November 24, 2006
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Deleting
Happy Deviant made me a birthday song. You will enjoy it. Just go to the top and hit audio and you can hear what she sent me. My birthday is Sunday and I am celebrating by having people send me stuff. Send an audio singing happy birthday or a picture or something you made. I will post in on my site. Make sure you get it to me by Saturday evening.
Here we go:
We will try a hypothetical situation. Pretend that you are the owner of thetheologianscafe. Pretend you had someone comment on you. Now pretend that you were spending time on xanga and you noticed a comment that person left on another site about you. Pretend it was a negative comment.
Now pretend that the person came to your site one day and was the first commentor. Pretend that he/she celebrated being number one on your site.
Would you delete the person’s number one comment or would you turn the other cheek?
Comments (154)
i would probably bitch them out, and THEN delete the comment.
Turn the other cheek. Life’s too short to hold Xanga grudges.
hypotheticaly turn the cheek in real life delete
I’d leave it on, than shake my head and laugh.
Turn the other cheek, Dan…it’s only Xanga…
However, if you deleted and blocked anybody who celabrated being first, people would soon take a hint.
I agree with norris_redford. life is too short for grudges in general.
besides, if that really happened, i’m sure that commenter would feel pretty embarrassed about it right about how.
I’d ignore it. That person is just jealous.
Don’t believe in deleting comments.
Turn the other cheek. Wouldn’t really matter to me, anyways.
and top ten, w00t. Can’t delete it, ’cause I’ve never dissed you. lol
It would be devastating.
I am vengeful. I say delete. Do it, Dan. You know you want to!
turn the other cheek, be the bigger person, etc, etc….it’s only a xanga comment and we know how people just love to either stir trouble or be hypocrites:), not worth beign upset over:)
thats kind of weird becaues they are bashing you pretty much yet they still come to your site and celebrate when they are first? lol, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
don’t be such a girl dan. let it go.
Turn the other cheek.
Ah what they hey…delete it….
Happy Post Turkey Day
No, you do not know how accomplishing it feels to be the first person to comment on your site. It feels amazing.
That’s mean. You should delete the comment. Did you?
Oh Happy B-Day too..
“hypothetical,” eh? =P
Delete Delete Delete, then bitch slap ‘em
you can’t delete comments people make about you IRL, so what’s the big deal if they comment negatively elsewhere on xanga, but still come to your site? obviously they are obsessed with you or they would not a) compete to be first and remark on their success and b) comment about you elsewhere.
they are the ones ending up looking like losers > “oh, like, i hate dan so much becz he’s a comment whore, but LOOK! i commented first on his site today”…
could it GET any more lame?????
turn the other cheek! you can afford to be generous to the sad losers of xangaland
Petend I answered this question with a, “no.”
Pretend I answered this question with a, “no.”
haha look at all these people who are so much less confrontational that i.
Turn the other cheek..it shows a character flaw in them and not you. I probably would confront them also…than turn the other cheek.
I would most likely not really care – I think it’s dumb that people celebrate being first, anyway. What is the big difference? I don’t get it. Yes, I’ve been first. No, it didn’t really matter one way or the other.
Let’s spend our energy worrying about the world hunger problem or the fact that we are still in Iraq. If people spent as much time worrying about real issues as they do about stupid ones, it would be amazing what this world could accomplish.
HAHAHAH
i never would’ve thought of this if you hadn’t posted it.
you’re humanity is a constant relief, i hate distance in this type of relationship.
hm..not sure what this type of relationship is though:
i guess kind of like a commentor for a football game or a news anchor- only in this case it’s about questions of life?
who knows.
Turn the other cheek.
Hahaha…
I would leave it unless they said something in their “first” post that was inappropriate. I might start deleting every comment that said “first” or “second” though.
i’d turn the other cheek
delete! it’s fun, and they’ll get mad…
actually, if I was running the site, I would delete all comments that celebrated a certain position. hahaha.
Deleted and banned.
Zero tolerance Dan. Zero. Tolerance.
wow so much pretending!!!!:)
Depends on how negative there comment was. Mostly likely, yeah just delete their comment.
jeesh its just xanga, turn the other cheek…
Fortieth! Woo-hoo!
Actually, by the time this posts, I will probably be 68th.
I’d delete it. Because I’m that petty. But only in cyber-space.
No one competes to be “number one comment” on my blog! I’d leave it there, most likely. Life’s too short to hold grudges for silly things like that. Lisa
i would hit selete then smile
hmmmmmmmmmmm . . . i would probably not do anything. after all, the point of this site isn’t really for personal friends, is it? but if it really bugged me, i might delete it and block that user.
i’d laugh and say to myself “what a noob.”
Since we’re pretending…pretend to be Christ-like and just ignore it Dan. I’m going to pretend that I’m not going to look at who was number one in a recent post on your blog. Pretend you don’t see me look at the last few posts.
OR EXPOSE THEM FOR THE BASTARDS THEY ARE!!
or just accept that everyone isn’t always going to like you.
I would turn the other cheek. Like Christians, but less hypocritical.
I’d just post and consider the source.. You would have been the better person and had the last laugh
wow first 50
Oh Happy Birthday on Sunday how young are you or can you tell
hmm, I uploaded an audio for you, but it isn’t transcoded yet.
Gee Dan – is this really a hypothetical question?
That’s too hypothetical for me to even think about seriously. . .
I’d so delete it and then make a post saying so
It doesn’t sound hypothetical.
I’d dish out all manner of spite and pointed comments…in a friendly way, of course.
delete
Forget about it. Unless it really makes you angry, and then delete it. One way or the other, I don’t think even the “First!” person will care.
I’d delete them, and then LOL at them.
Turn the other cheek. People who crow about being first ought to be simply ignored.
I’d say let it slide. Don’t lower yourself to the middle school behavior of the commentor. . .I mean, hypothetically speaking, of course.
i would chuckle to myself about how pathetic they are
unless i was pmsing… then id leave the comment there… and confront them about it…
lol, thats funny..
turn the other cheek, but aslo go and ask the commentor politely why he commented, and bring up the negative comment he made elsewhere…
be the better person… turn the other cheek.
from what i’ve read you usually are the better person.
Turn the other cheek. Is it really that big of a deal?
i’d shoot them through the internet
and say “don’t be stupid”
Who cares.
DELETE!
make your next post about what they did…haha…
I’d just delete it, haha….
DELETE
They don’t deserve to have 1st comment…
I’d delete it and tell them that it must not have posted it in the first place!
I would make them feel like an ass by posting a post on how they are hypocritical people pleasers
I say you do a dance because people love you enough to do stuff for your birthday.
Now, what could they say negatively about you?
=P delete awayyyyy.
or maybe I’m just a bad person.
i’d forget it and let god forgive that ignorant fool.
You deleted it. I know you did, from the whole tone of it all
delete, definitely.
I suppose you could always post their username on your site, and see what your fans do… but that might get their xanga site featured if a lot of people left comments. dang.
hypothetical?
i have a feeling this actually happened
DELETED!
Turn the other cheek. The only comments I delete are those obviously posted by a mass posting, or self amrketing. If they comment on the subject or reply to some comment I have made they stay unless theare truly nasty. Negative I can tolerate, Nasty I dont see any point for.
i would roll my eyes to myself and let it go.
turn the other cheek. The only comments I’ve ever deleted were cuss-out sessions and my own.
yes
Obviously, this hypothetical person is an attention lover. Also, this hypothetical person seems to be a bit of a hypocrite. Sadly, the world is rife with these types. I would turn the other cheek. It’s best to be the better person in these kinds of situations.
You could ask them why they said what they did, what they are thinking when they celebrate being first, why they do that, WHAT MAKES THEM TICK!
Yeah, that’s what I always want to know – what makes this person (or me) tick….
You could do the passive-aggressive thing and – hmmm, let’s see what I can think up.
I would delete the motherfucker’s comment.
Delete all comments that mention being first.
Delete all comments that mention being first.
way too much time noticing, dan. don’t you think?
anyway i would delete.
f em.
i agree with attercop…doesnt that first crap get on your nerves?
If i was you i would not keep track of all the people on te site, just have them come and thats it.
They’re just being retarded, and trying to get attention. The best way to get to them is not to give them any (attention)
LOL. depends upon why you blog doesn’t it?…
Oh, I know you are bigger than that. You will do the right thing, regardless of what everyone else does. Or you wouldn’t have this big following. They know the real you. You can’t hide it.
kay well i messaged this to you but i’m pretty sure it didn’t work :// hope it works here!
I would turn the other cheek
haha, i’d delete it
i would say “fuck u!” and then delete it bwhahahaaha
Ignore it…
Delete.
Jesus is still staring at me over there in the corner.
I would message that person and ask what was up.I believe in going right to the person,I wouldn’t delete a comment without telling them why.
Ignore it unless it’s defamatory.
As a public figure you will attract both positive and negative comment.
Most scribes stay within the bounds of decorum, some gain pleasure from sarcasm and hurtful statements; others deny logic a place anywhere.
Why would you wish to stoop to their level by engaging in any form of retaliation?
You will never influence, let alone change, their illogical thinking. Hatred of others stems from within.
O_FAXZIL_O speaks it well!
You Should Turn The Other Cheek…But In My Opinion I Would Probably Comment Them Back And ask Them Why They Did Such A Thing!!!Hope I Helped!!!
delete his ass
I might recommend a few things– recreational time spent away from the computer, for starters; then, maybe making sure that the first comment on any post is yours. That way you can be your own most devoted fan.
Should I be worried since I was first on the last entry? I can’t remember badmouthing you, but I might have been drunk.
HMM!
Delete
is this really hypothetical? I am reminded of many conversations calvin had with hobbes….
i agree entirely with tsai tompkins
The sad thing is that you had the time to notice such a thing. Geegee.
I would leave it. But post a comment myself stating I knew about their negative comment about me elsewhere.
And then block them.
I’m a narrow selfish beetch … I will just coldly delete the f’n entry!
I’m a narrow selfish beetch … I will just coldly delete the f’n entry!
no, i would just make it into a hypothetical question and ask it on my site.
xanga’s not worth it.
hypothetical my rear end
People just don’t understand how easy it is to track comments about yourself
Kill them with kindness
that’s childish, why would you even think about it? people take xanga way too seriously
Haha, that’s an interesting situation
I’d let it be though, I mean, why bother yourself to be bothered?
DElETE!
Forgive and forget!!
aw, just forget about it.
This passive agressive hypothetical post in and of itself will be enough to make that person realize how you feel about his/her comment!
PRETEND to turn to the other cheek, and then after a while, delete it!
I wouldn’t delete it, but I think it’d be fun to draw attention to the person’s comments.
umm, it depends on the person.
im odd.. i find it humerous when i know more than other people.. so i prolly wouldnt just turn the cheek, i would leave a nice comment on their site. they would neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr know i knew…. hehehe.. im sick..
I would delete it only because I’m mean and spiteful
DELETE IT! MUAHAHAHAHAhahaha..ha..ha..>.>
turn the other cheek.
I’d delete it!!! haha.. it’s not like they couldn’t get first comment again…
haha!!
DUHHHHHHHHlete!
I, personally, do say that you are pretty much a comment hog. yeah, the brutal truth. Is it all that bad, for people like me who can’t do 5 post a day, it is. Usually I come here and find the majority of the people who comment here to be little insolent attention whores who don’t truly have a real single thought running through their mind and that your post encourage them to think that by putting up a Yes and No answer will make them smart. I wouldn’t mind you doing a post where it would be required to leave a little more than a quick answer just to reach first. You might find me doing a little of that but if you look at some other ones of the first-ness, I’m pretty much mocking those fuckers who just feel some form of acomplishment by saying FIRST on the first comment of a post. If you happen to be talking about me in this post(I’LL admit it I do say some things of the generalization of the less worthy post that do get around 150 comments), please message me and let me know and I wouldn’t mind straighting some shit out.
By the way, I’m not really angery at your post but I am angery that some post I do see that appear to be something of Myspace or some other worthless shit do seem to get a plethora of comments. Some people need to hunt for better content on xanga and stop thinking that a post about “How Someone Wipes” needs to be commented on FIRST. I do find some of your post(though most are very impersonal, wouldn’t mind to get to know you better) very interesting and thought provoking.
p.s. Is this not a fuckin’ huge comment. Please respond. Wouldn’t mind knowing that you actually read it.
I’d just ignore it.
Delete.
I would laugh and turn the other cheek…but I would also keep a close watch on them…keep your freinds close, keep your enamies (sp) closer…Smile
I guess you would have to go and talk with them first…right, Dan?
I can’t see why anyone would say anything negetive? We all know what this site is about and we can choose to visit or leave.
Depends on what mood I was in. haha
I would delete their comment. at least once lol
I’d cut & paste the comment
delete that bitch. do it. DO IT!
Good question, but why would it even cross your mind?
I’ll only delete comment that are too offensive for the general public to see.
Now feel free to leave me negative (or offensive) comments!
pfft, it’s online.
Turn the other cheek.
But bitch them out about it. But leave it there. As proof. For other people who hear about to come look and then bitch them out as well.
haha I’d delete because it would amuse me.
dan, dan, dan……is it someone you trusted? is it someone that you really care what they think? if all they have time to do is rip on people on xanga, they are sad…….don’t be like them….be the better person….bless them….
Do you want my “churchy” answer? HONESTLY-I don’t know what I would do. Life is too short for grudges-perhaps a little innocent payback?!? Just teasin’- hypothetically that is.
> Would depend on the negative, otherwise, lean back and relax and ignore the commenter; life’s too short!
I would most definitely let them have it and find out what the heck they were talking about.
Then delete them (unless it was an interesting comment).
I’d delete it.
Shut them down
Delete
I would delete the comment and block him from my xanga.
-KrIsTiN-
i’d delete any comments that want to talk about such complete irrelevancies.
Probably turn the other cheek, but I’d want to delete it
turn the other cheek.