Wow, I’ve been near the top a lot lately, must because of exams. Anything is better than studying .
I don’t generally look people in the eyes
Always.
Yes, I do look people in the eye (well, not staring, lol). I feel eye contact is very important. It shows the other person you are listening to what they have to say.
Kathi
yes.
I look people in the eye…and then they usually say “stop looking at me.”
I don’t get it.
But when I do its my boyfriend so I guess that you could say that I find people more attractive if I look them in the eyes
I try to – it’s more polite. At least, it is when you don’t cross over into staring creepily, haha.
I try to
Yes! It comes naturally to me.
I try, but for some reason with women I am drawn to her breasts……imagine that
Definitely.
LOL @ roadking, hehe.
No. But then again, I am a shy person. However, if I have something important to say, I will!
eye contact is important (not staring) I do sometimes struggled but have got better in the last couple of years
Interviews for jobs eye contract is important to show you are at least interested of possibly working for the company etc
Yes, unless I don’t like the person or I don’t want to talk to them.
Try to.
No, I’m terrible at that. I have a lazy eye and am really self-conscious about it, so I avoid eye contact. After our first date Brent said “If you had given me a little more eye contact, we probably would have had a hot make-out session”
I’ve heard it’s because we’re the only creatures that have sex facing each other, therefore eye contact is very intimate.
I look people straight in the eye when I want them to be attracted to me, but generally I’m not an eye contacter.
Sometimes.it dependswho I am talking to.
I had a phase I went thru- when I made love I liked it when my Lover looked me straight in the eyes! It was thrilling !
I’m trying to train myself to do that automatically. Though I can be kinda shy.
No, that really bothers me.
i try to look people in the eyes. it just doesn’t come naturally to me. i don’t know why.
Really depends on the person.
i can’t not look into someone’s eyes when i speak to them, i get distracted if i look elsewhere while i am speaking, sometimes i even forget what im saying and trail off midsentence while the other person is waiting patiently for me to finish my fascinating insights plus i just completely distrust people that can’t look me in the eye when i am speaking to them…
Most of the time.
yes.
Always!
Yes, I think I do.
sometimes. it’s hard for me, though.
I have had eye contact issues ever since I was in elementary school; they’re the result of years of bullying and harassment. It takes a lot of mental work and concentration for me to look someone in the eyes for longer than a few seconds.
i’m pretty good about looking into people’s eyes
i do, but not the ENTIRE time. then i feel weird.
Sometimes. It depends on the person I’m talking to.
No…I tend to look at the wall or the floor or whatever and periodically glance into the person’s eyes. I feel silly looking them straight in the eye.
Yeah, definitely. Infact, some people say I look at them TOO intently, and it makes them nervous.
Of course!
Yes. I look people in the eyes. Things seem to mean more when someone is looking into your eyes when they say them.
I try to. I used to have a really hard time making eye contact, maybe I’m more confident now or something. It definitely does make a person more attractive.
At the comedy club, the comedian asked me what my favorite feature on a guy was. He said I couldn’t choose smile. So, of course, I chose eyes. He then asked if I would like him to take off his glasses so I could get a good look at them, and I said sure. He then proceeded to ask me to please, since he took his glasses off for me, to take my shirt off for him so he could also see his favorite feature on a girl. ha. ha. ha. (Don’t worry, I didn’t!)
No, at best I stare at their hair. I think it’s because I grew up introveted.
No, I usually giggle and sway from side to side. For real. I usually make eye contact when I want to have hot sex or fight someone. Rawr.
Not the entire time because that would be creepy, but I do make eye contact.
Yes, I always try to.
nope, but I need to
Absolutely, and I expect the same in return. If I am not looking someone in the eyes while having a face to face conversation I do not feel connected to them. My boss and best friend likes to stare at my hairline and I am ALWAYS yelling at her for it. If I wanted people to talk to my hairline, I would look down to make it easier on them!
No, I look at the mouth, shoulders, and face. Before you get gross out, I am a lip reader since I am profoundly deaf. There are days that I hate to do it but got no choice. Looking into the eyes is the last thing I wanna do. I just cant do it.
Yes, but I’ve noticed that when some people look me in the eye while I’m talking, it’s uncomfortable. So, I’m trying to learn to look away sometimes.
I always look people in the eyes because it’s an intimidation tactic. You know when they look away they have a social problem and you can use that against them to get what you want. It works, I promise!!
I try to but mostly I don’t…
honestly, i tend to look at the bridge of their nose, near the eyes… i don’t know why the whole “look into my eyes” sort of thing bothers me… i guess some people’s eyes make me feel liek they can see ALL of me and it freaks me out… :p
except my dad. I always make sure to make eye-contact with him.
I do unless I am wearing sunglasses. Then I stare at other things while still looking interested.
no, i tend to look at their tits.
No, actually. I’m very shy and it does not come naturally to me. I’m not even sure how to keep comfortable eye contact with someone (eg not creep them out by looking too long, etc). So I find it’s easier to just sort of look at someone when I talk to them, but not right into their eyes. Maybe that explains my trouble with the boys.
Yes. I was always taught that when you are speaking to someone you are supposed to keep eye contact because otherwise you seem insincere.
i try to, it makes it so much more personal
Yes I always try to do that. You feel more of a connection that way!
No…I look at people’s teeth when they talk. And sometimes, I should be looking into their eyes instead b/c their teeth are disgusting!!
I was raised its rude if you don’t look someone in the eyes when talking to them.
Always, I have to anyways in order to read their lips.
Yes and it really irritates me when the other person doesn’t. Makes me wonder what they have to hide.
If I want to talk to him/her, yes…..
I usually look into the eyes of women who I am talking to.
If I’m trying to get rid of somebody, I don’t look at them. I just talk to them while I stay on the computer.
i make it a point to look them in the eyes. it’s a show of confidence, and i’ve always found it attractive when someone did that to me.
If I know them well. Usually I talk to the spot above people’s shoulders.
Yes. It is important to let people know that you are giving them your attention when they are speaking to you.
I literary can’t start/continue/end a conversation without having eye contact from the other person. Not sure how that started, but I always look at people in the eyes when speaking to them.
I expect the same, otherwise I stop the conversation.
look? I stare!
Yes, but I don’t stare. I was always taught that if you can’t look someone in the eye than you are hiding something and not being honest. BUT, if I am in the company of Muslim men I make an effort to look away. Each culture is different. If the guy is someone who may get the wrong message, I don’t look him in the eye too much.
yes
God no, what a terrifying idea.
I try. Especially if I’m feeling some attraction. However, I just can’t maintain a conversation while looking in some people’s eyes. Then I focus on the nose; it’s close enough to make them think you’re looking them in the eyes.
I try to. It depends on their eyes
That depends on how much I like them, what we’re talking about, and how I feel that day.
yesm.
I always make eye contact – unless I am specifically avoiding someone…
even strangers walking by, I usually try to give a look straight in the eyes – I get a little bold if they don’t look away right away and stick my tongue out too…haha, not really.
But I do look people right in the eyes as I’m walking – I think it shows that I’m not afraid of anything, that I’m confident.
*HUGS*
Always have had a hard time with that. I can only do it with people I know really well.
I do but I think this is mildly ironic due to the theory of Myspace Angles.
Which is the practice of taking profile pics at weird angles to hide your unattractive features. Most of these the people in the pics are averting they’re gaze.
I think its suppose to make them look sad or mysterious or maybe even a little apathetic.
It makes me want to post two different pics of myself one looking at the camera and one looking away and see which people prefer.
Hmmm…perhaps I shall.
That is all
Rarely. I hate making eye contact. It’s just uncomfortable for me…
Not really, but I should. I’m a shy person, so doing so usually ties up my tongue unless I’m really comfortable with them.
Not for more than 1-2 seconds.
I don’t look at people at all because they simply are not important enough to warrant turning my head.
I make a conscious effort to do so when I’m working through an issue or passing the peace at church.
That depends on the person.
I’m with girlwithasong1133, I try to look people in the eyes, but it doesn’t come naturally to me. :/
Yeah, but my eyes keep watering.
I knew about this for some time. And in response to the question, yes.
ironic your posting about eyes in ryc i’ve always thought the same thing about nicole kidman… it’s her eyes.
Good information to know. Now I can use it on a certain boy…
I try to, but I feel uncomfortable doing so for too long, because I don’t like to feel like I’m in a staring contest.
It depends on the situation.
If it’s during a normal conversation then, yes, I’ll make eye contact.
But if a guy that I’m not interested in, shows an interest in me, then I will avoid it, at all costs- for the very reason that the article mentions.
Eye contact can be very powerful and intimate.
Yes
No..in fact, I stare more at their mouth making sure I am hearing what they are saying.
I look them in the eyes if they’re talking to me, but if I’m talking to them – as soon as my mouth opens, my eyes dart elsewhere.
Yeah. I love eyes :]
Yes, i work customer service and you have to or it looks like your not paying attention to them.
Personally I usually look someone in the eyes, that is, unless I depise them…and then I can’t no matter how hard I try. Now my husband would answer the question by asking a question of his own:
“…that depends on how big her boobs are.”
I thought it’s manner to look at people in the eye when I have conversation with them. Man, I hope no one think there is anything more. Just want to be polite and give them all of my attention.
I always look at someone in the eyes when I am talking to them. Eye contact is almost like an important inner connection. You can really feel some people by looking into their eyes.
Eye contact also shows people that you are confident. Very often when someone is angry with me, I always look straight into their eyes, mainly for the reason that it gives them the impression that I’m not afraid.
You don’t have to look in someone’s eyes throughout an entire conversation–not even I do that. But I believe having some amount of eye contact when speaking with someone is important and says much about a person.
I like to make eye contact when having sex, too. It’s very intimate
I prefer to look someone in the eye when I talk to them, or just as I pass by, but most people seem to be uncomfortable with it. On the other hand, I have known at least one person who is so intense when he talks to me I look away often.
I do make good eye contact. I don’t like talking with people who don’t look you in the eye. I also don’t like it when you’re talking to someone and they never STOP looking you in the eye. That gets intimidating.
yep
yeah i always do. some people think that’s weird though o-O
Yes. When you look them in the eyes, you give them a sense that you are interested in what they have to say and that they are important.
I don’t…eye contact makes me uncomfortable.
I always do, but it wasn’t to make them attracted to me. Now I know why my boss got out of my direct line of vision when we were talking…
Sometimes.
IRYC: I’ve never changed my profile pic in over 3 years, but for some reason this one looks all grainy.
For most people, yes.
Definitely.
Sometimes I look people in the eye so directly that I think it intimidates them, and they look aways. But I think eye contact is essential for good communication, so I really make a point to do so.
:]
I try, but it gets uncomfortable. It’s more of the entire face, or a specific feature.
aye.. although, that hasnt always been a smart move… aboriginal elders hate eye-contact…
btw, you, dan, have been tagged by me.. go see
My eye contact is shitty. I always act nervous. When I do stare, it’s too intense…eh, gotta find that fine balance.
Your question gave me a chuckle. I learned how because it became a sign of honesty and I consider myself a very honest person. But there are people I just can’t look them in the eyes because I don’t even want to look at their face. Like SD haha I never realized how often I can’t look at him when I talk to him.
uh. NO. i am horrified at looking someone in the eyes…its like theyre reading me or something. very disturbing.
Yes, usually.
Most definitely, I think more can be learned in eye contact than just body language alone.
yes always. i find it respectful of those i am engaged in conversation with.
Nope. Not much. It seems un-natural and makes me feel like a creep. I’m more comfortable staring off at something else while I listen or think of something to say.
yeahp.
Not really…I’m fairly shy.
only if i want to appear attentive to them and only them, as in if i want them to think i’m attractive. otherwise eye contact between any two mammals is rather threatening and off putting. i ‘m not into it.
The guy I like does that. And I keep looking down or away, but his eyes are magnetic when he’s patiently staring and waiting for a response. It really depends on how distracted I am. But if I’m calm and talking about a serious matter, I look into their eyes.
I have a comic here which perfectly articulates my perspective on eye contact.
I do my best to maintain eye contact as long as possible though.
It depends on who the person is, lol.
I always do, but I find that very few people can hold my stare. It makes them very uncomfortable or nervous. A lot of women have told me that they feel violated or indecent just by me looking at them.
No i have a problem with lookign sdirectly into people’s eyes, i felt insecure about it especially with strangers.
i generally watch the mouth of whoever is talking… sounds kinda dumb… but like lip reading and listening… helps me understand more…
tho this is this one girl and she has amazing blue eyes an whenever i talk to her i cant help but look at her eyes. haha
Depends on who I’m talking to.. but I tend to look away A LOT! I need to work on that..
I generally can’t….my eyes dart around the room. Maybe I’ll look in their eyes or face for a second or two, but I just feel awkward…
yup, always. Its easier to communicate with the other person.
it’s something i resolve to do more of (not to come across as attractive but just to establish better rapport), but i hardly ever achieve it.
Yeah, I do… I’m not afraid to look into the eyes of people, unless they’re cock-eyed. It makes things hard.
Always – the eyes are the window into the soul.
yes yes yes !!!!
It is a very important social skill… I teach my students that skill.
DO you know if you give someone eye contact when they are talking to you..they are more likely to SHUT UP and not harange on and on…. IS a good motivator for teenagers who just want ADULTS to SHUT up!
No – I try because it’s American culture but I’m fighting what I was taught when I was little. I’m reading “Survival of the prettiest” by Nancy Etcoff right now and I’m not that far into it because she also says eyes are universally considered the prettiest feature too.
Depends. But mostly I look in to the eyes.
I hear that when you’re photographed, it steals a little bit of your soul.
Always! I love examining people’s eye colors!
Most definitely! Though I was brought up this way, and to me it’s out of respect. The only downfall is when someone doesn’t return the favor, then I think it’s rude and I get angry.
Oh, definitely not. I avert my eyes when talking to people around whom I’m shy. I heard you’re supposed to look at people’s foreheads and not directly at their eyes, out of common courtesy.
Maybe I’ll try to stare down someone later on, though, haha!
I do not. I doubt knowing this will be enough to make me start, haha.
it depends on whether i think i deserve their respect or not.. i have a proble with looking people in authority in the eyes
I live in Asia now. It’s disrespectful to look at adult’s eyes while talking to them here… but I do it anyway.
I’m getting better at it.
Some people
For some reason this never bothered me. Most people’s eyes are very pretty! They were always my favorite feature.
Always.
Most of the time, yes. And I agree that it’s attractive because it shows confidence and attention (to me).
Though, this probably is NOT true in all countries. I know in Korea women aren’t suppoesd to look older men in the eyes.
Always, it’s really powerful. I notice when I talk to some people that we will just be looking into each others eyes and smiling. It is not a sexual thing though it is usually women who do it. It’s not just about looking people in the eyes, it is showing interest and responding to what they are looking at and their facial expressions. It is showing interest. It is saying “nice to meet you and talk to you, we can be friends” without saying a word. I love it when people make good eye contact. It is not called the window to the soul for nothing.
If I like the person, if it’s someone I don’t really care to be around, I won’t really look at them.
I try to, but it really bothers me.
yes always
Well, now I will!
I can but sometimes it is hard. When they are mad or something all I can do is glance at them. I never could look my ex in the eyes when he was mad. Something about the look he was giving me and the way he tensed up.
Always, though I wished I didnt. Alot of my guy friends have crushes on it, and its prolly because of that ((along with how I pay attention to everyone and anyone, am extreemly respectful, am very attentive, and am very touchy-feely, regardless of age or gender))…. SIGH >.<;;;
Yes. It really helps you to strike it off with people.
Usually, especially when they’re talking. My eyes tend to wander more when I’m speaking.
To look in ones eyes is looking into ones mind… If you look into a persons eyes while you speak… you can tell whether or not the truth is being told or not….
The eyes dont lie
yes, like when you talk to peoples…but not like directly look at them so long…you got to look elsewhere becuse if you look at them so long they think you might stare at them or it be weird and sometime of you dont they might think that you not listenin to them
I make eye contact, but I find it really awkward to stare in a person’s eyes the entire time I’m talking to them, especially if it’s a guy…
> I look at the bridge of the nose, so as to ‘see’ all aspects of the face and upper body, so as to determine if my respondant is a sooth-sayer or….. The world is full of those in all their many forms….
Peace
yep, I look right in between the eyes. That way it really looks like I am looking them in the eyes. hahaha. It’s my moms fault, she always said, look me in the eyes when I talk to you. SO I DID.
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No, I have a lot of trouble with that.
Wow, I’ve been near the top a lot lately, must because of exams. Anything is better than studying
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I don’t generally look people in the eyes
Always.
Yes, I do look people in the eye (well, not staring, lol). I feel eye contact is very important. It shows the other person you are listening to what they have to say.
Kathi
yes.
I look people in the eye…and then they usually say “stop looking at me.”
I don’t get it.
But when I do its my boyfriend so I guess that you could say that I find people more attractive if I look them in the eyes
I try to – it’s more polite. At least, it is when you don’t cross over into staring creepily, haha.
I try to
Yes! It comes naturally to me.
I try, but for some reason with women I am drawn to her breasts……imagine that
Definitely.
LOL @ roadking, hehe.
No. But then again, I am a shy person. However, if I have something important to say, I will!
eye contact is important (not staring) I do sometimes struggled but have got better in the last couple of years
Interviews for jobs eye contract is important to show you are at least interested of possibly working for the company etc
Yes, unless I don’t like the person or I don’t want to talk to them.
Try to.
No, I’m terrible at that. I have a lazy eye and am really self-conscious about it, so I avoid eye contact. After our first date Brent said “If you had given me a little more eye contact, we probably would have had a hot make-out session”
I’ve heard it’s because we’re the only creatures that have sex facing each other, therefore eye contact is very intimate.
I look people straight in the eye when I want them to be attracted to me, but generally I’m not an eye contacter.
Sometimes.it dependswho I am talking to.
I had a phase I went thru- when I made love I liked it when my Lover looked me straight in the eyes! It was thrilling !
I’m trying to train myself to do that automatically. Though I can be kinda shy.
No, that really bothers me.
i try to look people in the eyes. it just doesn’t come naturally to me. i don’t know why.
Really depends on the person.
i can’t not look into someone’s eyes when i speak to them, i get distracted if i look elsewhere while i am speaking, sometimes i even forget what im saying and trail off midsentence while the other person is waiting patiently for me to finish my fascinating insights
plus i just completely distrust people that can’t look me in the eye when i am speaking to them…
Most of the time.
yes.
Always!
Yes, I think I do.
sometimes. it’s hard for me, though.
I have had eye contact issues ever since I was in elementary school; they’re the result of years of bullying and harassment. It takes a lot of mental work and concentration for me to look someone in the eyes for longer than a few seconds.
i’m pretty good about looking into people’s eyes
i do, but not the ENTIRE time. then i feel weird.
Sometimes. It depends on the person I’m talking to.
No…I tend to look at the wall or the floor or whatever and periodically glance into the person’s eyes. I feel silly looking them straight in the eye.
Yeah, definitely. Infact, some people say I look at them TOO intently, and it makes them nervous.
Of course!
Yes. I look people in the eyes. Things seem to mean more when someone is looking into your eyes when they say them.
I try to. I used to have a really hard time making eye contact, maybe I’m more confident now or something. It definitely does make a person more attractive.
At the comedy club, the comedian asked me what my favorite feature on a guy was. He said I couldn’t choose smile. So, of course, I chose eyes. He then asked if I would like him to take off his glasses so I could get a good look at them, and I said sure. He then proceeded to ask me to please, since he took his glasses off for me, to take my shirt off for him so he could also see his favorite feature on a girl. ha. ha. ha. (Don’t worry, I didn’t!)
No, at best I stare at their hair. I think it’s because I grew up introveted.
No, I usually giggle and sway from side to side. For real. I usually make eye contact when I want to have hot sex or fight someone. Rawr.
Not the entire time because that would be creepy, but I do make eye contact.
Yes, I always try to.
nope, but I need to
Absolutely, and I expect the same in return. If I am not looking someone in the eyes while having a face to face conversation I do not feel connected to them. My boss and best friend likes to stare at my hairline and I am ALWAYS yelling at her for it. If I wanted people to talk to my hairline, I would look down to make it easier on them!
No, I look at the mouth, shoulders, and face. Before you get gross out, I am a lip reader since I am profoundly deaf. There are days that I hate to do it but got no choice. Looking into the eyes is the last thing I wanna do. I just cant do it.
Yes, but I’ve noticed that when some people look me in the eye while I’m talking, it’s uncomfortable. So, I’m trying to learn to look away sometimes.
I always look people in the eyes because it’s an intimidation tactic. You know when they look away they have a social problem and you can use that against them to get what you want. It works, I promise!!
I try to but mostly I don’t…
honestly, i tend to look at the bridge of their nose, near the eyes… i don’t know why the whole “look into my eyes” sort of thing bothers me… i guess some people’s eyes make me feel liek they can see ALL of me and it freaks me out… :p
except my dad. I always make sure to make eye-contact with him.
I do unless I am wearing sunglasses. Then I stare at other things while still looking interested.
no, i tend to look at their tits.
No, actually. I’m very shy and it does not come naturally to me. I’m not even sure how to keep comfortable eye contact with someone (eg not creep them out by looking too long, etc). So I find it’s easier to just sort of look at someone when I talk to them, but not right into their eyes. Maybe that explains my trouble with the boys.
Yes. I was always taught that when you are speaking to someone you are supposed to keep eye contact because otherwise you seem insincere.
i try to, it makes it so much more personal
Yes I always try to do that. You feel more of a connection that way!
No…I look at people’s teeth when they talk. And sometimes, I should be looking into their eyes instead b/c their teeth are disgusting!!
I was raised its rude if you don’t look someone in the eyes when talking to them.
Always, I have to anyways in order to read their lips.
Yes and it really irritates me when the other person doesn’t. Makes me wonder what they have to hide.
If I want to talk to him/her, yes…..
I usually look into the eyes of women who I am talking to.
If I’m trying to get rid of somebody, I don’t look at them. I just talk to them while I stay on the computer.
i make it a point to look them in the eyes. it’s a show of confidence, and i’ve always found it attractive when someone did that to me.
If I know them well.
Usually I talk to the spot above people’s shoulders.
Yes. It is important to let people know that you are giving them your attention when they are speaking to you.
I literary can’t start/continue/end a conversation without having eye contact from the other person. Not sure how that started, but I always look at people in the eyes when speaking to them.
I expect the same, otherwise I stop the conversation.
look? I stare!
Yes, but I don’t stare. I was always taught that if you can’t look someone in the eye than you are hiding something and not being honest. BUT, if I am in the company of Muslim men I make an effort to look away. Each culture is different.
If the guy is someone who may get the wrong message, I don’t look him in the eye too much.
yes
God no, what a terrifying idea.
I try. Especially if I’m feeling some attraction. However, I just can’t maintain a conversation while looking in some people’s eyes. Then I focus on the nose; it’s close enough to make them think you’re looking them in the eyes.
I try to. It depends on their eyes
That depends on how much I like them, what we’re talking about, and how I feel that day.
yesm.
I always make eye contact – unless I am specifically avoiding someone…
even strangers walking by, I usually try to give a look straight in the eyes – I get a little bold if they don’t look away right away and stick my tongue out too…haha, not really.
But I do look people right in the eyes as I’m walking – I think it shows that I’m not afraid of anything, that I’m confident.
*HUGS*
Always have had a hard time with that. I can only do it with people I know really well.
I do but I think this is mildly ironic due to the theory of Myspace Angles.
Which is the practice of taking profile pics at weird angles to hide your unattractive features. Most of these the people in the pics are averting they’re gaze.
I think its suppose to make them look sad or mysterious or maybe even a little apathetic.
It makes me want to post two different pics of myself one looking at the camera and one looking away and see which people prefer.
Hmmm…perhaps I shall.
That is all
Rarely. I hate making eye contact. It’s just uncomfortable for me…
Not really, but I should. I’m a shy person, so doing so usually ties up my tongue unless I’m really comfortable with them.
Not for more than 1-2 seconds.
I don’t look at people at all because they simply are not important enough to warrant turning my head.
I make a conscious effort to do so when I’m working through an issue or passing the peace at church.
That depends on the person.
I’m with girlwithasong1133, I try to look people in the eyes, but it doesn’t come naturally to me. :/
Yeah, but my eyes keep watering.
I knew about this for some time. And in response to the question, yes.
ironic your posting about eyes in ryc i’ve always thought the same thing about nicole kidman… it’s her eyes.
Good information to know. Now I can use it on a certain boy…
I try to, but I feel uncomfortable doing so for too long, because I don’t like to feel like I’m in a staring contest.
It depends on the situation.
If it’s during a normal conversation then, yes, I’ll make eye contact.
But if a guy that I’m not interested in, shows an interest in me, then I will avoid it, at all costs- for the very reason that the article mentions.
Eye contact can be very powerful and intimate.
Yes
No..in fact, I stare more at their mouth making sure I am hearing what they are saying.
I look them in the eyes if they’re talking to me, but if I’m talking to them – as soon as my mouth opens, my eyes dart elsewhere.
Yeah. I love eyes :]
Yes, i work customer service and you have to or it looks like your not paying attention to them.
Personally I usually look someone in the eyes, that is, unless I depise them…and then I can’t no matter how hard I try. Now my husband would answer the question by asking a question of his own:
“…that depends on how big her boobs are.”
I thought it’s manner to look at people in the eye when I have conversation with them. Man, I hope no one think there is anything more. Just want to be polite and give them all of my attention.
I always look at someone in the eyes when I am talking to them. Eye contact is almost like an important inner connection. You can really feel some people by looking into their eyes.
Eye contact also shows people that you are confident. Very often when someone is angry with me, I always look straight into their eyes, mainly for the reason that it gives them the impression that I’m not afraid.
You don’t have to look in someone’s eyes throughout an entire conversation–not even I do that. But I believe having some amount of eye contact when speaking with someone is important and says much about a person.
I like to make eye contact when having sex, too.
It’s very intimate
I prefer to look someone in the eye when I talk to them, or just as I pass by, but most people seem to be uncomfortable with it. On the other hand, I have known at least one person who is so intense when he talks to me I look away often.
I do make good eye contact. I don’t like talking with people who don’t look you in the eye. I also don’t like it when you’re talking to someone and they never STOP looking you in the eye. That gets intimidating.
yep
yeah i always do.
some people think that’s weird though o-O
Yes. When you look them in the eyes, you give them a sense that you are interested in what they have to say and that they are important.
I don’t…eye contact makes me uncomfortable.
I always do, but it wasn’t to make them attracted to me. Now I know why my boss got out of my direct line of vision when we were talking…
Sometimes.
IRYC: I’ve never changed my profile pic in over 3 years, but for some reason this one looks all grainy.
For most people, yes.
Definitely.
Sometimes I look people in the eye so directly that I think it intimidates them, and they look aways. But I think eye contact is essential for good communication, so I really make a point to do so.
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I try, but it gets uncomfortable. It’s more of the entire face, or a specific feature.
aye.. although, that hasnt always been a smart move… aboriginal elders hate eye-contact…
btw, you, dan, have been tagged by me.. go see
My eye contact is shitty. I always act nervous. When I do stare, it’s too intense…eh, gotta find that fine balance.
Your question gave me a chuckle. I learned how because it became a sign of honesty and I consider myself a very honest person. But there are people I just can’t look them in the eyes because I don’t even want to look at their face. Like SD haha I never realized how often I can’t look at him when I talk to him.
uh. NO. i am horrified at looking someone in the eyes…its like theyre reading me or something. very disturbing.
Yes, usually.
Most definitely, I think more can be learned in eye contact than just body language alone.
yes always. i find it respectful of those i am engaged in conversation with.
Nope. Not much. It seems un-natural and makes me feel like a creep. I’m more comfortable staring off at something else while I listen or think of something to say.
yeahp.
Not really…I’m fairly shy.
only if i want to appear attentive to them and only them, as in if i want them to think i’m attractive. otherwise eye contact between any two mammals is rather threatening and off putting. i ‘m not into it.
The guy I like does that. And I keep looking down or away, but his eyes are magnetic when he’s patiently staring and waiting for a response. It really depends on how distracted I am. But if I’m calm and talking about a serious matter, I look into their eyes.
I have a comic here which perfectly articulates my perspective on eye contact.
Click here!
I do my best to maintain eye contact as long as possible though.
It depends on who the person is, lol.
I always do, but I find that very few people can hold my stare. It makes them very uncomfortable or nervous. A lot of women have told me that they feel violated or indecent just by me looking at them.
No i have a problem with lookign sdirectly into people’s eyes,
i felt insecure about it especially with strangers.
i generally watch the mouth of whoever is talking… sounds kinda dumb… but like lip reading and listening… helps me understand more…
tho this is this one girl and she has amazing blue eyes an whenever i talk to her i cant help but look at her eyes. haha
Depends on who I’m talking to..
but I tend to look away A LOT!
I need to work on that..
I generally can’t….my eyes dart around the room. Maybe I’ll look in their eyes or face for a second or two, but I just feel awkward…
yup, always. Its easier to communicate with the other person.
it’s something i resolve to do more of (not to come across as attractive but just to establish better rapport), but i hardly ever achieve it.
Yeah, I do… I’m not afraid to look into the eyes of people, unless they’re cock-eyed.
It makes things hard.
Always – the eyes are the window into the soul.
yes yes yes !!!!
It is a very important social skill…
I teach my students that skill.
DO you know if you give someone eye contact when they are talking to you..they are more likely to SHUT UP and not harange on and on….
IS a good motivator for teenagers who just want ADULTS to SHUT up!
No – I try because it’s American culture but I’m fighting what I was taught when I was little. I’m reading “Survival of the prettiest” by Nancy Etcoff right now and I’m not that far into it because she also says eyes are universally considered the prettiest feature too.
Depends. But mostly I look in to the eyes.
I hear that when you’re photographed, it steals a little bit of your soul.
Always! I love examining people’s eye colors!
Most definitely! Though I was brought up this way, and to me it’s out of respect. The only downfall is when someone doesn’t return the favor, then I think it’s rude and I get angry.
Oh, definitely not. I avert my eyes when talking to people around whom I’m shy. I heard you’re supposed to look at people’s foreheads and not directly at their eyes, out of common courtesy.
Maybe I’ll try to stare down someone later on, though, haha!
I do not. I doubt knowing this will be enough to make me start, haha.
it depends on whether i think i deserve their respect or not.. i have a proble with looking people in authority in the eyes
I live in Asia now. It’s disrespectful to look at adult’s eyes while talking to them here… but I do it anyway.
I’m getting better at it.
Some people
For some reason this never bothered me. Most people’s eyes are very pretty! They were always my favorite feature.
Always.
Most of the time, yes. And I agree that it’s attractive because it shows confidence and attention (to me).
Though, this probably is NOT true in all countries. I know in Korea women aren’t suppoesd to look older men in the eyes.
Always, it’s really powerful. I notice when I talk to some people that we will just be looking into each others eyes and smiling. It is not a sexual thing though it is usually women who do it. It’s not just about looking people in the eyes, it is showing interest and responding to what they are looking at and their facial expressions. It is showing interest. It is saying “nice to meet you and talk to you, we can be friends” without saying a word. I love it when people make good eye contact. It is not called the window to the soul for nothing.
If I like the person, if it’s someone I don’t really care to be around, I won’t really look at them.
I try to, but it really bothers me.
yes always
Well, now I will!
I can but sometimes it is hard. When they are mad or something all I can do is glance at them. I never could look my ex in the eyes when he was mad. Something about the look he was giving me and the way he tensed up.
Always, though I wished I didnt. Alot of my guy friends have crushes on it, and its prolly because of that ((along with how I pay attention to everyone and anyone, am extreemly respectful, am very attentive, and am very touchy-feely, regardless of age or gender))…. SIGH >.<;;;
Yes. It really helps you to strike it off with people.
Usually, especially when they’re talking. My eyes tend to wander more when I’m speaking.
To look in ones eyes is looking into ones mind… If you look into a persons eyes while you speak… you can tell whether or not the truth is being told or not….
The eyes dont lie
yes, like when you talk to peoples…but not like directly look at them so long…you got to look elsewhere becuse if you look at them so long they think you might stare at them or it be weird and sometime of you dont they might think that you not listenin to them
I make eye contact, but I find it really awkward to stare in a person’s eyes the entire time I’m talking to them, especially if it’s a guy…
> I look at the bridge of the nose, so as to ‘see’ all aspects of the face and upper body, so as to determine if my respondant is a sooth-sayer or….. The world is full of those in all their many forms….
Peace
yep, I look right in between the eyes. That way it really looks like I am looking them in the eyes. hahaha. It’s my moms fault, she always said, look me in the eyes when I talk to you. SO I DID.
always