October 16, 2006
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Coat
Imagine for a minute that you are a dad. Imagine that you have a 2-year old daughter. Imagine that you had to go pick her up. Imagine that when you went to pick her up that her coat was mixed in with three other coats.
Are you a inattentive father if you can’t figure out which coat is your daughter’s coat?
Comments (174)
No
I’m not.
I’m a highschool student.
can you distinguish your wife’s bra from other women’s?
Nah, I don’t think so.
meh….i dont know, i would say no but i would be prb pissed if my husband didnt know
no, i dont think so.
Which is not to say that a highschool student can be an inattentive father. But you simply asked the question as to whether I am or am not. And I am not.
P.S.
Fix your grammatical error.
Uh oh. Dan, did you forget what coat your daughter wore???
No, I don’t think so.
All kids coats look the same. Sometimes I have a hard time finding my own coat.
I would just grab any random one.
Nah, not so much. I mean as long as the jacket at least fits… it’s okay to mix them up. hah.
Crap. I misread the question.
No. One is not inattentive for not noticing the color of the coat. One is inattentive for not knowing which kid is their’s.
You’re tired of me by now, but I answered the question, so I must say…
FIRST!!!
No, My dad would’ve known which coat is mine because he picked out my coats as a kid =)
NO, I don’t think so.
I will probably know my daughter’s coat from all the other coats out there.
hmm, this is quite random
It depends on if you were the one that put the jacket on her this morning or not.
Nah
course not, i’d yell over at my daughter and demand her to know which coat is hers because she is psychic and would know these things.
If there is a distinct colour difference from the rest of the coats then yes, but you are a dad, and males don’t notice detail as much as females, all in all it’s okay I think
~Lynds
I wouldn’t say so. Like I can’t figure out which handwriting is mine anymore. It doesn’t mean that I am an inattendive host.
The Fruit That Ate Itself
In my house you are dammit…..just kidding Dan….I don’t know…
Candy
It’s bad. But mixing the kids up would be worse.
In a way yes, however there are more important things then a small matter. But it might mean a lot to the child.
no. the easy way out is to have her come get it
nah, guys aren’t so observant. at least my husband isn’t. especially if they have more than one, it’s kinda hard to keep track.
If you have a daughter and you pick up a boys coat then, yes there is a problem, lol. A smart parent would write the childs name or initials on the tag… :p
nope. you should slow down and pay more attention though
I wouldn’t worry about it too much
um, no! besides, it’s usually the wife that dresses the kid!
No, not definitely. It doesn’t help, but it is excusable.
well, i could if i had two other sons that were in highschool
wait
No, little girls usually have more than one coat. & there is more than one of each type of coat manufactured.
That is all
Not nessisarily.
ummmmmmmmmm…if they were mixed in with 2 of her friends’ coats?
haha! heck no, they all look the same to me. i’d prolly pick up the wrong kid, too
No, I don’t think so. Especially if those coats look alike.
No.
I guess it depends, if all three coats are the same or very similar, then really, it’s hard to always be able to tell them apart. However, if your daughters coat is pink, and you bring her home in a black coat, or something like that, then, yes, you are rather unattentive. Although, I suppose alot of men aren’t in tune with those kinds of distinctions. A coat is a coat…
No your a man father. Good for you. lol. Its not a big deal, it wont matter in a day what oclor coat she wore, jsut remember her first words, and her name… oh and DO NOT let her date boys, or girls til she is married.
Ask the daughter. Even if she’s only 2 she knows which coat is hers!
I have a hard time distinguishing between a roofy and a contraceptive.
Depends on how many coats she has, where they were purchased, and who dressed her before dropping her off.
It is hard to keep track…I’ll bet your daughter could tell you EXACTLY which one is hers, though.
No- he should just look in the coat to find the one with his daughters name in it, put there by “Mom”…
No.
no. I bet the kid couldn’t find her own either…not if they looked the same. Now, if they were totally different, that would be a different matter.
not really.
not a bad dad, but definitely not so observant.
it depends. if you saw her put it on, and it’s bright orange and the others are black, then there might just be somethin wrong with ya…
My husband would definitely not know which…except that I label our kids stuff, so he’d know to lookfor our kid’s name.
No it just means you’re a guy.
Woops. Didn’t finish. But I don’t necessarily think he’s inattentive – maybe they all look the same. Maybe he had a bad day…maybe he didn’t drop off…:shrug:
nah
My dad never could. Hmm maybe…
no, only if you couldn’t figure out which daughter is yours…
Everyone pays attention to different things. I would pay attention to that because I am quite obsessive compulsive and I would want to know all identifying characteristics of my daughter when I sent her to school so I could get a description out that was accurate should anything happen.
I would know which coat.
Her favorite TV show? huh?
Nah, not necessarily, especially if you didn’t put the coat on her in the morning. There are worse things you could mix up, lol.
No. Men don’t pay attention to that sort of thing. And plus, it’s likely he didn’t buy the coat anyway. And…why isn’t the child telling the father which coat is hers? I would expect my child to know.
as long as you bring the right child home, it’s a start.
I honestly think that’s why people write their child’s names in articles of clothing like coats. Chances are, even if you could pick out your child’s coat, there is going to be someone else with the identicle coat.
Hey, Dan, did you pick up your daughter and had to find her coat? LOL
Depends… haha. Were they all the same? If yes, then probably not. If they’re different, then I’d say so. lol
Nah. Most women would recognize it right off the bat, but men don’t typically pay attention to whether their kid’s coat is the one with the blue buttons or the brown ones.
Not at all.
nope, you’re just a man.
Nope. What makes you a inadequate father is if you didn’t notice that your child didn’t HAVE a coat.
That’s what my Dad would do!
no, i do with my own stuff, so it has to be expected…………
No. There are a lot of small children who have the same — or very similar – coats.
-Guru on the Hill
haha, that’s great. not really, unless the 3 coats in question are markedly different, especially in color. i used to work with kids a lot, you’d be surprised how much parents (and the kids!) did not know about what belonged to their kids and what didn’t (and, sometimes, what they thought belonged to them and didn’t!!).
No. all little kid stuff looks the same. I had a hard enough time just figuring out which coat was *mine* back when I was young.
Imagine for a minute that you are a dad. Imagine that you have a 2-year old daughter. Imagine that you had to go pick her up. Imagine that when you went to pick her up that her coat was mixed in with three other coats.
Are you a inattentive father if you can’t figure out which coat is your daughter’s coat?
Personally, I don’t think there is enough information here. Ok the daughter’s caot is mixed in with three other coats. Are all four coats exactly the same style, color, patter and size? If so then of course it would be hard to distinguish which coat is your daughter’s coat, unless there is something distinctive about your daughter’s coat, such as a specific stain, a certain button missing, etc. Otherwise it would be hard to distinguish which was your daughter’s. However, if all four of the coats are the same size but different styles and colors and you still didn’t know which one was your daughter’s, then, get a clue, you are most definatly not paying much attention to your daughter, and that my dear is a bad thing. If you can’t pay attention to small things like that how in the hell can you handle major issues when she becomes a teen. I have a 15 year old boy, 13 year old girl and 10 year old boy… it’s not easy being a parent to teens nowadays. A parent must be involved and must pay attention at all times.
Yes, Dan! In *my* house you sure would be.
I don’t think so. lol.
Ahaha no, I don’t really think so. Guys don’t really seem to notice that type of thing, at least in my experience…
No, not at all. I used to teach preschool and believe me, when parents are trying to deal with getting everything together, including their child in a whole mess of other parents and kids, something is bound to be either forgotten or overlooked. Did you figure out which one was hers?
No. o___o Sometimes I get my OWN jacket mixed up.
depends-
maybe she got it with my wife, and she just wore it that day, so i never saw it before.
if she had been wearing it for the past 2 years, maybe you can say i am.
Pretty much yes.
Teach your daughter to pick up her own coat!
No- but, my mom always wrote my name on the tag for just such an occasion as that, (or if i lost it.)
Yes.
Awwwwhhh HELL you lost me at “magine for a minute that you are a dad.”
Lets RIde Bikes!
XoxoxoX
Jane
only if it has her name on it
Inattentive to detail obviously but not necessarily an inattentive father.
No. Not in my case anyway. I don’t have to imagine very hard, because I have 3 kids and one of them is close to that very age. The reason I personally don’t think so is that they all have massive amounts of clothes. I do that because I try to give them what I didn’t have growing up, and I enjoy it through them.
Men dont usually pay attention to such details.
No. That’s why putting the kid’s name on the tag is a good idea.
I’m not a father.
no thats what the mother is for
Im a female, so I would be the mother to the child and after buying the coat, have the name of the child put into the jacket. A dad probably would not figure out which jacket is his childs. The child is 2
Haha this couldn’t be referring to you could it? I honestly couldn’t pick out my family member’s coats so maybe that makes me insensitive. Peace. Pete.
No, You’re just a normal male parent.
No!
If common sense prevails the coats will soon have correct claimants.
On the other hand, if you fail to recognise your daughter, I might vote in the positive!!
no, straight men don’t usually pay attention to clothes, other than white shirt-red shirt, instead of white t-shirt and a red v-neck sweater with quarter length sleeves
Yes.
Yes.
And the correct answer is this:
It depends on how often your wife buys new clothes for your daughter.
Well the key to my answer is that the child is 2 years old. At 2 i would have to say someone is wrestling that child into a coat routinely. So unless it is a new coat then i would say yes, maybe dad needs to tend to the children a bit more frequently. (-:
no your not inaffectionate but just unobservant
I would be able to tell. but I tend to pay more attention to detail than even my girlfriend does.
RYC: Ah, ok. That is pretty funny, but if it does ever happen to you, know it’s perfectly ok.
Or you could check the tag for the name. Moms pretty much always put it on there. And thanks for your good wishes; it’s pretty miserable around here. Me and the little guy are really sick, but luckily my husband is ok.
You fascinate me! You ask a question about coats and get over 100 responses!!! Whoa baby! By the way…you never answered my question…would YOU rather be 5 inches taller or 5 inches shorter?
Nope
nah, they have other things to worry about having a two year old.
Plus they care enough about their daughter to come pick her up and give her a coat.
Nah, just a regular guy.
I would think I could pick out my kids coat but don’t worry. You won’t have to pick her up as much if you come home with the wrong coat and call her by a strange name. It worked for me.
No.
[ariana]
No. Ask a girl what her sister or brother wore to school that day. Bet you that 9/10 times she has no idea, or it takes her awhile to remember.
Something like that is so minor it doesn’t matter. If you forget her birthday however…
As long as you know which one’s your daughter, you’re good to go.
Yes.
no.
Nope. Guys aren’t all that attentive, especially to what people are wearing.
no, it would probably just mean that his stupid wife has bought way too many clothes for the kid.
Not at all. That’s why my mom had iron-in name tags for all my uniforms, sweaters and coats when I was little.
No. Some girls aren’t even that observant.
If a tree falls in the woods, does anyone care?
Nah, I could see that happening.
hmmm i think yes u would be because u should know it somewhat especially if there are only three choices where can u get confused?
no
Who cares. Take the best one, put it on your kid and boot it out of there.
Who knows.
yes you are, of course writing her name inside the coat somewhere also isn’t cheating
“Are you AN inattentive… “
Yes, you are. Its been on your child, its not like they can keep up with it- you SHOULD know.
hahaha
one time my neice had her 2nd birthday party at chuckie cheeses. And we put all the coats on a table. And when we left there was an extra coat so we had them lock the place down and search the bathrooms and the parking lots and get the police there because we thought someone stole a 3 yr old..
turns out someone had put a coat on our table by accident
>< durr…
that was embarraassing.
for group birthday parties always leash the kids and make them wear dayglow
lol no, you should have asked her which coat was hers.
No, I can’t remember what I am wearing half the time, much less what my family is wearing. So long as the father doesn’t try to take her outside in the cold without a coat, he is probably doing great. That is the important detail.
No, dads don’t pay attention to something like that! Why, did you get in ‘trouble’ on this?!!!
the daughter should know what coat is hers…
Haha. In a way, yeah. Little things matter more to the younger kids.
No, it does not make a parent inattentive.
sometimes i wonder about all your hypothetical questions…. any personal experience behind them…?
Buy your daughter a peacoat. They’re so cute and classy and CLASSIC. I wear one.
Since you probably hadn’t seen her for a couple hours, it’s understandable. You picked the right kid, right? That’s the important part.
Now if you lost her at the mall and then couldn’t remember ten minutes later what she had been wearing, that would be inattentiveness.
Umm…….I’m not really sure what Inattentive means at the moment, and I don’t really feel like looking it up, so I guess you get no answer from me on this one, lol.
-KrIsTiN-
Hell yes.
not neccessarily
are they all not the same these days??????? just make shure its got the gun you gave the kid inside the inside pocket. if it is a different gun then keep going through jackets until you get to your kids gun…………..
you might be inattentive, but it has nothing to do with being a father. i’ve had the experience of trying to figure out which of 3 almost identical london fog raincoats was mine, as well as trying to pick my husband’s charcoal gray top coat out of a rack of similar ones at many a church function.
the trick is to sew a label into the coat, or put a distinctive scarf or gloves in the pocket of the coat. that way there is some “identifying mark”
No, I don’t think so
I mean, it depends on how similar or dissimilar the coats are
And how often your daughter wears that particular coat
QUOTE: You fascinate me! You ask a question about coats and get over 100 responses!!! Posted 10/16/2006 at 6:11 PM by dancingqueenjanine END QUOTE
INDEED! Sometimes I talk about some really deep issues in my blog and I’m lucky, really lucky, to get 5 comments and 4 of those are usually my 3 kids and my significant other! LMAO! But then again I don’t blog for an audiance, but rather get vent and get stuff off my mind and/or sort my thoughts and emotions.
i would rather a husband who kneww what his daughter was wearing than not
Yes. The State should take your children away for sure…
There are honest mistakes. My hope would be that one of the parents had the forethought to mark their initials on the tag, but then that might lead to someone trying to identify your child. No good answer. I guess we always tried to buy coats that stood out, or else we put a keychain on the zipper that we could identify.
just ask your daughter..:P
-Jacob
not neccessarily
only if it was a very distinctive coat.
My mom made that mistake once, and she’s the one who picked out my coat.
Nope, thats when you say, baby, put on your coat. You better hope your two year-old is bright enough to know which coat is hers or be prepared to hear about it from you wife later.
Naw.
No, you’re just a man.
I wouldn’t really know how I’d be as a male. I’m pretty attentive toward detail, and I’m too lazy to wear my glasses, so I recognize people by their clothes. I actually recited people’s outfits of an entire week once. But I have met a couple of guys who do pay attention to fashion and things.
But I guess not since I wouldn’t want my dad shopping for me, so I wouldn’t expect a dad to know the difference between his daughter’s coats and her peers’ coats.
Well…I that would depend on if you were the one who put the jacket on your daughter that morning.
And it were my husband, he should know that I put our last name on the tag that’s in the jacket. So he could just check that.
Hehehe
no, it just defines you as a guy.
Yup. Mine would have tried them all on her and took the one that fit the best.
I use a sniffer dog.
It depends how long she has had the coat. Is it the same coat she wore last year? Has she been wearing it this year every day for the past month? if either of those questions are yes, then you lose. Sorry.
Yes.
What did your wife say?!
No…good grief….sew in a name tag!
Yes! It’s about time Dad cared about his little princess!
Yes- you should always know what your child is wearing
Absoutely
I mean, absolutely.
I’m having a good day if I remember their names and my wife’s birthday and our anniversary!
I’m supposed to remember which coat too? Holy smoke! If they don’t cry when I put it on I figure that the right kid will probably get it next time we go there.
That depends, can you balance your knowledge of your daughter with other info..like her birthday and her favorite color, favorite food..and etc??? That poor guy on wife swap last night didnt know JACK about his daughter.
It depends on if shes ever worn it when you were around, or if it had been lying around your house.
As long as all the coats were not exactly the same, sure I could, so could my husband for that matter.
I don’t think so. Guys aren’t really observant, it’s just a part of them. But just because you aren’t observant doesn’t mean you can’t be a good father to your kids.
Haha, picking the wrong coat is quite a stupid thing to do! lol
No.
Yes. Pay attention.
For me the coat would be easy. I have mistaken a pair of shoes at her daycare one time .. The little girl that owned the shoes let me know quick i had the wrong pair..
My husband (father of a 2-year-daughter) says: “It depends. Are the other coats different from coats she owns? Did I take her to school? Did I dress her that morning? If the answer to all of the above is yes, then yes, you are an inattentive father.”
I would not be a father who mistakes his daughters coat cuz #1, im a girl so i cant be a dad, #2, i am not even an adult so cya later
maybe