January 30, 2009
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Having a Vagina On Xanga Has Advantages
It appears to me that women have an advantage on xanga when it comes to posting and gaining traffic.
Women can post about emotionally charged issues that men have no reference too. For example, women can post about their abortion. They can talk about whether they went through with it or not. They can get praise for either decision. Men have nothing to balance that out. The only thing they can say about an abortion is that they dropped the woman off but that just makes them look like crap.
Women can talk about being molested as a child. There may be men that were molested as a child but you haven’t read about it on xanga.
Women can talk about their pregnancy. Then they can post photos of their belly growing. If a man post a photo of his growing belly, the only response is “eww.”
Women have all of these emotionally charged issues that men are left without.
A woman can also offer to show herself in a bikini. The guys will go nuts. They will be all over the site and even the women will stop by. But a man cannot generate that kind of interest.
Women can even offer to go completely nude. If a man does that, his footprints would cut in half.
So women have a physical and emotional advantage in posting.
Women have the advantage of guys that come by their site just because they have a secret desire to have sex with them. Now I know what you are thinking. You are thinking all of those guys come by your site because they love hearing about your feelings. Think about this for just a second. When has a man you have met in real life ever cared about your feelings without eventually trying to have sex with you? Exactly. All women have to do is sit back and be pretty and they will get comments.
Do women have an advantage on xanga?
Comments (307)
Yes.
But it doesn’t work well in the long run, depending on gender alone.
Is anyone on Xanga ever gonna make a post that doesn’t talk about the opposite sex and how much “easier” it is for them? Seriously.
Originality please.
Yup. Actually, that’s why my profile picture is like it is now. Because I was getting too much unwanted attention.
Hm. I have been going about this the entirely wrong way. I don’t write emotionally charged posts. This explains my relatively minimal amount of traffic in comparison with, ahem, yours.
; )
no.
’tis all in the mind.
The man speaks the truth. We can’t really compete with that.
there may be the initial attraction for these reasons, but I think if the talent’s not there to back it up, the traffic will halt eventually. a picture’s only worth a thousand words. a successful blog requires many, many more. You know?
I don’t think so.
can’t…stop…staring…at…picture…
You have established the superiority of women and revealed your sexual desires for xanga women.
A woman’s body is better to look at
so yeah it’s an advantage.
lol….dan you are really making me laugh today…and i dont know why..
Yes, that’s why I pretend to be female.
haha thank u cpt. obvious
Obviously
But you’re doing the same thing by posting the voluptuous woman’s photo – and you’ll get the comments. Hey, I think you’ve got something here, Dan!
Kathi
This coming from the most popular site on Xanga…a man’s site. But yes, you are the exception, Dan. Though I tend to think that in the case of a lot of guys, the desire to have sex is not all that secret.
I do not think anyone looks at my profile pic and thinks of sex.
Yeah, too bad a man has less to whore to his readership.
I won’t lie and say I want to have sex with every girl I meet. I do care about others’ feelings and yes, there will be some girls that I’d like to take further than just talking about feelings.
Nice post though
no.
wow. this was a super long post (for you). i’m impressed
show me a man in a bikini then.
And who has the most popular blog on xanga? You seem to have overcome all the disadvantages of being a male on xanga.
I don’t really get that much traffic. Maybe I’m not slutty enough? lolz
LOL no, no, I definitely think men have an advantage. Come on, TTC, your site hasn’t been helped by the 9 to 1 girls-guy ratio? :-p
Having a Xagina on Vanga also means that you have to go GIVE all that emotion time to the posters. Xanga is much less demanding on men, I think.
LOL..Cool post
@BenevolentOne - I concur.
the ones that said no. are ugly. the ones that said yes. knows wassup. the ones who deflected the answer are stupid and ugly.
yes. woman have more power in real life and on xanga. but most of the time they are too emotional to make ANY rational judgements and decisions which leaves it up to the male gender to look fairly charismatic, logical and courageous and etc etc and so forth.
LOL you’re silly, i guess since imma girl and my life’s pretty boring i get alot of attention, especially from guys
i dont think looks matter but it’s whatever to me, cuz i don’t like the way i look anyways xD
“When has a man you have met in real life ever cared about your feelings without eventually trying to have sex with you? Exactly.”
LOL so true.
And if I am not mistaken, isn’t that Vida Guerra? Nice!
That’s why I hesitated posting my pictures on Xanga. I wanted people to like me for who I am not how I look. Maybe, when I have enough subscribers I will be more comfortable to post my pictures on this blog.
The answer to your question is yes and no. Women do have some advantage getting traffic to their blog when they post pictures of themselves but, you do that all the time using other hot chick pictures. It’s not right but, you do it anyway to get attention. However, getting all these attention is not always a good thing. If you are not into pervert male comment and jealous women this is not what you want.
Men kinda even it out when they say, “yeah, but I was zipping the other day, and I was in a hurry, and-”
If anything, its much harder.
Oh, change your emotional tampon, Dan, and quit being so jealous!
Not always.
yes..i can put my tits as a blog title, and men will come thinkin they’ll see it…girls might check to see if i did. haha.
no…not at all.
Well we might have an advantage, but you would not know it by by looking at the top 5 blogs today. 4 of them are by men and that is not out of the ordinary.
In terms of getting people to view their site/feedback.
Oh hell yeah they do…
Rofl. I don’t know, I guess the majority of posts on the front page tend to be written by women. Sometimes it’s refreshing to see a man’s POV on something (ANYTHING) too, though. The women’s posts on the front page seem to all be about almost the same few things… it gets old after a while.
I guess I don’t blog femininely enough, only like two people ever look at my site. Haha.
Hmm… just the idea of “having-a-blog-where-you-can-rant-and-vent- and-talk-about-your-feelings” is generally geared towards those who are more than willing to share their innermost thoughts = mostly women. Sure there are guys on Xanga, but most of them are not necessarily willing to open up as much as women do.
Haha of course. But that same advantage is a disadvantage in real life. Who takes you seriously if all they want is sex?
this is why i don’t post my pic very often. i have enough stalkers and already can’t keep up with the restraining orders. =)
@MrsMok - Yeah, I was going to say.
Kudos for at least writing something longer than usual, Mr. Dan.
- Egg
If we do, it’s because men give it to us.
Probably. Meh.
“When has a man you have met in real life ever cared about your feelings without eventually trying to have sex with you?”
It’s happened. Granted, the man was over 1.5 times my age, but still.
No, although thanks for the example, maybe we’re just more open to talk about our experiences then men are.
are you a woman?
hmmm…i bet my picture is why nobody comes to my site. But who doesn’t love Pokemon?
nah..hmph
Unless you’re Cakalusa, yes, women do get a lot of traffic to their site.
I haven’t really noticed an advantage being female. but maybe that’s just me.
Meh, whatever. It works for some people. But most of the male bloggers I read (such as yourself) have one hell of a sense of humor, so they have that going for them. I think it all balances out in the end.
yes
I like this post. Much more meat than the usual. Hell yes women do have an advantage, but only if they are pretty or have a great body. Just life in real life, having both can lead to much attention from men without much effort.
Unless I ruffle feathers about religion and mysteriously end up on the front page to ruffle more feathers, very few people care about what I’m up to.
You have a lot of traffic. Obviously you have a vagina.
Fuck the gender stereotypes. Really. Men have plenty of “emotionally charged” things they could write about AND the emotions to do it. The majority of them just choose not to.
And fuck emotional connections being linked to a sex drive too.
I have never even realized that women has better advantages than men, I’ll keep that in mind. Good posting!
Why are you talking about women? Shouldn’t you be complaining about the men? After all, the woman isn’t giving herself all these comments.
ummm did you write something? all i see is a picture of vida!
If People concerns emotional charge in blog will looking for Sexy Topic for ventilateion a bit,maybe!
@misswonderj - I WAS JUST THINKING THAT. after all the mancouch and datingish drama that’s constantly putting the two genders at war it’s like when will everyone just get over their/&opposite sex.
I don’t care about which one’s more crazy, or mean, or double standards, I’m on here to blog. Not to listen to people bitch about leaving the lid up.
i’m sure. you should’ve put a female xangan’s picture up though.
@ayceeeeeer - I know right? Who the fuck cares is the real question. >_>
@misswonderj - ha, exaaactly.
Oh, Dan, you’re an ass on this one.
I get traffic on my page, wether or not I “sit back and look pretty”, as you put it. True, I got a lot more traffic on my old one when I had that photo of me in my panties, but either way, I got traffic.
You don’t count with any of these! You have a fan base regardless of what you post.
You loveee it!
Yeah, sorry guys
Yes, they do.
And I was gonna post belly pictures of my pregnancy (since it’s almost over) but NOW I won’t. Way to go…
First…you just had to put that woman up in her undies huh Dan? lol
Second, I don’t think we have THAT much of an advantage, but we do to an extent. We do have more of a range of emotional topics to write about.
Surely, that is why you have more subs than most women on Xanga.
@misswonderj - Haha, I agree.
@xkrazymonsterx - I just want to make sure you’re kidding.
They must have an advantage. That’s why we all came here to read this.
Seriously though, women are often more apt to bring emotion and feeling to the table. There are men that can do that, but most men like to bond with “manly” things instead of the emotional bond women have. IMHO
I think there are just more women on Xanga, and it’s easier to relate to women if you are one!
I don’t know. I haven’t been keeping track.
I think they do. But I hope to gosh that none of my male viewers want to have sex with me…I mean, come on. My profile picture is a foot.
If this theory was true, I would have a shit ton more comments than zero on my current blog.
I’d like to think that I am an exception to some rules, but not one. I want comments! Lol.
(I’m not truly bitching about a lack of comments. I blog for myself, not for the comments. Just trying to prove a point… a small one.)
it reminds me of the Chris Rock bit from “Kill the Messenger”. Chris Rock said he wanted a [vagina] (he used slang, which most of u should be able to guess) for “negotiation purposes,” just to be able to put that on the table.
“no?” *waves imaginary object onto the table*
“well how about now?”
Men are more easily taken seriously.
How’s that?
Says the writer of the most popular blog on xanga
Besides, pretty people are exempt from being interesting or intelligent unless they so choose. It’s like a God-given right. How else would people like Paris Hilton gain notoriety?
Even though people tend to gravitate more towards emotionally charged stories and sex, I’d rather read something controversial about current events. Tell me why you love Obama, why you hate Obama. Do you think Casey Anthony killed Caylee? If not..why are you so blind?
Things like that are what I want to read, but maybe that’s because I’m not socially ignorant? Or maybe it’s because I’m a chick, and I don’t really want to look at some other chick in a bikini. If anything, that’s trashy, not an attraction.
lol, i guess it’s true. we do have a bit of an advantage. but, if i saw a guy post up a pic of himself showing off his abs, well, i would definately be the first to comment. heh.
agreed w/ misswonderj
Yes, and you use them yourself many times!
yes yes yes yes
mainly because women are more descriptive than men. women talk a lot more than men so it would be natural for them to write more. or it could have the opposite effect if people are lazy and don’t want too read to much.
so then my answer is, maybe.
I agree. And if they’re cute, they will gain more readership.
Not that I am aware of.
@nattata - ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!!!!!!!!
But seriously,
Nah. There are lots of opportunities for men to write about emotionally charged subjects (I have many times)… And, yeah. There’s just a lot of options out there, and besides – many of these are things that attract more men than women, and most bloggers on xanga are female.
not true. the guys have as much story to tell as the women. their women-quest for example. thats good enough entertainment.
I dont think that any gender has a particular advantage on xanga. The examples you provided mostly show men paying attention to women because theyre interested in the womens:
1. physical appearance
2. getting laid
Most women don’t want that casual sex and shallow guys talking or contacting them for shallow reasons. I’m sure guys would love for women to visit their xangas for superficial reasons, but most girls I know, including me, arent interested in the least bit with those types of relationships. Maybe its a little different on myspace though… I tend to think of xanga as less superficial.
I disagree with the your comment “All women have to do is sit back and be pretty and they will get comments.“, but I do believe they do have the advantage over us guys.
I’m okay with that.
I came from a woman. I’m married to one. I have two daughters who are turning out to be fine, young women. I kinda like having women around, so if all the things they do, or have been through, good, bad or indifferent, gives them the Xangan edge, then so be it.
God Bless’em I say!
(okay…I’m just going to sit back and watch the footprint counter rise!…KA-CHING!)
I agree that sometimes it seems women have an advantage that may seem unfair but then I have also noticed that a lot of us girls spend a lot of time on the mancouch & here in this lovely theologians cafe too sooooooo just maybe the advantage is not quite so big and just maybe you xanga guys have your own little X = factor going too. Even if your attractiveness is not about the bikini…………….~Echo
I feel that the only way to test this theory is to post a pic of yourself in a bikini and compare. Hehe.
Girls rule, Boys drool … such a cliche but true…. jk….
Props to you for overcoming it. It is kinda undeniable though.
oh COME ON DAN
You can not tell me that you have not figured out that it is WOMEN that make the world go round hehehee…. besides its not like we have not SUFFERED sometimes dearly for those emotionally charged issues u mentioned!
Sorry to disappoint, but as a male, I have no desire to have sex
with anyone except my wife. And I do have an interest in the things
that are related by many on xanga. Maybe it has to do with my age or
something.
I don’t know. I honestly don’t care about how many footprints I get or anything. I don’t write to entertain—it’s more of just a record of the goings ons in my life.
If you look at it that way, yes. Yet I read just as many men’s blogs as I do women’s.
@ClockworkBunny - That’s because you don’t put up pictures of yourself. Only the cute girls survive.
@misswonderj – You should come read my blog.
Well when you put it like that…. lol…
Hard to dispute, no?
I wasn’t aware you had a vagina, Dan.
you need to get over yourself.
I don’t think so .
plus that woman scares me.
Haha funny.
yes. I have a feeling a “male equivalent post” will be made, if it hasn’t been already
It certainly isn’t working for me because I don’t seem to get all that much traffic. Wow this has to be your longest post ever.
Bunk! Men have just as many relevant issues, they just don’t talk about them.
You are absolutely right. And It would take a very intelligent male to be on the top of the list every day.
And please don’t ever post yourself wearing a speedo.
Looking at all the points you’ve made, I’d say that we do. At the same time, if there was a player on Xanga writing about all his conquests even if he was a total a-hole….I’d read that sor of blog.
@ProfessorTom - I’ve always been one of those “my blog is all about content” types… I retain my dignity! But dignity never gets famous. XP
@ClockworkBunny – You’ve got to decide what you priorites are.
Pretty women.
Pretty vaginas?
Of course they do .. they also have it in entertainment, on television, in magazines, on youtube, on myspace.
Nuff said.
I wouldnt know if I truly consider that an advantage or not.
if you only knew the extent of your power–esp. outside of xanga.
who is that woman? is she on xanga??
@saintvi - That’s cause everyone secretly wants to sleep with the cartoon, Dan doesn’t speak personally often, and he frequently posts boobs.
Personally, my vagina has never helped me on Xanga. It doesn’t know how to type and it never kisses and tells.
Women have plenty more advantages than men do, xanga or not. I hate to say it, but men need women more than women need men
no
that lady is fiiiine ;] haha
um yeah right… i don’t get many visitors to my site but since i really don’t give a damn any how, what difference does it make that i have a vagina or not?
or big boobs? or tattoos? or red hair and green eyes? it’s not about having a vagina or a penis. it’s about writing content that’s controversial enough to get all the hate/drama mongers comin’ ’round…
yeahhhhhhhh that’s what sells on xanga…
bring on the drama baby.
@VcKiksAss - and you are absolutely correct. when we break it off with a man we tend to do much better than most guys… but, seriously, i bought my own house, i bought my own car, etc. didn’t have a man… (and this comes from a woman who ADORES men)
lol i love this post
and its true.
This post is such bullshit; men can talk about nearly all of those things save for being pregnant.You’re just puttin’ the pussy on a pedestal. The reason men don’t post about shit like that is because their too busy pawning over their Xanga girlfriend.
And you’re forgetting one extreme factor in your entry: all women are attention whores so of course they’ll post pictures of them in their bikinis, or post about some super emotional entry so people(of both genders) will say “omg I’m so sorry” and they can feel better about themselves.
women go through a lot of shit to have “emotionally charged” subjects to talk about.
and I wouldn’t say being wanted just for sex is an advangtage.
hmmm..then how do you explain your success over many female sites?? ;D
you wasted my time, I thought I was about to see a vagina….
You must have a vagina. You seem to find no end of emotionally charged topics to post on, and you seem to get about as much traffic as anyone.
Duh, all they have to do is post a hot pic of themselves and instant traffic.
in general that is probably a fair assessment. but there are many exceptions. i know a few men who have posted about deep emotional issues and received a lot of attention.for example, i know a man who openly references his sexual abuse and shattered soul; and, he gets a lot of attention and sympathy for it. i know another man who often posts romantic poetry and prose; the women adore his site.
i also know women who are superficially gorgeous and gifted writers on controversial subjects, but who receive hardly any comments at all.
I think that should be talking about vaginas and posting pictures of girls in bikinis gets traffic.
I prefer to have a place to vent, in protected status, because I don’t need just anyone reading my business and while I love comments, I love my privacy more….if that makes sense.
Mary had a little lamb……
The grass is always greener on the other side, right? I was just thinking the opposite actually, coincidentally right before i read this. You have some valid points, though one sided. I would never read about pregnancy or nudity. I read interesting, intelligently, and often humorously written articles such as yours. So, for me, at least, this is not the case. I love reading articles written by men.
@misswonderj - Thank you!
You’re definitely right on this. I even wrote an overly masculine post just to bring some balance into the Xanga world. Didn’t have much of an effect though…
No.
I’m really interested to know if that girl in the photo has a blog I can read.
@ClockworkBunny - Hows your ass?
Irony.
make a hawt profile picture, and get footprints!!!
“A woman can also offer to show herself in a bikini. The guys will go nuts. They will be all over the site and even the women will stop by. But a man cannot generate that kind of interest.
Women can even offer to go completely nude. If a man does that, his footprints would cut in half.”
Wrong. If that man is hot enough, he can do this and gain footprints… Also, nudity can always cut footprints because underage people should normally not be able to get in… And these things are not even relevant. You do not need to post those things to gain popularity. Come on! That’s insulting women!!!
@TranscendentEcstasY - Wow! This particular article doesn’t look intelligent to me…
hahahaaha sure
Come on… are you kidding me?
a very interesting point. But you have alot of traffic with this blog here.
but the title here?? not a good look.
If superficial comments based on increased hormonally-driven traffic is an “advantage” then by your cynical defnition, yes, women have a significant advantage.
you seem to be doing fine posting news stories and a link. Speaking of, where’s your link today? =p
This isn’t only on Xanga. A woman cna walk into a bar and ask if anyone wants to have sex with her. 80% of the men will be willing to walk out with her. If a man did that, he’d be escorted out by security.
This is SO not true. I feel I write better than many Xangans I’ve ever met, have a profile pic up, and have even dangled cleavage and I still have a small number of readers/commenters.
Guys, on the other hand, can be crass, offensive, and totally obnoxious which will translate in being funny, interesting, and honest which will attract the readers like maggots to rotting fruit.
Very well said, yet another double standard that exists. Thank god all women aren’t like this ((obvious, yes, but judging from some comments, it may of helped to mention that)) but regardless, it still stands true. Women are allowed to express how they feel. If a man tries to express how he feels, women claim he’s not being a man ((like a woman would know that!)) and if a man doesn’t express how he feels, then he’s just being insensitive.
i guess it depends, i don’t get much traffic at all, because my posts are so lame. the women who do have really great, emotionally-charged posts probably get lots of traffic though
“Think about this for just a second. When has a man you have met in
real life ever cared about your feelings without eventually trying to
have sex with you? Exactly. All women have to do is sit back and be
pretty and they will get comments.” LMAO. i love this entry, it’s so blunt.
double-standards ftw. but men have advantage many times as well, so whatever, it evens out
Let’s hope your thinly veiled post isn’t suggesting women write about these things merely for the attention.
@MereBenjimon - OMG, C.S. Lewis just hit on me!!!!!!
*swoon*
most of the weblogs i’ve read and what made me want to go get myself a xanga was because of the weblogs written from males. which is funny. i figure, i’m a girl, i don’t really want to read what i already know or what i disagree with. on the other hand, men are just humorous and i’m definitely feeling that.
@kusakusakiwi - What advantages do men have? I’d certainly love to know.
http://www.xanga.com/ricebunny
that said, michelle is very talented. but that of course, wouldn’t matter if she wasn’t as pretty as she is
i think gnomes have the advantage . they’re short , cute and go on adventures and i mean , who wouldn’t want to party with a gnome prince like pierre gagne …
I agree, it’s very true. Just look at the xanga main page, most of the bloggers (and blogs) are by women or about women.
But then of course, majority of the bloggers are females as well.
well put.
hahahaha….of course they do. lol They have the advantage everywhere.
Eh, I don’t think so. I think on Xanga and a lot of other sites it seems to be female populated more so than male so therefore females always add the guys when there are guys. I know a lot of sites like that.
Although; If you say Myspace. A pretty even site, or Facebook I would agree.
But I think it’s kind of pathetic how women degrade themselves such as making “sexy” pictures.
@nowayout001 - Good point. I was saying the same thing to my friend earlier-how if the man was hot enough perhaps, and did it in a classy way, he might be able to, but i don’t know. Like i said earlier, pregnancy & nudity should not be big factors anyways.
@nowayout001 - I said if it is interesting, intelligently, or humorously written, it is worth a read-not only intelligently. I thought it was funny & interesting. Even though i disagreed with some of what was said, & maybe others disagree even more, it doesn’t mean it was not intelligently written as well.
@ClockworkBunny - Better orgasms so I hear.
well then…guess i better start dressing like a slut and writing about my abortion then. off to the old grind…
<3 micalyn
I think women do have a huge advantage, much more than men. Not just on Xanga though, but on any blog, anywhere. Or on any website. Or on anything. Seriously.
and people say that men have it easier. :: eye roll ::
This is true..but sometimes guys can be pigs.
have you ever read iron john by robert bly? how baout mental illness or alcoholism? those affect both sexes? drug addiction as well. seriously, coming out of the closet or beign a drag queen or transexual, or going into any of that fruedian stuff with men and relationships to their fathers, or being a widower, or going away inthe army miles away form your lioved ones?
watch american psycho for the christian bale shower scene and you can t sy that men arent as appealing- and the movie sirens= the blind guy is hot. tht one irish guy, form the movie 300 also. chicks do objectify men as well, i have heard a thousand drools over johnny depp and david bowie as well. naked men are appealign ina fantasy world though, ie the movies moreso that in a blog setting though,. perhaps in erotic stories its far better for a guy to be naked too. gotta be imaginative, naked guy standing there, yawn- but naked guy in a carnivale mask or kilt hooray!
you only seem to be including young pretty women though, what are the old and funky lookign chicks sposed to do then
well if you have sex withthe guy and then great conversation, doesnt that nix yer argument? wouldnt they just jump out the window then, pantless. er and we just dont blab on about feelings, you know. sometimes there are actual things to talk about , liek vietnam and greek dancers. oh and world of warcraft
feelings and emotions? no thanks. i’d rather women have the ‘advantage’ then.
We’re much more interesting =]
I don’t think women have an advantage. I mean, if that’s the case then I’d be having lots of views and comments, but I don’t. And I see a lot of guys on here blogging and get lots of comments and views like some of the girls on here.
Women have an advantage on a hell of a lot more than Xanga
This is kind of like how it’s cute when a baby sleeps or sucks it’s thumb or any other baby-thing, but if anyone over the age of about 5 were to do anything, it’s not cute.
@randomneuralfirings - He might secretly… *gasp*… BE A GIRL!!!
Women have a huge advantage on Xanga. I want to be a Xanga celebrity, but without boobs and the clasically pretty face, I will never get as many site hits.
Oh well, I will just be the cult classic.
Man none of that really matters, because all of those topics and ideas are so cliche. They’ve all been so overdone. I choose not to read about any of the hundreds or thousands of women on xanga going through something I’ve heard about so many times before. And the women who just post semi-erotic posts have no real content. The footprints they get from that don’t even count because they’re not saying anything with any type of credibility. They’re just prancing around in their underwear. Would you rather have a bunch of footprints on your site because people are genuinely interested in what you have to say, or would you rather have a bunch of footprints because you’re a dumb hoe with half her clothes off, the only comments being from guys with their sexual organs as their profile pictures, a word or two ogling you, and that’s the only interaction you’ll ever get from them?
Yes…women have an advantage…but get this….in general…women seem to need the attention and acceptance of total strangers more than the average man.
….
Which..I’m not sure what that says about you Mr. Blogger
well on any social site, i think. you get the muscles and hundreds of years of social superiority… and we get the xanga attention? seems more than fair to me =P
Dan, it’s simple. Men are driven by seeing women semi-naked; whereas women don’t care about men’s naked bodies. Also, women have more emotional topics in general in everyday LIFE, so of course there’s more to blog about.
yo if u think it has advantages on here imagine MYSPACE
You know… I have not really thought of it… I don’t get that many visits, so… I don’t know
Of course!
This post makes me really angry. You’re an asshole.
This post makes me really angry. You’re an asshole.
whenever i subscribe to a blog that is not one of my IRL friends’ it tends to be that of a man’s, so i don’t know…
I would toast to that.
But I do thing men could talk about abortion and pregnancy and being sexually abused w/o looking like an insensitive jerk or weak; just gotta have a way with words to do so O=
i think we’ll take every advantage we can grab, same as anyone would. and since the only people that comment regularly on my site are guys, i’m going to agree with you
Maybe, for the most part, they do. But in place of abortion, you could always discuss a vasectomy… though it might not be so emotionally charged as aborting a fetus is. But it’s a start, I guess, right?
Men can flex their muscles and get more hits, too. Women love men who work out.
This is not only happend in xanga, seems all the blogs in China like to playing this trick. most of them for the traffic…..so, half porn pics are there….
you have more comments than maybe 95% of people on xanga…. are you a female? =P
if you think it’s unfair, then men should be the ones to get pregnant and get vaginal bleeding every month!!!
Very nice topic.
Just as a side note, I’d like to point out that MOST of the “beyond average/attractive/hot/gorgeous” men on Xanga either do not post photos, or only post photos of their penis. If you know what I mean.
There are a lot of gorgeous girls on here who show their faces and post regularly. There are much fewer attractive guys who do the same.
In my experience, having a vagina seems to carry many advantages…in most aspects of life, not just Xanga!
But, to be honest, it also has a number of glaring downsides. (being paid less than men is just one…) After 50 years and three failed marriages I’d like to think I’ve gained some insight…(have you ever witnessed a woman giving birth? No thank you!)…and I’m certainly glad I don’t have one…whether ’tis Xanga advantageous or not!
peace
damn damn damn, and damn.
lol.
Owned.
But dayummm.
it is very probable.
LOL ? what the fucks up your ass?
“Women have the advantage of guys that come by their site just because they have a secret desire to have sex with them.”
lol i visit plenty of xanga sites.. women or men . i do not have the intention of having sex with them? bloody oath.. some of us have moral standers .. not sure how you think of the world but it’s pretty shallow and low to being with .
yes. just like how women have an advantage in door-to-door sales, waitressing, etc. women, of course, hardly admit to this.
no i don’t think so
Yeah. The only reason I have readers is because I post daily naked photos.
(That was sarcasm, by the way. If I see a spike in my Footprints now, I’m going to LOL…)
It’s an advantage only if you are in xanga for comments and footprints etc..
you’re right, in the sense that women go through issues that other women can identify with… but men do go through issues in their life too- losing a job, dumping a girlfriend- while it may make them look like crap, its the alternative men’s perspective that attract people to read their posts. by being petty women can have hordes of other women coming in to go “aww honey, i understand”, but men can also stir up some form of discussion from a fresh perspective, or agreement, or controversy too. or at least, that’s what i think
Well I don’t know.all I know is I saw the word VAGINA and thought “hmmm ,give that page a shot”! Can you guess my gender?You know you’ll cause huge rumblings with this don’t you.Are you male or female by the way?
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We man got “MANCOUCH”
We do not grave for SEX every time a girl in a bikini shows up
We don’t think solely about our feelings we live it.
But if we need to share it with a women we do.
There are things we man don’t understand always you women figure out.
But there are things we man comprehend which women do not. (LOL)
If I could make traffic reference about all of the above.
I would be “Half the man” to all men out there.
And for the women who read my entry “Half the women”
Because I understand.
Only a few can do it and I don’t know how tell me.
What’s with the Vida Guerra pic , matey ?
*scratches head* you are a man, no? and you get way more traffic/comments that any woman I know here on xanga..and i’ve been here for almost 11 years. Hmmmm
oh and if a hot man offers to post bikini pics..just as a woman..and looks good..i’d stop by
having a vagina on ( insert anything) has it’s advantages.
they dont have ANY advantage over the guys I believe… 1st of all, if a girl writes about her emotional feelings… I, personally as a guy, am not interested… AT ALL. If most men feel the way I do, she just lost half of xanga (assuming ofcourse the proportion is 50:50). The other topics you’ve suggested like abortion… doesn’t interest me at all.
sexually… I have no clue but I’ve heard from friends that girls actually check out guys as much as guys check out girls(?) this may be true but if they do… they can do the same on xanga themselves
besides the rebuttals, there are many more interesting topics to cover on blogs than my “feelings” or abortion…
No. jeez Dan, there is so much inaccuracy and incorrect analysis in that post I dont even know where to start. But it seems that above all else, you dont have a high opinion on the minds of men – you suggest that they have nothing of emotional intent to offer that doesnt exactly mirror that of women’s emotions. Men dont have abortions, obviously, but they do have emotional triggers and situations that women don’t. For example, having to select the box on the financial aid form for university which says they are the right age and gender (male) for selective service. That seems pretty terrible on one’s emotions – knowing you could die in battle for having requested financial aid once upon a time in order to better and further your future via education….
oh yeah women do
Boring, unoriginal and annoyingly sexist.
NEXT.
Dan…I think you’ve proven that controversy on any level can get traffic. Look at you!
Oh…and btw…if that was true, then I’d wonder if you had one…cause you have the most traffic on xanga. Peace.
I can’t help but laugh at the descriptions for men.
Male privilege rears its ugly head. Let me rephrase your post:
“Women have the luxury of being raped, women have the luxury of being molested, abused, sexualized, objectified, and discriminated against and as a result can write a more interesting blog posts.
I still just want to fuck them.”
I dont think that is totaly true…some people attract attention by the way they put themselves out there…If have a normal picture up and you are writing from the heart…like I do..then you will not get as much attention as when you post a seductive picture…and you write about sexual things all the time..It depends on it you are here to blog or get attention….and as for the part where you say that “when have you ever had a man care about your feelings and not try to sleep with you”…I have 2 guy friends that are always there for me to talk to and they always care about what Im going through and how I feel and they have never made a move on me…or…what about men that are gay..they are understanding and care and yet wont make a move on you!!
@Checking your privilege - Totally agree.
If you think women have an advantage, it’s a sick sort of advantage.
“Gee they have it so easy, all they had to do was be molested or raped as a child and write about it, then they get 5,000 footprints a day!” or “ALL she had to do was have an abortion? What a walk in the park to gain views, I wish I could do that.”
I’m sure all women are proud of this ‘advantage’, and they wouldn’t ever wish it didn’t happen because that would ruin their footprints.
Men do also get molested and raped, so I’m sure we should be envious of their extra footprints if they post about it as well.
Poor post.
No, I dont think a woman has an advantage. We simply have different things to write about in our blogs, thats all. to get recognized for a great post requires talent and a passion for writing;
not a Virginia.
Don’t think so!!!
Does this mean you secretly want to have sex with all of the women whose Xangas you frequent?
It must be the pretty women because I’ll be lucky to get 1 or 2 views a month.
And at least one of those views is an RSS Feed bot or something else. Whenever I get more that that, I usually have to plug myself. And then, I get views but only 1 or 2 people decide they want to say something to me. So um…hmmm….not so sure I agree with you that much. Those women get those views because they’re hot topics. With men, sometimes it’s the same stuff. Maybe that’s why. If it’s not about labeling women in forms of kind, appearance, or emotions, it’s a blog about what some woman did at a time. I see a lot of these. And I know not all men who blog here do that. Maybe it’s because women write more and feel more.
I have to agree with saintvi, however. You seem to have overcome it. And there are many more who write interesting and thought-compelling entries. You know, it may also have to do with how many women are on Xanga versus men. How many women bloggers/users are there compared to the men here?
I think everyone has the potential to write emotional things. Don’t leave it just to the women, please.
That’s my basic strategy – sit back and look pretty. Hasn’t exactly gotten me more comments though.
i suppose your right. I just think some of the advandages are becasue men are super horney hahahah
xanga whores come equipt with a variety of body pieces… but they all seem to pander to the lowest commonality- milk sop thinking.
I think there are more girls than boys on xanga so it’s about audience.
I don’t think so, I think it just depends on the person….
I believe so and there are a lot usuallly more female xangarians.
i don’t know why you’re complaining. you get featured all the time, so you’re really not lacking “xanga traffic.”
this is true not just on xanga, but in society altogether. well.. western society at least. there’s no advantage to be had for women in saudi arabia or lebenon. but in america there’s a big one.
Women have an advantage over men because they are always ready to cheat on you.
Women have an advantage, but not the advantage you’re talking about. There are plenty of other things men could talk about, but men are actually, scientifically slightly attention deficit.
For the record.
And so, women can stay on task while creating blogs while men, sometimes, cannot.
But really, that isnt true.
Just look at Dan
I think that’s pretty much true everywhere.
But there’s disadvantages to go with the advantages, too.
It’s not much of an advantage when most of your footprints are creepy, lonely men who think that *maybe* you’d feel sorry enough for them to let them put it in your butt some day.
If those are the only sorts of people lurking on lady xangas, then perhaps you should be glad you’re a guy. Haha.
@Gabor777 - MISOGYNIST ALERT.
Both genders are equally capable of cheating, and what does cheating on your spouse have to do with which gender gets more attention on Xanga? You’re pretty childish for someone who looks to be 50+ years old. Did your wife just leave you? I’m sorry dude, but keep your obvious hatred of women (or any other group, racial, religious, etc) off of Xanga.
i dont find those points to be good ways of attracting attention though.
women have advantages in LIFE.
Hahahaha I actually laughed out loud.
I’d rather read a man’s website but look at a woman’s pictures. lol.
@Fool0nThePlanet - We may be able to get out of a ticket because we have a vagina and a sweet voice but the majority of us cannot walk down the street alone safely.
I just like to put female character as my picture profile~
Doesnt have to do with trying to attrac more readership
Not only that, but certain guys (they know who they are) who post up profile pics get the same traffic too. But is that the traffic they really want?
I like your post. I have talked about being molest and stuff like that on my own blog and I tend to get reduced readership and nasty comments. Eh, that’s Xanga for you. I have made on featured before, but I hate the work that goes into it.
I’m sorry did you say something?
Maybe women are just better writers, huh? HUH?
Frick. You’re right. It’s the boobs.
Megan
Haha, very true.
yeah definetly
however, if a man shows a picture of his pregger gf/wife’s belly growing, he will definately get some female traffic, but might get hit upside the head by his wife/gf haha
I don’t agree that woman have emotionaly charged issues and men don’t. The impact of sexism, racism, agism and all the other isms are still there.
Most men are controlled by their junk nowadays, so, yeah. I guess women do have the advantage. Really, are you going to listen to me, or listen to an attractive women with a profile picture that is completely filled with their cleavage? You’re going to listen to the latter, even if we are talking about the same thing and I’m explaining it better. XD
LOL!
Its not a competition, females just share more about their emotional circumstances then a male would. However woman can on purpose use what they have to their advantage but you cannot really blame someone for their gender and being proud of who they are.
I agree with you on every point but one, I wrote about being raped a few months ago and it was one of my more popular posts. That and honestly it was one of the my favorite ones to write. For females its just a more accepted thing to talk about, where as with guys its more taboo and not allowed.
yes? no? who cares. -_-
So you get more readers, more feedback, more E-props.
La di da.
How does that big advantage translate into something really meaningful?
blah.
All I know is that I like to express my thoughts. If being a girl means that people actually want to read it and express their opinions, then so be it.
There’s always surgery!
Hahaha funny!!!
Harharhar.
I’d prefer to have the advantage in terms of pay.
women are simply amazing
What did I learn from this? A pic of Vida Guerra on my page will likely increase traffic, yet be unimportant to the post.
If anyone here is planning on getting a sex change to get more subscribers, you may want to rethink it, and focus on the quality of writing instead. Talent trumps trash (I should think).
are you serious?! dude you can talk about whatever you like. Why would you believe women have the advantage? If you think that the only way to get people’s attention is for them to want to have sex with you then I think you need to take serious assessment of your life
Perhaps the hot ones do. Me? Not so much… lol
does this mean you have a vagina?
this is a friend of this user she sits next to me as i type, Not all men are the same, I may chronicle my journey through womens literature, describe struggles of close friends, and recreate the life that I live, simply because it is not particular to the accepted male behavior, I am not a troll of scantily clad women, or do I dislike intelligent yarns of women, I do believe it is equally possible to generate interest between males and females,
Pending the intelligence and writing skill of the author.
(please excuse lack of proper grammar and capitalization)
And who’s letting all this happen? Men.
Actually, you can have the advantage too…if you’re a super heart-throb with a supermodel’s body; it wouldn’t hurt if you were rich and funny too, although, no one would really know the ‘rich’ part on Xanga.
Sucks to be me. Being new here and pretty clueless. And to be struck by this ‘disadvantage’.
eh, i think i’ve attracted at least a handful of my readers because of my writing and not just the possibility of sex. don’t take that away from me!
@thesecretfee - lol
@Vladimirov - I would read about Dan getiing a vasectomy or any other male Xangan. lol.
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@Gerald_Washington - in case you misunderstood: i wasn’t speaking advantages w/ blog popularity but other things- like how guys get fuck as many girls as they want and they will much more likely be praised than called derogatory names, whereas women are called slutbags and whores. or that there are situations where women are underpaid in some workplaces compared to men. there are plenty of examples out there. btw im not bitching or ranting. it’s something to be accepted, just as others should accept that there are people out there who flock to a girl’s xanga just because her picture shows boobs. you can’t change society through whining
basically saying sometimes women have it better and sometimes men have it better
“Women can talk about being molested as a child. There may be men
that were molested as a child but you haven’t read about it on xanga.” wtf?
seriously. what kind of adv do women have on xanga? more footprints? more comments? psshhh.
Dan gets more traffic than i do, does that mean he has a vagina? or a dangina if you will?
I think we are both equal i mean all girls like a hunky man and all guys like a sexy woman.
And not all guys grow a belly mind you its only the ones sitting here and blogging on about there lives and not running around =)
I think its because women can appeal to BOTH sexes :]
“The only thing they can say about an abortion is that they dropped the woman off but that just makes them look like crap.” Lol- great post.
I love the irony, both in your original post and the comments. Very nice sir.
vida is hot
Yes.
I think women have the advantage on Xanga- and on this topic in general in life. IN expressing themselves emotionally- men get the short end of the stick in life.
And the secret desire for sex thing? It doesn’t only include the guys!
No, I would say men do. Because it seems to me that there are definitely more women on xanga than men. So all a man has to do to gain readers is be a decent blogger who actually delves into his thoughts a little bit who has a semi attractive picture. I have seen so many guys with the above stated qualities who have only been on xanga a few weeks and even their first entries have about 21 comments-all of them women, of course. Women on xanga are so commonplace that they HAVE to resort to very emotional or above exceptional writing (or lots of cleavage) in order to get featured.
Nice good point my friend haha Its not something to be given pointers for it occuring but thanks for pointing it out
I think a guy posting about his emotions would generate much more traffic than an average woman spilling her emotions. Chivalry is rare nowadays, hence treasured. As for women being pretty, we’re wired to advertise.
Hey, if there were attractive guys posting pics of their hot bodies (or their hot friends), I’d be all over that…
Also, women dominate teh blogosphere on the amateur level, though when it comes to people making their money off blogs, the balance is slightly tipped in the favor of penises. In other words, many more women than men blog, slightly more men than women make money blogging/ blog on a professional level.
LMAO! Man, that’s right on the money!
I believe they do have an advantage, but that’s also because they’re more open about sharing their feelings, so they tend to blog on a more broad choice of topics. Mostly, if a man were to talk about his feelings, I might be more willing to read the woman’s blog before I step into his territory and get sucked in…
actually, the girls on xanga are funny and witty. I mean I have yet read a guy’s xanga site that can tops avenuetothereal and nimbustthedragon
Um, no, I think top blogs looks pretty even. Unless, of course, you are implying something about the men that are on top as well, yes?
Or, are you just saying you’re hot all jazzed up in black and white in your rocker?
I think a man in a bikini would attract traffic. Not the same kind of traffic as a woman in a bikini though. A decent looking woman wearing a bikini would have comments like “dayum you’re hot” and so on but a man wearing a bikini would have ones like “puahahaha” or “lol. did you lose a bet or something?” It’s really the content of the traffic you’re attracting that gender has.
Dan, are you implying you have a vagina? Your traffic supports that theory by your post.
Just following the catagorical imperitive, is all.
The post really made me chuckle. Thank you for writing it.
To answer your question…. I guess it depends on the woman and the content. As my blog has nearly no traffic and I’m not upset about it.
i like reading the thoughts of females than males. i think it’s because if i feel a certain draw towards the person, i can find comfort in not questioning my sexuality.
and because they’re more fun even if they are horrible at writing.
I agree. A good read is a good read to me though, reguardless of gender. lol.
I suppose we do.
LOl awww..
you speak the truth dear!
@sizzl - good point.