January 27, 2008
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Dating
Do you tend to date people more attractive than you, less attractive than you or equal in attractiveness to you?
Do you tend to date people more attractive than you, less attractive than you or equal in attractiveness to you?
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I wouldn’t know. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Hot shit! First!
I don’t date, they date me, nigga.
i haven’t dated yet
i don’t know. i don’t know how attractive i am.
It varies I guess.
Some people I’ve dated I considered average looking and some have been moderately attractive. I don’t pay so much attention to it.
I don’t really know…I would say my husband and I are pretty equal. We both have a bit of weight to lose, have some wrinkles showing up, and some grey hair peeking already. Oh well.
I think I dated people equal or less attractive than me. Gosh, that sounds arrogant. But seriously, I would be incredibly insecure in a relationship with someone who I knew was obviously a lot better looking than me.
When i was dating i tended to date guys who where nice….looks didn’t count that much.
A little bit of everything…6′-6″ to 4′-0″. The last girl was very attractive and 6′-0″.
probably equal… I mean, I usually think they are more attractive, and vice versa, so overall, I guess it’s just each persons oppinion
the ones ive dated so far are pretty unattractive…
I don’t know, my love interest is the most beautiful girl in the world.
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I’ve only really dated one person but I tend to go for people I am very attracted to, whether or not others would find the more or less attractive than me doesn’t usually occur to me. But I have noticed (with some exceptions) that I tend to be attracted to rather accessible men and not so much to prettyboys.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but…
…generally about equal, I would guess.
Equal, probably.
I don’t tend to date.
Equally…though the few times I dipped down a notch, I was treated like a queen.
Wow, I really am shallow.
equally.
I say she’s much better than me, and she doesn’t believe me. She’s really just modest
It’s impossible to date someone more attractive than myself. They just don’t exist. :p
I date people I think are attractive. However, I subconsciously go for guys that are skinny (something I never noticed until multiple people pointed it out to me) and a lot of my friends kind of poke fun at me for it because they all prefer really muscular men, so to them, the people I date aren’t all that attractive. So it really depends on what you think is attractive.
i tend to not date at all haha
I think I have tended to date people who are basically the same as I am. Just “normal” everyday people.
more attractive than me
I date only my wife and she is more beautiful than I.
equal? I’m not sure. For a long time, i thought my boyfriend was less attractive to me… though that was before the “in love” moment… And now I see we’re equal… if not him–more.
I know a lot of people who date more atractive to make themselves feel “more attractive”… though that never works.
I’d say probably equal. I focus more on the person than on their looks.
I’d say my wife is the most beautiful person in the world. So, more attractive for me.
Equal…but I weigh in personality too, and, personality wise, my boyfriend is way more attractive to others. It’s just a fact.
it’s not possible for anyone to
be more attractive than myself.
AH AH HAW keeeeeding.
Been happily married for 27 1/2 years. But I have to say, how do you KNOW if the person is MORE attractive or less attractive than you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Not really a legitimat question!
less attractive; i find them to be more interesting
less attractive. not saying that out of cockiness but people like to let me know
hot people are usually stupid and have a worse personality at least when it comes to men : X
i find people who aren’t perfect to be a lot more intriguing.
well people tend to associate people who they find to be more or less on an equal level of intelligence, humor, and attractiveness.
If you see a person hanging out with a bunch of people significantly less attractive or intelligent it reflects a low self-esteem. However if you see one person among a bunch of more attractive/intelligent people (although these people often won’t give them the time of day. so it’s more like trying to hang out with them) it implies an inflated self-perception. Either that or some other factor that would make them equal among the group (i.e. lots of money, famous relative, incredibly funny, etc.)
I think I date guys with the same level of attractiveness as I have. I would probably be very nervous and self-conscious if I dated someone that I found more attractive than I.
When I first dated, people were “so happy for [me], [because] he’s so cute,” but I didn’t know that until afterwards. haha. So I guess more attractive than me.
Usually less, since I tend to like really nerdy guys. xP Oh well.
I would say equally.
I really don’t know. Honestly. I don’t know how attractive/unattractive I am to begin with, nor does my thinking a guy is attractive/unattractive mean that the general population agrees with me. I’d go with equal.
I only ever dated once, and she was much more attractive than I was. Next I courted for several months (but did not date) a woman who was so very beautiful; I still get a little teary-eyed thinking of her. But it never worked out, despite our love for one another.
Now I am “dating” (though it isn’t quite the word I would generally use) the Most Beautiful, and I am quite humbled that this Person would want anything to do with my heart!
I’d say about the same, when it comes to actual serious relationships. I think I’d care more that he was about the same level of intelligence. If I like someone enough to actually date him, I’ll think he’s attractive no matter what he looks like.
I don’t know about the attractiveness level.. but I won’t date anyone skinnier than me. It would just make me look that much more fat. Wait.. I wouldn’t date.. I don’t date because I am married.
Pretty equal I think.. I never really thought about that though…
As long as they had nice teeth it was a date.
@JackIthighs - that actually is very true
Who cares?
Less attractive, but then again I am on the apex.
I wouldn’t know. Never “dated,” really.
I like to date attractive boys, so about the same attractiveness!
i refuse to date guys that are prettier than me, particularly if it is in any portion related to the amount of time he spends primping, i dont like guys that do the hair gel or any of that… he should be sitting patiently waiting for me to get ready, not the other way around
“I really don’t know. Honestly. I don’t know how attractive/unattractive I am to begin with, nor does my thinking a guy is attractive/unattractive mean that the general population agrees with me. I’d go with equal.
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I agree with this statement.
About equal, but I’m miles ahead with personality
my handsome husband would frown on me dating, so I don’t.
I think my girlfriend is beautiful.
@morgan_ch - does that mean I’M boring?
that, or you consider me less attractive than you. which i’m ok with, because you’re beautiful
I used to get men more attractive than me…but they just last a night…
i dont date, but if i did i would only date women more attractive than myself. it’s not that i have super high standards, but as ugly as i am… im not dating a woman equal to or lesser than that..
ALWAYS more attractive than me. But then, that isn’t saying much. Although I’ve had lonely, drunken stupors that made me snuggle up to a wolf woman….however, beauty is just a lightswitch away.
More attractive: There was this cute, cute southern boy, oh, he was good lookin’, let me tell ya, but he had a temper. Sometimes I think back and wish otherwise, but! Whatcha gonna do.
Equal attractive: He ended up being a player. Grrrrr.
Lower attractive: Fliiiiiiirt, with anything that was female. Not going for that.
I think that explains it all.
Idk. I’ve only dated two people, and personally I find them to both be more attractive than me.
However, I’d had people tell me otherwise. :
It depends on your point of view! Beauty comes within, not from the surface!
Equal. But I have noticed they are all 6′ and over…that’s strange.
@eucalyptus_anonymous - you’re very attractive.
less attractive. i go for the nice guys, the ones who need to have a personality for lack of glistening pecs.
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About equal… I would hate to think of having a boyfriend that was prettier than me. Which is a high standard in itself. Any guy I date is not allowed to spend any more than ten minutes on his hair, (not including shaving) and may not under any circumstances have more clothes or shoes than me. The hair thing stemmed from having an ex that wouldnt let me play with his hair because it screwed up his hairdo. The shoe thing comes from having an ex with no less than 26 pairs of shoes.
However, on the same note… My current boyfriend of 2.5 years has started working out… and its motivated me to start working out too, so that he doesnt end up being hotter than me. So competition is good… Just… not when it comes to shoes.
I honestly can’t say that I date any equal, lesser, or better than how I look, but I do date people more outgoing than I am. I’m not sure why, but I push him a little back sometimes and say, “YOU CAN’T DO THINGS LIKE THAT!” whereas he will say, “Hey, come out of your shell a little bit…” and it just works.
Thanks for the post.
Now I have a question for you… Considering how many comments you get, do you actually go through and read them all?
Okay, I’m going to play the naive idealist here, but I don’t know how to answer that question.
If I fall in love with someone, that person will be like a Greek god in my eyes– I wouldn’t be able to objectively say anything about his attractiveness, but perhaps I’m just an anomaly. I can’t conclude anything about my own attractiveness, either. I think that kind of stuff just has too much inherent bias.
I think about equal, or somewhat more attractive than me.
All of three. It’s the personality that matters. Looks fade.
I think it’s more so about how attractive they make you feel.
hmm…
I’ve not really thought. I guess they just need to be pleasing to the eye (to me), and smarter than me. Smarter is more important. (I’m an INTJ)
I don’t date anymore. Not worth the headache.
That would have depended upon if I was having a good hair day or a bad hair day, pms and bloating or not, AND then… after all of that, beauty is in the eye of the beholder so who is to say if anyone is beautiful at all.
I have a friend who raved about this really great looking hot guy she was dating (and later married). I was shocked when I met him, because I didn’t think he was good looking at all. C’est la vie.
None of the guys I have dated were attractive to me until I got to know them. By now, I think my boyfriend is DAMN HOT, and I think many other girls would agree.
Honestly, though, the only physical things that I require in a SO: functional penis, decent teeth/hygiene, taller than me, waist between 28″ and… idk, 42″? The high number is just a guesstimate.
The rest is personality, intellect, humor, etc.
My friends say that I date extremely hot guys, so I would say more so.
Equal or less. Mostly less. I hate getting shot down. It’s weak, but I go for small challenges with girls.
Equal or less…
“We’re pretty cute for two ugly people”
Well, now that I’m married I just date my husband, who is about equal in attraction to me. Before I was married, it was a good mix (you know, the few times I actually DID date).
ive almost always dated women much more attractive than me
My wife tells me I’m not allowed to date so my answer is “N/A”.
However, before I was married, I would say that it varied. My first girlfriend I would have said was equal to my level of hotness. My second girlfriend was less and my third girlfriend (and wife) is higher.
I don’t know. Less??
less attractive than me
definetly more – tough to find anyone less:-p
More or equal to.
well, according to my friends, less.
my initial reaction to this question was: “if i were to say more attractive, it may imply i have low esteem or a horrible self image; if i were to say less attractive, it may imply that i think highly of myself or may be afraid of being overshadowed; if i were to say equally attractive, it’d be hard to imagine, unless the individual looked like me.. how would you compare? one has nice eyes and the other has nice ears, so it balances out and can be deemed equal? or maybe we both get equally as much attention when walking down the street? hmm..”
i often did not notice physical attractiveness as readily as i should. i suppose previously, in a good/decent relationship, the boyfriend always looked good/fine.. that is until we split (which is when i finally realize he wasn’t good looking at all; not implying i am better or worse looking and at the same time not implying i have a(n) inflate/poor self-image).
it was after all these years of dating when i now see the physical person and his attractiveness without being partially blind because of his great personality. i would say my boyfriend now is more attractive than me. the end
Less attractive. But I think most females do.
I haven’t dated in ages but….i never really thought about it. I usually dated really nice guys. You have to like the person truly or you’ll be in trouble or divorced later in life. People forget that WE ALL AGE
I tend not to date anymore.It makes the husband cranky.
i don’t date but oftentimes i end up in a relationship with a hot guy…
You have come here and see it yourself.