March 23, 2006
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Xanga Etiquette
I was in the bookstore tonight. I went to look to get a book about blogging. I saw a book called “Blogging for Dummies.” I looked through the book but it was all over my head. I really couldn’t see how anything in the book would be helpful. I was looking for something on how to increase traffic to your site. This book on blogging was a few hundred pages and there was one page that I thought was related to increasing traffic on your site. I don’t know why they would put something helpful in their book.
There was a section that was dedicated to the “rules of blogging.” They gave helpful hints about some informal rules that a person should understand about blogging. They mentioned that you should link a site if you are going to borrow for the ideas of that site. I think that every group has sort of these informal rules that guide the group.
Someone asked me if it was proper etiquette to nudge a person if they nudged you first. I told the person that I thought that was proper etiquette.
I want us to discuss proper etiquette on xanga. I want you to think as if you were talking to a person that was starting on xanga for the first time. You were telling them the things that were acceptable or not acceptable on xanga.
What would you tell a friend is proper xanga etiquette? (Extra points will be given for creativity).
Comments (167)
1st
second
dang
I don’t know. Nudge a person if you want to show them your loving for their posts and writing, otherwise, just say thanks for it.
no spamming. update every day. comment people when they comment you.
no friggin music on your site
fifth
free corn nuts for every 17th visitor.
No porn, be interesting, don’t give out enough info for stalkers to find you, no vulgarity.
That and a hot tub for the 10,000 visitor. Gives people incentive.
Comment people back if they comment on your site.
Amanda
7th!!! i’m in the top 10!!!!!!!!! hm… confettit and a free pet giraffe.
*confetti
Online etiquette.
Wow… what have we come to?
Do I get my extra points?
no flaming or being rude. nundge and bump people to be nice.
- Don’t type in all caps.
- Don’t a make a comment only to comment on what number your comment is..
Okay I still don’t know what the nudge thing is. I’ve nudged a few people to find out and no one says anything about it. I haven’t been nudged yet, so I still can’t figure out what it is. Help anyone?!
Not stealing identities is probably up there.
no music, no spam, no offensive language (though I do break that every couple of months). If you comment on other sites, you should have a way (comments, email, or something) for the person to comment back on your site. Be respectful.
i don’t know. the only thing i can think of that’s a real no-no is stealing people’s pics or plagerism (probably from my journalism training in college). other than that, there are no rules. i don’t care about trackers or about returning a comment. i’m not sure how i feel about nudging cause i have no idea what that is yet.
OMG u noob, you dont l33t? Idk!!!
Honestly, I don’t know. Leave me alone. Im pretty blunt
Spell Check. Use it.
Grrr, once again I missread it.
Id tell them to do what everyone else does.
Not yelling 1st! Maybe using correct grammer and spelling?
Oh and about the etiquette…if you stop by a site and read something you disagree with. You can state an opinion, but remember it’s THEIR blog not yours so don’t completely trash the person. That’s just RUDE!!!!!!!!!! I’m not going to stop by your site and tell you what you should and shouldn’t write about or how to act or not act in life. Treat others how you wish to be treated, just like in your everyday life!
i dont even understand the function of the nudge? whats it for anyhow?
Dan,
Why would you of all people be trying to increase traffic on your site….You over achiever you!!
Candy
hmmmm… etiquette… be yourself and not what you think people want you to be… I hate “fake” people…
be open minded about other people’s opinions
First…what is a “nudge”?
Comment everyone back but ignore the stockers.
uhhh i can’t think of any.lol
Use proper grammar and comment back.
nudge???
I’m still not sure what nudging is or the purpose of it. Is it kind of like e-pros, useless?
Larry
Do a post on nudging.
First of all you could write the book on blogging. For you to wonder about increasing your traffic would be like Bill Gates wondering how he can increase his cash flow. Sorry for not answering the question.
First, be willing to comment when you stop by someone’s Xanga, since you want others to comment when they stop by yours. But please do not tell them you will do this if you get X number of comments or won’t do anything more until you get X number of comments. This is called begging or bribing. Next, keep the fact that you are using a blog in mind when you design your Xanga. If people can’t read your text over your background, that’s bad. Or if your text column is a tenth of the page itself, that’s bad. Moving on, remember that Xanga is a world-wide body. You are not God, so please remember that you are equal to the other people. This translates into respect. You don’t have to like anyone, just be respectful of their righ to exist and blog.
Follow these simple guidelines and life will be happier for you and many others.
xanga etiquette?? I’d say comment if you’re reading someone’s site. if you stop by once, that’s different… but if you’re going to read almost every post, it’s rude not to comment at all.
if they say something witty. say something witty back.
if they give you no eprops. leave em none back.
i guess?
Don’t post naked pictures of yourself, you silly whore!
(A girl at my school did that, and she’s in the school blogring, so everyone saw it… not a good thing, huh-uh *shakes head disappointedly*)
Don’t have a profile pic with a pic of your genitals. Please.
OK, I don’t know what points are, but I think proper blogging etiquette can be summed in the following: emoticons.
I personally don’t use them, but I’m sure a big smile can never be taken the wrong way, and it is sometimes quite contagious.
try not to focus on yourself and only yourself when you are adding comments on other xangas!
#1. Don’t ever argue on Xanga … state your opinion in a nicely manner … if you want to argue about something, email it!
That’s it!
Have a great day Dan!
Connie from Texas
dOn’T tYpE LiKe ThIs… its annoying, it takes too much time, and its hard to read.
Xanga is what you make it. All my life I have lived by one simple rule.
Do no harm.
Don’t bash others. Just write your heart out.
~Stix
write about something thats effecting the world or your day. if someone comments you give them a comment back unless your site gets 100 hits then you can really comment them back but show some appreciation. =) be nice to those you comment on and make lots of friends ooh post.. some pictures those most awesome
these are my rules of xanga, not all etiquetter per say, (some may not be applicable to all blogs, but they are applicable to mine, to be sure.)
1. I try to comment other people as much as I am commented
2. Don’t write entries just to bash other xangans. If you must bash someone who readers/friends know, substitute their name with pronouns.
3. At least attempt proper grammer. Avoid tPyInG like this, and dont write 2 much like dish.
4. If someone mentions you in a post, comment telling them you think it’s cool.
5. If someone asks a good question, try to answer it.
6. If someone is a frequent commenter on your site, try to comment at least occasionally on theirs.
7. Don’t give out pity subscriptions.
8. Don’t go “private post!! read above” when the majority of your readers aren’t going to be able to read it. Comment the people who are on your list and let them know, or allow them to simply check their subscription logs and find it for themselves.
9. Don’t leave comments like this: ”yo, dude, you seem so cool. Hey, you like philosophy! Woah! ME TOO! so anyway, comment back. lolz. ~~~ namless LoSeR.”
10. Don’t leave anonymous chatterbox comments. This is just plain annoying.
11. If you want more readers, read more blogs. If you want more comments, comment more. If you want more comments per post, don’t post so often. If you want people to read an update, update your time stamp.
12. . Don’t have a layout that takes more than a minute to load on the average compueter. People may not visit it. It may not be worth waiting 10 minutes for blinking pictures and moving words.
extra points… there is extra points involved!!!
ok… so my ‘rules’… if someone (rabbit) comments you… comment back. music… only if you let the person have the option (rabbit) of turning it off. make it readable. if you’re going to comment (rabbit) someone randomly… include (rabbit) some kind of compliment. don’t argue… i mean in the junior high type way… meet me (rabbit) behind the gym i’m gonna kick your ass type thing. don’t give too (rabbit) much information… like to where there can be stalkers and such. don’t give rude random (rabbit) comments… don’t make up a screen name just so you can insult people. don’t do dumb stuff to get yourself on the news… like (rabbit) underage people drinking… and then say who you are where (rabbit) you live… just (rabbit) dumb.
i’m not sure about any rules to the new xanga friends thing… i think that will (bet you thought i was gonna say ‘rabbit’)develop by itself. (rabbit)
i really enjoy reading your posts. they are very thoughtful and insightful.
comment back. and not just a “random props” comment. make the comment thoughtful and meaningful. people will put their time and energy into your blog if you put time and energy into their blog.
I’m not sure about the nudge thing…but if I get nudged and don’t nudge for a while I hope nobody is offended.
As fo proper ettiqutte… It is not proper ettiquette to use the Bloggers posted IM to IM her and ask her what bra size she is, and if she dates married men. (There is another place for that and it’s called MYSPACE).
Oh yes, and please… if you set your post to update the time, have something in the post be updated… or you just disappoint others!
why on earth do you need to look up how to increase traffic? you could be teaching the class
i don’t mind random props BUT those random props that pretend to be sincere irritate me. someone sends this to everyone – i’ve been to your site before, but this time i really have to comment. i’m really interested what in you have to say… and so forth. the least a person can do if he is going to random props and pretend to be sincere is to write something unique. some vain soul would do anything to get featured. i mean…is it really worth it to sell one’s integrity just to be featured? and how happy can a person be if he did get featured just because of some undeserved comments? pathetic.
What is the etiquette on commenting? When the originating blogger replies to a comment, do they comment on the other person’s blog or just post and update?
I dunno. I have no etiquette.
Use standard English in complete sentences as much as possible. Don’t use abbreviations that would not be clear to everyone aged 13 to 100. Make rational sense and be interesting to read. Do not use vulgarity or pornography. Other than that, just be respectful.
I don’t agree with the whole “comment everyone who comments you” thing. If they leave you a comment, and you have something to say in reply to that, then sure, go comment them back. Or if they compliment your site or something, then sure, it’s nice to thank them. But I don’t think it’s necessary to comment back to every single comment that every single person leaves you, especially not all the “1st!!!!!” crap. For one thing, it just isn’t practicle, especially for popular bloggers like you, who recieve obscene amounts of comments on every post. Personally, I think all of the “Xanga/Online Ettiquette” stuff can be simply summarized as “Be Civil”, and “Use Common Sense.”
Obfuscate and derail dialogue at all times by:
1) Personally attack the character of others, or
2) Change the subject and Blame Clinton!
…and if that doesn’t work:
3) Look! Over there! Another brown-skinned Terrorist who might want to kill me! Bombs Away!!!!!!!!!!
I think the main things that should be in included in xanga do’s and don’ts would be:
-Not Bashing other people beliefs, opinions, or views.Casual debates and suggestions are always healthy.
-Don’t put obnoxious pop-ups on your xanga for people to deal with when they come to your site.
- Have interesting posts talking about your lives and the lives of your friends.
-Do not post daily entries just saying, “Today… was like, so…. boring.”
- Always leave friendly comments on other people’s sites, this helps maintain relatioinships with your friends and helps you meet new people. And remember, nice comments make people happy. So if you want others to comment on your site.Comment on other peoples’
- Though, it is always okay to not comment if you don’t think someone’s post is worthy of your comment, ex. if someone writes, “Man… today I slapped this b**** up good. ” You do not have to comment.
- If someone gets into an argument with you over an issue posted on your or their sites its perfectly okay to state your opinions and views clearly. But remember to keep an open mind about things, everyone thinks that know whats right and wrong. But you may surprise yourself if you stop and think about someone elses opinion.
Uhhh. thats all I can think of right now.
<3
Emoticons are bad. Bad. Bad.
Music? Ha. Nobody wants to listen to your music but you. And nothing pisses me off more than when your music decides to mix with mine.
Random comments mean one thing : I was just passing by. Don’t ask who the hell I am. Because I don’t know you. Obviously.
But it’s still kosher to return the favor. But don’t return it with a ‘uh.. who is this?’.
Spelling. Misspellings are cool. But to purposely try to shorten words so they’re ‘lyk dis’ is throw up material.
Don’t leave nasty comments. Just don’t bother. And don’t try to say something back to the original nasty commenter. Just move on. Delete the comment. And act your age.
Realize that your ‘blog’ can also be known as an ‘online journal’ which means -gasp- it’s posted on the internet. So if it’s something private and you don’t either ‘private post’ it or ‘protected post’ it, then don’t complain if somebody sees it.
Don’t spoil movies or books. Unless you put a big SPOILER at the top of your page.
Don’t type in caps. Please. It’s like when somebody talks in an overly loud and obnoxious voice.
If you stop by a site and read the post, comment it. Random comments. We all have trackers anyway, so we know you’ve visited. Just leave a few eprops.
If you post a topic about a controversial topic, expect comments disagreeing with you. And trying to persuade the other is fine. But when it gets down to petty arguing and nitpicking over spelling. That’s disgusting. It also turns away readers.
I’m sure there’s more. But I’m tired.
Um…let’s see…
Be polite…type in correct grammar and spelling…if you go to a person’s site and you disagree with them, either leave or be courteous and considerate of their opinion….stay true to yourself….and realise that not everyone is going to like/agree with you.
Hope you have a great Friday!
make sure to make your posts interesting, and when people comment you, comment them back when you have the time… i try to do those things most of the time (except i normally fail on the interesting post part)
I think this is so interesting. I mean, we’ve pretty much lost all etiquette in the regular world, we’re practically running eachother over on the roads, and we live in a world where hardly anyone writes a handwritten thank you note, and we’re worried about online etiquette??!!
I think the priorities are skewed.
I swear, they’ll write one of those ___________________ing for Dummies books about anything.
You’re doing a kick ass job! I love your site! I’m a stay at home mom right now-and I like coming here (even though I haven’t gotten one cup of coffee yet…) and pondering adult issues. Keep up the good work!
Don’t be creepy. I can’t tell you how many “xanga stalkers” I have who come by my site 5, 6, 7 times a day and have never subscribed or commented once.
Don’t watch your tracker 24/7 and jump on people and say “NEXT TIME PLS COMMENT”. That just means you’re a loser and watch your tracker constantly. Or it just means that your blog is crap and I didn’t feel anything good to comment on.
Don’t put 3485728 graphics on your site so that it crashes people’s computers.
Don’t spam people with chainletters or long-ass “Jesus is coming soon” comments.
I actually made a post like this about 6 months ago, and called it “Xanga Etiquette” as well. Weird.
what is a nudge?
What does it even mean to “nudge” someone? I see the button and haven;’t tried it yet…
Xanga etiquette– be nice. I know it’s not very original, but it’s pretty important. try to be respectful of others’ opinions. It is possible to have a debate without resorting to name-calling, etc. And it’s very easy to just navigate away from a certain page if you dislike the content.
Alos, be careful what you post. Yes, this is your “sounding board” and the place to blow off steam… but it still is a public place. Don’t go off on things you wouldn’t feel comfortable talking about loudly in a crowded place. That’s what protected posting is for.
oh, and don’t type in all caps. Uber annoying.
I just read a girls site where people are calling her fat and ugly. I say be nice and just say hello if you cant say anything else.
To give thoughtful comments, not just “random props”. Of course I used to do that…
First of all… What IS ‘nudging’? That is so over my head right now.
Hmmm… Chain letters are unacceptable. Period.
Always try to be first on everyone that you subscribed …. lolz
Not to do:
Be disrespectful
Say bad things about people
Put innapropritate pictures on your site
Use curse words
Give out your full name, address, phone number etc.
And more…
To do:
Be respectful and kind
Be appropritate
Be safe
Keep your posts happy! (like me!)
and…
HAVE FUN!
I have one… the top rule no matter who you are- If someone is using a blog to let out emotions. The first thing blogs were used for! Then dont critisize them.. dont use it against them.. its their right to let out emotions in words because we all need to and if you dont want to know what theyre saying even if its about you and available to you. Dont read.. and if you read.. dont comment.
And if you are not 1st, then try for last position on the previous entry. I better be last. hahaha
To start early.
iF yOu tYpE lIkE tHiS………….you should be tortured for seventeen years straight.
Use actual english. No more beaten, whipped and scrambled english, shortened like brb and <3 for a heart, etc. It bugs the crap out of me and makes me wonder what is happening to the english language, and if my children or grandchildren will be writing their papers in a language like that.
yea. thats odd man. Fuck that shit. Just do what you do man. chill. : P
I’m not sure that I would tell them anything. At least not until something came to my attention that merited such a comment. On the other hand, should I be inclined to suggest some rules of etiquette,
I would remind them that they should respect other people’s rights to use their own sites as they see fit.
I would suggest that they refrain from using foul language.
I would suggest that they write short paragraphs of no more than 10 lines each to make it easier for people to read what they have to say.
I would suggest that they refrain from abusive conduct like name calling, gossip, and shouting.
I would suggest that they not stalk a person’s site.
I guess there are other things that might be suggested as the individual need dictated.
I may be a minority on this but I personally don’t see the point of the “first” comment I see whenver I go to any blog site on the featured content list.
well my fellow blogger friend, you don’t have any trouble getting traffic to your site… mine would be treat others with respect… people have the tendancy to be a lot more vulnerable blogging than they do in person.
Show respect for yourself and others.
make your text easy to read,
don’t make people side scroll too much
don’t put on too many images
no music
no videos that play automatically
and don’t pretend to be a 13 yr old prego with nine kids…
hmmm… dont copy their blogs…if you do, acknowledge them..
hi mr. dan, hope you can visit my page now..
have a blessed weekend.. ingatz lagi
make your blog as short as possible.. and put words that are easy to understand..
dont put so much scripts on it… it slows to download your page..
Never ever go on strike. EXP, “I’m not updating till I get 25322532 comments. I stopped doing that because it is rude,pointless, and desperate.
Hey, wait a sec-
“(Extra points will be given for creativity)”
What can these bonus points be exchanged for? Baseball caps with your company logo? More of your product? Frequent Flyer miles?
I DEMAND ANSWERS!!!
As long as they’re not smelly, it’s a-okay. No offensive odor means proper etiquette for me.
No swearing, no thrashing other people, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, no taking personal shots at someone because of who they are or what they believe.
DON’T TYPE LIKE THIS. DoN’T Typ lYk DiS! Type in real English, not text-speak. If someone comments or subscribes and you don’t know who they are, take the time to check them out. They could be your next best friend. Don’t steal each other’s quizzes/memes without mentioning who you got it from. And never, ever, under any circumstances steal someone else’s photos unless you have permission from that person.
If the person flames you first, anything goes. Haha.
Don’t steal people’s identities, personal pictures, etc.
I don’t know. Make it up as you go along. That’s what I’m doing now..
Use grammer, punctuation, and proper spelling. And is it really impossible for people to learn when to use the shift key to make capital letters?
Oh yes, and one more thing, if you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing.
By the way: I’m still perplexed as to why you need to generate more traffic? My God man, you are the #1 hit guy here!
PINEAPPLE
Use proper grammer and spelling. Don’t TiPe lYke DiS. Respect people and their opinnions, it is their blog afterall.
One hundred pointless comments on one entry. It’s obnoxious. Not cute or enjoyable in any way. People that do that are the people that cause xanga to have to impose restrictions like a max of six blogrings etc.
That one in particular has been bothering me for a while.
Don’t talk bad about other people on yours’ or anybody elses’ xanga
i guess i will tell her Be yourself….simple as that..xanga is one way for you to express your thoughts or ideas over anything and creativity sometimes shows in here.. but the real reason why people are here is to simply express our thoughts, ideas and beliefs. let the people know who you really are and not what they expect for you to be…
I double dare the next commenter to include the word
“snuffles”
in their comment.
~ Realize that not everyone shares the same Xanga etiquette ideals.
~ If you want to comment on someone’s site, say something more creative than “random props!” Tell them how you found their blog or what you like about it.
~ Tell us the truth, but not the WHOLE truth. Some things are better left unsaid. If you have a worrisome medical condition, that might be news worth sharing. If you just smell funny, that’s NOT news worth sharing.
~ Leave age-appropriate comments. Don’t flame a 14 yr old because he possesses the logic and vocabulary of a 14 yr old.
~ Be respectful of the rights and worth of others. Don’t tell someone to “shut up” just because you disagree with them. When criticizing, be fair and thoughtful. Criticize the comment, not the person who wrote it. Know your enemy. Try to see and understand things from their point of view. Don’t just assume that you know how they think or feel. Ask for clarifications before launching your final assault.
snuffles
ok grammar, no porno, doesn’t hurt the eyes, none of the boring junk
update frequently……….doesn’t have to be every hour (like you hehe!)………..but at least every 3 days to a week…….
comment on your friends’ posts…..sometimes other people’s
always always comment back, cuz it’s not nice not to……….unless someone you don’t know leaves a mean, pointless comment for no reason………if that happens, just ignore it.
don’t leave posts that only certain people understand all of the time…….this is ok sometimes, but it’s no fun all the time.
don’t write extremely long posts all the time………cuz people will stop reading………that way when you do write a long post, people will be like “hey, wonder why she wrote so long” and actually read it.
and if you write extremely short posts all the time, throw in a longer one every once in a while……….not a book, but maybe a paragraph……or two.
don’t leave extremely long comments ( like this one! haha!), but don’t just comment with just a smiley or a number or “1st!” cuz that’s just a bummer when you go to read a comment and all it is is this
or this <3 or……. you get what i’m saying.
oh and don’t always be serious! add some humor sometimes! cuz laughing is the best!
ok……..i broke my own rule of no long comments…….so the end!
Hi, Dan.
Thank you for your concern in the last comment you posted. Everything is explained on my site, if you’re interested in knowing what happened.
Thanks for all of your encouragement.
~Caroline~
Oh and…
Correct grammar is a must.
No nude pictures of yourself–they’re distasteful and despite what you may think, no one on xanga is looking for porn.
NO CHAIN LETTERS…Why? Because we don’t care what your favorite ice cream is, and we certainly don’t care about your life in general.
Don’t use emo words like “lovers” and “wifey.” They don’t sound right when a depressed 14 year old boy in girl pants says them anyway.
NO fake xanga’s–for heaven’s sake BE YOURSELF.
No blogging about how horrible your life is. Be factual, but don’t exaggerate–or dramatize.
and…
Don’t use one of those layouts where people have to click the mouse a thousand times just to scroll and read a sentence.
No stealing poetry, or other plagarism!
Xanga-schamga!
I comment to those who comment me FIRST and get to the rest as I can possibly!
(((((( GRANDMA HUGS ))))))
Lori
Why is it propery etiquette to comment someone back? I think that it is good etiquette to not pressure people to comment on your site. How about them apples?
Ooh, I also agree that it is important to link to information you snag.
Just to be nice to everyone. Do not flame others or bad talk them at all and most definately not go to their site and preach at them.
But rule number one is to always come by and say hi to me Dan
Treat people as you would in real life. Returning comments is nice too, but it’s certainly not required.
so many comments~
How crazy! I’m guessing there are many books out there on the subject now that we have the Dummies version…
How crazy! I’m guessing there are many books out there on the subject now that we have the Dummies version…
That is so funny because I did the same thing! I picked up that book at my local B&N while nursing a white mocha to get ideas on blogging to increase traffic. I agree with you, I didn’t buy it but perused it to get ideas. I wanted ideas because I am still trying to find my way around Xanga Land and I am still learning all the ins and outs of what it correct etiquette. One thing I have noticed is that some people are offended about subs and others are offended when they have a tracker and notice you visited and didn’t comment. I myself love Xanga Land but find it very overwhelming to keep up with it all sometimes and I never intentionally offend anyone but I have the feeling that I have! I try not to take it to personally but admit I do wonder sometimes. Great question to ask! Now we all to figure out the new Beta version. YIKES! ~J4J~
I still don’t know which fork to use so I am probably the wrong person to ask…
What exactly is “nudging”. I haven’t been nudged by anyone (Dan. *ahem*.
), and I haven’t nudged anyone (yours is coming Dan).
Summer
Hi, I saw your xanga listed on the xanga’s main site and stopped to take a peek.
May I ask how you get so much comments for each and every entry?
If you use a cartoon donkey for a profile picture, some people are too snooty to visit or comment on your site! Or maybe its not the picture! If you make off-the-wall comments to questions some people won’t visit your site! Or maybe if you are paranoid in there real world, you’ll be paranoid on xanga, too! Or maybe – some people won’t visit your site. pfft! Get over it!
Do not, and I repeat DO NOT, make your layout in such a way that someone can’t read your font. I don’t mind cutesy or artsy backgrounds, but if it interferes with how well I can understand your post, its annoying and I won’t read it.
Nawt 2 RiTe LiK DiS!
to leave comments pertaining to either their post or to a comment they left you. to leave comments on friends sites when you first join to tell them you’re joining. and to leave a comment when you subscribe.
there is no ettiquette pertaining to the quality of the posts. they can be total crap about what you ate for breakfast if you want.
stefan
I try to comment back, but sometimes people post something that I just can’t find anything to really comment on. I thinking linking is very important and really the right thing to do. I’m with a lot of the other people, what in the heck is “nudging”?
What do you need more traffic? Isn’t our love enough for you Dan?
comment peaple when they comment on your site. or go 2 random peaple and leave random comments if they dont like it comment back saying sorry. because 60% of the time thell keep on commenting you back and others will come when they see there site. also update regualy. if you dont then peaple will probly get anoyed and start pestering you to update.
what ashton_pyro_101 said!!!!
dont feel like typing it out myself lol
I think if it’s your blog, you can talk about whatever you want — nobody is being forced to read it. They can click the ‘x’ for all I care… I think if you’re reading a blog that you’re not enjoying, expressing your opinion is okay — to a point. Nobody wants to hear that they’re crap.
I agree with whoever it was that said they don’t see the point of being first.
As far as proper xanga etiqutte, use actual english – no excuse fOR ThIS or THIS or f*cking this!!!!!
If you go to someone’s blog, remember that it is you who is visiting them – don’t randomly bash them for their opinions. If you disagree, calmly say so. Don’t send them to hell for what they think.
Welcome to Xanga , it is simply the best.
John jr. had done a entry on this very subject awhile back, too. *smiles* It was one of my favorites that he did. Reading your comments I see that the people commenting here tend to have the same “rules” as the people commenting at John’s did. They same to be “xangaversal” (universal to xanga!!??)
Hmmm…. I’m curious to know why you wanted to find tips on upping your traffic….
As for the nudge thing, I thought we could get a game of nudge-tag going….
Generally speaking, most of the rules that would normally guide interactions with others are good ones for xanga, too. I try to never say anything I would not be comfortable saying in person.
I think a big one people on Xanga look for is the return comment, but that’s not a hard, fast rule. For example, you can’t possibly do that with all the comments you get and people aren’t offended by it. So I would revise that to say — show support and interest at some time.
I have observed that one of the major difficulties people encounter on Xanga is handling disagreements, conflicts, and negative feedback. You are very good at this. It’s probably one of the reasons you are so sucessful. I got to see this first-hand when you were so adept and gracious in handling my strong reaction to one of your posts. And that was the right thing to do. I was very impressed with your diplomacy. People need to know that the occasional negative reaction is nothing to be concerned about and it’s not something that needs to be fixed. Sometimes no response is the best response. At other times, it’s important to show acceptance of the person making the comment and step around the controversy. Everything doesn’t have to be a debate. People like to express themselves on Xanga. That’s part of what it’s all about. We won’t always agree, and that’s okay. Occasionally, a person really does want to hear what you think about a topic, what you think about their last comment. Recognizing what is needed and navigating the choices in responding is the most delicate and sophisticated part of blogging.
And here’s a new angle on negative feedback. My son says that you know you have arrived when you get negative commments — it’s a sign that you are affecting other people and they are having reactions to your posts. Ha! I have been getting a few negative ones myself lately. When I reported this new development to him, he congratulated me!
To answer both the last post and this one:
DuMont82′s Xanga Etiquette: Do not comment posts with just Bible verses to remind people you are a Christian.
Don’t leave rude comments on other people’s Xanga’s no matter how much you don’t like what they have to say.
HOW BOUT DONT BE ONE OF THOSE JIT BAGS WHO GOES AND HARASSES A BUNCH OF PEOPLE. SORRY I JUST GET SICK OF INTERNET BULLIES.
What happens on Xanga, stays on Xanga
Don’t mention penguins. The government has top secret evidence that penguins are destroying the Ozone layer, so anyone who mentions them is dragged in for rigorous questioning and an ice cream cone.
Firstly, I don’t think you need to worry about increasing site traffic.
Now, etiquette? Proper spelling is always a good idea. Don’t use your xanga site as a hate site. Don’t post every day just for the sake of posting every day. If you really have nothing to say, don’t say it.
Don’t put too much crap on your site. I hate it when people do that and it takes a billion hours to load.
When someone (generally new) comments on your site, you should probably comment back (unless you get hundreds of comments).
Be polite, even if you don’t like the person.
Don’t have the posts that say things like “Today I woke up and went to school and now I’m here,” be interesting with your posts.
Don’t take other people’s things (pictures, writing etc.) without their permission, and when you do link their site.
people who “tYpE lIkE tHiS” should be banned from xanga, and no one wants to read a font like that.
If someone has be commenting your posts say 6 times I think it’s about time you go and give them a comment.
If someone comments on your xanga, it is polite to comment back.
Hmmm….
1. Write in everyday, normal English, trying to expand your vocabulary and your variety of sentence structure.
2. Make your posts interesting. This gives people incentive to come back and helps them to know more about you.
3. Build relationships with people; however, be careful with whom, for your friends are a reflection upon your character.
4. Be creative with your site layout, but do not overburden your readers eyes (or ears, for those with an affinity for putting music on their sites… *please* refrain from it).
5. Try not to be offensive (eg. porn, vulgar language, etc.), I know that at least I will not visit your site if I read/see such things.
6. Lastly, and most importantly, be courtious. “A man who is to have friends must show himself friendly” (-Solomon Ben-David) Do not go “off the handle” with someone, even if they do so to you (besides, you can block/report them if they do).
What is a nudge?
*nudge…?*
#1 Do as I say, not as I do.
#2 Keep your posts and comments as short and to-the-point as possible.:pleased
#3 Visit Dan’s site and take note of how he does things because he IS the master.
#4 If you want more traffic, post on things that are of universal interest to all groups of people.
#5 Don’t link music to play automatically on your site.
#6 Keep your site design simple so that it loads and exits quickly.
#7 Choose your text colors so that they are readable and a good contrast with your background. Nobody likes to have to go to extra pains in order to scroll or highlight the text so that it is readable.
#8 If you are a guy, make sure you know the ages of the girls that you talk to and if they are under age, make sure that the parents know that you are conversing.
#9 Try to reply to any comments that are left on your site.
10# To keep interest up, hold the amount you post on personal, mundane, routine stuff to a minimum. Also, avoid posting anything which requires “inside” information to be able to understand.
#11 Be nice to each other – especially to me.
#12 Visit me at Sugarblue2 on Xanga if you want more insightful tips.
Just be yourself, as long as it doesn’t involve TYPING IN ALL CAPS ALL THE TIME or TyPinG iN hALf CaPs.
And I don’t understand why people don’t even attempt to spell or use punctuation correctly. I mean, nobody is perfect, and the occasional error in spelling or grammar is ok, but when your post or comment is totally void of all punctuation and you abbreviate every word, it just doesn’t make any sense.
everyone covered the big ones –
i’d like to add that if you know someone in real life and run across their blog comment right away otherwise you are a stalker – like a real one not a xanga one
Honestly, I don’t even think their should be rules for a blog. It’s someone’s personal journal, right? That’s like making rules for someone’s diary.
I think it’s polite to comment someone who has commented you, and if you have something negative to say, I don’t feel that should be left in a comment. You have your own site to complain about what it was and why it mad you mad.
try to have a life outside of xanga. (it’ll make your posts so much more interesting!!)
Ha! I made a spelling error. Sorry!
Keep your pics “clean”. And just have fun. To me, this site is all about sharring creativity. lol
why are rules always such cliche’s?
ban music…or at least songs that are deemed stupid by a majority vote…and please, please, please don’t put any Backstreet Boys or anything like that on your site…we would all be better off without them
Proper etiquette………. Always leave a comment back if someone leaves you a comment.
FIRST RULE: Proper etiquette on Xanga is not proper etiquette in real life society. Example: on Xanga you can call a person a Xanga Whore and that is okay. (I still don’t understand the reasoning for that, but Xangas say it is okay to do that.)
SECOND RULE: Don’t stalk. On Xanga stalking is just visiting a site and not leaving a comment and going to back to that site countless times and do not comment. Somehow this is considering stalking. (I don’t understand why this is stalking but Xangas feel it is.)
THIRD RULE: DON’T POST IN ALL CAPS BECAUSE THAT IS SHOUTING! And one should never shout on Xanga.
Okay, that is enough to get anyone started on Xanga and also get you thoroughly confused.
*Don’t start an Ana/Mia blog…then you’re just asking for pedophile to come after your 13-yr old ass. (p.s. we don’t want to know that you think your fat because you weigh 82 lbs)
*Get a Site Meter ASAP….they are the best
*Don’t type like this “DiS bE lIkE Fo ReAlZ. PlAyA!” you sound dumb as hell!
*decorate….and if you use a layout give credit for it.
*NO…….no one wants to have sex with you….leave xanga…..go to SWYDM.com with all the other trash
CONFESS
The Leech Preecher
None of the alternating type: SuCh As tHiS. It’s pretty hard to read.
Stick to one style of blogging: a personal site, or one that states opinions, et cetera.
Don’t attack other’s ideas.
how old r u
4 2 m4k3 teh pr0n 4 m3h t0 b3 l00k1nG 4t!!!
Really, though, etiquette? Wazzat? I know…I would appreciate it if people did not fart(‘toot’ for you southern belles) while typing your posts and comments. Your flatulence is your own happy ‘joy-bubble’, not to be shared.
Be respectful ! Remember that people are always free to have, and to express their own opinions, whether we agree with them or not.
Have a great day !
intersting responses……. all of the above. especially not to comment just to say what number your comment is. really, do you have nothing better to do?
I’m sure there are lots of specific tips I could give, but my over-arching principle is to behave like you’re in public — because you are.
Remember now, capslock is your friend. Whole words are for squares, and the more illegible and fraught with 1337, the more comments you get!
I’m a bad little boy.