterosexual relationship for their heterosexual child. it just wouldnt happen. a child also need the love of a mother and the strength of a father. psychologists back this up. plus…the child would definatly be mad fun of at school if he had gay parents. not that this is right. but thats what would happen.
hell no, there are so many same sex couples that would give a loving home to a child in need better than a straight couple. As long as they go to a loving home. Should a single person be allowed to adopt? Isnt that like saying on a mother and father can raise a child right? what about if just a mom or just a dad did it? Twice the love if a same sex couple did it if you ask me….
No
i DON’T THiNK iT MAKES A DiFFERENCE. iF A KiD iS GAY THERE GAY AND iF THEY AREN’T THEY AREN’T, THERE PARENTS SEXUAL ORiENTATiON DOESN’T CHANGE THAT ONE BiT.
AND THERE PARENTS CAN’T MAKE THEM GAY BY BEiNG GAY. PLUS, THEY CAN BE A GOOD PARENT.
I think yes.
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no. only their ability, financially and emotionally, should be in consideration. end of story.
HELL NO
no
why would it matter
hetero parents can be just as dysfunctional as anyone
It shouldn’t matter.
yes, boys need dads for examples, and moms to be able to relate to women, and girls need moms for examples and dads to be able to relate to men. Without parents of both sexes, kids are far worse off developmentally.
Also, you can not be born gay. It can not be genetic. You get your genes from your parents. Parents are people who have sex that produces offspring… strait people. So strait people would not pass on gay genes.
Yes.
DEFINATELY. a kid should grow up with a mom and a dad, not two moms, or two dads….
from TheTheologiansCafe:
liberals say i’m being discriminative and limiting homosexual rights. i don’t discriminate, i state the facts. i’m fine with homosexuals having the same rights as citizens and i don’t care what they do together. but when they try to publicly marry, or adopt children, thats when its time to say,”Enough is enoogh. It’s time to take control.” Let’s take control.
Posted 1/7/2006 at 5:43 PM by Slingpaw
that’s totally contradictory. to discrimate is to treat others differently based on race, class, sex, etc. so when you prevent gay people from trying to publicly marry of adopt children, that’s treating them differently, cuz other people are afforded those rights.
also, in response to your statistics, straight people are no angels either. they can be just as promiscuous and can treat their children horribly. since gay people can’t accidentally get pregnant like straight people can, they must have put a lot of thought into wanting to adopt and have children. from that perspective, i’d think they’d actually make great parents.
yes, boys need dads for examples, and moms to be able to relate to women, and girls need moms for examples and dads to be able to relate to men. Without parents of both sexes, kids are far worse off developmentally.
Posted 1/8/2006 at 12:37 AM by kellenlewis1
you sound like someone who came from a great home. however, there are a lot of children out there who have both a mom and a dad who end up being horrible role models. besides, as children get older, their influences shift from their caregivers to their friends. plus there’s the media like tv and magazines and books out there, too. they’ll get their gender role models from somewhere.
Yes
I do not want to offend anyone, but I believe that a heterosexual couple should be the only eligable people to adopt a child. If we hold up our day to day questions and concerns to the Bible – the measuring stick God has given us – we will see things more clearly. God saw that Adam was alone in the garden of Eden, and he made Eve – a woman – for his companion. He did not make two women or two men. He made a man and a woman and told them to marry and procreate. (Genesis 1:27-28, Genesis 2:21-24) Also, a careful study of passages such as Leviticus 18:22 and Romans 1 will show that homosexuality is an abominaion in God’s eyes. I’m sure the account of Sodom and Gomorrah from Genesis 19 is familiar to all of us; It is mentioned numerous times in the New Testament as well, to show how vile they were in God’s sight. We know that the cities were destroyed because of ungodliness; one of their main problems was homosexuality. (2 Peter 2:6, Jude 7)
A child deserves the best home possible. Don’t you think that God’s plan – a mom and a dad who love each other – is probably the best one?
Just wanted to add another thought… Our decisions bring about consequences. Something to think about when making a decision is the consequences it will bring. Homosexuality is not determined by genetics and something we have no control over. Homosexuality is a choice people make for themselves, and when they choose to pursue those desires they should realize that one of the consequences of that decision is not being able to parent children. God designed the home a specific way, and there is a reason a gay couple cannot have children of their own: they don’t need to have children, period! That is just one of the consequences a gay couple faces.
We should all step up and be responsible for our actions, instead of skating around the consequences.
no
40 peer-reviewed studies confirm that kids raised by homosexual couples are just as healthy and stable as kids raised by heterosexual couples. Those who answer “no” not only ignore the actual data, but show total lackof respect towards those without loving parents. I think that is outrageous