August 23, 2006
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Weddings
A bride wearing white at a wedding was at one time a symbol that the woman was a virgin. It stood for purity.
Should a woman wear white at her wedding if she is not a virgin?
A bride wearing white at a wedding was at one time a symbol that the woman was a virgin. It stood for purity.
Should a woman wear white at her wedding if she is not a virgin?
Comments (238)
yes
Not if that’s what it stands for.
nopers
sure, women in the past were whores if they showed their ankles and walked around without the company of a man.
It’s time to say buh bye to puritanism
In these times, the whole white dress = virgin thing is outdated. It doesn’t matter what color she wears, really.
Well… honestly… if she wants to keep it a secret from her family… as long as shes honest with her man… then I dont see what the problem is.
it is traditional … i say leave it up to her.
no
yes! haha i am!
Should she wear blood red and announce to the world that her cherry has been popped?!
She should if she wants to keep with tradition. But nowadays I don’t think it really matters. An off-white could be just as beautiful.
Unfortunately, I think we’d have a lot of colorful weddings if they didn’t.
I’ll be a virgin when I marry… so I’ll wear white. But I think it’s okay for non-vigins to as well. A bride doesn’t really need everyone in the audience gossiping about her as she walks down the aisle.
I think they should maybe go for an off shade of white. That way it still realitively traditional.
She should be burned if she is not a virgin!!
yes she should.
nah. it defeats the purpose. but i guess it’s her choice. so she should do what she wants.
Why not?
buts that is just if you leave and base in on the symbolism…
otherwise, I really do not care….
So long as she is pure of heart and true to the marriage, she should wear white.
(Or, in my case, red.)
I don’t think it means that anymore. Just about every bride seems to wear white. Someone shouldn’t feel that they have to wear a different color, because they’re not a virgin, but I think they should lose their virginity after their wedding.
Oh, come on. What difference does what the bride wear? She’ll be committed to her partner for life, so whatever the dress she wears is what she’ll have to live with in the photo’s. White’s just a fashion statement in the world of weddings, not a stance on the woman’s hymen or not.
’nuff said….
No, that privilege is only reserved for virgins…or else it’s just unfair.
She shouldn’t be fat if she’s wearing white.
I would normally say no, but now I don’t think it’s taken into consideration by a lot of people. There are some people who are still virgins who are actually opting not to wear the original white gown. So I think that whole thing has in some sense gone by the wayside or whatever that saying is….
I think she could just wear whatever color she wants to. Me? I’m going with off-white, probably. It’s traditional enough without washing out my complexion.
-Guru on the Hill
Bring on the black
she should wear whatever she likes. Especially if she feels that its more fashionable to wear white.. Its her big day..
No.
my grandma says no but i say do what ever you feel like
The wedding is ultimately about what the man and the woman being married want. If they want to wear whatever color (like blue with pink poka dots and purple stripes)- as long as they can forfeit the $, it should be fine. The white is a symbol of purity(among other things too), but who are we to judge? It isn’t about anyone but the couple- let them choose.
I don’t think that there should be a public inquiry of virginity, but I hope, if I get married, that my wife wears white.
Well the white is just traditional now I guess, plus that would kill the white wedding dress industry.
If she wants, but if someone – or a lot of people – know that she isn’t, be prepared for some looks or teasing.
Who gives a crap. But 1/2 my dress was periwinkle colored lace just in case people would judge a slut like me.
And why should said chick’s sex life be any business to the rest of the whole world? Because if she’s wearing an off-white dress, that is what people will think. And it ain’t no one’s business but her own. If she wants to wear white, then let her. Most traditions are obsolete and lame anyway.
I agree with Lattany.
oh i think that is silly! brides should wear whatever they want.
if people followed that rule, there would be VERY few brides who actually wore white.
As much as I like the tradition, it seems to have lost its meaning.
No, that privilege is only reserved for virgins…or else it’s just unfair.
Posted 8/23/2006 at 10:35 PM by Fat_P3NGU1N
OMG us non-virgins are taking away your god-given right to wear an ugly white wedding dress on the day that is the first step to divorce court! ONLY virgins should wear white! ONLY!
I’m wearing a white top now and I’m no virgin. Sorry if that offends you!
I shall take it off immediately!
I don’t think it matters….. tis life. White can stand for the purity of the love she has for her husband…..
I’d say that what she wears to her wedding should be the LEAST of her worries! Even if she’s the biggest hoochie this side of hell…no reason to make her announce it to the world or the remaining few who didn’t know that. Besides, if her husband is willing to marry her, he probably knows what color she really is…know what I mean?
It’s up to the bride… I’ve known virgin brides to wear colors other than white for their wedding or even, gasp! pants.
personally, i want to wear white and mean it, but it’s completely up to the bride. what if she doesn’t want to wear white?
it’s her wedding… i think she should do whatever she wants
I think that is strictly up to the bride and groom only.
Theoretically yes, but not too many people keep up with traditions.
i say no. my mom wasn’t a virgin, and she didnt wear white.
it’s her wedding, she can wear whatever the fuck she wants to wear.
she can wear her birthday suit for all i care! actually…that would be pretty interesting.
when people fight the fact that times are changing, terrible things happen.
I say wear what you want. It really stands for that no longer… although it would be cool if it did.
Justus
I feel that the tradition is rather outdated, it is not something that really fits this time period, I am not a virgin, but I will wear white at my wedding. however, I am thinking of wearing hot pink undergarments.
Sure. Her sex life isn’t her in-laws’ business. If she doesn’t wear white, the groom shouldn’t be allowed to wear white under his suit. Why does it only matter if a woman isn’t a virgin?
Now-a-days, who is still a virgin? Or would want to be? I say you better test drive that thing, or else you will have a long, boring life–or you’ll be divorced. Wear what you want it’s your day!
Have you already asked the “is premarital sex bad” question?
And I think it doesn’t really matter nowadays. White’s just the wedding color. Or “colour” if you want to be cool and stuff.
I think it all comes down to if she feels white means virgin or not. Nowadays it’s just standard to wear white regardless. I think any bride should wear white if they chose to, but if it means to them a symbol that they’ve waited..all the better. If not, it’s just a colour.
i think she should wear what ever she wants… its her wedding…
Oh come on do you really think the women in the old days who were NOT virgins went to their wedding in red or black? Exactly. Just because there are less virgins today doesn’t mean that the non-virgins in the old days didn’t cheat the system as well.
I think white is o.k. for the first (and hopefully only) wedding….it’s the wearing a white gown for the third and fourth weddings that I don’t get.
Nope because she is no longer pure.
the words, “WAS AT ONE TIME a symbol that the woman was a virgin,” give the answer. “was at one time” does not mean “at this time”. If the symbol does not currently apply (in culture), then I do not believe it matters.
I didn’t even know that… I suppose she shouldn’t, if she thought that it meant something. Me, I will be a virgin before I’m married, but I might wear a color anyways. Colors are what’s in now anyways.
I was just at a wedding where they played “My Humps”…tradition has flown the coop!!!!! BTW….just what are lovely lady lumps???
…and advertise on her wedding day to everyone that she’s not a virgin? >_<
yes; you are beginning something on a level ground with your mate.
that should count.
I think they should still wear white. I don’t like the idea of a woman walking down the isle with a bright blue dress. White is just a wedding color. (If you had to, change it to pastels or something.)
No. . .I think it should be a symbol of purity. I will wear white at my wedding, and I will have deserve to wear white.
I think it is up to the bride, but maybe brides who are not virgins should wear big red A’s accross their chests and then instead of rice we should throw stones or lit matches.
I think she should be able to wear red if she wants to.
…eh In the long run I say that it’s the bride’s choice
It is pretty much lying. But most people are ignorant to the symbolism of weddings. Few would even consider how it relates to God’s plan for the ages. Not that anybody would ever be indterested in the greatest love story ever.
Who cares? The wedding industry is such a scam and a waste of money anyway. Your closest friends and family already know your character. Putting on a dress or tux of a certain color won’t fool them into thinking you are something that you aren’t. Just put on the best duds that you have and save all that money for something REALLY important.
The symbolism behind the white dress is wonderful, but I’m not a big fan of symbols. If you want to say something, just say it, then live it. The wedding service provides plenty of opportunities to make a statement; take advantage of that. Don’t just recite vows – mean them. If purity is important to you, make sure the pastor mentions that in the sermon. Don’t wear white because everyone else does; do it because it’s what you want to do.
If a bride wants to wear the white dress for the symbolism — great! If someone else wants to wear white for other reasons, whatever. I’m a man. It’s not like I was gonna notice anyway…
These days it’s just a tradition, no one really expects the bride to be a virgin (esp for 2nd or 3rd weddings, etc). But you keep the tradition past the demise of its original intent. Just as the groom still has groomsmen (originally intended to help the groom fight for his bride in case someone tries to steal her away), etc.
i really dont think it matters.
lol, I’m thinking of the surprise it would cause at weddings if the bride came out in red or something to let everyone know she’s not a virgin. Seriously… Just let everyone who wants to wear white wear it…It’s better for the peace of mind of the guests.
since when did weddings become so sacred as they used to be for you to even ask this question?
divorce is at an all time high, so it really doesn’t matter what she wears.
Freedom of choice.
Yes…it’s the tradition of the ceremony not the virginity thats important…’til the next
yes. it’s tradition now.
Her choice, but I don’t think people really believe seriously that “oh she’s wearing white, she must be a virgin” anymore.
yeah, a white two piece bikini with high heels would be nice… assuming she’s a hottie, of course. if not, then a red bedsheet will do.
wouldnt it be a little awkward otherwise?
I think that is up to her and the groom.
I think It’s very traditional to wear white at your wedding regardless if your a virgin or not. It’s completly up to the bride anyways. I will wear a white dress at my wedding if I am a virgin or not. That tradition is long outdated.
She should wear a red dress, like the one Lydia wears in Beetlejuice?
Red meant you were a whore.
Does that mean non-whores shouldn’t wear it now?
Who really cares anymore?
I think most women want to wear white regardless. The real question is, what color Tux does the groom wear? And what if its two grooms, or two brides. I’m not going to be stuck worrying over someones alleged virginity.
yes. now it’s not so much symbolism as it is tradition.
Sure, as long as its her first marriage, all other marriages are ivory not white.
how many virgins are still out there anyway?
She can wear white if she wants. Besides, not all cultures wear white anyway.
No – never pretend to be something you are not.
yes, she bloody well should… if she wants.
and, just for the record, it was standard in western culture for women to wear black at their weddings until Queen Victoria rocked the fasion world in the 19th century by wearing white. We assigned the meaning to it later.
a woman should have her wedding however SHE wants it. Just let her have her fantasy and dream…
I think that yes.. its a tradition, and while our society has moved beyond most being able to wait to marriage, it still symbolizes the pact one takes in marriage.. whats next, men in jeans on the altar.. hmm at least I would have been comfortable!!
Even if she is not a virgin, the white can still stand for purity…like a blank canvas to the marriage. A new start.
a woman should be able to wear whatever color she wants to at her wedding.
Oh, don’t be silly, she can wear whatever colour she damn pleases.
if she wants to, go ahead.
A woman should wear whatever she wants on her wedding day–that day is about her and her husband-to-be…so what if she isn’t a virgin? “Oh…white’s a symbol of purity…women who aren’t virgins shouldn’t really wear it…” Please. Who of us is really ‘pure’? And…most men aren’t virgins on their wedding days…there isn’t ever a question whether or not they should be able to wear tuxedos. Maybe they should dress in jeans and a crappy t-shirt.
I’m not going to wear white.
But not because of my sex life. I’ve always liked ivory or really light cream colored wedding dresses anyway.
it’s a bit much personal info to be displaying to gramps if we showed up in a canary yellow dress…can’t we just pretend for a day? lol…
Yes…If that`s what she wants to do. It`s just a color.:)
I am a traditionalist….white only for virginity…there are plenty of other colors is you are not…such as ivory, pink, come on people….do the right thing….
I am going to earn the white dress…so i dont want someone who’s not a virgin to be wearing it
She can wear whatever she wants but I do think it’s tacky for a woman with like 6 kids to wear white. lol Cream color is ok though.
I got married by the Justice of the Peace at 18 after a long night (and morning) of drinking. I think I wore a blue shirt and black pants. I didn’t do anything white (obvious reasons) and it still didn’t work out.
So I say.. why would it matter? How many people opt for the whole large wedding thing anymore?
She should wear whatever color she wants!!
I don’t think it matters if she’s a virgin or not. Personally, I don’t take a white wedding dress to mean that. Plus, does she really want to put her sexuality on display for everyone to see? That seems kind of dumb. White is a traditional color for wedding dresses, and I think in this day in age it has nothing to do with virginity.
I dunno…my dress was blue.
because sex corrupts??
Well who really wants to tell everyone, “Hey I’ve had sex”? It’s not something women usually want to advertise. Especially at their wedding.lol.
Her wedding, her choice.
Just like losing her virginity.
we would have rather a rainbow for weddings if that was true….virginity is hard to come by.
the color of a wedding dress shouldn’t matter.
if you’re traditional, then do whatever floats your boat.
it’s all matter of personal preference.
unless she was raped then it was her choice and she losses that right end of story
The white dress didn’t even start out as a sing as purity… It started as a symbol of wealth in the Victorian period… it was basically saying “I can afford this huge white dress that will be ruined if I get anything on it and I’ll never wear it again”… only in the last 100 or so years has it turned to symbolize purity… and I personally think it’s up to the Bride.
I’m not sure about that, but I think off white i prettier!
Yes. As you said, “was at one time a symbol.” It no longer is. White simply represents the bride.
as for me I dont care what color my wife wears as long as she has not forefited the right to wear white
A woman should wear whatever she wants on her wedding day… It’s her day….. <3Rachel
It doesn’t matter what color the dress is.
People don’t really associate that meaning with it anymore.
Thats a tough one, the traditional is you wear white to represent you are a virgin , however everyone chooses what they want to wear. I had a child that was 3 and I married 18 years ago and had a huge wedding and I wore a beautiful white dress and the most expensive in the store. Just because I had a child , does not mean when I married I could not wear white. It really is up to the person married. Nowadays more people are having sex before married much less getting out of elementry and having sex.
The bride of Christ will be presented as white and pure through the blood of Jesus. All others really miss the mark and no one is “Qualified” to wear white. That being said, the symbolism of virginity is so wonderful – it should be reserved for only those who have saved this treasure for there husband. In that case, there would be very few white dresses sold – a shame. I would not have been qualified either. If I could go back in time….
Anyway, I have a treasure hunt planned for tomorrow. Would you like to volunteer to hide goodies?
She can wear whatever the hell she wants. It’s HER wedding day. Personally, I think an appropriate color for a wedding would be black….
i think it should be the other way around, virgins should wear red or black. if she waited that long you know she is going to want to fuck as soon as everyone is out of sight… and then she will probley bleed all over her white dress. w/ a non-virgin thats not a issue! lol
but in all fairness, it’s her dress let her pick what color and style!
Wedding dresses (good ones, not the off the rack crap) run in the neighborhood of $2000 upward. If I’m going to spend that much money on a dress I’m going to wear once, it’s going to be whatever color I want it to be.
I don’t know… the color of the dress shouldn’t matter, but neither should women (or men) be having sex before marriage. I’m going to wear ivory simply because white makes me look dead, and for no other reason.
Personally I don’t have a super strong opinion either way. I just know when I got married, it was my second marriage and I felt weird wearing white. Instead I wore a simple, ivory dress with a coat over the top, no veil which also symbolizes purity, I think. I’m sure my family would’ve been fine with me wearing white; I just didn’t want to.
I think that the meaning has gone from purity to simply weddings.. it just doesn’t have that meaning any more.. now, white for a bride is merely tradition.. and somehow, I doubt there are that many virgins out there outraged, saying “HEY! THAT WHORE IS WEARING MY COLOR!!”
My wife was not a virgin when she married me, but I believe she was pure. She had been forgiven both by Christ and me for the sin she committed in her past. So technally she was not a virgin, but she was pure. I had no problem with her wearing white. I think it varies by case, but on the whole, I would say no.
Okay, that came out wrong… what I MEANT was that while the dress doesn’t matter, people having sex before marriage does, and they shouldn’t do it.
Women were supposed to be pure because she was a man’s property, and that’s what he wanted- a nice, pure bride who happened to be good in bed (the good ol’ virgin-whore complex). Women should be able to wear whatever color they want because the antiquated values of a society shouldn’t matter in this. It’s a woman’s choice. We’re using values which don’t always have a place in our society.
And anyways, who the hell would enforce who wore what color?
Well, white isn’t just white anymore. It’s all the shades of it and every other tone in-between it. So it doesn’t really matter what color it is for as long as the couple’s marriage is based on real love and done for that very reason.
You betcha! Absolutely!
Why not!
These days you’re lucky to find a virgin at 15.
Marriage at 13 sounds about right in the 1920′s.
White worked well back in the day.
Who really cares anymore?
“Do the right thing”? Oh, please. Whether or not you think it’s a sin to have sex before marriage, it’s not “wrong” to wear white if you’re not a virgin! Don’t act like this is robbing a bank or murdering someone. Have you ever worn braids in your hair? Did you know that braids used to be a symbol of prostitution? OMG … I must be a prostitute right now. News to me.
And good point about bleeding all over her white dress, hahahahha.
I think that it’s completely up to her.
Women can wear what they please at their wedding.
as for me I dont care what color my wife wears as long as she has not forefited the right to wear white
Posted 8/24/2006 at 6:54 AM by bclmj
There’s such a thing as forgiveness, you know… your wife won’t be perfect, just like you aren’t perfect. If we’re all flawed people, then technically nobody has the right to wear white. You are no more pure than the girl you will marry, virgin or not.
Well, I would say dye manufacturers would LOVE if non-virgins stopped wearing white dresses, but you have to consider you can’t generalize the situation necessarily. Pretend for a moment we’re not speaking of those who sleep around so much their husbands won’t feel a thing on their wedding night. First of all, rape would be a loss of virginity, but should that be turned into “shame” at having to be gossiped about when wearing a colored dress? And what of girls thatin a moment of indescression gave themselves away to their boyfriend they had been with for years, thinking he was the one she would marry, realizes her mistake,and then waits until marriage. All make mistakes, should a woman be “punished” for said mistake because of tradition?
actually, the white dress tradition started in the victorian era when Queen Victoria wore white at her wedding. So then it was fashionable to wear a white wedding gown. Then, in my opinion, a bunch of old ladies with nothing better to do made up the rule that a white dress=a virgin. So then it became that if you wore a white gown you were a virgin. But, I hate wearing white! So, even though I’m planning on being a virgin when I’m married, I’m gonna wear whatever color gown I chose!
veronica
White symbolizes the purity of the bride of Christ that comes through His purification. So I think it boils down to another question; should non-Christians participate in a ceremony that is ordained to reflect Christ and the Church?
If it’s her first wedding – then yea, but the decision is solely up to her. What was I supposed to do? Where a black dress so his 80 year old grandmother could see that we had already slept together? lol. A lot of weddings now a days aren’t really based on traditions – some parts of it might be, but they’re really changing from what they used to be. It’s just not as taboo anymore if a bride walks down the isle not a virgin.
Where I went to high school we had a tradition where every spring we would celebrate May Day. The fourth grade girls would get dressed up and wind the may pole symbolizing fertility. Then the senior girls would walk through arches of lilacs made by the 9th, 10th, and 11th graders. And one senior girl would be voted May Queen – which she had to wear white symbolizing she was a virgin (but of course they never were, ha). Back in the old, old days traditionally the May Queen would be burned and her ashes would be spread along the fields within’ the town and it would be in hopes of a good harvest. Of course, unfortunately, the burning was done away with – lol. But anyways, this is just to show that just because wearing white is “supposed” to symbolize virginity – it’s just not the case anymore.
RYC: You are too funny!
Hm, I thought if t was your first time getting married you wear white. Every time after that you have to wear a different color, like cream or something? I dunno,
i think its a matter of personal preference; i’d go with whatever colour was most flattering : )_~
The symbol has lost its meaning–she can wear whatever color she wants until a new symbolic convention is adopted and recognized.
as long as her heart is pure. you shouldn’t be deemed unpure just because you aren’t a virgin
I think a lot of the wedding traditions are very silly. If the bride wants to wear white, then let her wear white.
Of course, as I figured out at my own wedding, it really isn’t about you, or you as a couple. The wedding is for your family and friends (and they have lots of expectations). We broke some traditions, and kept others–some because we wanted to, others because it would have created too much of an uproar if we did break them.
And really, I just wanted to share the moment with family and friends, not create an argument.
only is she’s a whore
I think that wearing white should be a sign a woman is a virgin, but every woman (whether they are or aren’t) think that it’s the tradition to wear white at a wedding regardless…. Oh and the same thing goes for the veil. Doesn’t the veil down mean that she’s still a virgin and if she wears the veil up it means she’s not? I don’t remember, but I think traditions don’t hold the standard they used to.
So I guess it would be no. I would wear black to my wedding… I’ll be dying to a lot of men who probably wanted to date me. HAHA. Yeah right.
yeah why not?
No offense to anyone but *sigh*…honestly people…who cares? It’s HER wedding day, she wears whatever she wants =__=;; Pure or not I don’t see how this affects the options of whether she can wear white or not <_<…besides, I think white gown has lost its symbolism of ‘purity’ already.
Not really… tradition is tradition. Off white would be better I think.
Should she buy a blue one and tell the whole world she’s not a virgin?
If she wants to keep with tradition, she could go by that. But honestly no one really pays that much attention anymore. It’s her wedding. If she wants a white dress, then give her a freaking white dress.
It’s her choice…….no one else’s.
If I answered this question, I’d ruffle some feathers…
I did! I mean really, who wears a pink or red or some other color of dress to their own wedding? Well some people do. But not most! My aunt wore a white gown to her second wedding…in which her two children walked her down the aisle.
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I’m suddenly thinking about Madea’s Family Reunion (play version) were Madea said she got married in all black because she was a “straight up you know what”. lol I don’t think it matters either way. Let the bride wear what she wants. It’s her day.
The woman should wear what she wants.
I think white should be reserved only for virgins. It defeats the purpose if non-virgins clad themselves in the same color for the sake of deluding their families or friends. In fact, if they even decide to do so, the act itself is rather trivial.
Yes. She should wear anything she wishes. The world is changing and too bad for tradition
People wore veils so that they wouldn’t be kidnapped on the way to their wedding. That has nothing to do with it now. Who cares?
Because I have been raised with that tradition in my head I always wonder about it when I see it…My personal opinion is leave the white for tradition (i.e. virgins)
it is just a little more special when you know that the couple have saved themselves, completely for each other. i guess a color doesn’t seem to do that kind of commitment justice, but it is nice.
This is a lame question. The sexual experience of the bride and groom is no one’s business except the bride and groom. Why would anyone EVER publicly announce their virginal status at a wedding??? White used to be a tradition announcing your virginity. That tradition is LONG gone. It is now simply a traditional beautiful color to be married in.
White, blue, red, black…the bride can wear whatever she pleases. It’s her day; she deserves it.
I don’t think you should wear white if you’re not a virgin because of what the white is supposed to symbolize. Of course if everyone did that there would be a lot colored wedding dresses around
lol…I’ve seen women who have babies get married in white…geesh…who cares nowadays…
She should be able to wear any color that she wants:)
Well. If its made in that condition, No. Because if she’s a virgin it singles her out…
If she wants to. I probably wouldn’t, but far be it from me to tell someone what to wear at her own wedding.
I don’t think many people care about what color your dress is anymore. If you’re worried about being traditional at your wedding then chances are you’re a virgin anyway, eh?
It’s 2006. A white dress equalling virginity is far out-dated.
no that would be like lying
If I see a woman with a wedding dress any other color then white, I have to wonder if she fooled around before getting married. I think white stands for purity, and that if you are a virgin, you should wear white, otherwise, you lost your chance.
A woman should wear whatever she wants. He sexual status is no one else’s business. How primitive.
Why don’t we just mark everyone who has ever been divorces with a bright red letter “D” while we’re at it. Does the public deserve to know?
umm well since we arent in the scarlet letter days…..
I say the bride should just get to pick a pretty color, no matter if she’s a virgin or not. if she wants white, that’s cool, if she wants another color, that’s cool too. it shouldn’t matter.
I think that a bride should wear whatever makes her feel special and beautiful.
Tradition is not followed anymore.
Peepol these days dont know whut`s the true meaning & they act like they do know.
If I wasnt a virgin, I wouldnt wear white … Instead, I`d wear a light light light silver =)
only if the groom has to announce his status through his clothing as well
yes!!!
should you exist? no!
i dont think so. white has always been a traditional symbol of purity. wear cream or ivory or some other color.
technically a white wedding dress does not mean the bride is a virgin. it means that it is the brides first marriage. *i found this out from miss manners*
i guess in this day and age .. no one really notices any more ..
a white gown has kind of become tradition whether or not the wearee is a virgin or not ..
when i get married though, i dont want a white gown, i want a red or a black one
I think it should be the bride’s personal choice, whether or not she is a virgin, and everyone else should just stay out of it.
I was thinking about that just the other day. I would normally say no, but then what if the person isn’t a virgin and they don’t want family and friends to know, especially if they’re very religious and believe in saving yourself for marriage. So I think that they should be able to wear whatever color they like.
Yeah. Who cares?!
Well personally, I’m going to wear white when I get married one day because I am saving myself for marriage. I think many people still do follow that tradition, but I know some women just like the off-white dresses more. So I think if you want to have that symbolic thing, go ahead, but it isn’t to be assumed that a woman who wears a white dress is a virgin, and that a woman who doesn’t wear one isn’t.
Ya know what, Dan? I think the inanities are getting to me. Who cares?
Another case of the guilty usurping what isn’t theirs. Oh well, what can you expect in a world such as this.
no. but people dont pay attention to tradition anymore. i am and plan to be a virgin on my wedding day but i don’t know if i’ll want to wear white
no… I wore “ivory”
I don’t think it’s important. Besides, the dress could also symbolize pure enough love to get married.
it’s up to her.
who cares?
I STRONGLY believe that you should ba a virgin ’till AFTER your married so I will be wearing white at my wedding I don’t know about anyone else.
i think it’s such a tradition by now to wear white that people will keep on doing it, even if they are not a virgin. i personally see nothing wrong with it.
@Fat_P3NGUIN: “or else it’s just unfair” wtf?! Unfair to whom?
I didnt know that that was the symbol.
I thought you only wore white if it was your first wedding.
but– I dont know.
If thats what it stands for, then no. Dont wear white.
-k
why in the world would you wear white to declare you are a virgin? take into consideration that her family is there, and it weren’t as if the mom and pop wanted to know she fooled with another man before her marriage. i think you should wear whatever color you want.
She should be able to wear whatever colour you wish, it’s her wedding!
If she wants. Purity and virginity are not the same thing. Rape people; think about it. Etc.
A woman who is not a virgin is a hypocrite if she wears white on her wedding day. That’s not a sign of honesty, or commitment — things I would expect spouses to value in each other before they approach the altar. No wonder there is such high incidence of divorce these days (research does show this, and that cohabitation is also poison to a marriage).
Nowadays, a bride can wear purple with polka dots if she wants to….I think it is more a matter of style and taste than one of morality, telling the world she is a virgin.
HA. Now adays, if anyone took that into consideration while choosing their wedding dress, you would go to VERY FEW weddings where the bride wheres a white dress. Besides, when I get married, I’m wearing a black wedding dress, whether I’m a virgin or not.
-KrIsTiN-
not if that’s what it stands for
hmmm i guess she could wear whatever color she wants ..but what does it really stand for?!
yes, for tradition’s sake.
Who gives a s*it! A woman should wear whatever she wants!
The color means alot to some people and nothing at all to other. Same thing with the type of flowers, the food, the music, the hair even the shoes. I think that weddings are something that of late have been made to big a deal of. A wedding is something special between two people, not the whole world, and what ever they decide should be what happens.
yes.
Christy
it depends on how much being pure means to that woman…If she honestly hates the fact that she had sex before marriage, then no she shouldn’t. But if she doesn’t care, it doesn’t really matter.
Yes..
What, you go to a wedding, see a woman wearing a dress that is a color other than white…
“Oh my! She isn’t a virgin?! How horrible!”
Pffffft.
A bride can wear any colour she wants, including white… but we can’t deny the symbolism. If you’re going to wear white because it’s traditional, than that means you want to where it for it’s meaning… meaning virginity. Let’s all embrace reality and stop denying that we’ve all sexually liberated ourselves.
I think it just depends on the woman. Wear what youwant.
A woman who is not a virgin is a hypocrite if she wears white on her wedding day. That’s not a sign of honesty, or commitment — things I would expect spouses to value in each other before they approach the altar. No wonder there is such high incidence of divorce these days (research does show this, and that cohabitation is also poison to a marriage).
Posted 8/24/2006 at 7:05 PM by living_embers
Quite a stupid assumption to make. Half of all marriages end in divorce. That includes Christians and atheists alike. People who never had sex before marriage and people who had 10 sex partners each. That includes people who lived together before they tied the knot, and people who didn’t.
The reason there is such a high divorce rate is because people marry for “love” instead of compatibility and people think that one fight is the end of everything. Nothing to do with virginity or cohabitation. Seeing as 60something % of people in the US claim to be some sort of Christian and yet we have 1 out of every marriage ending in divorce, that would kinda discredit your argument now, wouldn’t it? Eh?
And one doesn’t need to be a virgin in order to commit to another human being. That is not a gift given exclusively to virgins.
God, people make me L-O-L with their stupidity and lack of logic.
I have to agree with Don_Cauchi.
Wait– then why does the groom wear black?!
BTW– “Half of all marriages end in divorce,” but where’s the documentation of this? It’s actually an urban legend.
well i think it should be up to the bride.but i always wanted to wear a light blue color.Blue looks great on me.plus by time i get married i doubt i be a virgin.but not like i dont want to but i kinda already not one.
well nowadays its not considered to stand for purity, so its not a bad ting if soemone does wear it when they arent a virgin.
I think it has became a symbol of marriage, symbols change
yea i guess
I think Lattany is probably right in her comment
it’s her opinion
It used to be traditional to be a virgin until the wedding ceremony, and traditional, also, for a bride to wear white. The confusion is only evident, in the controversy, itself. Those who are unfortunate to get raped, and lose their virginity, should be allowed to wear white. Also, anyone that wants to wear a white bridal gown at her wedding, should be allowed to wear white at her wedding. There should not be a question over it in the first place. Let’s not make it such an evident thing, that the bride is ascerting that whe is virginal, and whether she actually has a right to wear white. Dan, I did not know you were so opinionated as you seem to be lately. In fact, I don’t trust that you are DAN. I do not want to write on your site, anymore. I can’t come up with an opinion on some of those negative viewpoints you ascert with your quetions. You’re not Trusty. Bye. … Maren (Sandy) Sanders
If it’s one of those old, old traditions, I say who cares.
This is NOT a comment on whether or not it is right not to be a virgin at your wedding.
Personal belief = not.
(Or at least it wasn’t a comment on that)
Nope.
That’s take back / reclaim the tru meaning…
That is, “Let’s take back / reclaim…”
[That's so weird that I subconsciously, incorrectly stated that previous statement...]