January 22, 2009
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Internet Crushes
AirforceVirgin did a post about xanga crushes.
She told people to private message her and tell her their xanga crushes and if two people matched, she would let them know.
Do you think you could ever crush on someone you met only online?
Comments (157)
Yeah i have in fact but you can’t get too serious about it cause you never know if anything is going to work out until you meet in person
naw
maybe, it depends…
Haha I’ve done it before. It’s kind of hard, but if you’re honest and hope to God the other person is too, it can actually work.
For a while I ended up meeting someone through chat, and we ended up writing, and eventually meeting. Afterward, things just didn’t work out =P
I do sometimes but my crushes are always based on writing. Pictures are deceptive.
yes. but only if they seemed really cool. ‘s all i’m sayin.
I could. I have. I don’t anymore.
Yes.I have had a crush on a Xangan for over 2 years now.
Oh yeah.
Hey there, my name is Chris Hansen…
They always turn out to be forty year old pedophiles.
Sure, but that to me isn’t basis for dating someone. I’d have to meet them and get to know them better first. :]
I think you can. It’d take awhile i’d say and you’d really have to get to know the person but yeah I think so.
Well, if we can develop crushes on actors and musicians, why not someone on the internet?
Yes.
i had, in 8th grade. since then, the media has me to frightened to speak to anybody on a serious level online.
but, if you met the person online, it’s nice to think that they really started to like you for your personality.
i’ve seen it happen to a lot of people, but i don’t see myself in that situation
~GiGi
Are you trying to bring down my fun over there Dan?!?!
MAYBE, not likely, but who knows.
Probably not.
Yes.
If I liked their writing style or found them creative, funny, etc.
I’m taking applications for a XangaCrush.
yup. happened once.
I’m guilty. He was friends with one of my friends && I just talked to him online for the longest time. We went to school together && after talking to him a few times in person we started dating. We ended up being together for over a year. Woo.
But I think that’s a slightly different situation.
eh. i think it’s possibile to crush, but to form a relationsip, well that takes a lot of work. more than a non online relationsip.
It’s more fun than actual real life.
Man…I don’t have any Xanga crushes. I must start stalking Xanga profiles..j/k
While I’ve made some great friends online, I just can’t see myself getting a crush. In fact, I haven’t had a crush on anyone since I met my husband about 30 years ago.
Seriously though, I had a crush on someone over the internet once. It was a bad idea. I do know a few people who have met via message boards or places like Xanga, and they’re happily married with kids now, so it does happen. Wasn’t a good idea for me though.
of course its safer that way!
@mileyfan08 - Ya, I don’t get that. I can understand wanting to do an actor or musician, but not crushing on them. That’s lame, at least if you’re over 8 years old.
No, I don’t see that happening.
That would really spice things up though.
Yeah. I’m sad and pathetic that way.
Oh, yes! My very biggest crush in the whole wide world has been on someone I only met on Xanga.
If they were rich, yes.
Sure!
Personally, I think all this talk of xangacrushes might lead to serious awkwardness and drama….
I, personally, don’t think I ever ever could. Actually, I know I never could. Based on a horrific experience with an internet stalker and the creepiness and fear that ensued and the later legalities, I know this is an impossibility for me. I think if it is a crush reciprocated from both ends then it is fine. For other people. But not me.
I had a really deep rooted crush on someone I met online. We met in person and now we’re really good friends. It won’t go beyond that but when I’m hanging out with him I am totally at ease and he just feels like a brother to me. It’s pretty awesome.
nope. online and in person are completely different.
I actually have no idea.
its possible but hasn’t happened to me yet
I have in the past.
maybe.
if they had a webcam
NOT FOR PR0N.
I have! You, of all people, know my story with that pretty well… But I talk to him on the phone, and that’s how the crush developed.
I think it’s pretty easy to crush on someone’s way of writing though. When you can see personality, it just makes you want to get to know them more!
btw, I first met my boyfriend on myspace, and we’ve been together for almost 3 years! heh.
It’s happened. But a real life one would be better unless the person online is the same as the one offline.
Yes. I met my ‘crush’ in person too. ;D
i could but i dont do long distance relationships.
A little crush, of course. But I would never actually persue it.
could crush, but hardly get serious unless I could meet them in person.
Crush only, nothing more.
Course. People do it all the time.
Just look at how successful those dating sites are. Not that *I* would ever do it.
Just sayin.
ehhh…things online are kept online…
internet = serious business
it’s possible
Sure.
Yeah I do!! By the way I’m married to her… We met on an online dating site. So remember love is blind, and anything is possible!!!!
No not even when I was single.
hmm… well, I met hubby online… we married, and it’s going on 13 years now.
You’re my xanga crush(=
I met my husband online.
So, yeah.
@diamonddave75 - Awesome. I met my husband online. =]
Crush? Absolutely.
only u Dan
I have a mancrush on you, Dan, but you knew that.
I not only could, but I do. ; )
not seriously, but in good fun, yeah…
yeah, met my ex that way.notice the ex part. stick to real life, peoples.
@omgitsmackie - Cool then you know anything is truly possible… Love is awesome!!!
Online relationships only works if you have met in real life, otherwise it’s just pointless.
I think with the perfect personanlity yes. I’m not so much into what a person looks like. It helps but it’s not the most important part…but personality and attitude get people a long way in my book. I like to know the person… I wouldn’t carry a relationship on with them more than friend ship that is b/c online is silly…I’d like someone to hold please!
no can do icky
@seedsower - I know that I appear to be everything you ever wanted in a man. Smart, funny, huge antlers, and nice shrubberies.
But it just won’t work out.
Sorry.
@LeaderOfTheKnightsWhoSayNI - There go all my hopes and dreams,shattered with one comment.
@seedsower - Sorry. I just didn’t want to lead you on any longer.
of course you can crush. it’s going overboard that it suddenly becomes stalker-ish and creepy, and downright insane.
~Lynnsey
Not a for real crush… It’d be a bit hard if you lived in countries miles away from each other
-raises hand- Guilty of crushing of crushing someone online
. But the attraction is different. For me, while I may be attracted to person for the way he writes in chats or the wit and intelligence that may ooze from his blog, it doesn’t erase the physical attraction and chemistry I (sometimes unconsciously) look for.
And yes, while the person may turn out to be a 40 something pedophile or some guy whose hobby is to collect stamps, BUT intead writes ‘surfing on the beach and volunteering at the zoo’, you have to just factor it in. The next person you talk to may not be a hot girl, but there’s also a chance it’s not some creepy weird dude who wants a picture of your feet for his fetish.
Haha wow what a great idea! But none for me…
probably not
Sure, if I wasn’t married. There are plenty I could “crush on” whatever the heck that really means LOL
Yes it’s possible
Ooh. Too late.
Yes.
Love from all 2,500+ miles.
sure why not, cruches are usually all about the idea of the person rather than who they may actually be anyway right?
Yes. Yes, you can.
Im actually a lot bolder online. I do hit on men from time to time, whereas in real life, Im too shy. So yes, I could crush on someone online. Apparently, its trendy. Although, I wish someone would crush on me…I feel unloved, which is not good for my fragile ego.
yep
Yes, it’s possible.
personal experience: never
probably: well, it actually depends. but i think it’d be cool to have a crush online.:D
You could have a crush over the internet, but I would say that you can not fall in love over the internet.
Well, I met my husband online, started off as a crush…developed it to much more down the road, but I don’t regret it at all!!
No. I’m a realist.
No, I haven’t had a crush on anyone online. I think it is possible, but I don’t think a real relationship could form, unless the two people live near each other and actually meet.
A small crush, a not very serious crush, certainly. But one where I seriously try to pursue a relationship? I had such a bad experience once with an online friendship–one where I’d decided that she wasn’t what I was looking for romantically, and that was OK–that I’m not sure I could ever try again.
it depends how trusting they are.
No
Hehe of course!
Yes.
i’ve developed crushes on people after meeting them once in person and then only talking to them online.
but i’ve never had a crush on someone without meeting them.
Gullibly…yes.
Sure.
Eh, maybe. I have met Xangans in real life, one of which I was interested in, but she wasn’t feeling the same way for me.
no
oh yea….ive even crushed on you Dan! ; )
I think you can have a crush on someone from the internet, but you still have to be smart about it!
…so much fun!
*HUGS*
Yes, but like others have said before it doesn’t pay to get serious about your internet crush because more then likely you’ll never meet.
haha yup
Absolutely.
I’ve never crushed on anyone from Xanga, but I have had crushes on other people I’ve met online. It’s always a disaster though…
Yes..
Well, atleast one other person knows you have a crush on me Dan. lol
I hardly have crushes in real life so, no, I do not think I could crush on someone on the internet.
Maybe
It’s possible. Some people just like to be “in like”. I used to have puppy crushes on a person I chat with online, but I know the puppy crush will end if we met in person or will meet in person.
Maybe. It really depends.
lame.
Nope. There’s a chemistry you have when you meet someone in person that you just don’t get on the internet.
Maybe an intellectual crush but not a physical. I think it would be a shallow crush at best.
no
I am having a hard telling the differences between curiosity or a crush…I just know I want to know more?
yeah definitely! i always do ;p
Nope. Then again, that may be because I’m planning a wedding and don’t crush on other guys – online or in real life.
I MUST unequivocally state that I want to have sex with almost anyone I subscribe to, comment on, reply to their comments on your site or just pass through based on profile pictures.
One drugs, off drugs, in public, in a car, at a hotel, an airplane bathroom, anywhere, anytime.
I haven’t met any of them, what did you think I was here for the impressive minds?
@superblessed - hai
hmmmmmmmm…….it’s definately possible. Happened to me during a time when my marriage was having a very, hard time. I thank God I never physically met the person. Wait….was that TMI? I can never tell.
@msbutterfli - The internet can be dangerous! I am here.
@GaMeGurLsH - Maybe you too, big dogs need love too.
I did have one really bad, took me 2 years to meet him and when I did he was just what I had been imagining. but it wasn’t meant to be
i wouldnt wanna.. but its happened before xD but they were friends of my friends.. so one guy, i was really into him and everything xD and he talked so flirty all the time on msn, but he would go and find many more online girls to flirt with and stuff.. so i was like.. oh. =/ but the pathetic thing is, he was really shy and boring on the phone xD.. i told him that he was really different, and he said that everyone is different online and offline, wrong ¬__¬. and then.. i finally met him, being over him for a long time, and at the time my friend liked him instead, and omds, he is the most boring person in the whole entire worldddd! he’s a complete mute ==” so.. you cant really trust that anyone is what they seem online.. but thats the only person who ive met online, that is completely fake.. thank god haha xD but everyone should be cautious about meeting and getting to know people online, o_o middle aged paedophiles.. :S the thought just makes me cringe.
I have a Xanga crush
It is quite stupid knowing you will more than likely never meet that person but it is fun at the same time lol
I have before.
As dumb as it sounds, yes I actually have once before.
He’s a good friend–in real life–of mine.
Yeah, I must admit I have gotten internet crushes and felt horribly retarted.
I mean, somtimes, you can’t help it. It’s not like we can choose who our emotions allow people to get so close. But when you really look at the reality of things, when you like somone who is 400 miles away, there really is no hope. I doubt things like Eharmoney honestly work.
I’m marrying someone in five months that used to be Xangacrushing on me.
Sure, and I probably do better since I write better than I speak.
hahah um i met my boyfriend online…never met him in person…so yes!
Yep, you can. But only 1 in ten thousand or so cases actually work out.
No, because not everything is what it appears on screen unless of course I got to know someone briefly while chatting.
No I don’t. I really don’t think that you can really get to know anyone unless you sit next to them for a while. You really can’t see, atitudes, mannerisms, or the quirkiness of a personality online that you do in having someone right there in your presence. I think that when communicating with someone on line it is too easy to build an image in your mind that can be filled with more of your imagination than with the personality of the individual themself. I think that a crush over someone online can be really a crush with that image.
I have for sure!
yea, i have a few internet crushes.
I think there’s a level of attraction that can be garnered just online … words are sexy, afterall! There are so many people that enter into online relationships; I don’t see why these Xanga crushes could be any different?
::sigh:: I don’t have anyone crushin’ on me.
Also worth noting: my mom met my step-dad online … love IS possible via the interwebs!
I did, I do, and it even sparked for a while before fizzling out with a soft -psshh-
i could, but i wouldnt take it any further. i might tell them in a message, but that’s where it ends…
YEPs, but I’d never let it… or want it to develop into something more. I mean you always hear about 40 year old guys pretending to be teenage girls. I’m not interested in either, but the point remains the same that you never really know who’s on the other side messaging you.
But then one could also say even if you’ve met someone in peson one can never truly know another as well as they think they do… I think I’m over complicating things…lol
It happens. Net’s part of the way people connect to each other, so it’s bound to happen.
Anything’s possible and none of it’s to be judged or ridiculed
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Whatever happens as a result though still depends on the people involved.
I find it weird how people are able to do that… I know I can’t!
I have..but when I was way younger. It takes a lot more for me to crush on someone now.
Definitely possible! Relationships, I believe, should be based on personality. Looks and money and whatever may play small factors but it’s the personality that’s key.
Haha…my boyfriend and I met on Xanga. Prior to us meeting in person, I wouldn’t say that I had a “crush” on him. In fact, I wasn’t even looking for a boyfriend; he just seemed like a cool guy that happened to live rather close to me. We had been e-mailing for a couple of weeks and we both like meeting new friends, so we decided to go for it.
Mind you, the “crush” did begin once a 6 foot tall, blue-eyed aspiring doctor showed up on my front door. I didn’t really have a choice on that one.
Um…no. Words on a screen? Come on, there’s are guysI see in the flesh for me to have crushes on =P
I don’t know. I think that I can admire their writing, but I don’t think I can legitimately have a crush on a person that I have never laid eyes on.
eh. i think its possible, but personally, i’d prefer meeting people in person. getting to know the chemistry you feel in person.
Only once, haven’t drawn any final conclusions about him just yet. Ah, the mystery.
I think its potential. However, the trust for me would be difficult. Are they just really smooth with words, are they who they say they are? I think it’s easy to fall for a person’s words, the question would really be is their actions speaking the same. And quite honestly, unless you actually meet and start some sort of real life relationship, it would be impossible to tell. However, crushes are fun!
I guess I more answered as far as a relationship rather than just a crush ….haha. Crush online yep!
I doubt that ever happen to me. However, I’m hopeless romantic. I might for a guy if he knows how to play the card right.
Well, what do you think?
yeah already have hehe…