March 16, 2007
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Blogging Ethics
I got a message from my friend Daniel aka Disturbing_The_Universe. Here is his message:
“I notice that there are some of your commentors that have their sites with friend lock or have them made not public… They come here and post passionate responses, but are afraid to allow others to come to their sites to respond…
I think it’s almost “bad blog ethics” to do this kind of thing… Like people who will come to your site, tell you your opinions are wrong, but then get angry and block you from their site when you try to comment back to them…”Is it “bad blog ethics” to leave passionate responses and then place your site on friend’s lock?
Comments (148)
yes, i hate when i want to reply to somebody, and i’m unable to access their page. it’s like, why even bother leaving me a comment in the first place?
I think the place to respond to passionate comments is on the same blog as where the comment was made.
I wouldn’t go to someone’s home to refute them after I heard them speak at a school, for instance.
so, no, friends block shouldn’t require a person to always leave calm, non-committal answers. it is simply a way for them to protect what they’ve said on their own blog, not what they’ve said on anyone else’s.
no. Maybe they seek to only express what they feel and NOT have feedback.
Anyone who blocks is a pussy. A big fat wet pussy.
Uh, a blog is like a journal. Web Log. Log. Like, a journal log. I write in a blog because it’s faster and easier to type than it is to write. If people want to have their blog protected why should you have a problem with that? It’s like hiding your journal under your mattress so your siblings/parents/whoever can’t get to it rather than leaving it out on the table.
It’s not bad blog ethics.
I think it’s mainly because we treat your site as a kind of open forum for voicing opinions/ideas. The function of our own blogs can either be for journal/diary-type blogs or blogs where we actually want feedback. It’s the blogger’s choice.
The worst blogs are the ones who make an entry but then don’t enable comments for them. The entry becomes one-sided.
We can’t really slight the isolationist friends-lock types: maybe they don’t want any of thoese nice ‘e’ coins on their page.
It’s chickenshit
Yes. The internet is a place where all the cowards come to scream and fight. They would never say anything half as ridiculous as they do in real life without expecting a response. Most of my friends insult me often (par internet, blogs, &c.) because they know I wouldn’t go and yell at them on theirs.
Cheers,
m
yeah, i’d so.
Well, if your reason for having your site restricted is so no one can criticize you, then you probably shouldn’t be saying anything at all. However, just because someone has their site on friend’s lock or xanga lock (like myself) doesn’t mean they’re trying to be sneaky. I personally keep my xanga on xanga lock so I know who is looking at it (and to keep my school from trolling it). I don’t think it’s in any way wrong to post my opinions here and then have xanga lock- besides, in order to comment me back, you’d need an account anyway, which is the only prerequisite to see my xanga.
yes
i guess i never really thought about it.
I didn’t know there were blogging ethics. Iagree with kinkikiwi. Some people use their blogs as journals and not as open forums.
I didn’t know there were blogging ethics. Iagree with kinkikiwi. Some people use their blogs as journals and not as open forums.
I agree with hidden_sandwich. I don’t really blame people who put there blog on private to keep their school or workplace from trolling around in it. I can see why people would find it annoying when you can’t respond to someone who has friends lock on, but privacy is a legit concern when you have schools and employers these days who pry into your personal life.
My blog is always on xanga lock but that’s only because I’d rather not have people from outside the xanga community looking at my xanga. It has nothing to do with anything else. If I don’t agree with a journal post, I don’t tell the person that their opinions are wrong, I just won’t leave any comments at all on that particular post. What would you do if you read a journal post you didn’t agree with? Would you leave a nasty comment, or not comment at all?
kinda. but that’s sorta the point of blogging. since it’s just an emerging phenomena, it doesn’t have a ethics standard yet.
i did the lock only because skeezy people were being skeezy…mainly skeezy family members…hehehe.
It’s not at all because there are many reasons people have their blogs protected. I have mine protected and should still have the same right to comment on others’ blogs, right? If people come to my blog just to flame me and act pissy because of something I said somewhere else, there IS a message feature. People w/protected blogs have just as much a right as anyone to comment whatever they’re feeling.
It’s worse blog ethics to bring a discussion from here to my blog. You’re commenting on my blog that is about a totally different subject and making a comment about something totally unrelated to the blog. Why bother coming to my site at all? You want to shoot me a private message, I’ll come back here and discuss it. Otherwise, it’s called stalking. No, it’s not bad ethics.
Not in and of itself but still I can see the point!
So if you have the friends lock on that means you’re a coward? I started using the lock to keep creeps away. Am I supposed to compromise my safety so you can reply to a comment I left in response to a post on xanga? I mean, really, folks.
Well – I never really thought about it before, but I think it might be! Certainly if you are passionately expressing your opinion, you should allow another person to contribute to the dialogue. Conversely, a person could also respond to you on the site you made your comment on – but it might not be read, either…
I really wonder why folks don’t just make protected – friends only – posts on their blog, but still have an open post available for others to comment on… I think that would be the better thing to do.
I think it’s more so “bad blog etiquette”. Someone I know has blocked me, and once in awhile I see her footprints on my page, from her blocked users section! LOL Frankly, it amuses me. It’s not that I care THAT much about what she has to say. I mainly read blogs to cure boredem, especially blogs of those I don’t know that well. It’s kind of a double-standard though.
But I do think someone has a right to passionately respond to someone’s blog, and have the xanga lock on. We just want to see who is lurking on our site. The ”Friends Lock” can be irritating. Don’t come to my site if I can’t go to yours.
if i want to make something less private i put it on protected.
you can put as many people on protected as you want if you spring for premium…
i just think it’s lame.
Yes, it get’s so frustrating. It seems that many bloggers have their xanga’s set up that you have to be logged in to see(mine included
), but friends lock is extremely frustrating. Isn’t that what protected posting is for??
No, if you have something you don’t want responses on, it’s YOUR blog. Plus, maybe they want to keep certain people out for certain reasons…I think it’s totally allowed and fine.
i keep mine on xanga lock ‘cos I don’t want search engines picking it up and were even though i had it turned off search engine lock er whatevers.
if someone from the internet wanted to get a xanga page and look at it and post comments to disagree with me, i’d have no way to control that..
Compromise saftey???
Anti-cho-chang given all the safety features on Xanga if you are THAT concerned about safety then what are you doing on the internet?
I think ethics is a bad word to describe what you’re trying to talk about. Ethics is similar to morals. There is nothing ethically or morally wrong with leaving a comment and keeping your own blog private. It’s your own private space! Shouldn’t we have personal privacy?
I think what you really mean to ask is, “Is it bad manners?” That’s a discussion, because then we’re talking about people’s ideas of what constitutes good and bad manners and how we ought to respect other people.
In this particular case, I would say that it is selfish to want to be heard, but be unwilling to hear other’s opinions. if there is a way for a person to send a xanga message to a person with friend lock, then I think it’s fine. But to spout your ideals and then block out everyone else’s thoughts is just plain rude.
But here’s an Idea! A feature that blocks people from commenting on your site if they have friends lock.
I don’t think it’s bad blog ethics, but it sure is annoying. Sometimes, people will write something really interesting and I want to look at their blog and I can’t. I think all of the locks are irritating.
well the only reason mine is on friends lock is because I have aALOT of people that stalk my site and I keep it friends only for my protection
I agree with the following:
I think the place to respond to passionate comments is on the same blog as where the comment was made.
I wouldn’t go to someone’s home to refute them after I heard them speak at a school, for instance.
so, no, friends block shouldn’t require a person to always leave calm, non-committal answers. it is simply a way for them to protect what they’ve said on their own blog, not what they’ve said on anyone else’s.
Posted 3/16/2007 12:18 PM by camdenjoneses
Well, Xanga lock is really annoying because I have to sign in to see their site. But I shouldn’t talk about passionate responses…
Yes.
Nah, that’s not bad ethics. I believe they have their reasons–namely, putting some things that are a little too personal for general public.
Bad blog ethics follow, I believe, the bad press ethics: slander, misdemeanor, sensationalism, etc. Friend locks are not bad blog ethics.
Wooooooooooooooooo
I don’t think so! I leave very passionate responses, but I have mine on friends lock. It has absolutely nothing to do with people on here coming to comment on my site. I’ll allow just about anyone on my friends list who wants to be, so long as they have a real blog and they don’t use a lot of profanity or have naked pics of themselves. The reson I have my friends lock activated is because I kept getting weird people come to my site, who made a site JUST to come visit mine. But then, they didn’t have any entries or anything. Stuff like that creeped me out!
And Friends Lock is great for those who simply can’t afford premium. That’s why we don’t all go protected.
It’s a privacy issue for a lot of people who are in danger of having their blog found by their boss, family, etc. But I do think that anything that is posted on your site (including others comments) is your own property and a reflection of you. You have the option to delete any response that doesn’t reflect the feel you want your blog to have…(not saying it’s ethical to delete comments because they don’t agree with you either)
On my site I post more private things or picture posts (of my family) protected….but posts that are funnies or opinions, etc I post open to everyone. As a mom I feel I have to protect my family from some of the crazy people out there.
I don’t use friends lock…however I block google from indexing me….I have too many stalkers.
If someone is a troll and then blocks a response….that’s just rude. I delete those meanies.
Candy
Heart coffee’s got me rethining the whole internet safety thing. Now!!!
I am absolutely one of those rude posters mentioned above. My Xanga is very much so on a Friends and Xanga lock. Why? I have been stalked/harassed by a crazy chick for over 3 years. I have a 3-4 in file in my desk with proof of all of it and the most the Prosecuting Attorney will do is send her a letter to not contact me. This woman has harassed me, my friends, my family, and has spent the majority of her time finding new ways to attempt to annoy me. If I only Xanga locked it, guess what? She can make up any of the millions of user names she wants and view my blog. By having a friends lock I don’t have to make a new blog to try and avoid her AGAIN, and she doesn’t get to see jack crap about my private life.
I have made the comment many times before, if someone from here or any other site wants to see my blog, they are more than welcome to send/receive an invite, but I won’t open my life up to the public to satisfy the urges of a crazy person, nor will I make new user id’s just to keep her out of my life. It is interesting that someone would actually fuss about this since even with a friends lock and a xanga lock people can still send you messages. I have added several people from this site to my friends list this way.
Dan chooses to open up his blog to us as a debate playground. His site allows us to argue and act crazy. Not everyone wants to do that on their site.
Not an ethical violation at all, just annoying … like people who gripe about petty issues such as this.
I use Xanga lock because I had creepy, nosy stalker ex-inlaws who were reading my blog and then using it to bash me to the family. Anything of an extremely personal nature I now put on private or protected, but I’m not going to let the nasty family members prevent me from journaling. They still might try to get in…sometimes I see someone new on my footprints and it’s obviously a new Xangan, joined that day, who hasn’t bothered to create a profile or write an entry. Hmmm…
Friends lock is for kids…
Kids ruin xanga.
Ban kids from xanga.
COMMENT DAMMIT!
I’m moving to mainland China to get away from friends lock on xanga.
If I was posting things on my site that required a passionate response then maybe. My commenting here doesn’t entitle anyone who reads it to come to my site and passionately respond to me there. IF they have something to say to what I write here then say it here.
i dont get it. what does friends lock have to do with leaving a comment on someone’s page? if you write a public entry you’re asking for public feedback. so what if the user prefers to write entries to only his friends and not to the general public? the two have nothing to do with each other at all.
Or is it worse for someone with really stupid blog content NOT to lock his/her blog?
I have xanga lock, and it is just because i want to know who sees my site. I don’t care if you know that i looked at yours, as long as i can know that you are visiting mine. Its mostly just curiousity, though.
I like to know whether or not I have visitors.
It’s not in poor taste if one of two conditions are met: ONE The blog is asking for responses, such as in your own posts. It leaves the door open for people to remark. TWO If a person is specifically blocked because of their responses and the discussion is then ended (only for blocking users, not specific to Friend Lock.
I say respond to them on the same thread that they made their response on…that way they and others can follow along the discussion. It is annoying when you do this, and then try to comment on their site to let them know you have a response to them and you can’t. That sucks.
I don’t think so. >_> But maybe that’s because I do that.
My site is on friend’s lock so my own mother won’t be snooping around my blog. o___O Because I complain about her a lot, and my blog is for MY thoughts…which she doesn’t agree with.
hmm, i’ve read a few of the comments…
i think it comes down to why people use Friends Only in the first place…to control what’s being said and by whom on their site. I see nothing wrong with it…
I’ve never thought of it before. I find it annoying sometimes that I have to login to see what people on my subscription list has said, but it someone has a ‘friend lock’ then I move on and read someone else’s blog.
The comments are not made for the person’s readers. The comment is made for the owner of the blog. So, no…I don’t see a problem with it at all.
No, posting on your site does not require that everyone who reads the comment is then allowed to read my site. I do not have friends lock and I do not care if you read it, but I understand why people have the block on. It isnt meant to be rude, it’s just a personal choice.
I do think it is rude to come to someone’s site after they posted an opinion and then tell them that they are wrong for doing so. I’ve gotten that in the past, and I frankly think it is the rudest thing to do. Sharing my opinion in a public space does not give you premission to come to my site and bash me. Do it on this site, not mine.
Very bad.
If you use Friend Block then stay with your friends. That is what it is for. If you don’t want other people on your site, then then do the right thing, and keep quite on the sites that can not come to your’s.
As to blocking its great features one click and the jerk is gone. No need to make you site private over a hand full of jerks.
Shonbori
Unless your parent is a fool they still read your site. Every heard of “history”? Then there are the spy programs.
I have friends lock not because I am afraid of other peoples’ responses, honestly I couldn’t care much less. I do it because I don’t want my privacy compromised, as there are those that would like to be on my site without me knowing. At least, I believe so.
AGH! YES! I HATE THAT!!
Of course if the Theologian is on your friends list all is well here. just stay off my site i get a lot of friend blocked sites coming for a visit from here. they only get one visit, but it is rude
It’s annoying.
One time this person left me a comment, suggesting they wanted to debate.
I went to their site and there was no way to contact them!
I couldn’t comment or message them or anything…
& I was really mad.
At the least, it’s rude.
If people post passionate comments, and purposefully have their site locked so no one can respond, then yes.
I know my site is on lock, just because I want to keep some semblance of privacy.
I guess that settles it!
It’s annoying!!!
I’m protected. I’ve been harrassed online, many times. I just don’t want to deal with any immature drama. Although I do add anyone who asks, most of the time.
Of course if the Theologian is on your friends list all is well here. just stay off my site i get a lot of friend blocked sites coming for a visit from here. they only get one visit, but it is rude
Posted 3/16/2007 2:14 PM by trunthepaige
LOL! Why not just drop them a line and ask them if they would like to be friends rather than block them?
No… all ya need to do is request them aas a friend. everyone has their own reasons for te friends lock. some dont like stalkers, others post lots of personal pics, etc. u cant judge someone just cuz they have a friends lock. dont be shy, just ask to be invited in… but at least explain where you came upon their site…. i mean some peoples profile pics just SAY “dont accept me as a friend cuz im creepy”….
No it’s not. I think it depends on why they do it though. I had a freaky xanga stalker once so I made a lot of it more private, and they finally left me alone. Sometimes I don’t want everyone and their brother to know my thoughts either!
It can be irritating – but we all have a right to privacy.
I had several not great comments on my normal blog from leaving comments on this site, so I created this one to use when I don’t care what comments I get. I guess that’s what happens when you’re ultra-conservative.
YES.
I feel like camdenjoneses really got it on the nose.
NOT necessarily…i’ve blocked mine as of about a year ago….thats to keep the stalker exes OUT of my business…yeah i know. what a contradiction right? having a web based diary and keeping it locked? pfft. whatever. what difference does it make anyway? like i told you before, its your post you do what you like. you post to provoke discussion…so if thats the case, and its a public forum, my suggestion is for those peeps who want to “challenge” the opinions of others on a public forum, then do just that, ON that public forum. perhaps there are reasons unbeknownst to the general public as to why they are protecting thier posts…maybe thier gramma reads it! maybe they dont want to give gramma a heart attack b/c someone doesnt know how to post nicely. everyone is entitled to thier own opinions and i can dig it, but lets be nice about it, mkay? lol….have a good weekend…troublemaker…haha
I think its cowardly to make a comment and not allow any comments in return. There are plenty of trolls on here who spread negativity yet have no place for responses. That is like being a sniper in hiding the way I look at it.
No. I wasn’t aware that responding to OTHER sites’ posts was an invitation to be attacked on your own site. Now if you leave links to your post on a participation site and then have friends lock on, that is bad blog etiquette.
Ha-Ha. Whatever. I dare someone to do something about it
what if our sites are private for personal reasons that aren’t pertaining to this particular site? Maybe there’s people out there who are protecting their families by only letting their friends see their lives.
there are some freaks out there. and personally…I don’t want them banging on my door to get in.
No.
Mine’s just Xanga locked and oh well.
Besides, if someone really wanted to leave a comment, they could also ask to be a friend.
Is it bad ethics? No.
Bad etiquette? Yes.
If you are responding to someone or engaged in a discussion (and I believe this counts as a discussion) there should be a way to continue the discussion. If you’re leaving one sentence or so I don’t think it really matters but if you’re writing something longer it would be polite to tell the other members of the discussion a way to reach you if you have friends lock. At the end say something like, ‘I operate on friends lock, to discuss with me more please send a message.’
Blocking users in order to not have them discuss with you certainly falls under bad etiquette-unless they aren’t engaged in a discussion and are more interested in harrassing you. Harrassment falls under bad ethics.
But I think that if you want to engage in discussions you should have a way for people to engage with you outside that page be it commenting or messaging.I t’s unrealistic to ask someone to reply on a forum like Dan’s here because then you’d have to go through all the comments to find that one person you were discussing with which is why an outside method is a good thing. But it should be your choice as to what outside method you go with. You should have the right to privacy and choose who gets to see your blog.
If you don’t want anyone contacting you, say that in your comment, then no one will bother coming to discuss with you preventing any annoyance for either party. I think everyone would be able to write an extra sentance that tells the rest of us whether or not they want to discuss more then putting their two cents in.
Feel free to comment on my site to discuss with me although you will have to sign in to your own xanga to do so.
No – because you’re my friend!
I think if you are going to do it on someone’s site, they should be your friend or at least should be invited. But you don’t have to let everyone in the whole world see your site just because you leave a passionate comment on someone else’s site.
-Yes-! Nothing is more annoying then someone who can spout off crap, and then not have the guts to let someone critize them. It’s very annoying –It doesn’t bug me so much on Xanga, as it does on MySpce with people with “Friends Only” pages –and they still want to be -my- friend or whatever… It’s like, if I can’t see your page, it’s an automatic rejection, I don’t even bother with them.
Yeah man, your a pussy if you cant leave it out their for everyone to say. Cept in certian circumstances, of course.
I only had a lock because my evil stepmother started stalking me.
That’s what the friend option is there for: protect you from creepy stalkers!!
Not everyone has blogs for people to view and comment on. Some of us have blogs that were intended for our friends. I love xanga for the community and blog-sharing and whatnot that it does, but not everyone wants to do that.
I love talking on here about things, but my blog is my personal blog. It’s not a published journal to be featured on the front page for everyone to read. I’ve had people I don’t know comment blogs about my personal life where I was having problems, and honestly, it sort of annoyed me. They didn’t know the situation, they were interested, blah blah… I love xanga and people being able to comment anyone, but still. It’s sort of weird. But I don’t have friend’s lock, I just want to see who visits my blog, that’s all.
Ah, well… If you disagree with someone, why can’t you respond to them on your OWN comments? If they cared about it that much, they’ll hopefully come back and check. I always check a blog that I leave a comment on to see if it gets responses.
if they come to a private page to leave the comment and then block or have friends lock up and the person they commented is unable to reply then yes. however hereis a bit more like a forum so respond here is my thought. on another note, don’t come to my site if i can’t go to yours, i’m not here for phishers enjoyment!
I prefer keeping the things written on TheTheologiansCafe on here. It doesn’t need to follow on to my blog or other blogs. I usually don’t reply directly to other commenters, especially if I disagree with them, because they have the right to voice their opinion without getting bugged about it.
However, there are some aspects of xanga blocks that can get annoying. For example, someone subscribed to my site once, but I couldn’t see theirs because of Friends Lock. That was a little bothersome.
All blockers are bastards! (Mwah ha ha! Now to hide behind my impenetrable wall of Friend Lock…)
It’s not like blog blocking them is keeping them from contacting you.
They can still email and stuff
I don’t see why it’s such a big deal…
Yes, and it’s plain rude for nosy people . . . like me.
I don’t think it’s bad ettiquette. If you don’t like it, you can block them. Besides, this site has a different purpose than a lot of other people’s blogs.
No, it is within their rights.
i think friends lock is dumb yes, its like. i want to check your site out but im not showing you mine. kinda not fair and i have a friend that expects someone to comment every time they visit their site. i think thats dumb too. comments are not mandatory why do you even care. now if youre at my site every day you better subscribe or comment occasionally otherwise youre just a weird atalker and thats rude.
No, just kinda… like he said “passionate”.
Some blogs such as mine, are deep thoughts that I really dont want the whole world to read. Tough shit if you have a problem with that.
I don’t know what friend’s lock is. But when I am harrassed by Xanga wackos who don’t agree with me, then I block them from my site for a period of time until they forget about me and move on to harrass other people, then I unblock them.
I put on lock so I’m able to track people….
My blog is a personal thing amongst my friends.
My opinion might raise objections, but I willing to turn a deaf ear in order to keep my private journal private.
I would think the best place to respond to such a thing is on the blog where the original comment was. Let’s try a hypothetical situation here… let’s say I disagree with the following:
kinda. but that’s sorta the point of blogging. since it’s just an emerging phenomena, it doesn’t have a ethics standard yet.
)…J/K.. but I’d respond here rather than go badger pink_fred25 at his or her site since this is where the comment was made. Now if someone disagrees with me and brings it to my site – which has happened in the past – I’d deal with it even though I do have the right to keep my blog accessable to those I choose be it a friends lock or a xanga lack like I have currently. One thing in all seriousness that I do disagree with on the comment by pink_fred25 is that blogging doesn’t have an ethic standard – it does or at least it should and that standard should be simple common courtesy i.e. treat people how you wish to be treated. And really the ethical standard is there in the xanga TOS that we all had to agree to. So if there’s a flame war here between fred and I here, it’s all because it’s how it should be…
Posted 3/16/2007 12:40 PM by pink_fred25
Which I kinda do disagree with it since IMHO blogging is neither really recent or a phenomena (discuss!
*jumps off the soapbox, dodging thrown produce*
Yeah it’s a control thing. They want to be able to have the only say in the conversation. Also it’s a pride thing. They think that their comments are supremly more important than yours and will not even allow you to view their sites, much less comment.
you should at least be able to message them. i leave blog comments open here in xangaland but in myspace and facebook i have it for friends only
No.
Uh oh, was that a passionate response? Are people going to get angry at me now?! Actually, I’m just on Xanga Lock.
I suppose it depends on why your site is on Friend’s Lock or whatever. If it’s so that no one can criticize you, then that seems pretty silly. If it’s for other personal reasons, then there is nothing wrong with it.
Besides, why would you go to someone’s home page to respond to something they said on someone else’s site? Why not just continue the discussion on the original site? I treat your site like an open forum. If I notice someone has responded to something I’ve said, or if I want to respond to something someone said, I always leave a comment on here. Not on their website.
that’s a very general statement; not every has it on Lock for that reason
I never really understood the purpose of “friend lock” either because all you have to do is sign into your account in order to go on the site and wouldn’t you have to do that anyway if you were going to respond to their “angry, passionate” comment?
This is getting weird. Who really cares?
i think it is uneth
I’m kind of up in the air about this one. I can understand the feeling of being attacked on your site and not being able to represent yourself on the “attacker’s” site, but then there is the other side where making a comment about a comment on the original person’s site may seem disjointed and apart from the discussion on the second person’s blog. I guess I wouldn’t have a blog myself if I didn’t want other people to read and comment freely on my site.
I wonder if people even remember that they have Friends Lock activated. Personally, I don’t like it. People with the lock turned on don’t stop to consider that if all the rest of us turned it on, they wouldn’t have any say on anyone’s site. I wonder if they would like that.
Shows that the blockers are pathetic cowards.
if i’m going to comment someone, i usually send a friend request. people have reasons for friends locking their sites other than hiding their personal lives. some people just want to make sure no one steals pictures of their kids.
but if you comment someone and block them from your site, that’s pretty crappy unless they have flamed you or done you wrong or something.
have a great weekend!
*Jac*
I must interject here, that I will never go to a specific person’s site and tell them I disagree with them. I may disagree with them in a comment on YOUR site, Dan, but I don’t go harass them at their personal site. IF I go to that person’s site for any reason, I always invite them to read my blog… so I give them a Friends Invite. I think it’s wrong to go to someone’s site and attack them because of an opinion they stated on someone else’s site.
I do think it is “bad form”. Why would you go out looking and writing on someone elses’ site and not allow comments on your own? As long as people behave themselves when visiting in the “neighborhood”, I don’t see a problem with it.
Nope.
Some people only have “friends” lock on becuase of someone creepy, that won’t “play nice” at Xanga.
lol
Mine probably looks private, but it’s not. I just don’t ever use it; my name is solely for watching my subscriptions now. So I hope I don’t look like that person.
no, that’s stupid. everyone i know with the friend’s lock on have it on because they don’t want people they know in real life or family members to find their xangas.
Nah–just chickenshit cowardly.
It really makes me laugh because one person who goes by L***_M*** posted the nastiest meanest most unChristian bullshit on her site, then immediately blocked people who called her on her lack of logic and her really pathetic failure to grasp reality.
Tough enough to talk like a big girl–unless someone else talks back. Then, tuck tail and run like the yellow mongrel she is.
Just like most of the other chickenhawks who talk tough about sending other people to Iraq while they sit on their fat ass watching faux news and listening to Rush Asshole Limbaugh on the radio.
I don’t think there is such a thing as blog ethics.
just courage and cowardice.
Friend’s lock is safer but really annoying to me.
I’m a person who has posted some comments on this site that have sparked some intense discussions, but there is no reason why those discussions can’t take place entirely within the comments area of this page. I try to conduct myself civilly on this page…and I’d hope that anyone who would come to my site to respond (if they’re unwilling to do it here), would act in the same manner.
The problem is when people are unable to express themselves in a respectful, civil way…or at least without resorting to name-calling. Name-calling and personal attacks are the refuge of those who lack the capability to make a coherent argument.
You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you say and do. I think that this forum would be a much better place if people had more control of their emotions when they write, despite how passionately they may feel about something. It is possible to be passionate, coherent, AND respectful.
Free speech.
lol its neet to see every one say what thay think.. weird thing to me is to see not alot of ppl with read other ppl posts(well at lest not mention any of them.) ..hmm
well i agree with most ppl when thay say its the bloger’s choice. its true and nothing You can do with “make” them change that(unless thay want to) but i also understand the way ppl feel when thay can’t read the poster’s site. I for one will block any poster/veiwer of my site that doesn’t acualy use their site for posting/blogging and doesn’t have a profile.(weird and creepy) but in most cases if You see a frequnt poster/veiwer and You don’t like what thay say just ignore it then. and if its Your site sure if You want just iggy them. nothing wrong with doing that.
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Sushi
***It’s worse blog ethics to bring a discussion from here to my blog. You’re commenting on my blog that is about a totally different subject and making a comment about something totally unrelated to the blog. Why bother coming to my site at all? You want to shoot me a private message, I’ll come back here and discuss it. Otherwise, it’s called stalking. No, it’s not bad ethics.
Posted 3/16/2007 12:42 PM by RedHairedCelt***
Exactly what I feel. Besides, Dan you are a friend of mine, so…
I agree… good post. Let’s be open and allow others to visit our sites too. Well, unless you’re being stalked of course.
It’s totally lame to block…
I have friends lock mainly for safety reasons. If I want to talk about something that happened at my high school, I don’t necessarily want everyone on the internet to know what city I live in. I’m game to hold a civil debate with anyone who wishes to do so, and they have the choice of doing that on this site, on their site, or on my site once I’ve accepted their Friend invite. I agree with anti_cho_chang on this one. Safety first.
I don’t think so. Maybe what they write is personal and what you write isn’t so much. It isn’t as if just because someone’s got friends lock or a private journal it’s always because they don’t want people to respond to their comments..
I don’t think so. Maybe what they write is personal and what you write isn’t so much. It isn’t as if just because someone’s got friends lock or a private journal it’s always because they don’t want people to respond to their comments..
BUT with this, i think i have to disagree with heaps of this stuff, i mean, no doubt it’ll be annoying when someone has xanga or friends lock and they have left a comment. but everyone has their choices when it comes to blogging. if you don’t want them coming on to yoursite when you can’t go on theres, why don’t you do the same and get xanga or friends lock…
see what i mean?
yes I would say so…
no. WHo knows what things they have received? passion is one thing. really being hurtful is quite another, where xanga can get involved. Strange people…but they have a right 2b strage..me to…hehehe….
I have a lock that requires people to sign in before viewing my page. I just like to know who comes. Lately I’ve also done some protective posting though.. for about the last week only two people have been able to view my posts. I do that because there are a few people I wouldn’t want reading my entries depending on my mood!
If i leave a comment on someones Xanga(especially someone who i Sub to) I dont mind them coming to my xanga and leaving me a comment. Even if its something they disagree with. But if i leave a comment on that same site and someone ELSE does not agree with it. So what. Suck it up. Dont come to my site and tell me why IM wrong. I didint go to YOUR site and force my opinion on you. WHy should you do that to me? I didint have my Xanga on friends lock but now im thinking about it.
idk. im not even sure if i ever took mine off the block
not really. you can post messages and leave. *shrug*
My site was private BEFORE I subscribed here. It has been since they allowed me to have one. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, and I don’t think it always has to do with being afraid someone will argue with you. I have no problem accepting people to be on my list, but I don’t want just anyone reading my site.
No, and here’s a personal example. My blog is about grammar. It has nothing to do with your blog. I don’t even enable comments and e-props on it. If someone wants to respond to my comment on your blog, they can do it on your blog, where it will be more relevant. I don’t usually write impassioned responses anyway.
I wish to voice a RESOUNDING “YES!!!”
and Dan, if you read Building_a_Mystery’s response, it’s pretty ironic isn’t it?? lol
Only if they don’t accept the friend offer.
Hi Dan. I don’t have friends lock.
Tricia
That’s why the message option was created, wasn’t it? Insead of commenting, you message.
’nuff said…
Ihave to agree with camdenjoneses.
I also have to say that I used to use the friends lock for some very good reasons-I had a stalker for a little while and I wanted EVERYTHING private for some time. Even having the private feature on my xanga was not enough assurance for me-it felt better to use the lock feature. I’ve been able to take it off and I haven’t had any problems lately. No nasty comments or troll type people-or even the “stalker person” coming back.
I agree with KeyWestKitty. It’s more ‘bad blog etiquette’. But if a person puts their site on Friends Lock as a result of passioned responses to their passioned comments, then I believe the action is bad ethics. However, I comment on sites regularly that I do not allow through my Friends Lock… But I try to not be offensive. It’s just, my parents told me I could have a Xanga so long as I use their safety measures. And I want a Xanga.
So the fact that a person is blocked from a site, while the site owner regularly reads the other person’s blog doesn’t necessarily mean anything.
I agree with KeyWest
Eh it seems kind of rude to me. Like “My opinion should matter to you but I don’t care by any stretch of the imagination about your opinion.”