December 4, 2007
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Disfigured Face and Jehovah’s Witness
This is Jose Mestre.
His face has been disfigured by a bloody tumor. He is Jehovah’s Witness so he couldn’t have the surgery to fix it because they are not allowed to have a blood transfusion. Now doctors believe they can treat the tumor using ultrasound waves “to coagulate the blood before the operation.” Here is the link: Link
That is not what I want to talk about. I don’t want to talk about whether the boy should have been given the surgery even thought he was Jehovah’s Witness. I don’t want to talk about whether the government should have taken him from his parents and given him the surgery. I want to deal with a more important issue that impacts all of us.
Do you think you could kiss Jose if he was your family member?
Comments (115)
whoa
that looks so painful!
well i don’t kiss my relatives anyway… so no… but i’d still hug him and love him like any other person
Oh my!!!
Yes, I could.
How does he eat?
love goes past looks…… as i always say…. “when your 80 years old drinking your prune juice on the front porch of the nursing home looks are not whats going to keep you in love”
Wow.
Um.I don’t know, actually.Is that shallow?
No, probably not.
But I don’t like my family.
If my lover developed something like that, and there was nothing medically that could be done, then yes.
If my lover developed something like that, and there WAS something that could be done but he refused, I’d leave him.
Since I am a male, I dont kiss…but I know I can give him a hug if he was in my family.
If he were my child, I absolutely could kiss him – on the side of the head or something. But if he were my child, I would not allow the tumors to take over his face. I read the link, and I think he is a fool if he does not take advantage of a free operation that can repair his face in a single 12-hour time period!
Kathi
Eek! I still don’t know how to answer that question! This may sound so very mean, but I have a very weak stomach when it comes to medical stuff and just seeing these pictures makes my stomach churn. I don’t know if I could handle seeing him in real life – I’d most likely pass out. I can’t help it! I hope that doesn’t make me sound like a jerk.
I kinda feel like one….like I should be able to say, “Yes, I’d definately kiss him!”
Although, iIf he was originally my husband and developed this, then yes, I would still kiss him.
omg that must be heavy
Of course… my family is my family, no matter how disfigured they are.
even his sister isn’t kissing his tumor.
for family yes on the top of the head
Oh my… that was crazy.
If he was a member of my family and looked that way since the day I was born then yes. Kids accept people before they’re old enough to learn how to judge them, so I could in that situation.
My beliefs may be strong, but I would believe in modern medicine more…
I think I could pay someone else to.
If family, then yes.
Yes, he deserves love just like any other child.
Wow, my heart is breaking for that boy, I can’t even get over the tumor to think about kissing him. I want to say yes, the kind and loving thing would be to say yes. I could do what his sister is doing and kiss the side of his face, but, I really don’t know. It’s hard to imagine when you aren’t actually in the situation.
If my child had something wrong like that yes I would still kiss him, If it was my husband with such a problem I probably would ignore it and see past all that.
There are only a few relatives that I kiss anyways, but I would treat him as I would anyone else…..actually I would most likely treat him better just because I figure the rest of the world probably treats him harshly so he could use people being extra nice
If I love someone their flaws don’t matter or I just don’t notice them.
That looks so so painful though, poor guy
Probably not, but my family it’s very affectionate, it’s just not something we do.
i jumped when i saw this… i really have no clue what i would do if that was a family member…
that is so sad.
Without a doubt. There still is some cheek available–you wouldn’t have to kiss the tumor.
Personally he is so grotesque it makes me feel slight nausea. No, I don’t think I could.
How does he eat food?
Way to really dig for the hard-hitting issues!
i don’t know… maybe?
but i know i’ll be mad at him for not doing something about it when there is treatment available.
yes, family.
I don’t see how he can breathe through his nose or mouth.
plainly said
no
i’ll shake his hand though. I don’t kiss other men
oh my. i want to say yes, but i can’t. i can’t bring myself to kiss him. and these are just pictures!
Of course.
It’s called love!! And isn’t love unconditional??
I would kiss him out of pity.
so, I’d rather not kiss him at all.
Yes, but I don’t know if I could do it if he looked like the guy on the second picture.
wait, ok, I’m confused…are they the same person? Hahah…ok, yes, they are, and no way I could not do that. Can he even breathe?
I don’t kiss people anyway. but now I feel evil. But his poor face looks like intestines.
Sometimes beliefs should be set aside. I would never assume god would punish my child for a surgery that would put him out of such misery! I could never watch this happen to my child with out doing something. What total BS. I’m sorry but the government should step in in this case and do what is best for the child – not what is best for… God? God is all forgiving and even said “Suffer not the little children.” PALEESE!
Oh and I could not get the video link to work.
J-Dubs are effing retarded.
My God, that’s tragic.
I think it’s idiotic that they won’t allow a blood transfusion so that something can be done for this man. I believe in God (strongly, I might add), but I highly doubt that He would want me (or anyone) to suffer, especially if something could be done. Life is not the same as it was back in the day, old laws/rules no longer apply.
I agree with the commenter that said that if she knew this person since childhood, that she would kiss him. Kids are blind to things that adults put so much emphasis on. If this was my child, yes, I’d kiss him. Other relative? I don’t know… but I DO know that I would talk to him like he was a normal person.
Of course. Remember, his family isn’t seeing him for the first time on a website. They’re used to his appearance and love him for who he is.
Is it really shallow of me to say that these pictures almost make me feel sick? If it was my relative, I would be mad at them for not getting the surgery. I mean…come on…
I was a little shocked at the picture, but I think that if my children or husband would slowly grow to look like that and I would have time to adjust…I would still kiss him or her like crazy. They have grown to love their father or son, so appearance is not the only thing that has made them love him.
Yes… love is blind…
Oh that poor man.
I honestly don’t know the answer to the question.
family, of course, on the head or something. It’s family.
how does he eat?
I feel faint! How does he eat?
yes
I think so… even as gross as it may seem/look.
I am more of a hugger anyways
Daniel (doubledb)
much as i dislike my own reaction, no. i don’t really like touching other people to begin with so this would just be too much. which is not really how i want to feel but thats the way it is.
…no.Â
ugh…i know…i’m a horrible person.
I couldnt, thats just the plain truth of it. I wish I had been able to say I could.
I don’t kiss my family members. But I would hug him and whatnot.
I feel so bad for that guy :[
I’ve officially lost my appetite.
I don’t hug or kiss my family all that often, but if that was my brother then I’d still love him (my brother doesn’t like to be hugged and kissed either. He’s 17, so that makes sense).
Of course I’d think he was an IDIOT for refusing treatment when it first showed up, but I’d still love him.
Yes.
Just if I was closer, not necessarily immediate, family, or if I were married to him.
That is so sad. I have respect for people’s religion but to see someone suffer like that is just unbearable for me. I’d probably be a bad Jehovah’s witness and allow him to have surgery. AND YES, I would kiss him. I’d love him as much as any other family member
Holy crap…I would not let him keep the tumor, because I’d love my children.
I think I could. Your own child is different.
If you couldn’t, you don’t understand love or family. Maybe you’ve had neither.
It breaks my heart to hear such a question asked.
I don’t understand how he can breathe, talk, eat, etc.?
Of course, why would one be so heartless to someone that needs all the love they can get? Ugh I nearly cried for the poor man.
Jose this one is for you!!!
I don’t believe I would.
Wow..that is just terrible. I’m with everyone else..how does he eat? Where is his mouth? Like you would know all these answers to our questions..lol!!! I don’t think I could even come close to putting my mouth any where near that tumor to kiss him..I don’t care if he was family. Thats just gross and I know he can’t help it, but that just grosses me out.
Yes I could.
I don’t know. I really don’t know. Maybe with God’s help.
Jesus touched lepers to heal them, and probably many people that were dirty, smelly, repulsively ill.
It makes me think of how Jesus was willing to die for our sins, even though people are really so terrible. They even chose to let barrabas, a murderer, go free instead of Him! Yet He still was willing to die for our sins, as spiritually ugly as we can be sometimes.
God bless.
Probably not. o__O
I’m so shallow…
yes, but someone should intervene so he could have a normal life. Hello
Yes I would. True love is indeed blind.
By the way… I don’t think that kissing your relative inspite of a disfiguring tumor is more impotant than the other topics you presented. Shame on you Dan. Such a question does not impact all of us, for some of us actually judge a person by the content of their character and not by what they look like on the outside.
Yes…There is still a person under all that tumor…
Is that real? How does he eat or even breathe? I don’t see any breathing apparatus…
But seriously, Dan, what a stupid, selfish question. Jeez.
Hopefully I’d be used to it…If not, then no
Oh my gosh, poor kid! That looks soooooooo incredibly painful!
I think if you love anyone enough you could bring yourself to show affection to them.
As an adult, I am sure I could. However my inner-child ran away screaing and crying.
Of course. Love…when it’s real can look beyond any malformity. Having written that I must confess that any religious doctrine that disallows surgery for the “normal” functions and usage of appearance/extremities ought to re-examine why they would “inflict” such damage. This is a disgrace. The man’s painful existance could have been prevented. This has had to be sheer hell on earth for him and what a terrible shame it is.
Religion is great.
Ok, I’m in dilemma now. Hmm… If he was my family member, maybe I will, not in the tumor of course, in the CLEAN area of his face.
My goodness, he SHOULD have an operation ASAP. (Despite of his being a Jehovah’s Witness).
Wow. I watched the videos and that was just disturbing to me… it takes real love to kiss somene so disfigured as he is. He’s lucky to have a caring family. I suppose if he were my family and I were used to seeing him that way, I would be able to kiss him.. but maybe on the forehead or cheek. Far, far away from the lesion.
yeah I could
I think I’d have a hard time kissing him. Or hugging…
No, physical deformities freak me out.
Yes, I would. He deserves to be treated and loved just like any person under normal circumstances would be. It isn’t his fault the tumor grew so big. I’m praying for him and his family…that he can really get help for what I’m sure is such a burden on him.
My question is how does he eat?
we don’t kiss in our family so it wouldn’t be a problem but I’m not sure I could…
poor guy, id kiss him all the time, he must feel so sad :-
Yes. When you love a person, you love them “warts and all.”
Nope, but I dont kiss my family anyway, so…
And if I did, I STILL wouldn’t kiss him.
With me, I grew up without affection in my family – so I don’t know if I could – because I’ve never been one to show affection to immediate family (brothers, sisters, mom, dad) or even extended family – but yet I can show affection to my man and my child(ren). So with that being said, I couldn’t kiss him – because I feel awkward kissing almost ANY family member besides my kids and my man. But if I did grow up with affection in my family, I’m sure I would – because he is a human being, my family. I would not not kiss him because he has a tumor enveloping his face. Not like you have to kiss the tumor – he still has some cheek available to kiss.
Sincerely,
T.
Absolutely. If he were here right now, I’d kiss him.
Everyone needs love.
But I would like to smack the shit out of his parents.
Oh my Goshhhhhhh
Oh my, that is I can say for this poor guy. But of course I would still kiss him if he was a close enough family member to merit such affection. I would probably kiss him nearer the ear and farther from the tumor though. . .
If it was my son or my brother, yes. But why did the family let this get so severe before doing something? I know about their religion and all, but doesn’t the boy matter more?
LOL omg, I was waiting and waiting for your question to be deep…..lol thanks, you totally just made this crappy day worth it.
and that’s just sick. Jehovah’s witnesses are cracked out weirdos….
and dare I say it?
A CULT.
Yes, absolutely. In fact, I could kiss him, even if he wasn’t my family member, if he was a nice person, and I felt the urge!
The right thing would be to say yes….but I dont honestly think that I could :-
sad!
This is one of the saddest things I have ever seen.
Not just how does he eat… how does he breathe? See?
Pretty sure he is too loyal to being a Jehovah’s witness… but whatever lets him sleep at night, right?
lmao i was going down the lists of my subs and just answered the favorite word question – coagulate – and then complained that i don’t find many day to day opportunities to use the word – then i skip down to this entry and lo and behold there is COAGULATE staring me in the face.
if he was family i would hug him – if he was my son or husband i would still kiss him. love knows no bounds.
I’m sorry, but no. I’m sure he’s a nice guy, but stuff like that, since I have mental problems would just “set me off”. I consider myself a Christian, but at somethings I draw the line.
My jaw dropped. Gosh, that looks so… ouch. But, yeah, if he was (closely) related, I’d kiss him.
If he was family? Absolutely.
Honestly? Probably not.
Absolutely!!!
It looks like his sister is like….. sucking his ear
Absolutely. However, i don’t believe anyone can truly answer that question unless they lived it.
Yeah!
Peace
poor guy:( i guess i could…
– THE U.S. MILITARY HAS ADOPTED “BLOODLESS” SURGERY – DUE TO FEWER INFECTIONS, FASTER RECOVERY, AND LOWER DEATH RATES. THIS IS A HUGE ADVANCE IN MODERN MEDICINE.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JAWhRqCjT9w
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-BLOODLESS MEDICINE IS BETTER - WHY ?
http://vindication.xanga.com/766306531/item/
- ” ‘Those who drag in the use of human blood for internal remedies of diseases appear to misuse it and to sin gravely. Cannibals are condemned. Why do we not abhor those who stain their gullet with human blood? Similar is the receiving of alien blood from a cut vein, either through the mouth or by instruments of transfusion. The authors of this operation are held in terror by the divine law, by which the eating of blood is prohibited…..Yet, either manner of taking blood accords with one and the same ‘ ” -Thomas Bartholin (1616-80), Professor of anatomy at the University of Copenhagen
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