May 17, 2008
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I once dated a girl named Christine.
“…a shy Taiwanese girl who blushed alot…”
One of the most popular post ever written on xanga was written by a guy named Justin.
The post was about his former girlfriend named Christine.
Many of you have read the post already. He wanted Christine to come back.
At the time I wrote this post, the post had received 417 recommends and 555 stars. It also was sent via email 48 times. No post has received this much attention on xanga.
The problem is that Justin did not enable comments. So no one can express what he/she is thinking about the post.
Some have said the post sounded like a stalker. I don’t think so. My heart was just warmed by the post.
Here is the post: Link
Do you tend to read the post as heart warming or stalkerish?
Comments (192)
Heart-warming! OF COURSE! I loved that post.
I found it ridiculous, saccharine, and superficial.
But hey, I’m pretentious.
Niether really. I am glad he felt such love for her and sorry it didn’t work out for him…
It was a nice post… but it really amounted to a lot of pictures and a life lesson…
I think it got more attention from you recommending it then any other reason…
Although I do remember feeling incredibly gyped that there wasn’t a more happy ending. :-b
@angi1972 - I wish the ending is better, too.
I thought it was cute.
heart warming
I adore that post. I thought it was really sweet
If only ever man who ever thought he made a mistake about a girl would do this.
It was very sweet and funny!
When I first read it, I was a little warmed by it too. I did think it was sweet. But then as I thought about it… I thought, this does seem a bit stalkery. But I figure, at least he cared enough to be stalkery and make a tribute to this girl he didn’t appreciate enough when he had her and who put up with his crap.
Most of all I wonder if she has seen the post and what she thinks of it.
I have seen this one before and love it!
i LOVE that post. (very sweet)
justin have the rights to control the TV during EPL season i would say. hahaha
I thought it was a bit of both. The length made it stalkerish, but that is just me. It would be interesting to know what she thought of the post.
its so sweet!
I didn’t know that some people consider it stalkerish… I think the guy was just full of regrets.
@CallMeQuell -
I felt the same way and i am always giving you hell for that. I am such a hypocrite
I must be wrong, it must be cute, because everyone seems to love it
heart warming.
@fullmetalbunny - i agree with you on the regret.
That was a sweet post….I guy whose is missing the girl he adores. Maybe it’s me but I didn’t think he was stalkerish at all. I’d love someone to stalk me like that
I thought it was disgusting, stalkerish, and about as heartwarming as listening to a pedophile talk about pre-schools.
@fullmetalbunny - I agree with FMB.
I thought it was heartwarming,and sad….
I now have to go shower to wash all that sweetness off.
I’m with Quells and DMV, really. But that shouldn’t be surprising.
ahhh
“Have you ever had someone look at you or listen to you as if you were the only person in the entire room, in the entire world? And how wonderful that makes you feel when u look back on it afterwards?”
I’m leaning more towards heart warming <3
i couldn’t read through the whole thing. it was very worship-y. and too much information for my tastes… mildly creeped out about how he had so many pictures to illustrate. i got bored halfway through, anyway.
heartwarming.
a lil of both i guess. I’ve learned for a fact however that the only thing begging does for your image, is make you seem like a desperate loser.
The blog was written in 2005…
Who digs in that that far into someones blog?
I thought it was very heartwarming, though I was also disappointed it didn’t work out for them. I don’t see it as stalkerish because the two had dated for quite a while. I personally would be honored if a guy went to those lengths to try to get me back.
it takes more than a blog to be stalkerish
@Abomeh -
yes but when he put her pet rabbit in the microwave . . .
@Drakonskyr - That comment made me laugh.
I think you just want a conclusion to the story and hope that it worked out in a positive light; however, that post is almost three years old. Though I didn’t rumage through his blog, I think it would have been very easy to find out if things didn’t work out, so if you’re still asking, either your lazy, they didn’t, or it’s a secret.
I too found it heartwarming. I suppose it’s only for the couple to decide.
I remember starting to read that post once before.
It freezes up my computer every time I go there, so I’m thinking that’s not a good sign.
I’m a stalker and it just reminded me of all those ones that got away and got me a little disgusted.
Move on already, they sure did. It’s sweet like a mouthful of antifreeze.
It was really sweet…
he really cared about her…
so i dont think it was stalkerish…
It’s the most beautiful blgo entry I’ve ever read.
@CallMeQuell - ”I found it ridiculous, saccharine, and superficial.”
But who doesn’t like chocolate!
It’s a heartwarming stalker story. =)
But seriously, I read some frivolity in the entry. The guy can’t seriously think his entry could sway “Christine” to return from abroad. He was sharing with us his broken heart.
If the entry represented a sincere, serious attempt at persuasion; then it is seriously stalky.
Initially, I read a few lines and thought, “ew what a weirdo.”
Then, a few days later, I saw that you and someone else had recommended it. I went back read the whole entire thing, and by the end, I had tears in my eyes. *sigh* I immediately wanted to get a divorce from my husband so that I, too, could perhaps have one of these written for me!
It was that beautiful.
@iamthebella - Yes, that was something I noticed, too. I wondered the same thing.
heartwarming; it was adorable.
it would be stalkerish if he didn’t know her…
I remember this post. Definitely heartwarming
Nice I suppose. Sort of puts her on a pedestal. I would find her annoyingly perfect I imagine.
I thought it was very cute and heart warming.
I didn’t really care much for it. Seemed a bit artificial to me – rather overdone. I would sooner say sweet than stalker, though.
Heart warming in a melancholy sort of way. As long as he got it out of his system in one post, I don’t view it as stalkerish. I don’t subscribe to the view that once you break up you need to forget those events as if they had never happened.
Now if he’d written about her every day for a month, that would be something else.
I thought it was a great post
I thought it was really sweet.
absolutely beautiful…
you’d have to be an idiot to think it was stalkerish… um i meant “realistic” not “idiot”. but how i confused those words with one another is beyond me.
if you want me to be a bit evil, cynical, and gung-ho, then it’s stalkerish alright! but reading it for what it truly was did more than warm my heart. it brought back that sense of idealism that there actually exists in this world, some guy who can openly declare his love to a woman without risking her virtue by turning off commenting.
but then you had to go pop that can wide open and let your site have all the comments pour in and the issue discussed when he just wanted to tell her what an angel she was in his life. clearly, he didn’t want to hear anyone say anything about it… especially something that might ruin his original intent or hurt his girl…
so thanks for opening the topic up! you should’ve just brought up the 107 year old lamp from yahoo’s feature page!
It was very heartwarming for me. Especially how he wished the reader well if I recall correctly.
heartwarming
Heartwarming. But I have never experienced “stalker” so I don’t really know the difference.
heartwarming =]
It was the most romantic thing I’ve ever read. Makes me glad we live in the web 2.0 age, where we get to read about these beautiful stories from people around the world right at the comfort of our own home.
I remember that one…I thought it was a nice tribute to her.
אם תרצו שהשכנים לא יראו מה אתם עושים בחצר זה אומר שחסר לכם <a href=”http://www.hasharon-awnings.co.il”>סוככיםa> בבית.
אם תרצו שהשכנים לא יראו מה אתם עושים בחצר זה אומר שחסר לכם <a href=”http://www.hasharon-awnings.co.il”>סוככיםa> בבית.
Its cute, but no amount of love can draw someone to like a person back.
I wish it weren’t that way
But it is.
אם תרצו שהשכנים לא יראו מה אתם עושים בחצר זה אומר שחסר לכם סוככים בבית.
I thought it was heart warming and so sweet.
mostly sweet, but some of it was a little weird….i mean why joke around so much when you are trying to be sincere?? but yeah…again, mostly sweet.
I always thought it was heartwarming. It’s a great post!
I cried. This is one of the most beautifully endearing, heartfelt and tender tributes to a person that I have ever read. Thanks for posting it.
heartwarming…. deffoz.
What a wonderful post. Makes you want to appreciate what you have or it will be GOE before you know it!
wow… how nice
It was beautiful of course. A little too sweet for me and too many pictures (i’m not that visual), but it’s hard to say it wasn’t a good post.
I think people too often confuse obsessive with stalkerish. They aren’t the same thing at all. We’re allowed to obsess sometimes. That alone doesn’t make you a stalker.
I’m leaning more towards warming.
i thought it was sweet. kind of ironic that he disabled comments on a post that got so much attention.
I think that’s sweet, actually. It would be stalkerish if he HADN’T been her boyfriend for three years. Like if he had snuck these pictures without her knowing, or gotten them from someone else. If he hadn’t actually had that sort of relationship with her then it would be really weird … o_o
heartwarming but too late
How sad. ;_;
Heart warming..
Aww that was sweet. :]
surely heart warming. they had a relationship, so unless he started saying that he was videotaping her doorway or staring at her every day from across the street, it’s safe to say that he’s simply a guy appreaciating a girl he loves/loved.
It was nice I suppose, but entirely too long and worshipful. Stalkerish wouldn’t be an appropriate way to describe it.
The first time I read it [it's been awhile so it's not like I just read it] I thought it was cute and heartwarming, yaddaddy yaddaddy. But now it does seem quite a bit stalker-ish.
MAD stalkerish.
most heart warming thing i have ever read.
it was….touching. but a tad bit worshipful.
that was heartwarming. heartfelt. comforting to read.
I think it is a bit of both.
Awww that was so sweet!!! I would love it if a guy wrote like that about ME!!
More heartbroken than anything. I felt bad for the guy.
I thought it was great. Very sweet.
It was alright, though I couldn’t shake the “writing assignment” feeling.
heartwarming. i thought in the end they would get back together..pretty sad
heart warming… it made me cry actually because guys never appreciate girls like us while they have us.. its only after do they realize what they have done
Heartwarming. Definately. You could tell that he was expressing genuine regret for not having seen how special she was while he had her.
The guy’s gotta take a hint and move on. Sweet starts to get sickening after a while….
i thought it was very sweet and saddd.
i dont think he even updates his xanga anymore!
i wonder if he knows that there is huge traffic on his page because of that post.
heartwarming, I’d say.
definitely heart-warming! chick flick movie material. haha
I thought it was perfect.
Plus, I am Taiwanese.
Even better!
I thought it was brilliant of him. For her to walk away from a guy so devoted though…it’s just plain wrong.
That made me smile =).
lol, UT Lambdas.
I posted my entry in the Xangan Idol 2 competition.
Here it is.
Please vote for me.
For the time being, I am worshiping all the judges. I’m sure God understands.
*offers unblemished heifer*
Thats amazingly adorable
I thought it was sweet..I think the only reason he learned so much was because he knew shewas gone for good. If she were to come back things might change. It’s hard to get out of a cycle of treating someone a certain way.
I’ll say it was merely interesting and creative and leave it at that…. What can I say? I’m a rebel and I like to be different…. set apart from the crowd….
Not “stalkerish” at all. I think it was beautiful (and I never say that about someone’s post). It makes me wish I knew the girl, myself.
I thought “That guy doesn’t deserve her.” Apparently she realizes that.
Hi Dan! I guess I should have enabled comments and you would have truly known how much I loved you… alas! Just kidding you know, right?
Hugs, Tricia
I didn’t find it stalkerish at all. That’s a bit critical. They dated for long enough where it’s kind of silly to suggest that.
I was definitely pulling for that Hollywood ending saying she took him back and they’re going to live happily ever after though. I don’t know how you could turn away from someone who took the time to do that!
Men: admitting you’re wrong is the best aphrodisiac
I don’t know why people would call that “stalker-ish.” They were together before and it’s not like he tracked her down to Taiwan and followed her everywhere. That post just seemed like his way to deliver his appreciation and regrets, both of which he wasn’t able to show very well when she was with him.
I think it was just right. He had funny jokes in-between seriousness.
Thanks for sharing!
i loved it (:
It was an amazing post. I think a movie for it should be in store.
@Southernlass - Given the hijacking of the music industry by emo artists a few years back, do you stand by your statement?
Also, I can’t read it. Something on his page caused my browser to crawl off and lick its wounds.
That’s moreso sweet in my eyes.
BTW- wanna cookie?
I thought it was very sweet. I also thought he did a very good job explaining love and loosing love and growing from it. Very nicely written!
i almost cried.
Heart-warming. Obviously, the guy just really misses her. I can relate. haha. People say there were to many pictures, but judging by the time they were together, I’d say they could’ve taken much more.
It was ok. I was expecting something more soulful, though.
@JimiRy - I have no idea how that relates to the post at hand?
It’s nice to know there are still some nice guys out there.
Maybe too nice, though.
Heart warming. : ) It made me smile, in that strange way.
It seemed more boring and dumb than anything to me.
I read it as highly boring and stupid. It didn’t warm my heart and it seemed only vaguely stalkerish.
I thought it was heartwarming and touching…. It was really sweet of him too. I wish he had enabled comments, because after reading it, I had so much I wanted to say. it was really adorable!
It can’t be stakerish at all… he’s just merely reflecting on precious memories of his truly unforgettable love.
Heartwarming. It was a beautiful post.
aww >_< it was so cute!
oh, definitely heartwarming. i didn’t find it stalkerish at all!
I read it as crap.
I hated it and was annoyed by the endless photos.
I thought it was incredibly heartwarming.
@Southernlass - Just that a very public outpouring of emotion for love lost might not be what the world needs. My comment was slightly in jest and doesn’t make a hell of a lot of sense, but that’s how I roll.
not creepy at all
heartBREAKing
I imagine if she truly loved him w/ a passion, she couldn’t just fly away and tell him to love someone else. It’s not his fault, that part. I hope he eventually realized that.
heart-warming
So long I didn’t even read the whole thing cuz I was so bored, but from what I did read: beginning= heartwarming; end=stalker
Poor guy… He does admit that he’s stuck in the past in this post and is going to try to move on from her. As for the picture thing, I couldn’t call it stalkerish in this case, because he isn’t chasing after her, trying to get more. He’s just going over the ones he already took. Sad, though.
id hate to cheer on prosperity, but korrea peni forever
that was way too cute, and i learned something from it too. im going to recommend it to my friends.
@princess_serenity07 -
“bsolutely beautiful…
you’d
have to be an idiot to think it was stalkerish… um i meant
“realistic” not “idiot”. but how i confused those words with
one another is beyond me.
if you want me to be a bit evil,
cynical, and gung-ho, then it’s stalkerish alright! but reading it for
what it truly was did more than warm my heart. it brought back that
sense of idealism that there actually exists in this world, some guy
who can openly declare his love to a woman without risking her virtue
by turning off commenting.
but then you had to go pop that
can wide open and let your site have all the comments pour in and the
issue discussed when he just wanted to tell her what an angel she was
in his life. clearly, he didn’t want to hear anyone say anything about
it… especially something that might ruin his original intent or hurt
his girl…
so thanks for opening the topic up! you should’ve just brought up the 107 year old lamp from yahoo’s feature page!”
What she said.
I didn’t think it was stalkerish. It wasn’t as though he was looking for her with it. I read it…. the whole thing…. as long as its sappiness dragged out…. and I liked it….
Heart warming. But when it’s over, it’s over…
@Lithium98 - thanks!
That post was heartwarming and sweet. i wish the ending was happier though.
- heart warming.
If I am recalling the post correctly, he didn’t post anything that would be out of the ordinary to know about an ex. I didn’t find it stalkerish–desperate maybe–but not stalkerish.
heartwarming indeed …everybody say awhhhh
I loved that post. I read it.
Twice.
And cried.
Twice.
It was beautiful and I’d be very honored if someone did that about me.
oh my goodness, that was amazingly sweet. now i’m all “awwww.” definitely heartwarming. <3
beyond heartwarming ! too bad he lost her. do we know if they got back together ?
aww… it was heartwarming. :]
I thought it was heartwarming but thought the amount of pictures made it a little much.
I thought it was heartwarming and sweet, but maybe not the best idea (just because I know that if I were Christine I wouldn’t want pictures of myself plastered up on a public site where hundreds of people saw them.)
sounded fake. Almost like a set up to gain attention. And It was also stalkerish
omg…..i loved it. i just LOVED it.
Pfft, I wish my boyfriend would do something like that without the whole breaking up and me leaving part.
He’s a catch, she should come back XD or he should go to her.
I looked at the rest of his journal and that’s really just the way he writes: LOTS of pictures. He has a post about his brother that’s similar.
Honestly, maybe I’m not as much a cynic as I’d like to be, because that post restored some of my faith in (males’) humanity.
@trunthepaige - Ha, well, maybe this time it’s actually no good, and not just my own impossibly high standards.
@huginn - I’d say chocolate’s the exception to the rule, but ridiculous, saccharine chocolate’s no good either.
i don’t know……..probably not stalkerish, anyway lol
Absolutely heart-warming. I didn’t read it until like a few weeks ago and had no idea it’d been written so long ago, but it’s definitely one of my favs
. I recommended it when I read it too.
This is the first time I’ve ever seen this post before and after I clicked onto the link, I found it romantically heartwarming.
I wished he went to singapore to show her how much she meant to him! def heart warming~
I think its from 2005, so its old..
It was matter of fact for me- from a stupid guy who lost a girl…..
@JimiRy - I find it quite heart warming for a man to show that he learned something from a relationship. Far too often it is the woman who displays the out pouring of her heart. It was refreshing to me to see a man do it for a change!
i felt heartbroken at the end lol
heartwarming!: ]
Stalker-ish!
It was definitely heart warming…but more importantly, a good reinforcement to those who need to realize (or remember) that one should not take for granted something so wonderful in their lives….and how love is supposed to really make you feel.
It was heartwarming. I wonder if he knows how widely read his post was/is? Wow. I wonder if Christine ever read it and thought about it? I dunno…wow. I don’t even know them but I’m curious. That was really sweet. It was funny, too. Not stalkerish at all…I think that would be the wrong word to use anyhow.
I think it’s a beautiful post.
heart warming but a day late and a dollar short…
I have to say that it touched my heart, if for no other reason than the fact that I can somewhat relate. A couple of years ago I met a girl on here named Jennifer. Never before had I met someone who seemed so perfectly wonderful for me. I mean, we seemed to be able to know what the other was thinking at times, and, it seemed as if we were both destined to go into full time ministry as missionaries (we are both Christians). Alas, she listened to some bad advice from friends (I presume) and went looking for love closer to home (She is in PA and I am in MI), and without so much as an I’m sorry or goodbye, she cut me out of her life. It still hurts. A lot. I had posted about this a couple of weeks ago on my page, it’s still on the front page I think. The hardest thing for me now is that I compare all girls to her, and none seem to be able to compare, she was that good…
I really loved her.
I remember reading this post. He needs to get over her. If she really loves him she would not leave and never come back for him. I don’t think she is sweet and innocent as he claim her to be.
some of you think its “disgusting” … “worship-y”… maybe you just dont comprehend that kind of attachment to someone else. I can say that I do, because I’ve experienced it before, so I know what it feels like, to an extent – for someone to be a part of your life so much that you’re not the same without them…
Seeing some of the ways he expressed his love for her… makes me wonder… i dunno. I don’t feel like I’m very good at things like that, and it disappoints me.
I think Christine has loved him no more, so if I were Christine, I would probably find it disturbing at all, especially after sooooo~ many people have read it.
Definitely heart-warming. I would absolutely be amazed and feel so loved and appreciated if I had anything like that written about me.
i honestly thought he was serious and loved her. it seemed like closeure for him.
Heartwarming.
I thought it was incredibly sweet!
“I thought that if he really felt that way, he should have gone over there and taken her back, because they obviously both still had feelings for the other.”
heart warming
it’s stalkerish if Christine thinks its stalkerish.
def. heart-warming~
That is a beautiful post!!!!!
No stalker, he sounds like many Korean guys who are in the west. They are unique.
Kind of cheesy at times, but cute.
I didn’t see it as stalkerish at all – it’s not like he even thinks she’s going to read it. And as for him having all those pics of her, hell they were together for 3 years… he probably had more. I see where he is coming from becasue I too had someone who treated me like she did him – and like him I was the selfish asshole who let her go. I’m not going to do a post about it or anything but I do feel his pain.
I don’t think it’s stalker-ish at all.
The people that think it’s stalker-ish…probably don’t have a good idea of the definition of stalker.
He loved her and messed up and regrets it now. Wishes he could go back and change things. Don’t we all experience that at some point? There is nothing wrong with reminiscing. Of course he has so many pictures of her…they did date after all.
another thought I meant to add: the pictures help make the post…wonderful. It would be borderline boring for me if not for the pictures to help illustrate.
heartwarming. That post was very sad, but he’s strong for learning from the past. I have much respect for him.
I thought it was sweet. I wanted someone to SEND it to her. Wouldn’t that bring anybody back?!?
I found it to be heartwarming in that he took the time to put that together.
@squeakysoul - it may have been heartwarming if he learned anything… after going on and on about how money never mattered to her, his big bid to win her back was…. a mattress full of money. nah, i didnt really find it heartwarming OR stalkerish, but i did think it was rather sad and pathetic.
@FreeeVerse - really? cause i got the impression she didnt think he was “worth” staying with.
<3warming
Heart warming. I feel sorry for him.
this is, by far, the gayest shit there is on Xanga. this homo needs to be laid.