December 31, 2006
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Good Enough
I saw the title of a site that was something like “toofarfromperfect.” The site name got me thinking. I really don’t know what the person was thinking about their site. The person may have a solid self-esteem. But I think there are so many people who walk around thinking that they are not good enough.
Do you think you have a healthy self-esteem?
Comments (154)
yep
not really.
I do indeed.
Peace be with you,
<3 Sean
Not at all.
Probably not.
But, I am awesome
Yeah I do most of the time.
-Jared
Not really.
yes, i do =]
My self-esteem ranges from hating everything about myself to super, super narcissistic. It’s completely bipolar.
i have a full head of esteem
I do most of the time, except when I watch things like America’s Top Model! I’m not anything near skinny, and I’m alright with that, but watching women like that can be hard
That’s mah numbah one problem.
And I AM CORRECTING IT THIS YEAR.
hurrah.
I stop hating myself only when I stop thinking about myself. There’s so much more in this world.
depends on what current situation I am in.. If I know I can handle it, yes..
definitely not, at least most of the time.
I hope you asked that girl if you could use her username on this post. I’m sure she wouldn’t appreciate getting bombarded by rude people about her issues.
mine is kinda low.
Oh wow, a post about me.
I have very low self-esteem, far from healthy.
Possibly a bit too much, or so I’m told.
-New Kid
sometimes. right now i think its plenty healthy, but in the past, its been far from
Its built on conceit, like the Church.
Meaning, I’ll never fall :]
I really don’t. It’s really hard to keep that from holding me back in life.
It fluctuates. I used to be heavily moved by what others said, but then I matured. The quote by Dr. Seuss is probably the most important quote I have ever read- “Act how you want and say how you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” Remembering that, you can always love yourself.
Unfortunately I go to a very very small catholic school where the people there are less inclined to let you go and do what you have to do and be yourself. I worked even harder to respect and appreciate myself and act just how I wanted without influence going through there. It worked for the most part but sometimes I will fluctuate from loving myself to becoming depressed and not liking who I am. But if you don’t love yourself, who will do it for you?
In closing, my self-esteem is fine. I’m human. Can you tell I think about this too much?
too healthy to the point of pomposity XD
healthy enough
Yes very healthy =]
NOPE!!!!!!!!!!!
NOT AT ALL!!!!!!
OK healthy
HAPPY NEW YEAR DAN
I was taught growing up that I should have God-esteem, not self-esteem. I should think of God and not think of myself.
i dont know. i think im too conceited/worried about myself/vain/whatever. i think im fat but not THAT fat and selfish but not THAT selfish. anyways, i could be a lot better. so decide for yourself about my self esteem cause i really dont know!
Most of the time.
not at all
I’ve learned over the years that self-esteem is an “inside job” – If you love yourself on the inside – you will love yourself on the outside too. You can “look” perfect in every way and still have low self-esteem or visa versa – It comes from within. Mine is doing well lately.
HAPPY NEW YEARS EVE!!!!!!!!!
Depends on the situation and such. I don’t know. Who’s to decide what’s “healthy” anyway? If someone thinks they’re the best person in the world and are conceited about it, I don’t consider that healthy (no one likes those people). I think you have to question yourself somewhat to be “healthy” in that regard. But this is just me thinking at 1:15am.
it fluctuates…
It kind of varies… sometimes I’m totally at peace with myself but sometimes I feel completely and utterly useless.
It’s getting better, though.
Haha noooooo
But I’m sincerely working on it, and I think that counts for something.
At times the term “healthy self-esteem” can be an oxymoron.
It’s a two part question: 1.) Where is the bar for “healthy self-esteem” set, and 2.) Whether I reach it.
My answer: Yes, I have a healthy self seteem because 1.) I set the bar pretty damn low, and 2.) By default, I reach it. =)
once in a while
yeah. im mostly confident, but being humble is a virtue
I try and act confident, because that’s what’s attractive, but I probably have one of the lower self esteems.
depends on the day
Actually, I despise myself. But I don’t think self-esteem is important; in fact, I think it’s a bad thing. What’s truly important is loving God, and loving others; love yourself, but only because of Christ in you. That’s my philosophy.
sure. Sometimes if I’ve had a rough day its obviously not gonna be its best. I usually feel fairly confident about myself though.
“Self-esteem” is essentially pride, and that’s never good.
Mine’s actually low, though not much from shallow conversation with me would imply it.. I come across as a bit of an arrogant prick in people’s first conversations with me, though I’m far from arrogant, and I’d like to think far from a prick.. and many people see that as time goes on.
I constantly feel inadequate.
for the most part, yes
I know I have low self-esteem. It’s aways a work in progress for me!
I would say I’m probably average.
I’ve gotten better about it over the past year or so.
Yes, but I think I can always improve myself in little ways.
I think I have a healthy self esteem.
I have a healthy self-esteem when I am not centered on my self. My self-esteem has much more to do with God than myself. When He is my foundation and I am centered on His gospel and try to emmulate the example of my Savior, then I have the healthiest self-esteem based on the truth of who believe I am – a child of God. When I focus on myself and step off my foundation, I start to slip and lose all belief that I am worthy enough to be called human.
i guess so. it’s not like i think highly of myself, because i definitely don’t. but i don’t want to kill myself or anything completely stupid like that. and i don’t hate myself at all. i guess i get on my nerves sometimes just because i do stupid stuff, but most of the time, i like myself alright.
I feel that people who are vain and pompous have the lowest self-esteems of anyone.
When I don’t have dark circles under my eyes.
-Jacob
on the surrface, and pretty far into my actual self. But then it stops there.
I’d say mine is pretty unhealthy. Unbalanced, anyway; maybe even erratic. I need to spend more time thinking about my positive qualities, rather than obsessing pointlessly over the negative. It’s good to have a varied group of friends and mentors who can help me to keep an even keel and focus on what is really important in life.
Most definitely! *grins*
Self-Esteem blows unless it’s sprinkled with self-deprication. Fuck that, it needs to be coated.
I know I don’t.
Catch me in the right mood, and sure
i don’t know… sometimes.
Hell NO! But it’s getting better the older I get, when I’m a hundred it should be very healthy! ‘Til the Next
I absolutely do not.
I hate myself.
And everything about myself.
And that’s who I am, don’t try to change me.
not really.
Not even close, but i manage anyways.
Yes, and people who don’t should be my slaves because they’re worthless, pathetic human beings.
My boyfriend tells me I have a very low self esteem, but I personally think it matters what situation I’m in. I think my self esteem is pretty normal.
I guess. o_O
i think i do…
ryc: no I was not drunk..I just had the hiccups and it wasnt working to my advantage
and I am sure your made up word could at least fool people but some..OY’ so bad
..just a moment..i’ll check w/ my court jester and subjects…
Nope
I have excellent self esteem – well thats what my coworkers say anyway. its great being in your thirties. its like a gift God gives you to make up for the start of wrinkles
> I guess…. maybe, nah I could use a little facial redux…. my self-esteem could be better…. but there is tomorrow…..
Peace, anyhow
not really…its alright
Eh, I’d prefer low self esteem to being an airhead.
Which means I must like myself enough. So…yes.
I most certainly do… but it has been years in the making!
Not really but its getting better.
no…but i don’t hate who i am either….i hated myself inthe past for some things, but they have made me a better person, but there are some self esteem thhings i could use help with i am sure:)
yes. i have great self-esteem. and people who don’t have great self-esteem, well, i feel bad for them. i wish they would tell me something i could do for them. because most of them make me want to strangle myself. “i’m too fat” “i’m so ugly” whatever. talk to somebody. get help. you need it.
Some times YES– Some times NO ! ?
no.. in fact, never.
at times…
Nope.
Of course, only way I could leave a comment with this profile picture…………Happy New Year Dan
oh i definetly do. sometimes i think maybe too much
I have zero self esteem.
Not really.. I dunno.
As much as I deserve I guess.
Yes, very.
I never give it any thought, so I guess that’s a yes!
Mine’s pretty good.
who does?
quite many actually.
damn.
i wonder who stole mine. they’d better be putting it to good use.
Not in the least. I know the majority of it is my fault from years back and whatnot. Recently, however, my boyfriend has been adding to my lack of self-esteem by flirting with other girls, flat out refusing to take me out when he goes ANYWHERE with people around, and constantly telling me what a lazy bitch I am.
He sounds horrible. He’s not as bad as all that, but he can be pretty mean sometimes.
Not really.
In some areas, but in others, it is very shaky.
No.
Well, I don’t exactly sell myself short, but it’s not like I’m uber-confident.
Somewhere in between??
what’s self esteem?
Just remember that those with the highest self esteem are found in prisons for some reason
Yup!
Not really. Sometimes I’m fine and have perfectly healthy self esteem, but, I have a lot of triggers that make it horrible. So, overall, I would say no.
I’m enjoying myself more…and am more confident. BUT…an unexamined life isn’t worth living…so, I’m constantly looking for ways that I can improve myself.
There was a day when I hated myself completely…once in a while I do have shades of those days return…not nearly as often as they once did.
Yeah. I got tired of not, so then I turned optimistic, or pretended to be when I wasn’t. Life got a lot easier after that.
i honestly have no idea. i don’t love myself or hate myself. i’d rather not love myself. i hate things about me. but i’m more realistic than anything. i know that i’m going to make mistakes and do things that i shouldn’t do, but that doesn’t mean that they are justified. i guess you could say that i have low self-esteem. but i see me. i see my failures and my victories. i see parts of myself that no one else sees except for God.
Much more than I used to.
Nope. Look at my screen name for christsake!
Nope not at all but I struggle with the whole self esteem/humble thing
Yessir
Very high.
Sometimes.
Well, you know how it goes. You feel so good for awhile but sometimes it all caves in on you and you just feel like crap.
I have an extreemly low self esteem that some of my family and friends complain about but what ever
I think its good
sometimes…
I don’t think so.
sometimes yes, sometimes no
I have a low self-esteem, but I don’t cut myself, do drugs, drink alcohol, become anorexic, etc.
I have had one anxiety attack, but that was because of my “friends” not my low self-esteem.
It’s all in how you deal with you esteem I guess.
Who does have high-self esteem? ? ?
Someone who says they have that is is demented/skeptical to the real world.
Healthy enough. Now.
Yeah.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
Yeah it’s pretty healthy.
I have pretty good self esteem… but i’m still far…far from perfect.
Under normal circumstances, yes, but lately, who knows….
Nope, I’m self depreciating, and have underlying self contempt.
I think it’s generally fine. Sometimes I can be overly humble, which causes some to misinterpret it as low self-esteem!
Maybe too healthy at times. lol.
yeah, i do. confidence is always important. however, not too much :]
Definitely!!
Dude, look at me, I’m amazing! lol. Not really, but I like the way I look anyways.
Healthy enough.
Not always the most positive, but I don’t feel too bad.
pry not.
It’s alot better now than it was. If I had no”self esteem” I’d still be letting people get over on me like they were and I wouldn’t be”homeless” but, because I realize my”worth” I stand up against the jerks who ever they might be^_^. I’d rathe be”homeless” and keep my self esteem than live somewhere and pretend “nothing is wrong”
sooo this is how it goes
cocky ass person / amazing ridiculous confidence
decent(average) self esteem/confidence
shitty self esteem with no confidence
or maybe you dont care… pick one
…as for me ..im average i have issues with something but dont we all
um…no it’s not, sadly. my self-esteem is nonexistent, but I manage to live.
Normally, yes. But I also struggle with depression, so then my self-esteem plummets. So I’d say mine is kinda all over the place.
I’ve got an over-active self-esteem.
.youaremighty.com
It is getting better each day…
I have a pretty good self-esteem in general, but I also tend to be very humble and modest and I think sometimes people misinterpret that as low self-esteem. I’ve also struggled with depression and social anxiety, which has caused my self-esteem to plummet pretty far at times. So, yeah, I’m average, but I have issues.
there’s no such thing as self-esteem.
it’s all confidence.
I do now – I didn’t when I was young.
No.
I have a realistic self-esteem.
Yes. I think it’s important to accurately assess yourself. Accurate self-esteem is healthy.
Hmm….it depends on the day really. I mean, normally I’m fine, but some times I get kinda/pretty depressed thinking I’m not good enough.
I don’t think too little of myself, but I don’t need to think too highly of myself either. I don’t think I’m “good enough”..but no one can be “good enough”…yeah, I guess I have a pretty good self-esteem.
My self-esteem is incredibly low.
not at all
Hmm………I think it’s healthy enough, although it could be healthier.
-KrIsTiN-
most of the time. I try not to put myself down.
sure.
if i said no would you believe me?
im content with myself ^^ i would love to lose 5 pounds but other than that im happy with who i am and im fine with my physical
Kinda, but I don’t really show it.