Shit… At this point, I’d just like a spouse, period. LOL.

OK DAN I SERIOUSLY, SERIOUSLY don’t understand why people keep doing that “first” shit. It’s so annoying.

And, um, I dunno. There’s probably some biological thing that makes me want a more attractive partner.

LMAO! Dan!!! “Guys don’t think as much as women do.” Oh, I love men and their simplicity. Nah, I’m not complaining. I just wish I could be as simple-minded as men are. LOL. Things would be so much more easier. *Grunt grunt* <~ See?

I kind of don’t give a shit.  Then again, marriage doesn’t hold much weight for me anyways.  In a relationship I don’t care though.  Beauty is relative.

@trumpetfreak19 - 

Even if they’re pretty, their personal flaws in their personality downgrades them, equaling out the field.

yeah.  sigh.

i wish my wife to be more attractive than me.

but it’s so hard to find a woman of great substance and principle… who is also hot.

@huginn -

being first doesn’t mean you’re not sophstisicated or intelligent. are
you really going to think less of someone if they enjoy being “first”?
it’s one thing to think it’s annoying, but to go so far as to say that
they’re superficial and juvenile is a bit harsh. there’s even an entire
blogring of people who enjoy being first.

I was first once … or maybe it was twice.

when people try to be first on your xanga, that’s when you know you’re a celebrity.

@ddearcaroline - being first doesn’t mean you’re not sophstisicated or intelligent. are you really going to think less of someone if they enjoy being “first”? it’s one thing to think it’s annoying, but to go so far as to say that they’re superficial and juvenile is a bit harsh.

The worth of TheologianCafe and our little community here is in the discussion and the exchange of ideas. An entire comment devoted to nothing but exclaiming “First!!” adds absolutely nothing to the discussion. In this sense, it’s superficial.

It’s pretty darn obvious when a particular comment is first or close to being first, so there’s really no reason to exclaim “First!” In this sense it’s juvenile.

 there’s even an entire blogring of people who enjoy being first.

I too enjoy being first. I’ve realized that getting an early comment out gives it extra attention from subsequent readers. Being first should be it’s own reward. There’s really no need to dumbly revel in it.

@huginn - LMAO.

Well… I know one couple… who are equally beautiful people… and they seem to be doing just fine in their marriage. I have noticed though that average men get really beautiful women. Maybe it’s because men know how to use their personality to get that girl of their dreams.  

@huginn - 

(yeah, it is. It seems fairly innocuous; I’m not sure why people are flipping a shit over it.)

@huginn - 

(also you spelled my name wrong)

there seems to be a lot of crying on this one. personally, i cant get married. my heart is gone. now, had i been able to be married, the one i would have married would have been my superior in every regard, inner beauty and outer, it’s a wonder that she loved me and i’ll never recover from her loss.

@JimiRy - Apologies.

I think in past relationships I’ve always been happiest when with girls who I feel are equal to me in attractiveness. What was really stunning about one and … not stunning about the other, however, was the personality and intellect.
But yeah, when you’re with someone who you consider equal, it’s only natural that things will work out the best, because neither side feels that they could do better or that they should be doing worse.
-David

“Why gorgeous girls are happier with plain guys”

the name of the article, read over briefly it really doesn’t surprise me that drop dead gorgeous women absolutely fall helplessly in love with a ‘plain’ guy. i consider myself as such and still to this day wonder what it is that my g/f sees in a guy like me but i guess i’d have to say that it is my firm belief that ‘plain’ guys just try harder, simply put

@whataboutbahb - 

Dan, I’m now going to forego sleep in the hopes of making “first” on your every post, so I can inspire more righteous indignation in your other readers. If anything, I hope it will at least make their lives slightly closer to exciting.

Ah one of the questions that proves how shallow we really are.

I want an attractive guy, sure. But I’m not sure I want him more attractive than me. Which means he’d have to be pretty darn ugly. =]]

This is like one of those questions “Do looks matter?” and this is where I go all shallow and say… to a point… yes. Would I date the King of Queens (whatever his name may be) star? No. If he were the sweetest most serving and caring guy, I wouldn’t. Neither would I date a guy who can’t take a shower and has hygiene issues.

And I would have difficulties dating a guy who looks like Woody Allen, or Bill Gates.

Ah such a shallow world we live in. =]]

–Cryssie Leah

I really don’t think it matters because once you’ve been married for awhile, everyone starts to get older and less attractive.

i’m worried more about his heart being attractive enough that i’m willing to exchange mine for it forever.. but, i certainly don’t want to date a guy that looks in every mirror and says “whoo, i look good today” either. “pretty people” just aren’t all they’re cracked up to be! 

Well, it certainly has in our case. My wife is much better looking than me.

i would rather be the more attractive person in the marriage

In this purely hypothetical situation, I’d prefer a husband equal or slightly less attractive than I (to the casual observer). 

Is marriage a competition of “the fairest in the land” now?  Beauty is a thing God allows a person to see, all else is filth that isn’t recognized.  I am yet to meet the typical male more attractive than the typical female, however, as the woman was meant to be beautiful, and the man was meant to be strong.  The media asks these questions because they want you to think about it, when in truth, it doesn’t matter.  Uncle Sam is feeding you fluff!  The media stands next to a turnip when it comes to I.Q., so why care about what the statistics say?  According to the media, my mother is unattractive.  However, to my father, she is the most beautiful creature to breathe air.

I don’t know. If I’m more attractive than my spouse, he might get all insecure. The same will go for me. Maybe?

Hehe…me.

Equality, at the very most. I’d also take being more attractive than the man. You just can’t trust a man that is prettier than you. Look at Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt. 

@japanika - Love that song. 

I think society makes a man feel indignant when a woman makes more money than he does and a woman feel indignant when a man is better looking than she is.  Or conversely, that a woman should feel indignant if she has to pay for a man’s meals and that a man should feel indignant if he is dating a woman who is less attractive than he is.  I’m not saying that everyone is like this, but I think this is a prejudice that sits in most people’s heads across almost all cultures so even if you didn’t want to follow this you might just do so anyway because you think that almost everyone else thinks this way.  And I think a part of everyone’s pride comes a little bit from the feeling that other people think you are behaving logically. 

It’s very difficult to find equals that you are also attracted to because initial attraction is almost defined by that gap between one person and the other.  Society has just blessed certain differences and not others because to bless them bi-directionally would be the same as not blessing anything at all — both men and women would constantly be chasing after someone both wealthier and better looking and then no one would form a couple because everyone is always looking to someone else.  This doesn’t mean that I endorse this.  I take the hard road and prefer being in the company of an equal financially and appearance-wise. 

That explains satisfaction and dissatisfaction with regard to your article.  I should clarify that this does not provide any guarantees against infidelity.   I think that is a quality innate to the persons involved in the relationship and independent of the differences in the relationship.  Meaning, a cheater is a cheater and being a cheater versus a non-cheater is simply the difference of having the dignity to break-up with someone before starting a relationship with someone else.  It doesn’t mean that that person will never break up with you.  There are no guarantees against that one even if you’re both better looking and wealthier than the person you’re dating.

Definitely me.

As disgusting as men can be, many should consider themselves lucky to have found someone to put up with them.

Likewise, for as high maintenancy as women can be, many should also consider themselves lucky to have found someone to put up with them.

There’s an old saying, “For every hot chick (guy) there’s someone who is sick of putting up with their crap.”

Need advice? Drop by my site and ask away!

The truth hurts, but not knowing hurts worse.

@adifferentkindofbeautiful - …I can’t wait for Dan to start posting new stuff so people will quit sifting through his old stuff and REPLYING TO THIS COMMENT I MADE AGES AGO. XD

Me. I mean, I don’t date ugly guys. I still like them cute. I want cute kids. I want a cute boyfriend. I just want to be better looking because I think guys treat you better when they think you’re a little too good for them. He thinks you’re perfect, that you’re the “prom queen” type, that every man is plotting to steal you away from him. That’s when a man treats you like a queen.

Well I just have to be naturally attracted to him enough that I’d want to have sex with with and have children with! (Personality also plays  this portion too) At the same time, I hope he’s attracted to me the same way I’d feel for him. 

i dunno, cesar is confinced that i’m way hotter then he is, but whatever. i dont think it makes a diffrece, cause if your wife is a bitch (like me) then her looks will get old fast.