June 28, 2006
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Looks Part 2
I was talking to Plantiga via IM tonight. We were talking about a previous post. In the comment section of that post, several women said that women tended to be harder on other women than men are on other women.
Plantiga told me via IM that she thought that women are more accepting of men’s looks than men are of women.
Are women more accepting of the looks of the opposite sex than men are?
Comments (101)
Yes, I think women are much more accepting. Looks are definitely key, but I have seen more attractive women with not so attractive men, then the other way around. I think women tend to look for the whole package, and most of the time for us, personalilty and we’re treated takes priority. That’s not to say all men are shallow, but in this regard I think men win out as the majority.
I believe so, yes.
definatly.
Yes
Yes, that sounds right.
Yes
FOURTH! New record!! ^-^
hm. men do tend to be more visually stimulated, no? and women tend to go for the emotional attraction.
yes
yes
What..? Hell no. Women are just as much superficial bitches as men are superficial bastards..and if they say they arent, they are lying.
Definitly. Most Definitly.
Grrrr… “personality and *how* we’re treated”
I hate typos! See what I get for typing too fast. :Þ
sure.
yeah.
Yes, generally, unless encouraged otherwise by the media and Madison Avenue.
Dear Mr. Theologian, I am too busy to be worried about this! I don’t know! My poor brain! You make me think too much!!
yes. I am exhibit A
I’ve always wondered why men are allowed to grow old, fat, and bald and still expect to attract young, beautiful women, while at the same time they expect their wives to grow younger and more beautiful, more tanned, more toned.
Yes. But how women can be oblivious to a man’s appearance is beyond me.
I think men are generally more shallow than women because they’re taught that the degree of their manhood is in direct proportion with the size of their girlfriend’s tits.
But I think there are quite a few shallow women. I’d so it’s an almost even split, but there are slightly more shallow men than women.
i think so.
especially the longer you know a guy, and the closer you become.
and the funnier he is and the smarter he is…
the cuter he becomes!
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Ha, yes, very much so. I myself… I mean, I’m not shallow.. but I just can’t look past unattractiveness.
Yes. Beautiful women date ugly guys, but really good looking guys rarely date ugly women. Also, guys get a lot more flak for dating an ugly girl than vice versa.
yes.
Absolutely yes.
yes. low expectations.
“all the handsome guys are jerks, all the nice guys are ugly, and all the handsome and nice guys are gay.”
-Leslie
I think it’s about equal. I guess I can see how people think that woman are easier on looks because I think when first getting to know a person (on the realtionship/sexual level). Men tend to notice appearance first where as women pay more attention to attitude… So women, I guess, are more likely to give a less attractive man a chance…and when that happens… they may get to know eachother and actually fall for eachother even if they arn’t as attractive… I guess it’s harder for a man…at first to look past unattractiveness.. but if they do.. I think they are just as likely to date a less attractive female… It’s all in the way they take first impressions… Us woman… even at first … like to get to know people on a more personal level… i guess.. oh hell I dont know. It would be hard for me to be with someone…)in the long run)… that i found unattrative… or not sexually appealing… but that can be either physical or mental.
Dan,
I’m not really in a position to know. I finished the first part of my story and I was hoping you’d check it out.
That was a confusing post…
hmm… maybe its just desperation?
Yep.
Yea it is true. Because, no offense, guys tend to be more shallow. You know.. boobs and such. Not all guys, but most guys. Girls are usually like the ones who believe in “true love” no matter how ghastly the guy looks.
i will go with.. yes… it sounds about right…
I’d say yes..
But I’m not picky on looks.. but my girlfriend.. she’s beautiful…
And I’m ugly… Meh…
i think thats true.
Yes.
Men (well a majority , I don’t want to fully stereotype…) expect women to be flawlessly beautiful; sexy but not slutty dressing, pretty but not loaded in makeup, skinny yet big busted, flirtatious but not slutty… etc. etc.
but I saw screw it.
And I do think girls are more open about looks, but that is partly because (I think) they are reaching more into the mans mind and heart and looking deeper than face value.
Too many guys are like; hot chick, I’d like to bang her.
But I know this is not all guys, so don’t get annoyed at me.
Women have to take what they can get, and with some guys … that ain’t much.
Yes, way more accepting.
How many times do you see an unnatractive man with a hot woman at his side?
How many times do you see the opposite?
Women are very harsh wiyth each other when it comes to looks. Men tend to be pretty picky on women’s looks, but I think slightly less so than qwomen are with each other. Women are the most l;ikely to look at other characteristics (does he listen well? will he be able to take care of me and our family?) and prioritize them over looks.
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Don’t know, and don’t care.
But then, my standards of attractiveness are different than most that of most people.
Yes.
Pretty much. Of course there are circumstances, but scientifically, men are more visual creatures than women are. Everyone has their standards, I guess. But I really do believe that men who aren’t conventionally attractive have a much higher chance than women in the same position.
when generalizing i would say yes, but there are plenty of picky women out there i’m sure. women who won’t date an ugly guy…i think it depends on how much you bother to get to know someone. whether you base opinions on looks, perhaps men are less interested in bothering with intimate details or feel uncomfortable or impatient, waiting to judge. but i wouldn’t say that’s all men either.
generally yes. but i think in the end men also want the personality and “emotional connection”. and hell i like a pretty man more often than not.
Yes. On a few occasions I have been with only good guy friends, and the way they talk about girls when they are with their ‘boys’ is so mean. If a girl barely has any fat on her she is a whale to them, and girls that are obviously way too hot for them they think are ugly. Whatev.
Absolutely. No question about it.
yeah
I don’t know… it seems right in general, my husband is much more critical of how people look than I am but I have some girl friends that are awfully hard to please as well…
As a not so conventionally beautiful person I sure wish we were all (including me) better at seeing beauty as a quality not defined by the glossy covers of magazines.
oh… by the way, call me a gullible dork but I got totally taken in by your new look-alike thetheo1oginscafe… he left me this odd comment and I followed the link to find not many comments yet and a bright orange screen (which I chalked up to it being early and me being sleepy) and I got all…”I could be in the top 20…that never happens” and just commented away about what a strange mood you must be in to ask such strange questions… big dork, oh well! Hey, you know what they say about imitation and flattery!
Not me. Im a picky bitch.
definitely
Well, I’m probably not normal, but as far as I’m concerned, looks are of relatively minor importance…
yes we are. or so it is like in NJ anyway…for the most part!
XOXO,
cG.
I think it is definitely true that men are more critical of the opposite sex than women are. That, of course, is a very general statement. There are exceptions to everything, including this. My opinion is that men are more visually stimulated than women are overall. Which is also why men are bigger into pornography. A man needs to literally see a sexual sitation, whereas a woman can come up with it all in her head.
In my case, looks are not as important as personality. I have found the better looking guys shallow, they have a tendency to cheat on their mates. JMO.
Men are totally visual.
I think so.
Erika
I would say so, most women are more accepting, some can be very picky though, so you can’t say that as truth for all women.
Yes … women are typically much more accepting of looks of men, but not of women… I wish I knew why.
In general yes… it’s because guys are turned on by sight more than girls are. Girls can like to look at hot guys, but it doesn’t mean they would want to date them. They also want someone who will treat them right. For some reason, guys don’t care so much about personality, especially when they’re younger. I think that is why you see more guys dating girls who havent got a personality or a brain and less girls dating cocky, gorgeous guys. Our standards just seem to be higher, in general.
I wouldn’t know. Ah, women so enigmatic. Could go out with the ugliest pricks, I tell you…
Ugly in & out.
Oh, maybe.
I think so.
Yes
I think this is true…just a browse through the yahoo personals will show this…the men, in their preferences for who they want to find, are almost always looking for someone younger than themselves (younger = beautiful?) and more often limit themselves to women who are thin or athletic in body type. The women always post a wider age range and much less preference in regards to looks, body type, etc. It shows how shallow many of the men are, and how the women have to settle for “whatever” in regards to looks. Very sad. An interesting anthropological study, however.
Yes – I think it’s more important how a man treats me than what he looks like.
yes
Of course. Most women have the ability to look beyond the physical while men are… well… dogs. We look first to the physical and go from there. I try not to, but it’s a hard habit to break.
Guys are the ones who stare all the time. Soooo… I believe guys are more excepting.
Depends on the person. Some people, be it men or women, are just more superficial than others…and that’s just how it is. I have seen some really attractive men with not-so-attractive women. And my husband it hot and he is with…little ole’ me. So, it just depends. I have to admit, though I am relatively just average looking, looks are pretty important – and just to clarify, it’s not JUST looks. I need the whole package – one that includes looks.
I wouldn’t know. I’m a lesbian BUT I have dated guys that were not all THAT attractive but their personality made up for it.
ok…hopefully I got this right. You are saying women are more accepting of mens looks than men are of women? I think as long as a woman is not obese and has boobs…men are accepting of that. Myself and the women I know, look at the whole package…but if a man lets him self go like gets fat or looks dirty…thats not accepting or attractive bleh…I think married people are more accepting on both sides b/c you grow comfortable w/each other. Being married and recently single…I am looking at the whole pkg…must be decent inside and out LOL.
Good golly YES, we let you men get away with fatness and grossness that you would never tolerate in us….cuz we are nicer than you.
No doubt about it. Old ladies are seen as old ladies. Old men are seen as distinguished looking.
Yeah, I think so.
I think so
Yes, unfortunately. Women tend to look for someone who treats them right, not someone who is necessarily hot (although, I do prefer someone healthy). I would say I am more attractive than my guy, but then again, my personality might not make me so attractive sometimes. : )
Probably so, but there is a migration of women that are becoming more independent and “guy-like”.
yah
haha, yeah i definetely think so
In my experience, yes.
Yes! Or else men would have to wear make-up too!
HAHA No. I think the real question is, on the whole, is EVERYONE more accepting of men’s looks than they are of womens?
Fat men happen, fat women are travesties. Think about it.
ask me if I’m single…grr
yes
absolutely. women seem to be able to look past the surface and are willing to get to know a man better, probably because they are always self-conscious about how they look and don’t want to put that on someone else. men are more visually stimulated and often stop at the surface. every man i know wants to date up, date the best looking woman he possibly can, while all my female friends just want to find a nice, interesting (read ‘not too into himself’) man… looks are seldom in the top five of what we women discuss, but are usually number one in a conversation with men about women.
I think so.
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When i was dating the 5 years before this, after my divorce and before i met my current hubby….i went out with lots of different types of men…looks didn’t matter to me,,,,but men were so critical…they could be bading and have a beer gut and that was okay, but wanted every woman to look like a freaking model….i am over 30….and i have had kids….i have things called hips lol…i would get…you are such a beautiful woman, but you could stand to lose a little weight (yes, guys would actually say this…)
Probably, because men are so visual.
Yes I think so!!
*Ashtin*
no-men ‘ll fuck a tree if they put out (and,well,if they were desperate enough)
yes sometimes
> It varies as to the choice of the person. I do see more females with a wider looks range of guys than vice-versa. I guess men are more willing, in some circles, to adapt the the wants of the women, with the attached bennies…. oh joy!
Peace
Yes.
Definitely.
Absolutely. Men aren’t expected to look good. Women, on the other hand are expected.
YES
Probably so
Good heavens yes.