June 21, 2008
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Why I Would Not Make It as A Gay Man
Have you ever wondered what an IM conversation would sound like between Cakalusa and thetheologianscafe?
Here is our conversation on IM tonight. I edited it to take out things that were not important to the conversation. I reprinted this with Cakalusa’s permission.
thetheologianscafe (7:43:13 PM) : Do you have a shirtless pic?cakalusa (7:43:47 PM) : i do, but what is this picture for?thetheologianscafe (7:43:57 PM) : I am just going to play fairthetheologianscafe (7:44:04 PM) : I am going to post the guys of xanga on my sitethetheologianscafe (7:44:12 PM) : Because I posted the womenthetheologianscafe (7:44:46 PM) : The women will love it
cakalusa (7:45:36 PM) : i
dont think i have a topless pic of me…and i dont think i can take one
for the next 72 hours as my skin is peeling. i’ll check later when i’m
home though.thetheologianscafe (7:45:48 PM) : okthetheologianscafe (7:45:52 PM) : thanksthetheologianscafe (7:46:00 PM) : Peeling is finecakalusa (7:46:07 PM) : mmmm, nawthetheologianscafe (7:46:13 PM) : that sounds like a woman excusethetheologianscafe (7:46:15 PM) : hhaacakalusa (7:46:16 PM) :
i like skin..normalcakalusa (7:46:20 PM) : hathetheologianscafe (7:46:21 PM) : oddlythetheologianscafe (7:46:30 PM) : It was harder to ask you than the hot womenDrakonskyr put in a photo:
This is another guy on xanga but I didn’t get permission to use his site name:
The above photo is of eadie
The above photo is TJ187
Cakalusa sent us this photo from above. He made a comment about him peeling but everyone has had that happen when our skin gets burned. Special thanks to Cakalusa for sending us the pic.
The above person is GhostBenjimon
The above is danteCARAX
The above person is Rantastical
The above photo is Chinkzilla
The above photo is Mcon
The above photo is BaldMike
The above photo is happenstance8
The above photo is theblackspiderman
We will be adding men photos. I will delete any comments that are not positive.
Click the link and then click the link at the link:
Do you think it is harder to get a guy or a woman to take off their clothes?
Comments (216)
the first pix… niiice. and yea it depends on the person. if asked me, i wud chicken out!
Well, it kind of depends on the situation.
Depends which articles are in question.
I’d say it depends more on the person than anything else.
OMG!! I am first!! LOL never thought i would be. this is funny!
It’s about damn time
“And those arms! Those are good arms to have!”
((Buffy geek here *shifty eyes*))
Why you could never be gay-BOOBS.
I think it woul be harder to get a photo from a guy.
if the guy has a hot bod, it probably wouldn’t be too hard to get him to take his clothes off…
the girl would take a little time on her part. lol
DMV is so stinkin handsome!
go dmv! I’ve always wondered what he looked like sans shirt. But that’s true for most of xanga.
i think it’s harder for a girl to take off her clothes than a boy.
haha.
Why on earth would I leave negative comments about guys? I mean… seriously, hahaha.
Unfortunately, it’s harder to get guys to undress. I don’t mean I want men to undress! I mean too many women will strip for any old thing. You could’ve gotten boob photos WITHOUT a cause. You could’ve just said, “send me pics, chicks” and you would’ve gotten enough to count. They just wouldn’t have been as artistic.
My arms are fried. I’ll wait a little while before I do any pics; I like my skin normal and not nasty peeling
haha, that’s great! but I’ll pass thank you. I’m not up for competition.
i think guys luv to get nekkid !
Woohoo, Drakonskyr titties. Gotta love it.
Sorry, what was the question again?
somehow, i don’t think this is gonna generate the same traffic…
I don’t know. I’ve never tried to get another guy naked and I doubt that I ever will.
can we submit our topless pics?
LOOKA MAH BEWBS
i think its harder to get guys to take their clothes off. But maybe thats because i used to live in New Orleans and it was harder to get girls to KEEP their clothes on there.
I think it would be harder to get a photo from a guy. They seem more apprehensive about pictures. However, generally guys are a lot more eager about losing their clothes.. then again I shouldn’t talk, I just made a pulse about my love of nakedness.
I think my friends all just like being naked.
if the guy is fairly in love with his body then it isnt hard at all to get his clothes off, he’ll gladly do it for you, and then proceed to make his chest dance up and down
i’m with steph on this one. guys seem to shed the duds faster than the ladies, but a woman would be more likely to give you a picture–tastefully done, of course!
women.
Drakonskyr. Your girlfriend is one lucky girl.
This post should be rated D.
its harder for a guy to ask a guy because they might call it gay.
And asking a women might just be flirting so it is kind of easy
@Drakonskyr - You look great!
To answer you question:
I never had a hard time getting a guy to take off his cloths for me.
DMV KNOCKERS!
My life is complete.
All I want to say is I really like Drakonskyr’s pic.
Depends on how much alcohol is involved.
Bahaaa. random.
TITS OR GTFO.
It depends on the individual, not the gender.
It’s raining men! Hallelujah! It’s raining men!
Or an IM conversation between The Theo and yours truly? Imagine: The poster child for ADHD and the compulsive blogger.
Kidding. You actually do meaningful entries. Mine are rather dull and uninteresting.
The second picture is of you, isn’t it? It would certainly be the right thing for the host to do, even under the guise of anonymity.
this is hilarious!
I would think it’s harder to get a girl take of her clothing than a guy. Especially, when you are just taking the picture of top half only. If you want to be fair with the girls you have to take the guy’s bottom half naked. Showing a guy’s chest is not the same as showing women naked breast.
I’ll say woman, though I’ve never tried getting a woman out of her clothes.
Certainly women hesitate when strangers ask them to take off their shirt..
Why? Because i dont think women like their naked breasts stared by strangers or by some male/female friends. It would be too weird..
But there are many female exhibitionists out there who love the attention..
So i think its a balance
Shirtless guys are everywhere at the beach, Naked girls are everywhere in a Nudist colony
Nudists are awesome..they have so much self confidence!
Are you trying to convince us or your self that you would struggle as a gay person?
@momokuma_x3 - ”Nudists are awesome..they have so much self confidence!”
Such a stereotypical statement. What is this world coming to?
@Drakonskyr - hawt
dear Leaderofthenknightswhosayni ,
how is my “”Nudists are awesome..they have so much self confidence!” comment stereotypical?
i dont find anything wrong with it.
kudos to you for playing fair!!!! thinks for the pics and your IM convo was great!!!
i black so i dont peel.
Depends on the situation.
Maybe men.
i like where this is going!
OMG! That’s porn!!!!
Yeah, I’m not putting my moobs online.
whoa, that’s beyond gay LOL
men are sluts. hahaha just kidding. it all depends on the person and how confident / comfortable they are with showing off their body. although it’s definitely more socially acceptable for men to take off their shirts in public than women.
lol Not laughing at the pictures, just that you came up with this idea.
It depends on how comfortable the person is with their body.
But stripping on the internet is not very… classy.
*shrugs*
definitely harder to get the women. d’oh. woo, caka!
Yea! Thanks Dan!
Xanga is lookin good.
Those are some good lookin’ sharks, there.
For being so damn cynical… Drak has some hot arms. I mean… look at them. I love arms. But I don’t think that this is relevant to fighting breast cancer. Me thinking Drak has hot arms, that is.
NOW THIS IS MUCH, MUCH BETTER.
Keep posting these.
Right – wait for me to take a break from Xanga before you put these up. Lovely. Good thing I’m still checking out of habit.
BTW – DMV, Eadie, other guys… nice pics.
To answer your clothes, overall its harder for men to take their clothes off than women, tho I think some women are way more eager to take their clothes off than others. Some men should take their clothes off more.
where are the men with chest hair?! Chest hair is so sexy!
Can’t wait to see more!
I think it depends on the person. And wow, those are some good looking torsos.
I should really take eadie’s photo and make it into a poster.
mooooooooobs!
I’ve never had a problm with either. I would think it’s harder to get a girl’s clothes off though.
I know plenty of guys who have naked pictures of themselves saved on their computers.
But this doesn’t explain why you wouldn’t make it as a gay man.
Yay!
It’s probably harder to get a full-topless from a woman, but a man would probably be reluctant if he doesn’t think his abs are up to par. Mmm, abs… This post makes me happy, Dan. Thank you. (Coherent comments gone)
Ah, men.
Honestly, I think it depends on the person. I love to be naked, but that’s because I’m okay with myself. Not so for everyone.
<33
Harder to ask a guy to, harder to get a woman to.
By the way, that’s more like it.
@Endowedbythecreator - You may not peel because you’re black, but I knew a girl who is darker than you who peeled so bad one year at summer camp. She was my roommate, and we both got really badly burnt. I was a lobster, and she was in excruciating pain. So yes, black people can get burnt and peel.
Mmmmm…..man chest.
Good idea Dan.
Suffice it to say… I guess DMV looks good underneath his clothes.
@Drakonskyr - LOL!
Nice boobs, DMV.
And I think Eadie has a GREAT body
Heck, ALL the torsos look good.
Sigh… Darn it being so far away
ROFL. Kidding.
Those xanga boys are adorable!
I think it really depends on the person and how comfortable they are with their body. when my husband and I were dating, it took me months to get him to agree to take off his shirt so I could see the tattoo on his back. Neither of my brothers like to take off their shirts, either, and usually werat t-shirts when they swim. But neither my husband or my brothers are very comfortable with their bodies.
a cautious editor who takes care of copyright issues even on blogs… sounds like a Wikipedia veteran?
It depends on how drunk they are.
I’m going to be part of the heard and agree with the majority. Yeah, it depends on the person. I think I’d die if my mom saw me naked, so I wouldn’t cope.
girls.
wow..xanga guys have nice bodies.
eadie. nice boobs.
This is offically my favorite TheTheologiansCafe post.
@la_faerie_joyeuse - yeaaaa….i was kinda just joking. touching story though.
Nice pics.
And to answer your question…I wouldn’t know from experience, but I think it depends on the woman’s morales as well as the man’s, and how much confidence they have in themselves.
This is awesome. Haha
Hooray, man boobies! But not to be confuse with moobs…
Dragonskyr’s and third photo are nice.
i think its harder to get guys ton take off there clothes because idk but i think its harder to get guys to take of thir clothes…
-LeXi
It depends
Depends on the guy. It always surprises me how guys with man-boobs and beer guts always think everyone WANTS to see their naked torsos and parade them around….even in public. ewww
yum yum sorry had to! i would do it but the bf doesn’t want my boobs on xanga nor is boobs “cute”
It’s probably easier to get a guy to at least take off his shirt. Women would have to cover their “essentials.” After that, I guess it just depends on how loose the person it.
depends on if the person asking… is a guy or a woman. :]
I would think it would be harder to get a woman to.
it completely depends on the person… i don’t think it has anything to do with guy or girl… it depends on how comfortable the person is with showing off his or her body…
probably depends on the person, what it is for and what you ask them to take off…
usg
Most people with fit bodies will be easy to show it off.
Society just tends to show off and promote nude women more.
I’m not sure how I see this as proof you could not be gay!?
nice
As a man, it’s probably more awkward for you to ask for a shirtless picture of another man, but either way, I still don’t think this directly helps your cause.
You are corrupting me,in the supermarket today I looked at all the men wondering what their pic would look like on this post…
It was fun.
Wow Nice pics. That’s about as positive as i can get with those pics lol.
HAHAHAHA that is hilarious!!! awesome job i love it
guys loooooooove to show off their body. the buff ones, that is.
It seems as if they always make excuses to take off their clothes, I don’t know about you, but that how it is when they’re around me.
omg if i have six pack, i;d like to
nice
cool page
I dunno. But I know this:
@pamilvr - That is an awesome icon thingamabob. :3
I think it depends on the person! more guy pics please!
Personally, I wouldn’t mind as long as it didn’t show my face!
@NikBv - I had the same thought.
its easy enough on aim.
it is harder for a girl to take her clothes off cause a guy really doesnt care to wear clothes all the time. and that last pic of the sunned burn looks like it hurts really bad
Still delicious, peeling skin, and all.
<33
I always wanted to see DMV without a shirt, you are my hero Dan.
But where is yours?
Doesn’t matter – you’ve succeeded in both. I applauded the guys by clicking on the pink ribbon.
I’m pretty sure Dan is there in the list.
Dan says he is not on the list, so I will take him at his word.
what about a picture of you, Dan?
oh heck yes, shirtless males over shirtless females any day! haha. keep on with the updatin’ there, dan
Hahahaha, I love the pic’ of Cakalusa–shit happens.
Here’s a question….I noticed that you’ve identified the topless guys in this post, except for the one(s) who expressly asked you NOT to. In the post(s) with the topless women, you didn’t identify ANY of them, except the ones that specifically ASKED you to. Oh yeah, the question. Did the men you identified give their permission or did you just post their name because you figured they wouldn’t care?
Definitely easier to get a guy nekkid, IMO.
By the way….
Best. Post. EVAH.
I would pose nude here in a second, but you are only doing topless photos.
well it depends, what’s the situation
sometimes men are more eager and other times women are.
I am glad to see you doing this aspect because breast cancer is not just a woman’s disease.
@latte_grande - i do know that both me and drakonskyr expressly gave our permission
@seedsower - Yeah he is. Actually all the guys are looking pretty swell.
wow i’ve never seen anyone peel like that before. hahaa
I think it takes more than just that to be a gay man…lol…
I’d be more apprehensive to post a picture because I don’t like how my cheast looks.
I have no idea.
For some strange reason I find the pealing skin pic intriguing. Like it gives more character. (or I’m just weird)
But I think it’s harder for women. But now a days it’s on both sides to be perfect and I’m far from it so taking my clothes off would be a nightmare. I also have a skin condition and I refuse to get naked unless they know about my condition and they accept my scars because I have many. Then again I think my scars tell a story
@sweetanonymity - Hah, thanks.
It may be because I’m kind of slut, but I’ll pretty much take off my clothes for anybody.
Come to think of it, where do I send a pic?
haha.
Cool
that fourth pic looking very niiiice lol. I think its easier for guys to take of their close. I mean they already walk around during the summer with no shirts on. They walk around half naked. Us girls cant do that.. altho there are a slutty few who might as well be wearing nothing since everyone can see everything anyways… yeah idk… but its cool some guys sent in there pics… im too shy to send in pics of myself.. but hey ill ask my bf if i can submit his shirt less pic.. hehe
-Tianna
Ouch. That peeling looks painful.
In my age group it seems harder to get girls to take off their clothes. Anyway as a chick if you take one thing off, you’re showing something. Guys can take their shirts off and not be “inappropriate.”
Of course this coming from someone who won’t show her knees.
Ooooh. That burn looks painful. My sympathies to Cakalusa. As for the question, I think it would be guys if they were very confident about their body.
i think that was intresting and it depends on their personality.
It depends on the person.
I guess I’d hesitate to take off my shirt for a picture just cause it’s so cliche.
i think it’s easier to get a photo from men. you always see the pic shown by eadie, where he’s holding a camera at the mirror? that’s so typical of a guy to do that. and he has to show his naked chest too. it’s something about their ego. but mostly, it has only to do with the lighting that makes them look like they have a muscular stomach.
ewww! did Cakalusa have sunburn when he was peeling??
haha loves it
haha. wow.
Where’s the chest hair??
I know the second guy is NOT Dan.
I think that women’s breasts are just as acceptable for public viewing as man-boobs are. Either we allow all to expose or none to. Any other option is discriminatory.
I, for one, opt on the side of “bare ‘em all!”
Guys love to show off their chest as much as girls, and usually they can do with without being called obscene. And I don’t mind at all, haha!
I am proud of my huge aureole and hair around them!
And Drakonskyr looks like he just has sex.
interestinq . lol .
There are some hot bodies on xanga!!!!
I think it mostly depends on the person; but generally it’s more accepted for guys to walk around with less clothes on, so it’s at least easier to get guys to take their tops off.
nakedness… haha, I like.
@valis10 - Is it… you?
poor CaKa – he could use photoshop, or sunscreen…
I think it’s much easier to get a male to take off his clothes, than it is a female.
Who is the picture under Eadie? Very nice….but, of course I am partial to bathing suit and beach pic.s
Dmv- You are too hidden behind your arms! I can’t see your boobies or stomach.
@GhostBenjimon - Ha! Your pic. is very similiar to mine was…with the amount of body shown, I mean. Except…I wasn’t shaving my face, of course! Looking good…..but you are SOOOOOO white! You need a tan!
@adifferentkindofbeautiful - Just trying to set the record straight
and do a better job representing the “older” guys on Xanga
Oh boy…LOL Amazingly I am peeling too! I look a lot like caka…all red and flaky like a bad paint job…
lmao please a guy will whip off his shirt in a heartbeat no matter what shape he is in and ive never seen a guy have a problem dropping his pants!
GREAT Pictures btw….im glad guys stepped up and did this!
lol i recognize chinkzilla
def girls
guys ..its nothing to them if they take off their shirts!! lol!
who’;s the last guy!? haha love his expression..THHEEE
This is awesome. Kudos to the guys for doing this, seriously. Awesome.
This great, I love seeing the people attached to names. You go, guys! You all look yummy to me.
As for the guy/girl thing – I think it really depends on the situation. If it’s by candlelight, in a bedroom … Well, I’d think that the numbers would be about equal.
Any other situation – depends on whether said person is an exhibtionist.
It’s been my experience that guys would undress first.
There won’t be a topless pic of me. I have a coouple of nasty scars that I won’t share.
Michael
Guys in my opinion.
oh HECK yea!!!!
depends on the situation…
I love being naked, though.
haha wtf? *laughs at convo of cakalusa and theologianscafe
Probably a guy. But I think it depends on the audience too.
Hey, that fifth dude is HAWT.
i think its easier for a guy to get naked, it feels good for one and some women are just too shysty of their hot body
you have the funniest things on ur site keep them up
…I should point out that I’m not ashamed of the fact I wear beaded-bracelets.
@nimbusthedragon - Learned how by watching you…
ew cakalaka
I think it would be more difficult to get a woman to take off her clothes.
What cause is this supporting? Maybe if you did one supporting prostate cancer. Though I don’t know what kind of photos you’d end up with. O_o
@Roninism - Guys can get breast cancer too.. it’s rare, but it happens. Also, I think was to even the score for the boob posts. The women sure don’t seem to mind a bunch of guys posing topless….
love it!
Yay shirtless men.
Anyway. I think it’s harder to ask a guy. That might just be because I’ve been to an all-girls’ school so long, and don’t get out enough, that asking anything from a guy is monumentally awkward.
That Dante is the cutest thing alive.
i think i have a few shirtless pics running around…
its actually harder for girls to go topless (myself) .. you see guys tolpess everywhere but im expecting more than these few pictures.. and more good bods! lol.
I love BaldMike’s photo. =]
SPIDEY!
We’ve got some good lookin’ guys on Xanga!
Thanks for helping out, boys!
Dunno, depends on the person I guess! lol I know for a fact you couldn’t get me to get naked in front of a camera if you paid me a million bucks! Helll no! And trust me, you wouldn’t wanna try. I’d scare the hell outta everybody. lol
BlackSpidey has my phone! We’re phone buddies!
It’s really about the person’s self-image and insecurities. Men always tend to find it easier, simply because its not that big a deal for most men. Women tend to be more private with their bodies, and there’s more for women to expose than men.
well, now…that’s interesting. and very very brave.
I’m pretty sure I commented this already but I shall say again…
rawr to all those pics
awesome!
chinkzilla wins!! lol
I find it interesting that there’s many more men who have their username linked to their photo than women.
Now that’s cute.
it’s weird looking at some of the dudes’ pecks that I’ve or still do subscribe to.
The one with the red sentence is the best!
Baldmike >.< I wasn’t expecting that. Ha ha!
Kudos to all the guys posted up there.
I think guys mind being shirtless less because it’s just more acceptable and more normal for a guy to be shirtless than a woman. But then again…if somebody requested a photo of a guy shirtless he might be a bit apprehensive. I think thats just normal reaction.
But I really don’t know who’d be worse, especially when for these pictures there was the choice to remain anonymous.
looks like some of those guys work out! lol.
Delete this if you must but just curious how this pertains to breast cancer?
Seems like you just like posting nude or almost nude pics…
and where is yours?
Btw none of the men were bad looking I just don’t know what the point is.
Hooray..shirtless men!
I think it is harder to get a man naked then it is a woman..at least for pictures….trust me…lol!
I wish more types of men weren’t afraid to go shirtless….one does not have to have six pack abs as long as you are comfortable in your skin, which to me is far more appealing then a perfect body.
pfft, I think that totally depends. There’s plenty of girls who’ll take their clothes off instantly if you tell them they’re pretty. But most guys hate wearing shirts for some reason, from my experience.
hey so i asked my guy friends ..
if the guy is intimidated by the girl, hot or not, its harder for him to take his clothes off! guys can make a girl feel sexy so eventually she can be persuaded to shed clothing
guy
LOL. my mother passed by as I was scrolling through the pictures. I bet she’s praying for me in the next room.
It’s probably harder to get a woman to take her clothes off, unless if she’s a stripper.
Woman probably.
Though it all really does depend on the circumstance.
Haha aw. So many men on xanga have a great sense of humor.
I don’t mean to be cruel- I’m referring to some silly faces and comments coming with the pictures.
And BaldMike’s picture is just downright cute.
One of my college girls was bored last year and decided to start a “Best Abs” competition on FB. She gave the announcement well in advance in case folks wanted to enter their photo looking their finest. We had it on April 1st of 2011. Coincidentally… April Fools
Even BD2 submitted a photo…. And boy did I get in trouble with the modesty “police”. Heh heh
It was just a bit of tummy, for crying out loud!!!