January 19, 2006
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Working Mothers
My mom always hated to work outside the home. Most of the years she worked in the home. But she came to a place where she thought she needed to get a job outside the home. I always noticed that there was a tendency for mothers who were in the home to make indirect comments about women who worked outside the home. They would sometimes indicate that the mothers were less committed to their children. Then there were mothers who worked outside the home that would act as if some mothers who stayed at home were not doing anything with their time. These statements were often indirect and usually more implied than direct.
Do you think the typical woman would prefer to work in the home?
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…Unless their children are wild animals.
Then working outside the home would probably be better.
geez… i have absolutely no clue dan…
yes!
Typical woman? what are we, nuts?
On most days anyways!!! haha
Probably, but stereotypes are made to be broken.
Hmmm…that’s a difficult question. I think that the views of the majority are shifting on this one, with more and more women involved in the workforce. I think that right now most women would say that they wouldn’t be entirely opposed to having a part-time job (at least once their children are no longer small).
there is no typical woman….
that is the bliss of the feminine…
and, my God, what bliss it is.
I’m quite surprised that I got first. I thought that would never happen.
Define the typical woman.
Typically, yes.
Well, I’m not typical and my children are in fact wild animals (trapped inside people suits), but I wouldn’t trade my life for anything. I love being at home and most of the time don’t mind the lack of funds. Yes, my working would afford us a house and nicer things…but I couldn’t do it. I understand if you must…single moms, etc…but if you don’t have to, I highly suggest staying home and digging your kids all day. They’re so fun.
I stay at home with the kids. But most days I wish I was making a substantial financial contribution the the household. Plus I get tired of the kids since I deal with them 24/7.
So I’d say it’s mixed. Some know that their kids would drive them crazy and others can handle it. I do love it but $$-wise it sucks. obviously. I wish we were in a country that paid our SAHM. Some do, and America being the richest country should to. Then more people could stay home if they chose to.
Some women would rather work out of the home though, to keep interest. It all depends on a woman’s person preference, and their home situation.
I would love to be a stay at home mom if at all possible, but I have a feeling I’ll be working.
I have heard that is the case, but I’m not real sure I believe it.
I think a devoted mother would choose to work in the home.
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Lori
“would”? Depends…
“should”? ….nah, I’m not going here. Talk about throwing gas on a fire.
I would!
no, if she doesnt want to
There is no “typical woman” anymore.
i think that to an extent, the typical woman would HAVE liked to work in the home.
there are women out there still like that though….
i would like to work in the home…but then again, i love being around people, so it would get too lonely.
i was reading a past post about the white house…i’ve been inside…it is quite lovely, but exremely small.
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I’ve done both … neither one is easy.
I think many moms would like to be home with their baby the first six months. Then they start feeling out of the loop with their colleagues and work. I think moms who work at home miss the adult conversation and interaction.
Moms who work outside the home continue to grow professionally which is great but struggle with still being the caregivers for their children when they are sick. Its hard if their children bond with their nannies … even though they want their children to be happy.
Its not bad for moms to continue advancing themselves professionally … one day their children will be grown and gone … what will they do then?
Yeah, I would ove to see the pyramids or the temple in Angkor Wat.
I don’t think they want to work at home necessarily. My mother hated it. She used to run a horse farm and then when that died after all of the hurricane damage in ’96, she worked at a law firm, then at the hospital and the rehab center. When we moved, she worked at the hospital down there, and now she moved back to her hometown to work at the hospital there. She hates cleaning house, because that’s what she considered working at home. She could never do one of those sit-at-home-on-your-computer jobs. She would hate that. She hated not doing anything.
woman are so different from when your mother was at the working age. it’s impossible to decide what one woman wants. Besides, i think it’s a little sexist to assume that women would want to stay home.
since I am not of female mindset…
I have no idea
-Chris
I think so, yeah. I do, for sure.
i would, but typical…im not sure
“typical”?? ha! every woman is different in their “stay at home” preference. in fact my feelings on the matter change constantly. i think if you are out of the home, you sometimes wonder if you should be in it. and if you are in it, you are insecure about the choice too. from my viewpoint, women yearn for balance and want to be in both places.
how about asking if the “typical” woman has insecurities about her preference?
ryc: So what did you think I would look like? :~D
there is no “typical woman” and all of us want to work where we feel needed and can contribute in a way that will be meaningful to us… i would prefer to do non-housework from inside the home…
at least for the first few years when the children are babies, i’d want the mother to be at home.. but then maybe later if she wanted to work outside that is fine.. it all depends on what you’re looking for.. each person has a different way of approaching it
I know I would…
I’ve worked from home. And lemme tell ya- it SUCKED. You never leave the office, other people (family) don’t treat you as though you’re at “work” from 8-5, you have a million distractions. It’s a much nicer dream than reality. I’m so happy to be past that phase and get the opportunity to get out of my house every day to go to work. Even if I had kids I would hate being stuck in the house all day.
i dunno probably.
I would imagine that the typical anyone would want to work at home.
I think most women would rather work at home, if given the chance.
typical woman?…i don’t know
personally i’d like to do both…
be at home when my children are under school age and go back to work afterwards
No, but she should.
Nicholas
ryc, That’s what I was referring to as the home situation. A woman naturally wants to be with her children, but sometimes her situation may not allow her to. Also, a mother not being with her children all the time will teach them independence and responsibility, I don’t know, a thought to ponder.
I liked the answer macastat gave about their being no typical woman. What works for one won’t necessarily work for another. I have friends with jobs who wish they could stay home, and friends who work at home who are miserable and want to go back to work but feel guilty. I am one that works at home and I am very thankful we can afford for me to do so. So, there’s no cut and dry answer for any one person.
Typical women does not want to work period.
My mom loves working outside the home……
typo correction: their should be there
I think it depends on the person. I don’t think I could stay at home. I think I would go crazy. I really enjoy my job and continually learning new things. But, I don’t think there is anything wrong with staying home. I hope that when I do have kids, I can find someone who would be willing to watch my child for me (yes, I will pay them a far fee). I don’t like the thought of sending a 3 month baby off to day care with a million other kids (but I know this might have to happen). My wish would be to have someone (my husband) stay home with them until they are at least one. I do have 2 friends that could offer the possibility of home child care and would love to take them up on the offer, if I ever do decided to have kids.
The “typical woman” hahahaha. I’ve never heard that term before
Don’t know if there is such a thing 
I can say that I always thought I would work when I have children…but then, my younger sister had a baby this past August, my first nephew. And I took off that week to stay with her at the hospital (she has no contact with the father) and help her with the baby. She is 19 and I am 20, so you can imagine how we both had a LOT of learning to do with this newborn.
I was surprised to find that at the end of the week when it was time for me to go back to work, I REALLY DID NOT WANT TO GO BACK. I seriously thought about just quitting and staying home to help her with him…but then reality set in, I have bills to pay and can help her out more if I am financially stable.
I felt all of these emotions when my nephew was born, so I think when I have my own children, I will want to stay home with them… but keep in mind that I am 20 and this could very well change
I think that many woman want different things. That’s why I think flex time and part time work (and telecommuting) are perfect options for mom’s. We have to stop judging mom’s (let them work or stay home or do both).
Well my mom always worked and my dad made her quit her job and sell her business to “help pay off debts” and now she has absolutely nothing to do with herself and it’s pretty sad.
I don’t think you can say a majority prefers one place over the other, but personally, I’d like to work outside of the home so that if life gets almost unbearable, either my home or my work place will be my respite (is this a word).
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Would prefer? Don’t know. Should? Yes.
Would prefer? Don’t know. Should? Yes.
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER!!!!!!!!
I think that it depends on the woman… I would say that most non christian woman dont, especally feministic type woman. Most Christian woman want to be a stay at home mom.
im a male and work at home, and male or female whoe wouldn’t want to work at home
Hmm… I think every woman is strictly a unique individual. So, It would be hard for me to group them all together. My mom for example, loves working in the home, and would chose it over a outside-of-the-home career. As for myself… I want both =P
I really want to have an office in my home – convert the attic into a writing studio, I think.
No. I would hate to work in the home. I couldn’t be in the same environment that long. It’s like after work you can’t wait to go home, but if you’re already home, what do you have to look forward to? That’s my opinion, but I have to say that I’m not really a typical woman.
I think when their kids are young yes. And I feel if you are financial able, it is best for the children if you are there. But there is the day when I feel the woman wants to “find herself and her career”
When I was going through a turning point in my life I sat down and cried and told my husband I had no life. In shock he said…This is your life!!! I was never so insulted…I told him.. “no, I’m Jennifer, Ian and Jason’s mom, Jennifer, your wife, Jennifer, homeschool mom, Jennifer Sunday school teacher….I want something that is ME, MINE!” He thought that was silly. But I did find myself in a career I knew I always wanted… today, I’m Jennifer, Sr. Geological Technician. …hmmm What I would give to turn back time and be… Jennifer, homeschool mom again.
I don’t think there is a typical women. Jeez.
…and let me add one more thing… LOL…
Now my husband has returned to school full time, I am the bread winner of the family. The sole provider. In our whole 26 years of marriage this is a first…and although it sounds rewarding…it’s a rather scary place for me to be.
I think that depends on the woman…and her situation. I stayed home with my children until all of them were in school. Then (and now) I work full-time. I don’t feel that either of these occupations is more worthy than the other. For me, it was important to be home with my children while they were young. I’m glad I had that option – not all women do! I seriously don’t know what I would do all day if I were home now that they are in school. I would be bored.
I think there is no “typical woman”. Some woman like working in the home, some don’t. It depends on strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Besides, what about people like writers who work both in and out of the home?
It really depends on the individual. I think people need some other occupation besides home life. I will probably lose my mind if I ever have kids.
Well, I never ever want to have my own kids– adoption if I feel the maternal urge– and quite frankly I don’t talk to a lot of other women. But from what I’ve experienced, I’d say most mothers would want to work at home or stay at home, but most women would want to do what makes them most successful. If they can achieve that level of success whether they’re at home or not at home, I think they would probably choose to be at home.
Why don’t you ask the same thing about men? Why just women?
any comment posted is a stereo type
omg i hope not. unless working in the home=has her own business,then yes. im really disappointed at some of these answers. it’s really scary. i hope women aren’t selling themselves short nowadays.
I don’t know about “typical”, but what woman or man wouldn’t want to work from home? However, I think you are asking about being a homemaker or housewife. I think that if I had children then I would definitely answer yes to that one. I had the benefit of having my mother stay home with all 3 of us and it was fantastic. I liked coming home in the afternoon knowing that she would be there. As an adult I want to be there for my children and think it would be awesome to be there for my kids in that manner. It would also allow me time to volunteer for things in my community that I find to be imporant.
yes
Probably so.
The children would certainly benefit.
L,r
I think there are women (like me) who have always known they want to stay at home with their kids. There are also women who would drive themselves nuts if they didn’t get the adult interaction and separate identity that you get from working outside the home as a mother. I honestly think it’s pretty split. However, I do think that most working mothers feel guilt at not having more time with their children. But guilt (whether rational or irrational) is such a huge part of motherhood that I don’t know if I can really attach a moral value to that.
I think one of the greatest travesties is how women can be our very own worst enemies. The debate over working vs stay at home as a mother is a primary example. Working mothers look down at stay-at-homes as “lazy” and “unmotivated” and worst of all OLD FASHIONED, while stay-at-homes look at working moms as unavailable to their kids. It’s horrible. BOTH are perfectly legitimate decisions and paths to take. Wasn’t that the whole point of the feminists movement? For us to be able to CHOOSE what we WANT to do with ourselves rather than feel forced to do X, Y, or Z b/c of social pressure? It almost seems like the social pressure has swung the other way, that rather than being forced to stay home now many mothers are forced to work. Women worked so hard to achieve our greater freedom and now we’re the ones holding ourselves down. It’s so sad.
See? That’s exactly what I’m talking about… “I hope women arent’t selling themselves short nowadays…”
WHY is it that raising children, raising the next generation of people and leaders, is viewed as such a crappy choice to make?!? As “selling yourself short”?How many people even like their jobs that much, or have jobs that are that meaningful?
Grrr
I would want to
um i dont know about every woman, but i would prefer to work outside of the home as well.
As a mom who works outside the home here is my take. I would have loved to have been home when the kids were little, but financially it wasn’t possible. Stay at home moms have a hard job of taking care of the house, paying the bills, cooking, cleaning, and raising the kids. In a perfect world we would be able to stay home until our kids were in school and then be go to work outside the home. But, today most moms have to work in order for the family to be financially stable. To the moms who are able to stay home “Your Rock”
I can’t speak for any “typical” women… I don’t consider myself so. I think that it all goes back to what sort of women they are… some people I know are like supermoms, they live for staying home and being liking Martha Friggin Stewart, they are good at it… Others would rather play leap frog with unicorns than stay at home…and then theres everyone in between. I, personally, would enjoy having more time for myself, the house, the kid, BUT… if thats all there was, I would get very very bored and HATE it in the end. I was a stay at home mom for a while… I went insane. It all just depends on each individual case.
Yes. It’d be better and more relaxing to work camly around your house rather then in a noisey office. I think you’d be able to focus more and even get more work done that way.
It depends. I like to be at home with my kids, but I also like getting out of the house and earning money. For me, I’ve always been happiest when working part-time–I have plenty of time when I’m home with my kids, and I appreciate that time more when I’m working.
I’ve only recently returned to work, (part time) after 9 years as a SAHM. I feel so much happier now. I was *so* sick of playground conversations as my main source of adult contact, of the endless routine of meals and housework, housework and meals, etc.
I would if I had children.
I don’t think you can stereo type them… just as many would as wouldn’t.
prolly
Sure, why not. It’s the best of both worlds if she is trying to earn a living and take care of the kids too.
no, I think today’s “typical woman” likes working in corp. America.
I for one prefer staying at home w/my kids, but then I’m probably not that “typical”.
I don’t think there is a typical woman.
i’m not sure if typical is the word i would use- i think its in a woman’s God designed nature to nurture her young.
There is no “typical woman”.
I know I’ll want to work in the home, but there are women out there who enjoy working outside of the home. Maybe for the social interaction, or some other reason.
yes
Being a mom who has worked outside the home and who has been a sahm/wife for 9 years now. There are like anything else in life rewards and mountains to climb.
I prefer being at home and frankly really do not know what I will do once my children are raised but I can tell you whatever it will be it will be something I enjoy.
No such things as a typical woman.
Catty little creatures we are and why women like pick each other a prat it beyond me.
Do what you do and do it well.
It ruffles my feathers when other women think being a sahm/sahw is not worthy of respect.
I don’t know if I’m a typical woman or if my friend is the typical woman but she and I both love and prefer to be at home with and for our children.
Oh and I’ve known all my life that when I had children I would want to be an at home mom. When I was in kindergarten we had a teacher asking all the kids what they wanted to be when they grew up and my answer was “I want to be a mom when I grow up!” and the teacher said “no what do you want to do for your job,” and I was bummed that I had to pick something else.
Yes, but only after the kids are grown and gone.
I gotta say… there’s definite benefits to working from home.
There is no typical answer to this. If a woman has children, she may prefer to work at home to be with the kids, but for other mothers, work may be her time away from her kids. As for non-mothers, I think most would prefer to work outside the home.
I think that there is no such thing as a typical woman.
I am glad that I have the choice as to whether or not I can stay at home or work out of the house. I would never judge a woman’s decision to do what she wants with her life. Just because I wouldn’t feel fulfilled by staying at home, doesn’t mean that another woman wouldn’t.
Erika
well..when I have kids, of course I’d love to spend time with them…but I like being kinda independent too
What is typical?!? I can’t tell…
If most women wanted to work in the home then they would. Most families make the choice that the extra money that the female brings into the family trumps having the wife at home. Most families do not need the money that the seond salary brings in to survive. They need it so the kids can have new clothes or a nicer car or a vacation or cable TV or many other choices that people make for their money. To me a woman not taking care of the kids is a crazy choice. There is nothing more important to me than raising my kids, and I want the woman I chose to be the mother of my kids raising them; not a daycare worker who likely does not share my morals and values.
[In using woman and wife I have chosen a gender for simplicity, but the comments apply equally to the male of the household. One of the parents should be at hoem with the kid.]
I would like to add…..I’m a typical woman. hehehe
i have no idea
i would go insane if i had to be home with my child. i love to work and i love my career and my future career. i wish the work place and parenting could co exist more harmoniously. right now they are in direct conflict. the way that the work environment is set up, it’s nearly impossible to be both a committed mother and a committed professional. i would like to be both. having children and having a career fulfill different parts of a woman’s psyche and we tend to want to assume that women should be automatically fulfilled by having children. we are more complicated than that. it shouldn’t be such an either/or question. they are two different areas of one’s life.
I’m not quite sure. I know that I prefer to stay at home with my kids but I also would like to work outside the home so I could get more social interaction. To me it seems that women who have kids would prefer to work at home but women who don’t have kids or want kids would prefer to work outside the home.
YES – But I’ve worked for 37 years outside the home.
no way! if i did, i would only get fat & i wouldn’t get as much done. & if they hae kids, leaving for the office is probably the only thing keeping them sane. i know i’d leave them all i could.
*have=hae
No, I don’t think so~
funny…it was just yesterday that a mother was crying to me on the phone about her struggles with having to work outside the home. she feels pressured to work outside the home. yes, i think women would prefer to stay home. if a woman actually has a choice and is capable to do either, i think she needs to have an extremely high self esteem to choose to stay home.
mmmm, what’s typical? it doesn’t even feel like there is a “typical” woman anymore. back in the day, i would’ve answered yes. but back in the day, women didn’t have as many opportunities. i remember a professor saying that when she was younger, her only options were to be a nurse, teacher, or housewife. now, we can be whatever we want (of course, we’d have to work harder to get some jobs, but that’s a whole other discussion). i also would think it’d depend on the values one was brought up with (were they brought up in a traditional home vs a household that thought it was ok to work out of the home), the context in which they grew up (is it the norm for women to work out of the home), and other factors like being a single parent who would have to work out of the home more or culture where it might be expected that women stay at home.
but gender roles nowadays aren’t as rigid as they were before, so i wouldn’t be able to answer this question with a firm yes or no answer. they’ve changed for men, too. i have two men in my family who stay at home with the children while my aunts go out to work. but it does seem that the “typical woman” from yesteryear is just another option rather than the norm.
How do I know do I look like a women? And no dont answer that lol.
uh oh… whats mean “typical”?
I think that has nothing to do with being a woman.
i think that it would be lovely to work in the home. as a housewife. i don’t think of this as a “step down” as most modernists would say, but i think that it would be a very noble profession, and helpful in raising a godly family. my husband will be home a lot as well, my boyfriend’s going to be a pastor, so it would be wonderful to spend lots of time with my family.
There is no typical woman. Now, me, I would love to be a stay at home mom.
It’s hard to think as a “typical woman” because I am not a “typical” woman. I have worked both in and out of the home. It really depends on whether I could find a job that I really loved. I did have such a job but had to leave due to the Air Force transferring my husband. My Mom would watch my baby daughter while I worked part time. It gave me a good feeling to contribute to the household. Now the kids are older and I sub teach but not often. I go to classes for personal enrichment (currently: acting) but I feel like I should get a part time job and contribute some money to the household. I’m looking right now but I am not going to take a crap job just to have a job. It will have to be a good job I will like, otherwise it will be bad for me emotionally and physically and I’d be better off at home cleaning something
I don’t know about typical women, but I know I would prefer staying home.
I think that women belong in the House.
And in the Senate.
I think those women who are exclusively in their own homes, keeping house and raising kids are thought of as inferiors by their husbands and others who are fanatical Xtian males.
I don’t think that every woman who is just staying home and raising kids is being treated like a slave–but I think a lot are. I know it won’t ever happen to me, since I will NEVER allow any man or woman or child to put the chains on me.
It depends on her goals and aspirations in life. Some women long to be able to raise a good family and have a nice home that they take care of. If this is their goal, yes I think they would prefer to work in the home. Others, have professional aspirations. Still, most work because they have to. If I had a choice, I think it would be nice but at some point I would get bored, I think. For me the perfect set up would be a part time job outside the home to compliment the full time job inside the home.
I dont think a typical woman exists anymore, well outside of spontaneous irrational ones. I think each woman is different and there are some that would, and others that wouldn’t. Neither side is “typical.”
ONE HUNDRED AND TWENTY SECOND!!!!!
WHOA. I just barely made that one in time!!!
nah..I can’t stand being home
I think everything depends on your perspective. I believe that there is next to nothing more important than raising a good family, helping them develop, learn, grow, and to be there for them.
All women are different. All children are different. My mom was a stay-at-home mom. She sacrificed a LOT to stay home with us. She studied at the Royal Flemish Conservatory of Music in Belgium for two years, received several awards that an American had never won before, and then came back to the states and met my dad. When they had my older sister, she gave performing up. It was her choice, no one pushed her into it.
I had a friend growing up who was always home alone in her house. I remember once she came home from school with me and said “you are so lucky that your mom is here with you!” I won’t lie, I thought sometimes that she was the lucky one because her mom was gone and didn’t make her do her homework or eat healthy things…but I think it was then I realized that my mom had chosen her priorities, and her #1 was her family.
We had family breakfast every morning, and family dinner as often as we could before all us kids whent 80 different directions. I took it for granted at the time, but those are some of the sweetest memories I have of time spent with my family. I never think of my mom as inferior to working women. She is one of the smartest women I know. She reads everything in sight, she constantly asks questions and seeks for the answers to them. I got my love of history from her, which eventually turned to my interest in law and the judicial system of our country. She was always active in church activities, community activities, politically, and accompanied a fantastic baroque choir one night a week as we got older.
She had more than a full time job as she committed to practicing daily with her 4 girls as we worked our way through the suzuki violin method. The program is wonderful, but it takes nearly as much work from the parents as it does from the children. She practiced with me every day for years and years. She worked tirelessly with me drilling scales and skill-building etudes. She sat patiently through us all throwing fits at some time or another, wanting to quit, and then would patiently remind us how much work we had accomplished and how many victories we had won already. None of us ever quit. We all graduated. All but one of us has gone on to teach in that method to support ourselves through college. That never would have happened without my mother being home.
As I grow up more and more and get farther out into the working world, I am beginning to understand how hard it is to give up career progression, opportunities, a second income. I don’t think it is ever an easy choice. But I want what I had growing up. I want to be a mom who is a mom. I consider raising righteous, responsible children to be the greatest challenge I will ever face, especially with all of the unrest in the world right now. It scares me to death. But it is something I really want to do when (someday) I have children.
I don’t know if I’m typical, but I know that if I had the opportunity to work from home, I’d do it in a heartbeat.
I would love to not work at all but I must…but if I have to work then I dont want it to be at home, I would want to get out ya know
Of the women and young women I know, typycally once they have a kid there is no way they WOULDN’T want to be at home with their baby.
i’m sorry but i absolutely would not prefer to just work at home..i need to make something of myself to more than just my family. i believe that there is a place in the outside world for everyone. not just a typical male. but a “typical” woman also.
I think it depends on if her huisband’s rich or not.
actually no. my mother is always at work, even though she cant stand the place. we dont have a lot of money, and a lot of our family in louisianna came down before the hurricane so now they are homeless so maybe that is why. maybe she just wants to help? i dont know but sometimes it really upsets me when she is always at work. but i know she tries. and she is always telling me that she could not work at home, that she has to be out. the 17th was also her birthday and she turned 30, but she still didnt go out! she spent all of her time at work like always.
did i answer the question?
chelsie
There is no typical woman.
There are many introverted women and many extroverted women. Personally, I would die if I had to be a “housewife”.
I can see why some people would like that, but for the careers I’m interested in, that’s not really an option….
my mom has always been happiest not working though lol
I would!
I dont like my moms job shes a bus driver Ewwwwwwwwwwww.Oh my name is sexcop911!!
theres not really a “typical woman” anymore…we have all grown into different people this generation through society,think its all in opinion now days, but i believe that whichever one a mother does they are still thinking of caring for their children whether it be to stay home and care for them a but more than usual or go out, geta job and make income to support the child or whomever it may be there with them…..i wish the world werent so negative and judgemental then maybe they would see….
I dont really think there is a ” typical woman” anymore, we have all grown into different types this generation through society, i believe that it is all in opinion now days. Maybe people should slow down on the judgement and see both views…if the mother is staying at home then she is doing it for her children, if she is working then it is for her her children ( or herself) but either way you go about it its the thought and care in their hearts that matters
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I think there’s pros and cons for both… It’s great to spend lots of time with kids, watching them grow up, but at the same time, it’s an expensive world out there, and sometimes you need two incomes to survive.
As for me, I’m still young, have no kids yet. But if I ever marry, I think I’d want to work part time, and raise the kids at the same time.
Yes. Most people complain about working anyways (outside the home) and maybe the reason for the families being the way they are now is the lack of home baked cookies in everybodies homes!
I thin that the typical women today would nto like to work in the home for they would feel the need to prove thier worth in something that is out of the ordinary. Just taking this from all of those feminist groups around campus saying that a women does not belong in the home and such..
By “typical” you already have an opinion about whether mothers should work at home so you shouldn’t ask us.
Furthermore you should know that public opinion varies and cannot gain any consensus on any one answer. That is the failure in your questioning and that is the reason why, as student of the truth, you should stay away from subjective reasoning.
And why is the student of the truth so concerned about whether a woman works at home? This is about someone’s rights and not about truth. To even ponder at asking is to impose your agenda on your readers, and that’s propaganda.
Really, is there such a thing as a typical woman? I think it is a 50/50 split. I am one of those women that dread having children because it would mean a significant pause in my career. I love being a working girl and work at home one day/week. I do, however, have tremendous respect for stay at home moms. Having watched what my stay at home mom did with her time all day – The poor woman never sat down! I don’t have much respect for those women without children that prefer to stay at home…and spend their husband’s money shopping and redecorating the house for the 10th time.
Having recently returned to full time work outside the home after 10 years of being home, I have seen both sides. First, when the kids are baby’s, they really need their mom. Now, mine are in elementary school (2nd and 4th). So they need me less. I would never have put them in daycare when they were little unless it was absolutely necessary. Being broke all the time was not fun though.
When you are home, you do all the work around the house, but now my family expects me to do everything even though I work. That has been the hardest transition. I get angry with my family when I am still doing chores around the house and everyone else is watching TV or goofing off. So which way do most mom’s want it? Both ways. We want to have the privilege of staying home with the kids, but also be a professionial and go out and be with adults and have responsibilities other than carpool and toilets. In short WE WANT IT ALL!
my cousin’s mum works and my cousin’s retarded, so’s her brother, i think a woman with kids would wanna stay home unless the kids were acidents or the mother wuzz an evil, spiteful person and a woman without kids would wanna go to werk
HHmmm…… I think it all depends on the husband and his income status ANd the woman and her income status along with her career desires. Meaning, if she really takes her career as high priority, she would go back to it as soon as she can. Then there are woman with husbands who get paid reallllllly reallllly well and they dont HAve to work if they dont want to. So, they just work from home, to take up time and do Something