July 19, 2008
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Dating Self-Esteem
Vote on the post below.
Here we go:
A high dating self-esteem is when a person believes that they are the type of person that other people would want to date.
10 = You think most people would want to date you.
1 = You think no one wants to date you.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your dating self-esteem?
Comments (151)
First?
4
5
Good thing I’m married!
Well does this consider the general demographic of my age group or just of lesbians in my age group?
We’ll go with lesbians and say 3 since no one wants to date me. I’m sure there’s someone out there with a crush (there always is -_-)
6/7
…you should try the plus/minus psychological breakdown (if you know what it is)
7.
4..ish
assuming 5 is about average since it’s right in the middle, I’d say about a 4
4-5?
8
Urgh. Probably a 6.
HAHA..I’m kinda lame and spazzy.
4.
2. I know for a fact that exactly one person wants to date me.
I could care less! So… would that mean that my “dating self-esteem” is actually high because I don’t worry about how datable I am? Hmm…
7… though I don’t really understand why. Probably because I listen or am usually pretty chilled out, I guess.
3.6
In high school I thought about a 4, mainly because of my height and THINNESS. I didn’t have much self confidence. But it worked out just fine, it kept me out of trouble
I dunno.
I thought that no one had ever had a crush on me. I was wrong.
I thought that no one had ever loved me like that. I was also wrong.
So I doubt I’d be right about this.
Hah. So definitely a 9.
3 or 4? maybe 2..
Where’s Drak, you KNOW he’ll post the first 10
It depends on what women look for in a date. Based on looks I’d say about 7. Based on sexual prowess, I’d say like 12.
8?
6.9 or 7.0 around there.
9
Well, I’m taken, but I keep getting asked by guys, it’s annoying. I’m going to have to say 9 in all honesty.
I’M TAKEN! LEAVE ME ALONE! haha
2.756
I am a 1…i don’t think i am the first girl a guy would look at.
@LightningRichy - oh sheeez… LOL
7 .. maybe an 8..okay,okay, a 7.
6
11, DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
3. Maybe 2.
I’d say I’m a 7 or an 8 (but I’m taken so I don’t know if my dating self esteem counts haha)
2. i know that some other would want to, but you don’t even want me to describe what types of others that would be.
I’m a perfect 10 when I’m drunk!
3
What’s with all these married/attached people posting themselves as 1-3, anyhow? You can’t be that bad if you managed to get married!
i have no idea. i dont know what to believe about others and their preference in those they date. im biased.
3. I’m working on my introversion and the whole small talking thing. It’s coming along slowly.
-David
7 !
In Los Angeles probably 8 or 9….anywhere else, probably a 1 or 2.
Is 11 possible? No? Then I’ll say 10.
Seriously, your scale stops at “most people.” That’s hardly a strong enough statement to incorporate everyone.
One of my big turnoffs is being conceited. So ironically enough, I wouldn’t be interested in any of those women who rank themselves higher than a 6.
2 or 3. Therese’s probably one or two people on this planet that would date me, I found one of them recently. What an oddly releveant post.
i like to believe i’m an 8.
Three.
7.
6
5. On a good day.
I can stand the term self-esteem. Nothing against you Dan. Just think the term is overused in general.
6.5
For men it’s something like 1 point for every $100,000. in net worth you have. Therefore I’m in the <1 category.
8 or 9.
4
I’d say about a 3…My one and only boyfriend told me he liked me better as a friend…But I am really okay with just being a friend. So a lower number would be better for me anyway…
9. After all, no one’s perfect.
haha 5.
0
Old fat white chicks go for what these days….2 in the States….10 in Jamaica.
8.5
I’d say 8… because I know that BBW’s are not everyone’s cup of tea but there are many people out there who do love and adore BBW’s.
9 or so
when i as single
@jimmyjazz86 - There’s a difference between being confident and being conceited.
six…maybe five.
I’m not very approachable.
3 or 4.
8.
Really, I do believe that. I don’t know, I don’t meant to sound cocky, but I think I’m a good one. [; I just have a lot of confidence in my abilities as a girlfriend, I suppose.
oh dear i hardly ever get formally asked out so accordingly I’d guess 1 or 2
Oh, five or six, I would say. I’m fairly handsome but weird and shy enough to put a lot of people off… but fuck ‘em. They’re shallow.
well i’ve been single/unattached for 4 yrs now so… i’ve gotta go low here.
4.5
probably a 1. I’m just not a very date-like person I guess
2…………
4…. at best.
5… but i don’t really know since i hardly pay attention.
7
around as 4.5..
Zero as I am married. Wasn’t much higher though before marriage to many shallow people in this world that never try to get to know someone before judging them on appearance alone… The funny thing is that most ppl I know like that are still single, lonely, and dating and jealous that I am married and happy.
1 or 2, however if I did go out at night it would probably be a 5.
3
9.5
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1 but if everyone knew what kind of person I really am a 11 for me
4
Hm, I don’t know…maybe 5 or something like that
What if I don’t want anyone to date me?
-7
4
3… yeah not to confident b/c i havent had a bf in almost 4 years… :’(
Hmm probably a 1 or a 2.
7
Honestly, I have no idea – I think I am pretty awesome… but I “friend-zone” easily.
seventeen.
3-4. I’m just not that keen on it, even though everyone says I should be.
im gonna say 6~7. but im from a very small town that doesn’t have many young women in it =)
If 5 is “average” and we’re only talking about people who are attracted to my gender (straight men and lesbians), I’d say probably 7 or 8.
My body is def. 9 or 10, but most people think my over-intellectualization of everything is annoying, so that brings me down a couple of notches.
3. no explination needed
3
2.6
just had this conversation yesterday actually.
That depends on my mood. On bad days 1 and on good days I felt like a 7.
6?
It’s definitely on the lower side of the spectrum. I’ll say “2″ to be less down on it all.
0
2. I always feel uncomfortable T.T all I need is more exposure tho..
I’m not sure if I have the whole ‘Everyone wants to date me’ idea in my head, but I do think I’m a good candidate for dating. But then again, I’m a Christian, and 16, so you’d have to try really hard to date me because of all of my morals.
@VersaGratis - lol
im a 1, definately. there’s always an excuse, but a no is a no.
Ugh. 1 or 2 for sure.
1
I think plenty or people would want to date me but I’m not sure how many people would be able to handle dating me.
@little_potato - Just a 1?
@xxmusicxxfreak - hmm, ok, realistically i should give it a 2, but we are talking about self perception, right? o_O
@little_potato - aw c’mon you’re atleast a 3.
@LihKinLi - This.
I’m married… Where does that put me? I still get hit on, often by men who think I’m much younger than I am.
dating…i don’t date i have no reason to,it’s a waste of time.i pretty much know with in 10 seconds if the guy will work out.sparks fly then he pursues me than i will give him my time of day which ends up in his bed eventually. depending on how long i make him work for it is how long he’ll stay.
i hurt men doing that… i know. but it’s my way of finding true love. a lot of imposters out there looking to fill their desire.
I think am about a 8.
~Alexx
i think im about a 5/6 on a good day!!!
8-9. I’m taken (have been for 3 years) but people tend to hit on me a lot.
Oh man, at least an 8. I’m highly wantable. What’s with all these people saying 5 and under? Maybe your low self-esteem is why people don’t want to date you.
“10 = You think most people would want to date you.”
I missed the “most people” in there. That stipulation raises my number. I say 9 now.
If I was in the dating world again it would be safe to say 5, inaccurate to say 2 and egotistical to say 9. In high school I had no confidence and I would have given myself a 1. Now I am glad I don’t have to worry about it!
like 3.5
=/
0
I’m more like a pet than a man – familiar, cuddly, entertaining, and strictly off limits.
–FAIL–
10.
I am just that awesome.
And I know it.
8
prob a 2 >.>
7
negative 9.
I don’t know guys like me… and girls… any way i don’t know why but i think i am about a 5 my friends say 9… HEY why not a 10…
8 or 9, ever since i became single again, a lot of guys havea chrush on me… but i just only want to be friends. i want to be single for a bit.
seven or eight… i have a really good personality and tend to be a flirt. i don’t have a lot of problems with the opposite sex.
but honestly dating is only good for the free food. i much more enjoy “dates” with friends or with my boyfriend. i have dated enough in my day even though i’m only 20. it gets old.
5….and that might be rounding up.
i’m thinking 5.621 lol
2?…
3.
11
4. I pity the fool who’d date me. Cause I’m crazy.
5 ish
6.5
7.3-8.1
2 or 3. With raee exceptions, the only girls who like me are the desperate/clingy/high maintenance variety.
I don’t give numbers on such things!
I’m a chill person, I like to listen, and play Wiiii.
I think a negative amount of people want to date me.
5
xD I have to say a 3.
I just really think few people would really date me.
Mostly for my humor and personality.
3.5
9. Except those people would have to be open-minded enough to be in a relationship with a bisexual transgendered person with multiple (mostly platonic) love(r)s.
However, it has been my experience that a lot of those reasons are exactly why people are into me. That, and my smile.
7
I’ll give it a 3.
Honestly? 5. But, it doesn’t matter, since I’m with someone anyway.