I was just looking at an article that showed photos of what the people looked like that were paid to have phone sex.
Here is the link: Link
I don’t want to just trash people. I want to know why a person would do it.
Why do you think people would pay to have phone sex?
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Extreme, extreme frustration?
‘Cause they can’t get any IRL.
it makes good money? perhaps out of boredom…also, don’t you just sit in the comforts of your own home? there was an episode in Married w/Children that dealt with this topic. hah.
Hahahahahahahaahahaha.
Wait, this is serious.
Hahahahaha.
What motivates a lot of people…$$$!!!
cause they’re virgins
Sexual frustration, obviously.
Because they just turned 15 and are too curious to know better?
you wouldn’t
they need someone to talk to?
sheer curiosity?
eesh i can imagine the voice of the smoker chick. she probably sounds like my grandfather.
sssssexy.
I honestly do not know, but some people might.
Because they are pathetically disconnected from real humans
because people are strange
they have very…very…sad, sad (sex) life….
hmm.. maybe a lack of self confidence, no other opportunities,or very young. I can’t see doing it by phone. Who would put on and take off the handcuffs??
I myself am disconnected from real humans
and have a pathetically sad sex life, but I would never stoop that low….ewww Must be sheer desperation that motivates them…and hey, it is “safe” sex, after all. Still – just ewww.
because they have no sex life
it’s sick but its their thing.
they have nothing better going on in their lives probably.
maybe… the voice.
To help the rest of us feel better about ourselves.
Those who provide the service and those who use it are very, very sad people. I feel so sorry for both of them.
god, i don’t know. that’s the strangest thing i’ve ever heard of. and i highly doubt it’s as good as real sex.
I think i just threw up a little in my mouth.
To answer your question, I think it’d have something to do with low self esteem. These women pictured don’t seem to fit the model of what it means to be attractive, so they really probably aren’t getting much action. I guess this is a way to feel like men want them. It probably also pays the bills.
I would assume it’s probably because a voice interacting with you is better then just jerking off to a porno. (under the assumption it’s a man doing the calling- notice there’s no pictures of men? The phone sex industry is obviously geared toward men, leading me to think men tend to be the ones who are most likely to have phone sex.) If the person is lonely, it’d probably be a more ‘intimate’ experience compaired to other catalysts for self pleasure.
I thought phone sex was obsolete now thanks to the internet and cyber sex/video chats?
Everyone seems to be answering why these people are working in the phone sex industry- I thought your question was “Why do you think people would pay to have phone sex?” ..?
If it is why these women would work as a phone sex operators- it’d definitely have to be easy money. How hard is it to talk dirty? (ok, for some it might be- others, notsomuch) It’s probably not that hard to disconnect yourself from what you’re saying if you looked at it like a job and nothing more.
safe sex.
because over the phone you can’t be seen . people that have phone sex can be their “true” selves . there’s no judging or akwardness . it’s just .. them expressing themselves freely
I’d have to agree with what one of the phone sex workers said on the original link–people might think it’s safer to divulge fantasies to a non-judgemental stranger. Being open and honest about that might be liberating, and it might be too hard to try that with somebody they already know. If they never talk to/meet/see/whatever the person on the phone, they don’t have to worry about what sorts of opinions they’d form about them. It’s safe.
It could simply be a personal preference. Some people find water sexy, or shoes, hands, etc. Phone sex could simply be another fetish for some. Easier to play out a fantasy with a perfect stranger, and know you don’t have to face them the next day with any sort of judgments placed on your head.
because it’s easy if you’re good at it. Easy money…trust me.
the idea of a stranger speaking dirty to you…..kinda gets people off. there’s no strings attached.
loneliness? boredom? sexual frustration? I guess I could go on…
but to anyone disgusted by these pictures…what were you, living in a dream world? who watches those ‘Live Links’ commercials, et al, and actually thinks there’s some smokin’ slut on the other end? LOL
Because they are psychologically imbalanced..
hmmm, scared of stds and/or scared of rejection?
xo
B/c it’s safe…
Because of tv commercials?
I would imagine that there are as many reasons why people (men AND women) would use this venue as there are for any other facet of sexual experience. People who are lonely, disfigured, controlling or have voice fetishes are just a few I can think of right off the top of my head.
loneliness…
and if you have extremely low self-esteem…
and maybe if you just like phone sex.
some people are weird.
I never knew phone sex exists in today’s society.
anyway, i think because they’re a loner and they need something to satisfy with their lust of sex.
They’re probably just as goofy lookin and can’t get any real person to talk to their face.
wow you got 40 comments in like 2 hours. Do you live on Xanga?
I think the answers to this question are pretty much obvious. SEXUAL FRUSTRATION due to the fact they can’t get any IN REAL LIFE and if they are going to have to settle for phone sex then they might as well get PAID, no??
but technically..couldn’t phone-sex be considered like “prostitution” because they are basically getting paid for a sexual favor whether its in person or via the phone.
They’re too poor to get a hooker.
Desperation and low self-esteem.
there are lazy females out there that know someone has to talk to those dirty old men who call the numbers to talk to “supposed” 18 year old firm bodied bitches.
i think it is funny
also girls 3 & 4 aren’t that bad.
Loneliness
One word. Boredom.
I guess maybe for the same reason some older guys prey on teenage depressed girls and expose themsleves masterbating on webcams to them.
Because their creep factor is so high that they can’t even convince someone from a yahoo chat room to do it with them.
either no sex life or mental problems.
Interesting, Dan, I believe you just timestamped this?
FLAMING HYPOCRITE!
I shall timestamp twice as much in your honor!
Its a voice. You dont know what the person really looks like – just whats in your head.
-shrug-
I dont think its sad so much as it would be addictive. Sure its a bit gross, but put it in perspective.
I laughed a bit listening to the radio where some guy spent thousands on phone sex, he said he had a wife and kids and was getting action and loved it from his wife, but he always imagined the girl on the phone a step up – he was ridiculed a bit from the show host; told “you know, shes probably this fat ugly chick right?” and he recovered with “So? Not in my mind she isn’t. Im not having sex with a fat ugly chick, just the girl in my mind.”
But in a way…hes not lying.
Phone sex was around before the internet. Now that the internet is here phone sex is almost obsolete. How is phone sex any different than a person getting on the internet with their webcam and exposing themselves to strangers and/or accquaintances, sometimes for money sometimes for free? In my opinion there is no difference except the technology. The concept is the same and that is one person reaching out to another person to fulfill a sexual desire. Is it morally right or wrong? I guess that depends upon where one’s own morals stand. What one sees as moral another may see as immoral. I tend not to judge others sexual desires/fantasies. However, I do have issues with people who look down their noses at someone because of their sexual desires/fantasies and yet they have secrets in their sex closet that are yet to be exposed.
i’m assuming because they’re desperate.
rotf.. timestamper
Dan, Dan, the timestamp man….
Seem’s you’ve lost your fundMENTAList following lately, makes me wonder why. Seems you awful hung up on sex lately…. especially boobs….. gives me even a more desire to read your retoric….. boob pictures
btw, I prefer cell phone sex, at least I know who it’s been with last…..
@beccabussa - Your comments are quite thoughtful and I agree with you.
First of all, I guess you are assuming that there’s nobody in the whole world who could find any of these women sexually attractive. Which is a rather limited view of sexuality, but that’s not really the point right now.
Phone sex differs from visual pornography because of the imagination factor. Verbalizing sexual acts forces one to imagine the encounter instead of being directly fed the visual and auditory fantasy of a pornographic film. My guess is that some people simply respond more to this type of stimulation. While viewing porn is (normally) a solitary act, phone sex has the added element of another participant. There’s still the distance of fantasy, but it’s a step closer to actual human interaction. Perhaps some people enjoy flirting with getting closer without actually getting close?
why would they need to pay when they could just go into some chat room and find a willing partner online…
Maybe, I could possibly see phone sex if your SO was like 1000 miles away and you were trying to keep his imagination going til he could get home to you or something of that nature, but to do it just to do it, and do it with a stranger just seems….boring:)
I would imagine they do it because these women’s voices are sexier than their pics.
Maybe because they can’t get any in real life.
Or maybe they just don’t want to contract any STD/STI.
lonly-ness…though paying for it. but, i believe its more about the voice on the other end and the unknown. sence you don’t know who it is, what she looks like, it could be your famasy. your basicly paying for a fantasy. i suppose.
Because they spend their time on xanga and read “Save The Boobs” site and then they come here and get the bright idea and voila, they are on the phone huffin’ and puffin’, groovin to the music and then “POP GOES THE WEASEL”
Desperation, I guess! I have no clue why anyone would pay for talking to someone though. *shrug*
Phone sex, like cyber sex is an experiment with personal identity. People share sexual fantasies, My suspicion is that a lot of times people don’t act things out face to face.many people are sexually frustrated. Many marriages don;t work out as sexual relationships. People are dissatisfied with their sex lives, but are unwilling to seek out other physical sex partners. A lot of church members are in this situation. An amazing number of church members have turned to internet porn, others look for internet sex partners in places like craigs list. We are talking about Preachers, Deacons, Choir Directors and WMU ladies here. This is never acknowledged in religious communities, but it is very very common. Phone sex is an extension of the same game. Better the preacher have phone sex with a strange woman, than pick up teenage girls at youth retreats.
I want that job xD
Cuz that way they can have the fantasy without having to listen to the nagging just a few minutes later?
eww
lonliness…excitement…fetish…etc.
Well, if it works for you, it should be encouraged, seems like a great way to have same sex. I had a g/f who wanted to do this when she was travelling, but it never worked for me. I had another g/f who was an actress and did provide phonesex for a while, and told me she discussed Shakespeare more often than sex. So who knows what goes on?
Maybe they haven’t discovered internet porn?
I am confused. Are you asking about the phone sex operators or the people who are calling in for the services?
If it’s the operator’s, then I am guessing they are looking for some easy *(pun intended) money.
If it’s the customers, then I am guessing either for the experience or out of loneliness.
because they’re desperately in need of some form of sex!
and they couldn’t walk to the nearest street corner, so they found the closest item and that was the phone!
Why do people read sexual fantasies? Same reason – if you can’t see the person you make them be who you want in your head. And best of all, you get the job done and you don’t have to see them the next day
And plus NO DISEASE
Because they are pathetic and can’t get the real thing.
Maybe it’s exciting to them to have phone sex with someone they don’t know?
They are curious. The “sex” is available. And it’s completely un-attachable. Not all these people who use the phone sex service are pathetic low-lives with no girls. I won’t be surprised if often enough they guys have a good sex life (are even married) yet they want that extra…something…from someone else.
I have a cousin who was well over 400 pounds and she was a phone sex operator. I see nothing wrong with it, its just another way to make money. And I view it as a gift. If somebody has a gift of being a doctor or a painter or anything else, they are encouraged to use the gift. I see phone sex as the same thing. If somebody has a sexy voice and a brilliantly dirty mind, why not use it to their advantage.
Wait, I misread that. You wanted to know why people would pay to have phone sex. Well, I think people get lonely and horny which makes for a very expensive combo and they turn to phone sex to fill that void. I don’t though, I just go online and find somebody to chat dirty with or cam with, its much cheaper and just as satisfying.
sexual frustration. and it’s basically anonymous? they have that image in their mind of what the person looks like (false advertisements). i always figured the phone sex callees looked somewhat of that sort.
i might try one day now. just out of curiosity, haha.
It’s strange… just no. I don’t know why they do it. I would never.
low self esteem, a need for money….the same reasons prostitution and the like occur, i suppose.
I personally wouldn’t, but I think our society puts a lot more value in sex rather than the actual relationship. In looking for a one night stand, or in this case a phone sex partner, the person doesn’t get put through an exhaustive set of qualifications. Such people are desperate, therefore they aren’t picky.
Especially in this day and age where people can get similar online, for free..
Although if they are this desperate, they probably are already partly self destructive.
Somehow I don’t think this is what was meant by “reach out and touch someone.”
The simplest reason would be… that they aren’t getting any?
One word…..SUCKS!!! I freggin hate it
phone sex……yeah….people really need lives i swear!
It’s not like these people are prostitutes; they’re talking to people, not actually having sex with them. These photos depict them in a very negative manner.
Also, the lady in the second to last picture is very pretty.
i think people have phone sex because its the only action they can get and they are like super desperate. and they should know that most of the ppl that are on the line with them arent fit because all they do the whole day is talk on the phone
yup thats my opinion
I would think because they need money. Its safer than going out to prostitute and get some HIV. And no one cares what they look like. (Unless it is from one of those commercials. They might get actors to do those)
I imagine that a man might pay for such a thing because they’re either very shy or too ugly to get a woman in real life. I think women might do it because of the same reasons I listed for men, or maybe because it’s just plain easy if you have the right voice! You could be painting your toenails or something for all the guy knows, and as long as you keep your attention focused on the convo and your voice to a sexy purr, you’re raking in the dough! Plus you can’t get STDs from phone sex, which you’d risk if you were to prostitute yourself.
lol idk xD
‘Cause it’s hot! It’s like S&M, roleplaying, or webcam sex! It’s a different variety!
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Desperate and lonely socially awkward people pay for phone sex.
No way I’d pay for that, but there must be something to it, if they are making money still?
ME, no way.
I just went to that link you provided Dan. I absolutely LOVE what the old woman smoking had to say… “I’m 60 years old, have a BA in Cultural Anthropology from Columbia University, and married for 25 years. I make twice the money I made in the corporate world. I work from home, the money transfers into my bank account daily. I’m Scheherezade: If I don’t tell stories that fascinate the Pasha, he will kill me in the morning.”
I also liked what the laughing pitchfork girl had to say… “I think it’s easier to release repressed desires to a non-judgmental, fictional person, because there are no consequences in the outside world.”
Also, Dan, why didn’t you post the picture of the male phone sex operator? You got something against male phone sex operators?
because of the thrill to talk to someone for the first time and not having to really get to know them or deal with them, just for imaginative pleasure.
idk why anyone would pay… I have a friend that I call (or he calls me) and it’s free. We’ve never met in person because we live in totally different parts of the country, but at least we’ve exchanged pics & stuff. We’ve known each other for 3 years now, so we’re pretty comfortable with each other. I like it a little more than just calling a service and being assigned an anonymous person, because at least I know the person on the other end knows more about me as a person. Hell, we give advice to each other or talk about what’s stressing us out a lot too, which a hotline won’t do.
I would definitely choose a real person over a voice any day, haha. But I’m picky about who I hook up with, and I won’t do it unless I see it going anywhere, so sometimes it’s nice to be able to interact with someone in that way without any other expectations or obligations (not to mention worries about STDs and pregnancy).
Because they’re horny and can’t get none in real life.
whoa
lonely and too lazy to get up to watch porn?
WOW.
maybe they couple the voice to some sort of fantasy figure they have in their imagination? i have no idea.
Because the people calling want to be in a fantasy but without performing the actual sexual acts – however the element of the woman’s voice on the phone helps them with that fantasy?
Eve tho it’s odd, I say phone sex is better than cheating or using a STD ridden hooker.
lack of time and/or they don’t want to get involved want to avoid dinner whores, maybe have issues with prostitutes &c and just want to have something more than a picture or video to jerk off to
BTW – I don’t see anything wrong with any of these pictures – it depends how the large woman depicts herself is all – I came on cam to a woman like that she was awesome with the way she talked – it was like she talked the jizz right out of me it was great
OMG!
I’ve called a million phone sex lines in the past. I would say that I’m a sex addict. I haven’t acted out in a while, but once an addict… So, in light of your post, few quick words:
Sexual addiction: very real, very hard to get out of. Addiction is simply an itch that you will do anything to scratch. So, if phone sex is a new way to scratch it…
Intimacy: At least the source of your thrill is real person, who is activley involved.
Fear and Insecurity: The phone sex operator will never reject you, call you ugly, laugh at you, or turn you down. It’s like a hooker, but safer.
If you call a phone sex line, once or a thousand times, you’re not a sick, twisted, disgusting pervert. You’re a person with a deep need for something, attempting to find a way to fill it at $2.99 a minute.
People pay for the things that they cannot have in their real lives. Even if they are married/committed/etc. They need that satisfaction and they either get it online, on the streets, or on the phone. I highly doubt they truly (some people do…) give a crap about the woman on the end being a BBW, an older woman, or not-so-savvy in the fashion department woman. As long as they’re getting their jollies, I’m sure they’ll take anything they can get. Honestly, you don’t have to look good to have good phone sex. Besides, these women are beautiful to someone if not their callers.
gross.
Loneliness.
Well? What d’ya expect? Pam Anderson clones? Playboy bunnies?
I’m not sure. It seems like a waste of time and money.
Because they’re desperate? or because they can’t find anyone who would do it with them?
LMFAO!! BOys/ MeN dont care! The sex addiction is REAL, and a “hobby” becomes an obsession, As long as they are getting “something” from “it” The person doesnt mattter. There is nothing better that ANY woman talking dirty to them. Sorry girls with the men that say “i am NOT interested” that is a LIE>>>> LMAO
I don’t see why anyone would do that. I am sure they could find someone online to do it with for free lol.
When people see commercials advertising for anything similar to this, the advertisers always use some sexy, busty, skinny young girl. Of course, most of us know that whoever is on the other end of the line–does Not look like this. If someone is randy enough, the thought that whoever they’re speaking with looks like what You posted above…will totally be pushed into the back of their minds. They keep the image of the commercial girl and are probably (but not always) in complete denial of what’s actually going on. So long as they have that brief image of a sexy girl while listening to the sexy voice on the phone…it doesn’t really matter to them in the end…it’s all just a fantasy, and if it helps them get through the day, then good for them! Not everyone is so lucky to find a gf/bf/playdate whenever they need one. And now that I think of it-not everyone cares about what the person on the phone looks like, some people just have a fetish for listening to a sexy voice.
@HeartOfPandora - Good answer
I guess because they’re lonely and that’s the only way they can get some, haha.
They’re lonely, frustrated, or extremely sexual?
I don’t know. Is it even that popular anymore? Maybe it’s their fetish. Or they want a personal interaction with someone and porn isn’t as personal? Maybe they’re just that lonely and want to talk. lol
Loneliness. I think it’s an attempt to reach out and feel connected to someone. For some, it might also be that their sexual fantasies are too taboo to act on so they act them out through phone sex.
Desperation
people dont have to visualize those pictures that you have shown.. all they do is hear a voice, they can imagine that they are having phone sex with anyone in the world. freaky.. but true
@Tallman - I think you’re right!
Truthfully, who can know the mind and heart of man? Boredom? Deviance? It’s easier to get away with? Who knows?
I imagine it would be easy or something exciting minus any real commitment on anyone’s part.
I guess because it tends to get a little lonely out there in the real world…
Because they can’t find a partner with whom to do it for free?
I guess the thrill of copulating with a stranger intensified by imagining them whatever way you want.
Besides, just because they aren’t attractive doesn’t mean they don’t have nice voices.
I can understand having phone sex, as I’ve done it plently of times being in a long distance relationship. However, I never paid for it…but, at the same time I must say that in my experience, phone sex has actually enhanced my actual penetrative sex life with my girlfriend…it has helped us to be more open and expressive during sex (talking dirty, telling each other what we like, want, love, etc.) and for this reason, someone who might not have that much game in the real world could use this service to become more comfortable with themselves as a sexual being.
I’m surprised at all the judgmental people on here claiming that a person would be pathetic to partake in this type of sexual pleasure. I would go so far as to say that these people who knock others’ pusuits of happiness are equally, if not more pathetic for being unimaginative douchewads. A lot of these uptight people who speak out against certain sexual lifestyles can often be the ones with the highest propensity to engage in these activities.
this is going to sound bad, but its funny reading all of the responses to what everyone “thinks” would be a reason someone would pay [or even have?] phone sex. i’m curious to know that since nobody actually knows the reasons why people would [or do] engage in this, are these reasons why YOU personally would [or think, or attempt to] engage in this act?
not to offend, just a thought that ran through my head =]
@Sonofabiscuitbox - yes did you see my comment below yours? thats what i was thinking. i agree.
hence the assumption that people who get so offended by the homosexual society are really homosexual themselves just, “in the closet”?
It’s exactly the same thing as paying for pornography or visiting a strip club, you are buying a fantasy. All semi-intelligent people know that the person in the picture can’t see you, the stripper is not going home with you and the person on the other end of the phone probably is not really turned on by you. Guys will pretend that these things are real and pay for the privilage.
a million reasons why someone would pay to have phone sex:
1. they cant get it for free
2. they think it’s funny
3. they like it…
4. they’re shy to ask someone they know
5. they have money to burn
6. i dont know. not a million, but a few atleast…
It beats me. Don’t have a clue.
I have no idea but I had a so called “friend” who, without my knowledge, conned me out of $1000 by making several phone sex calls. Took a LONG time to get it to go away from my bill and for him to pay me back what he owed me after.
He’s now born again, married and working at a church. Go figure.
@AMOURxDEMAVIE - Thanks for replying to my comment, and good to see someone agrees with me! I think you made an interesting point about people projecting their own motivations to potentially pay for phone sex onto the people who already do. I don’t claim to know why an individual would pay for it, other than it’s someone that they want at the time, be it positive in terms of their own sexual fulfillment or negative by making them go broke.
Maybe they are with their friends one cold night and decide to dial the phone sex hotline, put the chick on loudspeaker and laugh at her. I dont know.
@Sonofabiscuitbox - thank you sir! i’m a thinker .. which can be extremely dangerous sometimes haha. i just wonder when people become so judgemental PERIOD is it because of their own feelings and values? or a secret “fantasy” they have themselves. or the “oh she looks like a bitch so she MUST be a bitch.” do you think YOU look like a bitch, and if you think you look like one then is is because YOU YOURSELF are a bitch therefore you assume that everyone who looks like a bitch to YOU must be one? a bitch to one person isnt a bitch to the next; their definitions are different because of what they percieve or believe for themselves. my conclusion, doesnt mean its correct hehe. as for the phone sex thing, some people think its “despetate” because why? maybe because its a thing they do when THEY are desperate themselves? blah. too much analyzing!
PAY?! You can do dis for free wif yer lover.
@goodbyedinner - agree
hummmmmm, I agree with people that say these people are disconnected, Women do it for the money, men use the service because they can connect with a human female voice if thats what you want to call it. I think prostitution should be legal then rapes would be down, child molestion would be down and , listen to me poeple we could TAX the snoot out of it and give health care and a college education to all. And to all a good night.
Maybe they think it’s just an easy way to get money.