February 23, 2008
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Tramp Stamp on the Wedding Day
I was just reading an article in the New York Times about how women are stepping out of tradition with wedding dresses.
According to the article, more women are using wedding dresses that show their “cleavage, midsection, lower back or thigh, temptress styles.”
The article discussed a woman who had her “tramp stamp” showing. Here is the link: Link
Do you think it makes a woman look sleazy to have a tramp stamp showing on the wedding day?
Comments (141)
Yes.
Haha, first!
Um…yeah… Not very tasteful.
Sleazy is a little strong. Not tasteful to me, but who am I to criticize somebody else’s taste?
Yes, I kinda think the tramp stamp looks sleazy all the time. Sometimes its sexy I suppose, in a sleazy sort of way.
Absolutely. A bride should look pretty, stunning, and gorgeous. Who wants a bride that looks like a hooker?
Tattoos in general are very dumb, especially to get them in places that can be seen with any variety dress. That’s why the best tattoos are on the bottom of one’s foot.
I don’t think it’s so much of the tattoo, but just the enormous amount of back being shown. I mean, who are you trying to impress? You’re getting married. The only guy that matters will be facing you all night.
That’s pretty artsy, if you ask me.
Yes, that’s a little trashy. Especially since the term “tramp stamp” was coined.
It’s her wedding! As far as I’m concerned she can go naked, and it’s none of my/anyone else’s business.
Hmm, I’m going to say yes, because wouldn’t a “tramp stamp” be contradicting to white wedding dress standing for purity?
@cuteluvr21 - I’m with you on this one; it’s her wedding! What the fuck does anyone else care?
I’d have to see it first to comment…but it is her wedding…so what I think shouldn’t have any bearing.
Yeah, yeah, let the bride do whatever she wants. I’m just glad I don’t have that stupid tattoo on my back! What is that anyway? The Loch Ness monster wrapped in flowers?
Yeah, but it’s the girl’s big day, let them do whatever the fuck she wants, then it’s to the kitchen from there!
Yes.
@DrugInducedDuck - That’s great! Made me laugh.
It’s not just the tramp stamp, the “cleavage, midsection, lower back or thigh, temptress styles” play a big role as well.
I think its awesome.
@cuteluvr21 - Hah, finally someone that doesn’t take me seriously, lol!
What’s wrong with it? Obviously she likes the tattoo, if she’s showing it. I fully plan on showing as many tattoos as possible on my wedding day, because they are all very meaningful and represent important things in my life, and I feel it is my obligation to show them off to the world. I find tattoos to be very beautiful.
And I find that telling someone she’s trashy because she as a tattoo on her lower back is so stereotypical and hardly true.
I have a lower back tattoo of a bonzai tree that was photographed after the US bombed Hiroshima. It is a memoir of that event, it is an opposition to war, and it is a tribute to a woman who changed my life. Is that trashy? You tell me.
Its ridiculously tacky, but so are a good many women with “tramp stamps” So I guess, they are just being themselves.
I have no problem with a sexy wedding gown or a tattoo. It is a style, an art. It is so common nowadays… like Henna.
I guess she had to meet her husband somehow.
Tramp stamp? That was funny.
I personally don’t care. It’s none of my business of what she should be wearing or showing on her wedding day. It’s her day, not mine.
I would probably keep my opinions to myself about that..at least until the divorce.
Yes.
I dunno, I think it could be an unhelpful distraction to men attending the wedding. Why would a bride want to do that on that day of all days (or any day)? That said I know that it’s hard to sacrifice what we perceive as fashion for modesty. The point is, it’s not nice to lead someone into sin just cause you want to look a certain way.
I think it may be slightly distasteful for some people who have been invited that have a more traditional taste in wedding style (something that the bride and groom should consider at least for a bit). However, it is (as many people that have said before) completely up to the bride as to what she wears.
Personally, I think that having your clothes match your personality is a bit silly. First of all, do you really need a reminder of how you looked ages ago? Chances are, you’re not going to look as good as you did when you got married. And if either the husband or wife is seeking to have reminders of that, then some problems may arise (depression and infidelity to name a few potentials).
Yes.
i don’t know.. you have to admit it is an important day for her.. and i think for the important days, a girl should have the right to express how she feels… if she wants to show a tramp stamp, then that’s her call, or isn’t it? i don’t know.. but well, she is within a society that has norms and values.. but hey, respect for deviance.. :]
wishfeather
@firetyger - not tasteful in what sense?
I don’t know… I don’t have a problem with tattoos in general, but it does look uncouth to have a tattoo displayed on your wedding day.
My wedding dress showed a decent amount of back (it was a halter, but rather tasteful), but even if I had a tattoo, I wouldn’t be showing it off!
@wearethechoosen - well yeah, you have a point there…
And to address the topic of tattoos….it depends on what the tattoo symbolizes. If it’s beautifully done and in a tasteful location, I don’t think it would be a problem. A tattoo on the left breast or the butt-cheeck, probably…not. A tattoo on the upper arm or ankle…*shrugs*.
@PrincessFiveandDime - i agree with you so much…
@whitetrashpoet - … i think that’s how it should be… show the important things of your life…
YES . IT MAY BE ALLRIGHT RIDING ON THE BACK OF A MOTORCYCLE , NOT AT A WEDDING.
this is foreshadowing
No. Everyone to their own liking.
A woman should be able to do whatever she wants on her wedding day without criticism. It’s her special day, not one that we should spend castigating her choices.
I think it just begs of “do me in the rear in the limo after the vows”……and if that’s the signal you want to send to everyone, then so be it.
Not as long as she’s wearing a thong that’s visible.
If you wear the white dress, be what it represents. If you want everyone to know you have no self control, leave the white to the virgins who deserve to be honored.
No.
and i love how people just ASSume that if one has a so called “tramp stamp” that automatically makes them a “tramp”. that can’t always be the case and if you don’t know then judging them only makes you really stupid!!!
I think so – but I personally object to tatoo’s showing in church period – and for me weddings are always associated with church.
i think it makes them look trampy… hahaha.. get it? yeah… i hate tramp stamps….
It’s her wedding, her dress, and her special day, she can do whatever the heck she wants. It isn’t my place to judge.
Yes, I grew up in a very modest background…
@TheNumberScott - Uh, Scott, you may want to consult the manual again….!
It’s not my personal taste, but if it’s hers and the venue is okay with it then that’s all that matters.
@ihaveanalibi -
I don’t even know what that means. I assume you’re making fun of me or something, which is fine. I just wish I knew what the crap you’re talking about, and how it relates to what I said.
well i’m not a huge fan of tattoos in that spot to begin with. but if that is how she wants her dress to look then let the bride have her way!
Hmm, interesting question.
After reading (most of) the article… I would just like to think that a wedding isn’t really about looking “sexy.” I do think that having a dress that makes you look (to use the overly gay-i-fied word) “fabulous” is a great thing… but should it be the next thing to lingerie? I don’t think so.
Yes, it’s the mark of a bimbo.
@TheNumberScott - “The only guy that matters will be facing you all night.”
Not making fun of you, some things just appeal to my sense of humour!
her back is kinda hairy.
showing some skin does not = trash ! some form of exposure can be sexy in a classy way
Never heard of them called Tramp Stamps… that’s cute.
Do you think it makes a woman look sleazy to have a tramp stamp showing on the wedding day?
A bit.
A tattoo, if it is a “tramp stamp,” is just damn sexy. It means that a woman is secure in herself enough for permancy, enough to declare to the world who she is through skin and ink.
A “tramp stamp” in the eyes of God, one of which that you are not ashamed, is the way that you want God to see you, the way you want to profess your love in front of God. Why have a tattoo if you are too ashamed to flaunt it?
A “tramp stamp,” if it is a woman’s body, is God’s creation. Be proud. Be proud, and if you want to show it, good for you.
I think if it was a really classic wedding (you know, flowers, big church, the whole thing) it would look a little silly. But like others have said, why is it my business?
Not at all.
Jesus, when will conservatives ever shut the hell up?
@Coffey -
that’s what i was going to point out. you beat me to the punch.
It’s her wedding, she can wear what she wants to. Me, though, I wouldn’t even get a tattoo, much less there, and much, much less actually have it show at my wedding.
id have to say that it all depends on the bride and groom, and if they are traditional or not….tattoos are a form of expression and if both feel they want to show off the beautiful art they have on their bodies then so be it……
Since my last name is Tramp – I’d say no. lol
What is a tramp stamp?
Yeah, showing a tramp stamp at the wedding is sleazy. But if she’s a tramp, everyone knows it anyway.
give her a break. it’s her big day.
I prefer if the bride can exude sexiness without even trying to be sexy by revealing too much skin… like the way her upper bodice clinging to her torso even with that high neck wedding dress… a la Grace Kelly’s wedding gown.
why in the world is it called a tramp stamp? Can’t a woman get a tattoo wherever she wants without being called a tramp/slut? You don’t see any men being called prostitutes because of a certain tattoo somewhere on their body…
I wouldn’t say sleazy. I think it could draw attention away from the true beauty of the bride, but everyone has their own likes and dislikes and thoughts about beauty, so who am I to judge.
Nope. She can whatever the hell she wants, because lets be honest: weddings are more about the girl than they are about the guy. I don’t care what people say about equality, thats just the way it is.
’nuff said…
Showing the tattoo doesn’t bother me at all, it is the brides choice.
I do prefer not to see a lot of cleavage in a white wedding.
@Nikolais_apprentice - You nailed it.
She looks like a slut if it’s showing any day, hence the name….TRAMP stamp.
I don’t see how it’s a show off to show everyone that she’s a tramp!? Perhaps she wants to confirm it, and she got her man too!?
I believe – Anything goes these days.
I myself got married for the second time, on my front porch sporting a Huge baby belly -8 months pregnant.
Years ago – when I was young & got married not even 21- Yes I would have thonght it Trampy..
Funny- How I have changed !
Who am I to Judge anyway !!!
Isn’t that something Jesus said once ??
what she wears on her wedding day is gona come off anyway, so I don’t think a women showing heer tramp stamp is going to make a difference of what ya think of her considering you know the person of whose wedding your attending and already have an opinion about her anyway
most likely
u knew she was a tramp b4 ya saw the stamp
Well, a bride is technically supposed to be “pure”, hence the white dress, and the existence of a tramp stamp contradicts it. It’s a bit tasteless.
However, if it’s like, you’re third wedding, you’re middleaged, and not wearing white, then I wouldn’t really see an issue.
It looks that way, yes..
Ya, not very bride like. I think a woman can look beautiful for her wedding day without looking trampy. Maybe I am old fashioned.
Unless you’re selling, there’s no need to advertise.
LOL, keep that thing “tramp stamp” in the bedroom for only her husband’s eye to see..Thanks
Mely
Kind of
but if she wants to show it off, be my guest. I just wouldn’t do it myself.
why so lower back tats have to be considered “tramp stamps”? I think the only thing wrong with this is that phrase. I have 7 tats, the majority of them on my back. 3 on my lower back. it doesn’t mean I’m going to go out and sleep with whoever and be a tramp. what people don’t realize is that most tats have meaning to them. stop being so damn judgemental and thinking that all women are sluts just because of a tat. they’re an art.
I remember the one time when I wanted the tramp stamp before I knew what it meant. Then I noticed every girl who got pregnant in high school had one as well as the well known sluts. However I think it’s up to the individual to show what they want. Free expression right?
no, get with the modern age
“distasteful”
Truthfully, I think it can make a woman look sleazy or trashy if she dresses like that on ANY day!
Ok, how about whoever first coined the term “tramp stamp” is the sleazy one?
I have a lower back tattoo- I am NOT sleazy. And so what if it’s showing on my wedding day- I LOVE my tattoo and it’s a part of my body.
Unless a tattoo says “slut” or “cum bucket” I don’t see how it is sleazy and deserving of the term “tramp stamp”.
I have a pretty lil’ fairy on my back with celtic symbols on the sides- it’s beautiful- and I had NO idea that one day people would be calling tattoos in that area tramp stamps.
I think it is way more elegant than a tattoo on an arm or leg- why not call ALL tattoos tramp stamps.
Some people are just so closed-minded.
For anyone who believes a tattoo on a women in the lower back region and assumes that women is sleazy or trashy- shame on you for being so judgmental.
i suppose it depends on what it is and how its either artsy or sleazy…
@whitetrashpoet - I find your post ironic considering your screen name?
Tattoo removal is going to be the business of the future.
Wow. I have never heard the term ‘tramp stamp.’ I guess it (whether it’s trashy or not) depends on the reasons for getting the tattoo in the first place and the reasons for why someone wants to show it off. I have three tattoos, but I can easily conceal all of them if I need to. If I got married, I would prefer to get married in a small, private ceremony. HOWEVER, I have a lot of family members, including many members of my extended family, who would get offended if they weren’t able to attend. The same thing happened with my graduation. I didn’t want to walk the stage and do all that processional crap, but my family would have been disappointed if they weren’t able to watch me walk the stage and receive that fake diploma that reads ‘You will receive your diploma in the mail in a few weeks.’ SO I walked, even though I didn’t want to, and I’ll probably have a lot of people at my wedding, because the big ceremony part would be way more important to my family that it would be to me. The point is, I have a lot of family members who wouldn’t care to see the sea turtle and the shark on my leg, so I won’t wear a dress that’s as high as a mini-skirt. They probably also don’t want to see scarab on my back, so I won’t wear a dress that exposes my extreme lower back. Maybe some other families don’t care about that stuff, but some of my family members do. So I think a tattoo is only trashy if you make it such. I’m not ashamed of my tattoos; they’re important to me. But they’re not important to my family – so I don’t see the need to ruin a ceremony that they want to remember forever, especially when what I wear isn’t going to matter as much to me, because I will be getting married either way. I think this has been my longest comment ever.
Obviously YES!!! Weddings are a sacred thing…. This type of thinking is just going to add to the divorce rates that are already insanely high whats next….
i think it depends on the tattoo.
if it’s a beautiful flower or a dolphin or something of the sort, i’d say no.
pretty much anything else, though, would probably at least take away from the purity that a white dress usually gives to the occasion. idk if it’s sleazy neccesarily though.
yes
The day is suppose to be about”her”(who ever she is). If she feels happy dressed in that way, and she has the body to get away with it, there should be no problem.
@Nikolais_apprentice - “If you wear the white dress, be what it represents. If you want
everyone to know you have no self control, leave the white to the
virgins who deserve to be honored.”
This most certainly begs the question, what on earth does having a tattoo on one’s lower back state about one’s status of virginity??!! You’re assuming that just because a woman has a lower back tattoo that she has no self control and is not a virgin? How ridiculous and closed-minded.
On another note, some people wear the right dress for tradition’s sake, not as a representation of their virginity. Yes, that may have been what the white dress originally represented, but who’s to say tradition can’t change? Who’s to say this woman is religious? Who’s to say that she’s even marrying in a church at all?
I hate assumptions.
Oh, and by the way, a marriage is not about being honored, it’s about binding your life to that of your partner’s — and why does a virgin deserve more honor?
If fact, why doesn’t a male have to wear something stating his virginal status? Oh, right, males aren’t expected to be virgins when they’re married.
Boo.
I whole heartedly agree with Jemstone05!!!
I think all the people here ASSuming that a lower back tatoo = a slut are quite silly and ignorant. I do get a good laugh out of it though!!
Yes. A woman should look beautiful and graceful on her wedding day, not sleezy. Showing off your tramp stamp is not beautiful or graceful.
I think it’s a little weird to call it a “tramp stamp”. Is this what all tattoos are considered? Because if so, then I have a tramp stamp on my ankle.
YES! (well, unless the wedding was in vegas.)
I find tatoos to be unattractive and ugly…I kind of want one myself, but in a place where no one will see. I read that article and I’m a bit offended. She said girls in the generation want to dress ‘hot’ for their wedding day because they are no longer virgins when they get married. Me, I will remain a virgin until I am married. Also, most girls I talk to want to be known at beautiful and pretty, not ‘hot.’ Not all girls are sleezy. Some of us still have some modesty left in us.
Haha, I know that went way over your question, sorry, but that article pissed me off. Oh- and Angelina Jolie with her stupid tatoos always showing is ugly.
@Jemstone05 - Boo?
Um, the whole point of a tradition is that it doesn’t change and always represents what it represented originally. You change something, and that’s called making a new tradition. I’m allowed to express the opinion that if a woman wears the traditional (as in, NOT slutty) white dress, then she should stand for what it originally meant. That’s tradition.
When did I say having a tattoo said anything about virginity? The conversation is mainly about showing too much skin.
If marriage is about binding one’s life to a partner’s… how is it equally honorable to have “bound” yourself to many men physically, as opposed to be binding yourself in all ways, to one man?
And it’s not my fault males aren’t expected to be virgins when they’re married. I expect mine to be, and so do many women who share my beliefs.
Speaking of my beliefs, I’d prefer not to be called names because I have strong beliefs and uphold them. Notice I haven’t accused many people who commented here for being loose or immoral, even if I may feel that way.
That and how is it okay for you people who are supportive of showing everything on one’s wedding day to call the rest of us judgmental but we can’t comment that we think it’s a little immodest of you? DOUBLE STANDARD.
It’s incredibly sleazy. God help the man marrying that kind of woman.
@whitetrashpoet - I totally agree with you.
I’m getting big, archangel wings on my back. I plan on showing them off when I get married. I love tattoos and I find them very artistic. Times are changing, and some people really need to acknowledge it.
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@Jemstone05 - -applauds-
@cass - I’m sure if the theory that all women with lower back tatoos are indeed tramps (which clearly is not the case) then the man would know what kind of woman he’s marrying. In fact he probably isn’t such an innocent angel himself then! so, please!!!
There’s nothing sleazy about showing tattoos. But I do think it’s sleazy to have a ”revealing” wedding dress. Why should she be advertising herself if she’s getting married? Of course, if the husband-to-be requested it, it’s a different story, I suppose. I’m confusing myself. @_@
It’s her day and if she wants to show off her tramp stamp she has every right to do it. I don’t think it makes her look any more sleezy. But that said, if she dresses so her tattoo shows anyways, why should she have to change her style because she’s getting married? To each their own and if the person thinks it makes a bad impression then they won’t show it. It’s like making the choice to have anything at a wedding.
Ick. Totally inappropriate.
I don’t generally like tattoos…having said that, I don’t look at them as ‘Tramp Stamps’. If a woman likes the way it looks in having her tattoo(s) show, it’s her wedding, so she can show them if she wants to. I think it’s more tacky to show a lot of cleavage or your midsection, imho. Wedding dresses are supposed to be elegant and classy, not temptress rags.
i think tattoos are hot…i’m not a huge fan of the typical “tramp stamp” but it’s her body and it’s her wedding day, why not?…
Yea..not a good thing.
I like tramp stamps are sleezy period. If you have one showing at a nice event like your wedding, don’t be surprised if someone questions the amount of class you have.
To chime in with one of the discussion points – I think it is important for people to dress in a way that fits with them. I loved my dress because it was modest but different from the usual. If my mom hadn’t outright vetoed it, I wanted to go with something colorful just because life is exciting, not white. I think it does have to do with the people coming – just like you need to be sensitive about having dancing or alcohol if people will be bothered, you should watch it with tattoos. But if the tattoo’s important to you? Wear it proudly!
absolutely
Depends on what kind of wedding it is. If it’s a traditional wedding, then yes, it’s terribly out of place, because tatoos are not traditional. If it’s a different type of wedding with a blend of styles, then it could definately work well. But if the bride wants to wear a traditional dress AND show her tatoo just to be rebellious, I think that’s pretty middle school tasteless. However, if SHE’S personally paying for the whole thing, she should do whatever she wants.
personally? not tasteful.
YES! you aren’t supposed to show that until the honey moon!
Tackylicious!
@Nikolais_apprentice - “If you want
everyone to know you have no self control, leave the white to the
virgins who deserve to be honored.”
I thought that by saying this, you referring to virginity, I couldn’t figure out any other meaning that you could have been putting to the term “self control.” Maybe you meant that you thought that by having a tattoo in the first place meant that the woman didn’t have any self control, but that just didn’t make any sense at all to me. . .
And I’m sorry if you felt like I was calling you names, I wasn’t. I did boo your assumptions about tattoos, but I don’t tend to name-call, especially when I don’t know the person.
Lastly, I wasn’t attacking your strong beliefs — I have a lot of respect for people who have strong beliefs and who stick to their guns. I was more commenting upon what I took to be an assumption that if a woman has a tattoo, she has no self control. I was also commenting upon the idea that a wedding is about honoring virgins. I personally thought that a wedding was about bring two people together, regardless of their previous sexual experiences. Perhaps in your eyes, that’s not what a wedding is about, and I can respect that.
It’s one thing if the tattoo is on a place that would be difficult to cover but showing the lower back? Tacky.
Since when is taht a tramp stamp??? It looks like a cute little tatt to me…
I have no problem with women showing one or two assets, personally. Actually, show whatever you want. Its your wedding day. If you wanna wear a bikini, go for it. Just remember your parents are going to be there.
Now, personally, I would have no objection to having a backless dress OR one with cleavage OR one that shows off my legs, but not all of the above. Im also not likely to be covered head to toe. A womans wedding is a very personal issue, and we have NO RIGHT to say whats right or wrong.
I’m not sure sharing tattoes is such a big deal. It’s just ink.
My issue is when the brides dress so slutty–showing more than appropriate cleavage, navel area, etc. Then again, I guess what you do on your wedding day can be a reflection of who you are anyway…even if it could be considered to be tactless, distasteful and whoreish by some.
Yes – no class.
@Jemstone05 - I think it was a case of.. not reading closely enough? I didn’t say anything about tattoos. And I didn’t say the point of a wedding is to honor virgins, either.
Haha…I guess some bride can’t wait till the honey moon.
Wait, are we calling a lower-back tattoo a “tramp stamp?” So now we don’t even have to behave any particular way, if we have a tattoo in a specific part of our body we get to be called tramps? WTF?
And why is it ok to wear a sexy dress for any other fancy occasion but not for your wedding? Are we still pretending to be all virginal and saintly on that day?
@Nikolais_apprentice - Well, I guess that’s my fault then for assuming you were referring to tattoos. I suppose I got there considering that was what the question was about and your answer was rather vague. Perhaps one could read a response more closely if it was a little more specific.
hmm… yeah?
yes
Ohh, yeahh, wedding styles are changing. Men and women who are married now have usually been sleeping together and living together for a while. The wedding is a tribute to their sexiness, they can hold a man they’ve slept with and he is willing to say he’ll be around for at least a few years.
Yea…not a fan.
Yes I do.