January 26, 2009
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Expressing Your Emotions
I have noticed that some of my friends hold in all of their true feelings that they do not think are positive.
They will not tell someone when they are upsetting them. They tend to think that it makes them look like an angry or hateful person to express their thoughts or feelings.
A few of them appear to think no one will like them if they tell people how they feel.
Do you tend to express your feelings or hold them in?
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i must say I let them all out. Its no way to live holding things in.
I hold them in. I don’t think anyone can tell me anything I don’t already know.
i only express when it’s a strong emotion. if it’s mild i can keep quiet about it
Usually I will tell someon if they are upsetting me,but sometimes I just walk away.
Depends on the circumstances, the person, and if it’s really worth it. Sometimes it’s better kept to myself.
it really depends on who I’m talking to. But I’d say out for the most part.
all out.
but some things are better left unsaid.
oh my
I prefer to talk about my feelings at inappropriate times.
Or make some up at inappropriate times.
Or, just not tell anyone nothin’z.
im a holder-inner
Hold them in, like an old coke bottle. Just don’t shake it up and open it.
I hold them in. I’m always afraid I’ll say something when I’m feeling emotional that I’ll really regret later. Once the words are out there, there’s no taking them back.
I wear my heart and my emotions on my sleeve. In other words, people know when I’m upset
If it is a friend, I don’t mind to say it straight. If it is someone I don’t know well I tend to be more tactful in the way I go about it…but I usually get the point across somehow.
I try to control my emotions, mostly successful.
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I hold in a lot. Probably too much.
But I’m finding it really difficult to change.
Depends on the people and depends on the emotion.
If it’s really strong and I can’t hold it in and I know the person will understand, I let it out.
But most of the time I don’t want people to judge me so I don’t inform a lot of people, even my closest friends when I get mad/annoyed/angry with them.
I think a lot of people believe me to be a very happy person, so I keep that persona going and hide the other parts of my personality. To put it simply.
I am learning to express myself but I usually hold it in because I feel like I am being a bitch when I am upset with someone.
Hold them in.
I am pretty verbal!!
Hold them in. I’m not a very emotional person at all though. Which is odd, because my mom is extremely emotional and girls typically are . . .
I hold my feelings in, at least in front of other people.
Diplomacy first. I won’t go all Iraq on my friends.
Depends on the situation. If it’s something that will come up again or something that bothers me a lot, I will address it since otherwise, I’ll just keep getting upset about it and it will mess up the relationship. If it’s a one time thing or something small that is irritating but tolerable, I’ll let it slide.
i really suck at any kind of deception, so holding in really strong ones usually ends up biting me in the butt. there are some folks who i have discovered are easier to deal with if i pretend everything is okay and sometimes, it even actually works…
I hold it in till I’m constipated with anger and negative energy, dwelling on it till my heart aches and my mind explodes on to paper.
Poetry.
I hold them in pretty tightly. Sometimes I wish I did not though.
They usually come out…at some point.
I’ll hold them in most of the time.
Hold them in.
Usually, I let them out, but lately I’ve just been keeping them in. Which of course ended in disaster :/ I thought keeping it in would help. Negative. I was wrong. I’m just not cut out for holding in my feelings. So now I’m going back to my old ways.
everytime I’m frank it backfires. But holding it back is harmful too. I guess one option would be if we all learned to handle others negative emotions in a better way
Depends on the receiver.
I hold them in, since most times the reasons I get frustrated/angry are stupid ones. so I just let it blow over, try to put some rationality in there and then I’m as good as new
well, I hold a lot of them IRL, but let them all out in a blog until things get serious IRL. Then I let them know how much it bugs me or why im bothered or whatever
ohhhh I express them…
which is why I don’t usually get along with other girls..
haha oops. oh well.
i hold mine in. And then something will happen and i’ll have a “coke bottle” moment like if you shake a coke bottle and it just explodes. thats what happens.
xpress yerself
definately hold them in. im a bottler.
i’m learning to be more open with those i love/care about, i’ve always had a hard time being blunt around them.
A bit of both…depends on the situation..when I’m sad or a little mad..I hold it in..and when I get really angry..I cry and yell…
I hold mine in… then write a blog about it later.
I tend to express mine.
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - You know, you could do both expressing and writing a blog about it.
<=== look at the name. I don’t have feelings. I pick them. Therefore I pick optimal ones given a situation, and they’re rarely hostile. It also means I’m almost never offended, unless they purposefully try to offend me, at which point I will decide whether or not becoming offended and responding accordingly is beneficial or not. If not, I’ll ignore them. If it is, I’ll rip them a new entry into their body they didn’t know possible: through that hollow spot where their BRAIN is supposed to be.
I’m diplomatic when the situation demands; loud otherwise.
@mrcolorful - I could… but it’s so much more fun to remain stoic.
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - It can be but it can also be fun to cause a scene and watch people get really angry.
@mrcolorful - It’s also fun to hang out with people like you who cause scenes… therefore I don’t have to and I can still enjoy the angry people.
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - Ah, I suppose that is true. I guess I’ve just never experienced that side too often.
@mrcolorful - You should try it sometime. Although it’s only really effective if you’re almost always like that. Plus, when I do actually express my emotions, it really gets people to listen. Better impact, ya know?
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - That would make sense. I may have to give it a try sometime.
Depends on several things. Location, offense, person and jail time. Funny thing is, if you’re lucky enough to have me tell you how angry I am, just count your blessings and deal with it. It’s when I don’t tell you that you need to worry.
It’s first instinct to hold them in, but I’m becoming more comfortable with being honest about my feelings with people. It’s necessary.
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For me, it depends on the situation and the people.
If I’m at work, or with friends, I stand up for myself, or let people know they’re on the very border of annoying me.
But, let’s say I’m at my boyfriend’s aunt’s house, and she’s being her usual ridiculous self – then I just swallow my pride, and deal with it.
I hold them in and that just makes people mad.
Depends.
Lately I’ve been letting it out.
People are surprised.
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I need to keep it in again.
Bottle them up. I feel guilty really easily.
Hold them in most of the time… again, depends on the situation.
lol i express my emotions in ways that i feel are the most constructive efficient. if i’m being aggravated by someone with a skewed sense of reality who wouldn’t understand my emotional reaction to their stupidity, i would bottle it up until i got home to my computer to make an annoyed xanga post.
I would have to say I express them but either on paper or in a chat room or text. My problem is expressing them face to face and being put on the spot.
I tend to hold in my emotions because if I let them out I can easily lose control. Anger scares me in myself and others
I do both actually depending on the topic or person.
I’m going to hold in my feelings and not answer this question.
Mm. It changes. Switches back and forth. Held everything in, then broke, then let it all out, then broke, then held it all in.
Eh, still in that state. It’s not good for me. Especially if you know my personality…
depends on the feeling really. but if someones upsetting me i would let them know but if im uncomfortable or something else then it may be different
I hold it in, I try to solve problems, not make more.
I drop hints… I worry that if I say anything about it, the person/people involved will think I’m overly bitchy. There’s a situation right now that has me kind of upset at a certain person, but I think I need to wait and see how much worse it gets before I say anything. I usually just leave really vague little hints in my Facebook status or somewhere else that I know they’ll see it. I know that they probably won’t think I’m talking about them… I just have to get it out somehow, and that seems like the best way for me until I think it’s serious enough to talk over with the person.
Most of the time I tell them when I seriously had enough.
Answering your question would be answering your question wouldn’t it?
I tend to be more open about my emotions online then in person not because I’m freed online but because my emotions rarely come up in day to day interactions, perhaps my life just is not that conflict involved.
But if somebody is doing something I do not like, which rarely happens, I will at the drop of a hat tell them how I feel.
I tend to express my feelings to a select few friends, but hold them in around others.
Express.
I keep em in. Almost all of them. I don’t like to show emotions, and I’m not quite sure why that is. The only one I do show on a regular basis is anger. And it’s usually anger at someone (a payee or a customer of ours) who I will never see or meet, I just read their email message or spoke to them on the phone. But other than that…I don’t really show emotion….ESPECIALLY sadness. And when something makes me cry, it angers me. Like Marley & Me….it was an ADORABLE movie, but I will probably never watch it again.
Usually, I let them out but Im being told that I should rather act as if I were heartless and uncapable of having emotions.
I must say I let my feelings out. In all honesty, I’m a pretty big bitch.
I tend to hold them in
Unfortunately, I have the kind of face that everyone can tell what I’m thinking even if I don’t say it. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve let things slip up. I’m pretty known as a witch at work-but someone has to make the teens to actually work at work instead of texting.
keep them in.
i don’t want to show my extreme bitchiness.
HA. Just caught you at your time stamp XD. That’s kind of annoying.
Oddly enough, this is something I am currently working on. I do not express my anger, even if it is justified, for fear of losing those I care about.
I usually let them out, but only with those I’m closest to. Sometimes though if someone makes a comment that really really upsets me or burns, I’ll just start crying and sometimes that’s in front of a rather large amount of people and I don’t exactly like that… rather embarrassing. Luckily THAT doesn’t happen very often. D :
Being both a man and an introvert, it often just doesn’t occur to me to express my emotions.
I hold things in with friends, but I am the opposite with family. I can show my family my true self, but have problems being open with friends, no matter how close we are.
I can be pretty expressive when it’s appropriate. I don’t do it needlessly or when I think it might really upset someone.
Depends on the situation. Usually I wear my heart on my sleeve. But sometimes it’s necessary to pretend, to protect those around me.
Balance, judgment, and discernment will do a lot better here than an “I always do it this way” answer.
I don’t hold my feelings in. Some people hated me for expressing my feelings, but many don’t…
Both, but I usually let them out.
Hold them in. Tends to lead to an explosion.
Mostly hold them in
i hold them in – which is one of the causes of my depression. i am simply way too nice.. or just dumb.
I say why bother letting someone work you up? Is it really worth it, for you time, effort and aggravation, to allow yourself to be bother by something so trivial?
Just let it go…
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The people around me almost always know how I feel.
I often hold negative feelings in and let them out only after I’ve had time to process them and think about the consequenses of doing so. I often just hold things in.
It’s important to address things that make you angry or upset. Communication is the key to any good relationship of any type. Yet exploding at someone isn’t going to help. With my husband, I talk about everything. With friends, I hold in more.
I express them. I yell when I’m frustrated. I cry when I’m sad(or frustrated to the point of wanting to chuck my computer across the room). I don’t have a problem telling my friends they’re pissing me off, and I think that’s great because they do the same for me. We aren’t scared of each other.
Hold them in, bitch about it later.
I’m pregnant. There is very little for me to hold in….
I express them! GRRR!!!
I learned a long time ago that holding emotion in and quelling the necessary urge to say it just generally leads to explosions later on in life, which are not good… personal experience in that. Not pretty. You should never suppress your emotions, they are a natural part of you. Not that you have to scream and yell or punch or kick. Just express them.
I do both, depending on the situation. It’s really wierd, because I doon’t have any problem telling my friends or a stranger how I feel, but I am aprehensive to do the same with my husband and family.
Erm…I think I tend to hold my feelings in (particularly if I feel they’ll hurt someone) than let them out. If I am especially upset about something, though, I may sometimes vent to a few people, but not to the person with whom my feelings are concerned.
I tell them…that’s why I’m described as aggressive/assertive/etc….
ahh well, kick rocks.
i am very vocal because i don’t give a shit what other people think.
I do both at different times with different people.
Depends on the situation. If I’m talking politics, it will do no good to yell, “I farking hate your guts!” Much better to stick with the argument. But there are other times when emotions are as important, or more important, than the facts of the moment.
If a friend’s behavior is bugging me I ask myself if it’s reasonable behavior. If I decide it is, I try to brush it off. Otherwise I might say something.
Emotions are usually going to leak out no matter what. People just need to know what signs to look for.
It depends who the person is, if I have had conflict with them I will not give them the benifit of knowing whats in my heart…they misjudge it and I’ve had enough of that. With my family and all friends, and others who I meet I will show all my emotions, till they prove to me over and over that I can’t trust them.
I am a pretty open person; however, I have learned that sometimes I must hold myself back because a lot fo people are not that way. On my end it seems like others are merely playing mind games but apparently, most people hide thier emotions because they do not want others to dislike them.. but I think hiding things is likely to later come and kick a person in their own butt personally.
I hold them for the most part, but if someone has hurt me I will let them know.
Like “ASM” tagged me to be dropped from her friends list because I didn’t visit enough, so that hurt my feelings and I let her know.
I don’t always have time to read everything and comment but when I have time, I do. I even voted for her against TheTheologiansCafe’s, Sorry about that!
It depends. There are so many things that greatly annoy me in this world, but if I speak against them, even if correct, they are such things that could have you arrested, murdered, create a whole circle of other issues, etc, etc. I guess I’m personally talking about the bigger emotions and thoughts in life. As over dramatic as it sounds, it isn’t. I’m sure there are many of you which understand what I’m talking about.
I used to hold all my feelings in. Now I let them flow out.
I am a very secretive person – I never told them about what happened with my ex R, or why I did what I did to G (no, I didn’t cheat) or why there was K, M, Kevinnnnn, and Jay.
I keep my emotions to myself because I don’t like being known or “figured out”, but I will attempt to fix things to my liking.
@Lovinmalamutes - I’d like to say that I’ve apologized to “ASM” for my over reaction and would like to state here that I misunderstood about tagging. Now you see why it’s best to hold your feelings until you can see beyond them rationally.
I am a diplomat. If I really hate you, then I’ll destroy you.
i let it out
i hold my feelings in, then regret doing so later on, and feel bad about that, too. it’s a vicious cycle.
express them.
what’s the point of being yourself if you hold things in?
Depends who I am dealing with. I think my poor husband is the only one I don’t filter my reactions/emotions around.
I do a litttle of both!
One of my biggest flaws is saying too much. Yeah, holding my feeling in is very hard especially when something really bothers me.
hold them in. But if someones pissing me off I let them know.
I usually do both, depending on the person. It’s hard to hold your emotions in when you have the urge to express it on others.
hold them in
Hold in.. but I’m learning to express them better.
I hold them tightly in my brain.
I used to be repressed from childhood, so for a long time, I didn’t feel safe to express my upset feelings. I always thought people would leave my life if I did. After a long time and a lot of growing up, I got tired of always holding back and not saying what I felt and just being eaten up with the frustration, so I started expressing it, even in public. I finally felt free enough and secure enough to do so. Now…the irony is…I have a male companion who tells me that he doesn’t like his woman to be so verbal. Ain’t that a blip!
What a coincidence! I was just talking about that with my good friend today. I am exactly like that. I’m glad I’m not the only one. :S
i express my emotions/thoughts when i know things won’t just blow over.
p.s. that picture is going to give me nightmares!
I express them too much. I have found even though I don’t act on how I feel others do to their benefit.
i keep it all in.
It depends on who I am with.
definitely hold them in…..
I used to hold them all in and life was a nightmare. Now I express it.
When something needs to be said, I’ll say it. Some people call it hateful but those who actually care call it honest.
“Stoic” would be as good a description of myself as any. While I don’t often show what I’m feeling, people generally pick up on it, regardless. Just because you can’t see or hear what emotions are running through my head, doesn’t mean I don’t have ways to express them. (any bad grammar is intentional, btw)
Unless it’s a female bothering me, I’ll punch them in the face and say “DOES IT LOOK LIKE I’M HOLDING IT IN NOW?!”
I hold my feelings in. I’m a pretty hateful and bitter person with a tendency to become easily depressed, so it’s really better for everyone.
i only express when it’s a strong emotion.