They’re just wired different…I don’t really know why, I guess….
I agree with xfinding_lifex….totally testosterone!!
Makes them for aggressive in general…
Candy
Nope, I say socialization. Women are taught responsability and humility. Men are taught rights. Also, the expression of anger for almost any kind of hurt is pretty much expected for men sometimes. We should help men be more womanly. LOL : )
bcuz they got more testosterone!! iono
Definitely testosterone. And they’re just men. They’re wired differently and most of them have the stupid chip.
RYC: oh ok.. I think women can be much worse crazy bitches than guys.. but if you say so… um, I think cuz they don’t get enough sex! it’s sex depravation!
^^ did that make sense? LMAO
9th!
Um because were men you know the hunter gatherer, defend the castle play contact sports and drink beer kind of men
ok not all of us but more than enough to skew the statistics
i think it’s the competitive nature in guys, which is induced by testoserone….along with the guy’s desire to be in control (which can cause it’s own problems when at an extreme)….some guys know how to control it, others don’t….
I agree with kb3emj.
And testertone!!
haha to kb3emj :)
RYC: Yes, I can crochet…usually blankets and such, but I’m trying my hand at hats….the first one wasn’t the greatest, but I’ll work on it Talents? Nah…..just random activities…I wish I were talented
RYC: Oh Come on Danny!! You’re toying with me and you know it!! Yessss men are more aggressive…I think..hehe
Candy
Testosterone.
It give us the insatiable sex drive, causes us to be willing to physically engage others in a fight, burns us out and finally kills us.
Good stuff, eh?
L,r
Because women are nurturers. (For the most part, anyway.)
Because it is the women fault … hahaha
Testosterone, and becasue it’s becuase it’s what society expects us to do. Nature and Nuture.
hormones?
Of course I made the assumption that you were speaking of men as the perpetrator. I imagine that women may be more often involved as victims. I don’t know.
Men are more often killers. Sex of the victims – I don’t know.
L,r
I’ll side with the argument of kb3emj. It’s part of our wiring to be the ones to be the aggressors and defenders. Maybe tied in to the whole being stronger physical trait.
Hiya Dan, hope your Monday is great. Hehehehehe, I decided that since I had plastered my daughters and her b/f’s for all to see that time about was fair play……so I allowed her to get her picture……lol As for your question, I read that at the same time the news came on talking about the ministers wife that murdered her hubby, so I can’t answer that one, now if it was reversed…….lol
Hugzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Donna
Because bitches drive us crazy
Because men are generally more physical beings that women. I blame testosterone!
I agree w/ the testomuch..that and missing a rib will generally tick ya off
Testosterone
We are bigger and thats the caveman way we evolved……….
I agree with kb3emj.
RYC:
“So I will say approximately 20.”
Do you plan to continue to have face to face meetings with Xangans? Do you arrange them or do people invite you?
L,r
Interesting….couldn’t tell ya!
According to my psychology class, it is partially due to socialization, however, even if boys and girls are socialized in the same gender-neutral ways, the boys end up playing guns and the girls end up playing dolls (for the most part). Researchers have concluded that it is therefore to some decently large degree inborn.
Great question. Men are more violent arent’ they? They handle their anger so differently than women. Boys tend to fight and duke it out then be done, girls tend to whine and gripe at eachother and drag it out for days.
A combination of biological reasons like testosterone and the general upbringing in society where it’s viewed as more acceptable for men to escalate their frustration into violence if they can’t work something out. Women are more encouraged to talk (or scream) it out and being physical isn’t usually part of our natural problem solving
testosterone … men are more likely to be violent than women anyway-
It’s not testosterone, like so many people assume. A lot of things cause men to be more violent. Part of it does stem from the fact that they were the “hunters” that had to protect the women and children, but we’ve moved beyond that. As another person said, it has to do with socialization–boys are taught to be “tough” while most girls are not. Also, violence is a result of anger. People get addicted to such emotions and therefore get violent in order to fill a need. You can also tie in the need to feel in control, in power–many people today feel powerless, so they can easily turn to petty violence as a way to make themselves feel in control.
Oh, I think women are just as capable. …just less likely to be caught.
Women have a “mothering” nature about them and their instinct is to nurture. Guys… they seem to have a “fight for the right” metality. Like, they have to “protect”.
cause us women are nothing but victims.. (adds the hand on the forhead for dramatic effect) *swoon* haha just kidding you know.. there are some violent women believe me.
Hmmm…I’m not sure….maybe it goes along with their “visual” needs…women can kill someone in their minds and feel remotely satisfied while the guys need to act them out to visually see it…or maybe it has to deal with them wanting to wear the pants again….
I’m not totally sure that’s true. Women get in a violent rage, and they can be pretty violent themselves.
it’s inherent in men to want to act on their anger.
Men are more likely to plan a murder… whereas women are more likely to kill someone in a moment of passionate spontaneity. I know this doesn’t really answer the question, but it certainly gives people something to think about.
If the emphasis is on “violent”, I submit that a man would rather see his enemy reduced to a lifeless, bloody pulp.
A woman would rather just destroy her enemy’s reputation.
Reason why there aren’t as many women killers out there: Because women know how to get away with it
kb3emj has it down well, though on a chemical level it’s simpler. “Testosterone”
if women had to put up with women all the time they’d be killing people too.
it was written so.
I need some advice, and it’s kinda on this subject matter. I need people to tell me what they would do in my situation. I’ve worked at a local country club for just over a year, I was due for my yearly review on Feb 1 and didn’t recieve it until last week( and only then because I became a very squeeky wheel). I enjoy my job as a baker very much, most of the time. I enjoy being around my supervisor and the head executive chef (who I helped hire). We’re hosting the US Sr. Open in July, and are very proud of that fact, it is a great honor to be selected for this. Here’s the problem- I’m a single woman in my late 40′s trying to make it in a man’s playground. I’m tired of them taking advantage of me, (or what I percieve them taking advantage of me). I’m one of the few people who come to work un-stoned, I can do any job they ask of me. If someone’s sick I can swing to their station. I’m not a bitch, but I’m getting to be! Do I stand up and say- give me benefits and a raise, or I walk?? I could have another job like this one or better in 5 min., so I’m OK with the walk part. What would you do?? Thanks for allowing me to vent here, Dan. You’re the best!
They tend to get more physically angry and can do the most physical damage (typically).
its the alpha male thing
Testerone is the excuse they give but the real reason is ….they are more aggressive because society allows and encourages male to be aggressive and the “Good Ole Boy” system protects them.
cause they have an uncontrollable temper outrage.
because women get back at people in more sneaky, coniving ways.
thats the same reason men get caught cheating vs women. I mean im sure the %’s are about the same since you have to have someone to cheat with in order to cheat. (unless you are a gay cheater).
Testosterone – DITTO!
They are born with the natural instinct. They like to take care of their women. Women take care of everything.
I don’t think it’s just testosterone, but that men are brought up to resolve conflicts through violence, that violence somehow enhances their masculinity.. You want to be a BMOC? Hit that little shit that’s talking smack about you.
Even their toys, computer games, etc., revolves around violence. Guns and swords and weaponry (playing soldier, pirates, etc), smashing trucks up, “roughing it” are all typical boy-toys.
It is just men in general, there anger gets the best of them and next thing you know somebody is hurt.
more testosterone?
according to statistics yes, from what i’ve seen personally.. it’s a 50/50 shot
ryc: LOL!!! So I’m not the only one!
RYC:
“In my case, I think they just invited me. But then others showed up to meet us too.”
Sounds like you kinda got mobbed! Well with celebrity goes responsibility to your public, I guess!
L,r
testosterone and social conditioning of encouraging violence in men
thats not a true statement
It’s socialization. Men are taught at a young age to be “masculine” and “tough”. Males aren’t allowed to cry or show any kind of emotion or they’ll be labeled as “girlie men”. Testosterone has nothing to do with it. Women have testosterone. There’s no proof that testosterone causes violence. In fact, some studies show that violence increases testosterone levels which is the opposite effect of what everyone expects. Males are taught to be violent, in essence. Women are taught to be docile, emotional, and caring. None of those attributes lead to violence as the first answer to a problem. To prove one’s masculinity means there will be a fight. The same with proving one’s toughness. It’s just standards in today’s society. We’re really quite behind.
Testosterone. Plain and simple. It’s hormonal – men are more violent because of it.
variety of reasons:
socialization – they’re taught to act tough
men are more involved in crime in general – the most at risk group for crime is men ages 18-24
gang violence
I have no idea.
Yeah my sister spells her name weird…my parents are ukrainian. So they desided to spell it the ukrainian way.
Amanda
Men do drink a lot and that could be a reason to what gets them angry.
Testosterone.
studies have shown higher levels of testosterone.
I was wondering if I could post one of the questions you asked your audience a few enties back. I’d love to know how my own readers know the signs that they are addicted to xanga.
I will gladly link to you and give you full credit for the question idea.
Let me know if it’s ok ……………….
maybe the women just get away with it better.
TESTOSTERONE!! Definately!
It’s a combination of nature (hormones, evolution) and nurture (parents, media). Society reinforces the natural tendencies.
more women express their emotions instead of bottling them up
There was actually a study done not too long ago that found out that there is an “anger/violence” gene that men are more likely to get than women. And it tends to be that men who come from families where their father’s were violent are also violent, so I think it’s a combo of genetics and bad rolemodel/parenting/nurturing. Why women aren’t as violent is a better question. I think it’s genetic. women are just not as emotionaly able to be violent as men are, our brains don’t work that way. Man gets mad, he wants to punch things. Woman gets mad, she wants to get even. ;oP
posted a question on my site. would appreciate it if you would copy it on your site, since you get much more traffic than i do. i’m curious as to responses.
posted a question on my site. would appreciate it if you would copy it on your site, since you get much more traffic than i do. i’m curious as to responses.
posted a question on my site. would appreciate it if you would copy it on your site, since you get much more traffic than i do. i’m curious as to responses.
men were created to be more wild at heart and to be the lead of families. with that comes a built-in instinct to protect, therefore making them less sensitive to hurting someone. that’s what i think.
I think maybe it has to do with how men think with one one side of their brain at a time, maybe. Also, maybe men seek justice more quickly than women, who are more likely to seek peace. I really dont know. Well, then there is the preacher’s wife…yikes.
Men have the ability to separate emotions from facts and focus on a single task. Women (medically) cannot do this.
testosterone
testosterone?
because they have all that testostorone.
ryc: ah, the contentious MAP . . . right in line with that argument. where you gonna go? to administer or not? to fulfill scripts or not? to include in rape kit or not (i think that’s a great one, personally!)? so many paths to choose from . . .
Maybe because we have common sense? I dunno.
‘cuz men are more action than emotion.
Uhh maybe because men have always been associated with hunting in the earlier days. The first murderer was a man. Testosterone. That’s all I can think of.
If you could have the opportunity to ask President Bush one question, what would it be and why? ; )
We dont get violent…we get even! Most women who have killed used poison…slow and painful
ryc: that’s more of a fact question than a opinion question, no? MAP is high dose of BC and it works in the exact same way (i.e. preventing implantation), no? so, I would presume, can’t be for or against one without the other, no? or am I mistaken about how it works? I’ll have to do some more indepth reading, but that’s what I understand it to be.
Testosterone, for one. Society, for the other. Boys grow up being expected to be more physically aggressive than girls.
I believe its just the way men are made. No matter how you try to change them by “socializing” them differently boys will still play with guns and girls with dolls.
you humans
Thank you so much for your comment. I was really feeling that I was the only one who went through this but that really helped a lot. As for your question, I think men/boys are raised to defend and be more physical. Also, most of the guys I know show their angry side a lot more easily than woman. I don’t know though…I suppose it depends on the person. Because woman can be like that too…
Men express their anger more in a physical way with phsyical intimidation, whereas women tend to express anger on the emotional plain. When women get angry, they often go for emotional attacks through yelling, painful comments, or the silent treatment. Men often tend to try physical attacks when they get angry- punching walls, or hitting people, or physically threatening people. So when men get really upset they take the physical threats to a violent killing.
PEOPLE FEEL GUILTY FOR HURTING OTHERS. MEN ARE RAISED TO IGNORE FEELINGS, WOMEN ARENT. THE OLD BOY CLICHE IF YOU CRY YOUR A SISSY THING
It’s just the way they are designed… men have more of a natural bloodlust than women.
because men are more aggressive than women
Testosterone. Which isn’t to say that girls are all sweetness and light…watch two girls really go at it, sometime. Vicious.
I think the truth is that women are just more likely to get away with it.
In a tribal scenario, prehistoric men were hunters whereas women were gatherers. It’s easier to gather berries than kill a boar when you’re pregnant. Due ot this, men adjusted to be better hunters. Men are usually stronger, bigger, and more aggressive. Alternatively, women are better at language because they would talk about where the best plants were or how best to raise a child. Last bit sounds sexist, doesn’t it? Meh.
because…they bottle up their emotions more. and they resort to violence and confrontation more than gossip and backstabbing (sorry if this is perceived as untrue and offensive..i really don’t know any better) and therefore are better at murdering people.
Women are generally more compassionate by nature. Our nurturing instincts often take over. Not to say a woman is incapable of it. Our society also teaches males that men don’t cry…they are logical rational beings and emotions are for women. Thank God some men are able to overcome this idea!
Wow..really thoughtful question!!hahaha…Have a nice week Dan : )
Testosterone
Women are nurturing. Men are protecting.
women talk through their problems. guys bottle them up because it’s not “masculine” to talk about feelings, etc…
Men have a tendancy to throw all other emotions aside temporarily when they are angry.
[ariana]
Because God made men in a different way then women.
el machimo thats why, the macho man if did not understand
As someone else said, its because men are (most of the time) naturally built to be larger and stronger. And I think knowing you CAN beat someone up, sort of makes people want to.
we were born that way
They have more testosterone, which makes them more physically aggressive. Years of social brainwashing will also make boys be more likely to use physical force (who plays football and rugby, etc?).
Women are just as aggressive, just in very different ways. We’re a bit more passive-aggressive.
Men are physically stronger, in general.
women more often then not are not as aggressive or strong?
It is unwomanly to show extreme anger and it is manly to do so.
Woman tend to use their anger in far more intellectual ways. Like a politician. Throw mud at the opponent. Politicians are girly-men.
I think is part of a man’s nature. We are the hunters. We are more aggressive. Who gets in most of the fights on the playground…boys.
because gurlz are more intelligant than most boy and some are just so dumb they get into fights and stuff like that for no reason for the fun of it well thats what they think
because you all have castration anxiety
99% of these comments make me sick.
Maybe women are the reasons for the violent killing! Haha!
Men often want challenges. In my Tae Kwon Do class i try to get the highest rank belts to spar with me so that i can learn new techniques and better moves. Although, I would never kill anyone just for a challenge. Killing is against my ways and I will never make anyone shed blood just for sport.
I’d say its testosterone, maybe guys get caught up in a moment more or something. Women just tear eachother to peices verbally.
Eva.
Relationships with their mothers…I also agree with some of the other posters about socialization. Men are taught at such a young age to suck it it up. Real men don’t cry.
It is very sad to hold all that emotion in.
idk………….. cuz they never get any so they hate women?………..
uh….. they were abused by women as a child?…….
I’m stumped
socially it is more acceptable for men to wail out in physically violent ways. women do it in an underminding, passive aggressive manner. it’s not ALWAYS the case, but most males that i know are taught to fix things with their fists
Abnormally high levels of testosterone and/or mother-hate/revenge.
I think that society shapes guys to be more violent… it’s all about looking “tough” and sticking up for yourself, “defending your loved ones” and so forth..
society reinforces male aggression.
Evolution. Men were hunters, women were gatherers.
society has given men the signal that “boys will be boys” and “it’s all the fault of testosterone”. sure, hormones give you urges, but just as we counsel teens to ignore their hormones and abstain from sexual activity outside of marriage, we should be telling boys/men to suck it up and reign in their anger. when a male commits a murder, it is more likely to be violent because of the rage that fuels it.
instead, socialization has trained boys to glorify war/death/killing to ensure that we will always have cannon-fodder for our wars, while women have been told to “be good girls” and stay at home to protect the gene pool.
“vionlence” needs to be defined in this – it’s tough to answer w/o more of a definition, because i know many women who would be considered “violent”, but in a completely (usually non-physical harming) way.
Cultural influences and the inherent nature of men and women. Women work from a different perspective, and are more likely to instinctively know non-violent means of obtaining their objectives.
I’m not sexist. I do believe that males can be incredibly loving and affectionate. However, most guys do like to prove that they are macho. They like to show that they can pound someone else. They like to take their anger out physically. Girls think of other ways to get reveange. They’d rather make their victim live in pain, rather than put them out of their misery.
And one other thing… i think mothers have one of the deepest loves of all time.. it’s like their kid is really part of them. They walked around with them for 9 months non-stop. I don’t think they could find it in their heart to take the life of another person’s offspring, because they know it would break their heart to have that done to their own. Of course I’m not saying fathers are not loving. They are… but they didn’t carry that kid for 9 months.
Testosterone!!
Because mentally, girls are more stable than guys. And it’s in there genetics to be more violent than women.
~I broke apart my insides, i got no soul to tell~
Maybe women are just able to hide bodies better. We are more creative.
Men tend to be more confrontational, more aggressive, and are more likely to be involved in violent criminal behavior. Most men are not particularly violent by nature, but the fact that a disproportionate number of violent criminals are men skews the statistics slightly- not without cause, either. This is changing, though. I note a certain trend to say that women should not be confined in their traditional roles. Fair enough. But not confining women to their traditional roles is not the same as making them more masculine, which seems to be what is happening in many cases. Like, one year the LAPD decided that they needed to become 42% female to embrace diversity. Oops. Even after they made entrance requirements easier and lowered physical fitness standards, they just couldn’t find enough women to fill all those slots. Men and women are different, plain and simple.
Though I do confess a certain fondness for the male method of solving things. If I don’t like a guy, or we disagree, then we will argue and everyone will know where we stand, and once we’re done arguing, it’s done. Women, on the other hand, in my experience, not only remember old arguments long done with, but are still arguing them long after no one’s talking anymore.
I’m with awklegionheime, at least the comment he posted first (too many comments to see if he said anything wierd after that ). Men are the way they are MOSTLY because of social reasons, most are raised that way. Women tend to be raised to be more nurturing, expected to have children. It’s almost completely social related, though obviously there are hormonal reasons too (testosterone, estrogen… respectivly of course).
“We should help men be more womanly. LOL : )” Um, I agree, basically…hehe. Everything in moderation works best. I know of no extreme that is truely benificial in the long run.
its instinct, combined with the fact that women need to be more intact to have children, combined with societies taboos regarding women and violence and their condonation of men and violence. NOt to mention that men have always traditionally had to fight physically to survieve while women were kept for their breeding capablities.
> With a few million modern exceptions, women have a tendency to nurture more than men, and i think this melts over into most dealings with others. Many men are testes overblown, but thats the nature of the beast.
Peace
because we are testorone driven big dicked assholes.
I think b/c in all men’s genes, the male dominance prevails, so something clicks and they just go too far.
because women tend to plan out their murders more carefully as to not get caught…
quickest way to get caught – being covered in someone elses blood!
Yeah well…, I blame the media (who blames everything on guys.) Maybe it is a little bit more likely, but you definitely hear on the news about some mid-class white dude killing a person before you would about ANY female. Just a thought, but then again, I’m just a mid-class white guy, so maybe I’m looking for a place to put my blame? I shouldn’t get too angry though, I might go out & kill someone or something.
Very clever pamilvr.
I n a society that expects men to always be strong and not really exprss themselves, it puts a lot of preassure on them. Due to this they are a lot more prone to react violently. Unlike women, who are typically very emotional and see no reason to hide it.
Because it’s perpetuated that men have these characteristics by the media and human’s will follow the masses, though it has been proven that testosterone has a positive correlation with anger.
It depends what you mean by this question, hehe. Do you mean men are more likely to be involved in a violent killing as a) the violent killer? or b) the victim?
testosterone?
we get pissed of easier silly
Innate hunting & survival instincts from cave men days.
not true, according to this book called See Jane Hit or something
Hello Dan,
Men are Protectors, hunters, leaders… we have been fighting ever since we first encountered Satan on earth. This drive to fight and protect has been misguided many times over the years (see Holocaust or Cambodia) but it is man’s instinct and thus should not be looked down on or attempted to be tamed any more than a woman’s nuturing instinct. Both can hurt if used wrong. The question is, how do we guide it in our youth to be used properly?
-John Calvignome
Because they deserve it.
If you piss a man off, he’ll kill you. If you piss a woman off, she’ll either ruin your life, or get her man to kill youu. Women just don’t seem to ever be the ones who do it.
Men are so involed in violence because they think they are tough to handle anything that comes there way.
Because they are generally more physically powerful?
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who said that?
testosterone?
I hope I spelled that right.
Because they’re guys!
They’re just wired different…I don’t really know why, I guess….
I agree with xfinding_lifex….totally testosterone!!
Makes them for aggressive in general…
Candy
Nope, I say socialization. Women are taught responsability and humility. Men are taught rights. Also, the expression of anger for almost any kind of hurt is pretty much expected for men sometimes. We should help men be more womanly. LOL : )
bcuz they got more testosterone!! iono
Definitely testosterone. And they’re just men. They’re wired differently and most of them have the stupid chip.
RYC: oh ok.. I think women can be much worse crazy bitches than guys..
but if you say so… um, I think cuz they don’t get enough sex! it’s sex depravation!
^^ did that make sense? LMAO
9th!
Um because were men
you know the hunter gatherer, defend the
castle play contact sports and drink beer
kind of men
ok not all of us but more than enough
to skew the statistics
i think it’s the competitive nature in guys, which is induced by testoserone….along with the guy’s desire to be in control (which can cause it’s own problems when at an extreme)….some guys know how to control it, others don’t….
I agree with kb3emj.
And testertone!!
haha to kb3emj
:)
RYC: Yes, I can crochet…usually blankets and such, but I’m trying my hand at hats….the first one wasn’t the greatest, but I’ll work on it
Talents? Nah…..just random activities…I wish I were talented 
RYC: Oh Come on Danny!! You’re toying with me and you know it!! Yessss men are more aggressive…I think..hehe
Candy
Testosterone.
It give us the insatiable sex drive, causes us to be willing to physically engage others in a fight, burns us out and finally kills us.
Good stuff, eh?
L,r
Because women are nurturers. (For the most part, anyway.)
Because it is the women fault … hahaha
Testosterone, and becasue it’s becuase it’s what society expects us to do. Nature and Nuture.
hormones?
Of course I made the assumption that you were speaking of men as the perpetrator. I imagine that women may be more often involved as victims. I don’t know.
Men are more often killers. Sex of the victims – I don’t know.
L,r
I’ll side with the argument of kb3emj. It’s part of our wiring to be the ones to be the aggressors and defenders. Maybe tied in to the whole being stronger physical trait.
Hiya Dan, hope your Monday is great. Hehehehehe, I decided that since I had plastered my daughters and her b/f’s for all to see that time about was fair play……so I allowed her to get her picture……lol As for your question, I read that at the same time the news came on talking about the ministers wife that murdered her hubby, so I can’t answer that one, now if it was reversed…….lol
Hugzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Donna
Because bitches drive us crazy
Because men are generally more physical beings that women. I blame testosterone!
I agree w/ the testomuch..that and missing a rib will generally tick ya off
Testosterone
We are bigger and thats the caveman way we evolved……….
I agree with kb3emj.
RYC:
“So I will say approximately 20.”
Do you plan to continue to have face to face meetings with Xangans? Do you arrange them or do people invite you?
L,r
Interesting….couldn’t tell ya!
According to my psychology class, it is partially due to socialization, however, even if boys and girls are socialized in the same gender-neutral ways, the boys end up playing guns and the girls end up playing dolls (for the most part). Researchers have concluded that it is therefore to some decently large degree inborn.
Great question. Men are more violent arent’ they? They handle their anger so differently than women. Boys tend to fight and duke it out then be done, girls tend to whine and gripe at eachother and drag it out for days.
A combination of biological reasons like testosterone and the general upbringing in society where it’s viewed as more acceptable for men to escalate their frustration into violence if they can’t work something out. Women are more encouraged to talk (or scream) it out and being physical isn’t usually part of our natural problem solving
testosterone … men are more likely to be violent than women anyway-
It’s not testosterone, like so many people assume. A lot of things cause men to be more violent. Part of it does stem from the fact that they were the “hunters” that had to protect the women and children, but we’ve moved beyond that. As another person said, it has to do with socialization–boys are taught to be “tough” while most girls are not. Also, violence is a result of anger. People get addicted to such emotions and therefore get violent in order to fill a need. You can also tie in the need to feel in control, in power–many people today feel powerless, so they can easily turn to petty violence as a way to make themselves feel in control.
Oh, I think women are just as capable. …just less likely to be caught.
Women have a “mothering” nature about them and their instinct is to nurture. Guys… they seem to have a “fight for the right” metality. Like, they have to “protect”.
cause us women are nothing but victims.. (adds the hand on the forhead for dramatic effect) *swoon* haha just kidding you know.. there are some violent women believe me.
Hmmm…I’m not sure….maybe it goes along with their “visual” needs…women can kill someone in their minds and feel remotely satisfied while the guys need to act them out to visually see it…or maybe it has to deal with them wanting to wear the pants again….
I’m not totally sure that’s true. Women get in a violent rage, and they can be pretty violent themselves.
it’s inherent in men to want to act on their anger.
Men are more likely to plan a murder… whereas women are more likely to kill someone in a moment of passionate spontaneity. I know this doesn’t really answer the question, but it certainly gives people something to think about.
If the emphasis is on “violent”, I submit that a man would rather see his enemy reduced to a lifeless, bloody pulp.
A woman would rather just destroy her enemy’s reputation.
Reason why there aren’t as many women killers out there: Because women know how to get away with it
kb3emj has it down well, though on a chemical level
it’s simpler. “Testosterone”
if women had to put up with women all the time they’d be killing people too.
it was written so.
I need some advice, and it’s kinda on this subject matter. I need people to tell me what they would do in my situation. I’ve worked at a local country club for just over a year, I was due for my yearly review on Feb 1 and didn’t recieve it until last week( and only then because I became a very squeeky wheel). I enjoy my job as a baker very much, most of the time. I enjoy being around my supervisor and the head executive chef (who I helped hire). We’re hosting the US Sr. Open in July, and are very proud of that fact, it is a great honor to be selected for this. Here’s the problem- I’m a single woman in my late 40′s trying to make it in a man’s playground. I’m tired of them taking advantage of me, (or what I percieve them taking advantage of me). I’m one of the few people who come to work un-stoned, I can do any job they ask of me. If someone’s sick I can swing to their station. I’m not a bitch, but I’m getting to be! Do I stand up and say- give me benefits and a raise, or I walk?? I could have another job like this one or better in 5 min., so I’m OK with the walk part. What would you do?? Thanks for allowing me to vent here, Dan. You’re the best!
They tend to get more physically angry and can do the most physical damage (typically).
its the alpha male thing
Testerone is the excuse they give but the real reason is ….they are more aggressive because society allows and encourages male to be aggressive and the “Good Ole Boy” system protects them.
cause they have an uncontrollable temper outrage.
because women get back at people in more sneaky, coniving ways.
thats the same reason men get caught cheating vs women. I mean im sure the %’s are about the same since you have to have someone to cheat with in order to cheat. (unless you are a gay cheater).
Testosterone – DITTO!
They are born with the natural instinct. They like to take care of their women. Women take care of everything.
I don’t think it’s just testosterone, but that men are brought up to resolve conflicts through violence, that violence somehow enhances their masculinity.. You want to be a BMOC? Hit that little shit that’s talking smack about you.
Even their toys, computer games, etc., revolves around violence. Guns and swords and weaponry (playing soldier, pirates, etc), smashing trucks up, “roughing it” are all typical boy-toys.
It is just men in general, there anger gets the best of them and next thing you know somebody is hurt.
more testosterone?
according to statistics yes, from what i’ve seen personally.. it’s a 50/50 shot
ryc: LOL!!! So I’m not the only one!
RYC:
“In my case, I think they just invited me. But then others showed up to meet us too.”
Sounds like you kinda got mobbed! Well with celebrity goes responsibility to your public, I guess!
L,r
testosterone and social conditioning of encouraging violence in men
thats not a true statement
It’s socialization. Men are taught at a young age to be “masculine” and “tough”. Males aren’t allowed to cry or show any kind of emotion or they’ll be labeled as “girlie men”. Testosterone has nothing to do with it. Women have testosterone. There’s no proof that testosterone causes violence. In fact, some studies show that violence increases testosterone levels which is the opposite effect of what everyone expects. Males are taught to be violent, in essence. Women are taught to be docile, emotional, and caring. None of those attributes lead to violence as the first answer to a problem. To prove one’s masculinity means there will be a fight. The same with proving one’s toughness. It’s just standards in today’s society. We’re really quite behind.
Testosterone. Plain and simple. It’s hormonal – men are more violent because of it.
variety of reasons:
socialization – they’re taught to act tough
men are more involved in crime in general – the most at risk group for crime is men ages 18-24
gang violence
I have no idea.
Yeah my sister spells her name weird…my parents are ukrainian. So they desided to spell it the ukrainian way.
Amanda
Men do drink a lot and that could be a reason to what gets them angry.
Testosterone.
studies have shown higher levels of testosterone.
I was wondering if I could post one of the questions you asked your audience a few enties back. I’d love to know how my own readers know the signs that they are addicted to xanga.
I will gladly link to you and give you full credit for the question idea.
Let me know if it’s ok ……………….
maybe the women just get away with it better.
TESTOSTERONE!! Definately!
It’s a combination of nature (hormones, evolution) and nurture (parents, media). Society reinforces the natural tendencies.
more women express their emotions instead of bottling them up
There was actually a study done not too long ago that found out that there is an “anger/violence” gene that men are more likely to get than women. And it tends to be that men who come from families where their father’s were violent are also violent, so I think it’s a combo of genetics and bad rolemodel/parenting/nurturing. Why women aren’t as violent is a better question. I think it’s genetic. women are just not as emotionaly able to be violent as men are, our brains don’t work that way. Man gets mad, he wants to punch things. Woman gets mad, she wants to get even. ;oP
posted a question on my site. would appreciate it if you would copy it on your site, since you get much more traffic than i do. i’m curious as to responses.
posted a question on my site. would appreciate it if you would copy it on your site, since you get much more traffic than i do. i’m curious as to responses.
posted a question on my site. would appreciate it if you would copy it on your site, since you get much more traffic than i do. i’m curious as to responses.
men were created to be more wild at heart and to be the lead of families. with that comes a built-in instinct to protect, therefore making them less sensitive to hurting someone. that’s what i think.
I think maybe it has to do with how men think with one one side of their brain at a time, maybe. Also, maybe men seek justice more quickly than women, who are more likely to seek peace. I really dont know.
Well, then there is the preacher’s wife…yikes.
Men have the ability to separate emotions from facts and focus on a single task. Women (medically) cannot do this.
testosterone
testosterone?
because they have all that testostorone.
ryc: ah, the contentious MAP . . . right in line with that argument. where you gonna go? to administer or not? to fulfill scripts or not? to include in rape kit or not (i think that’s a great one, personally!)? so many paths to choose from . . .
Maybe because we have common sense? I dunno.
‘cuz men are more action than emotion.
Uhh maybe because men have always been associated with hunting in the earlier days. The first murderer was a man. Testosterone. That’s all I can think of.
If you could have the opportunity to ask President Bush one question, what would it be and why? ; )
We dont get violent…we get even! Most women who have killed used poison…slow and painful
ryc: that’s more of a fact question than a opinion question, no? MAP is high dose of BC and it works in the exact same way (i.e. preventing implantation), no? so, I would presume, can’t be for or against one without the other, no? or am I mistaken about how it works? I’ll have to do some more indepth reading, but that’s what I understand it to be.
Testosterone, for one. Society, for the other. Boys grow up being expected to be more physically aggressive than girls.
I believe its just the way men are made. No matter how you try to change them by “socializing” them differently boys will still play with guns and girls with dolls.
you humans
Thank you so much for your comment. I was really feeling that I was the only one who went through this but that really helped a lot.
As for your question, I think men/boys are raised to defend and be more physical. Also, most of the guys I know show their angry side a lot more easily than woman. I don’t know though…I suppose it depends on the person. Because woman can be like that too…
Men express their anger more in a physical way with phsyical intimidation, whereas women tend to express anger on the emotional plain. When women get angry, they often go for emotional attacks through yelling, painful comments, or the silent treatment. Men often tend to try physical attacks when they get angry- punching walls, or hitting people, or physically threatening people. So when men get really upset they take the physical threats to a violent killing.
PEOPLE FEEL GUILTY FOR HURTING OTHERS. MEN ARE RAISED TO IGNORE FEELINGS, WOMEN ARENT. THE OLD BOY CLICHE IF YOU CRY YOUR A SISSY THING
It’s just the way they are designed… men have more of a natural bloodlust than women.
because men are more aggressive than women
Testosterone.
Which isn’t to say that girls are all sweetness and light…watch two girls really go at it, sometime. Vicious.
I think the truth is that women are just more likely to get away with it.
In a tribal scenario, prehistoric men were hunters whereas women were gatherers. It’s easier to gather berries than kill a boar when you’re pregnant. Due ot this, men adjusted to be better hunters. Men are usually stronger, bigger, and more aggressive. Alternatively, women are better at language because they would talk about where the best plants were or how best to raise a child. Last bit sounds sexist, doesn’t it? Meh.
because…they bottle up their emotions more. and they resort to violence and confrontation more than gossip and backstabbing (sorry if this is perceived as untrue and offensive..i really don’t know any better) and therefore are better at murdering people.
Women are generally more compassionate by nature. Our nurturing instincts often take over. Not to say a woman is incapable of it. Our society also teaches males that men don’t cry…they are logical rational beings and emotions are for women. Thank God some men are able to overcome this idea!
Wow..really thoughtful question!!hahaha…Have a nice week Dan : )
Testosterone
Women are nurturing. Men are protecting.
women talk through their problems. guys bottle them up because it’s not “masculine” to talk about feelings, etc…
Men have a tendancy to throw all other emotions aside temporarily when they are angry.
[ariana]
Because God made men in a different way then women.
el machimo thats why, the macho man if did not understand
As someone else said, its because men are (most of the time) naturally built to be larger and stronger. And I think knowing you CAN beat someone up, sort of makes people want to.
we were born that way
They have more testosterone, which makes them more physically aggressive. Years of social brainwashing will also make boys be more likely to use physical force (who plays football and rugby, etc?).
Women are just as aggressive, just in very different ways. We’re a bit more passive-aggressive.
Men are physically stronger, in general.
women more often then not are not as aggressive or strong?
It is unwomanly to show extreme anger and it is manly to do so.
Woman tend to use their anger in far more intellectual ways. Like a politician. Throw mud at the opponent. Politicians are girly-men.
I think is part of a man’s nature. We are the hunters. We are more aggressive. Who gets in most of the fights on the playground…boys.
because gurlz are more intelligant than most boy and some are just so dumb they get into fights and stuff like that for no reason for the fun of it well thats what they think
because you all have castration anxiety
99% of these comments make me sick.
Maybe women are the reasons for the violent killing! Haha!
Men often want challenges. In my Tae Kwon Do class i try to get the highest rank belts to spar with me so that i can learn new techniques and better moves. Although, I would never kill anyone just for a challenge. Killing is against my ways and I will never make anyone shed blood just for sport.
I’d say its testosterone, maybe guys get caught up in a moment more or something. Women just tear eachother to peices verbally.
Eva.
Relationships with their mothers…I also agree with some of the other posters about socialization. Men are taught at such a young age to suck it it up. Real men don’t cry.
It is very sad to hold all that emotion in.
idk………….. cuz they never get any so they hate women?………..
uh….. they were abused by women as a child?…….
I’m stumped
socially it is more acceptable for men to wail out in physically violent ways. women do it in an underminding, passive aggressive manner. it’s not ALWAYS the case, but most males that i know are taught to fix things with their fists
Abnormally high levels of testosterone and/or mother-hate/revenge.
I think that society shapes guys to be more violent… it’s all about looking “tough” and sticking up for yourself, “defending your loved ones” and so forth..
society reinforces male aggression.
Evolution. Men were hunters, women were gatherers.
society has given men the signal that “boys will be boys” and “it’s all the fault of testosterone”. sure, hormones give you urges, but just as we counsel teens to ignore their hormones and abstain from sexual activity outside of marriage, we should be telling boys/men to suck it up and reign in their anger. when a male commits a murder, it is more likely to be violent because of the rage that fuels it.
instead, socialization has trained boys to glorify war/death/killing to ensure that we will always have cannon-fodder for our wars, while women have been told to “be good girls” and stay at home to protect the gene pool.
“vionlence” needs to be defined in this – it’s tough to answer w/o more of a definition, because i know many women who would be considered “violent”, but in a completely (usually non-physical harming) way.
Cultural influences and the inherent nature of men and women. Women work from a different perspective, and are more likely to instinctively know non-violent means of obtaining their objectives.
I’m not sexist. I do believe that males can be incredibly loving and affectionate. However, most guys do like to prove that they are macho. They like to show that they can pound someone else. They like to take their anger out physically. Girls think of other ways to get reveange. They’d rather make their victim live in pain, rather than put them out of their misery.
And one other thing… i think mothers have one of the deepest loves of all time.. it’s like their kid is really part of them. They walked around with them for 9 months non-stop. I don’t think they could find it in their heart to take the life of another person’s offspring, because they know it would break their heart to have that done to their own. Of course I’m not saying fathers are not loving. They are… but they didn’t carry that kid for 9 months.
Testosterone!!
Because mentally, girls are more stable than guys. And it’s in there genetics to be more violent than women.
~I broke apart my insides, i got no soul to tell~
Maybe women are just able to hide bodies better. We are more creative.
Men tend to be more confrontational, more aggressive, and are more likely to be involved in violent criminal behavior. Most men are not particularly violent by nature, but the fact that a disproportionate number of violent criminals are men skews the statistics slightly- not without cause, either. This is changing, though. I note a certain trend to say that women should not be confined in their traditional roles. Fair enough. But not confining women to their traditional roles is not the same as making them more masculine, which seems to be what is happening in many cases. Like, one year the LAPD decided that they needed to become 42% female to embrace diversity. Oops. Even after they made entrance requirements easier and lowered physical fitness standards, they just couldn’t find enough women to fill all those slots. Men and women are different, plain and simple.
Though I do confess a certain fondness for the male method of solving things. If I don’t like a guy, or we disagree, then we will argue and everyone will know where we stand, and once we’re done arguing, it’s done. Women, on the other hand, in my experience, not only remember old arguments long done with, but are still arguing them long after no one’s talking anymore.
I’m with awklegionheime, at least the comment he posted first (too many comments to see if he said anything wierd after that
). Men are the way they are MOSTLY because of social reasons, most are raised that way. Women tend to be raised to be more nurturing, expected to have children. It’s almost completely social related, though obviously there are hormonal reasons too (testosterone, estrogen… respectivly of course).
“We should help men be more womanly. LOL : )”
Um, I agree, basically…hehe. Everything in moderation works best. I know of no extreme that is truely benificial in the long run.
its instinct, combined with the fact that women need to be more intact to have children, combined with societies taboos regarding women and violence and their condonation of men and violence. NOt to mention that men have always traditionally had to fight physically to survieve while women were kept for their breeding capablities.
> With a few million modern exceptions, women have a tendency to nurture more than men, and i think this melts over into most dealings with others. Many men are testes overblown, but thats the nature of the beast.
Peace
because we are testorone driven big dicked assholes.
I think b/c in all men’s genes, the male dominance prevails, so something clicks and they just go too far.
because women tend to plan out their murders more carefully as to not get caught…
quickest way to get caught – being covered in someone elses blood!
Yeah well…, I blame the media (who blames everything on guys.) Maybe it is a little bit more likely, but you definitely hear on the news about some mid-class white dude killing a person before you would about ANY female. Just a thought, but then again, I’m just a mid-class white guy, so maybe I’m looking for a place to put my blame? I shouldn’t get too angry though, I might go out & kill someone or something.
Very clever pamilvr.
I n a society that expects men to always be strong and not really exprss themselves, it puts a lot of preassure on them. Due to this they are a lot more prone to react violently. Unlike women, who are typically very emotional and see no reason to hide it.
Because it’s perpetuated that men have these characteristics by the media and human’s will follow the masses, though it has been proven that testosterone has a positive correlation with anger.
It depends what you mean by this question, hehe. Do you mean men are more likely to be involved in a violent killing as
a) the violent killer?
or
b) the victim?
testosterone?
we get pissed of easier silly
Innate hunting & survival instincts from cave men days.
not true, according to this book called See Jane Hit or something
Hello Dan,
Men are Protectors, hunters, leaders… we have been fighting ever since we first encountered Satan on earth. This drive to fight and protect has been misguided many times over the years (see Holocaust or Cambodia) but it is man’s instinct and thus should not be looked down on or attempted to be tamed any more than a woman’s nuturing instinct. Both can hurt if used wrong. The question is, how do we guide it in our youth to be used properly?
-John Calvignome
Because they deserve it.
If you piss a man off, he’ll kill you. If you piss a woman off, she’ll either ruin your life, or get her man to kill youu. Women just don’t seem to ever be the ones who do it.
Men are so involed in violence because they think they are tough to handle anything that comes there way.
Because they are generally more physically powerful?
testosterone