September 29, 2007
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Attachment
In your romantic relationships over the course of your life who has tended to be more emotionally attached in the relationships, you or the people you have dated?
In your romantic relationships over the course of your life who has tended to be more emotionally attached in the relationships, you or the people you have dated?
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me
first
me
as always.
oh the people who I’ve dated for sure…. they are sooo emotionally attached first… and then if we’re still dating for like few months then I’ll get attatched…
But them for sure.
the person i dated. it takes me a while to warm up
The other people…
I’m not your lovey dovey type of person. I need my space.
The other one.
It takes two.
It went both ways, but in general I am a very passionate person. If I love a person, the feeling is not soon killed off, if ever.
Both. But the latest one is him…
Its gone both ways, currently? We both are and, thats a good thing.
it has been both ways for me, depending on which relationship you want to discuss. And like madame_butterfly137, the one I am in right now has both of us pretty ga-ga. And its wonderful.
The people I have dated.
Not every time though… sometimes it’s definitely been me. Or during the course of the relationship it’s changed.
people ive dated usually are…
me…
I didn’t date much, but in my limited experience – me. Now that I’ve been married for a good many years, though, I would hope that my husband has caught up.
me…everytime
RYC: Jack and I are sworn enemies.
Oh, and to answer your question–never me. Always him.
the people I have dated… *sigh* I was worried I was emotinally stunted until I found Ben.
the people i’ve dated but now it looks like that’s changing… erghhh
me, at first
over time it becomes them
except in this one. in this current one I’d say it’s pretty even.
the others
Both
Different relationships, different attachments. I tend to put a shield around myself – just in case. Didn’t wih some and paid the price.
The other people, but not always.
It was always me in the past until I met my husband. When I met Matt it was a deep and inexplicable connection…I wouldn’t call it “love at first sight”, but there was a sense of profound connection. Our morals, goals and dreams were so similiar, and then there was the fact that he was an outrageous fox that helped fuel the attraction. I liked him, but it took me a while to feel all warm and fuzzy.
Can I get back to yo after I have had a romantic relationship?
me.
Me.
certainly not me. it takes me a while to become emotionally attached. i don’t put a huge wall up, but i’m more cautious and tend to make sure the relationship is secure before letting my guard down. i guess it’s just a reaction to getting burned too many times.
oh, and ryc: i’d LOVE to go to a harley shop that’s bigger than a wal-mart! =)
It has gone both ways
them. the only people i’m really attached to are my mom and my dog.
In the first one we both were pretty apithetic.
In the second one, Me.
my last relationship was me – which was the only one
but the ones before were them.
taking an aggregate of all my romantic relationships: it’s about even.
from my serious relationship(s): me
Me Me Me Me Me Me Me
Why Why why why why why why?
The answer mystifies
It makes no sense.
Why must I care.
Why must I share
For them to bail?
I need to hail a different form
Or better ride the storm.
Me. I always am.
Me, always me, because I put everything within me into the relationship.
me
me, sadly.
Me, I think
in my first (and longest) relationship I was the more emotionally attached one. by far. then that ended. horribly. Since then I don’t get emotionally attached to the girl I’m dating at all and they get really really attached really fast.
Ladies you need to stop throwing your hearts away on unavailable people. Especially if they tell you that’s how it is from the beginning! You can’t make them love you. The “power of love” can’t heal whatever made them emotionally unavailable in the first place. And they’re not going to believe “I’m not like all those other people you’ve dated,” because, honestly, you probably are.
I think me…but I don’t know if I’d call it attachment as much as I would depth…It’s just like wanting more and more of the person, like not getting enough. haha not in a scary stalker way, but I kind of get fascinated by who the person is and I want to learn everything about him. Somehow, that doesn’t ever seem to be reciprocated…maybe I’m not interesting?
Its been over 25yrs since i’ve dated but i think with my hubby it was him then me…after all these yrs it hardly matters
me…
i think Pisces tend to be like that
Definitely me!! I love completely!!!
Me, usually….I tend to love wholly and unconditionally, and that’s gotten me hurt.
First the other person, later it was me.
people i dated but now its 50/50
The other people.
As far as serious relationships go, I was more attached in the first one. Now, my wife is the more attached one.
Usually me..
in my current one, it goes back and forth, both of us are extremely attached.
me
me, its my first relationship, hes more used to being involved with someone
apparently me.
The record is mixed.
I think it really goes both ways, for us.
always me.
Most of the time it used to be the person I dated, until I met me husband. Then , we were both equal to emotional attachment but now, we go back-n-forth. I guess after 20 something years, that is how it works.
Them.. or HIM..
Yeah..
Anyway..
I’d say both, but I was always the dumper, not the dumpee so they were more attached that way because most of them asked me not to dump them.
been on both side of that one.
me
Before my current relationship I can say without a doubt me. But it was him this time around, and being on the receiving end of such immediate and intense passion has only made me feel so much more secure, wanted, and needed in our courtship.
myself, but only by one relationship. it’s pretty even. either i fell and he didn’t, or it was the other way around.
Cause, you know, I’ve had so many… Um, it depends on the person. I’d say it’s about 50/50.
me.. and it’s never quite right
it depended on the guy’s personality but most of the time, i would be more emotionally attached..
moi…
the other person. actually, thats usually the problem with me. that they’re comitted whereas i’m just involved.
60% them…40% me.
the other person.
i never really did truly open up.
Me
me without a doubt!
Oh, usually me.
Its hard to say but probably me. He never did let me know anything about his feelings in that one. In all the other ones it was probably them. I just wanted people to leave me alone but I didn’t want to hurt their feelings. That last one where I actually was attached was great. The best thing that ever happened to me but all good things come to an end right?
Definitely me. I think that, as a general rule, women are more likely to become emotionally attached, given our loving, caring nature.
The person I date is usually more emotionally attached. I get very emotionally attached when I’m just attracted to someone but not dating them, but in actual relationships, I usually feel like he’s more emotionally attached than I am.
Me. I had a “blind date”(arranged by one of my sisters) I only knew a few days become obsessed with me once, he scared me so much I broke it off
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Always the people I have dated. I don’t attach that easily… and my ability to unattach unnerves people.
The more into the person I am, the more attached I am
Of course they don’t need to know that.
either… it depends. other than my awesome hubby there was pretty much just one guy. so not necessarily me? but i could just be putting on a brave front?
me.
It’s gone either way.
I have been by a long ways.
Well, I’ve really only had a relationship with my fiance…no other guy…and I think we’re pretty even. Some days he’s definately more emotionally attached and other, it’s me. Either way, he probably shows others in an obvious manner that he is very emotionally attached to me; I don’t show it so “loudly.” (It’s fun to hear the nice things he says about me to others when I’m not around…then they tell me later…it’s very sweet!)
I was always much more attached in the beginning, and then grew distant as it went on. It’s a 50/50 coin toss. clingy then GONE.
Where is the balance?
no, it never lasted that long
them, but i think its about time i become more attatched…(so the next one i will be sure and do that..)
They’ve laster longer when it was the other person. If it’s me it lasts all of a week or two.