Yes. Younger, ignorant people anyway. Especially with claiming they are bisexual.
Yeah. Some people I know. Most highschoolers.
I think in some cases, yes. Some people want to proclaim to the whole world that they are open-minded and left-winged.
Yeah, because everyone loves to be persecuted, taunted and told that they are going to hell. Who wouldn’t want that in their lives???
I think a lot of younger people do because they’re confused, especially with all those hormones suddenly kicking in.
well yeah people think is something cool apparently,, my 13 year old sister says she thinks she is bi now, i’m about to ask her if she has been watching that tila tequila show lately,, i personally don’t care whether anybody is bi or gay but please don’t claim to be something just to get attention,
I think that a lot of younger kids claim to be gay or bi because they’re confused, or they want to appear open-minded or make themselves more attractive.
No. I don’t see how it would make them look cool. Maybe I just live in an ultra-conservative city.
i’ve actually got into a conversation about this with a couple of gay people. i’ve come across the fact, that quite of them dont find bisexuality to be true. something like an early state of lost. i couldnt say really…i do believe it is more of a fad than truth. but for me, there is more of that certain “something” when it comes to everyone that sparks the feeling of “want” in my mind. but thats just speculation i guess -.-
I do know of a few girls who claimed to be bi to capitalize on the whole “lesbian fantasy” guys have.
It would shock me if they did.
Yes, sad isnt?
would=wouldn’t
unfortunately, yes stupid attention whores
in high school, yes.
Yep.
yeah it is kinda sad
but
oh well
but deffeniatly bisexual
maybe cause they dont want to stray form how they really feel
but wanan be cool at the same time
Hahaha that’s funny. I think with a lot of girls I see it a lot more prominent. But I’m sure it’s equal; however, yeah, it’s probably all the rage in popularity now.
Oh, definitely. Definitely so. And those that claim they’re bisexual are just more cowardly- easier to be bi so when you go back to your opposite sex, it’s ok.
i guess some do, but for the most part no. i think it’s interesting how everyone is saying it’s always high schoolers. im in high school and it’s really not the case. it doesn’t make you cool to be gay. people say they’re tolerant and everything but the reality is that they make fun of gays and use the word “gay” as a synonym for “stupid.” if anything, people stay in the closet in high school.
RYC: Thank you for your comment. You may be right. I really feel that way today.
what everyone else said. high school kids.
At times I wonder such things. So many it seems say such things if only for the sake of garnering attention for themselves. Many young lads these days, clad in black claim to be bi, yet are only ever seen in the company of girls when they wish to make out. Most have never shared the company of another male in that capacity, nor will ever try it, for fear that really meaning what they say may bite them in the arse. Women on the other hand, it seems that more of them take what they say seriously in this regard. Now in the end, I suspect much of it is about showing off who is in touch with their masculine/feminine side to potential mates, more than it is about really meaning what is said.
It seems that I come upon you in many places that I wander upon xanga, we are perhaps similar in that respect, we share the same sort of wanderlust and curiousity of strangers. I’ll be watching .
in my experience, no. maybe in younger peeps, but i don’t really deal with younger peeps so i’m not sure.
yup. it’s a friggin’ trend!
Yeah. It’s true. I said I was bisexual before. I got more attention because of it. Yes, it was stupid.
That’s a good question. Friday I ran into one of my students before I left. He looked like a kicked puppy. He is 20? My students tend to be about 5 five years behind socially, being LD and HFA. The things they do now, high school sophomores already did long before they did. He got reprimanded for sexually harassing a coworker. He touched her inappropriately twice, and made some comments that made her uncomfortable.
He was attracted to her. We are TEACHING them how to hold jobs. This was a learning experience. I bring it up, because as we talked and the details came out, he admitted that just this past year his father had beaten him when he told him he was gay. Now he was in trouble with his vocational placement for coming onto a woman. He was frightened. He didn’t want his parents to know. If you read his facebook, you can follow the wall postings and see every person he has messed with.
I told him he was learning, and not to worry. Just because you have sex with a man, and even if you ENJOY it, doesn’t mean you’re gay. It doesn’t even mean you’re bi. I slept with men. I slept a LOT of men. I don’t do it anymore. I know who I am. When I did, I was looking.
What are kids looking for?
They are looking… for themselves.
Yes. And it’s pissing off everyone cause stupid people are throwing out mixed signals. >:[
Maybe in high school, but I think even that is rare. older people, no way.
This is not disputed whatsoever. Chicks will make out with other chicks for their boyfriends or to make themselves seem more sexy. -David
I dont agree with the yeah’s .. I am around teens all the time.. And it may be a trend to some… but its still bi. Ask me if I am today. haha
I don’t like people in general. What does that make me?
They do, it hurts the real ones.
Definitely in high school.
I didn’t know that your sexual orientation dictates your “coolness”.
…That’s a ridiculous question. No person would want to be “gay” or “bi” to be ‘cool’ – that does not exist. People who are actually homosexual or bisexual are in many cases ridiculed and treated unfairly.
I don’t know.
I thinks it is because people cannot find that bond they are looking for in the oposite sex. They find friendships with the same sex, and mistake that to be the sexual bond that they are trying so hard to find.
Yeah I do. Most of my peers anyway. It’s not always to ‘be cool’ though, sometimes it is just to rebel, or to shock people.
I’m yet to meet someone like that.
yea, i think some do.
Yes, but people lie to themselfs all the time.
I personally am in the midst of all this gay/bisexual crap. I know several guys who claim to be gay or bi just for the attention from chicks because a lot of chicks thinks its hot. Most of them do it for attention, and when someone who really is gay comes along, no one believes them. Most likely if they’re proclaiming that they are gay, they aren’t. I fucking hate high schoolers.
People are definitely saying they’re bi to be cool, I don’t know so much about saying they’re gay, but certainly bi.
I’ve had plenty of friends tell me they were bi, all of them girls, suddenly, all around the same time frame – when the scene/emo trend hit myspace. Speaking of myspace, go on there, and look up the kids that have upwards of 12,000 friends [and they're out there]. If you wanted to, you could go and look at every profile, and for the most part, those kids would be bi or gay. Some of them might actually be that way, but I have a feeling since all of them are following a trend, they’re lying.
Really, you can’t tell me that “guys kissing” being hot has always been that way. Because girls kissing has always been hot for guys [...that are straight], but it wasn’t until recently that guys kissing became as amazing as girls are trying to make it out to be. That’s where the trendy bisexual thing comes in, that way, you can kiss members of the same sex – not get called gay for it, and still hook up with someone of the opposite sex.
It’s pretty sad, actually.
maybe bi amongst women, but definitely not gay or bi amongst men or gay amongst women.
There is still much stigma in such status. Just look at your High School, college, or Pro football teams. You never hear of gay football players, because there is still much homophobia w/in the sport. There is still a huge price to pay in society, especially in the public school system.
I think more people try to pretend their bi more than full on gay. I don’t understand the mind set of what makes people think when they feel it makes them cooler.
I don’t know but I do know that there are a lot of dumb people in the world.
Most definitely. It’s now the height of cool to claim to be bi or gay. However, a gay friend of mine is very frustrated. He says everytime he comes onto one of these bi emos, they run a mile.
Lol.
(He also says if I say “lol” it’ll make me look cool.)
I’m bisexual… Get over it if you don’t believe me… I’m only out to a few friends… It’s not something I have a huge poster for waiving in the air…
I don’t “claim” to be bisexual. I am bisexual.
I’m not really sure how a sexuality can make someone cooler, but whatever.
Well…if they can claim they have experimented then No. If they are saying it just to fit in, then yes.
From experience, I’ve only met one person who was Bisexual and has actually proved it to me. People who claim they are gay…well my cousin is gay and he seems happy.
Probably
Though this trend is supposedly rampant, I have never met anyone who I thought was just claiming to be bi to be ‘cool.’ In fact, I haven’t met too many people claiming to be bi period. It’s mostly in the media, and we all know how well that reflects real life, right?
Yes and no to the bi sexual part of it at least. A lot of people answer with high school students, but they seem to forget about the ones that aren’t doing it for attention/or as a trend.
I do believe that a lot of high schoolers will say it because of a trend. Some girls will say it to get the attention of guys because of the whole “girl on girl fantasies” that so many of them have. Also, some of the guys will do the same to get a girl’s attention. I find it ridiculous because for those students/people that are actually bisexual, it makes them seem like they’re faking it.
You can’t really say that person is only claiming to be bisexual. They might like both genders, but one gender more than the other, or maybe haven’t found anyone specific of one of the genders that they liked.
A lot of people say they are bisexual not because they want to be cool, but because they don’t want to feel limited in love by gender. Of course, the number of bisexuals is going don’t because of terms like “bicurious”, “heteroflexible,” and “homoflexible.”
down* not “don’t
Gay? No.. Bi? MAYBE. But i bet it’s more because they’re confused than anything..
it’s so cool to be oppressed. to be stripped of your rights. to be a victim of hate crimes. to be disowned by your family and ignored by society.
what a moronic question.
i used to feel that way. but i think ppl just feel safer and more confident.
Some, yes. But then again, some isn’t everybody.
I agree with firetyger. And a bunch of other people. Some do it because they’re not sure, some because they want attention, some because…idk…because they can, some because they are. It’s hard to say.
ch..YEAH! Freakin’ trends..
No idea.
“Yeah, because everyone loves to be persecuted, taunted and told that they are going to hell. Who wouldn’t want that in their lives???”
Yep… I agree…
I do think some girls say it because guys think it’s “hot” or whatever to see some girl on girl action. Guys that say it (although I know zero guys that claim to be bi) are probably in for a world of hurt, so I don’t know why they would say it unless they really were.
Some people do, I have met a few. Closet heterosexuals, lol!
Bi, yes, because it’s like a fashion statement around here. And it REALLY pisses me off because it makes us who are actually gay and bi seem less credible.
I think people who claim to be gay and aren’t don’t do it for coolness, but for attention…because it really isn’t cool to be gay. (I love gays but society as a whole, it isn’t)
Reading all these comments…I had no idea that girls are thinking that guy on guy action is hot these days. I must be getting really old, and even more uncool than I was in high school. Come to think of it, it HAS been about 8 years since I graduated high school. Wow, so much has changed. ha.
What they don’t understand, and what others have mentioned on here, is that they don’t realise the persecution you face amongst those who are not in your age bracket or the emo scene trend. They don’t realise the stereotyping or hate you encounter. It’s like they ignore it, they ignore that by saying they’re bi they’re losing half their rights to marriage, children, and a heterosexualish lifestyle. It seriously pisses me the fuck off, because I AM gay and I DO encounter these things.
Guy on guy IS hot though.
Sometimes.
Guys no… girls yes.
They just want a date!
Some people might claim that to be “different” and therefore get more attention, but I do believe some people are just truly gay/bi.
Yes. So dumb. If you really aren’t- don’t claim to be, because they get so upset when people copy them, they should practice what they preach & quit copying the gays/bis. & you’ll notice it’s mainly GIRLS who do it. (probably because they think all the guys find it hot) Agh.
Btw- I don’t mean EVERYONE who says they are are just pretending. But quite a few of them are.
No.
lol, i remember when i was in highschool .. a senior (class of 2005) the freshman girls all of a sudden ALL BECAME LESBIANS!!! girl on girl pda everywhere.. all over the restroom stalls “STACEY <3 AMBER 4EVER!!” and things like that. i truly believe that was just a fad and that the freshmans all thought it was just cool and that it would get more GUYS to pay attention to them. so dumb. to claim to be bi/lesbians to get guys.
i have nothing against gays. but if ur just going to do it to get attention. that is just sad. what a world we live in. seriously!
Yes especially the ones that say they are bi
Higherschooler yeah. I know a few kids who are like that. But then again, they were always compulsive liars. I gave up on what gender I’m attracted too. It’s whoever wants to love :]
As others have said yes, it is so trendy with some people.
yes
Some do. I know real bisexuals and the whole “trendy” aspect of it and all these emo girls / boys suddenly claiming to be bisexual pisses them off.
But I agree with Miguel. More often than not, if you come out then you’re going to have more people taunting you than supporting you. It’s sad.
maybe it’s a mental disorder maybe the majority of us young people are really starving for attention but i happen to be attracted to both sexes and i HATE being the center of attention i’m naturally timid but i can’t help how i feel
i see where everyone is coming from i COULD be confused my hormones COULD be making me like this and i definitely COULD grow up to ‘realize” that i’m gay or straight
but it would be nice to have someone actually stop to listen to my side of the story when i say that this is honestly how i feel. i don’t know why and i don’t like it. i hate having everyone say “oh, you’ll realize sooner or later…” i’ve pushed myself to the point where i would stop going out and talking to the people who doubted me because i felt so fake agreeing with them.
so, i don’t know. sometimes high school kids are just confused. sometimes they’re just looking for attention. but pleeeeease don’t think that way of all of us… we’re all just trying to figure stuff out. but i am hoping you’re right. i hope one day i’ll wake up and realize that i’m straight. i’d love that
their seems to be alot of bias against highschool attending people in this question….
I doubt it. Even in a supposedly “tolerant” society, there are plenty of bigots who’ll give you shit if you’re gay. Then there’s the whole gay marriage issue, and you never know how your family/friends would react… It just doesn’t seem like something you’d do on a whim.
in high school, yes.
i wouldn’t put it past people.
I don’t think so with gay, because that would change your life a little too much. A ton of kids definitely claim to be bi to seem more controversial, and it drives me crazy. Way to make the whole gay community look like a bunch of fakes, guys!
Yes .
that sounds like a question my mother would ask. some are stating the truth, but a lot of people in high school tend to “be bi” to impress the boys.
i hate hypocrites.
Maybe. But I’d rather they pretend to be bi than beat the crap out of someone who really is gay.
My pet theory is we all have a little bi in us, anyway.
maybe…or maybe for attention.
Yes..girls mostly…..wanting to play into the males fantasy of the lesbian thing. Sad…..It seems it would make life harder to be different….more attention, but negative attention i would think.
I think our culture is finally developing towards acceptance of these people and that is why, if there is a “why” to how people are at heart, more of them feel comfortable coming out. I have identified as bisexual to my family for 8 years now. But that is because I have an accepting family. When the culture is more accepting, we will see more people coming out purely because they feel safer doing so — not because it’s COOL to do it.
I think this is true for people who claim to be bi. I’ve never seen this to be true in a gay person. It’s really aggravating when people claim to be bi when they are not, especially for people who actually are bi/lesbian and trying to combat the stereotypes that come with it. It’s easy to suddenly be “bi” when it’s convenient, and those sort of people don’t have to really live with a lot of the hatred that is unfortunately, a part of the package.
I lived with a bisexual girl who would get so pissed when she tried to meet other bi/les girls and then found out that what she thought meant something was nothing more than a stupid girl kissing her, or making out with her just so she could get attention from some guy. It’s sad, really.
Hm – I never thought so with gay. But I’ve suspected that some ppl claim bi as a trend… But honestly, I haven’t met that many gay/bi people so I wouldn’t know.
unfortunately, some people seem to think that bisexuality is a trend, which is ridiculous.
It is becoming more socially acceptable to express feelings like that, so that plays a role in it- whether the person is doing it for themselves or others. Ex: Girls kissing each other actually has become pretty normal behavior in the highschool/college party social circle of people. Do they do it because they like it (or they’re just curious), everyone else (all the guys) like it, or both? Who knows, they might not even fully know.
It’s becoming the “in” thing to do.
All the real gay and bisexual kids at my highschool are in the closet.
I can say this as a part of the ‘emo’ crowd, but also as a straight and easily interested spectator. I know very few kids who are really gay or bi, and very many who claim to be.
Some people do. But I think it’s only when gays aren’t going to get any real discrimination (some. enough for people who like to be victims). They get to be “different” and have a soap box to shout from for awhile, but eventually they get bored with it.
That happend at my high school. See my class sort of made gay “cool” because all the kids that were friends with everyone came out during high school. We actually became the “gay school” of our city, and several gay kids from other high schools transferred to ours because of the shit they were getting everywhere else. Anyway, there were a couple people who claimed to be lesbians, and constantly preached to everyone about how damn gay they were and how persecuted they were and how none of the other gay kids were doing it right. Well since high school they’ve dated exclusively men and both claim to be straight again.
No one’s going to claim to be gay longer than a couple years if they aren’t actually homos because it’s just not worth all the crap you have to deal with. Any sort of discrimination aside, it’sjust so much harder to find someone to date, and convince men that you really *are* gay, not that you are just sick of men for awhile. Plus so many other gays live up to the stereotype so much it’s like they’re not even real people anymore. If I had any say in the matter I’d be straight, just because I find gay people so fucking annoying!
Some. Not all. If they are really gay or bisexual, age doesn’t matter.
Yes. Definately!
Bi, and they think its cool, espically for a chick to admit that
On this subject, I also have pondered. Although I am now 32 and shall we say changed my own”idea” on sexuality during one philisophical discusion when I was 17 — well… I agree with what alot of what everyone has touched on so far because in general there is and will always be some percentage of people whatever the subject who follow somehting because proves them to be unique, rebelious, a marter, independent, trendy, cool, etc. (notice alot of these are qualities are charateristics inate a teens phase anyways and thus unless the sexual desire one way is extreem tends to where off as the novalty, and more relative, the ease of oppertinity and situations mostly in regard to changes in social environments (ie: opportunity both verbal and phisical) but really I think that the core drive behind this phenomena is the sexplotation in the media… of course encompassed by the growing exceptence in the last several generations of alternative lifestyles (of all sorts) which of course must come first but of course, I also happen to emphatically support. But seriously, growing up males apprecialte the beauty of women and that’s suposedly okay but the girl’s are doing the exact same thing. They’re starying at the girls in the mags, and tv, on the street, etc noticing every detail appreciating their beauty just as much at first for different reasons but with just as much fervor. It doesn’t take much more than a open mind mind some philisophical discussions, some sexual appreciation and curiosity and bravity to battle old time religios based society rules before you have some bisexual girls running around. Just wait, till’ they really start oversexuallizing the boys then there’s gonna be alot more bi boys commin’ out then so on and so on. Fast forward 50 years
No. I would never put another man’s anatomy in my mouth simply to claim something.
Absolutely. It’s happening even in college: people who are perfectly straight aren’t as popular and accepted as they feel they should be, so they decide to join the ridiculously accepting LGBT culture… and I know quite a few who hate that decision, and now are weighing the pros of lying to themselves to the cons of having all of their new ‘friends’ hate them for ‘denying their nature’ or whatever crap they think it is…
Reading all the other comments: It really isnt Highschoolers, being even slightly gay/lesbian is jumped on and laughed at. Gay = stupid/something wrong.
I think lots of people who come out really are bi or gay, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who do it just for attention or out of confusion.
Sadly, yes. Especially people around my age ((highschoolers)). But god forbid if you actually happen to be so and theyre the same gender as you.
Personally, I know what I am. Physically I’m aesexual, but romantically I’m bisexual. Ive dated both gusy and girls, and dating romantically-wise Ive enjoyed both of them. But in both cases, once things started to get heated I didnt’ like ether. Hm, there should probably be a name for people like me.
Maybe. But I know everyone that I know who are gay and bi are-not from personal experience0_0, but seeing their”partners”.Wait, occasionally, some people I know who are lesbians occasionally ask me out,lol.
???!!!
So let me get this straight…twenty years ago gay people would lie and say that they were straight to fit in and now straight people lie and say that they are gay to be cool???
I’m floored by this.
Some probably do.
yeah… especially bi, but gay too… i try not to be too hard on em though… usually tweens/teens… they’re just coming into themselves, trying to figure out who they are…
If you want to know whether a child is gay or bi, Drop them off in a gay neighborhood and observe their reaction.
The gay child will be receptive and inquisitive.
The bi child will be fearful.
The straight child will be indifferent, perhaps scoffing.
I answer this question because the one you posted was absolutely ludicrous.
No, I hope not. If so that is a sad reason why they should be gay or bi.
Bi is an easy one to fake, so in some circles I suppose I could believe that.
But the real trend is people just being ok with LGBT people, and more people coming out and being honest.
I think there are also women who try to play bi to attract guys, it probably works on some level.
i think its an attention grabber mechanism
No. It’s thesituation that they should’ve been ashamed of.
Except of some of them are desperate for being instantly famous.
Or
a socialite with ‘different’ lifestyle.
Yeah, a lot of high school girls will actually say they’re bi in order to attract guys. Which really pisses me off. It’s a disgrace to the LGBTQ community, and then the people who aren’t pretending are grouped together with the people who are, which only promotes ignorance and hatred.
Ugh. I get annoyed sometimes.
Oh, but I definitely wouldn’t say that the majority of gay/bi people are pretending. Almost everyone I know, including myself, are genuine in their sexuality. I could name a few, though…
Coming from personal experience, I’m not sure why anyone would claim to be gay. I would choose not to be it if I had the choice because there are too many unwarranted social griefs that come with this trait.
Having SSA myself, no. Definitely no. Who would want to be alone? I think many turn to the gay community for acceptance, since it feels like no one else can understand. But I choose to follow Christ instead, so I suppose that makes me especially unpopular. “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me” – Matt 16:24. I’m glad to have good brothers out there who feel as I do though. So encouraging.
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Yes. Younger, ignorant people anyway. Especially with claiming they are bisexual.
Yeah. Some people I know. Most highschoolers.
I think in some cases, yes. Some people want to proclaim to the whole world that they are open-minded and left-winged.
Yeah, because everyone loves to be persecuted, taunted and told that they are going to hell. Who wouldn’t want that in their lives???
I think a lot of younger people do because they’re confused, especially with all those hormones suddenly kicking in.
well yeah people think is something cool apparently,, my 13 year old sister says she thinks she is bi now, i’m about to ask her if she has been watching that tila tequila show lately,, i personally don’t care whether anybody is bi or gay but please don’t claim to be something just to get attention,
I think that a lot of younger kids claim to be gay or bi because they’re confused, or they want to appear open-minded or make themselves more attractive.
No. I don’t see how it would make them look cool. Maybe I just live in an ultra-conservative city.
i’ve actually got into a conversation about this with a couple of gay people. i’ve come across the fact, that quite of them dont find bisexuality to be true. something like an early state of lost. i couldnt say really…i do believe it is more of a fad than truth. but for me, there is more of that certain “something” when it comes to everyone that sparks the feeling of “want” in my mind. but thats just speculation i guess -.-
I do know of a few girls who claimed to be bi to capitalize on the whole “lesbian fantasy” guys have.
It would shock me if they did.
Yes, sad isnt?
would=wouldn’t
unfortunately, yes
stupid attention whores
in high school, yes.
Yep.
yeah it is kinda sad
but
oh well
but deffeniatly bisexual
maybe cause they dont want to stray form how they really feel
but wanan be cool at the same time
Hahaha that’s funny. I think with a lot of girls I see it a lot more prominent. But I’m sure it’s equal; however, yeah, it’s probably all the rage in popularity now.
Oh, definitely. Definitely so. And those that claim they’re bisexual are just more cowardly- easier to be bi so when you go back to your opposite sex, it’s ok.
i guess some do, but for the most part no. i think it’s interesting how everyone is saying it’s always high schoolers. im in high school and it’s really not the case. it doesn’t make you cool to be gay. people say they’re tolerant and everything but the reality is that they make fun of gays and use the word “gay” as a synonym for “stupid.” if anything, people stay in the closet in high school.
RYC: Thank you for your comment. You may be right. I really feel that way today.
what everyone else said. high school kids.
At times I wonder such things. So many it seems say such things if only for the sake of garnering attention for themselves. Many young lads these days, clad in black claim to be bi, yet are only ever seen in the company of girls when they wish to make out. Most have never shared the company of another male in that capacity, nor will ever try it, for fear that really meaning what they say may bite them in the arse. Women on the other hand, it seems that more of them take what they say seriously in this regard. Now in the end, I suspect much of it is about showing off who is in touch with their masculine/feminine side to potential mates, more than it is about really meaning what is said.
It seems that I come upon you in many places that I wander upon xanga, we are perhaps similar in that respect, we share the same sort of wanderlust and curiousity of strangers. I’ll be watching
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in my experience, no.
maybe in younger peeps, but i don’t really deal with younger peeps so i’m not sure.
yup. it’s a friggin’ trend!
Yeah. It’s true. I said I was bisexual before. I got more attention because of it. Yes, it was stupid.
That’s a good question. Friday I ran into one of my students before I left. He looked like a kicked puppy. He is 20? My students tend to be about 5 five years behind socially, being LD and HFA. The things they do now, high school sophomores already did long before they did. He got reprimanded for sexually harassing a coworker. He touched her inappropriately twice, and made some comments that made her uncomfortable.
He was attracted to her. We are TEACHING them how to hold jobs. This was a learning experience. I bring it up, because as we talked and the details came out, he admitted that just this past year his father had beaten him when he told him he was gay. Now he was in trouble with his vocational placement for coming onto a woman. He was frightened. He didn’t want his parents to know. If you read his facebook, you can follow the wall postings and see every person he has messed with.
I told him he was learning, and not to worry. Just because you have sex with a man, and even if you ENJOY it, doesn’t mean you’re gay. It doesn’t even mean you’re bi. I slept with men. I slept a LOT of men. I don’t do it anymore. I know who I am. When I did, I was looking.
What are kids looking for?
They are looking… for themselves.
Yes. And it’s pissing off everyone cause stupid people are throwing out mixed signals. >:[
Maybe in high school, but I think even that is rare. older people, no way.
This is not disputed whatsoever. Chicks will make out with other chicks for their boyfriends or to make themselves seem more sexy.
-David
I dont agree with the yeah’s ..
I am around teens all the time..
And it may be a trend to some… but its still bi.
Ask me if I am today.
haha
I don’t like people in general. What does that make me?
They do, it hurts the real ones.
Definitely in high school.
I didn’t know that your sexual orientation dictates your “coolness”.
…That’s a ridiculous question. No person would want to be “gay” or “bi” to be ‘cool’ – that does not exist. People who are actually homosexual or bisexual are in many cases ridiculed and treated unfairly.
I don’t know.
I thinks it is because people cannot find that bond they are looking for in the oposite sex. They find friendships with the same sex, and mistake that to be the sexual bond that they are trying so hard to find.
Yeah I do. Most of my peers anyway. It’s not always to ‘be cool’ though, sometimes it is just to rebel, or to shock people.
I’m yet to meet someone like that.
yea, i think some do.
Yes, but people lie to themselfs all the time.
I personally am in the midst of all this gay/bisexual crap. I know several guys who claim to be gay or bi just for the attention from chicks because a lot of chicks thinks its hot. Most of them do it for attention, and when someone who really is gay comes along, no one believes them. Most likely if they’re proclaiming that they are gay, they aren’t. I fucking hate high schoolers.
People are definitely saying they’re bi to be cool, I don’t know so much about saying they’re gay, but certainly bi.
I’ve had plenty of friends tell me they were bi, all of them girls, suddenly, all around the same time frame – when the scene/emo trend hit myspace. Speaking of myspace, go on there, and look up the kids that have upwards of 12,000 friends [and they're out there]. If you wanted to, you could go and look at every profile, and for the most part, those kids would be bi or gay. Some of them might actually be that way, but I have a feeling since all of them are following a trend, they’re lying.
Really, you can’t tell me that “guys kissing” being hot has always been that way. Because girls kissing has always been hot for guys [...that are straight], but it wasn’t until recently that guys kissing became as amazing as girls are trying to make it out to be. That’s where the trendy bisexual thing comes in, that way, you can kiss members of the same sex – not get called gay for it, and still hook up with someone of the opposite sex.
It’s pretty sad, actually.
maybe bi amongst women, but definitely not gay or bi amongst men or gay amongst women.
There is still much stigma in such status. Just look at your High School, college, or Pro football teams. You never hear of gay football players, because there is still much homophobia w/in the sport. There is still a huge price to pay in society, especially in the public school system.
I think more people try to pretend their bi more than full on gay. I don’t understand the mind set of what makes people think when they feel it makes them cooler.
I don’t know but I do know that there are a lot of dumb people in the world.
Most definitely. It’s now the height of cool to claim to be bi or gay. However, a gay friend of mine is very frustrated. He says everytime he comes onto one of these bi emos, they run a mile.
Lol.
(He also says if I say “lol” it’ll make me look cool.)
I’m bisexual… Get over it if you don’t believe me… I’m only out to a few friends… It’s not something I have a huge poster for waiving in the air…
I don’t “claim” to be bisexual.
I am bisexual.
I’m not really sure how a sexuality can make someone cooler, but whatever.
Well…if they can claim they have experimented then No.
If they are saying it just to fit in, then yes.
From experience, I’ve only met one person who was Bisexual and has actually proved it to me. People who claim they are gay…well my cousin is gay and he seems happy.
Probably
Though this trend is supposedly rampant, I have never met anyone who I thought was just claiming to be bi to be ‘cool.’ In fact, I haven’t met too many people claiming to be bi period. It’s mostly in the media, and we all know how well that reflects real life, right?
Yes and no to the bi sexual part of it at least.
A lot of people answer with high school students, but they seem to forget about the ones that aren’t doing it for attention/or as a trend.
I do believe that a lot of high schoolers will say it because of a trend. Some girls will say it to get the attention of guys because of the whole “girl on girl fantasies” that so many of them have. Also, some of the guys will do the same to get a girl’s attention. I find it ridiculous because for those students/people that are actually bisexual, it makes them seem like they’re faking it.
You can’t really say that person is only claiming to be bisexual. They might like both genders, but one gender more than the other, or maybe haven’t found anyone specific of one of the genders that they liked.
A lot of people say they are bisexual not because they want to be cool, but because they don’t want to feel limited in love by gender. Of course, the number of bisexuals is going don’t because of terms like “bicurious”, “heteroflexible,” and “homoflexible.”
down* not “don’t
Gay? No..
Bi? MAYBE. But i bet it’s more because they’re confused than anything..
it’s so cool to be oppressed. to be stripped of your rights. to be a victim of hate crimes. to be disowned by your family and ignored by society.
what a moronic question.
i used to feel that way.
but i think ppl just feel safer and more confident.
Some, yes.
But then again, some isn’t everybody.
I agree with firetyger. And a bunch of other people. Some do it because they’re not sure, some because they want attention, some because…idk…because they can, some because they are.
It’s hard to say.
ch..YEAH!
Freakin’ trends..
No idea.
“Yeah, because everyone loves to be persecuted, taunted and told that they are going to hell. Who wouldn’t want that in their lives???”
Yep… I agree…
I do think some girls say it because guys think it’s “hot” or whatever to see some girl on girl action. Guys that say it (although I know zero guys that claim to be bi) are probably in for a world of hurt, so I don’t know why they would say it unless they really were.
Some people do, I have met a few. Closet heterosexuals, lol!
Bi, yes, because it’s like a fashion statement around here. And it REALLY pisses me off because it makes us who are actually gay and bi seem less credible.
I think people who claim to be gay and aren’t don’t do it for coolness, but for attention…because it really isn’t cool to be gay. (I love gays but society as a whole, it isn’t)
Reading all these comments…I had no idea that girls are thinking that guy on guy action is hot these days. I must be getting really old, and even more uncool than I was in high school. Come to think of it, it HAS been about 8 years since I graduated high school. Wow, so much has changed. ha.
What they don’t understand, and what others have mentioned on here, is that they don’t realise the persecution you face amongst those who are not in your age bracket or the emo scene trend. They don’t realise the stereotyping or hate you encounter. It’s like they ignore it, they ignore that by saying they’re bi they’re losing half their rights to marriage, children, and a heterosexualish lifestyle. It seriously pisses me the fuck off, because I AM gay and I DO encounter these things.
Guy on guy IS hot though.
Sometimes.
Guys no… girls yes.
They just want a date!
Some people might claim that to be “different” and therefore get more attention, but I do believe some people are just truly gay/bi.
Yes.
So dumb. If you really aren’t- don’t claim to be, because they get so upset when people copy them, they should practice what they preach & quit copying the gays/bis.
& you’ll notice it’s mainly GIRLS who do it. (probably because they think all the guys find it hot)
Agh.
Btw- I don’t mean EVERYONE who says they are are just pretending.
But quite a few of them are.
No.
lol, i remember when i was in highschool .. a senior (class of 2005) the freshman girls all of a sudden ALL BECAME LESBIANS!!!
girl on girl pda everywhere.. all over the restroom stalls “STACEY <3 AMBER 4EVER!!” and things like that. i truly believe that was just a fad and that the freshmans all thought it was just cool and that it would get more GUYS to pay attention to them. so dumb. to claim to be bi/lesbians to get guys.
i have nothing against gays. but if ur just going to do it to get attention. that is just sad. what a world we live in. seriously!
Yes especially the ones that say they are bi
Higherschooler yeah. I know a few kids who are like that. But then again, they were always compulsive liars. I gave up on what gender I’m attracted too. It’s whoever wants to love :]
As others have said yes, it is so trendy with some people.
yes
Some do. I know real bisexuals and the whole “trendy” aspect of it and all these emo girls / boys suddenly claiming to be bisexual pisses them off.
But I agree with Miguel. More often than not, if you come out then you’re going to have more people taunting you than supporting you. It’s sad.
maybe it’s a mental disorder
maybe the majority of us young people are really starving for attention
but i happen to be attracted to both sexes and i HATE being the center of attention
i’m naturally timid but i can’t help how i feel
i see where everyone is coming from
i COULD be confused
my hormones COULD be making me like this
and i definitely COULD grow up to ‘realize” that i’m gay or straight
but it would be nice to have someone actually stop to listen to my side of the story when i say that this is honestly how i feel. i don’t know why and i don’t like it. i hate having everyone say “oh, you’ll realize sooner or later…” i’ve pushed myself to the point where i would stop going out and talking to the people who doubted me because i felt so fake agreeing with them.
so, i don’t know. sometimes high school kids are just confused. sometimes they’re just looking for attention. but pleeeeease don’t think that way of all of us… we’re all just trying to figure stuff out. but i am hoping you’re right. i hope one day i’ll wake up and realize that i’m straight. i’d love that
their seems to be alot of bias against highschool attending people in this question….
I doubt it. Even in a supposedly “tolerant” society, there are plenty of bigots who’ll give you shit if you’re gay. Then there’s the whole gay marriage issue, and you never know how your family/friends would react… It just doesn’t seem like something you’d do on a whim.
in high school, yes.
i wouldn’t put it past people.
I don’t think so with gay, because that would change your life a little too much. A ton of kids definitely claim to be bi to seem more controversial, and it drives me crazy. Way to make the whole gay community look like a bunch of fakes, guys!
Yes .
that sounds like a question my mother would ask. some are stating the truth, but a lot of people in high school tend to “be bi” to impress the boys.
i hate hypocrites.
Maybe. But I’d rather they pretend to be bi than beat the crap out of someone who really is gay.
My pet theory is we all have a little bi in us, anyway.
maybe…or maybe for attention.
Yes..girls mostly…..wanting to play into the males fantasy of the lesbian thing. Sad…..It seems it would make life harder to be different….more attention, but negative attention i would think.
I think our culture is finally developing towards acceptance of these people and that is why, if there is a “why” to how people are at heart, more of them feel comfortable coming out.
I have identified as bisexual to my family for 8 years now. But that is because I have an accepting family. When the culture is more accepting, we will see more people coming out purely because they feel safer doing so — not because it’s COOL to do it.
I think this is true for people who claim to be bi. I’ve never seen this to be true in a gay person. It’s really aggravating when people claim to be bi when they are not, especially for people who actually are bi/lesbian and trying to combat the stereotypes that come with it. It’s easy to suddenly be “bi” when it’s convenient, and those sort of people don’t have to really live with a lot of the hatred that is unfortunately, a part of the package.
I lived with a bisexual girl who would get so pissed when she tried to meet other bi/les girls and then found out that what she thought meant something was nothing more than a stupid girl kissing her, or making out with her just so she could get attention from some guy. It’s sad, really.
Hm – I never thought so with gay. But I’ve suspected that some ppl claim bi as a trend… But honestly, I haven’t met that many gay/bi people so I wouldn’t know.
unfortunately, some people seem to think that bisexuality is a trend, which is ridiculous.
It is becoming more socially acceptable to express feelings like that, so that plays a role in it- whether the person is doing it for themselves or others. Ex: Girls kissing each other actually has become pretty normal behavior in the highschool/college party social circle of people. Do they do it because they like it (or they’re just curious), everyone else (all the guys) like it, or both? Who knows, they might not even fully know.
It’s becoming the “in” thing to do.
All the real gay and bisexual kids at my highschool are in the closet.
I can say this as a part of the ‘emo’ crowd, but also as a straight and easily interested spectator. I know very few kids who are really gay or bi, and very many who claim to be.
Some people do. But I think it’s only when gays aren’t going to get any real discrimination (some. enough for people who like to be victims). They get to be “different” and have a soap box to shout from for awhile, but eventually they get bored with it.
That happend at my high school. See my class sort of made gay “cool” because all the kids that were friends with everyone came out during high school. We actually became the “gay school” of our city, and several gay kids from other high schools transferred to ours because of the shit they were getting everywhere else. Anyway, there were a couple people who claimed to be lesbians, and constantly preached to everyone about how damn gay they were and how persecuted they were and how none of the other gay kids were doing it right. Well since high school they’ve dated exclusively men and both claim to be straight again.
No one’s going to claim to be gay longer than a couple years if they aren’t actually homos because it’s just not worth all the crap you have to deal with. Any sort of discrimination aside, it’sjust so much harder to find someone to date, and convince men that you really *are* gay, not that you are just sick of men for awhile. Plus so many other gays live up to the stereotype so much it’s like they’re not even real people anymore. If I had any say in the matter I’d be straight, just because I find gay people so fucking annoying!
Some. Not all. If they are really gay or bisexual, age doesn’t matter.
Yes. Definately!
Bi, and they think its cool, espically for a chick to admit that
On this subject, I also have pondered. Although I am now 32 and shall we say changed my own”idea” on sexuality during one philisophical discusion when I was 17 — well… I agree with what alot of what everyone has touched on so far because in general there is and will always be some percentage of people whatever the subject who follow somehting because proves them to be unique, rebelious, a marter, independent, trendy, cool, etc. (notice alot of these are qualities are charateristics inate a teens phase anyways and thus unless the sexual desire one way is extreem tends to where off as the novalty, and more relative, the ease of oppertinity and situations mostly in regard to changes in social environments (ie: opportunity both verbal and phisical) but really I think that the core drive behind this phenomena is the sexplotation in the media… of course encompassed by the growing exceptence in the last several generations of alternative lifestyles (of all sorts) which of course must come first but of course, I also happen to emphatically support. But seriously, growing up males apprecialte the beauty of women and that’s suposedly okay but the girl’s are doing the exact same thing. They’re starying at the girls in the mags, and tv, on the street, etc noticing every detail appreciating their beauty just as much at first for different reasons but with just as much fervor. It doesn’t take much more than a open mind mind some philisophical discussions, some sexual appreciation and curiosity and bravity to battle old time religios based society rules before you have some bisexual girls running around. Just wait, till’ they really start oversexuallizing the boys then there’s gonna be alot more bi boys commin’ out then so on and so on. Fast forward 50 years
No. I would never put another man’s anatomy in my mouth simply to claim something.
Absolutely. It’s happening even in college: people who are perfectly straight aren’t as popular and accepted as they feel they should be, so they decide to join the ridiculously accepting LGBT culture… and I know quite a few who hate that decision, and now are weighing the pros of lying to themselves to the cons of having all of their new ‘friends’ hate them for ‘denying their nature’ or whatever crap they think it is…
Reading all the other comments: It really isnt Highschoolers, being even slightly gay/lesbian is jumped on and laughed at. Gay = stupid/something wrong.
I think lots of people who come out really are bi or gay, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who do it just for attention or out of confusion.
Sadly, yes. Especially people around my age ((highschoolers)). But god forbid if you actually happen to be so and theyre the same gender as you.
Personally, I know what I am. Physically I’m aesexual, but romantically I’m bisexual. Ive dated both gusy and girls, and dating romantically-wise Ive enjoyed both of them. But in both cases, once things started to get heated I didnt’ like ether. Hm, there should probably be a name for people like me.
Maybe. But I know everyone that I know who are gay and bi are-not from personal experience0_0, but seeing their”partners”.Wait, occasionally, some people I know who are lesbians occasionally ask me out,lol.
???!!!
So let me get this straight…twenty years ago gay people would lie and say that they were straight to fit in and now straight people lie and say that they are gay to be cool???
I’m floored by this.
Some probably do.
yeah… especially bi, but gay too… i try not to be too hard on em though… usually tweens/teens… they’re just coming into themselves, trying to figure out who they are…
If you want to know whether a child is gay or bi, Drop them off in a gay neighborhood and observe their reaction.
The gay child will be receptive and inquisitive.
The bi child will be fearful.
The straight child will be indifferent, perhaps scoffing.
I answer this question because the one you posted was absolutely ludicrous.
No, I hope not. If so that is a sad reason why they should be gay or bi.
Bi is an easy one to fake, so in some circles I suppose I could believe that.
But the real trend is people just being ok with LGBT people, and more people coming out and being honest.
I think there are also women who try to play bi to attract guys, it probably works on some level.
i think its an attention grabber mechanism
No. It’s thesituation that they should’ve been ashamed of.
Except of some of them are desperate for being instantly famous.
Or
a socialite with ‘different’ lifestyle.
Yeah, a lot of high school girls will actually say they’re bi in order to attract guys.
Which really pisses me off. It’s a disgrace to the LGBTQ community, and then the people who aren’t pretending are grouped together with the people who are, which only promotes ignorance and hatred.
Ugh. I get annoyed sometimes.
Oh, but I definitely wouldn’t say that the majority of gay/bi people are pretending. Almost everyone I know, including myself, are genuine in their sexuality. I could name a few, though…
Coming from personal experience, I’m not sure why anyone would claim to be gay. I would choose not to be it if I had the choice because there are too many unwarranted social griefs that come with this trait.
Having SSA myself, no. Definitely no. Who would want to be alone? I think many turn to the gay community for acceptance, since it feels like no one else can understand. But I choose to follow Christ instead, so I suppose that makes me especially unpopular. “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me” – Matt 16:24. I’m glad to have good brothers out there who feel as I do though. So encouraging.