yes but I think it’d be even better to share it with someone special
I would have a very difficult time living a fulfilled single life…
I respect those who can do it!
I don’t think so. I’m happy as a single now, but I’d love to get married and have children.
hell no. but why not.
I couldn’t
OMG! i can’t believe that i was the most coveted first comment spot on here. that never happens to me.
I’m turning the act of singleness into an art. Sharing isn’t bad but, come on, there’s so much to be had while single
i would have a horrible time being single, but i respect those that can. i am just not one of them–i love having a husband and i love sharing my life with him in every way. we are a pair.
solitude would be nice for a while….no lovers, no relationships but would miss my hubby ….he ‘gets me’
yea
I did before I got married at 34.I love being married but being single was good too.
If that was the case. Me and Pamela HANDerson would have to do a lot of “bonding.”
no. for a while i wanted nothing more than to be a career woman, living a single life and maybe have a fuckbuddy here and there… but after getting into a serious relationship and almost getting married, it made me realize how happy i COULD be. i’d love more than to have a man to squish my bugs, appreciate me for letting him drive in the carpool lane on the freeway, and gobble down all the fantastic food i cook for him. besides, i have serious baby fever and i couldn’t live my dream of becoming a mother without having a father for them by my side.
no
Single now is nice, but later on in life I would like to settle down. But I mean, I’m 19, so I’m not about to go looking for a boyfriend every second I have. I just got out of a serious relationship, I don’t need to constantly be held down. Whether you have more than one life, you might as well live this one up because you don’t know what the hell is going to happen. So I say yes and no. I could be happy being by myself for the rest of my life, but I would love to get married someday and MAYBE have kids.
but i’m not saying that if i were to be single for the rest of my life, i wouldn’t be happy. i’m happy single too, it just gets kinda lonely just loving yourself… LOL.
I’m single. I have a fuck buddy. I have friends. I’m a full time college student. That is all I need.
Uhm not really. :]
I’m learning to be alone, being single can be great but so lonely… especially with someone yo-yoing back and forth between being a significant other and a friend. I think its best to have either or, never put yourself in the middle. I dont know that I ever really want to trust someone enough to marry them also– how can one person be faithful to another person forever? I know even I would get restless at times, but I have a tremendous sense of loyalty. most men, don’t.
that’s just my opinion
I think I am perfectly capable of such a thing. However, I aso enjoy being in a relationship.
Yeah but I would prefer to have someone to share it with!
no, while it can be done and if I never find another person in my life, my life would still have meaning and I would be living happy and whatever… but I miss that comfortability you have w/ someone who knows you inside and out, who is your best friend and you lover…
No. I couldn’t imagine not sharing it with someone…
I’m almost 21, never been in a relationship; I could probably do it for the rest of my life.
Biologically, absolutely. But in my heart and soul, I cannot bear to be alone. I can endure solitude, but not pure loneliness. Though I am hoping to take a vow of chastity in August (God-willing!), it doesn’t mean I’ll be alone the rest of my life; I will have Jesus Christ as my constant companion. So in my heart and soul, where I can bear loneliness the least, I will always have the companionship of Christ. But as far as physical loneliness, I will normally have other people around, as those in my order generally live in community. But there will, I imagine, be those times when I am alone in a physical sense, and those are the times when I will most heavily rely on Christ to lift me out of my loneliness and into his fuller presence. I can’t wait!
I probably sound crazy, don’t I. *shrug*
Way too late to find out
i could live solo. no problem.
No. My heart’s desire is to have a family. So, while I COULD go through my life single, I wouldn’t be completely happy or feel fulfilled. I would be very lonely to boot.
I’m not the monotonous – I mean monogamous kind.
Maybe.
no…
Being single is good too.
No, I cannot live without intimacy. Intimate sex, that is.
How would anyone really know unless they tried?
I could if I hadn’t met someone I wanted to spend my life with. I was ready to live alone, or live with the knowledge that my relationships would eventually end. Now, I’m facing the idea of being with someone ’til death and all that.
I’m not sure which is scarier.
I don’t know. I hope so. I do think it is possible to live a happy and fulfilled life while being single. I would prefer not to have to try and do that, I really would like to share my life with someone. But if it’s not in the cards for me, then I guess I would have to do what I had to do to live a full, honest life. I could even have a small family of my own by adopting a kid (which I would like to do whether or not I wind up being single).
There are certain responsibilities that come with being cared for and caring another and those things are what propel us to be better human beings .I don’t think id be myself with out my other half .
No.
i don’t think i would be, i know that God provides in all aspects of our lives, and if i were to be single He would provide me with friends, family, etc.
But God has provided me with a loving fiance. =) so i guess He knows that i would have a difficult time of it.
Well, I’ve been single for over a year now and it’s nice at times but I could not see myself being single forever. I’m too needy and there is just no such thing as a no strings attached friends with benefits type thing so I would definitely need…no, make that want, someone to call my own and vice versa. I definitely don’t NEED to have a “better half” but it is nice to have someone there to love you no matter what.
kudos to those who can do it.
Yes and No. But hey, we have the same name so you should vote for me, yeah? Cool.
Maybe, but I’d probably make other people miserable while I’m at it.
No
and it is a rare person who is
Nope. I’d live my single-ness to the fullest, but I think I would need to be able to pamper and fawn over someone at some point =)
I don’t think so. I don’t know if it’s because I have someone or not, but I’ve been separated from my boyfriend for almost five months now. And I’m suffering because of it.
I could. Do I want to? Absolutely not. I feel like I have a lot of love to give, and I want to share it with one other person. I also want to have kids, and I could only do that if I was married.
No.
Nope, though I’ve never been the type of girl who NEEDS to be in a relationship to feel ‘happy’. It’d be different I’m sure if I never knew love, then I could probably go longer, but not for the rest of my life. However, since I do know love and have it I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
No
VOTE ANTISOCCERMOM! Cause its all about the drama.
i don’t think so.. whole life is just too miserable to spend alone.
i’m voting for bluemarsupial
Maybe I could, but I wouldn’t want to. Then maybe not hehe.
no. i want someone to share my life with. i suppose i could do it if i had to, but that would not be my choice.
No, though I have been all my life, I want someone to share my life with and build a family together.
Yes; in fact, I plan to do just that.
yep, I’m doing it (divorced once, widowed once) I have been alone for 3 years now (I am 34yo) I don’t see a mate completing my picture.lol. been there, done that!
I think it would be much harder to find another person that would actually make me feel “happy” and “fufilled.” I find relationships very stressful. More often people just want to own you or construct you into this image they have in their heads of their “perfect person.” If I found a person that would let me live my life, and appreciate me for who I am rather than who they think I could be, then I would totally love a relationship. But since that is unlikely, I’m much happier single. I really don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything.
No.
Hey, I’m doing it right now!
mybe, but i did like to shear with someone.
throughout the entirety of my life? yes, but i’m sure it would get lonely
most of the time
Eh. I expect I’ll always be frustrated with my singleness, but there is more to life.
actually,no. everyone needs someone to lean on at times.and be affectionate with.so no,i don’t think anyone could be completely 100% content with being single forever.
with that said. VOTE OURLASTKISSCOULDBETHEBEST! SHE’S AMAZING! =]
Yes, seems so.
No, I’m married, and I don’t plan on going single any time soon!
-Heidi
I’m sure there are people out there that are suited for the single life and all the freedoms it allows…. I just know that I am not one of them.
Casting a vote for BLUEMARSUPIAL! *does her best Simon impression* It would be absolutely atrocious if bluemarsupial didn’t win Xangan Idol!
I don’t know. I suck at relationships. But I guess I’m better at being single. But for the sake of expanding one’s own generation, I have to get married someday.
Yes. Simply because I’ve been living the single life for five years now and I’m doing fine!
To be honest, NO… but Im trying to…
No, Everyone longs for someone…They need someone to witness their life.
Bah humbug. Im not only complete and whole on my own, Im damn near perfect. Im a singular force of nature and god help the boy child who gets in my way. But of course, that attitude will never sell a whole bunch of books.
not me, it’s sad life much? anyway, i’m here to vote ME in for Xangan Idol. Please visit my site. thanks loads!
no. i absolutely dread the thought of not having someone there.
can’t stay single forever, i’d go mad probably
Btw I’m here rooting for maebemaebenot. Vote for her.
Yes..
I’m not sure that I could. Especially since I’ve met someone that has become such an integral part of my life.
I am 24, never had a girlfriend.
I think I would be able to fulfield my life being single and happy.
Yes, I think I could.
I’ve never had to try. But, I doubt it.
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Hello Dan! Happy Monday Morning!
i could easily be a hermit and enjoy it
however, im in an amazing relationship at the moment and would think id be lonely if i went back on that
After my husband of 22 years passed away, I was single for 7 years. I’d decided to be a single, and be happy about it at about 3 years. I was enjoying it- not looking for anyone- finding out who I was and what I liked. Quite by accident, I ran into a guy I thought was pretty cool in high school. We’ve been living together for about a year and a half now! He’s the bomb! I NEVER thought I’d be loved like this. Part of my heart really was empty. I sure couldn’t have bee convinced of that though! He makes me feel like I’m 16 again! The moral of this story- don’t seal your heart up to what could be out there for you!
i am pulling an all nighter again and got to go over your site real quick [i am becoming more and more of a habit to look u up and think of it.]
anyways, it is all depends on the person. my mom is single and she loves it, my friend is single and she is bearing with it, but not what she wanted. i have other people who are single bitching about wanting to have someone to love.
so it is all depends on the person.
after two so-called husbands, i think being single would be nice! i have been living like a single mom for almost a month and an half, i am starting to love it.
because every time my boyfriend comes in [ he is one of the so-called husband ] wakes up, he gets onto my case about this or that, put me down and lalala, whatever. my point is, i enjoyed raising kids ALONE in my own way, MY own term. MY OWN!
and i am growing a loving wonderful family.
because nobody is around to add any stress to my problems of trying to figure things out by myself.
and doesn’t that ever make u think of TWO WORLDS? lately that has been on my mind. if you wanna know what I am talking about, I have been writing about it for a few days on and off now.
not that I am trying to twist your arm and force your way to my site. [wink] lol…..
no. I can’t stand feeling single. It makes me feel unwanted
I have till now… and im doing just fine xo
ps. voting for MAEBEMAEBENOT
Maybe, but since I already know my other half, it’s hard to imagine.
Yes, and I did before I fell in love with my now husband
Not really ever having had a “significant other” in my life, I don’t think that this is a question I can simply answer, as I can’t compare life being single to life being a part of a relationship.
living whole isn’t complete without a better half..
Yes….but I think I’d be happier in a life shared with someone special
Not really, I’d never find my socks in the morning.
No. i can’t do it coz i think everyone needs love… whatever, it is always good to have someone to share your life!: )
One needs to be happy on his or her own before finding happiness with a better half.
yes
“No, I’ve met my other half.”
Truth being told, even God said, “it is not good for man to be alone.”
I could not picture myself not sharing my life with the man I love. However, some people do find that the single life is for them…and they still share their lives with friends, relatives and those they love.
Maybe, but I’m a really happy and fulfilled married Mommy!
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I love being in a relationship, but I would be happy no matter what.
I think so. I’ve been doing it for a while anyway. I’m not sure if I want to do it forever, but I definitely think I could. I’m pretty independent, and I think it’s very important to be able to exist as a single person. How would I know who I was if I couldn’t function happily on my own?
I AM living a fulfilled and happy life single. Someday I hope to live a fulfilled and happy life married. But I don’t think whether or not you are in a relationship should be the determining factor in whether you are fulfilled and happy.
Been doing it. Would prefer a mate though. Peace.
Yes, if everyone else would just leave me alone about it.
i’ve been single for long stretches of time and it just doesn’t make up for the fun you have sharing life with someone else. i guess that puts me in the ‘no’ column.
Most of the time, yes. But right now, I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that the person I was seeing treated me very badly when I was going through a difficult time and the person I became interested in shortly afterwards is seeing someone else and pretty serious about her. To be honest, it was easier before I knew what the physical side of a relationship is like. Once you’ve had it, it’s hard to do without.
sometimes I think I would be better off single. There is so much more to being married then just sharing your life with someone and haveing someone else around. Its like there is some kind of unwritten rules that married people have to help single people get hitched. All the while wishing they themselves were single again.
Don’t get me wront… I love my wife and kids. I am only saying this becuase there is a falacy that being married will solve all you single problems These problems include, lonlieness, sex, money, and friendships. Make sure you really are ready.
Not me personally. Double clicking the mouse gets old real quick…Well, you know that, and missing emotional intimacy etc etc.
nope. marriage is 50 percent of my religion.
I would like to believe that I could…
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I think you can, I don’t think anyone necessarily “needs” another in order to be happy. You can achieve your goals and dreams by yourself, it’s just a very nice plus when you have someone to come home to at the end of the day.
You ask this like I have a choice.
Nay. Otherwise you’d still just have half of the whole.
btw, I’d like to vote for mae.
Oh yes I am. I look forward to single days again. (But I will miss my husband.)
of course i can, all i need is God and a purpose to live
methodElevated FTW, she’s ass kicking.
@Endowedbythecreator - Something I was wondering about. With a name like yours, I’m going to take a wild guess and assume you’re part of the Christian religion. So why do so many Christians focus so much on marriage when Jesus, who founded the religion, never married, and neither did the Apostle Paul, who is another key figure?
I’m sure we should all “learn the secret of being content in every circumstance.”. . But I like being married. Papa Bear thought I was unromantic, when I asked if he’d remarry, if I died. Or actually, he thought I was unromantic when I said I thought I would remarry. ;)
Hey you should ask your readers that question. . .the married ones anyway. “If your spouse died, do you think you’d get married again?”
I could if I didn’t already have a guy in my life. Now that he’s here…I wouldn’t want to live without him. But if he hadn’t found me…living single would have been just fine. (Though maybe not forever)
I am at the moment. But I’d like to get married someday.
Yes, absolutely.
I love my boyfriend, and I love being in long-term committed relationships. I like many things that can only be done with a long-term partner – cuddling, sharing everything (information and material goods), sex, sharing bills, living together, and having someone to always fall back on.
However, when I’m not in a relationship, I’m generally fine. I occasionally miss being held, and I often miss sex, but those are not essential parts of my life. I can be just as happy single as I can be in a relationship. BUT if single, I need a best friend, to be the person I call with big news, etc.
@Anothermadhousewife - That would be a really hard question to answer, particularly for someone who isn’t married. I think that makes it a good question for people to think about. I’m kind of curious about a similar question: “if your spouse was permanently incapacitated (mentally and physically) and you could no longer communicate with him/her, would you want a divorce?”
It’d be lonely, but I probably could–right now, I’m trying to figure out how to balance a husband and family while becoming a physician. If the family and husband weren’t in the picture, I could live an incredible life without concerning myself with what someone else needs and time apart if I’m away on business, etc. It’d be mostly self serving, but I think if I was single, my career (and a cat or two) would try to fill that void.
But I want kids! Like, four of them. So in the end, I probably couldn’t live completely happily single.
Dantheman, I wote for FMB and antisoccermom
Definitely, no question about it.
I am married and I think I can be just as happy single if not happier…marriage is damn hard work!!!!
being single is for a few. being single should be recommended for many; including being forbidden to breed. but we still live in a free country, i guess. so we end up dating the screwballs with the prince/princess charmings….who think they are good couple material, when they are so obviously not.
I’m single now, and I’m the happiest overall that I’ve ever been (besides missing my college buddies like crazy).
For me, God has filled whatever spaces I have inside and has made me complete. As long as I keep up my relationship with God, what else do I really need? I am considering my vocation, and when it comes time to really make a decision, it will be a hard one–married life, single life, and religious life all seem pretty cool.
Definitely not.
I could never be happy without someone to love.
NO!!
in my college days i was never worried about being single. the thought tat i am single never bothered me. but now, since i am ready for a relationship -at least i think i am- the whole idea that i am single is weighing on me like a hundred pound monster!! ..its horrible …being so fucking alone in this big city ..watching couples n family …aaarrrrrgghhhh!!
I hope so. I’m perpetually single, to the point where people mistakenly think that I’m a lesbian. I’m not sure if I’m “fulfilled”, but I am frequently happy.
Yeah
@EccentricSiren - Well that was a good guess i suspose, but i am a Muslim. And marriage is prescribed for us by Allah through his Messenger. However I will still offer what i think, regarding your question. But first i want to mention that Jesus did not found any religion, his followers labeled his teachings christianity. Jesus was a reformer of the Mosaic faith – chastening the children of israel to turn back to the worship of one God and to keep his commandments. Now Paul’s choice to not be married was a personal one, he explained in corinthians his view that those who are not married can focus and devote their lives more to the service of God than those who are. Notice these words of paul: “Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband”. The Prophet said something similar to what Paul said, saying whoever can marry should because it helps them to lower his gaze and guard his modesty. Now with Jesus, I personally dont believe he didn’t marry, because it was custom for Jewish males his age to marry – though the christians maintain his (and mary’s) perpeutual chastity.
I don’t know. I’m not doing it now. I’m not saying that I need someone to be happy, but I am saying that I could be happier with someone in my life. And presently that is holding me back.
And I expect to be single for quite some time, so I guess I should just get over it and be happy.
NOOOOOOOO
Shrek needs Fiona …
No, I don’t think so. My life would always feel somewhat empty.
Yes
yes and no
yes b/c i like to be alone
no b/c it gets lonely
After being married for a while now, I would find it very hard to make the transition back to being single. With a child on the way though, If something were to ever happen to my wife, I believe I could stay single for the sake of the child. I know it sounds twisted? But honestly I don’t know if I could ever meet a woman who would be a better mother or even one that will do just as well for the sake of the child. So if circumstances dictate that I need to lead a single life, then I will do so and still be productive and happy,
No. I think I would cry myself to sleep many nights that way. Or I can get myself tired enough every night and fall asleep at the desk.
honestly, yes. but there are things i couldn’t have if i was single, like a child. so i plan on doing my own thing and getting my goals accomplished before settling down. i have always had a “single” midset, as I am an independent person.
So basically, i tend to be unhappy both single and in a relationship, because I want what I can’t have.
I’m “single again” after being married 11 years and now widowed. I would much rather be happily married than alone.
Maybe.
Yes. Being single is awesome. Absolute freedom.
I’m happy regardless of relationship status
That being said, I fully intend one day on roping somebody into marrying me
yes. before i was married, i did just this and did perfectly fine. i do prefer sharing my life with someone else, though i could absolutely enjoy life if i weren’t sharing it with someone else.
Of course I can. Women out number men almost 2 to 1 so it stands to reason at least half the women in the world are going to be single. What a miserable world this would be if a woman could not be happy alone. If you can’t be happy alone with yourself then you can never be truly happy with someone else.
I think so
I certainly don’t mind the single life. But I love having someone too. They both have their ups and downs.
@Endowedbythecreator - Thanks for your answer. I hope you will not be offended that I guessed the wrong religion for you. So is it Muslim teaching that everyone must marry? You don’t have people who don’t marry in order to dedicate their lives to Allah? I guess I don’t really know alot about Islam, except that people worship Allah and Mohammed was his messenger and wrote the Koran.
Hell no. I’ve got my biological and sociological needs to take care of! -David
I’ve been alone for nineteen years, what is another fifty?
@EccentricSiren - Oh i’m not offended at all. My mother and brothers are christians. Yes, marriage is a religious duty according to the Prophet. The primary signficance is to build families, as families are the foundation of civlizations. You can’t have a strong nation without a strong family. The secondary significance is emotional and physical gratification. It is an outlet for sexual expression, if you will, and regulation - so that one does not become a slave to his/her desires. There is no such thing as celibacy (as apparently paul was practicing) in Islam. The dedication to Allah, thus, is perfected and complete when you have a companion with whom you both work together in dedication and service to Allah – since man and woman are natural counterparts and compliment each other perfectly.
plainly said: No
I can’t stand relationships… some people are just better single =) ~M.E.
It is worth a thought …
I hope not… ha ha
yes if that’s all you know.
it just depends on the person…
not everyone should be single… thats for sure.
no. my parents always make the comment to me (since I’m still single and will be for a while) – “Who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” You eventually end up being in the minority of single people as you get older,
Hell no.
I need my Gavin! lol
i don’t know. i’ve never been with a boy before.
Maybe for some, maybe not… But I sure can’t imagine myself being single in the decades ahead. I have to have that special guy in my life next to me…
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yes
Yes.
yes but I think it’d be even better to share it with someone special
I would have a very difficult time living a fulfilled single life…
I respect those who can do it!
I don’t think so. I’m happy as a single now, but I’d love to get married and have children.
hell no. but why not.
I couldn’t
OMG! i can’t believe that i was the most coveted first comment spot on here. that never happens to me.
I’m turning the act of singleness into an art. Sharing isn’t bad but, come on, there’s so much to be had while single
i would have a horrible time being single, but i respect those that can. i am just not one of them–i love having a husband and i love sharing my life with him in every way. we are a pair.
solitude would be nice for a while….no lovers, no relationships but would miss my hubby ….he ‘gets me’
yea
I did before I got married at 34.I love being married but being single was good too.
If that was the case. Me and Pamela HANDerson would have to do a lot of “bonding.”
no. for a while i wanted nothing more than to be a career woman, living a single life and maybe have a fuckbuddy here and there… but after getting into a serious relationship and almost getting married, it made me realize how happy i COULD be. i’d love more than to have a man to squish my bugs, appreciate me for letting him drive in the carpool lane on the freeway, and gobble down all the fantastic food i cook for him. besides, i have serious baby fever and i couldn’t live my dream of becoming a mother without having a father for them by my side.
no
Single now is nice, but later on in life I would like to settle down. But I mean, I’m 19, so I’m not about to go looking for a boyfriend every second I have. I just got out of a serious relationship, I don’t need to constantly be held down. Whether you have more than one life, you might as well live this one up because you don’t know what the hell is going to happen. So I say yes and no. I could be happy being by myself for the rest of my life, but I would love to get married someday and MAYBE have kids.
but i’m not saying that if i were to be single for the rest of my life, i wouldn’t be happy. i’m happy single too, it just gets kinda lonely just loving yourself… LOL.
I’m single. I have a fuck buddy. I have friends. I’m a full time college student. That is all I need.
Uhm not really. :]
I’m learning to be alone, being single can be great but so lonely… especially with someone yo-yoing back and forth between being a significant other and a friend. I think its best to have either or, never put yourself in the middle. I dont know that I ever really want to trust someone enough to marry them also– how can one person be faithful to another person forever? I know even I would get restless at times, but I have a tremendous sense of loyalty. most men, don’t.
that’s just my opinion
I think I am perfectly capable of such a thing. However, I aso enjoy being in a relationship.
Yeah but I would prefer to have someone to share it with!
no, while it can be done and if I never find another person in my life, my life would still have meaning and I would be living happy and whatever… but I miss that comfortability you have w/ someone who knows you inside and out, who is your best friend and you lover…
No. I couldn’t imagine not sharing it with someone…
I’m almost 21, never been in a relationship; I could probably do it for the rest of my life.
Biologically, absolutely. But in my heart and soul, I cannot bear to be alone. I can endure solitude, but not pure loneliness. Though I am hoping to take a vow of chastity in August (God-willing!), it doesn’t mean I’ll be alone the rest of my life; I will have Jesus Christ as my constant companion. So in my heart and soul, where I can bear loneliness the least, I will always have the companionship of Christ. But as far as physical loneliness, I will normally have other people around, as those in my order generally live in community. But there will, I imagine, be those times when I am alone in a physical sense, and those are the times when I will most heavily rely on Christ to lift me out of my loneliness and into his fuller presence. I can’t wait!
I probably sound crazy, don’t I. *shrug*
Way too late to find out
i could live solo. no problem.
No. My heart’s desire is to have a family. So, while I COULD go through my life single, I wouldn’t be completely happy or feel fulfilled. I would be very lonely to boot.
I’m not the monotonous – I mean monogamous kind.
Maybe.
no…
Being single is good too.
No, I cannot live without intimacy.
Intimate sex, that is.
How would anyone really know unless they tried?
I could if I hadn’t met someone I wanted to spend my life with. I was ready to live alone, or live with the knowledge that my relationships would eventually end. Now, I’m facing the idea of being with someone ’til death and all that.
I’m not sure which is scarier.
I don’t know. I hope so. I do think it is possible to live a happy and fulfilled life while being single. I would prefer not to have to try and do that, I really would like to share my life with someone. But if it’s not in the cards for me, then I guess I would have to do what I had to do to live a full, honest life. I could even have a small family of my own by adopting a kid (which I would like to do whether or not I wind up being single).
There are certain responsibilities that come with being cared for and caring another and those things are what propel us to be better human beings .I don’t think id be myself with out my other half .
No.
i don’t think i would be, i know that God provides in all aspects of our lives, and if i were to be single He would provide me with friends, family, etc.
But God has provided me with a loving fiance. =) so i guess He knows that i would have a difficult time of it.
Well, I’ve been single for over a year now and it’s nice at times but I could not see myself being single forever. I’m too needy and there is just no such thing as a no strings attached friends with benefits type thing so I would definitely need…no, make that want, someone to call my own and vice versa. I definitely don’t NEED to have a “better half” but it is nice to have someone there to love you no matter what.
kudos to those who can do it.
Yes and No. But hey, we have the same name so you should vote for me, yeah? Cool.
Maybe, but I’d probably make other people miserable while I’m at it.
No
and it is a rare person who is
Nope. I’d live my single-ness to the fullest, but I think I would need to be able to pamper and fawn over someone at some point =)
I don’t think so. I don’t know if it’s because I have someone or not, but I’ve been separated from my boyfriend for almost five months now. And I’m suffering because of it.
I could. Do I want to? Absolutely not. I feel like I have a lot of love to give, and I want to share it with one other person. I also want to have kids, and I could only do that if I was married.
No.
Nope, though I’ve never been the type of girl who NEEDS to be in a
relationship to feel ‘happy’. It’d be different I’m sure if I never
knew love, then I could probably go longer, but not for the rest of my
life. However, since I do know love and have it I wouldn’t trade it for
the world.
No
VOTE ANTISOCCERMOM! Cause its all about the drama.
i don’t think so.. whole life is just too miserable to spend alone.
i’m voting for bluemarsupial
Maybe I could, but I wouldn’t want to. Then maybe not hehe.
no. i want someone to share my life with. i suppose i could do it if i had to, but that would not be my choice.
No, though I have been all my life, I want someone to share my life with and build a family together.
Yes; in fact, I plan to do just that.
yep, I’m doing it (divorced once, widowed once) I have been alone for 3 years now (I am 34yo) I don’t see a mate completing my picture.lol. been there, done that!
I think it would be much harder to find another person that would actually make me feel “happy” and “fufilled.” I find relationships very stressful. More often people just want to own you or construct you into this image they have in their heads of their “perfect person.” If I found a person that would let me live my life, and appreciate me for who I am rather than who they think I could be, then I would totally love a relationship. But since that is unlikely, I’m much happier single. I really don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything.
No.
Hey, I’m doing it right now!
mybe, but i did like to shear with someone.
throughout the entirety of my life? yes, but i’m sure it would get lonely
most of the time
Eh. I expect I’ll always be frustrated with my singleness, but there is more to life.
actually,no.
everyone needs someone to lean on at times.and be affectionate with.so no,i don’t think anyone could be completely 100% content with being single forever.
with that said.
VOTE OURLASTKISSCOULDBETHEBEST!
SHE’S AMAZING!
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Yes, seems so.
No, I’m married, and I don’t plan on going single any time soon!
-Heidi
I’m sure there are people out there that are suited for the single life and all the freedoms it allows…. I just know that I am not one of them.
Casting a vote for BLUEMARSUPIAL! *does her best Simon impression* It would be absolutely atrocious if bluemarsupial didn’t win Xangan Idol!
I don’t know. I suck at relationships. But I guess I’m better at being single. But for the sake of expanding one’s own generation, I have to get married someday.
Yes. Simply because I’ve been living the single life for five years now and I’m doing fine!
To be honest, NO… but Im trying to…
No, Everyone longs for someone…They need someone to witness their life.
Bah humbug. Im not only complete and whole on my own, Im damn near perfect. Im a singular force of nature and god help the boy child who gets in my way. But of course, that attitude will never sell a whole bunch of books.
not me, it’s sad life much? anyway, i’m here to vote ME in for Xangan Idol. Please visit my site. thanks loads!
no. i absolutely dread the thought of not having someone there.
can’t stay single forever, i’d go mad probably
Btw I’m here rooting for maebemaebenot. Vote for her.
Yes..
I’m not sure that I could. Especially since I’ve met someone that has become such an integral part of my life.
I am 24, never had a girlfriend.
I think I would be able to fulfield my life being single and happy.
Yes, I think I could.
I’ve never had to try. But, I doubt it.
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Hello Dan! Happy Monday Morning!
i could easily be a hermit and enjoy it
however, im in an amazing relationship at the moment and would think id be lonely if i went back on that
After my husband of 22 years passed away, I was single for 7 years. I’d decided to be a single, and be happy about it at about 3 years. I was enjoying it- not looking for anyone- finding out who I was and what I liked. Quite by accident, I ran into a guy I thought was pretty cool in high school. We’ve been living together for about a year and a half now! He’s the bomb! I NEVER thought I’d be loved like this. Part of my heart really was empty. I sure couldn’t have bee convinced of that though! He makes me feel like I’m 16 again! The moral of this story- don’t seal your heart up to what could be out there for you!
i am pulling an all nighter again and got to go over your site real quick [i am becoming more and more of a habit to look u up and think of it.]
anyways, it is all depends on the person. my mom is single and she loves it, my friend is single and she is bearing with it, but not what she wanted. i have other people who are single bitching about wanting to have someone to love.
so it is all depends on the person.
after two so-called husbands, i think being single would be nice! i have been living like a single mom for almost a month and an half, i am starting to love it.
because every time my boyfriend comes in [ he is one of the so-called husband ] wakes up, he gets onto my case about this or that, put me down and lalala, whatever. my point is, i enjoyed raising kids ALONE in my own way, MY own term. MY OWN!
and i am growing a loving wonderful family.
because nobody is around to add any stress to my problems of trying to figure things out by myself.
and doesn’t that ever make u think of TWO WORLDS? lately that has been on my mind. if you wanna know what I am talking about, I have been writing about it for a few days on and off now.
not that I am trying to twist your arm and force your way to my site. [wink] lol…..
no. I can’t stand feeling single. It makes me feel unwanted
I have till now… and im doing just fine
xo
ps. voting for MAEBEMAEBENOT
Maybe, but since I already know my other half, it’s hard to imagine.
Yes, and I did before I fell in love with my now husband
Not really ever having had a “significant other” in my life, I don’t think that this is a question I can simply answer, as I can’t compare life being single to life being a part of a relationship.
living whole isn’t complete without a better half..
Yes….but I think I’d be happier in a life shared with someone special
Not really, I’d never find my socks in the morning.
No. i can’t do it coz i think everyone needs love… whatever, it is always good to have someone to share your life!: )
One needs to be happy on his or her own before finding happiness with a better half.
yes
“No, I’ve met my other half.”
Truth being told, even God said, “it is not good for man to be alone.”
I could not picture myself not sharing my life with the man I love. However, some people do find that the single life is for them…and they still share their lives with friends, relatives and those they love.
Maybe, but I’m a really happy and fulfilled married Mommy!
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I love being in a relationship, but I would be happy no matter what.
I think so. I’ve been doing it for a while anyway. I’m not sure if I want to do it forever, but I definitely think I could. I’m pretty independent, and I think it’s very important to be able to exist as a single person. How would I know who I was if I couldn’t function happily on my own?
I AM living a fulfilled and happy life single. Someday I hope to live a fulfilled and happy life married. But I don’t think whether or not you are in a relationship should be the determining factor in whether you are fulfilled and happy.
Been doing it. Would prefer a mate though. Peace.
Yes, if everyone else would just leave me alone about it.
i’ve been single for long stretches of time and it just doesn’t make up for the fun you have sharing life with someone else. i guess that puts me in the ‘no’ column.
Most of the time, yes. But right now, I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that the person I was seeing treated me very badly when I was going through a difficult time and the person I became interested in shortly afterwards is seeing someone else and pretty serious about her.
To be honest, it was easier before I knew what the physical side of a relationship is like. Once you’ve had it, it’s hard to do without.
sometimes I think I would be better off single. There is so much more to being married then just sharing your life with someone and haveing someone else around. Its like there is some kind of unwritten rules that married people have to help single people get hitched. All the while wishing they themselves were single again.
Don’t get me wront… I love my wife and kids. I am only saying this becuase there is a falacy that being married will solve all you single problems These problems include, lonlieness, sex, money, and friendships. Make sure you really are ready.
Not me personally. Double clicking the mouse gets old real quick…Well, you know that, and missing emotional intimacy etc etc.
nope. marriage is 50 percent of my religion.
I would like to believe that I could…
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I think you can, I don’t think anyone necessarily “needs” another in order to be happy. You can achieve your goals and dreams by yourself, it’s just a very nice plus when you have someone to come home to at the end of the day.
You ask this like I have a choice.
Nay. Otherwise you’d still just have half of the whole.
btw, I’d like to vote for mae.
Oh yes I am. I look forward to single days again. (But I will miss my husband.)
of course i can, all i need is God and a purpose to live
methodElevated FTW, she’s ass kicking.
@Endowedbythecreator - Something I was wondering about. With a name like yours, I’m going to take a wild guess and assume you’re part of the Christian religion. So why do so many Christians focus so much on marriage when Jesus, who founded the religion, never married, and neither did the Apostle Paul, who is another key figure?
I’m sure we should all “learn the secret of being content in every circumstance.”. . But I like being married. Papa Bear thought I was unromantic, when I asked if he’d remarry, if I died. Or actually, he thought I was unromantic when I said I thought I would remarry. ;)
Hey you should ask your readers that question. . .the married ones anyway. “If your spouse died, do you think you’d get married again?”
I could if I didn’t already have a guy in my life. Now that he’s here…I wouldn’t want to live without him. But if he hadn’t found me…living single would have been just fine. (Though maybe not forever)
I am at the moment. But I’d like to get married someday.
Yes, absolutely.
I love my boyfriend, and I love being in long-term committed relationships. I like many things that can only be done with a long-term partner – cuddling, sharing everything (information and material goods), sex, sharing bills, living together, and having someone to always fall back on.
However, when I’m not in a relationship, I’m generally fine. I occasionally miss being held, and I often miss sex, but those are not essential parts of my life. I can be just as happy single as I can be in a relationship. BUT if single, I need a best friend, to be the person I call with big news, etc.
@Anothermadhousewife - That would be a really hard question to answer, particularly for someone who isn’t married. I think that makes it a good question for people to think about. I’m kind of curious about a similar question: “if your spouse was permanently incapacitated (mentally and physically) and you could no longer communicate with him/her, would you want a divorce?”
It’d be lonely, but I probably could–right now, I’m trying to figure out how to balance a husband and family while becoming a physician. If the family and husband weren’t in the picture, I could live an incredible life without concerning myself with what someone else needs and time apart if I’m away on business, etc. It’d be mostly self serving, but I think if I was single, my career (and a cat or two) would try to fill that void.
But I want kids! Like, four of them. So in the end, I probably couldn’t live completely happily single.
Dantheman, I wote for FMB and antisoccermom
Definitely, no question about it.
I am married and I think I can be just as happy single if not happier…marriage is damn hard work!!!!
being single is for a few. being single should be recommended for many; including being forbidden to breed. but we still live in a free country, i guess. so we end up dating the screwballs with the prince/princess charmings….who think they are good couple material, when they are so obviously not.
I’m single now, and I’m the happiest overall that I’ve ever been (besides missing my college buddies like crazy).
For me, God has filled whatever spaces I have inside and has made me complete. As long as I keep up my relationship with God, what else do I really need? I am considering my vocation, and when it comes time to really make a decision, it will be a hard one–married life, single life, and religious life all seem pretty cool.
Definitely not.
I could never be happy without someone to love.
NO!!
in my college days i was never worried about being single. the thought tat i am single never bothered me. but now, since i am ready for a relationship -at least i think i am- the whole idea that i am single is weighing on me like a hundred pound monster!! ..its horrible …being so fucking alone in this big city ..watching couples n family …aaarrrrrgghhhh!!
I hope so. I’m perpetually single, to the point where people mistakenly think that I’m a lesbian. I’m not sure if I’m “fulfilled”, but I am frequently happy.
Yeah
@EccentricSiren - Well that was a good guess i suspose, but i am a Muslim. And marriage is prescribed for us by Allah through his Messenger. However I will still offer what i think, regarding your question. But first i want to mention that Jesus did not found any religion, his followers labeled his teachings christianity. Jesus was a reformer of the Mosaic faith – chastening the children of israel to turn back to the worship of one God and to keep his commandments. Now Paul’s choice to not be married was a personal one, he explained in corinthians his view that those who are not married can focus and devote their lives more to the service of God than those who are. Notice these words of paul: “Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband”. The Prophet said something similar to what Paul said, saying whoever can marry should because it helps them to lower his gaze and guard his modesty. Now with Jesus, I personally dont believe he didn’t marry, because it was custom for Jewish males his age to marry – though the christians maintain his (and mary’s) perpeutual chastity.
I don’t know. I’m not doing it now. I’m not saying that I need someone to be happy, but I am saying that I could be happier with someone in my life. And presently that is holding me back.
And I expect to be single for quite some time, so I guess I should just get over it and be happy.
NOOOOOOOO
Shrek needs Fiona …
No, I don’t think so. My life would always feel somewhat empty.
Yes
yes and no
yes b/c i like to be alone
no b/c it gets lonely
After being married for a while now, I would find it very hard to make the transition back to being single. With a child on the way though, If something were to ever happen to my wife, I believe I could stay single for the sake of the child. I know it sounds twisted? But honestly I don’t know if I could ever meet a woman who would be a better mother or even one that will do just as well for the sake of the child. So if circumstances dictate that I need to lead a single life, then I will do so and still be productive and happy,
No. I think I would cry myself to sleep many nights that way. Or I can get myself tired enough every night and fall asleep at the desk.
honestly, yes. but there are things i couldn’t have if i was single, like a child. so i plan on doing my own thing and getting my goals accomplished before settling down. i have always had a “single” midset, as I am an independent person.
So basically, i tend to be unhappy both single and in a relationship, because I want what I can’t have.
I’m “single again” after being married 11 years and now widowed. I would much rather be happily married than alone.
Maybe.
Yes. Being single is awesome. Absolute freedom.
I’m happy regardless of relationship status
That being said, I fully intend one day on roping somebody into marrying me
yes. before i was married, i did just this and did perfectly fine. i do prefer sharing my life with someone else, though i could absolutely enjoy life if i weren’t sharing it with someone else.
Of course I can. Women out number men almost 2 to 1 so it stands to reason at least half the women in the world are going to be single. What a miserable world this would be if a woman could not be happy alone. If you can’t be happy alone with yourself then you can never be truly happy with someone else.
I think so
I certainly don’t mind the single life.
But I love having someone too.
They both have their ups and downs.
@Endowedbythecreator - Thanks for your answer. I hope you will not be offended that I guessed the wrong religion for you. So is it Muslim teaching that everyone must marry? You don’t have people who don’t marry in order to dedicate their lives to Allah? I guess I don’t really know alot about Islam, except that people worship Allah and Mohammed was his messenger and wrote the Koran.
Hell no. I’ve got my biological and sociological needs to take care of!
-David
I’ve been alone for nineteen years, what is another fifty?
@EccentricSiren - Oh i’m not offended at all. My mother and brothers are christians. Yes, marriage is a religious duty according to the Prophet. The primary signficance is to build families, as families are the foundation of civlizations. You can’t have a strong nation without a strong family. The secondary significance is emotional and physical gratification. It is an outlet for sexual expression, if you will, and regulation - so that one does not become a slave to his/her desires. There is no such thing as celibacy (as apparently paul was practicing) in Islam. The dedication to Allah, thus, is perfected and complete when you have a companion with whom you both work together in dedication and service to Allah – since man and woman are natural counterparts and compliment each other perfectly.
plainly said: No
I can’t stand relationships… some people are just better single =)
~M.E.
It is worth a thought …
I hope not… ha ha
yes if that’s all you know.
it just depends on the person…
not everyone should be single… thats for sure.
no. my parents always make the comment to me (since I’m still single and will be for a while) – “Who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” You eventually end up being in the minority of single people as you get older,
Hell no.
I need my Gavin! lol
i don’t know. i’ve never been with a boy before.
Maybe for some, maybe not… But I sure can’t imagine myself being single in the decades ahead. I have to have that special guy in my life next to me…
Definitely.
no