No. Privacy is still privacy despite the bonds of holy matrimony. If I have an email subscription to a naughty site, my spouse shouldn’t have to know about it. Haha just kidding. But not about the privacy thing.
They aren’t entitled to it, that’s for sure. But if you have nothing to hide and you both trust each other, I don’t see where the problem lies. But no, they don’t HAVE to have it.
she does! totally ok- we have nothing to hide..
no
Absolutely not! Privacy, thank you.
My ex has my pass word. I have nothing to hide. i get mostly jokes and spam and an occational e mail from family
i wouldn’t care if she/he did.
If you have nothing to hide from your spouse, them having the password should not be a problem.
Sure! I have his, too. I never read his, and he never reads mine, but we have no secrets. Life’s a lot easier when you trust, you are trustworthy, and you have nothing to hide
I don’t see why they shouldn’t, I know I wouldn’t have a problem with it.
If they give it to you and they’re fine with you loking at their emails or if you share an address it’s fine but if you demand it from them and they don’t want to give it that’s their right. everyone deserves some privacy.
No, it’s easier to start with an expectation of privacy than establish it later. This after my father read and started having problems with things my mother wrote to her sisters on the family’s account. She made a separate account and he threw a fit. You’ve got to be able to express yourself freely even if it’s stuff your spouse might object to.
you tell her no dan..no
i do and he does, but we forget each others all the time.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either them knowing or not knowing. They can still sneak around on you and not have anything said through emails, because there’s IM services, and other ways of communicating.
That said, I don’t think them not giving you their email password is any reason to not trust them.
No.
no…
we have kids together, so yeah, we definitely have and share email accounts, too. as far as work goes, nah. how boring.
heck no.
No!!
No, he doesn’t. Not this one. But then again, it’s just a privacy issue. I don’t have anything :::like that::: to hide from him.
I would have nothing of mine to hide, but I deal with privileged information from others… So, no problem with the general account. Can’t share with the work/research/campaign accounts.
I don’t think there is any reason for you to not want them to have it because you SHOULD have nothing to hide or be private about with regards to your spouse, but you should also trust them enough to not NEED their password. I know my husband’s, but only use it to clean out his junk when he is gone for long periods of time.
Sure, Sean and I have each others.
Don’t have a password on mine,don’t need one, nothing to hide!
They should know me well enough to know they didn’t need it.
Besides, I am a huge fan of my privacy… even if it’s completely innocuous.
My husband once used my personal Hotmail account when his own work email was down and he had to email some data to an outside group. I gave him my password and didn’t give him any specific warnings to stay out of my inbox (or whatever). After that day, I changed my password, and he’s never said anything, which makes me think that he’s never logged on again. He and I respect each other too much to invade each other’s privacy. I imagine that not all relationships work like ours, though. [But he's the kind of guy who can be trusted to carry his own Christmas presents out to the car withoug peeking, so....]
no. there is nothing to hide but one’s privacy should still be respected.
Kind of depends on whether or not she wants it. Of course if she wants it then she probably doesn’t trust you and that is a bad sign for the relationship.
Absolutely! I have nothing to hide and he is always welcome to make sure of that at any time.
I’d hope that if you’re married you wouldn’t feel the need to keep your email passwords a secret from each other.
yes. if there is something you don’t want her to see (like a gift), just tell her to not look for a certain amount of time. if there’s completely open trust between you, she’ll respect your request.
A big fat no. He should trust me, and I should be able to trust him, too.
I know the correct response is “YES!”, but I am, and always will be, a private person – I say “NO!” Same goes for opening any mail, looking through my refrigerator, medicine cabinet, you name it…
If you want to know something about me, ask me, don’t go snooping around.
Sure, I got nothing to hide.
The problem, my sister and her hubby share passwords, but my brother in-law will read the email that I send to my sister and answer it! There been time that I don’t who I was talking to!
Why not? I have nothing to hide.
I don’t know about should, but mine does and it doesn’t bother me. It’s probably not a good idea for some couples, though.
Let her get her own email
Why not? If you have nothing to hide and trust each other, then what’s the problem with knowing each other’s passwords?
I don’t there is a problem with them having it, but they don’t HAVE to have it. It doesn’t matter to me.
Sure, there is a trust between husband and wife..
If they want it they should atleast be able to see your email.I think it is not good to hide things from your spouse.
No, unless one spouse just..doesnt care. Then sure. Haha.
sure, why not?
I think neither of us have out email set up with passwords…..
Umm no. Nothing to hide.. but hello SOME privacy is nice. I mean he walks in on me in the bathroom..
Why not? If there is honesty and trust between the two, there should be no need for that pretense called privacy…that is…unless you have something to hide.
hmmm yes. i see the argument for privacy,butif you have nothing to hide than what are you afraid of?
Wouldn’t give it to her, despite the fact that I have nothing to hide; it’s just a principle thing
No. You still have your privacy about certain things, and hopefully trust enough between you to share the other stuff. Besides, as a lawyer I might get sensitive information in my e-mail. NO ES BUENO!
My husband and I do. My husband does not check his email as regularly as I do, so I go in periodically and clean out his inbox, etc. He likes it. If a couple trusts eachother/has nothing to hide, it should not be a problem; however, some people like to have a private place to go, and I understand that as well.
We share an account.
No.. if you have trust you have no reason to need passwords. only starts fights.. over things that may not even mean anything.. besides.. it wouldnt be smart for someone to cheat over the internet anyway…
No way
Yes
No
Depends. He has access to my school e-mail, because I don’t use that pw for anything.
However, my gmail pw is also the pw for some of my other stuff, which I’m not sure I want him to have access to.
He’s not my spouse, though. If we were more serious (lifelong commitment), I would give him all my pws when (if) he asked for them.
Only if your relationship is that kind of relationship. Hopefully you’d trust each other enough to not check each other’s email without permission.
No. What would they need it for?
I don’t know about “should.” Hubby and I happen to know each other’s b/c we use the same few passwords for just about everything, and on occasion he’s asked me to check something on his email when he can’t look at it at the moment and vice versa. I actually keep my email acct logged in always on our home computer so it all comes up when you go to gmail. I don’t think this is necessary by any means, but neither of us has anything to hide and it’s not like we ever go snooping in each other’s emails.
my husband has mine, and i have his. he asks me to check his, i ask him to check mine. what is to hide?? besides, if you trust your partner, they are not going to go snooping through conversations with your friends, coworkers, family and spam anyways. but if you have weird looking messages from random guys / girls that seem fishy and you’re all flirting with them and talking about secretly meeting up, then maybe you do have something to hide and don’t need to be in a committed relationship huh? like i’ve said before… my husband and i are very open. we have passwords to each others everythings. that’s just how we are. if he digs through my purse looking for a pen i don’t worry cause i have nothing to hide. if i dig through his wallet looking for a card or money, he doesn’t have to worry about me finding anything because nothing is there. simple as that.
Nope.
why not? I wouldn’t have anything to hide from my wife or g/f (if I had one now). I wouldn’t care. All private conversations I have with people are done one on one or on the phone.
No
You would not give a random person in the street your password to your email account or bank details
However I have no really to hide on my emails, once I have turned of the email updates from my blog than everything is okay
He already knows it and I have no secrets and nothing to hide.
he has mine. I have his. We have nothing to hide
No way, I need my privacy, and am not hiding anything!
sure..why not, if you share everything else,why not that? If you don’t trust them you shouldn’t be with them
hellllll no
only if you have email sent there as a couple… ie: hey mr. and mrs…..
A marriage is suppose to be a matter of trust. If a couple trust each other, they could share passwords if they want to. I had a ”Crush BF”( a little more than a friend, a little less than a true BF) who once shared many of my passwords( my daughter knows alot of them too) . The only thing wrong with sharing passwords, is changing them when you get mad with someone, to keep them from imping you or asking you about your life after the relationship is ”over” .
No, there’s no need to share absolutely everything in a relationship.
It doesn’t matter.
yes. if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to fear. trust & honesty are essential to a healthy relationship.
You should trust them enough to NOT need their password.
no.
Everyone should be entitled to some privacy, but should know where to find each others’ passwords in case they need access due to a family emergency or something. There should, ideally, be enough trust that they shouldn’t haev to worry about what’s in their email.
YES! We have the same email account…..why would we need seperate ones unless there was something we didn’t want each other to know?
Doesn’t really matter either way. My ex still knows all my passwords, as does my best friend. I’d trust them with a key to my apartment, to borrow my car, take care of my cats… email seems trivial in comparison.
most definitely not. everyone need privacy, even between the most intimate partners
Yes!
Yes, we just use the same account.
mine does. it’s not like he checks it every day or anything. i know his too.
Neither spouce should hide any type of accounts email, screennames, checking saving accounts. Because if you do you don’t have a TRUE marriage. I know/knew my wifes’ now EX account, I didn’t then or now get into her accounts, but she got into mine and stilll does. So I have made me a knew account with the ones I don’t want her to have contact with. One being her own daughter, who lives with her dad in another state. Yes, she talks by phone an I’m sure by emails. But if our daughter doen’t want her mom to know what we talk about she won’t know. But I know she knows her password to. So I’m REAL CAREFUL about what I say. Although If she wants to take me to court for bashing her, all I have to do is get Church members that saw her acting like teens, her mom and sister that saw her acting like a teen. But the sad thing is she lost her family for doing things. And the real sad thing HE”S OLD ENOUGH TO BE HER GRANDFATHER!!.
But you know what?? LIFE GOES ON
Of course yoru spouse should have your e-mail password. I say this because you should have nothing to hide, and it is all about trust. If your affraid to let your spouse see what you talk about to others, then aparently you have something to hide.
of course. why not? I have nothing to hide
No, having your OWN Xanga account means it’s yours personal account. They can get their own. Maybe, they can subscribe to each other but, sharing is way too much. Where is the privacy.
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No
NO!!! at least some privacy must be retained.
No. Privacy is still privacy despite the bonds of holy matrimony. If I have an email subscription to a naughty site, my spouse shouldn’t have to know about it.
Haha just kidding.
But not about the privacy thing.
They aren’t entitled to it, that’s for sure. But if you have nothing to hide and you both trust each other, I don’t see where the problem lies. But no, they don’t HAVE to have it.
she does! totally ok- we have nothing to hide..
no
Absolutely not! Privacy, thank you.
My ex has my pass word. I have nothing to hide. i get mostly jokes and spam and an occational e mail from family
i wouldn’t care if she/he did.
If you have nothing to hide from your spouse, them having the password should not be a problem.
Sure! I have his, too. I never read his, and he never reads mine, but we have no secrets. Life’s a lot easier when you trust, you are trustworthy, and you have nothing to hide
I don’t see why they shouldn’t, I know I wouldn’t have a problem with it.
If they give it to you and they’re fine with you loking at their emails or if you share an address it’s fine but if you demand it from them and they don’t want to give it that’s their right. everyone deserves some privacy.
No, it’s easier to start with an expectation of privacy than establish it later. This after my father read and started having problems with things my mother wrote to her sisters on the family’s account. She made a separate account and he threw a fit. You’ve got to be able to express yourself freely even if it’s stuff your spouse might object to.
you tell her no dan..no
i do and he does, but we forget each others all the time.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either them knowing or not knowing. They can still sneak around on you and not have anything said through emails, because there’s IM services, and other ways of communicating.
That said, I don’t think them not giving you their email password is any reason to not trust them.
No.
no…
we have kids together, so yeah, we definitely have and share email accounts, too. as far as work goes, nah. how boring.
heck no.
No!!
No, he doesn’t. Not this one. But then again, it’s just a privacy issue. I don’t have anything :::like that::: to hide from him.
I would have nothing of mine to hide, but I deal with privileged information from others… So, no problem with the general account. Can’t share with the work/research/campaign accounts.
I don’t think there is any reason for you to not want them to have it because you SHOULD have nothing to hide or be private about with regards to your spouse, but you should also trust them enough to not NEED their password. I know my husband’s, but only use it to clean out his junk when he is gone for long periods of time.
Sure, Sean and I have each others.
Don’t have a password on mine,don’t need one, nothing to hide!
They should know me well enough to know they didn’t need it.
Besides, I am a huge fan of my privacy… even if it’s completely innocuous.
My husband once used my personal Hotmail account when his own work email was down and he had to email some data to an outside group. I gave him my password and didn’t give him any specific warnings to stay out of my inbox (or whatever). After that day, I changed my password, and he’s never said anything, which makes me think that he’s never logged on again. He and I respect each other too much to invade each other’s privacy. I imagine that not all relationships work like ours, though. [But he's the kind of guy who can be trusted to carry his own Christmas presents out to the car withoug peeking, so....]
no. there is nothing to hide but one’s privacy should still be respected.
Kind of depends on whether or not she wants it. Of course if she wants it then she probably doesn’t trust you and that is a bad sign for the relationship.
Absolutely! I have nothing to hide and he is always welcome to make sure of that at any time.
I’d hope that if you’re married you wouldn’t feel the need to keep your email passwords a secret from each other.
yes. if there is something you don’t want her to see (like a gift), just tell her to not look for a certain amount of time. if there’s completely open trust between you, she’ll respect your request.
A big fat no. He should trust me, and I should be able to trust him, too.
I know the correct response is “YES!”, but I am, and always will be, a private person – I say “NO!” Same goes for opening any mail, looking through my refrigerator, medicine cabinet, you name it…
If you want to know something about me, ask me, don’t go snooping around.
Sure, I got nothing to hide.
The problem, my sister and her hubby share passwords, but my brother in-law will read the email that I send to my sister and answer it! There been time that I don’t who I was talking to!
Why not? I have nothing to hide.
I don’t know about should, but mine does and it doesn’t bother me. It’s probably not a good idea for some couples, though.
Let her get her own email
Why not? If you have nothing to hide and trust each other, then what’s the problem with knowing each other’s passwords?
I don’t there is a problem with them having it, but they don’t HAVE to have it. It doesn’t matter to me.
Sure, there is a trust between husband and wife..
If they want it they should atleast be able to see your email.I think it is not good to hide things from your spouse.
No, unless one spouse just..doesnt care. Then sure. Haha.
sure, why not?
I think neither of us have out email set up with passwords…..
Umm no. Nothing to hide.. but hello SOME privacy is nice. I mean he walks in on me in the bathroom..
Why not? If there is honesty and trust between the two, there should be no need for that pretense called privacy…that is…unless you have something to hide.
hmmm yes. i see the argument for privacy,butif you have nothing to hide than what are you afraid of?
Wouldn’t give it to her, despite the fact that I have nothing to hide; it’s just a principle thing
No.
You still have your privacy about certain things, and hopefully trust enough between you to share the other stuff.
Besides, as a lawyer I might get sensitive information in my e-mail. NO ES BUENO!
My husband and I do. My husband does not check his email as regularly as I do, so I go in periodically and clean out his inbox, etc. He likes it. If a couple trusts eachother/has nothing to hide, it should not be a problem; however, some people like to have a private place to go, and I understand that as well.
We share an account.
No.. if you have trust you have no reason to need passwords.
only starts fights.. over things that may not even mean anything.. besides.. it wouldnt be smart for someone to cheat over the internet anyway…
No way
Yes
No
Depends. He has access to my school e-mail, because I don’t use that pw for anything.
However, my gmail pw is also the pw for some of my other stuff, which I’m not sure I want him to have access to.
He’s not my spouse, though. If we were more serious (lifelong commitment), I would give him all my pws when (if) he asked for them.
Only if your relationship is that kind of relationship. Hopefully you’d trust each other enough to not check each other’s email without permission.
No. What would they need it for?
I don’t know about “should.” Hubby and I happen to know each other’s b/c we use the same few passwords for just about everything, and on occasion he’s asked me to check something on his email when he can’t look at it at the moment and vice versa. I actually keep my email acct logged in always on our home computer so it all comes up when you go to gmail. I don’t think this is necessary by any means, but neither of us has anything to hide and it’s not like we ever go snooping in each other’s emails.
my husband has mine, and i have his. he asks me to check his, i ask him to check mine. what is to hide?? besides, if you trust your partner, they are not going to go snooping through conversations with your friends, coworkers, family and spam anyways. but if you have weird looking messages from random guys / girls that seem fishy and you’re all flirting with them and talking about secretly meeting up, then maybe you do have something to hide and don’t need to be in a committed relationship huh?
like i’ve said before… my husband and i are very open. we have passwords to each others everythings. that’s just how we are. if he digs through my purse looking for a pen i don’t worry cause i have nothing to hide. if i dig through his wallet looking for a card or money, he doesn’t have to worry about me finding anything because nothing is there. simple as that.
Nope.
why not? I wouldn’t have anything to hide from my wife or g/f (if I had one now). I wouldn’t care. All private conversations I have with people are done one on one or on the phone.
No
You would not give a random person in the street your password to your email account or bank details
However I have no really to hide on my emails, once I have turned of the email updates from my blog than everything is okay
He already knows it and I have no secrets and nothing to hide.
he has mine. I have his. We have nothing to hide
No way, I need my privacy, and am not hiding anything!
sure..why not, if you share everything else,why not that? If you don’t trust them you shouldn’t be with them
hellllll no
only if you have email sent there as a couple… ie: hey mr. and mrs…..
A marriage is suppose to be a matter of trust. If a couple trust each other, they could share passwords if they want to. I had a ”Crush BF”( a little more than a friend, a little less than a true BF) who once shared many of my passwords( my daughter knows alot of them too) . The only thing wrong with sharing passwords, is changing them when you get mad with someone, to keep them from imping you or asking you about your life after the relationship is ”over” .
No, there’s no need to share absolutely everything in a relationship.
It doesn’t matter.
yes. if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to fear. trust & honesty are essential to a healthy relationship.
You should trust them enough to NOT need their password.
no.
Everyone should be entitled to some privacy, but should know where to find each others’ passwords in case they need access due to a family emergency or something. There should, ideally, be enough trust that they shouldn’t haev to worry about what’s in their email.
YES! We have the same email account…..why would we need seperate ones unless there was something we didn’t want each other to know?
Doesn’t really matter either way. My ex still knows all my passwords, as does my best friend. I’d trust them with a key to my apartment, to borrow my car, take care of my cats… email seems trivial in comparison.
most definitely not. everyone need privacy, even between the most intimate partners
Yes!
Yes, we just use the same account.
mine does. it’s not like he checks it every day or anything. i know his too.
Neither spouce should hide any type of accounts email, screennames, checking saving accounts. Because if you do you don’t have a TRUE marriage. I know/knew my wifes’ now EX account, I didn’t then or now get into her accounts, but she got into mine and stilll does. So I have made me a knew account with the ones I don’t want her to have contact with. One being her own daughter, who lives with her dad in another state. Yes, she talks by phone an I’m sure by emails. But if our daughter doen’t want her mom to know what we talk about she won’t know. But I know she knows her password to. So I’m REAL CAREFUL about what I say. Although If she wants to take me to court for bashing her, all I have to do is get Church members that saw her acting like teens, her mom and sister that saw her acting like a teen. But the sad thing is she lost her family for doing things. And the real sad thing HE”S OLD ENOUGH TO BE HER GRANDFATHER!!.
But you know what?? LIFE GOES ON
Of course yoru spouse should have your e-mail password. I say this because you should have nothing to hide, and it is all about trust. If your affraid to let your spouse see what you talk about to others, then aparently you have something to hide.
of course. why not? I have nothing to hide
No, having your OWN Xanga account means it’s yours personal account. They can get their own. Maybe, they can subscribe to each other but, sharing is way too much. Where is the privacy.