It sometimes happens when they don’t ask to be. But I try to get past it as much as I can.
One.
None. Of course, nobody has ever wronged me.
two.
Four.
From what I can remember, I have forgiven everyone. It’s taken time, sure, but I have forgiven everyone.
That doesn’t mean I like them or want to be around them though.
3 or 4
one.
Only one, but I’ll probably change my mind at some point.
Quite a few. I’m rather like the Old Testament God. Smite dem bitches.
none.
ryc: thanks very much, Dan
two.
ewwww…I have to admit that I am having a really difficult time forgiving one who has absolutely no remorse!
I haven’t actively chosen not to forgive, but I am struggling to forgive a few people. It will probably take me a while.
Everything seems to melt away the older I get. So no one, really. There are situations, maybe, or choices that I can’t forgive, but I end up forgiving the person. I hope that made sense.
One… unless we can count ourselves. Two, then. But I’m still young… maybe one day I’ll see it through, but I can’t now.
0
I don’t hold grudges, simply because it takes too much effort on my part.
None – it takes too much energy to hold on to such grudges. I don’t keep them in my life, but I also don’t carry around that baggage…
none, but I still dislike a few people. And if someone I knew was raped or murdered, I don’t know if I could ever really forgive that person (the perp), even if I said I did.
none, its not my place to not forgive according to my beliefs. I have been wronged in the very worst of ways, but I cannot place judgement on him, that is God’s place, not mine.
Three. one being myself.
Just myself.
I believe I have forgiven everyone in my life who has done a real or percieved wrong. In some cases, I have chosen not to associate with them any more though, because I feel my life has gotten better without them.
none….Jesus forgave me so i must forgive others….Be kind and compassionate to one another,forgiving each other,just as in Christ God forgave you,Ephesians 4:32
None that I can think of, but I can think of a few that have not forgiven me for things…mostly because of misunderstandings. There are things I’ve been hurt by, but as far as not forgiving someone for it, never, sure angry for a bit, but not to the point of unforgiveness, how can I not forgive when I’ve been forgiven so much by God. Any of you are welcome to go to my site and read the post I did about HOW MUCH GOD LOVES HIS CREATION. If you chose to voice your disagreement you are free to do it, I just would ask that you do it without cursing. It very easy to communicate what you want to say without using curse words. Cursing is very disrespectful and I don’t do it to other’s site and would expect the same for my site. But if you do, you WILL be forgiven by me, but I will have to delete the comment, I would only hope it wouldn’t come to that. Merry Christmas Dan and the rest of the Theologian commentors,
~Grampy~
One. She cheated on me twice, caused me to lose two of my close friends, faked a pregnancy from the guy she cheated on me with, faked having an abortion, and then faked her suicide when I broke up with her. I walked around for a year with severe depression thinking it was my fault when I found her on MySpace. I called her soonafter to ream her a new one.
I didn’t know they were all fake until then.
Two but already forgave one and eventually forgiving the other. Time does help. I’ve forgiven but I’ll never forget or trust them again.
Only two. But they are unrepentant.
none. but i’m still working on forgiving a few of them.
0
Zero.
One.
not one person. I’m a big forgiver. Forgetter though ( not so much) there is a difference.
0
3 people.
My exhusband My biological father An ex friend
Too many to count. Seriously, it will be my downfall for sure.
One person. And I think I never regretted it.
Merry Christmas.
Only one, but I think I’ll eventually get past it.
One for sure. But I am working on forgetting all this I’m-mad-at-you game.
I haven’t chosen NOT to forgive them… just not ready to yet.
One. I will never forgive them, and I am none the worse for it. I am not a cruel person–they simply do not deserve forgiveness.
none so far, i think.
Many, but it’s temporary. I forgive them once they can empathicaly understand the pain they created for me and I feel they truly are sorry. Everyone has that opportunity in my book, some just have a little further to go than others to prove it to me.
ryc: SecondLife is a game, which is what I meant. Not the CD, I just happened to be listening to that at the moment. Sorry for the confusion.
There is no one that I have choose to never forgive. But there are somethings and people that Im still working on trying to forgive…
none. I avoid talking to the people who hurt me though…and if we still do talk, it’s taking a while for them to gain back my trust.
Five.
My dad, my sister, and some other people.
I guess I don’t know where to start.
1
2
None. What people seem not to understand it that forgiveness offers freedom to the one who grants it, regardless if the offending party asks for it or not. Free yourselves! Forgive today and start enjoying the freedom that comes from that act, including better physical health.
Blessings to all who read this.
I’d love to say none, but I’m not so sure. We all tend to cling onto hurt. When I’m fully present I can truly say none, but when my ego is in control, I can hold a grudge against anyone.
One that I can think of. But I chose not to run him down with my car, when I had the chance. Does that count?
I haven’t actively chosen not to forgive, but I am struggling to forgive a few people. It will probably take me a while.
none. forgiving is something i do easily and i’m not ashamed to say it
None…except maybe myself, but that comes and goes.
Merry Christmas.
Too many!
?
I never kept count
?
None. But I didn’t forget what anyone’s done, either.
A few.
Holding grudges is a pain, and brooding on past wrongs is very corrosive of the self, but is it practical or even desirable to forgive people who, given the chance, would do the same injury again?
Just one. But I would forgive them, if they were truely sorry. I wouldn’t even need an appology.
2. and i couldnt care less.
When I don’t forgive someone, that person and what he did still have power over me. When I forgive, I’m free again.
Most of the time, I’m pretty close to complete freedom, but here and there my unforgiveness pops back up and back into bondage I go again.
I think I’ve forgiven all of them actually- that doesn’t mean I’m happy with them though. & if I haven’t there is probably only one person I haven’t forgiven.. maybe two. & then myself on a few things.
You know, next time my ex tells me to “forgive & forget” I think I’ll tell him “fine, I forgive you, now I’m going to forget you”.
just one…and i don’t think I ever will
Only one major one.
none. how many people have not forgiven me for really petty things, plenty.
only three that I can think of and I partially forgive the one so… no huge thing and I have reason not to forgive. Good reason.
None.
i agree with sarahellie
zero
Counting you, 17. Oh, Jen makes 18.
So far, one. But it’s not a matter of choice. The pain is still there, and I’m trying really hard to forget the past. Eventually, maybe after a year, I’ll be able to give the forgiveness.
Uh… just two people.
OOPS, make that three, I just remembered someone.
there’s one so far, fortunately or unfortunately she’s the one that’s stolen my heart and still hasn’t returned it as yet.
I try to not hold onto unforgiveness because I know the person it ultimately hurts is me. That being said I do hold people accountable and I don’t let people who have repeatedly hurt me back into my life just because they say they’ve changed. I’m glad for them and wish them the best but I will not allow myself to be dragged back in.
one. it’s probably going to be a lifelong process.
1 and it sucks ‘cus we live in the same town & have kids the same age. I’ve been upset at her for 15 years.
Only one that I probably will never forgive, from my school days. He is pure evil. I have let it go as much as possible.
The others come easily, after time. After all, God has forgiven me and thrown all my sins to the bottom of the ocean. Shouldn’t I do the same for others? It frees oneself to forgive, as everyone here seems to realize. It’s not for the other person so much as for yourself. I have one I am working very hard at forgiving right now – I made a commitment to forgive him, and I have to work at it everyday. That doesn’t mean we will ever be part of each others’ life again, but I refuse to let his hurting me control my life any longer. “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” That’s the only way I can look at it.
one but I’m starting to forgive him
Just not yet
I don’t forgive, I simply let the person get on with fixing the problem. Forgiveness is too ‘high and mighty’ kind of thinking for me.
’nuff sad…
NONE
I wont forgive my ex-room mate.
He squandered the greatest gift any man could give another man.
Endless resources to rebuild one’s life.
I hope he is dead. I am doing quite fine.
So one.
Every person who sexually abused me as a child… the two guys who raped me as a teenager… and my egg donor (my bio-mother)… so quite a few unforgiven people are out there.
Two.
And one of them is me.
<33
None, I hope. Holding grudges often hurts no one but the one holding the grudge.
I don’t know, a few. Mostly those with whom I have unresolved issues. Also me.
I have forgiven everyone. But that doesnt’ mean I have to talk to them anymore!! Right?
I keep asking myself that question. Sometimes, I am fine with everyone, but other days – maybe something triggered a reaction - I find myself reverting back. I don’t want to. I want to keep going forward and I try hard to remember that God has forgiven me over and over again. I have to be willing to show the same mercy, love and forgiveness. I want to truly understand “unconditional love”. I’m getting closer. The more I screw up, the more I understand God’s love. That knowledge, in turn, allows me to be more forgiving to others. Continual learning process.
I could say none but it wouldn’t be entirely true. 2, but only halfway.
Nice post,
None at all. I forgive very quickly and very easily. God says to forgive over and over…I can never forgive enough. And, it’s true that forgiveness helps keep anger and bitterness out of my life, and those are things I definately don’t welcome into my world.
none
Too few.
Two. I forgive and forgive until they started taking advantage of it and purposefully tried to rip my life apart.
None
Two.
None… Sometimes it takes a while, but in the end, I always wind up forgiving.
Quite a few people, mainly one or two work ex- colleagues who have screwed me in one way or another.
Zero.
none. it takes too much energy to hold grudges
a lot
As I am the Messiah, I have chosen to not forgive the Antichrist alone. He/she has not asked for forgiveness with a contrite heart towards stopping from carnal sinning, and has continued to try to destroy my life, and ridiculed my religion and me, with his/her pleasure and humor. He/she will be asleep in the sand, and have the second chance to gain acceptance into the Kingdom of Heaven, as we may all have, to be born again, as a small child, working out one another’s carma, given the chance to be brought up a little differently in the same family, in a different order of characters. This is happening as we go into this millenium. Here is another fact. We may look now, for the resurrection of the dead, fulfilling of the promise that Jesus gave hope to the dying, that of the attaining of eternal life. We must work to help Him save each other’s lives, and avoid death. Yes, every knee shall bow, even those who have never heard the word of God, and those who have another religion. They will be given the promise that he gave in his son, Jesus Christ…true faith, and salvation by the forgiveness of sins. These are my ideas. An advertisement, here: I have found the true church. I am Mormon.
hmn… about three currently. I usually forgive people eventually though, so I’d imagine it’ll go back down to zero.
None that I can think of. I have this horrible thing called a conscience.I despise it. I can be a total prick to someone and then not be like “Ya know, I ‘m sorry.”
Only one. But she did something that’s unforgivable….
And she doesn’t regret her actions in the slightest.
Yikes I’d say one right now because she screwed my family for no good reason other than money and greed.
it’s hard to forgive ANYBODY…especially yourself.
But the type of person I am will push through a struggle…search out every way to forgive.
Even if it means talking to a person that ruined a large portion of my life.
Even if it means inviting someone into my home that caused a lot of pain in my home.
That’s the past….forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean reconciliation of friendship, or even communication, or even trusting again. It just means letting go and letting God deal with it.
And it’s one of the most relieving feelings ever.
Only a couple but I had forgot about them till you brought it back up. Thanks !
Comments (112)
basically, none.
I have no reason not to forgive someone.
several =)
It sometimes happens when they don’t ask to be. But I try to get past it as much as I can.
One.
None. Of course, nobody has ever wronged me.
two.
Four.
From what I can remember, I have forgiven everyone. It’s taken time, sure, but I have forgiven everyone.
That doesn’t mean I like them or want to be around them though.
3 or 4
one.
Only one, but I’ll probably change my mind at some point.
Quite a few. I’m rather like the Old Testament God. Smite dem bitches.
none.
ryc: thanks very much, Dan
two.
ewwww…I have to admit that I am having a really difficult time forgiving one who has absolutely no remorse!
I haven’t actively chosen not to forgive, but I am struggling to forgive a few people. It will probably take me a while.
Everything seems to melt away the older I get. So no one, really. There are situations, maybe, or choices that I can’t forgive, but I end up forgiving the person. I hope that made sense.
One… unless we can count ourselves. Two, then. But I’m still young… maybe one day I’ll see it through, but I can’t now.
0
I don’t hold grudges, simply because it takes too much effort on my part.
None – it takes too much energy to hold on to such grudges. I don’t keep them in my life, but I also don’t carry around that baggage…
none, but I still dislike a few people. And if someone I knew was raped or murdered, I don’t know if I could ever really forgive that person (the perp), even if I said I did.
none, its not my place to not forgive according to my beliefs. I have been wronged in the very worst of ways, but I cannot place judgement on him, that is God’s place, not mine.
Three.
one being myself.
Just myself.
I believe I have forgiven everyone in my life who has done a real or percieved wrong. In some cases, I have chosen not to associate with them any more though, because I feel my life has gotten better without them.
none….Jesus forgave me so i must forgive others….Be kind and compassionate to one another,forgiving each other,just as in Christ God forgave you,Ephesians 4:32
None that I can think of, but I can think of a few that have not forgiven me for things…mostly because of misunderstandings. There are things I’ve been hurt by, but as far as not forgiving someone for it, never, sure angry for a bit, but not to the point of unforgiveness, how can I not forgive when I’ve been forgiven so much by God. Any of you are welcome to go to my site and read the post I did about HOW MUCH GOD LOVES HIS CREATION. If you chose to voice your disagreement you are free to do it, I just would ask that you do it without cursing. It very easy to communicate what you want to say without using curse words. Cursing is very disrespectful and I don’t do it to other’s site and would expect the same for my site. But if you do, you WILL be forgiven by me, but I will have to delete the comment, I would only hope it wouldn’t come to that. Merry Christmas Dan and the rest of the Theologian commentors,
~Grampy~
One.
She cheated on me twice, caused me to lose two of my close friends, faked a pregnancy from the guy she cheated on me with, faked having an abortion, and then faked her suicide when I broke up with her. I walked around for a year with severe depression thinking it was my fault when I found her on MySpace. I called her soonafter to ream her a new one.
I didn’t know they were all fake until then.
Two but already forgave one and eventually forgiving the other. Time does help. I’ve forgiven but I’ll never forget or trust them again.
Only two. But they are unrepentant.
none. but i’m still working on forgiving a few of them.
0
Zero.
One.
not one person. I’m a big forgiver. Forgetter though ( not so much) there is a difference.
0
3 people.
My exhusband
My biological father
An ex friend
Too many to count. Seriously, it will be my downfall for sure.
One person. And I think I never regretted it.
Merry Christmas.
Only one, but I think I’ll eventually get past it.
One for sure. But I am working on forgetting all this I’m-mad-at-you game.
I haven’t chosen NOT to forgive them… just not ready to yet.
One. I will never forgive them, and I am none the worse for it. I am not a cruel person–they simply do not deserve forgiveness.
none so far, i think.
Many, but it’s temporary. I forgive them once they can empathicaly understand the pain they created for me and I feel they truly are sorry. Everyone has that opportunity in my book, some just have a little further to go than others to prove it to me.
ryc: SecondLife is a game, which is what I meant. Not the CD, I just happened to be listening to that at the moment. Sorry for the confusion.
There is no one that I have choose to never forgive. But there are somethings and people that Im still working on trying to forgive…
none. I avoid talking to the people who hurt me though…and if we still do talk, it’s taking a while for them to gain back my trust.
Five.
My dad, my sister, and some other people.
I guess I don’t know where to start.
1
2
None. What people seem not to understand it that forgiveness offers freedom to the one who grants it, regardless if the offending party asks for it or not. Free yourselves! Forgive today and start enjoying the freedom that comes from that act, including better physical health.
Blessings to all who read this.
I’d love to say none, but I’m not so sure. We all tend to cling onto hurt. When I’m fully present I can truly say none, but when my ego is in control, I can hold a grudge against anyone.
One that I can think of. But I chose not to run him down with my car, when I had the chance. Does that count?
I haven’t actively chosen not to forgive, but I am struggling to forgive a few people. It will probably take me a while.
<li class=”itemtimestamp”>12/23/2007 1:36 PM
<li class=”itemsubmitter”>saintvi (message)
I am in total agreement here.
none. forgiving is something i do easily and i’m not ashamed to say it
None…except maybe myself, but that comes and goes.
Merry Christmas.
Too many!
?
I never kept count
?
None.
But I didn’t forget what anyone’s done, either.
A few.
Holding grudges is a pain, and brooding on past wrongs is very corrosive of the self, but is it practical or even desirable to forgive people who, given the chance, would do the same injury again?
Just one. But I would forgive them, if they were truely sorry. I wouldn’t even need an appology.
2. and i couldnt care less.
When I don’t forgive someone, that person and what he did still have power over me. When I forgive, I’m free again.
Most of the time, I’m pretty close to complete freedom, but here and there my unforgiveness pops back up and back into bondage I go again.
I think I’ve forgiven all of them actually- that doesn’t mean I’m happy with them though.
& if I haven’t there is probably only one person I haven’t forgiven.. maybe two.
& then myself on a few things.
You know, next time my ex tells me to “forgive & forget” I think I’ll tell him “fine, I forgive you, now I’m going to forget you”.
just one…and i don’t think I ever will
Only one major one.
none. how many people have not forgiven me for really petty things, plenty.
only three that I can think of and I partially forgive the one so… no huge thing and I have reason not to forgive. Good reason.
None.
i agree with sarahellie
zero
Counting you, 17. Oh, Jen makes 18.
So far, one. But it’s not a matter of choice. The pain is still there, and I’m trying really hard to forget the past. Eventually, maybe after a year, I’ll be able to give the forgiveness.
Uh… just two people.
OOPS, make that three, I just remembered someone.
there’s one so far, fortunately or unfortunately she’s the one that’s stolen my heart and still hasn’t returned it as yet.
I try to not hold onto unforgiveness because I know the person it ultimately hurts is me. That being said I do hold people accountable and I don’t let people who have repeatedly hurt me back into my life just because they say they’ve changed. I’m glad for them and wish them the best but I will not allow myself to be dragged back in.
one. it’s probably going to be a lifelong process.
1 and it sucks ‘cus we live in the same town & have kids the same age. I’ve been upset at her for 15 years.
Only one that I probably will never forgive, from my school days. He is pure evil. I have let it go as much as possible.
The others come easily, after time. After all, God has forgiven me and thrown all my sins to the bottom of the ocean. Shouldn’t I do the same for others? It frees oneself to forgive, as everyone here seems to realize. It’s not for the other person so much as for yourself. I have one I am working very hard at forgiving right now – I made a commitment to forgive him, and I have to work at it everyday. That doesn’t mean we will ever be part of each others’ life again, but I refuse to let his hurting me control my life any longer. “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” That’s the only way I can look at it.
one but I’m starting to forgive him
Just not yet
I don’t forgive, I simply let the person get on with fixing the problem. Forgiveness is too ‘high and mighty’ kind of thinking for me.
’nuff sad…
NONE
I wont forgive my ex-room mate.
He squandered the greatest gift any man could give another man.
Endless resources to rebuild one’s life.
I hope he is dead. I am doing quite fine.
So one.
Every person who sexually abused me as a child… the two guys who raped me as a teenager… and my egg donor (my bio-mother)… so quite a few unforgiven people are out there.
Two.
And one of them is me.
<33
None, I hope. Holding grudges often hurts no one but the one holding the grudge.
I don’t know, a few. Mostly those with whom I have unresolved issues. Also me.
I have forgiven everyone. But that doesnt’ mean I have to talk to them anymore!! Right?
I keep asking myself that question. Sometimes, I am fine with everyone, but other days – maybe something triggered a reaction - I find myself reverting back. I don’t want to. I want to keep going forward and I try hard to remember that God has forgiven me over and over again. I have to be willing to show the same mercy, love and forgiveness. I want to truly understand “unconditional love”. I’m getting closer. The more I screw up, the more I understand God’s love. That knowledge, in turn, allows me to be more forgiving to others. Continual learning process.
I could say none but it wouldn’t be entirely true. 2, but only halfway.
Nice post,
None at all. I forgive very quickly and very easily. God says to forgive over and over…I can never forgive enough. And, it’s true that forgiveness helps keep anger and bitterness out of my life, and those are things I definately don’t welcome into my world.
none
Too few.
Two. I forgive and forgive until they started taking advantage of it and purposefully tried to rip my life apart.
None
Two.
None… Sometimes it takes a while, but in the end, I always wind up forgiving.
Quite a few people, mainly one or two work ex- colleagues who have screwed me in one way or another.
Zero.
none. it takes too much energy to hold grudges
a lot
As I am the Messiah, I have chosen to not forgive the Antichrist alone. He/she has not asked for forgiveness with a contrite heart towards stopping from carnal sinning, and has continued to try to destroy my life, and ridiculed my religion and me, with his/her pleasure and humor. He/she will be asleep in the sand, and have the second chance to gain acceptance into the Kingdom of Heaven, as we may all have, to be born again, as a small child, working out one another’s carma, given the chance to be brought up a little differently in the same family, in a different order of characters. This is happening as we go into this millenium. Here is another fact. We may look now, for the resurrection of the dead, fulfilling of the promise that Jesus gave hope to the dying, that of the attaining of eternal life. We must work to help Him save each other’s lives, and avoid death. Yes, every knee shall bow, even those who have never heard the word of God, and those who have another religion. They will be given the promise that he gave in his son, Jesus Christ…true faith, and salvation by the forgiveness of sins. These are my ideas. An advertisement, here: I have found the true church. I am Mormon.
hmn… about three currently. I usually forgive people eventually though, so I’d imagine it’ll go back down to zero.
None that I can think of. I have this horrible thing called a conscience. I despise it. I can be a total prick to someone and then not be like “Ya know, I ‘m sorry.”
Only one. But she did something that’s unforgivable….
And she doesn’t regret her actions in the slightest.
Yikes I’d say one right now because she screwed my family for no good reason other than money and greed.
it’s hard to forgive ANYBODY…especially yourself.
But the type of person I am will push through a struggle…search out every way to forgive.
Even if it means talking to a person that ruined a large portion of my life.
Even if it means inviting someone into my home that caused a lot of pain in my home.
That’s the past….forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean reconciliation of friendship, or even communication, or even trusting again. It just means letting go and letting God deal with it.
And it’s one of the most relieving feelings ever.
Only a couple but I had forgot about them till you brought it back up. Thanks !