i’m 17 now & i first did it at 16, this past summer actually.
I was 14.
17. is anyone else at all disturbed by the 5?
the tender age of 17…not so tender by todays standards…thats considered old as hell now
16
Never. And when are you going to answer one of these questions?
@cdedodgethis - She was abused, so it wasn’t her choice.
Eighteen.
@mileyfan08 - yes i realize that. its fucking disturbing.
Never have, never will. If I wouldn’t put it in my mouth, I’m not about to ask anyone else to do so.
By the way, I’ve noticed that lately you’ve had this real obsession with sex and sex-related themes. If I didn’t know better, I’d say you were some horny twenty-nothing from, say, San Francisco getting his rocks off by titillating the Xangasphere.
@cdedodgethis - That it is. I wasn’t trying to be patronizing or anything, I just wasn’t sure if people would realize that.
18 or 19 when I first recieved. 20 when I first gave.
18, giving and receiving.
15
hmm. weird question, don’t care to recall that information actually
for some reason i seem to be the only person who finds oral to be a major turn off. it’s like licking a toilet.
too young
I was 14. For both pitching and receiving. WHat about you?
16 – against my will
18 – willing with the love of my life
what up with people posting that kind of private stuff on the internet?
@k8tthelate - LOL. I love how no one is the least bit ashamed to tell complete strangers about their sex lives.
I think he just wants to see how many of us are perverts by visiting a page with that title.
And why are there so many sex-related question in this cafe nowadays??
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heh, 14
Conducting a survey or something?
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Fifteen
I find the “I am a virgin” response curious. Virginity has to do with the practice of Vaginal sex. One remains a virgin until the female sex organ is penetrated by a penis. One does not loose virginity through oral sex.
At issue is not virginity but Chastity. Chastity is a standard of sexual conduct, that is related too the social regulations of sexual relationships. A chaste person practices celibacy outside marriage. A person who believes in greater sexual freedom is called licentious, lewd, indecent,A libertine, filthy, lustfulness, debauched, corrupt, debase, depraved, dissipated, profligate; immoral, fast, a profiligate, dissolute, a riotous person, a slut, a whore, skanky, cheap, dirty and nasty, a player, a stud, promiscuous, a womanizer, fallen, wanton, a skirt-chaser a rake, a doxy, a tart, a floozy, a harlot, a hoe, a trollop, a strumpet, a gigolo, vile and lascivious. By the way for those of you who are interested in Language roots, lascivious is derived from the Latin word <tt>lascīvia, which also meant playful. The word Libertine comes from the Latin word liber, which means free. Now don’t you wonder why the English language has so many words for people who violate sexual rules, and so few words for people who toe the line? When the Baptist sing “I was sinking deep in sin,” how many wish they were?
I don’t remember exactly how old I was actually. I think maybe 15.
I was 5.
12
Too young.
15. Both given and received.
19
16 for me
so early Dan darn
@ToBeReborn - I wish the answer was definitely child curiosity. Anyway, I’m sorry.
15. But it wasn’t by choice.
Giving- 17. The lucky guy, my husband.
Getting- 17 from the same guy. I must admit it really shocked me
never. somehow I don’t feel like I’m missing out.
16
@ToBeReborn - WFT are you for real? How in the world dose that work, where were your parent!i!i!i!
nope never!
Still haven’t. To be honest, it freaks me out a bit. Actual all out sex doesn’t scare me, but oral sex does a little.
Sixty four.
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Giving & receiving: 19
fifteen.
What kind of question is this. Never given or received oral sex.
@k8tthelate - Yep. These posts lately are starting to get on my nerves.
19.
16
13.
@Pt4m1 - Not sure. I was sleeping at my grandparents. Im totally for real
21.
@ada_ada_ada_ada - Thats the age I was when a guy much older than I managed to pressure me into fully having sex
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I think that’s a little private… but after reading other comments, I see that there truly is no right or wrong answer!
Ugh gross.. never!
I don’t even eat sausage!
and I know someone who almost died from a penis being shoved in their mouth..
16 !
@ToBeReborn - O_O Wait you don’t mean with your grandparent, right!?!?!
Well,It was with my first love when I was 19 years old.
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Never…
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To the “Theologian’s Cafe,”
I’ve notice that your xanga questions and intruges have been becoming more and more sexualized over time. And I’m sure that you’re using it for some great theory or purpose in the end, but can you please go back to topics that are not focused around an obsession with sex? Don’t you think it’s a little cliche with everyone already living in a sex-obessesed world and media that tries to make people feel like they are not whole?
Did you know that there are suicidal teens, men who feel hopeless in life who look at your site, and you’re feeding them useless poison?
I’ll wait til the next one to see where your “Theological” mind is, otherwise, consider me unsubscribed.
Haven’t. Won’t for a while. Actually, giving oral thoroughly disgusts me, and even receiving it does, so…
15.
Never done it.
Wow Dan! Just wow….What happened to questions that most of us are comfortable answering?
Received… 10 or 11 (then nothing happened between 12 and 19). Given… Haven’t yet. I’m going to assume it’ll happen soon and just say 19/20, though.
@FoliageDecay - Looks like 198 people before you (minus however people commented more than once… so maybe, 165 or so?) were comfortable answering this. Which is a lot of comments. Define “most of us”.
@Color_me_Karma - Thar’s interesting that there’s a year gap between receiving and giving. That’s my experience as well. Any reasoning, for you? (If that’s not too personal)
@love2rose - “what up with people posting that kind of private stuff on the internet?” What’s up with you being bothered by it?
@xthread - I’m not. why are you bothered that some of us are (supposedly) bothered? Everyone should do what he/she wants to.
@xthread - Good point. I’m not sure why I worded it as “most of us.”
15 with the valedictorian
Sixteen.
@xthread - No, it’s fine. My reasoning was that I was kind of freaked out by the idea and I wasn’t with that boyfriend long enough to reach that comfort level (we were together a little over a month lol it may seem prude compared to things these days, but that’s just how I am). The guy who I first gave oral sex too I trusted more and had more time to become that comfortable with him.
@Color_me_Karma - Makes perfect sense. Very similar stories here. Thanks for the thoughtful response.
16. wow, that was 11 years ago!
16…8 days before my 17th bday ><
This question is quite ambiguous. Do you mean receiving or giving?
14. which seems to be a popular age. not sure why that is.
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sure –this 1 i get 1st…sheesh
14.
I’m a virgin, and prefer to stay that way, including oral, until marriage.
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:::gags:::
NEVER!
fifteen.
I was fourteen.
@Tom@revelife - LOSER.
never… the thought of it grosses me out…
@BeautifulB_227 - I agree with you!!!
Um… never got around to it, probably much to the chagrin of a couple people I know. :p
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Virgin as of now.
So let’s say I’ll be 2129587 years old.
Because no one wants to marry this.
-sigh-
Memories…
17.
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@deflate@revelife - Thanks for the reply!
5. Yes. Five.
@Tom@revelife - How old are you?
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What’s up with the sex-related questions O_o??
17.
@mayanao - It’s either sex or abortion. Count your blessings.
@deflate@revelife - 28. (My current age, not to be confused with the answer to the question regarding oral virginity.)
Before birth … my pregnant mother had some spectactularly well hung boy friends.
@Tom@revelife - LOSER.
Never have, and won’t till marriage. Seems like I’ve posting that a lot lately . . .
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Never have, never will.
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17
Never… not all too keen on the idea either, to be honest. Much to the dismay of any future boyfriends, I’m sure.
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Uhm….17.
@stories_for_girls - Glad someone said this one.
Still a virgin with anything that involves the word sex.
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@deflate@revelife - That is true.
15 for both oral and vaginal sex….long story…
Eighteen. I skipped around the bases.
@stories_for_girls - LMAO!
18 =(
thank God for Jesus and restoration =]
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Sixteen. And thank the gods that I did it then: thats when the fun started.
16, the same age I first had vaginal sex.
We’re still together, nearly 3 years later.
@AmeriKen - @Lost_In_Reverie - @AmeriKen - Even receiving?
Most people will sing a different tune in that case.
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what the friggin’ age were YOU, dan?
15 or 16. Only 1 person and only 1 person for the rest of my life.
oral sex is a bigger thing to me than virginity.
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18
I can’t remember at all.
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never
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Hmm, 15 or 16.
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*sigh*
Dan just sexualises the site more.
It’s all strange how you don’t like conforming to everyone else, yet you blog like Perez Hilton…
Here’s a surprise…never.
And I never will. I’d rather stick Brussels sprouts in my mouth than a penis.
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18 i think?
you are an undercover freak hehehehhe…………
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I gave and received for the first time ever at 18, even though I lost my virginity at 15. Crazy, I know.
Fifteen.
She didn’t swallow, though.
I WAS TRAUMATIZED
fifteen
does it ever occur to anyone that just because dan asks a question that perhaps it doesn’t deserve an answer?
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I was sexually abused for a while, and oral sex was a part of that….
@Drakonskyr - Hehe.
*sigh* first the boobs, then its gay then its lesbain, sex and now oral sex.. is danny boy horny? i am guessing u havent had any in a while dan…
to answer ur question, i never heard of it until i was 18 when a dude was going down on me and i was like WTF are u doing?!
he tells me with a palm up, “trust me, you will love this.”
that was that. what about you????
18.
Never.
Is that when you’re talking during sex?
Seventeen
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@Tom@revelife - HAHAHA loser
At 17 I’m still a virgin. Woo.
a few days after i turned 12
@Laryssa - what she said.
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i’m 17 now & i first did it at 16, this past summer actually.
I was 14.
17. is anyone else at all disturbed by the 5?
the tender age of 17…not so tender by todays standards…thats considered old as hell now
16
Never. And when are you going to answer one of these questions?
@cdedodgethis - She was abused, so it wasn’t her choice.
Eighteen.
@mileyfan08 - yes i realize that. its fucking disturbing.
Never have, never will. If I wouldn’t put it in my mouth, I’m not about to ask anyone else to do so.
By the way, I’ve noticed that lately you’ve had this real obsession with sex and sex-related themes. If I didn’t know better, I’d say you were some horny twenty-nothing from, say, San Francisco getting his rocks off by titillating the Xangasphere.
@cdedodgethis - That it is. I wasn’t trying to be patronizing or anything, I just wasn’t sure if people would realize that.
18 or 19 when I first recieved. 20 when I first gave.
18, giving and receiving.
15
hmm. weird question, don’t care to recall that information actually
for some reason i seem to be the only person who finds oral to be a major turn off. it’s like licking a toilet.
too young
I was 14. For both pitching and receiving. WHat about you?
16 – against my will
18 – willing with the love of my life
what up with people posting that kind of private stuff on the internet?
@k8tthelate - LOL. I love how no one is the least bit ashamed to tell complete strangers about their sex lives.
I think he just wants to see how many of us are perverts by visiting a page with that title.
@k8tthelate - agreed!
yay oral sex!!!! i guess when you feel emotionally ready?????????? maybe 15 ish JUST USE PROTECTION
Fourteen. I wasn’t really aware of how good it could be until about 16.
Uhhh…13. Seems like that age is pretty common around here, from all the other comments
-David
18 or 19 can’t remember.
@k8tthelate - Here I was going to answer the question.
@seedsower - well don’t let me stop you…
Are you conducting research on the matter?
haven’t yet…
NEVER WILL?
And why are there so many sex-related question in this cafe nowadays??
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heh, 14
Conducting a survey or something?
18
Fifteen
I find the “I am a virgin” response curious. Virginity has to do with the practice of Vaginal sex. One remains a virgin until the female sex organ is penetrated by a penis. One does not loose virginity through oral sex.
At issue is not virginity but Chastity. Chastity is a standard of sexual conduct, that is related too the social regulations of sexual relationships. A chaste person practices celibacy outside marriage. A person who believes in greater sexual freedom is called licentious, lewd, indecent,A libertine, filthy, lustfulness, debauched, corrupt, debase, depraved, dissipated, profligate; immoral, fast, a profiligate, dissolute, a riotous person, a slut, a whore, skanky, cheap, dirty and nasty, a player, a stud, promiscuous, a womanizer, fallen, wanton, a skirt-chaser a rake, a doxy, a tart, a floozy, a harlot, a hoe, a trollop, a strumpet, a gigolo, vile and lascivious. By the way for those of you who are interested in Language roots, lascivious is derived from the Latin word <tt>lascīvia, which also meant playful. The word Libertine comes from the Latin word liber, which means free.
Now don’t you wonder why the English language has so many words for people who violate sexual rules, and so few words for people who toe the line? When the Baptist sing “I was sinking deep in sin,” how many wish they were?
I don’t remember exactly how old I was actually. I think maybe 15.
I was 5.
12
Too young.
15. Both given and received.
19
16 for me
so early Dan darn
@ToBeReborn - I wish the answer was definitely child curiosity. Anyway, I’m sorry.
15. But it wasn’t by choice.
Giving- 17. The lucky guy, my husband.
Getting- 17 from the same guy. I must admit it really shocked me
never. somehow I don’t feel like I’m missing out.
16
@ToBeReborn - WFT are you for real? How in the world dose that work, where were your parent!i!i!i!
nope never!
Still haven’t. To be honest, it freaks me out a bit. Actual all out sex doesn’t scare me, but oral sex does a little.
Sixty four.
20
Giving & receiving: 19
fifteen.
What kind of question is this. Never given or received oral sex.
@k8tthelate - Yep. These posts lately are starting to get on my nerves.
19.
16
13.
@Pt4m1 - Not sure. I was sleeping at my grandparents. Im totally for real
21.
@ada_ada_ada_ada - Thats the age I was when a guy much older than I managed to pressure me into fully having sex
13
I think that’s a little private… but after reading other comments, I see that there truly is no right or wrong answer!
Ugh gross.. never!
I don’t even eat sausage!
and I know someone who almost died from a penis being shoved in their mouth..
16 !
@ToBeReborn - O_O Wait you don’t mean with your grandparent, right!?!?!
<— hugs tobereborn.
@Pt4m1 - HIM yes.
18 and I am in favor of giving and taking it….
Reminds me of a joke.
How do you get a girl to stop giving you blow jobs?
Marry her….
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@WillyWeedWanker - lol
Well,It was with my first love when I was 19 years old.
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18
18
Never…
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To the “Theologian’s Cafe,”
I’ve notice that your xanga questions and intruges have been becoming more and more sexualized over time. And I’m sure that you’re using it for some great theory or purpose in the end, but can you please go back to topics that are not focused around an obsession with sex? Don’t you think it’s a little cliche with everyone already living in a sex-obessesed world and media that tries to make people feel like they are not whole?
Did you know that there are suicidal teens, men who feel hopeless in life who look at your site, and you’re feeding them useless poison?
I’ll wait til the next one to see where your “Theological” mind is, otherwise, consider me unsubscribed.
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17
12
14
I haven’t.
nineteen
17
meh 17
16.
@Tom@revelife - good for you!!
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@ToBeReborn - i have to ask if you were being serious…
@OctoberScreams - Why would I say that if I wasnt? 100% Serious
16. w00t
gave it for the first time when i was 13.
15
19.
Seems to be a popular age.
17.
/when was the last time you had anal sex?
19…=/
18.
I was 18
At least you didn’t ask the must more depressing question, when did you last have oral sex? it’s been a while…
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@Tom@revelife - Go you!
Me too!
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@sammjane - Thanks!
12
17
13 ^^
14
@Tom@revelife – me too! so i haven’t had ANY form of sex yet…:)
I was sixteen. And it was pretty cool.
@Tom@revelife - WOO! Kudos!!!
15
Haven’t. Won’t for a while. Actually, giving oral thoroughly disgusts me, and even receiving it does, so…
15.
Never done it.
Wow Dan! Just wow….What happened to questions that most of us are comfortable answering?
Received… 10 or 11 (then nothing happened between 12 and 19). Given… Haven’t yet. I’m going to assume it’ll happen soon and just say 19/20, though.
@FoliageDecay - Looks like 198 people before you (minus however people commented more than once… so maybe, 165 or so?) were comfortable answering this. Which is a lot of comments. Define “most of us”.
@Color_me_Karma - Thar’s interesting that there’s a year gap between receiving and giving. That’s my experience as well. Any reasoning, for you? (If that’s not too personal)
@love2rose - “what up with people posting that kind of private stuff on the internet?” What’s up with you being bothered by it?
@xthread - I’m not. why are you bothered that some of us are (supposedly) bothered?
Everyone should do what he/she wants to.
@xthread - Good point. I’m not sure why I worded it as “most of us.”
15 with the valedictorian
Sixteen.
@xthread - No, it’s fine. My reasoning was that I was kind of freaked out by the idea and I wasn’t with that boyfriend long enough to reach that comfort level (we were together a little over a month lol it may seem prude compared to things these days, but that’s just how I am). The guy who I first gave oral sex too I trusted more and had more time to become that comfortable with him.
@Color_me_Karma - Makes perfect sense. Very similar stories here. Thanks for the thoughtful response.
16. wow, that was 11 years ago!
16…8 days before my 17th bday ><
This question is quite ambiguous. Do you mean receiving or giving?
14. which seems to be a popular age. not sure why that is.
13.
Given: 25
Received.. not yet.
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