March 11, 2008
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Why Powerful Men Can’t Help Themselves
I received a message yesterday from Loser011
“Since Eliot Spitzer has been associated with a prostitution ring
(though not proven at this time of) is there a chance you could run a
question as to ‘Why do married Men go to prostitutes?’”Then I read this article today that asked “Why Powerful Men Can’t Help Themselves” Here is the link: Link
Why do married men go to prostitutes?
Comments (84)
Why not?
Because eating the same thing every day is boring … hihihi
You know what we need?
Ed Koch.
Because Ed Koch never fucked around.
Ed Koch is the man.
Maybe. Their ladies at home wont do anal or take some spankies from a day old carrot?! Hookers are nasty.
Xo
I think that in this instance he was tempted more because of his jobs and the things he wasnt getting but seeing others do as a prosecuting attourney… I bet h saw a lot of them get away with it too… So he figured why not him…
@Drakonskyr - Isn’t he gay?
@squeakysoul -
Just because a man isn’t married doesn’t mean he’s gay, dammit!
I thought it was pretty funny when he was asked if he was gay his response was “I’m seventy-three years old, fuck off.”
Ha. If their wives put out more, they wouldn’t have to.
Kidding, kidding. Sort of.
I assume from the report I read earlier, he was into some things his wife wouldn’t go for.
Some men like to marry ‘nice’ girls for wives, but still seem to need others kinds of girls on the side to get all those needs met. Of course the more money you make, the easier it is to convince yourself its ok and you deserve it. there should be some perks for being so powerful and having so much money, right?
because there’s something that the prostitute has to offer that the wife just doesn’t have. i don’t know what though since i’m neither married or have seen a prostitute. but a reason is out there, though not a good one.
I think that some married men like the challenge of trying to get away with it. In this case, I’m guessing he thought he was above the law and the consequences. The flesh is evil and lustful. When a man or woman isn’t commited to their marriage, this often happens.
@Drakonskyr - muahaha.
Because they can.
@k8tthelate - interesting answer. I think I agree with you. The nice wife is great to show up at fundraising functions, but she won’t fulfil his funky desires afterward. So he feels his power entitles him to more. Good answer. Power does crazy things to a person.
Well…everyone knows married men don’t get laid. So, I assume, they get lonely & the also, the hand will only satisfy for so long…well not that I’d know, seeing as I’m a chick, but I just assume.
Because we’re human beings who are sinful? I really don’t know why, exactly. It’s for me to think such hideous and shameful sexual sins are worse than other things, but really-why do we do any of the crap that we do?
Maybe the married man feels powerless or helpless and going to a prostitute makes him feel like he has control of something. Or maybe he thinks he needs excitement in his life. These are just guesses, of course. I can’t presume to know why guys do what they do.
I think the majority of that article that was linked is a bunch of phooey.
Men cheat because they are not happy. It’s the same reason women cheat. However, cheating with a prostitute is just a way of having sex with no attachments. They don’t have to give anyone foreplay, they don’t have to wine and dine, they can do their business, hand the woman her money and send her on her way.
There is also the added theory that someone different provides different things to talk about and different ways to have sex. It could simply be curiousity.
not that this would be an excuse for doing it…but a prostitute may be willing to do things the wife is not and when you are as rich and as powerful as he, he probably wants his every wish fulfilled.
also, believe it or not, back in the day when prostitution was legal, the reasoning behind it was so that men “didn’t commit adultery” (how sleeping with a prostitute isn’t adultery…is really beyond me)
I think it’s a power trip. They like knowing they can pay for pussy and probably get things their wives wouldn’t dream of giving.
Interesting article. Makes it sound like we need to institute mandatory psych checks for those in power.
The same reasons why men cheat-
because married men carry their habits from their teenage years
Because we live in a society that teaches men that they can’t control themselves sexually.
CAN’T help themselves? What a load of crap. We all make choices in life. Men like him choose to do these things, and chalking it up to a rich and powerful man just “unable” to help himself is a cop-out. He needs to be held accountable. Personally, I don’t give a shit about our politicians’ sex lives (unless they are hurting or exploiting someone), but damn…take responsibility for what you’ve done, man.
because they’re stupid? (not saying you’re stupid or anything… lol -_-)
we all fall short
They get bored..? I’m not a married man, I don’t know.
“When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer.” – Hans Gruber in the movie Die Hard
Perhaps when a man reaches a certain high level of achievement in life like being a governor for example, he feels that he has conquered so much of what stood before him and some sort of very real and meaningful payoff is in order. Just think what a similar level of political magnanimity would have brought to a middle aged man say a hundred years ago in a Muslim country for example. He would have had a harem of young women at disposal for his every whim. Indeed, even some of yesteryear’s popes were notorious for their philandering. Today’s men of power are by contrast very much shortchanged in this all important biological respect. Society demands that they remain straight laced and pure in their habits while their instincts scream otherwise. It takes a hard and righteous man to stay on course and ignore those sexual desires which could easily be indulged given his position. Apparently though, some cannot maintain this level of discipline and slip from time to time.
what is with people blaming the wife.
aah feel the misogyny in the room!
@Drakonskyr - You did it! You brought another smile to my face. Thanks for ending my day on a good note.
Because you order a nice steak and veal cutlets for home, but you go out for cheap, greasy burgers
the thrill of it all.
I think its because they don’t get sex at home – from the wife…..
Ok – I didn’t mean to blame the wife…..
Sorry
@brittanymullins - Married me don’t get laid? Well this one does…..by his own wife.
Here’s why mean cheat….because they can! Its not always about being unhappy or neglected. Sometimes it is, but mostly not.
A guy could be married to a Scarlet Johannsen clone who wanted it every day and twice on Sunday….and if given the opportunity some guys…..would still cheat. I’ll be the first to say men you are dogs!
Its about availability, not happiness or satisfaction. Some guys could marry Jenna Jamison and if Old Suzanne Somers wanted him….he’d jump between the sheets.
married men go to prostitution because they get bored in their relationship…sexually bored. I do not agree that they “can’t help themselves..” every person makes choices in their life.good, bad, or whatever.if a man is that unhappy with his sex life, then he needs to talk to his signifficant other. and if they cant help them, then maybe divorce is in the future.
well… my husband said to me once that he likes to fuck sluts… but would never marry one… soooo… then he went and fucked a slut while we were married… so yeah.. i’d like to know the answer to this as well.
Because either sex has left the marriage or sex is no longer exciting. Both indicative of problems.
Why can’t they help themselves? – They can! They just don’t want to have control over their own lusts. They think they’re above it, they deserve it, whatever…it’s all about being self-centered, self-absorbed and wanting what they want when they want it.
That applies to women too, not just men.
because men are horn dogs and like to sleep around…
the bastards, can’t keep it in their pants…
Good question. I think it’s best answer by someone who is a man, married, and cheating on his wife. In my opinion men don’t think a lot when it comes to having sex. They just want to do it with every female they see. I know that sounds awful but, that’s human nature for men.
POWER.
Probably because their wives aren’t pleasing them. That’s still no excuse to commit adultery though.
Perhaps their marriage is a flawed institution!
Several possible reasons (or combinations of reasons):
1. He never was attracted to her.
2. He was attracted to her, but she got old/fat/ugly
3. She stopped wanting/never wanted sex.
4. He’s gay.
5. He hates himself (and maybe her, too).
6. He’s bored (not just sexually- in general, too)
7. Power trip/insecurity
For same reason single men go.
They want something new and different or something they can’t get at home.
I don’t know the answer to that question b/c I’m not a man..but maybe their wives lack in the “kinky” department.
Because men suck and woman will, for the right price.
Because variety is the spice of life?
To quoit Paul Newman
“I have steak at home. Why should I go out for hamburger?”
That was the greatest evasive answer ever given. Because we all know that sometimes a hamburger sounds good, even if you have steak at home
For fun?
I wouldn’t even begin to know. There are so many risks involved (health, family, job, etc) it seems ridiculous. But, I imagine for some, the risks are what make it attractive. And for others – they probably don’t look further ahead than their own noses.
Errr……. fill out fantasies that they would usually be ashamed of asking their significant other to do??
=o.
I don’t know….
Ask a married man.
^_^
This is the wrong married man to be asking. But I would say that it could be the challenge, a sense of dissatisfaction at home, or just a change of scenery. We kinda snicker to see such men do so, and then laugh about it when they end up with something to clap about.
I’m just guessing, but maybe they aren’t happy with their wives. Maybe when some men want sex, their wives won’t give it to them. So instead of resorting to masturbation, they turn to a prostitute.
Probably because most men have ADD and get distracted by other women.
Expecially when the old womans gettin’ tired and boring.
:]
I don’t know but i find it a pretty convenient excuse to blame their wives or say they just can’t control themselves. What a bunch of crap!!!
Because of personal weakness and lack of confidence in their ability to “be a man” around their wife 24/7/365.
as john donne said, love should be praised for its variety
I think it’s one of two things: power or insecurity.
The first being that they just have so much power that their prancing around like, ‘Yea, not only do I have my wife, but this woman and this woman and this woman! Wow, I’m just so gosh darn manly’, in their search for power.
The latter is that they’re so insecure, that they have to sleep with other women [and pay for it] to prove themselves becuase they don’t think they’re worth their wife.
Lechery cuts across all classes.
I believe that there are men who go to prostitutes because there is this notion in them that they need to be playing around to prove their virility.
I think it’s a whole load of bull, but that is how it is.
to feel powerful. to see if they can get way with it
wel thats why i would do iti…
I think that when married people cheat, its because there is a problem with the marriage..my question is this-does anyone else feel there is a problem with the marriage when people cheat? I dont care who it is with..prostitute or not..
They go because they can. Some people have decided that their actions, whatever they may be, do not have to be accounted for (in regards to this case). Its a mentality… powerful people or not.
Why does ANYONE go to prostitutes?
It’s like sticking it in a paper bag, c’mon. It can’t possibly be for “sexual gratification” alone.
I can only speculate, as I am not a man who has visited a prostitute while married. They probably like the no-strings-attached sex; sex with their wifes still definitely have strings attached. Also, if they think they can get away with it… Ugh. I hope I’m never unfortunate to end up with a man who would do that.
@MyJudas - I totally agree here. Apparently I always think with my crotch, so the TV says…
They probably just don’t have the will to resist the biological drive to copulate.
Congratulations on getting me to actually look at anything related to Fox News.
I hate how this society gives the message that “men just can’t help themselves.” I think that’s BS. I’m a nympho, and I’m married. Heck, I think my sex drive is higher than most men, but that doesn’t mean I go around and cheat because I just “can’t help” myself or whatever. When I made the commitment to marry my husband, it meant I wouldn’t be with anyone else. Ever.
Sadly, most people just cheat when they’re unhappy in their relationship instead of trying to work things out. They don’t want to take the time to get messy and go through the emotional stuff that comes with working on any marriage. I think that’s why married men go to prostitutes or anyone other than their wife. And same for married women as well.
maybe cause their not satisfied sexually or maybe cause it’s the thrill, risk factor, or adrenaline rush that gets them
google “peggy Vaughn” she runs a few blogs, written many many books on such. Monogamy myth is one. NOT that monogamy isn’t a great, important GOAL. Just that it is That. A GOAL. we need to first want it, then learn how to achieve it. Takes skills, perseverence, and there are great rewards. there are set backs,failures. Our love is tested. I hope for a love that is a verb; and a decision. not only an emotion. Prayers and hope for a reciprocation….but we live on many levels and dimensions…reciprocity may be on one level, and yet hopelessly not on another. We can grow, and correct for these.
love and prayers for us all. Such a painful, humiliating thing. For all women. Very very sad for all.
Power and Fame need an audience. Your wife knows you too well
i would really say the vice in their head.
I read in a book once (one of those “Guides to Sex” books that was published way back in the 70s making most of the information contained in it, though insightful, rather dated), that married men go to prostitutes because their wives make them feel inadequate in bed and going to a hooker is like saying, “Ha! It’s not me, it’s you!”… Or something like that. It was a long time ago when I read it.
I don’t know.. but dang, he did that even though if it got it… it would be really bad.
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LOL @ the first two comments. Because their wives are giving them hell, but not giving them any?
Kinky sex and no responsibilities!
I think it could be two things. One, the wife isn’t warmed up properly; that is, sex begins in the head and the man needs to attend to his wife’s needs first, especially sexually.
Two, the man is bored and the wife says “no” quite a lot, isn’t interested in spicing up the bedroom, waits for the man to start the sexual desire instead of starting her sexual desire for her hubby. Or the wife thinks that sex is only for the mans pleasure, not hers.
Glad you posted my question, Dan.
Becker
At heart, it shows a lack of power. It takes a real man to stay true to his vows.
i dont know, i dont know if its human nature for men to want everything that moves but it is wrong :S
yah accha hai.