November 25, 2006
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Strip Club Part 2
Police shot a man on his wedding day as he was out late into the night leaving a strip club. He was coming from his bachelor party. The police fired about 50 rounds into his car. They thought one of the men had a gun but apparently they didn’t find one yet. Here is the link: Link
This report got me thinking of a slightly related issue.
Should a guy really be going to a strip club when he is about to get married?
Comments (133)
well no, of course not, nor should he go anytime
No.
Yeah.. that’s a little messed up. Their marriage wouldn’t have lasted…
No
I meant yeah as in.. ohh… but the answer is no.
I mean come on, you’re gonna get married the next day so hey! Let’s go look at naked chicks!
no, whats the point???
that’s a sad story.
even if there ever was a time to go, that wouldn’t be it
Nuhhhh no.
Depends. Was he marrying one of the strippers?
No, seriously, that is so messed up.
No, that’s stupid.
I vote no. That is all messed up.
bachelor party duh
jesus. in the two minutes since ive posted, a million comments !
Did the guy die? That would totally suck.
It’s “tradition”, but it’s just not right.
My husband did, as did all of my friends’ husband. It in no way signifies how long a marraige will last.
The only reason I didn’t have a bachelorette party is because I had no interest in hiring a stripper in Tuscaloosa, AL or going out bar hopping.
Its hard to decide, since he’ll never be able to do it again. But no.
Yeah, he’s just about to get married! Let him get in his last hurrah, and let him have that time to let loose and be crazy before the havoc of getting married.
Isn’t that what a lot of guys do for their bachelor party? So unless his fiance(e?) has a problem with it, I don’t see why not.
Yes. One more for the road, and all.
nope. can’t imagine marrying someone that would either.
He could have been shot after coming out of Walmart…at least he got a good “taco de ojo” before he died.
aparently not.
If he wants to, then sure.
However, I couldn’t imagine being married to a guy who would want spend time with other naked women instead of with me.
So, I guess my answer is no, he shouldn’t. He shouldn’t want to, any more than he should want to hire a prostitute.
eh you only live once.
at least the guy died happy.
-Jacob
Sure, why not? Brad and I used to go to the clubs together all the time.
Then again, I’m a little weird.
No, he shouldn’t.
But my god, that story is disgusting. Police brutality reaching new heights.
And seeing a stripper is SO not the same as hiring a hooker. Just for the record.
If his wife/wife to be is okay with it why not?? and I’m more concern about the fifty rounds the police put into their vehicle! OMG
Among his mates, a guy getting married is serious, so they want to make sure he’s making the right decision by getting him drunk and taking him to a strip club. If he survives that, then they’ll honour his wife as much as they honour him.
’nuff said…
Actually, I guess it’s not so bad that he’s celebrating his last night of “freedom”. I dunno.
NO! That’s disgusting! If I found out that the guy I was marrying went to a strip club right before our wedding…I would cancel it.
It’s harmless fun, in a way. I could see how it would be a last hurrah for some people, but like…I’d go with Sam to a strip club whenever he wanted, so there’s really no point to it in our situation, you know?
Haaa, serves him right.
Okay, police are driving me nuts.
Absolutely no! but in this case it could have been one of his buddies’ ideas =
*sigh, God bless his lady…
well… i don’t think that’s really the right question to ask.
lord knows what goes on in bachelor/ette parties.
Well actually a man shouldn’t go into a strip club at all, but especially not when he’s about to devote his life to someone, seems fairly shallow to me…
-Jared
If you’re getting married to the right person, I don’t think you’d care to see other naked women ever again. & vice versa
ew no..and there is no such thing as a good time to go to a strip club
Guys should only see one uncovered women ..ever (unless they’re first wife dies and they get remarried)
Just like women should only see one uncovered man..
A lot of people might find that insane ..but hey! That’s me..
Maybe his future wife was tracking him. No. You shouldn’t go to a strip club.
I also agree with LeRossignol
Honestly.. if it’s just for stupid fun.. nothing serious I don’t see why not..
It’s something my girlfriend wouldn’t mind at all, in fact, she’d probably tag along.
Oh my word! Well I definitely don’t think he should have been in a strip club. I think that’s stupid. It’s being unfaithful to your wife before you’re even married!
NO. :
wrong question. the question is are these cops complete dumbasses? the answer is yes.
NO NO NO NO NO DONT THINK SO
BUT I TOTALLY AGREE WITH DON_COUCHI
I don’t think it really matters.
Eh, why not.
No
seems to be a tradition of sorts
Haha… no man of mine.
Bachelor parties are practically a rite of passage for grooms
bachelor party yes…strip club…no…Smile
No, but it seems many do
And while it isn’t quite “tomorrow” for you, it’s 11/26 here, so I wanted to say:
“HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAN!!! Hope your day rocks!!”
In case I can’t drop by later. Take Care!!
Happy birthday dan(you said sunday right??)
i am in the minority…i see nothing wrong with him going to a strip club…a lot of people seem to be equating seeing a stipper as sleeping with her too…that isn’t true
Plus, I am still under the philosophy that there is no way that you are only ever going to be attracted to just your partner….and there is nothing wrong with a man looking,,,,as long as he is just looking…
enjoy his last night of freedom?
as long as he doens’t do it when he IS married.
and
i think police are stupid sometimes. they over judge. they cause drama. duuuh. like the show cops.
no.
no way. it’s definately not just “harmless fun.”
part of being faithful is before and after you’re married to the person.
if you’re going around checking out what everyone looks like… *shrug*
No.
If a guy wants to go to a strip club before he’s married let him. If he wants to go after he’s married, let him. As long as you trust him enough to look but not touch, there’s no harm in it. I know married couples that go to the strip club together. I know married couples who go separately. And I don’t think it’s an indication of how long a marriage will last. That’s just a horrible assumption to say that. Nor is there anything wrong with strip clubs. The human body is a beautiful thing. It should not be, for the lack of a better word, demonized. [You get the gist? I just couldn't think of the word I wanted. Argh.] Strippers are respectable people as long as all they’re doing is dancing for the money. It gets iffy when prostitution and drugs come into play, but people have to realize that not all strippers and not all strip clubs deal with that.
Okay, so I went off topic a bit, but I tend to do that. I think I’m done now. :-]
nope
no. i agree w/ k8tthelate on this matter.
Just because the police dont support strip clubs does mean they have to terrorize the patrons. Also 50 rounds? when they THOUGHT he had a gun. That a lil over board. All of a sudden it seems the police have gone trigger happy. Innocent until proven guilty seems to only be on paper.
Oh and to answer the question, no. He is about ot be married. He needs to get use to getting honey from only one pot.
People take it too seriously. Going to the strip club is all in fun. I’m sure he was having his bachelor party which I don’t see as a problem at all. It’s sad that the story had to take the turn that it did.
yes, simply because any place where men get together and celebrate means male bonding and thats vital to a healthy marriage:)
Your suppose to have the strippers come to the party.
No, I don’t think so. I don’t have a problem with a guy having a party, but no naked women. As far as I’m concerned, the only woman I want my husband to see with no clothes on (especially that close to our wedding…) is ME. They can have fun without that crap.
no.
ha! the police liked his wife.. or soon to be.
he did it on purpose.. to show the lady how his husband’s a jerk.
Why not? I plan on letting my husband (and my bf and I have talked on this) go to strip clubs. We both know its a waaay different thing than from seeing your naked wife give you a FREE lap dance lolol doubt he’ll go though, he doesn’t and hasn’t since he and I started dating.
All caps.
MARRIAGE
STRIP CLUB
NIGHT BEFORE
COPS SHOOT MAN
50 SHOTS INTO CAR
STRIP CLUB
oh, and they show a photo of Al Sharpton hugging the father of the deceased.
Dan, I see through this.
You’re racist!
You know hicks go to titty bars and have fucked up marraiges as much as African Americans do. You are just jumping on the White Outrage wagon. I think this is splitting hairs. If a man is married and grows aroused by the tight bum of his college freshmans daughters buddy from school, IS HE GOING TO GO TO HELL?
Or be shot by police? These details are irrelevant. They are being microscopized so people can read and look and say “Oh gee, I am so glad that is not me, of gee, another black guy, oh gee, strip club, night before wedding, don’t say in public what you believe in your heart, that you prejudged someone, heck, an entire family based on some twisted newstelling.
I don’t give a shit, it is tragic, and I bet it was a hell of a party, those proles know how to get DOWN!
> The sound of it is bachelor party, and why not? Last fling and all that…., the article sounded as of they were at least as justified as any NYPD shooting ,so take that phrase a face value….
Peace
No he shouldn’t. Doesn’t show much commitment or integrity.
Isn’t that what a lot of guys do for their bachelor party? So unless his fiance(e?) has a problem with it, I don’t see why not.
Posted 11/25/2006 at 10:46 PM by tackYxandxirrelevant
Had to point out the poetic justice of this comment and name. I mean really.. tacky and irrelevant. A strip clubs for a bachelor party is tacky. And what other people do is pretty irrelevant.
WOW
when I was getting married my husband’s friends organized a party in a nearby seaside town for him, with lots of clubbing, dancing, alcohol, etc. they also asked him if he wanted strippers, prostitutes, and I gave him my blessing as long as he was going to use condoms. as far as I know there was no wild sex with strangers at his party, but I wanted it to be his night and his conscious decision. I think it’s fair.
to be honest I believe that strip clubs are not the worst things that can happen to a bachelor during his stag night.
take care,
Mila.
No way…there are plenty of other things a guy can do for a bachelor party besides going to a strip club.
Why not?
just wanted to ask, how about a woman having strippers at her hen party?
caught him ridin dirty
Was his bride to be a cop?
Shotgun wedding huh?
“The gunfire also sprayed nearby homes and a train station, though no residents were injured.”
C’mon, how bad a shot do you need to be to miss a minivan? If I was this guy and was leaving a club where there had been trouble and 11 or so unknown men followed (with guns in hand?) I’d have rammed gates and vehicles to get away as well.
It’s not about where he’s coming from (not everyone goes to Bible studies class on their bachelor/hen night) but whether the police are going to be held accountable. I won’t hold my breath.
Sorry, just read it again. They were in a car and there were only 7 cops. Still, that’s a bit excessive. They’ll probably charge the fourth man who ran away with leaving the scene of a crime before giving them the opportunity to finish him off as well…..
I will never understand the thought that the thing you “need to do” the night before you get married is go see other women get naked. It makes no sense at all. I think it is stupid. My husband didnt do it and if he would have thought he “had to” I would have “had to” rethink marrying him.
no! i can’t get over men that still do it though and the wives to be that let them.
Ugh. No. I have this fight with all of my guy friends who think it’s their last hoorah, and want to see other naked girls right before they are stuck seeing only one for the rest of their lives. Which is why I’m not marrying my boyfriend any time soon. I have to convince him that the point of marriage is to really WANT to be with the other person…
It sure seems like it was a bad idea! No, that is not the best way to prepare to be faithful.
I wouldn’t want my guy going to a strip club the night before…
Ew. The marriage probably wouldn’t have lasted long anyways.
NO!!!
no, not without his wife although some gals are more lenient than I am. But seriously, the night before your wedding you need SLEEP. But that story is still way sad.
Apparently not.
NO!!!
It was his stag party. Of COURSE he should be at a strip club the night before! So should she, for that matter!
50 rounds!and they hit houses…maybe the cops were drunk or something…holy cow…
no, he souldn’t have been there…another example of the change in culture and morals
i can understand the cops opening fire but gee…overkill…one guy got shot 11 times…
I definitely plan on getting a stripper for my bachelorette party if I ever get married, and will suggest it to my fiance as well! My current partner & I are both up for going to check out strippers, b/c there is *no* cheating in just looking. We are both open enough to talk about attractions to other people b/c our commitment to each other means that we know neither of us would make a move on someone else.
What it comes down to is in my mind, that if you can’t trust your partner at a strip club that’s so public, then why the hell would you marry him/her?! You’re not going to be with them 24/7.
Also, that’s insane about the 50 rounds & no gun. Poor bastards.
No…
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Well, morally I don’t think it’s right. But… it was his bachelor party. I mean, what other time would you get to go to a strip club with your buds without you’re wife getting ticked off?
Men shouldn’t be going to a strip club ever.
Sad Sad Sad
If it’s for a bachelor party, why the heck not?
However it’s just pain dumb to have a bachelor party the night before the wedding. C’mon, give yourself some time to recover!
Strip clubs are like porn– if you use them in moderation and your wife doesn’t mind, they’re no big deal. However if it’s causing a rift in your relationship or you’re turning your spouse down in order to watch porn or go to a strip club, then it needs to stop.
no
Ya have to really examine people’s motives for bachelor/ette parties. Certainly a ceremony signifying the end of one life and the beginning of another is good, but a “last hurrah” kind of tells me that marriage isn’t something they REALLY want. They’re just doing it to please someone, either family, their partner, or society.
I would imagine that someone who’s TRULY excited about spending their life with someone else wouldn’t need strippers or lots of booze before the wedding.
well, he shouldnt be going anyway,but i mean i guess if thats where the batchelor party was then, he could, i mean it would be rude to skip out on your own party, ya know? but no he shouldnt be going anyway.
i dont think it really matters, i mean its better than sneeking around after your maried.
No, he never should . . .
Bachelor parties – It’s okay – Traditional.
Nope.
No way
Not right before he’s getting married, or ever for that matter
Not when he’s about to get married.
But otherwise, it’s his choice.
NO WAY. NO HOW…i wouldnt want my man to go to a strip club even while we start the relationship. your last night of freedom ends when u start a relationship. if he wants pussy, he comes to me. theres no need to be looking at other girls. god rest his soul but what he did was wrong.
I would say NO. And I couldn’t ever imagine marrying a man that would do that.
Unsure. I wouldn’t I don’t think, but the time has not yet arrived so I can’t say for sure.
Yeah, sure. You can’t just be attracted to one person. And in my opinion, it’s alright to look at another person and be like, “Damn, that’s a hot piece of ass.” as long as you’re just looking.
-KrIsTiN-
imho… absolutely not. aside from my belief that they are exploitive of women, i equate the thought with the deed, and so having my bridegroom lusting after another woman the night before my wedding would feel the same as if he had slept with her. which would NOT be what i’d want happening the night before my wedding…
i believe that every man has the right to go to a strip club just for fun. it’s a lighthearted pursuit for a man to burn off some of his sexual energy–figuratively, of course, not literally.
I don’t like the story either way. Including the cops and strip club. That’s sad, on both accounts.
No, I think it’s stupid!
No brainer, really– NO.
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I believe that a man (as long as his wife, fiance, girlfriend understands) can go to places like that. I mean you can love someone with all your heart, but it doesnt mean you dont find someone else more physically attractive. If looking at half naked men/women help your marriage then why have a problem with it?
WELL IT DEPENDS ON HIS FIANCE AND HOW SHE FEELS.
No. I have heard of too many men who end up sleeping with a stripper the day before their wedding. Not to mention the fact that it is pretty disrespectful to his future wife. My husband and I hung out with my brother and sister and some friends the night before our wedding, and he doesn’t feel like he missed out on anything.
well technically, a guy shouldn’t ever go to a strip club, but ya know some people…
WEll, I thought that the” Bachelor Party” thing was like a Tradition- and men usually went to a Strip club to celebrate that..But I didnt know it was done the night before the weeding ….
Strip clubs are one of the top five places bachelor parties take place in Hawaii (where I’m from). It’s pretty common to find a groom-to-be there the day before his wedding. Can’t say that I’d like my groom-to-be to be spending his “last day of freedom” there…but wouldn’t say that he deserves to be shot to death over it either.
Haha no.
No.
no way!