December 19, 2007
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Jamie Lynn Spears Part 3
The majority of people think that 16 is too young to have a baby.
And yet the typical teenager doesn’t use birth control or doesn’t use it correctly. Here is the link: Link
Do you think 16 is too young to have sex?
Comments (105)
yes!
I have to say yes, sorry,
It is, but it isn’t. Some people are more mature. I don’t know where people get off saying things like “they’re sluts, or they’re trashy…” That’s not necessarily the case. I mean, I don’t want my kids to come home and tell me that they are pregnant at 16, but if they do, I’m not going to say that they’re slutty, or trashy. Or that I’m a bad parent.
again biology vs. culture is the issue as i said in my other answer
YES.
I agree with CuteMami!!
Not really. I really don’t care who has consensual sex…. as long as they ARE using birth control, and using it correctly.
No, I just think that birth control isn’t taught the way it should be.
However I do love the new Trojan commercials. There is a pig talking to a lady at a bar trying to get her to have sex but she doesn’t want to, so the pig walks into the bathroom and gets a condom from a machine and when he walks out of the bathroom he’s an attractive man and she smiles at him. I think that’s sending a good message and I really approve of them.
Well.. in my opinion, sex is really meant for marriage, and how many sixteen-year-olds are ready for marriage?
Sixteen is probably the average age for people to lose their virginity.
So no, It’s not too Young.
(Especially Historically speaking when people were getting married at 16) (but then again they only lived to be 38… so) )thend)
Well I can’t judge because I was doing the same at 16 but alot of us who did at that age were never thinking of the “what if’s”. And I also seem to think kids are a little more educated these days then 10 years ago when I was 16. I think now I definitely wouldn’t have been doing the stuff I did at 16 but at the time it seemed right and fun.
no, but the education about sex and prevention generally sucks because most nonprofits recieving money from the government cant legally talk about it.
Yes, unless you’re married. But 16 is rather young to be married too, so there you go. 16 is too young to be having sex.
Generally, 16 year olds don’t have the though paterns that are required to thing about pregnancy, and what happens with you and your soul.
Probably, but it might also help if we actually taught them about birth control and made sure they knew how to use it and had access to it to begin with.
duh. Yes.
That would bring shame upon most families -_- I do not think someone has to be a certain age to have sex, only if they are ready to commit and prepare themselves for the consequences, if something would to happen.
x0x MK
Definitely. Sex is NOT just biology and physiology. Sex deals with a whole host of emotions and responsibilty that a teenager is not mature enough to handle. As a high school teacher, I never met a mature enough teen ready to indulge in sexual activity. It amazes me the world thinks birth control is the answer to teen sexuality. When dealing with broken hearts and emotions, mixing sex into the picture can be devastating to esteem and emotions.
again, it’s not about the age, it’s about what’s acceptable. in other countries, cultures, religions even, it’s totally acceptable to even be married and have babies! what happens when you’re married? you do the no-pants dance and have what? BABIES. it’s not the age, i’m telling you. it’s about what’s considered acceptable today in our society.
nice set-up of the questions…
yes.
Not too young to have sex… more of too young to have a baby.
Yes, unless you are Jaymee Spears or Hanna Montana.
*Jaime and Hannah
I was 18 when i got preggers. And my child is wonderful and healthy..i really don’t think its the age of the mothers. but how responsible they are.
Hell to the no, I lost my v-card at fifteen.
I think it depends.
Some people are ready for sex at 16- other’s not till later.
I would have to say it just depends on the parents and the maturity level/competence of the 16 yr old.
Not necessarily. But marriage is necessary I think.
No. I am all for the natural way of life… when you’re ready, you’re ready.
I love my virginity when I was 15 years old. I know a lot of people who lose it around that age.
A lot of people.
Probably some people who say it IS too young to have sex.
I don’t understand why woman have to get their period when they’re 12/13, either.. that is far too young to start maturing into a woman, far too young. I think I need to stop my girls from entering adulthood at such a young age!!
No, but all teenagers should use some form of birth control and protection
It doesnt matter weither it is right, the fact is alot of kids are doing it nowadays. There are alot of teenage moms, you just have to accept it.
yes. sex is not something you should do on a whim, or because you think it’s “cool.” it’s a big deal that can lead to some serious consequences.
but i wish you’d stop putting all this attention on jamie lynn spears. it’s annoying.
Like so many people, I think you should wait until marriage…
But you know, I’ll also say that if you feel you are ready, go for it…I’m not going to judge or put my personal morals on other people. I just think you should be careful.
careful and responsible*
Unless you are married it is. Then again, 16 is definitely too young for most girls to get married.
Absolutely. If you are too young to have a baby you are too young to have sex. If you are not ready to have a baby you are not ready to have sex. Etc. Simple logic. Whatever happened to common sense?
…Yes? But to prove my point:
The 16 year old girl I used to sit next to in morning prayers (yes, a religious school) was kicked out not too long ago. Why? Lots of reasons. 1) She was video taped doing… something with a boy two years younger than her. And his mother found it. So that’s kind of rape. [She was preasured into this.] 2) One day she played hookey, two boys came over, and did… more serious things. She is (supposedly) pregnant now. [Again, pressure and stupidity]
Not if you’re PROPERLY using protection. Sex is fine and dandy but you can’t get knocked up at 16. That’s just…wrong.
Yup.
Of course. But that’s not going to stop 16 year olds from feeling invincible… just as in other risky behaviors, they don’t think anything could possibly happen to them. It’s proven in studies that the judgment center of the brain for most matures later in adolescence – after age 20 or greater.
Yes
60 is too young if you’re not married..
Sex should be saved for marriage, whatever age that comes at.
Yes.
Dan, I believe you enjoy torturing the guilt-feeling guilty party (aka me) with this subject. I hope there won’t be a Part 4.
I don’t think a 16 year old’s mind isn’t ready to handle that sort of thing.
Yes. Definately.
As I tell all the young people I work with – if you are old enough and mature enough to have sex, then you are old enough and mature enough to have a baby.
They argue with me and I tell them that the only foolproof way of not getting pregnant/getting someone pregnant is abstinence. I know too many people who were conceived when their parents thought they were protected because they used birth control.
Sex at sixteen is scary. I understand that it happens, but it’s still scary.
Mama Spears must be one proud Granny.
Girls should start using birth control not because they’re having sex, but just so they are used to it.
Also, I think most kids that age should have no problems with sex. Just use a condom and prepare yourself for the emotional byproduct of it (Which can never be taught, only learned)
No. The question should be: Is a person mature enough to have sex? rather than: Are they old enough to have sex?
Obviously Ms. Spears wasn’t mature enough since she did not avoid getting pregnant.
Yes === even 20 is too young…..
yes. I think kids are not emotionally mature enough to handle the emotional and physical consequences of such an act. I think some adults are the same way. On top of that they are just not ready to take care of a kid. Of course liberals answer to that is to kill the innocent child produced by the not so innocent child.
yes
YES!
No, as mentioned in your previous post I was 16 when I first did. The timing was fine for me.
Most if not all the people who say 16 isn’t too young to be having sex are part of that small percentage that know how to use birth control and are mature enough to do so. Reality is that the vast majority of teens aren’t ready, mature enough, and educated enough about sex to be having it. There are enough uneducated teens out there that still think you can get pregnant through butt sex for me to say that 16 is still too young. 18+ is probably the best age for MOST teens.
Regardless of whether or not it is too young, it happens, and it is unfortunate that kids don’t know about birth control and how to properly obtain and use it. We just had this discussion in the school I teach at where we have more girls than ever pregnant. We think there is a correlation between this and abstinence education where girls aren’t being taught about birth control at all. Of course, those are just our thoughts…
16 is way too young. I didn’t even understand sex when I was 16. I wasn’t even interested in it. Abstinence until marriage is the answer!
i think there are always exceptions to the general rule that a 16 year old is a good mother or that whole topic about sex.
what is the real issue on hand is, isn’t about those exceptions who turn out great… but the many more masses that end up with messed up lives and the lives born under them.
Take note: Britney’s kids are all gonna need therapy and lots of it. There’s a slim chance, they won’t, but most likely, they will.
so yes, there are people who have kids young, and end up great… and some younger who have sex and are fine.. but the vast majority end up screwed up, traumatized and the cycle keeps on going to the next and the next.
18 year olds barely have the mind capacity to have sex, much less 16 year olds, but you really can’t enforce it.
Yes, the statutory rape laws should stay in place. But the main enforcement isn’t law, but the binding gentle rules build within every family.
having said that, life is never perfect. There will always be ones who slip pass, but those we can deal with… when you start making rules that work only for the few on the many, that’s when you get a big mess.
Heck yeah 16 is way too young to have sex..but she’s had such a postitive roll model in her life..her big sis Britney. (Yes I’m being sarcastic with that last sentence) Doesn’t that make a mother proud..her 2 daughters who can’t keep their legs closed. Geez..put an asprin between those girls’ knees…
It doesn’t matter how old a person is. It really depends on their state of mind and maturity level. If they think they can include “sex” in their hobbies then there’s no stopping them.
I agree with those above who have stated that any age is too young if the people are not married. I agree totally in fact.
Here’s a lightning rod. We are created in such a way that there is an emotional/spiritual bond between people who have sex with one another. We give a part of ourselves to that person. We were created for monogamy. When we give that part of ourselves away to another person during sex, it never can be retrieved. If things do not “work out” with marriage following, then someone (or numerous people) who are not our spouse have a part of us as we move through life. Eventually, unless there is emotional and spiritual healing within the person, there is nothing left to give. God knows this because He made us. He didn’t say that we should be monogamous because He wants to spoil our fun. He said it in order to protect us because he knows how He created us and knows the great potential for disaster if we don’t do as He said. The good news is that there is redemption available to those who need/want it. That is the Good News.
You mean is 16 too young to get married. Of course it’s too young to have sex if you aren’t married. I’ve met some 16 year olds that I think are mature enough to be married, BUT they don’t get married simply BECAUSE they know it would be a mistake at their age, that’s real maturity. As I said in the part I post, abstainance until married takes away SO many needless problems. Young folks need to wake up and realize what’s on TV is not real life. Ha! Even reality shows are not real.
So to answer your question after chasing all these rabbits, 16 is too young to get married, so it is FOR SURE too young to get pregnant!
Yes!! Waaay to young to have a baby. And hasn’t anybody thought that this probably, most likely NOT the first time she had sex. So therefore, she could have been sexually active even earlier than 16 which is disturbing.
Your questions are pissing me off. Why do you keep relating them to sex? Post something interesting. Like, archeological discoveries or something. I’m leaving!
yep
Not at all.
More education on using birth control should be given to teens.
I do now.
I am not a fan of sex outside of marriage, and few people are married at 16.
There is absolutely no excuse for a 16 year old to be getting pregnant. The birth control pill has been around for 40+ years! Condoms are easily accessible!
I do believe that 16 is too young to have sex, BUT, since it happens, there should be a values-system in place in all parents that encourages STRONGLY the use of contraceptives!
Yeah…she’s way too cute and happy to complicate her life that way.
The world we live in is a terrible place, it seems…
i had sex at 16, and I honestly don’t think I was too young. Even now, thinking about people who are currently 16, I don’t think it’s too young.
However, they do need to be using birth control. The pill and a condom to be 100% sure. And they shouldn’t be having sex with people not in their age group. Just because some people are stupid and don’t use protection doesn’t have anything to do with whether or not they’re dold enough to do it. I know a lot of people my age and older who don’t use protection, and it’s stupid, but it doesn’t mean they’re too young ot be doing in it.
What’s right for some is wrong for others.
That’s really all it is.
too young. but then it doesnt so much have to do with the age but more when one is ready to say “i do”.
well, i am 16 and i know i am too young. so, i say yes.
I really dont know. I definitely think it’s too young to have a baby.
biologically speaking, obviously not.
but i do think it’s too young.
16 is too young to have sex, physically you can and you want to, but emotionally you are not ready to handle all the stuff that comes along with it, stds, pregnancy. I had sex at 17 and regretted it, one because I guy I thought I loved turned out to be a lying scumbag, and two I should have saved it for my husband. I can tell you sex is 100% better with someone who really loves you and in a marriage, if I get pregnant again guess what it’s Gods blessing, and being in a faithful covenant i don’t have to worry about stds.
on another note I think it’s funny that Jamie said she was “shocked” she got pregnant, what did she think having sex would do?
In general, no, but some people aren’t ready yet by then, which is fine.
I was 16-and-a-half, and I don’t regret a thing.
Yes. I was married when I was 19, and still a virgin. I didn’t realize how unready I would have been, and I’m a pretty ready person. If that makes any sense.
not if the people involved can be responsible about it, but most sixteen year olds are not responsible.
Yep.
here — yes
To be entirely honest, I really think 16 is too young to have sex, but it really depends on the maturity of the people involved. (I think CuteMami said it better lol)
Yes 16 is too young to be having sex. but then again I am 26 and still a virgin so what do I know?
I do know this. if you are not married you should not be having sex at any age.
Um, yeah. It’s too young, and they’re not married and settled and established. It’s a big responsiblity, being a parent. Can a 16 year old really deal with a baby and all the responsibility that comes with it? Just look at her older sister’s parenting skills. Probably not.
Not with me.
In New Jersey!
Contratulations to her.
I was really hoping to sneak away to West Virginia with my 16 year old trailer park bunny and do it legally, but you all took the fun out of it!
YES, 16 is too young…but we are all hypocrites when we consider our own youthfull indescretions. I was 16 myself when I first had sex and I wouldn’t have traded that experience for anything in this world or the next.
Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything…
Now I could say… It’s her own fuckin’ fault… go to my site for the audio version of this news…
Too young mentaly but not physically. Thats a generalisation but true for most and probably because we let kids be kids right into adult life in our society. Even twenty is too young for some.
Dan, looking at that chart I think it’s a bit flawed to say that the “typical teenager” doesn’t use birth control or not correctly. According to that site, less than 10% of teens didn’t use a proper form of birth control, and over 50% of them abstained. And the failure rates for other forms of birth control are still not that high, and don’t tell you anything about how the method was used.
Yes- 16 IS far too young. This isnt the 1800′s and No one’s “daddy” is gonna marry off their daughter to the 28 year old farmer down the road just because they started their period – A period doesnt mean they are ready to have a child. Besides all that, Is no one out there concerned about STD’s??? Just because it doesnt make the headlines everyday anymore does not mean that AIDS doesnt exist anymore. (They still havent found a cure…)
I’m 17 and have sex, at the same time I can’t get pregnant from having sex with my girlfriend.
In this day and age I find girls that get pregnat at 16 and up to be incredibly stupid. I know that using birth control won’t stop pregnancy 100% but combining condoms with spermicide along with birth control certainly is a lot better than not using any contraception at all.
I have a lot more respect for a girl who got pregnant despite using contraception than some stupid girl who didn’t use any contraception.
I think most 16-18 year olds are not financially secure, emotionally stable, etc to have a child.
I know too many girls that have dropped out due to pregnancy and I know too many girls that could have done so much more in their life had they not been irresponsible.
I don’t see anything wrong with teenage sex but it’s the irresponsibility most teenagers have when it comes to sex.
Yes…not only because they are usually emotionally unable to handle the baggage that comes with having sex with someone that you are not committed to, but because the usually can’t handle the consequences of their actions without help from others. There aren’t many single moms out there that are 16 and able to be on their own, unsupported.
Since sex has 2 purposes (pleasure and having babies), if you can’t handle both of those purposes, don’t have sex.
Short answer: no
Long answer: To quote my big brother, “Sex is great, I think every one should have as much as they can get, just make sure you are protected. Did he get an STD test yet? Make sure he does.” A teenager is going to do it anyway so why not make sure we are teaching them about safety precautions. And I know it isn’t a perfect answer, and that most of them are not emotionally ready to handle the heartbreak, but at 26 I still have problems dealing with heartbreak so who am I to judge.
no.
Yeah, I think so. Even when teens that age think they’re ready, many times they regret it down the line. I really wish everyone was fully educated about birth control and made smart decisions. Oh well.
I believe that sex should definitely be saved for marriage (makes it more special that way, among other things). Teenagers having sex is hardly a good idea, but you know, as soon as there’s a baby involved, I’m on the side of the baby. If there’s a sixteen-year-old having a baby, I think whoever’s involved needs to make sure that baby will be taken care of.
Dan, you should make a post about the movie Juno that’s coming out soon. It deals very much with this subject.
As you know, I’m part of the backoffice staff at a reproductive health center for teens. I take back patients everyday who I know are not mature enough to be sexually active. I recently took back a patient who was my age and had been pregnant four times. I really don’t think it is about age at all. There are some who are mature and can handle the responsibility.
Personally, I think it’s too young, but the way the world is now, we shouldn’t be surprised that kids younger than that are having sex. Between music videos,tv, (heck, they use sex to sell everything and anything),so called “celebrities” and their sex tapes and running around flashing, the kids today are bombarded with sex. It’s a little naive to think they’ll abstain. Too bad their not bombarded with birth control and STD facts.
I believe that someone should stay innocent as long as they can. There is really no rush to become an adult. If a girl is sexually active though, she should only do it with people around her age.
yes. that doesn’t mean that there aren’t lots of teens out there doing it, and getting pregnant. Some make good mothers, but many more are not. Even when the mother is loving and devoted she rarely can support herself and her child and still have time to mother. The fathers tend to skip out. Not every one, but many.
No. I mean, it really depends on the person and their level of maturity.
Actually. I honestly don’t think that most of the sixteen-year-olds I know who are having sex are mature enough. Mainly because the people I’ve talked to view contraception as ‘optional’. But there are also plenty of people who are.
People are stupid.
coming from a young person, yes.