February 23, 2006
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Men
Every once in a while a friend from xanga wants me to throw out a question to everyone so we can discuss the issues that concern each one of us. I had a friend who wanted to know the answer to two pressing questions that has been on the heart of many women before her.
Why are men so stupid? And why don’t they ever call?
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Good one!
second!
good question… if you ever find the answer… please let me know! Oh my goodness… I am like 3rd!
because women want perfection and will reject the man. generally speaking.
specifically, i just met a girl….called her twice…no return call….girls do the same thing
thats a good question…i dont know and now I want to know
they don’t call when they say they will…making them stupid.
Because they’re afraid of rejection, same with us girls. We’re not really all that different when you think about it… actually, I get along better with males than females. : – /
They aren’t all stupid, they’re just not very tactful sometimes….
i wouldnt know. because i am not a man.
yet.
They either don’t call because they’re too busy and forgot or they’re just not interested… truth hurts. – if they REALLY like you, they’ll call, because when they “really” like you they become driven.
screw you dan! you’re letting us men down by posting this subject! we dont ever call because were busy eating chicken wings! there happy
because. that’s the answer.
That’s a real question? I mean, don’t we all know they are genetically made that way: stupid, that is. HAHAHA. I am kidding. KIDDING. Actually, I know just as many stupid women as stupid men. ANd guys don’t call because they are assholes. And some guys call because they are clingy. Isn’t that just the stereotype???!!!!
My guess is that men are so stupid because women don’t give them enough information to go on. They don’t call because they either don’t like the woman or do but are nervous or scared.
HAHAHA! i love how theres 200+ comments on your other posts by this time.
men aren’t stupid! they’re priorities are just different from the smarter sex. <–hee hee hee!
…I don’t think they’re stupid…just different.
I will be patiently awaiting the answer!!
They don’t call because women are too complicated.
Dan. I’m going to change your name to “Hot Button”
Because we just are, and we never feel like it.
they’re just tactless fools.
They find it hard to take hints. I guess it’s just the way they are. Like deviant said they have differnt priorities.
Because they don’t have enough blood to think with both heads at the same time…
hello! whoa u get lotta props
because women are evil and we always nag
Men are stupid because they were created in the image of god.
I kid. I have no idea why men, or women, are stupid.
They don’t call because they’re not interested. If they’re interested they call. ***bowing out before someone screams at me***
Good question.
It’s that Y chromosome. Gets em every time.
men aren’t stupid, they’re just clueless. they don’t call because simply they are interested in other things..
its me. i run out of things to say. i think. but i keep up atleast once a week with a worthwhile post. i try. i try. i try.
Don’t know, and I don’t really care.
****Ding da ding ding, we have a winner, YAY for Marlowho!
That’s exactly why they don’t call, they’re simply not interested!
Men and women make the same stupid mistakes, so it is as simple as this:: We’re all human.
And probably they lost your phone number in a rainstorm or something.
Men are sometimes clueless as to what to do when it comes to women, I guess this is why there are sometimes perceived as stupid.
I was talking to one of my male friends yesterday, and he couldn’t understand why his girlfriend was mad at him. I asked him to tell me the last conversation they had, and in it, he had said he would call her, and he said he didn’t because his phone screwed up.
Oh dear men..
I explained to him that she probably waited all night for his call.
He said, “Why would she do something like that? Is that why she’s mad at me?”
=)
It is quite comical.
[ariana]
I didn’t know we are dumb.
It is a good question.. most of us are scared.. truly. A lot of guys won’t admit it.. but yeah. We’re afraid that we’ll say the wrong thing.. which isn’t very hard to do since women’s standards seem to be set high. Women are the same way.. sometimes.. women are confusing.. and even though comedians don’t think so… so are most guys.. on the inside.
_[xbackside180kickflipx] Has spoken..
A man will call when either of the following conditions are met:
a) the man will “win” something significant by calling
or
b) the man will “loose” something significant by not calling
The stakes aren’t high enough if your man isn’t calling.
I call my girl quite often.
because we don’t know the things women want us to, we could say the same thing about women, but we chose not to, except for me.
Men aren’t stupid per se…just…ignorant as to emotions. And they don’t call because maybe they don’t know they should…but it really sucks for us. Hear hear, ladies.
Eva.
I’m just as un-stupid as the next girl or guy. I think both sexes have tendencies towards different types of stupidity. On the issue of calling, personally I do not call because I hate the telephone. Since I have mostly guy friends it usually falls on me, the instigator, to initiate a call. I very rarely receive any phone calls from anyone. It gets very annoying being the one who always has to call everyone to get together and do stuff. Another reason why I disdain telephones is because they are not comfortable. I usually multi-task while talking on the phone and therefore ‘rest’ the phone between my shoulder and head. This hurts after about five minutes. Also, holding the phone becomes a nuisance after a while. A third reason why I don not like the telephone is that it is not as personal as talking face to face. I would much rather sit down and talk to someone I look at than talk on the telephone. Plus, if I get busy doing something I usually loose track of time and forget to do other tasks such as calling someone. That is why I do not call back. As far as men in general? I really do not know. Everyone is stupid/ignorant in some essence so what is the big deal about that one?
i don’t know what drugs you’re on, they call WAY too often.
because God wasn’t done creating humans yet. that’s why He took so long creating women
i think they don’t call because they don’t want to sound stupid.. but if they’re not calling, we think they’re stupid anyways. so basically, don’t lead a girl on unless you plan on dialing her digits.
Your friend presumes too much if she thinks she knows all men. Perhaps the problem is only with the men she dates and not with all of us.
Men just probably don’t think they need to call. We all work differentely.
And stupid’s just a point of view.
They aren’t being stupid – they just don’t want to make a scene and have to deal with the emotions involved. They are taking the easy way out and avoiding the emotions that will come out if they say they don’t want to see you anymore. Sometimes a man will say, “I’ll call you…” and not mean it. Sometimes he will mean it. You just never know.
It’s in the DNA, I think.
1) Because the Human Male’s two brains are small and feeble
2) They are too preoccupied listening to the two brains
this does not apply to me
I wish I knew.
Hey now, before we male bash here… You’re throwing us all into one lump sum! I call my g/f all the time. Perhaps more than she will ever call me in a lifetime. I don’t understand why most men don’t treat women better, but I’m not one of them so the best I do is lead by example. Now as far as the stupid… I’d like to think there are many stupid women too. But hey, that’s just me.
From what a friend told me, men need to be trained. From personal empathy, I think they fear rejection.
Imagine how embarrassing it would be if you call someone you had unrequited hots for and they say: What the frig, who are you?!
or they are playing games…just like women do
women? do you like a man that calls whenever you want him to?
or do you lust after the guy you can’t have?
that answers this question pretty simply.
women expect to much
Because they’re inconsiderate?
men call when they want to. a lot of times men will say that they will call, but really its just them being polite and never really intend to call. (there was a friend’s episode on this). but then guys are really interested and want to pursue something they always call. – its part of the “he’s just not that into you” deal.
Wait…we’re stupid….>.< When did that happen!
I guess denial is the most predictable response to such a true fact
Hi Dan….
That’s never been a problem for me….they have always called….
But sometimes men are stupid..
Candy XO
Stupidity is relative, and I think that to call all of those who fall under the category of “men” stupid is, itself, a stupid thing. There are quite as many “stupid” women as there are men; you can be absolutely certain of that. The question that she should be asking is:
“Why do many men lack any measure of tact?”
I’ve known many females who were just as unable, unwilling, or who have forgotten to call males as I do male who were unable, unwilling, or who have forgotten to call females. There are two sides to every coin.
A big problem circulating around various groups of teens is created by the idea that people are not individuals, but simply “boys/men,” or “girls/women.” Every person is unique; every person is different. Humans are like snowflakes, in the way that they think, act, and re-act to any given situation, including whether or not to call someone at some point. When someone — anyone — begins to look at their male or female counterparts as nothing more than one, massive blob that we call “Gender,” things typically go downhill from there.
It’s all about personal rapport.
I can’t say why every male who hasn’t called when they said that they would did, or chose to do that. I can, however, say why I have done just so in the past.
I’m not really a “people person.” If you were to meet me, you may think otherwise, but I tend to have two faces. That isn’t to say that I’m exceptionally happy, and exceptionally depressed; my two faces concern only my gregarious nature — which is a farce. When in public places where I must communicate with others, I tend to simply “go for it,” and strike up at least somewhat decent conversation, because it’s a much easier — and, I will admit, enjoyable, when in crowds where it’s unavoidable — than to sit idly by and have Person A ask you “Why aren’t you saying anything?” or “How are you doing,?” “What do you think about the weather?,” or any other inane chitter-chatter-esque prompts.
My preference, however, is to be in the company of a small group of wonderful friends, rather than a large group of friendly people, or even with new folks. This isn’t the best quality, but it’s one that I have, and so those with whom I am involved simply have to understand it: I prefer to be quiet. I say more with my gestures, art, and writing than I do with my mouth, when I am at home; granted, I do speak when I am with a significant other, or someone who may potentially become a “significant other,” — as you can’t hope for a lot if you give a little — but I typically have “my face,” and “my game face,” where personal, public relations are concerned.
I’m going somewhere with this; don’t worry. The aforementioned quality is what tends to lead me to the lack of desire, or complete inability to pick up a phone, and call someone. I prefer face-to-face conversation; it’s my way. The facial gestures — mouth, ears, eyes (especially eyes) — a person makes contributes a lot to the conversation. I’ve only met a few people with whom I have been able to connect, and stay connected to on the phone for a decent amount of time. This isn’t to say that I don’t like anyone else; simply that a verbal spark is either there, or not there; this has no reflection on the amount of love or respect a person — in this case, a female — recieves from me. It is what it is, and that’s that. I still hate speaking with some of my best friends on the telephone, as an example; and yet, I may meet someone for the first time, go home, call them, and gab for hours.
On top of this, I *am* in fact a bit shy. I know, I know; I’m always told by most of my good female friends that “girls want a guy who will take the initiative,” but that doesn’t tend to make much difference to me. If who I am, and how I act does not work for a girl, or woman, then that is that. While I may stretch and bend, I’m not going to change absolutely. If this limits me from ever having a long-lasting relationship, marriage, etcetera then as I see it, it’s for the best. While I enjoy people, if I don’t find what I’m looking for — I’ll know it when I see it, and to explain this would require a foot-long spiel on my spirituality (non-religious virtues), upbringing, outlook on people in general, tolerance, and so forth — then so be it. That’s one part of my life; the lack, while a little more than a bit disheartening, won’t be the end of me, nor do I judge my own worth based upon it.
So there; that’s why I don’t call, and what I think about “calling” in general. I use it when it’s necessary; for fun, or idle chatter, I prefer face-to-face contact.
Stephen
well, I dont think men are stupid. we just dont think the same way women do.
As for not calling…I dont call because I am not interested in the woman who gave me her number. After all just because you are interested in me does not mean the feelings are mutual.
men are stupid because we expect them to think like women. So maybe that makes us women stupid.
If a man doesn’t call you it means he’s just not that into you.
There is something I learned very early on about male/female relationships. Underneath all the drama, the whining, the not calling and the games, men just want to be needed and women just need to be wanted. That’s all. So if you ladies emphasize to your men how much you really NEEDED him to fix your car door and how you couldn’t have done it without him because you NEED him to do those things, he will be happy. And if all you men will emphasize how much you WANT your lady to be around and how much you WANT to do things with her, she will be happy. It’s just about feeling validated.
Oh, they want to keep their options OPEN. So they say they will call just in case they feel like it. Sometimes it does happen.
men are not at all stupid…they just find more things pointless than women….men are simple if anything…they dont like conflict unless they are jealous types or there is a good reason or for sport( well that one is kind of useless anyway)…as for the whole calling situation…thats half and half and the reason it seems like its not is because women make a big deal out of them not being called back…it is a selfestem issue…they feel offended or that they are not good enough when a man doesnt call them back…where as a man once again is simple because they either one dont care, teo they wasnt intersted in the first place ( goes for woman as well) or 3 they hide their feelings and the fact they have been hurt by a chick not calling them back…their pride gets in the way…or what you would say manhood….so they just keep it to themselves so they dont look bad in front of their buddies…so dont take so much offense girls as a girl maybe we should take some sdvice from men and the way they are…i mean men find us annoying and we wonder why? if anything i find women a litle more ditzy than men…not stupid at all just ditzy….
Huh? Call who? I don’t get it.
Dateline did a study on men’s stupidity. One of the things they found out is that men tend to be stupid around attractive women.
Wow, not sure that really deserves a response!
Men ask the same things at times.
Men aren’t stupid, we just think differently. And I personally don’t call because I like face-to-face interaction.
Men don’t overanalyze, stress out, and pick apart things like women do.
Example: Girl and boy go out. The next day:
Her: Why hasn’t he called yet? Maybe he didn’t have a good time. Maybe I said something wrong. What could I have done wrong? Why hasn’t he called yet?
Him: Zzzzzzzzzzz
Her: Maybe I should call him. Not that would seem too desperate. I’ll wait for him to call. But what if he doesn’t?
Him: Hmmm turkey or bologna?
Her: Maybe it was my outfit. Was I overdressed? Maybe I was underdressed. I should have worn the other shoes.
Him: Yes! High score!
Her: It looks like I blew another one. I really thought he was the one, I thought we connected. Maybe I should call him.
Him: Mom, if I bring my laundry over will you do it for me?
Her: Maybe I should just give up on men all together
Him: Hmmm, maybe I should give her a call.
Wow, this is my favorite so far. I don’t understand why guys don’t call, but please CALL! ha ha.
BECAUSE THEY ARE MEN
I agree with kboy25
Well, I think men such as myself act stupid because we’re insecure about our intelligence. Being smart is not synonymous with being manly.
As for calling, I don’t like talking on the phone. Never have. There’s just something about it…I like talking online, but not the phone. Go figure. It’s a guy thing.
because are breasts are not large enough?
its hard to call you when we are having sex with another woman….
i have two better questions:
why are women stupid? and why don’t they ever call?
haha..women are guilty of that too, but we just complain more
and men can use the excuse “im a guy, i don’t know better”
I was quite suprised that I didn’t find as many anti-male comments as I thought I would. But maybe because Dan is male.
There are many comments above that I do agree with…
I agree men are not stupid for the most part, but it’s just that they don’t think the same way that women do. And why don’t they ever call…..well b/c then they would have to TALK to us and alot of times I think it’s hard for men to come up with something to talk about…..their minds are very simple in that way. lol
for me, and i know this is true for a lot of guys i know, we just don’t like to talk on the phone. i hate my cell phone. i’d much rather talk to a person face-to-face. and women are just as stupid. sometimes even worse because they keep calling and wondering, “why doesn’t he pick up his phone?!”
To answer the 2nd question, that’s not just men. Women don’t call back either. I don’t call back people I’m not interested in..that’s not to be mean, it’s just not to get someone’s hopes up and pretend you’re interested when you’re really not. I think that it is worse to lead someone on just to spare their feelings when that will only make it worse in the end.
As to the 1st question…that’s just a question of genetics. =P
<3 Catrina
i think they don’t call b/c they don’t know when the girl is busy, or when she’ll be home….my boyfriend calls a lot…we also talk online and in person a lot. we even do homework together
Kelly
Why are men so stupid?
Humans are stupid in general.
And why don’t they ever call?
Because women are stupid, too.
because they just are NOT THAT INTO YOU. not interested. simple. just like girls wouldn’ call back if they aren’t.
Men do not call because we are too stupid to operate the phone.
Why are women so hypocritical?
and yeah: why don’t we women call? because we can also be stupid.
We’re not stupid! And we would call if you showed us how to use a phone!
A woman gets hit by a car. Whose fault is it?
Her fault; what was she doing outside the kitchen?
Better questions:
Why are women so over-dramatic? Why are they so picky?
But, not all men are, blah blah blah.
Alot of guys nowadays are momma boys, so therefore she did not tell or teach him how to treat a lady.
I wouldn’t call personally because I would feel insecure. Men don’t give information to go on because that makes them vulnerable, same with women. We’re all just intimacy phobic. Geez.
Men are not stupid. In general men will only do what they want to. If he did not call he doesn’t like you. And if you have been on the phone for a long time with a guy and you (girl) think that he really digs you because he spent so long on the phone. When he hung up, he thought “now I can get back to something important”.
This question cracks me up!
Men aren’t stupid…they’re just, well um, they are, errm, uh, well I guess I would say that they were made different for a reason! 
Haha…gotta teach ‘em, that’s what I’ve learned.
We’re shy. Because we’re stupid. Just because we are. XD
The answer is simple…
They are not as stupid as they try to make us think they are.
and
When it is the right guy for you….he will call.
Haha, I like “southerbybirth”‘s answer, and there’s a good bit of truth to it. LOL
*scans all comments for the much desired answer*
because they dont know how much it means to us.
Because we are full of sperm, and we are forgetful.
I agree with the whole “He’s just not that into you” argument. Something else to think about…I went out with a girl one time and I genuinely had a good time with her…I told her that I would call her the next day and then I did and she kinda blew me off. We can’t call girls too quickly, because it makes us seem desperate. Girls don’t want desperate guys.
That being said, Guys aren’t stupid – we’re just simple…what you see is what you get. We’re never thinking about anything when we’re watching something on TV or driving. The only things that we’re thinking about are those things right in front of us at the time. This aspect of the male character dates back to the prehistoric times when we were the hunters and women were the gatherers (how else do you explain the need for shopping ladies?). If we were thinking about what kind of sauce goes with Sabertooth Tiger, we’d either miss out on the chance to kill the animal or we’d be eaten ourselves. We’re simple. We very rarely use subtext when we speak. We’re men…we say what we mean and mean what we say. That’s what we do. I think that this is why there is conflict between the sexes because women are so complex and men a so simple.
because, men dont use their brains, they think with their, um…u kno…down there region
at least some due, i like to think i dont…but well, im not perfect
maybe they’re playing “hard to get”?
i saw this on sex and the city once; when carrie was dating burger, and her, burger, mirande and charlotte were all at dinner. and they were trying to figure out why miranda’s date didn’t come up to her apt after their date. and burger flat out said “he’s just not that into you”
same deal. i’m not a guy, but it just seems logical.
Uhh my boyfriend calls me. When he says he’s going to, he does, and sometimes he surprises me. Haha so does that make him not stupid?
Why are men so stupid? Very, very good question. The answer is probably some where in the same answer as “Why are women so stupid?” Only one really knows the truth and he’s telling no one.
Why don’t they ever call? My guess is that this has something to do with them being stupid. But I could be wrong.
Hi. I’m Sarah and my boyfriend hates the phone.
They don’t call because they don’t want to talk on the phone. They want face-to-face communication, especially if you’re only a few minutes away.
Well, this is my boyfriend’s theory anyway. It can be extremely infuriating, but I’ve come to terms with it. Just because he doesn’t call me all the time doesn’t mean he feels any less for me. It’s almost the opposite. He once told me, “I’d rather see your beautiful face and listen to your beautiful voice in person, rather than sit on the phone wishing I had it sitting in front of me.”
haha… in response to southernbybirth, men can’t blush and maintain an erection… so yeah, the REALLY CAN’T HANDLE THINKING WITH BOTH HEADS
…but I think guys don’t call (or at least when we gals think they should) is cause they have smaller brains, pity the poor kids, not only do they have one less rib they also ended up with the smaller brains than women.
this just make giggle
Women are the better half of the species… (this is coming from a man by the way)… on the whole not calling thing… either were inconsiderate dumbasses, cowards, or there isn’t anything major between the man or woman that warrants a phone call…
Men aren’t stupid, we’re oblivious. Women, sicent her dawn of time, have been dropping clues. We just never pick up on them. Women get pissed because we never notice. Well, they have every right to be pissed, but then again, they insist on dropping em anyway.
Maybe we are just dumb anyway….
~Stix
no idea.
Men are stupid because they don’t think with their heads, if you know what I mean. And they don’t call because they’re lazy, hahaha.
Well obviously I can’t answer this question because well I’m not a man..lol…but eigther the guy does’nt call or helse he calls way too much and that gets annoying so that causes the girl to reject him…and men are afraid of rejection just like girls. they are not stupid I hate when girls say that! Ahhh maybe it’s the girl that is stupid not the man…women seem to blame things on others a lot..that’s why I don’t have many friends that are girls their so catty!lol.no offense to anybody that takes this offensively. I’m not saying all girls are stupid because then I’d be saying I’m stupid but we’re equally as “stupid” as men are…nobody is perfect.lol.
They’re not…they just don’t think the same as us…
RYC: Yea…I know…God has just really been doing some incredible things in my life lately…This last month or so, God has really been working on my heart and showing me where He wants me to be. I’m back in teens again and loving it. But it’s not just that. God has broken my heart for the ones who don’t feel like they fit in…the ones with the crazy piercings, the black clothing, the different colored hair. He has called me to focus on them and show them His love. Show them that they are not alone… Xanga just became one of those things that I felt like I needed to cut out of my life so that I could focus more. I also will be writing devos and such for the teens website at our church so doing anything on xanga was already going to be taking a backseat. And when I didn’t have anymore to say and I looked back through some of my old posts and just felt like “eh” then I knew it was really time. It’s a good thing…I’m very excited and at peace in knowing where God is taking me. I know my heart will be broken many times over but it’ll be the seeds that I’ll be planting that someday I’ll be able to rejoice over. I’m going to miss you guys…all of you. Thank you for being such a good friend! We can still email… But if we don’t get a chance to speak again here, we’ll have a very long time to get caught up when we get to heaven!!!! Be blessed friend!
I agree, men aren’t necessarily “stupid” but they work differently than women. A man can leave a date and go home and eat cold pizza and watch SpikeTV. A woman goes home and thinks about the date, individually assessing each and every moments. Men just think differently than women do… =)
Their brains are wired differently and they don’t have access to all areas!
OK, way to go Eva on the emotions thing. It really does make us look dumb when we have no idea why a woman is crying for instance. And props to tragicbeauty for at least nailing down why I wouldn’t call – fear of rejection. Those may not apply to all males but I think they do to a large extent!
tim
OKAY, WELL, I CANT answer the first question, because i have no idea. but the second one is that were either too nervous, or it was just a one night thing
Women and Men never understand each other,
so they both think their opposite sex is stupid just because they don’t understand.
On this one, I have no clue. Maybe the men can give us some answers.
Men are not stupid. They don’t think like women. If a guy doesn’t call you, he probably isn’t all that in to you or he doesn’t feel like talking that day.
Erika
Why do women turn into whores after they break my heart? Why am I so trusting and caring only to get used repeatedly? Why do women always nag even when I do everything they want? Why do they get what they want from me and then screw around with my “friend”? Why in the hell do they expect me to solve their problems and be there for them and then stab me in the back only to tell me they miss me and soon after getting drunk and making more mistakes. WHY?!?!!?
Men are jerks because women suck.
Oh and we don’t call because we don’t feel like talking at the time. If we want to talk, we will.
cause everybody can’t be smart! ha ha
no not really.
that is not fair … there are stupid people but not just stupid men.
sounds like some one is mad at an individual and is taking it out on men period.
when he doesn’t call that means he is not interested.
Because they know that if they do the woman won’t answer anyway because they are already pissed off over something stupid.
Why waste the time?
Its an optical illusion! Men just appear stupid in comparison! Or is it like that warning on rear-view mirrors? “Warning! Objects are more stupid that they appear!”
Why don’t men call? It must be because they are stupid – or looking at themselves in the rear-view mirror?
I dunno!
And I like h__dizzle’s comment. I’ll substitute it for my own.
We are not stupid… We just don’t understand women; and women just don’t understand us. That doesn’t make us stupid.
I can’t answer the latter question for everyone else, but the reason that I don’t call is because you don’t act like you want me to call.
Whenever I do call it’s like you’re always ready to get off the phone with me; or you don’t answer your phone and then you NEVER call me back!!
I’m tired of doing that, so that’s why I don’t call.
Meh.
Nicholas
I wanna be your friend because you seem cool.
who knows…why do women care so much?? how bout that question
Ok…I was nice on the first post, but the male bashing has continued, I am going to do something that no one has yet to do on this topic…I’m going to tell you the whole truth…I’m not going to dance around what most men really are thinking on this topic…so here it is in all of it’s non-sugar-coated glory! This question is obviously for all the bitter, jilted women out there. Waaaahh things didn’t go your way ladies! Boo-friggin-hoo! And it’s easy to say, “It’s the man’s fault!” or “Men are so stupid!” or even “He’s can’t think with both heads at the same time.” (thanks Jenn for that one!) Because it couldn’t POSSIBLY be your fault that he’s not calling. His judgement must be impaired, something has to be wrong with him. It couldn’t be the fact that you’re a neurotic, high maintenance bimbo could it? There are 3 reasons guys won’t call after a date:
1. You came off as neurotic, high maintenance, or batshit crazy. Let me let you in on a little secret, the longer your drink/dinner order, the more high maintenance you are. And let’s face it there is not a man on the face of this planet that wants a high maintenance woman. If you ever see a man that looks like an old dog that looks at you with that “Please kill me now” look in their eyes, odds are they have a high maintenance woman. If they’re hot, then they’re tolerated until they’re not hot anymore, then it’s to the curb with them! You future “crazy old cat ladies” couldn’t be high maintenance could you…good neither are your cats. To the crazy ones…take your friggin medicine and even out before hitting the dating pool. Better yet, you girls (even though you want to) shouldn’t procreate…that’s just what we need another generation of needy, crazy, bitchy women! So please do us all a favor!!!
2. He’s not into you. Maybe if there were something that held my attention besides your sweater bunnies, I would call you the next day. Just because you aren’t interesting, it doesn’t mean that guys won’t sleep with you. The problem is guys don’t want a slut that goes all the way the first night!
3. We’re busy. I’m sorry to say it ladies, but if we did have a good time and haven’t called you in a little bit, odds are we’re doing stuff. And we don’t spend all day thinking about calling you. Sorry!
I also don’t see how we’re stupid when all we hear about is how women who like the bad boys go out with them and try to change them. Then complain that they were hurt! There are always going to be bad guys out there and bad girls. Here’s an idea, have some self respect and don’t let a guy walk all over you like that! For those of you that think that I’m just an angry guy venting. Well you’re wrong. I’ve been very fortunate and found my soulmate and she’s perfect. She’s beautiful, considerate, easy going, fun and has a great sense of humor…the list goes on and on. So the reason that I tell you all of this, is to let you know that girls are just as much to blame as guys in this matter.
Simple: Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.
Men are stupid because they’re not wired like women. And men don’t call because- well I have no idea!!
i don’t mind.
i don’t call them, either.
i dont think men are stupid.. they just dont want to be pushed around.. they want to do things their own way..
men don’t call because they are afraid of rejection,or they are making assumptions about how you think/feel without asking, or they are just not that into you and too afraid to be direct about it.
they are stupid because they are human.
pssh… i just learned that apparently ”i had a great time tonight” means call me for next time…
i just finished having this conversation like an hour ago… geez… i guess i am still a work-in-progress…
They aren’t stupid, but they are frequently thoughtless.
(((((( GRANDMA HUGS ))))))
Lori
I’m going to answer the second question first…. they might not call because the friend they are helping out didn’t want them to lose your number and roommate puts it under the phone base so said guy wouldn’t lose it then roommate forgets where he put it. And I don’t really have an answer for the first question
Men aren’t the only stupid ones. People are stupid. Most women are walking buckets of need. Lots of men feel put up on to reinforce the modern woman’s syndrome: narcissism.
I call my girlfriend all the time, its HER that never calls me.
Whoever wanted this question..yeah..you my friend..
PWN!!!!!!!!!
-Jason-
Men aren’t stupid at all, they are focused, attentive to what they are passionate about, and not easily dragged down by menial details. Now, in a woman’s language, this interprets that they are one track minded, unable to multitask, have their priorities wrong, and insensitive. It’s all about perspective. I really wish that just one day out of the month we could both think exactly the same way. sigh.
Because men suck; and because they often don’t know a good thing when it is looking them in the eye. Also, men suck
I am now going to reveal to you what women want, have always wanted and will always be looking for in any man with whom they become intimate. It is a “Trump” attribute, which means that its presence is a more powerful influence than others and can tip the scales of emotional acceptance in your favor immediately.
Be advised that I will be dealing with a monumental but accurate generalization which is not meant to apply to every female who ever lived. I bow to the variability within and between the sexes. Nonetheless, you will see that my assertion has the undeniable thud of the obvious.
If you feel the cold chill of disbelief or the fever of indignation rising in you at these words, please consult with Woody Allen, a cunning expert at attracting beautiful talented women on the sheer force of this “Trump” attribute which draws women like… migrating butterflies.
What women want from men is confidence. The Trump is Personal Confidence.
Confidence… not arrogance, not dominance, not one-upsmanship, not useless bravado, not macho heroics. Women just love truly confident men.
Now as you know, confidence is an attitude thing. In particular, male confidence frequently manifests as an “I-can-handle-it attitude”. This does not mean that feelings are denied. It doesn’t imply an absence of doubt, fear, or vulnerability. A delusion of total self sufficiency is not required.
Confidence simply says: “I can deal with it… somehow… well at least I’ll do my best”. The attitude of confidence doesn’t even have to be constant, just generally present in the face of most life challenges.
For hundreds of thousands of years of human development, a confident attitude was much easier for men to gain and display than it is now because it was required for survival. There was hardly any choice. Until recently, the demands of physical survival were the primary issue in pair-bonding and confidence-building roles for both sexes directly related to survival were far more apparent. I am not talking about survival in extraordinary circumstances, either. It could be as basic as steadfastness in getting the crops in out of the rain.
In the smaller communities in which we used to live, everyone could see the skilled hunter, the dedicated farmer and stockman, the courageous protector, the skilled artisan, the accomplished leader, the sage teacher, the men who didn’t give up in the face of threatening set-backs.
Why hell! There have been times and cultures where a women wouldn’t even consider a man who couldn’t claim to be a good carpenter or a competent dirt mover. These roles, decreed by harsher realities of life than most of us now experience, were obvious advertisements for male virtue, i.e., “I can handle it”.
Unfortunately, the signs indicative of genuine masculine confidence are confusing today and gender roles are a chaotic mess. The external demonstrations of natural confidence have become confused with the poor substitute of consumer status symbols. But… women instinctually look for clues to a man’s level of confidence… and test it to the limit… but not in the old-fashioned way.
Now for the good news! Since confidence is primarily an attitude toward meeting life challenges of all kinds – and there’s no shortage of challenges in the world – the essential attitude can still be cultivated and demonstrated. But it cannot be faked with money, looks, or possessions.
Willingness to face important struggles is still the ultimate key to a woman’s respect. In contemporary times, a man may express this dynamic in many conventional ways. He can show his confidence integrity through competence in his work, education, sports, hobbies, child rearing, or doing home improvements. Actually, we can include here any thing which involves mastering a new learning curve and overcoming ego uncertainties.
Now, if a man really wants to do some crash confidence building these days, he can try still the old-fashioned approach – and many do so.
He can expose himself to more risks and bigger risks: jump out of a few airplanes, compete at martial arts, skiboard off of snowy mountains, lift weights, climb sheer cliffs with only the strength of his fingertips for security, take on dangerous political controversies, start an unusual new business with more enthusiasm than capital, confront and influence provocative teenagers, or spend days in the wilderness with only his tom-tom for company.
But we all know perfectly well that these are methods not character outcomes. It is not the specific activity that matters, what matters is what goes on in the man’s head that makes him feel some sense of Mastery.
Or… a man can cut to the bottom line, avoid physically and financially dangerous experiences, and go for The Really Big Risk… the ultimate emotional challenge. He can work directly at becoming more confident with women themselves. That’s riskier than cliff climbing, anyway!
Although a woman likes to believe a man is willing to deal with a lot of things, what really counts is that he is able to deal with her. A healthy, mature woman resists impassioned commitment to a man who is afraid of her sexuality, her intelligence, or her emotions.
This means gaining confidence and empathy (unavoidably stuck together) in approaching and relating to women on many levels, in the face of rejections real or imagined. And since this is the riskiest venture of all, the pay-off is, appropriately, the biggest: the devotion of a loving woman who can make your life extremely pleasant on a daily basis. Confidence with women in general – beautiful, plain, smart, nice, mean, old, young – every kind of woman – is an unavoidable social skill which can and must be learned if what you want is the greatest intimate relationship of your life.
MEN, on the other hand, want good home cooking, intimacy, and relaxation time.
This is the reason women think men are stupid. Women want a real person, and men want a Mannequin that can cook and has orifices.
Women have excessively high expectations. Sometimes, they’ll do things that make absolutely no sense at all, and expect the men (and girls who think logically) to follow along with no questions.
I don’t think men are stupid. I’ve never experienced a guy not calling. I have experienced the lets not appear to anxious/excited – wait to call her – but don’t wait longer than two days. I would do the same in return – it builds the intensity. I wouldn’t give my number to just anyone or just because they asked for it anyway. Usually you know if your interested in them and if they are in you.
Men arent really stupid…they just like for women to think they are so they wont have to be committed in a relationship.
Men dont call because they dont want sex…thats all there is to it.
I don’t think guys are stupid, per se…we all make bad choices, and some more so than others. However, it is my belief–through watching some of my male friends…they are more likely to make rash decisions, therefore making a lot of them seem to be the ‘dumber’ sex. Which is ridiculous. There are guys out there who are intelligent and kind, and don’t make decisions that will hurt them in the long run. It’s the ones that aren’t what I above stated that make the rest of them look bad.
As for guys not calling…I have no freaking clue why they do that…it just seems to be a thing most of them have in common. Even my closest guy friends don’t call me back when they say they’re going to. Of course…I don’t always call back either, and I’m a girl. It’s just one of those things…???
Q1: Why are men so stupid?
A1: It depends on which man you are talking about. Men aren’t ALL stupid; nor are they ALL the same. Perhaps a better question would be, “Why doesn’t that particular man know what I want him to know?” The answer to this is often (but not always) very simple: it’s because you failed to tell him what you wanted him to know.
Dropping hints is NOT ‘telling him’. Complaining to your friends is NOT ‘telling him’. Complaining to ME is NOT ‘telling him’. If you want him to know something, you need to tell HIM. Now, if you HAVE told him what you want him to know, and he still shows no sign of knowing it, then he probably just doesn’t care. There are (at least) two reasons for a man not caring: he’s either clueless or a jerk. Dump the jerk.
Another way to answer the question is simply to see men as being different from women. We view things differently. We have different priorties and concerns. And, frankly, men think women are stupid, too.
Q2: Why don’t they ever call?
A2: There are many possible reasons why a man doesn’t call. Here are thirteen such reasons (in no particular order.) Perhaps your man isn’t calling because:
(a.) He doesn’t feel the need to communicate as often as you do. If you really need to talk, call your girlfriends. (b.) He’s really, really shy. (c.) He doesn’t know he’s supposed to call. (d.) He hates talking on the phone. Talking on the phone does not provide the information he needs in order to understand you. Hearing the affection/disdain in your voice isn’t enough; he needs to see it on your face and in your actions as well. (e.) He needs a reason to call. Most guys do not call each other just to chat. They call each other to make arrangements; if all the arrangements are made, there’s no need to call. (f.) He’s afraid of being misunderstood. As mentioned before, talking on the phone is a limiting communication experience; these limitations increase the possibility of mis-communication [whether accidental or purposeful.] (g.) He’s nervous. Calling means risking rejection. Everyone hates rejection. (h.) He doesn’t know you like him. Giving him your number is not enough. Saying “call me” is not enough — lots of women give out fake numbers or callously reject a guy when he DOES call. Dropping hints is NOT enough. If you must rely on dropping hints, then drop these hints when there is more than one guy around. Perhaps, collectively, they can ‘get it’. (i.) He doesn’t like you. Is he really supposed to call and tell you that? (j.) He just got busy. Responsible adults do that sometimes. (k.) He’s a jerk. Dump him. ( l.) You’re a jerk. Grow up. (m.) I have no idea why that guy isn’t calling you. That’s something you need to ask HIM. So call him and ask.
Does it really have to be the guy who calls? When you were making up that list of “MUST HAVE” criteria for your future spouse, was “he called” on the list?
Men aren’t stupid, women just have expectations that men should call–men don’t feel like they need to. Difference between the sexes and expectations.
Oh thats easy!
Males are driven by one factor, They want to pass their genes on to as many fertile females as possible, excersizing zero discretion in who the dump their genes in. This underlying motivation to all behaviors is what shapes how men behave.
Women on the other hand want to choose a mate who will guarrantee the success of their offspring. In the bottom of the female mind is a monkey who… chooses.
Men, everything. Women, something.
Those two simple observations can make a lot of sense in the crazy battle of the sexes!
Testosterone.
I gave my number to a woman, and she didn’t call. I think she was too shy, just as I was too shy to ask for HER number so I could be the one to call her. The reason I didn’t ask for her number is because I thought she, being a waitress, would think I was just another perve asking her for her number. But fair’s fair, I confused her I guess, as it was me who said “I want Danish lessons”. She said “we’ll have lunch and speak Danish together, I have no-one to speak Danish to here”. So… it would seem to her that all I was interested in wasd the lessons, and not her, so I can see why she’d feel silly for calling.
I think men and women both in the same position do the same thing. When they’re on the spot, they say casually “I’ll call” because they feel awkward and mean saying “I don’t want to see you again”. I’m very honest, and where does that get me… ? haha Honesty is nice if one can master it, but we usually make things worse when we try to do the right thing. Men and women are the same, I believe, just with different approaches to accidentally messing each other up.hehe
No, the women that complain that men are stupid, pick stupid men. And us guys know it. How many times have you heard a guy say, “Why do all the girls go for the idiots?” Hey girls, how about picking someone who actually has brains and cares about you, then guess what, he’s going to call. I called my girlfriend before we started dating many times, and was quite bad at it. But hey, I called. That’s because I have brains and I like her. So stop complaining about guys being stupid and not calling, because you’re just picking 100% of the 10% of stupid guys out there who never call.
~Most men, I believe don’t know how to understand and deal with their emotions. So, they in turn…. clam up…. become silent….. out of fear and misunderstanding. Damn it to their mommas for not nuturing the emotional side of them as well. ~HaHa~ But yes, there is some men who are in touch with their feelings and emotions… ~ and no it doesn’t make them any less of a man~ but they are the ones who call, who reach back when a woman is reaching for them.To the Men~ most women love and adore these simple little things!!
It’s really not that hard!
“Why are men so stupid? And why don’t they ever call?”
Hm… perhaps it has to do with the society we are part of in this 21st century. Women don’t like being looked down upon by men and don’t like being referred to and treated in any way as the “weaker being”. We’ve shunned the courteous acts and polite gestures that men give us. I”m not saying that we all do… but think how do you think that makes the guy feel. You go out for dinner and you refuse to let him pay for your meal. He opens the door for you and (I have heard stories about this from my own guy friends) and we disregard them… usually with our nose up in the air. It’s no wonder that they’ve given up and have decided to simply “let us call”. I hope and pray that I will be able to treat my husband with love and show him that I appreciate his thoughtful acts. Men are not disrespeting us when they open a door for us… we are the ones disrespecting them when we refuse or ignore their efforts in being “gentlemen”.
what i”m saying is we’ve degraded the guy to being a “guy” and that’s it! We’ve stripped them of everything else accept the role of the father to a child (but who knows how long that will last). Women are striving to be better than men. I’m trying real hard not to be severe on my own sex but girls! women! listen! If they don’t call you it’s probably becasue they are shy… they are insecure in a world where women are striving (and gaining) to be better, stronger, more powerful. lol.. I have no problem with women who want to be something in this world. I have no problem with a woman who wants to be a doctor, finacial advisor,… or anyting else. But please! Let’s not take away the “gentleman” in a man. Heck! I don’t know about you, but I LOVE IT! when a guy opens the door for me…
okay…. and I guess I should add that not all women are like that….
YOU ARE EVIL!!!
In my opinion you are asking the wrong question. What I’d really really like to see, but I ain’t holding my breath, is for more women to feel comfortable to pick up the phone, or send a straight up email, or buy that drink, instead of waiting for the guy to make a move. There’s lots of us that don’t bite. I’ve been thinking all this for longer than most people here have been alive.
Having said that, I can think of someone I haven’t called on the phone. I hope she doesn’t read to much into it. It’s all about timing, the time isn’t right, which is not to say it never will be. But she can still buz me.
Anyways, the sun is shining, tonight is Friday night, and I am about to take advantage, and that’s a good thing. cheers. cu later.
If I were a man I’d be stupid because not only is it socially acceptable, it’s pretty much embraced and encouraged. If you watched Spike TV ”network for men” all day and everytime you thought of something profound you were distracted by jubbling boobs, you’d be pretty stupid too.
And I wouldn’t call because I would create a reason why you really jsut weren’t as good as I thought you were, or I was jsut trying to see how many numbers I could get, or I already have a girlfriend (yikes!), or my ex called and wanted to have make-up sex…etc.
So if he doesn’t call, count it as a blessing because you might have been hitting on a taken man with a psycho girlfriend O_o
MEN AREN’T “STUPID”…THEY ARE JUST PLAYING THE GAME. THEY DON’T CALL BECAUSE THEY WANT WOMEN TO “CHASE” THEM, THUS GIVING THEIR EGO A BIT OF A BOOST! MEN NEED THE INFLATION OF EGO TO HELP THEM FEEL IN CONTROL OF THE SITUATION. JUST AN OBSERVATION OF THE MEN THAT I HAVE COME ACROSS…THIS BY NO MEANS STRETCHES TO ALL MEN!
simple, men & women are diffrent, men are not stupid, just think in a whole diffrent way! And as for the calling, I would guess, he didnt have the balls to say I’m not intrested.Its easier to say ‘I’ll call you” than to tell someone your not intrested.
When you find out, let me know!
men never call because women have stolen their thunder and therefore made them lazy. The man is the one who is suposed to do the persuing, and in a world where women are so “equal”, and do as much of the persuing as the men, why should a man call at all? Ladies, the bottom line is that if you want to be feminine, STOP BEING MASCULINE!!!!!
and we aren’t stupid!
when we call girl dont give a shit about us anymore or we always have to start the conversation! and when we dont call they bitch…but u know there thinking about us…lol….so it better that we dont call..
Hiya Dan, men aren’t stupid (yes I am a woman), they just know what they want and if their not calling, then it’s obvious, he doesn’t want you. So, if they say they will call and they don’t, you might want to look elsewhere for a guy because he’s just not that into you.
Donna
That’s so true. Men never get anything right!
Well…my bf says he never calls because he hates the phone and the fact that he lost my number..but as for other guys I have no clue…
Why are men so stupid?
The same question can be asked about women. After all, we’re not the ones who go for the members of the opposite sex that has “I’m going to beat you, cheat on you, rape you and end up in prison within the next 5 months” written all over them.
Why don’t they ever call?
Because you don’t go for the men who do call.
thats a difficult question you cant actualy ask that question and get a real response because most guys will try to cover and saay that thats all just a dumb sterotype and offensive (which in my opinon it is)but if you ask a women they’ll agree with it and start making things up or just using past sour expieriences to make it seem that way
Because they have short attention spans! lol no im not hating on guys…you have a real smarty site….im kinda…slow soo…yeah. But nice site!
yes, good question…… u men!!! *shakes head*
Women think they are smarter because they say they use 10 percent more of their brains.
Well they also bleed alot more too, should we give them props for that?
Women arn’t smarter then men.
Men arn’t smarter then women.
-Soldier
lol good question
Men are sttooppid!! Why don’t men ever call back? They say they will and then they don’t. Dan, why don’t men ever call back??
Well I happen to be the total opposite, and so is she. I have to wonder sometimes if it always just a game to see who cares more about the other person
wat up
men aren’t stupid. just human. like we all are. and they don’t call because they don’t want to. i would rather a guy not call cause he doesn’t want to then if he called when he doesn’t want to.
but women AND men have problems being women and men of their words. we should both do what we say. we both mess up in that area.
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Grrrr dan!!! We are not stupid.
there are dumb men and dumb women: the not calling thing may be the guy was trying to be nice and polite but he wasnt interested, so he avoided her… who knows …who cares…
Becasue they don’t know how to handle commitment!
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hello i am aquarius_so_fresh and i am coming to say hello
For the most part, men are stupid. We’re seen as stupid because the majority of our male brethren have killed chivalry. I’ve recently heard female acquaitances saying the whole “knight in shining armour thing is total crap.” This upset me greatly because, yes, although for the most part men have totally forgotten what it means to be a man, a few of us actually are pretty decent guys, and would like nothing more than to be a woman’s knight in shining armour. So guys, in the future, open doors for women. Treat them like they are your queen. Place them on a pedestal. After all, they’re the ones who have the children.
And the calling thing is weird. No theories on that one, really.
Peace
–AndyStowchansky
And I’m feelin’ snav_chic.
Solid.
because that man probably just isn’t that into you! ( not to sound mean, but read that book its great!)
Men are just scared…? Shurgs*
Oh God .. you are so correct .. and why don’t they ever call ????????
Men being stupid ??????????? Oh my ………
If men are so stupid why would you want them to call?
I think that sometimes men say they’ll call, they don’t really mean it. It’s just a thing to say… Kinda like ‘see u later’ or ‘let’s catch up sometime’.
Men will say they will call, so the women won’t call them instead. Men just don’t want to talk more than they have to.
Why are they stupid? They aren’t. Women just say that to have a reason to hate them when they don’t call.
that’s what I’d like to know..haha
I think the only time they call is when they want something..
They never call to ask “How are you?”
men are stupid because their brains’ are only programmed for one thing. They dont call unless your phone number happens spell out SEX-6969
because that’s just how they are. men will just NEVER have their maturity at par with women and that’s alright. besides, if they DID-women would think they were homosexual. and they never call because i don’t think we women do a good job at stressing the importance of just one phone call.
those questions would be like me asking “why do women fabricate information and exaggerate so much?”