Uh, yeah, maybe in some circumstances. I mean, I can see circumstances that it shouldn’t cause any alarm, but if some random guy you just met just wants to hug you all the time.. uh, step away, please.
But I’m not very touchy-feely at all and don’t really like being hugged that much!
@captain_jaq - haha, it’s not that. it’s just, if you ask me, any woman’s gotta be careful about a man who wants to touch her all the time.
Thanks, I hope so!
Nope.
I think guys who like hugging a lot like it for… special reasons. We all know hugs are a nice safe place to grab a few feels. But it’s nice and harmless, so it’s OK. LOL
Yes or no…
I would be more scared if a guy didn’t like giving hugs.
Suspicious of what? Suspicious of him being gay? Suspicious of him having sexual feelings for her? I don’t get it. Hugs are hugs. In my opinion, this world would be a lot better if more people gave and received hugs. However, no one should be forced into receiving a hug they don’t want. So, don’t like it, just tell the guy to back off.
I like hugs, is there a problem with that?
No. They should be afraid of men who wink often. It’s way creepier.
Depends on who..
Depends…a lot of my guy friends enjoy hugging way more than I do and I’m not afraid of them. But then, they’re scrawny fellows and I could take them.
Now, a drunk stranger at a bar who wants to hug me…that might be different.
Hmm…that’s a little too general of a question. I know what makes me uncomfortable and what doesn’t.
Ummmm…. my boyfriend loves hugs and it’s awesome when guys do because you can tell they really care about you. Not like they grope you constantly. Hugs are a great way to show deep affection.
What?
Hugs are amazing!!!
Suspicious of what?
Kathi
Suspicious, yeah. Paranoid, no. Go ahead and hug him.
A hug is not something you should expect from everyone–just because we had history together along with 200 other people doesn’t mean that we’re on hugging terms.
Just because a guy likes to give people hugs doesn’t mean he does it for perverted reasons. One of my best friends is a teddy bear type guy and he hugs everybody. I think it’s awesome.
No…
I dunno. I love hugging my guy and girl friends alike, but not really from people I don’t know well (especially if it’s too often). Hugging strangers once is nice though. =]
Fucking hell! Are we really asking ourselves if women should be suspicious of hugging?!
“All the time”? Yeah that’s weird. Here are some rules I’ve concocted for hugging:
1. The man never initiates the hug
2. Hugs are only appropriate if you haven’t seen the other person in a long time or won’t see them again in a long time.
2a. A long time is at least a week.
3. Full-body hugs are not hugs. They are an expression of desire. Be aware of that.
4. Hugs are cool, but don’t overuse them, because that’s weird!
That is all.
I think it depends on the man and the woman’s relationship with him. I have a couple of guy friends I am completely comfortable hugging, but there are some guys I know I would be completely uncomfortable hugging.
-Guru on the Hill
Depends on who it is…..some guys are creepy…the creepy huggers are also the creep winkers. LOL
Depends on what the guy looks like. ;]
i don’t think so….but you know the deal
it depends on who the guy is – some guys are just huggy it depends on your relationship with the guy it depends on how he hugs you just as there is no problem with hugging, there’s no problem with saying that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
No. It is just a hug. Now if he hugs and pauses . . . . .
I’d give more hugs, but I often think that women think its for the wrong reason. Therefore I refrain.
There have been a few people I just naturally cringe if they are around, but for the most part hugging is a good thing. I think your “hug radar” knows who is okay and who isn’t.
Hugs are great! As long as it doesn’t feel creepy, a hug can brighten any day.
Only if his wife’s a goer, nudge nudge, wink wink, knowwhatImean? KnowwhatImean?
NO!!! i like hugs!! lol
Can it b hugz time now plz?
Hugging in itself is not wrong. Inappropriate hugging is creepy and scary.
I suppose some of these gals might think it’s okay to be hugged inappropriately if the guy is cute. What if he’s a man…an older man…as old as her dad or grandad? Would it be okay for that man to be hugging girls all the time?
Yes, I would be suspicious of any man hugging on girls/women…until he had proven to me he wasn’t a creep.
Why does it seem like a hug always have to have a sexual or perverted conotation added to it? Can’t it just be a hug because you’re friends, and love each other as such? I give hugs to everyone…there’s nothing dirty or immoral about it. It’s a nice way to show someone you care and respect them, especially by not “grabbing a feel”. If someone hugs for that, they have their own problems. It has nothing to do with being a guy or a girl.
It just depends on the guy and his other behaviors.
It depends on the way he hugs.
No, I have a couple of guy friends who hug a lot. It’s nice.
If they’re strangers, then yeah, it’s creepy
Yeah, it is suspicious when some men are huggers with certain women. I generally dont hug men unless it is awkward not to.
I like hugging people when it looks like they NEED a hug to pick them up. It’s usually a female that I hug cuz being a male I feel a little weird hugging another man just to go up and hug them. If it’s a guy I haven’t seen in a while or just a really close friend it isn’t a problem for me. I just think a hug given the right way just plain makes the person receiving the hug feel better and it makes me feel better if I can tell the hug helped. That’s how I view hugs myself, but I’m weird!
What should a hug-loving guy give me suspicion of? Awkwardness? Ulterior sexual motives? Homosexuality? It all really depends on the manner in which he hugs other people/me.
Yes, winking is way creepier.
yes. it makes me automatically not trust them. there are a few genuine guys i dont mind getting hugs from often, but overall, i am highly suspicious of serial huggers….
nah, hugs are good
I think it’s sad that we’ve gotten to a place where hugs in general are viewed as potentially lewd rather than just as nice physical contact, which research shows time and time again is so essential to human (and animal) development and happiness.
If a guy creeps you out, that’s one thing. But just b/c he likes hugs??
Some people are just huggers, so no I don’t think so. Of course I think a person can tell if a hug is a hug, or something more….
it’s a little odd.
anyway, i hate hugs most days
No, usually not, only if the guy is already suspicious without hugging.
Only if the man was stupid enough to not initiate and continue kino from the beginning of their interactions.
Hugs as “cop-a-feel” innocence are just creepy.
I do not like hugging people
I prefer to shake their hand if they are okay with it or I sometimes give high 5s
It really depends on the situation. I am not a touchy person and I don’t like feeling pressured to hug someone, especially if I don’t know them well. I don’t think I would feel suspicious of them, just maybe a little turned off by all the hugging.
Absolutely. Hugs lead to sex.
Well, I have been raising my sister since she was 11. An interesting thing happened the year she started 8th grade, all of a sudden boys were wanting to hug her all the time. Mind you, she went through puberty the summer before, so when she came to me excited that these boys were friendly this year, i had to be the bad guy and tell her that sometimes, hugs were more than hugs but someday they would be genuine.
The guy who comments “yes” , really tells all.
I think hugs are great….we need contact for health. I’m cautious around guys that give me the creeps.., we all know them. The way they look at you like their checking you out Very old guys dont scare me, most of them are harmless, the hug they get may be the only human contact they get all day….thats sad My friends young and old know when i see them they will always get a hug from me….we all need them
not really
I like hugs…
It’s fine as long as it’s not an uncomfortably long one
Not if you live in Hawaii, it’s rude not to great someone with a hug and kiss on the cheek…but it he is all over you groping you then yeah…that would be a little suspicious.
as long as he sticks to the middle-section, no. men should hug more, and not be afraid of compromising their “manliness”.
No. and, guys, let us clarify, there is a vast difference between hugs and feeling up or even the lingering hugs that even suggest a deeper intimacy.
No. My uncle likes to give hugs. Nobody freaks out. (Okay, I do, but that’s just because I don’t like hugs in general.) Well, his ex-wife, but that was because she was cheating on him, and needed an excuse for a divorce that didn’t make her look bad. Of course, if there are other traits (not calling, coming home late from “work”, not paying his bills) besides the huginess that might lead to wariness, then by all means, suspect away.
lol, it depends on who it is coming from. If you see him giving hugs to everyone.. then it is obvious he is just that way. I can usually tell who is just showing they care or if there is something strange about them.
Maybe.
. . .a man who hugs her all the time or a man who is generally huggy?
My husband is very affectionate with me and the kids, but not so much with other people. . . and that’s cool with me.
No. Maybe that certain guy is very affectionate or caring towards others. Are hugs considered disturbing nowadays?
i rarely let guys hug me, and ya know what? they seem to respect me more than the other girls and want to hug me EVEN more!!
most of the guys who go around wanting girls to hug them usually only want to hug the so-called pretty girls. they can be great friends and great guys, but i wouldn’t want to date any of them. maybe i’m just old fashioned, but i don’t want a guy who is hugging everybody else. maybe it’s just me, but i prefer a guy who saves those things (just like his words of endearment) as special just for me.
HAH- the other night I was out with a younger man who had a tic… The winking creeped me out. A lot. Then I realized it was a tic. People in Spain kiss each other on the cheek. It’s actually kind of nice.
i definitely think it depends on who he is hugging. If my significant other was hugging someone i knew they had prior history with, i would be worried a bit. But again, depends if he’s always been like that, and i think it goes both ways. Guys should be suspicious of girls hugging their exes too.
If he does it to everyone, no. Otherwise, yes.
Coming from a guy.
I only like to hug friends (as opposed to strangers), and I have like…two of them
i guess it would depend who he is hugging and how he is hugging ive actually offended women for refusing hugs because well i dont like to be touched by people i dont feell close to
Hell no, hugs are awesome.
How sad is it that a guy who gives people hugs is considered a pervert of has ulterior motives? Can’t people just hug eachother? When a guy hugs another guy I don’t think they’re generally considered gay. And when I hug my mom, it’s not because I’m trying to have sex with her. And all the concerned girls, watch out for dad’s hug, he has devious plans apparently.
all the time as in whenever he encounter another human being?
Ew yes.
It could just mean he or she’s friendly.
If one is suspicious, then one dose not have complete trust in the other. If you don’t have complete and unconditional trust and love in the other person then you should not be together. Trust, you either have it or you don’t.
I would have to say yes. I think its natural for men to see women from a sexual perspective and therefore think sexually about them. So if a man wants to hug a woman all the time I would be suspicious (and I’m a guy).
Um, no, why would hugs be a bad thing.
No…..
yes, because guys don’t hug girls they’re not attracted to, not at first meeting. Strategy – to find out what a guy means in his hugs, YOU go hug some other guy. A guy who hugs everyone without any hidden schemes will not ask why you hugged some other guy, but if he asks, its not because he’s suspicious, he’s actually “projecting” – he is essentially saying, “what was that hug about?” actually means “I hug others the same way, and it means something different for me” It’s the only way to know.
PS, “unconditional trust” doesn’t exist – period. All trust is based on a certain set of conditions that must have been met for trust to exist in the first place. Just like unconditional love doesn’t exist – if a guy cheats on you and you feel something – your love is under the condition that neither will cheat on the other. I’d argue that unconditional love is bullshit, it’s either conditional or not love at all
Honesty, yes, I would think it’s a bit strange. If that person was not family, or a mate, then they have no reason to want to hug me that much. I can see if it’s once in a while, like when you’re not feeling well or something, but just to hug you? That would be irritating.
i would.
Some guys love hugs because they’re just affectionate. Some guys also love hugs because they have feelings for you. I’ve been in a relationship for 2+ years and I’ve noticed that it depends on the friendship.
depends on his other behavior.
she has a reason to be..
No, is hugging part of culture for greeting someone?
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No, I don’t think so. Hugs are nice. Unless… they’re “special” hugs.
Yes.
ha. yes.
I love hugs…
women? what about guys being suspicious…
Yes, especially at church and usually the older, married men. I just wish I could yell, “GO HUG YOUR WIFE!!!!”
Yeah.
No!
WHAT’S WRONG WITH HUGS? You guys are acting like hugging is adultery or weird.
No, not with any of the big hugging fools I know.
Now be care with me. I have been know to grab a feel.
only if it’s Desinflan.
Uh, yeah, maybe in some circumstances. I mean, I can see circumstances that it shouldn’t cause any alarm, but if some random guy you just met just wants to hug you all the time.. uh, step away, please.
But I’m not very touchy-feely at all and don’t really like being hugged that much!
@captain_jaq -
Thanks for saying it, I wanted to.
@captain_jaq - haha, it’s not that. it’s just, if you ask me, any woman’s gotta be careful about a man who wants to touch her all the time.
Thanks, I hope so!
Nope.
I think guys who like hugging a lot like it for… special reasons.
We all know hugs are a nice safe place to grab a few feels. But it’s nice and harmless, so it’s OK. LOL
Yes or no…
I would be more scared if a guy didn’t like giving hugs.
@captain_jaq - amen
Suspicious of what? Suspicious of him being gay? Suspicious of him having sexual feelings for her?
I don’t get it. Hugs are hugs. In my opinion, this world would be a lot better if more people gave and received hugs. However, no one should be forced into receiving a hug they don’t want. So, don’t like it, just tell the guy to back off.
I like hugs, is there a problem with that?
No. They should be afraid of men who wink often. It’s way creepier.
Depends on who..
Depends…a lot of my guy friends enjoy hugging way more than I do and I’m not afraid of them. But then, they’re scrawny fellows and I could take them.
Now, a drunk stranger at a bar who wants to hug me…that might be different.
Hmm…that’s a little too general of a question. I know what makes me uncomfortable and what doesn’t.
Ummmm…. my boyfriend loves hugs and it’s awesome when guys do because you can tell they really care about you. Not like they grope you constantly. Hugs are a great way to show deep affection.
What?
Hugs are amazing!!!
Suspicious of what?
Kathi
Suspicious, yeah. Paranoid, no. Go ahead and hug him.
A hug is not something you should expect from everyone–just because we had history together along with 200 other people doesn’t mean that we’re on hugging terms.
Just because a guy likes to give people hugs doesn’t mean he does it for perverted reasons. One of my best friends is a teddy bear type guy and he hugs everybody. I think it’s awesome.
No…
I dunno. I love hugging my guy and girl friends alike, but not really from people I don’t know well (especially if it’s too often). Hugging strangers once is nice though. =]
Fucking hell! Are we really asking ourselves if women should be suspicious of hugging?!
“All the time”? Yeah that’s weird. Here are some rules I’ve concocted for hugging:
1. The man never initiates the hug
2. Hugs are only appropriate if you haven’t seen the other person in a long time or won’t see them again in a long time.
2a. A long time is at least a week.
3. Full-body hugs are not hugs. They are an expression of desire. Be aware of that.
4. Hugs are cool, but don’t overuse them, because that’s weird!
That is all.
I think it depends on the man and the woman’s relationship with him. I have a couple of guy friends I am completely comfortable hugging, but there are some guys I know I would be completely uncomfortable hugging.
-Guru on the Hill
Depends on who it is…..some guys are creepy…the creepy huggers are also the creep winkers. LOL
Depends on what the guy looks like. ;]
i don’t think so….but you know the deal
it depends on who the guy is – some guys are just huggy
it depends on your relationship with the guy
it depends on how he hugs you
just as there is no problem with hugging, there’s no problem with saying that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
No. It is just a hug. Now if he hugs and pauses . . . . .
I’d give more hugs, but I often think that women think its for the wrong reason. Therefore I refrain.
@LoriBMom03 - Good answer!
No
There have been a few people I just naturally cringe if they are around, but for the most part hugging is a good thing. I think your “hug radar” knows who is okay and who isn’t.
Hugs are great! As long as it doesn’t feel creepy, a hug can brighten any day.
Only if his wife’s a goer, nudge nudge, wink wink, knowwhatImean? KnowwhatImean?
NO!!! i like hugs!! lol
Can it b hugz time now plz?
Hugging in itself is not wrong. Inappropriate hugging is creepy and scary.
I suppose some of these gals might think it’s okay to be hugged inappropriately if the guy is cute. What if he’s a man…an older man…as old as her dad or grandad? Would it be okay for that man to be hugging girls all the time?
Yes, I would be suspicious of any man hugging on girls/women…until he had proven to me he wasn’t a creep.
Why does it seem like a hug always have to have a sexual or perverted conotation added to it? Can’t it just be a hug because you’re friends, and love each other as such? I give hugs to everyone…there’s nothing dirty or immoral about it. It’s a nice way to show someone you care and respect them, especially by not “grabbing a feel”. If someone hugs for that, they have their own problems. It has nothing to do with being a guy or a girl.
@UnworthyofHisgrace - thanks!
Very rarely.
It just depends on the guy and his other behaviors.
It depends on the way he hugs.
No, I have a couple of guy friends who hug a lot. It’s nice.
If they’re strangers, then yeah, it’s creepy
Yeah, it is suspicious when some men are huggers with certain women. I generally dont hug men unless it is awkward not to.
I like hugging people when it looks like they NEED a hug to pick them up. It’s usually a female that I hug cuz being a male I feel a little weird hugging another man just to go up and hug them. If it’s a guy I haven’t seen in a while or just a really close friend it isn’t a problem for me. I just think a hug given the right way just plain makes the person receiving the hug feel better and it makes me feel better if I can tell the hug helped. That’s how I view hugs myself, but I’m weird!
What should a hug-loving guy give me suspicion of? Awkwardness? Ulterior sexual motives? Homosexuality? It all really depends on the manner in which he hugs other people/me.
Yes, winking is way creepier.
yes. it makes me automatically not trust them. there are a few genuine guys i dont mind getting hugs from often, but overall, i am highly suspicious of serial huggers….
nah, hugs are good
I think it’s sad that we’ve gotten to a place where hugs in general are viewed as potentially lewd rather than just as nice physical contact, which research shows time and time again is so essential to human (and animal) development and happiness.
If a guy creeps you out, that’s one thing. But just b/c he likes hugs??
Some people are just huggers, so no I don’t think so. Of course I think a person can tell if a hug is a hug, or something more….
it’s a little odd.
anyway, i hate hugs most days
No, usually not, only if the guy is already suspicious without hugging.
Only if the man was stupid enough to not initiate and continue kino from the beginning of their interactions.
Hugs as “cop-a-feel” innocence are just creepy.
I do not like hugging people
I prefer to shake their hand if they are okay with it or I sometimes give high 5s
It really depends on the situation. I am not a touchy person and I don’t like feeling pressured to hug someone, especially if I don’t know them well. I don’t think I would feel suspicious of them, just maybe a little turned off by all the hugging.
Absolutely. Hugs lead to sex.
Well, I have been raising my sister since she was 11. An interesting thing happened the year she started 8th grade, all of a sudden boys were wanting to hug her all the time. Mind you, she went through puberty the summer before, so when she came to me excited that these boys were friendly this year, i had to be the bad guy and tell her that sometimes, hugs were more than hugs but someday they would be genuine.
The guy who comments “yes” , really tells all.
I think hugs are great….we need contact for health.
Very old guys dont scare me, most of them are harmless, the hug they get may be the only human contact they get all day….thats sad
My friends young and old know when i see them they will always get a hug from me….we all need them
I’m cautious around guys that give me the creeps.., we all know them. The way they look at you like their checking you out
not really
I like hugs…
It’s fine as long as it’s not an uncomfortably long one
Not if you live in Hawaii, it’s rude not to great someone with a hug and kiss on the cheek…but it he is all over you groping you then yeah…that would be a little suspicious.
as long as he sticks to the middle-section, no. men should hug more, and not be afraid of compromising their “manliness”.
No. and, guys, let us clarify, there is a vast difference between hugs and feeling up or even the lingering hugs that even suggest a deeper intimacy.
No. My uncle likes to give hugs. Nobody freaks out. (Okay, I do, but that’s just because I don’t like hugs in general.) Well, his ex-wife, but that was because she was cheating on him, and needed an excuse for a divorce that didn’t make her look bad. Of course, if there are other traits (not calling, coming home late from “work”, not paying his bills) besides the huginess that might lead to wariness, then by all means, suspect away.
lol, it depends on who it is coming from. If you see him giving hugs to everyone.. then it is obvious he is just that way. I can usually tell who is just showing they care or if there is something strange about them.
Maybe.
. . .a man who hugs her all the time or a man who is generally huggy?
My husband is very affectionate with me and the kids, but not so much with other people. . . and that’s cool with me.
No. Maybe that certain guy is very affectionate or caring towards others. Are hugs considered disturbing nowadays?
i rarely let guys hug me, and ya know what? they seem to respect me more than the other girls and want to hug me EVEN more!!
most of the guys who go around wanting girls to hug them usually only want to hug the so-called pretty girls. they can be great friends and great guys, but i wouldn’t want to date any of them. maybe i’m just old fashioned, but i don’t want a guy who is hugging everybody else. maybe it’s just me, but i prefer a guy who saves those things (just like his words of endearment) as special just for me.
HAH- the other night I was out with a younger man who had a tic… The winking creeped me out. A lot. Then I realized it was a tic.
People in Spain kiss each other on the cheek.
It’s actually kind of nice.
i definitely think it depends on who he is hugging. If my significant other was hugging someone i knew they had prior history with, i would be worried a bit. But again, depends if he’s always been like that, and i think it goes both ways. Guys should be suspicious of girls hugging their exes too.
If he does it to everyone, no. Otherwise, yes.
Coming from a guy.
I only like to hug friends (as opposed to strangers), and I have like…two of them
i guess it would depend who he is hugging and how he is hugging ive actually offended women for refusing hugs because well i dont like to be touched by people i dont feell close to
Hell no, hugs are awesome.
How sad is it that a guy who gives people hugs is considered a pervert of has ulterior motives? Can’t people just hug eachother? When a guy hugs another guy I don’t think they’re generally considered gay. And when I hug my mom, it’s not because I’m trying to have sex with her. And all the concerned girls, watch out for dad’s hug, he has devious plans apparently.
all the time as in whenever he encounter another human being?
Ew yes.
It could just mean he or she’s friendly.
If one is suspicious, then one dose not have complete trust in the other. If you don’t have complete and unconditional trust and love in the other person then you should not be together. Trust, you either have it or you don’t.
I would have to say yes. I think its natural for men to see women from a sexual perspective and therefore think sexually about them. So if a man wants to hug a woman all the time I would be suspicious (and I’m a guy).
Um, no, why would hugs be a bad thing.
No…..
yes, because guys don’t hug girls they’re not attracted to, not at first meeting. Strategy – to find out what a guy means in his hugs, YOU go hug some other guy. A guy who hugs everyone without any hidden schemes will not ask why you hugged some other guy, but if he asks, its not because he’s suspicious, he’s actually “projecting” – he is essentially saying, “what was that hug about?” actually means “I hug others the same way, and it means something different for me” It’s the only way to know.
PS, “unconditional trust” doesn’t exist – period. All trust is based on a certain set of conditions that must have been met for trust to exist in the first place. Just like unconditional love doesn’t exist – if a guy cheats on you and you feel something – your love is under the condition that neither will cheat on the other. I’d argue that unconditional love is bullshit, it’s either conditional or not love at all
Honesty, yes, I would think it’s a bit strange. If that person was not family, or a mate, then they have no reason to want to hug me that much. I can see if it’s once in a while, like when you’re not feeling well or something, but just to hug you? That would be irritating.
i would.
Some guys love hugs because they’re just affectionate. Some guys also love hugs because they have feelings for you. I’ve been in a relationship for 2+ years and I’ve noticed that it depends on the friendship.
depends on his other behavior.
she has a reason to be..
No, is hugging part of culture for greeting someone?