December 29, 2008
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Unsubscribing Etiquette Part 2
I was talking to a xangan friend on IM tonight and he mentioned that his wife had unsubscribed to me. I understand in that that tends to go with the territory on my site. My best guess is that I have had 6000-7000 people unsubscribe to me over the last 3 and a half years.
Some of them tell me and some of them don’t. I wouldn’t know if people did not post it or specifically tell me. But apparently this time it was because of a post I had written. I was sorry to see her go. She is a nice lady.
But here is my situation now. I am subscribed to her. I have been since I heard she had subscribed to me. So my problem is that now I know I upset her so much that she unsubscribed to me. I wonder if I might just cause her anger if I continue to comment on her.
Should you unsubscribe to someone if they unsubscribed to you?
Comments (107)
yes
I wouldn’t unless they were nasty about unsubbing, which wasn’t the case this time for you. Maybe she’ll get over it and resub.
Nope. That’s her problem.
If you like what she has to write, than you should still support her by reading her material, right? Makes sense to me anyway.
I would but how do you know unless they tell you lol. If I know they have, yes, most definitely I would!
Yes unless you want to continue reading their site.
no, she can block you if she doesn’t want you there.
No.
You would never have known had her husband not mentioned it. Don’t go looking for trouble where none exists.
not if you enjoy reading what she has to say. (:
Nope.
Don’t you just flit around Xanga and comment wherever you want, anyway?
who cares
Only if you dislike what they write.
@jmallory -
I didn’t realize I said like the same thing as you (: but yeeah I agree.
No. Just because she doesn’t want to read your material regularly anymore doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t want you to read hers. If she does, she’ll block you.
nope
no, you can block someone and she didnt want to hear your ideas not the other way around.
I probably would unless you read her stuff too.
Well, the entire point of subscribing is to read the other person’s blogs. Just because they don’t want to read yours, does not mean you don’t want to read theirs. I don’t see why it’s a big deal. If it bothers you that much and you don’t want to read theirs either anymore, then whatever. Go for it.
that’s a really good question..
Not many people that are still actually on xanga still subscribe to me (I probably have 3 dozen that subscribed four or so years ago, when xanga was the ‘it’ site), so I haven’t had this problem… or even thought about it.
return the love
Only if they block you.
I think she can handle one measly super blogger visiting her site even if she doesn’t visit his.
@ihopeyouch0kex - It’s all good. As I said, it makes sense, so I would expect others to say something similar to what I said! lol
i think it’s weird that people take xanga this seriously
@OstentatiousEloquence - I feel the exact same way.
I agree with what others have said- you subscribe to read their stuff. If your feelings for their blog haven’t changed, then I wouldn’t unsub.
haha I’m mad you actually told him his wife unsubscribed to you. It’s good that they have their own mind and even if she unsubscribed he didn’t feel the same way towards you. Maybe you guys will make amends. Although, if someone ends the relationship on their end I usually do so on mine. I guess I just don’t like to feel bitter or harbor feelings if I know they don’t want to deal with me and I still read their stuff or feel the need to comment, etc. It’s just easier that way unless you really don’t care then if you still want to read her stuff you can I’d just advise not to comment on her site because she might not want you to.
Nahh if you like her writing, keep yourself subbed. Just maybe don’t comment? Or maybe DO comment and be nice and she’ll sub again :]
No. If she doesn’t like your comments, she can ask you to unsub or she can block you.
No… you might give her a little space for a while, then start commenting again. Then see what happens.
wait, there’s actual etiquette in unsubscribing? i just delete the person i subscribe to from my list if i’ve taken all of their surveys or if i got bored with their surveys or something.
If someone unsubbed me, I would unsubb them back.
Hmm depends
u do not have to feel obliged to unsubscribe, it is her problem. keep doing what you are doing as long as you are happy doing it.
@History_Nut - That’s a really good way of looking at it…at most things, actually
no.
you don’t need to, since there is a block function.
You take Xanga too seriously.
@jmallory - haha great minds think alike! (;
You subscribe to a person’s site because you enjoy reading it. If you still enjoy reading it, them stay subscribed. Otherwise you should already have unsubscribed.
I think of subscribing as 2 one-way streets rather than 1 two-way street. If I like someone’s blog, I subscribe because I’m interested. I do not them to subscribe to me just because I wanted to see what they wrote. The same can be said but in reverse. Although I’d like more people to subscribe to me, that doesn’t mean I’ll subscribe to everyone just to get attention.
Nah,like they said if she doesn’t want you there she can block you.
I do not get why they would unsub to the best Christian Porn site on xanga though.
I would if they requested that I unsubscribe.
Of course, if you enjoy reading her blog and she doesn’t have a problem with it I don’t see why you should unsub from her site.
it’s like would you give a crap about people who don’t care about you.
no.
(obviously we do! in fact that’s why we stalk strangers.)
yes.. if I knew.
well if you don’t care to read their blogs anymore
then go for it
Yes
no. if they don’t like it, they can either put it on friends lock or ask me.
Not really I’ll just leave it there
who cares if they unsub you
You dont have* to unsub em back for that reason
as long as you like what they’re writting – then thats all it matters
If they unsubscribe from me, I simply sit them down, explain how they made a huge mistake… THEN THERE IS PAIN.
@ihopeyouch0kex - True that, yo.
haha i’m sure she doesn’t mind either way… whatever you are comfortable with.
nope. if you get blocked, you get blocked. if not, let it go dan.
I wouldn’t. People unsub from me and I still sub to them. I figured they just got bored with me. Likewise, I’ve unsubbed from others but they still are subbed to me – doesn’t bother me. If it was an “offensive” thing and I didn’t want them to read it, I could just block them.
I don’t even know how to find out who unsubscribed to me
@bodyheartmindsoul - haha
No. If you like what they post and it interests you, stay subscribed. If they don’t like it, they can always ask you to not subscribe to them anymore or simply block you.
I sub to who I can keep up with and enjoy reading.
I don’t even pay attention to who subs/unsubs to me other than to pop in and say hello if I see the notice that I have a new subscriber. I think it’s nice to do when I can.
So um …. no.
@XXVl - I agree
Why are things so petty on here?
You could ask her. Send her the link to this post.
Nah. Wait til they block you.
That’s what I do.
Yes, with an exception in your case, you should be a gentleman and continue commenting.
up to you, Dan. I mean……she can talk to you if she wants. Wouldn’t worry about it. all my best
I would say that depends on whether or not you like the content of their site. If so, continue to subscribe. If not, unsubscribe. I doubt that the quality of any of our lives would be seriously diminished if people were to unsubscribe us. If so, we need to get a life other than xanga.
Are xanga relationships really the most important in your lives? If so, I think it is a sad commentary on your life. I’m sorry for you. While I’ve made some pleasant contacts through xanga, I doubt that any would fall into the category of life-long friendships. You need to spend time with people to do that and I’ve only actually met face-to-face with one xanga friend.
Sorry to ramble. Blessings to all of you today.
noo.
I dont keep track with who is subscribed to me and who has unsubcribed from me.
All I know is how many people are currently subscribed to me, how many friends I have.etc
All this crap about who unsubbed to who, is just a bunch of hooey. Move on.
If it were me, I would. I’m not thinking in terms of vengeance or any other drama equivalent. But I do see blogs as being analogous to friendships. If for some reason someone who was subscribed to my blog unsubscribes and I was aware of it, I would unsubscribe to their blog out of politeness. I would not wish to place them in an uncomfortable position where they can no longer respond in kind to my comments on their blog.
I would. I almost never know who has unsubbed me because I don’t always reciprocate subs, but if I know who has unsubbed and I am subbed to them I unsub them immediately.
I say you just track her IP, steal her computer while her Xanga’s signed in, and re-subscribe to yourself.
But I’d really like to figure out why it upsets so much, with 10,000 subscribers, what it hurt to lose that one?
not if i still liked what they wrote about
@bodyheartmindsoul - Yeah, my thoughts exactly.
Usually
Hmmm…I guess sometimes I take personal offence, which I probably shouldn’t, when people unsubscribe. It’s that part of me that figures if you don’t want to read my stuff I don’t want to read yours either… but in reality, I usually stay subscribed anyway. Good material is good material, even if the writer doesn’t care to come by my site anymore. If I really bothered them, they’d probably block me anyway.
no, if she objects to your comments she will block you.
No. People unsubscribe for a variety of reasons. Not just because they hate you or whatever. I’ve considered unsubscribing to some just to reduce the amount of stuff in my Universal Inbox. But the xangabim are posting things on the internet. Anyone can see it if you really want to.
I would message the person asking them if they also want me to unsub or not.
I would.
not necessarily. i’m subbed to people who aren’t subbed to me. if she doesn’t want to hear from you, she’ll tell you (or block you).
I’m with Quell on this one – only if you don’t care for what they’re writing.
I unsubscribed from you once because I felt like all of your updates were taking over my subs page. >.<
But then I re-subbed because after a few months I stopped being so annoyed by it.
I think its ridiculous to unsub someone because of an entry. Fucking oversensitive asses. This is why i hate people. I’d unsub her simply because she’s a twat. If you offended her with an entry, i can’t imagine she’d write anything worth reading anyway.
In this situation, I would probably not unsub…I would just wait and see what happens.
Hmmm, I think if SHE would have told you that she unsub’d then maybe I would stop commenting her, I dunno lol
if you enjoy reading her page, leave the subscription in place…as others have said, earlier, she can always block you, if she truly does want you gone…peace, animal
Nope cause I don’t want anyone to suscribe to me anyways
I look to you for blogging etiquette. Please post your final decision and I will write in the book.
If they block you, yes. If not, I don’t see why you should.
i guess it would depend on her attitude toward you when/if you make a comment on her site.
I guess it depends on what your real life relationship is like. I’m inclined to think that that I would unsub from her and just leave her alone.
Who cares???
depends
Just because someone unsubscribed to you does not mean you have to unsubscribe from them. If you still like their site, why would you NOT stay? Unless the person directly tells you that they no longer want you visiting, why make the assumption you need to???
Stay….and enjoy.
PS. I still subscribe to you.
I’M AN OPEN MAN .WISH YOU A VERY SWEET HAPPY NEW YEAR MY FRIEND
I usually unsubscribe to people when I have noticed that they have not sent me a comment in a while. It makes me know that they are not reading my entries which I thought xanga was all about sharing. Probably New Years will be the time to clean house once again. I also unsubscribe to people if I noticed that they have not put out an entry in a while. (except if they are dead. I have one subscriber that is dead.)
@kkdoyel - Can I subscribe to you?
@bodyheartmindsoul - I don’t understand why everyone takes it so seriously either.
I don’t particularly care who’s subscribed to me, or if the people I’m subscribed to are subscribed to me. I only subscribe to people’s blogs who I like reading. I assume it’s the same for everyone else. If you unsubscribe to me, whatever. It doesn’t matter. I still read who I want to read and still write what I want to write.
@Jade_Orchid - Sure but I am not that exciting..:)
i wanted to unsubscribe to you.
because some of your blogs are kind of mean.
but then again, its funny
Just leave it as is unless she tells you she doesnt want you to read her site.
Dont comment bc it might piss her off. Ehh…
I guess just ignore her
Etiquette in Xanga can be at times, an open ended question.
I would no unsubscribe although at some point it may turn out to be an awkward situation. When one gets to an awkward situation then it’s time to reevaluate the situation.
I would look at their blog and decide if it was interesting or worth my time. If it’s typical b.s. I would unsubscribe. Lets face it, there are some people we subscribe to because we know and like them – more than what they write.
I think it’d be best to, because like you said, you might just continue to annoy the other person. But I don’t think I’ve ever had that problem, as not many people comment me anyway.
well, I don’t reciprocate just because someone’s subscribed to me… the same with unsubs
I wonder first the kind of comment you would leave on her posts. Judging by the way your blog is organized, I dont see how your posts could anger her… everything post is in the form of a issue followed by a question). I’d say no but if you Xanga friend says anything else about this then go ahead and un-subscribe, she obviously doesnt want to here from you anymore, nor does she care about your opinions.
If you enjoy there post no. it was their choice to become angry not yours.