March 22, 2007
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The Wrong Color
A married couple went to a fertility clinic in order to get pregnant. The fertility clinic was able to successfully inseminate the woman’s eggs. She carried the baby for 9 months and then gave birth to the precious little girl. The only problem is that the baby was the wrong color. Here is the link: Link
(The picture is not the actual family from story).
DNA test confirmed that the husband was not the father. The couple said, “while we love Baby Jessica as our own, we are reminded of this terrible mistake each and every time we look at her; it is simply impossible to ignore.”
Could you raise a baby that was not the same color as you?
Comments (178)
Sure, I don’t see why not. The looks from other people might be hard to take at times, but if it was indeed my child I would love it the same.
Yeah I could raise it. This makes me wonder how many times that sperm is mixed up but the baby is the same race/color so it isn’t obvious/known.
You know what else, is there a lawsuit far behind?
I WOULD DO…
absolutely!!!!
sure why not?…
I’d say it’s not much different than adoption. A child is a child, irregardless of color.
Absolutely, but they should be compensated for the clinics mistake somehow. I mean, they expected a baby from her egg and his sperm, and that didn’t happen.
people adopt all the time.
With that said, if I went to a fertility clinic expecting to get my wife pregnant with my dna, and I end up getting someone else’s sperm, I’m going to be megapissed.
Yes. Skin of all colors is beautiful.
yeah, of course. however, the clinic should be more careful about that shit. Their job is important.
It’d be nice if the husband was the father, and that shows huge negligence in such a serious job.
absolutely
ABSOLUTELY I WOULD!!!
The family probably shouldn’t sue.
*we were so disappointed that you weren’t white that we sued the doctors over it*
that’s not cool
Of course. But there would be a lawsuit if they impregnated me with someone the wrong sperm.
opps * with the wrong sperm.* I mean seriously…the poor husband!!!! Wonder where his sperm went : O
wow, i would want to but i really dont know if i actually could.
Definitely.
absolutely. The child would still be half me. However…..depending on the mix up with sperm….there could be another family that has that father’s sperm with their wife and there could be a lawsuit over custody and visitation.
of course I would…actually, I’m planning on adopting children later. So there.
I do it everyday. My son is bi-racial. They have no say in the matter. Children are truly a gift from God. I live by the saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” We sometimes just don’t know what that reason is.
NO WAY.
That has nothing to do with the baby’s color so much as it deals with me being too incompitant to raise a child. i have a heard time taking care of myself. I’ve got enough on my plate trying to sort out all my issues without creating some for a developing child.
I would not adopt a child who was not the same color as me, because it would be unfair to the child to force it to be subjected to the issues that exist in our society of “mixed” families. However, if it was a child I had carried in my womb and given birth to… It would be my child. Period. Regardless of what color it happens to be. So yes, I could and would raise the child… and hopefully find ways to deal with the issues in our society of “mixed” families that would minimize pain to the child. I would, however, consider suing the clinic for the emotional suffering that the child would be subjected to due to their screwup.
Of course. But I would sue, naturally.
Sure I could. One of my sisters is adopted and is a “different color.”
However, that’s not what that couple was paying for. That’s a BIG mistake. I’d also be concerned with the fact that another woman had been inseminated with my husband’s sperm. =/
Yes. Only an antediluvian troglodyte would refuse to do so.
Absolutely, and I hope to someday. I want to adopt internationally and interracially.
But I understand the parents’ upsetness. It wasn’t the right father. That’s a big mistake, regardless of the child’s race.
Certainly, no problem. Consider: before a man can have a child to love, or fail to love, he must make love to a woman, the most alien and peculiar creature he will ever meet other than a tentacled martian. If he can manage that, complaints about the paint job are very minor.
And doubtless the ladies can reverse the genders and make the same comment.
Not entirely a jest.
Without a doubt. This kinda reminds me of the story of the interracial couple who had twins, one came out white and the other was black.
I think that after the initial shock of the situation wears off, I would be able to.
So, I’m confused. The child is both the mothers and the fathers biologically, so how did it turn out black? And how is it the clinic’s fault?
without a doubt, as much as if she were mine.
but I would be furious with the clinic for their sloppiness.
That’s a big screw up, absolutely. But don’t take it out on the child. That wee baby deserves parents who love her, regardless of her color. Yes, I could…and happily so.
That is a big screw up. Raising and loving the child is given but i see why they might be mad
rcaleyb
They used the wrong semen sample . . . opps
Man that’s bullshit. Reject baby
ooooh of course! But it is rather depressing to know that the clinic messed up. Yikes!
i find it interesting that howard stern is the lawyer. hahah.
Yeah but you’ve been tagged, dude.
America wants to know all about you.
If I was the mother I would not hesitate for a second. Nor would I sue but would understand if my significant other wanted to. If I was not the mother I would hesitate long enough to think of the best interest for the child. If it was having the clinic figure out who the real parents were I could live with giving the child to the original parents. Not that it would be easy - but after all, those parents were at the clinic for the same reason I would have been. Somewhere out there is a dad that wanted this little baby.
THat is the silliest thing I’ve ever heard… Seriously. I have no answer for that question (besides, yes, although I don’t particularly care to have children at all…)
oh, i definately could raise the baby, but it would be very difficult to think of it as my complete own, since the baby does have another father. I would be saying the same thing that they did, every time they look at they see the mistake that the clinic made – not the child as the mistake, obviously, but the sperm.
*HUGS*
yea, i could.
yeah….. my little bro was adopted….. he is black…. we adopted him when he was 11 days old….. so yeah….. i dont see his color…i mean i know he is black…but i see him as my bro….
Yes. I absolutely could and I probably will. Is dark skin a liability? A damage? Oh please.
How in the HELL can anyone call a child, a blessing, a “terrible mistake”. Perhaps the familly should be compensated for the clinic’s error. But being able to raise a beautiful, healthy child – regardless of color – is a gift. That is now their daughter. I hope eventually the parents get over the oversight, and over themselves, enough to recognize that, and provide a happy home for the child.
I feel really bad for this family. There are so many screwed up things that could come out of this, there is no telling what this family will be subjected to in the future. What if the actual donor saw this and tried to get partial custody of the child or something crazy like that. I personally would be able to raise it as my own, but there would be a HUGE lawsuit going on.
Well, letting me rais kids is not the best of ideas, but yeah I could do as well a job as with a cherokee kid.
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I already do, lol. My daughter is biracial, and considerably lighter than me, with bright blue eyes. In the beginning, it was a little odd to me, and the problems in caused in public were extremely frustrating. But my daughter is beautiful, and she always has been, even if she gets sunburn easily and has that funny hair texture, lol. I eventually got over whatever issues I had within myself and am learning to get over what other people think, too. I just dust off the ignorance and keep it moving!
Yes. I mean, color really isn’t an issue for me – I hope to adopt at least one kid in my lifetime. But that’s a huge deal for this familiy. It’s not the baby’s race that’s an issue, it’s the fact that the clinic seriously screwed up. I mean, you can’t keep track of your insemination process? THAT’S WHAT YOU’RE HERE FOR.
Sidebar, how are they going to explain this to the poor baby girl when she grows up? I think I’d tell her she was adopted, although that might cause problems if she wanted to find her real parents. Maybe tell her she was adopted until they think she’s old enough to handle the truth?
Yes. I mean, color really isn’t an issue for me – I hope to adopt at least one kid in my lifetime. But that’s a huge deal for this familiy. It’s not the baby’s race that’s an issue, it’s the fact that the clinic seriously screwed up. I mean, you can’t keep track of your insemination process? THAT’S WHAT YOU’RE HERE FOR.
Sidebar, how are they going to explain this to the poor baby girl when she grows up? I think I’d tell her she was adopted, although that might cause problems if she wanted to find her real parents. Maybe tell her she was adopted until they think she’s old enough to handle the truth?
Damn, sorry for the double post.
colour, schmolour. that’s not their issue.
To answer the question, yes I could raise a baby that wasn’t the same color as I am. I would still love him/her just as much as I would a baby the same color as I am.
I do think they have the right to sue. The clinic didn’t provide the service for which the couple paid. Not to mention, they don’t know the medical history of the unknown donor. Will the child be predisposed to diabetes, heart disease, food allergies, …?
No, I’d probably make fun of the kid too much.
For sure. But it would kind of be hard for the dad since it wasn’t actually his child. I think that would be tough.
ryc: However, if they used the money from the lawsuit as a college fund for the child, or as a trust fund or something of the like….then it could be more like “we had an opportunity to get more money so you could have a better future, this wasn’t so we could have a cooler car to make up for you being the wrong color” (being able to afford in-vitro or whatever doesn’t mean they’ll be able to afford college, especially if the child chooses to go out-of-state or whatever)
Definitely. I don’t look at skin colour – my own beloved is of a different race than I am, but I love him all the more!
In the beginning, it was a little odd to me, and the problems in caused in public were extremely frustrating. But my daughter is beautiful, and she always has been, even if she gets sunburn easily and has that funny hair texture, lol. I eventually got over whatever issues I had within myself and am learning to get over what other people think, too. I just dust off the ignorance and keep it moving!
Posted 3/22/2007 9:43 AM by mickie_knows_best
People shouldn’t be such dicks about kids being a ‘different’ color from the parent. I know some siblings with the same parents that are different colors, it’s genetics people!
Ah, getting sunburned easily does suck a lot. Especially when stores consider sunscreen seasonal. Even though I live in SouthEast Michigan, I can and do get sunburned in February…
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I would not adopt a child who was not the same color as me, because it would be unfair to the child to force it to be subjected to the issues that exist in our society of “mixed” families.
So…
Is it better that they not be adopted? I think the whole idea of “well, if I adopt this child, they’ll have to deal with some sociological issues, so best wait for someone else of their own race to adopt them…”
I know there’s a lot of white babies to adopt, but passing up a child up for adoption because of the sociological issues they will face is silly.
Without a doubt. This kinda reminds me of the story of the interracial couple who had twins, one came out white and the other was black.
Posted 3/22/2007 8:47 AM by Little_Lady27
Interestingly enough there was a paternity case where a white man and woman had black and white twins.
The twins had different fathers.
“Bad news: Your mom is a slut and had sex with two different guys in a VERY short time span.”
“Good news: She doesn’t discriminate!”
that is one of the worst things you can say about your kid that they were a mistake. maybe the lady just cheated on the guy with a black guy and she blames it on the cliniic. hahahhahhaha now THAT would be a story. they wouldn’t be saying the girl was a mistake if she grows up to be a basketball player or a singer who rakes in millions for them would they???? it would really be ironic if the parents are hardcore racists though…. hahhahahhahhahahha man now that TOO would be another life story…. hahhahahha on the other hand if they were hardcore racists they’d probably killl the baby which wouldn’t be so cool anymore… hmmmm now i’m just going off into my little world…
How could you not…
What is “wrong color”.
~IM_R
absolutely….
Totally. The child’s skin is a different color, its not like its deformed or something. She’s a normal human being.
i am able to because i’m not a racist cunt
pft wrong color? what’s WRONG about it?
whore…
I could but what a shocker! Do they get a discount on the next one?
Ohhh, I misread. I didn’t see that the husband was “not” the father. Alright, I understand. Yeah I’d be pissed! I would love the child, of course, but I would still be mad that they messed up; I would want my child to be a part of my husband, that’s important to me. It’d be different if I had known ahead of time and CHOSEN to be inseminated with someone else’s sperm. At any rate, I’d love the child just the same, but it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t be angry. You can’t compare this with adopting a child — that’s a choice, not something someone does on accident or is forced into. It’s possible to be angry about something while still loving the result.
ryc: I’m doing well! Just in school, waiting for summer, the usual.
Of course. There may be a few challenges, but nothing bad enough to reject the baby.
Of course.
But in this story, I understand their being upset and what if the child wanted to find her real father? It would be terribly difficult to find out. I understand their concern and all, and I would probably end up suing as well. How could you possibly mix sperm up like that?
I think people need to realize there’s a difference between being mad at the clinic because your baby is black, and being mad because they’re not your husband’s baby and the clinic made a MISTAKE. The parents are not racist or “whores” for being mad about this — they paid a lot of money to have something done right, and they made a mistake! It’s not saying the child is a “mistake,” and it’s not saying that the parents hate the baby because it’s black. This isn’t a race issue (at least, not in a way of “I didn’t want a black baby, you stupid clinic, I HATE BLACKS”), this is an issue of an organization making a SERIOUS mistake. It is in no way unreasonable to be angry that you didn’t get what you paid for. Yes, you got a child, but you didn’t get one that was biologically yours and your husband’s, which is what you paid a lot of money for. It’s irregardless to say “Well they still got a healthy child!”; that’s not the issue. That’s like not getting mad at an organization that says “hey, we’re going to offer you the chance to have a child that’s biologically yours, that you couldn’t conceive yourself otherwise” and then hands you a child that’s completely not yours after you fork over thousands of dollars. You’d be mad.
Yeah, but there would be questions from the kid eventually.
Yes…it is one of the risks you take in having that procedure done.
I am concerned for the emotional health of the girl. I hope that the parents do a good job of showing her that they love her for exactly who she is and are not dissatisfied with her. She might have issues because of all this.
Yes…it is one of the risks you take in having that procedure done.
I am concerned for the emotional health of the girl. I hope that the parents do a good job of showing her that they love her for exactly who she is and are not dissatisfied with her. She might have issues because of all this.
it’s like adopting a baby of a different race…but do they love their child less because the child does not look like them??
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We’re back to the skin color issue again. Does skin color really matter one iota? She’s a child, not a pair of shorts or a shirt you can special order the color you want. She is a person. Her skin color should not matter.
Why is it a big deal? They wanted a baby, they have one. Who the heck cares what she looks like??????
GOOD GRAVY GRANNY! This is in my mind a total NON-ISSUE!
Um, yeah, many people do it with adopted children. A child is a child, they are all loveable and amazing. Why does it have to share your same genes in order for you to love them? How horrible is this child going to feel when she gorws up and hears the words of her mother, calling her a “terrible mistake?”
While I could very much love and raise a child that wasn’t my own.
I sure as hell sue the infertility for this great mistake. I mean they paid for specific sperm and to mess that up. Makes you think what other couples they messed up but the kid was the same color as the parents so they didn’t notice.
yes.
This has happened somewhere in northern europe as well. Whats scary is that if this child wasn’t a different color, then no one would even suspect that anything had gone wrong. It makes you wonder how many times this actually happens. But either way, it wouldn’t stop me from raising her. She’s still my daughter, whether or not she has my skin tone.
Color doesn’t matter, just as long as….YOU’RE TAGGED!
people who do this procedure simply WANT A CHILD that they could not get on their own. so they got one. if this procedure was never invented they would have adopted would they not? for people who seriously ONLY want to give a child the chance to have a great life wouldn’t care of their race or whether or not it was theirs. its SELFISH. what do they plan on doing? disowning the baby and asking the clinic to try again?!? didn’t think so.
they need to DEAL WITH IT. and stop BITCHING about something not serious at all! besides, getting this procedure done is actually NOT a lot of money. people in my family have done it and it was pretty affordable. if their concern is what the baby looks like they should have adopted so they can see what the baby looks like before they take them home and ruin their lives.
jackasses.
of course. but I would be pissed of.. but I’d still love them just the same. (i’m assuming since I’ve never had kids)… but I love my cats and they are all different colors.. i wouldn’t trade them for the world.. and I know for a fact that they aren’t mine haha.
Wouldn’t it be funny. if just by chance.. she had cheated on her husband before getting artifically inseminated.. and that’s why it didn’t work out. I mean. I know that’s not possible because… well… they check for those things. then again you’d think they check and make sure the sperm were the right sperm. Or maybe they are a miracle family and the father had some recessive black genes that showed up for no reason.
let your imagination run wild!
babies a babies a babie…. all of them are adorable.
My husband and I are a bi-racial couple, our children will two different races. We also love the idea of adopting a child as well, any color, any race. I could absolutely raise a child of a different color. Thousands of people already do it, very successfully.
I do think that the clinic needs to pay restitution, that can be a heartbreaking situation for a couple. Obvisouly they very much desired a child of their own, or they wouldn’t be at a fertility clinic trying to create a child with their own DNA. If they didn’t care deeply for a child of their own to begin with, they might have adopted in the first place. I wonder how often this happens….it would be harder to tell if the clinic had mixed up the sperm with another man from their same race. They might never have known. Sad sad sad.
yes!! of course. I wonder if they know that if someone in their ancestory was colored that years later they can have a colored child even if both parents are white.
The baby has the mothers egg at least. They should get crackin on making some more to balance out the genetic pool in the familiy…
Yes I could.
Sure – why not?
I also find it interesting that many people are assuming that this is a white couple who ended up with a half-black baby. The article did not specify. You claimed the picture was not of the actual family. The biological father could have been Hispanic or Middle Eastern and they would have still noticed that the baby’s skin color was too dark to have two white parents. I’m white and my husband is Hispanic. It will be obvious that our children have parents from different races. I wonder why everyone assumes it’s a white/black issue? I’m not saying that it’s not, I just wonder why people assume that right off the bat.
the fact that the child obviously did not come from their DNA is what prompted an investigation.
I am sure this happens more frequently than anyone knows, or can know, or wants to know. but most people don’t even think to ask, or notice, because it is not so obvious.
Nonetheless, they clearly wanted a child and “beggars can’t be choosers” blah blah. They seem happy and it is undeniable that they love her. END OF STORY.
oops!
Why is it that abortion is a no no, and birth control, but playing with nature to have kids is considered okay?
What is up with that.
To the question, I personally can’t answer it. I loved my own, but I’m generally not comfortable around kids of any color.
I always wanted a different color baby.
My hubby says he would sue the hell outta the fertility clinic and then put her through a nice college. hehehe
ummm duh…she had the kid..no kid should have to know what its like to be considered a “mistake”….i live with that guilt everyday even though its not my fault..and this little girl will too when she reads all this stuff about her one day….. if it bothers her that much,maybe she could try to have another one and put that one up for adoption…although thats stupid….she should just raise the freaking kid.
whats wrong with people these days?
Absolutely! It certainly isnt the child’s fault… AND- after carrying a child for 40 weeks- It’s MINE.
I could just as well as I could a kid of “my color.”
My boyfriend of over three years is Asian. I’m white. Take a guess. XD
What’s wrong with this is that the doctors used sperm from the wrong man, not that the baby turned out black. I wouldn’t mind having a baby of any race, but I WOULD mind having a baby that was supposed to be made from the parts from my husband and me and the sperm got mixed around. That’s kind of a big mistake for them to make.
I would raise the child as if it were mine. ( I am a guy so I would be the “not the daddy”). The only matter that I would pursue in court would be to see if the child were legally mine. If it was not then Iwould adopt it so that it would be legally mine. I would not sue the clinic because
A. Mistakes happen, would you want to be sued everytime you made a mistake?
B. The baby is not a broken VCR. It is and always will be a human being. By suing over a human being you are given that kid the value of an object of a commodity. You are telling the baby and the world that the kid is of no more value to you then _______ (inset something people sue over) I am not owed compensation, it is not a burden for me to raise a child. What kind of sick world have we become when we sue over human life?
An old friend of mine was raped and consequently impregnated. She reasoned that half the DNA was good DNA, so she went through with it with the plan that she and her fiance would raise it as their own. The kid is 15 now, really smart, really cool, and really loving.
I could and would raise a child of a different race, but is that really what this is about?
1. They were expecting a child from their own combined DNA, not someone elses
2. What happened to the husbands DNA? Is there another couple walking around with baby that isn’t “of the right color?”
3. That poor girl is gonna have a rough ride, explaining to everyone how she’s not adopted, and her mom really didn’t have sex with someone else…
yes, but I would need a backgound to raise the child with its culture
yes i would cause it is not the baby’s fault.
The family probably shouldn’t sue.
*we were so disappointed that you weren’t white that we sued the doctors over it*
that’s not cool
Posted 3/22/2007 8:31 AM by attercop
HA! HA! HA! I actually read that as well.
funny. This is not the first time something like this has happened and it does make you wonder how many times there is a mix up with a sperm donor of the same race.
Race doesn’t matter.
yes. a child is a living breathing feeling human being regardless of color. But clinics should really be more careful about that.
i would not because I’m only 17, but if I was able to support a family I wouldn’t have a problem with it. It would be kind of like adopting a newborn.
In His Name,
Wade
While a mistake like tha would be devastating at first, I don’t believe that it would affect my love for the child. I would consider the baby to be my own, if I had carried it in my womb for 9 months. Besides, it’s not like the woman had sex with someone else, she was artificially insemenated.
how cute.
a child is a child and all children need love and guidance. i could never let a child down.
could you?
This is kind of like a story I heard in the news about a Danish (I think) couple who had twins. One was white with both parents’ genes and the other half black because the clinic used the same instruments from a previous -black- couple and didn’t clean it. Crazy, huh?
My voice teacher/mentor is white.
Black daughter.
Worstly, she has no idea who the father could be (now, don’t go judging her, she’s a a good christian woman. She was taken advantage of…=//).
She loves Hannah to death. It’s never an issue.
Awww, that girl’s adorable, who cares?
I looked it up. I was wrong . . . it was a Dutch couple. Here’s the link: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2002/07/09/nivf309.xml
I have a hard time not loving children, I guess it comes with my profession. They’re all wonderful tiny humans, regardless of skin color or any other characteristic. A child is a child.
However, I can completely understand their frustrations! I’d be very upset if someone injected my egg with the wrong sperm!
Somehow I don’t think it is the color, but the fact it is not the husband’s baby. This is a really tough one to me. I think most people hope he keeps the child and raises it with love and tenderness.
Frank
After reading the article, I also find it hilarious that their lawyer is another Howard Stern: Howard J. Stern. Haha!
If your last name is Stern, please don’t name your child Howard!
hope the kids turns out ok and not stigmatized for being “different”
that’s really screwed up for anyone to say that. the racism has not been obliterated, im not stupid but it has been borderline subtle at most. this is just ridiculous.
Yesss. For sure. I wouldn’t care, but I’m sure my husband would be p-o’ed.
RYC: why do you find it so interesting? Oh, and I hope you don’t mind that I mentioned you in my post. =]
(Does RYC mean responding to your comment?)
yes i could raise the baby. On the other hand i can totally undderstand how they would file a lawsuit against the clinic. I just don’t like the way the media is going about this. THey are acting as if this baby is a problem. What’s wrong with the baby being the wrong color. I can totally understand the dad not being the father, but they way they say it the make it sound horrible just because the baby is black and they are white. If the baby had been white there wouldn’t have been as big of a contraversy, heck the kid probably wouldn’t even know for a while
hmmm sounds like the clinic is not so good at its job. i would have no problem raising the child as in the place i live there is not “problem” with being bi-racial. its more common then not in fact. i wouldn’t sue the clinic for monetary compensation however i would make sure that they were no longer in bussiness!
Absolutely. It would be strange if I expected my child to look like me, but didn’t because of a fertility clinic’s mistake, but her color wouldn’t make raising her loving her more difficult.
Of course. I was raised with people who weren’t the same colour as me (I’m white; raised in Southeast Asia). I’m more comfortable with people of different races than I am with white people. I’m not used to white people, I didn’t grow up around them and have much interaction with them. I plan to adopt, and melanin and pigmentation won’t be an issue in the slightest.
Yes. One of my friends is Asian, and she has white adoptive parents. She’s a sweet and caring girl, no worries or anything. =]
I might want to adopt a child, preferably Asian. Asian girl.
I feel bad for the couple.
Yes.
yes, but I would need a backgound to raise the child with its culture
Posted 3/22/2007 1:50 PM by awish4you
Culture is not genetic. So they have to raise the kid differently just because she’s half black? Not at all.
Yes, but it’d be kind of hard to forget that it wasn’t my husband’s child.
I can see how that specific situation could be upsetting. You would expect the child to have part of its father’s DNA, and it wouldn’t. I like the way the couple put it. It’s just “impossible to ignore.” However, I wouldn’t love my child any less if it were a different color than I am.
I certainly would. Another consideration: this child will likely know that her parents sued the clinic over this mistake. What will that do to her feelings about herself? Will she consider herself to be a mistake? Unwanted? Unloved? The parents will need to be very careful and loving in handling this as far as it concerns their child. I think I’m with attercop–the parents shouldn’t sue.
absolutely. i would bring it to their attention but i would never say that about my child
Yes, of course. If I carried the child for nine months (even if I didn’t) it would still be my child, and I would still love it. It wouldn’t matter what color the baby’s skin was. Other people might be hard to handle sometimes because of the looks and things but other than that it would be okay.
Kind of makes you wonder how often these mistakes are made though, just without the baby being a different color than the parents. What happened to the intended sperm I wonder…?
uhh.. i kinda think if somebody won’t… they’re prolly racist. most likely anyways.
Without a doubt. Color is beautiful.
I would certainly expect the fertility clinic to address some issues, but yes, I’d love the child I had carried. The child would be mine!
Sure. But it might be different if I was expecting the baby to look like me or the dad after it was born.
The fact that she is a different “color” shouldn’t be what matters. If that happened to me, I wouldn’t care what “color” they are. But if a clinic or whatever made a mistake, I’d be a little.. upset. Just because this child is.. well.. not my own. I’d still love them as my own, of course. And of course I wouldn’t give a shit if they were white, black, purple, green, rainbow…
Well…scientifically it is possible to have a baby of a different color, from recessive genes, but since the DNA doesn’t match up, the clinic made a mistake…that sucks.
I would most definitely love and keep the child. However, as some have already stated, expecting my husband’s DNA and his being the biological father, I would be very upset about that. Clinics should be held responsible for things like this.
Of course, but it wouldn’t look “right.”
My friend was adopted, and so is her sister. My friend and her adoptive parents are white. Her younger sister, also adopted, is African American. We have to be nicer to her sister in public….According to their parents, if they saw us fighting with a younger African American girl, we’d get our asses kicked. They’re probably right.
Of course!
But I’m with anothermadhousewife.
Sure
everyday. my kid is a different color than me. but, he’s mine!
Sure, but at the same time, I’d be rediculously mad at the clinic for something like that. I wonder, will they have any kind of problems with paternity going on when the actual father of the child finds out?
I am doing just that. I have 3 biological children and 2 adopted children who are a “different color”. That’s a whole different issue from being inseminated with the “wrong” sperm IMO.
That has always been a dream of mine. I wanted a child from as many countries as I could. Age and money available changed that dream.
Yes…
but it would be hard to know that the child isn’t really yours, in that it does not have your DNA.
yes, but I do sympathize with the couple.
Absolutely! Who on earth wouldn’t…?
That’s bullshit. She wasn’t a mistake…whether she’s the same color or not, the mother carried her for nine months. They should love her regardless. And move on. It’s ridiculous. Color is just pigmentation. It doesn’t make a person who they are.
wow… was she the one with fertility problems or him? makes me wonder if she wasn’t shagging the mailman while hubby was at work, and if maybe it’s not the doctors fault. however if it is the doctors bad, they will get hella money if they decide to sue.
and to answer your question, YES, i could and will be raising a child not the same color as me… i am white and my husband is black… therefore, my baby due in june will be brown. yay for brown babies!
Yes. But I’d be really pissed if I gave birth to a half-black child without the experience of hot passionate jungle-love sex.
I could…but if I were in their situation, I would probably sue too, because I consider that malpractice. And how confusing is that going to be to explain later in the child’s life? I can’t imagine how they must feel.
For me loving a child has nothing to do with what color they are. I would love any child just as my own no matter what they came from.
absolutley.
no questions asked.
the problem with today is that people ONLY see the surface. and sure, that’s what you DO see at first. but more of us have to be bigger people…big enough to accept the fact that people may not fit into the box your mind puts them into the first time you see/meet them.
I would be upset if i found out the genetic qualities from my husband I wanted to share in a child did not come through but yes I would love the child..it’s my child…..colour makes no difference… giving it away to someone else just is ludicruis
haha that happened to gaby’s (eva longoria’s character) surrogate [who was asian] on desperate housewives.
they didn’t keep the black baby.
sure ,cuz i wouldn’t want to go through the same pain over again just to make things right.
“while we love baby jessica as our own?” isn’t the MOTHER still her biological parent? geez. i mean, duh the fertility clinic screwed up and that really sucks, but dang…was that statement neccessary?
I dont think its the color that would bother me, it’s more of the fact that my husband is not the father of the baby.
such a sad story for a loving family … I could raise the child …
Of course I could.
But the issue here is that this couple has been trying so long to have a child that is biologically both of theirs and they paid a lot of money to do so. And it’s not. So that “void” that I know a lot of couples have when they want to have a child that is theirs might not be filled.
I hope they love this little girl every bit as much as they would if the circumstances were different. And I hope they are able to have a child that is biologically both of theirs as well.
Absolutely. It’s still a child that I, in some way, had brought into my life, whether through adoption or through childbirth.
it’s america..what CAN’T you be sued over? =D
the clinic is at fault for making such a mistake.. but at the same time, it IS a fertility clinic that the couple went to.. if they can’t get a child on their own, then they should feel blessed to even have a child at all.
i wonder if they will try to give the baby up for adoption, and then go to another fertility clinic to try again.
Completely.
That’s crazy!
Yeah. It wouldn’t matter to me.
But thats kind of sad because it wasn’t the fathers baby.
Absolutely, without a doubt.
Though the concern that such a grievous error immediately brings to mind is that their child has a different (and possibly unknown) medical history then the parents may be aware of.
Yes, I would. I would have no problem with it.
What I’m wondering is why the parents aren’t extremely pissed that instead of the wife getting her husband’s sperm, she got someone else’s. Was she supposed to get his?
of course!!! i would not care what color it was as long as it was healthy that is all tha matters. i love kids and have two of my own so it would not be hard for me at all.
charliesgirl_21
It shouldnt matter. Biological kid or not, youre still the mother & you wanted a kid.
yea i cud raise the child and it wudnt matter but i wud b sooooo pisssed at the ppl who got it mixed up i mean that aint fare the hsband has a baby out there he will probly never see and a lil gurl who will not probly see her real dad
I currently do raise two children who are not the same color as me. We have three “vanilla” kids (bio) and we adopted our youngest two from Haiti (chocolate kids). I love every single one of them equally as much!
If I chose it (i.e. adoption) yes, no problem. If I mated with a person who is any other color, yes, but if it was artificial insemination supposedly using my egg & my husband’s sperm? Ooooh. Probably will be hard for me to accept that. I mean all the years’ dreams and expectations (i.e. my baby will have my hair, my hubby’s eyes, etc.) will be extrememly hard for me to give up and get over from.
yes, duh