February 6, 2009
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Is Valentine’s Day Forced Romance?
I received this comment from Mandiful2007:
“personally i hate valentines day. people celebrate something ONE day a year that could be celebrated all year round. i think its fake. why take something like that for granted every other day of the year but one?”Does Valentine’s Day feel like forced romance?
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It does to me… so I refuse to go out, to have sex, to give gifts.. because they are expected.. it’s bullshit and Hallmark should be ashamed of themselves..
It used to. As I’ve grown up and cared less about societal expectations, it’s felt less forced.
In a way yes! Just another day to get guys in trouble!
Hmmm kinda. It should be expressed all year long. But, I suppose it’s alright to have a special day.
I suppose it’s kinda like Christmas and Easter. They are both designated days on which we celebrate Jesus, even though we should be celebrating him all year long.
Or you could compare it to your birthday. Your friends and family should appreciate you being alive every day, but we just have one specific day to celebrate it.
I think Valentine’s Day, like any other day, can be whatever people want to make of it. If you’re into it then it can be a really romantic day or it can be a day just like any other–whether a person is single or not.
I feel like this is a forced post using a recycled image.
Yes.
it think it is
I get to go out to a swanky dinner…a few days later though,to avoid the crowd.
I think it’s forced.
and it isn’t fun for us single people.I’d rather call it single’s awareness day.
It definitely can be. I’m not forcing anything though.
Yes it does.
lmao…I boycott Valentine’s Day for this reason….Forced Romance!!! (NOT)
It can be, depending on how you look at it.
Yes and there is nothing romantic about that.
I’ll take whatever I can get, forced or unforced
It’s a money making holiday. Maybe at one time it was worth something, but now it’s a hollow day to show how much you love someone by spending money.
For singles, yes. For those in relationships, maybe not.
YES.
@TheGreatOrange - Agreed. Commercialism. BAH.
not at all, no ones forcing anyone to do anything…
No. It’s just a nice day on which you show someone you love them. Both genders.
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - i agree with you on that one. holidays seem pointless but i do like christmas
Not necessarily. In some relationships, they do kind of celebrate all year around. Valentines Day is one of those days where you can do more than you usually would. Because, honestly? Who’s going to want to buy somebody candy, flowers, chocolate, stuffed animals, etc, every day of the year? It would lose the spark. Therefore the “big guns” are left for Valentines day.
sure, if people are not really in love or believe in it. it should be a genuine feeling. not something forced. duh. – i totally agree with mandiful2007. it’s true. but it’s also the history. does anyone really know where valentine’s day comes from?? google it!!!!! it may be interesting! & educational!
It is definitely forced romance. Even though I hate the holiday, this is the first time in four years that I’ve had someone to celebrate it with, so I’m kind of excited. Even though, I agree, it is a stupid holiday. Affection should be shown every day. I can’t wait though, because it will be nice having a day exclusively geared towards pampering my hunny. =)
So hey, it might be forced romance..but I need it because I’m a college student! We don’t have time for anything! (Or, we procrastinate too much, and therefore have no time. =p) Hope everyone has a great V-day. Even if you’re single…buy yourself flowers and chocolates! And give them to your friends..
I really hope I get flowers this year! What’s a way to let the boyf. know that I would like some? I don’t think he’d get them on his own..
Well, Valentine’s Day is originally a Christian holiday, so I don’t get why people are complaining. Shouldn’t they be praying to Jesus or their St Valentine instead of worrying about forced romance?
@MomGoneMadd - Seems dumb. At the very least you could go about your business as usual. By affecting your day, Valentine’s Day is just getting what it wants, man. I know you’re trying to fuck the system, but you’re just letting it fuck you.
@ecoutezmonhistoire - I mean, ORIGINALLY it’s a polytheistic greco-roman holiday, right? Lupercalia?
Valentine’s Day is whatever you make it.
Just like every day.
Personally, I think that argument is whiny, bitter, boring, and unoriginal.
It really does force romance, it’s nothing more than a way for companies to make money off of stupid people.
~Alexx
It’s forced, yes. It’s also damned depressing.
agree
Yeah… kind of…
@pillowpixies - completely agree. people are assuming that just because a couple celebrates Valentine’s Day that they don’t treat them special the rest of the year. How unrealistic is that? I think it’s pretty lame to claim that just because a person celebrates V-Day with their significant other that they are terrible people who wait 364 days before they express their love for one another through gifts, dinner, and other gestures of love.
@TooManyMuchMe - Actually, Lupercalia was in celebration of the god Lupercus and the she-wolf Lupa (the one that mothered Romulus and Remus). It also celebrated fertility and purity, as well as the beginning of Spring. That’s how it came from Ancient Rome–it didn’t really have much to do with “romance.” But the actual Christian St. Valentine has many different stories to it, which I’m not sure of. x]
I’ve never thought of Valentine’s Day as a romantic holiday, but a day to show your love to your friends, family and everyone you love. In the past 20 years it’s become much more commercial with merchants trying to guilt people into buying things they can’t afford to prove their love. Bah. The best Valentine gifts I ever got were small and inexpensive gifts from the heart.
It should be celebrated every day. Not when it cost 50 bucks for a dozen roses. Sheesh.
It can be. It’s not for me, though. It’s another day to show my husband how much I love him. We don’t go out and buy lots of Valentines-ish stuff, though. It’s just a lot of little things that we would probably do anyhow. I like doing nice things for my husband and telling him how much I appreciate him. I think Valentine’s Day just gives me an excuse to do so.
@Ju1cyXCouture - That is exactly how I feel!
Perhaps yes, it is over commercialized, cheesy, fake and forced… but not everybody gets that. It doesn’t hurt to remind people to love once in a while.
I have an idea. Instead of making this a romantic holiday, make it a love holiday. Go out and buy a stranger a cup of coffee, share a cab, pick up the bill, call up a friend you haven’t seen in a while, hug somebody. Make it a holiday about love for people, for the human race instead of love for romance. Wouldn’t that be something?
Maybe it’ll make the holiday easier. I used to hate it too when I was single. Even now in a relationship I don’t care for it because me and my boy know we love each other and don’t need heart shaped boxes to prove it. Perhaps, it you focus on the needs of other people, you’ll focus less on your own pain.
Perhaps…
@Ju1cyXCouture - Lol, honestly. If they’re in a relationship where their boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t do anything for them until they’re “forced to” on Valentines day, they’ve got a whole other set of problems besides the holiday. Valentines day is a holiday that celebrates love, so people can absolutely go all out. Plus there’s an added air of romance for people who actually do like the holiday.
Even when I was single on Valentine’s Day, my friends and I would always buy each other little treats. You don’t have to be in a relationship for it to have meaning, and even if you are, why pass up the opportunity for free chocolate? You crazy?
Yes!! It’s a consumer holiday and it makes people believe they have to either buy or receive gifts on that day or their relationship is in trouble. Sure, it’s fun getting candy and sharing it with your friends, when you’re in elementary school!
It’s not forced, it’s a reminder–kinda like how Thanksgiving is a reminder to be grateful/thankful. You’re supposed to be thankful year round too, but you wouldn’t eat Thanksgiving dinner every day would you?
Plus, it’s not that couples don’t care about each other the rest of the year; however, once you’re married and have kids, I imagine it can be very easy to get caught up in work and parenting and other things. Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays, and the like are an excuse to relax and enjoy some couple time without feeling guilty for putting your relationship first that day.
let’s stimulate the economy..>_>;
It can be, but people say that about almost every holiday.
Absolutely
That’s why I boycott it.
Not really. My boyfriend and I do celebrate Valentine’s Day for the fun of it (usually with exchanging cards and seeing a movie or having dinner). But really we go out and have fun quite a bit. The romance on Valentine’s Day is never ‘forced’ and to be honest (aside from the sweet cards) what we do on Valentine’s Day is no different than any other time (oh except every year I do try to find a new lingerie set to wear for him hehe I think it’s good to form your own holiday traditions as a couple lol).
I honestly never really had strong feelins for the day at all. Yeah it’s a kinda nice holiday if you have someone to share it with, and kind of irritating when you don’t. I don’t understand why people are so violently for or against it. although it irks me a little that it’s so commercialized…
On the guy, it is.
Yes it is forced.
Whats the difference between today and the 14th?
Nothing.
But on the 14th, if you “don’t do this” or “don’t do that” you’re the asshole.
You don’t want to be an asshole….
….do you…?
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To some extent.
@pillowpixies - very good point-i still dislike it though. if anything its good for people to realize that love is always there or maybe even sometimes its still there!
@IrresistibleInsomnia - i think thats why it annoys me too. its just its one day a year that card companies make a big deal out of love to get a bunch of money. have you been to walmart lately and seen all the valentines day things?? its crazy..even tho some of the stuff is really cute –thats so not the point
I’m not sure if it’s forced romance or not…
(The romance could just be something that’s celebrated a little more than usual once a year… if it was that way all year round, it wouldn’t be “more than usual”, right?)
I do think the diamond and jewelry companies are really going a little overboard with the TV commercials involving the belief that true love revolves around shiny metals or polished allotropes of carbon. I think my 2 hours of television watching consisted of around 40 minutes of being advised that I cannot love without taking a trip to Zales, Jared’s, or one of those other cursed stores.
Silliness.
LOL I love that picture!!! Yeah I think it is forced… But then like that comment Mandiful2007 made, you could say the same about Mothers Day and Fathers Day… V Day is pretty commercialised so it’s pushed way harder… I don’t really give a rats ass about it cos it’s never been anything to me… Other people lap it up.
Each to their own, I guess
This is yet another holiday derived from the roman pagan calendar. There used to be celebrations all year round for almost every major deity in the pantheon. In the case of Valentine’s day it’s Cupid or Eros, the god of love and romance. So basically everyone’s got it wrong, or at least has a skewed, modernized version of it. HAHA! Besides, having worked in a flower shop on valentines day before, i think it’s sad the stressful high expectations that men are put through on that day…it’s like some cruel form of punishment…and yes in some ways, forced romance.
I think not.
Well, it reminds you that romance exists in this world. Sometimes, you feel too depressed that you forget about romance. Valentine’s Day reminds you that it still exists…
Only to subnormals. It’s only forced if you want it to be. Sure, you can do this every other day of the year. But this one is nationalized, just for this day. It’s a day where to lovers can be perfectly sweet to each other on the same day.
Or even, one person, can be sweet and think upon someone on this day, when this person expects nothing.
I’d never made a valentines day card until last year. I knew a girl who told me about 8 months before she’d never gotten anything for Valentines.
I bought her a card, I even cut her a rose (from my roses), and made her a card.
Even now (even now that she’s in love with some guy), she will tell me how much that gesture meant to her, and how much she still appreciates it.
It’s not forced exactly. It gave me a chance to feel good by making someone else feel good.
That whole forced thing is for the bitter hopeless people.
I’m rather indifferent towards Valentine’s Day.It’s always been a bad day for me for as long as I can remember, but I haven’t written it off entirely. Not going to let a consistent string of bad luck ruin that. Erm..
What I mean to say is this: it’s no different than any other day. (I just always happen to have exceptionally bad luck on said day)
Another reason to be poor. Seriously, if you can arrange it so that you have your anniversary, birthdays, and Valentine’s day all in one shot, you’re set to go and would save a good chunk of cash.
not in my relationship. we always decide beforehand if we’re exchaning presents or if we’re spending time together. it’s something we choose in my relationship, and i like that.
Not unless you take it to seriously.
yes.
My wife insists on getting a gift. I get scat. My mother died on Valentine’s Day. It sucks bullets.
I hate Valentine’s Day. It’s a lot of pressure for everyone. Pressure for couples to celebrate it the way they think they should, pressure for single people to find someone to share it with. It’s crap.
Yes
I don’t actually care enough to dwell on it. I believe it is a holiday thought up by card and candy companies. Then again, I’d be hard pressed to openly display emotion of any kind, which the holiday nearly demands.
Valentine’s Day is like Halmark’s little economic stimulus package
yeah..
i nvr celebrate valentine’s day
why should i celebrate it just for one day if i could spread love everyday?
@pillowpixies -
Agreed. I just hate it when other girls give me shit for not buying something for my girlfriend. I cut any secondary classes i have that day and simply spend the time with her cause I dont have much time for her these days.
I dont think you have to spend spend spend for valentines day (and that kind of works, cause its a little bit of rebellion while doing something to make her happy) and i dont think most girls like it when their guy buys something extravagant for one day and the other 364 your arguing or something stupid.
I don’t know about the answer to your question, but the photo is funny.
Oh, goodness. Don’t get me started.
I think Valentine’s Day is a great day actually. I think it’s a day to celebrate the love you have for another person. Yes, you can celebrate that love all year round, and yes, I do that. I’m constantly reminding my boyfriend how much I love him, whether it’s a phone call, a text, a facebook message, a letter I feel like writing him, etc.
However, sometimes, it’s nice to have a special day set aside where that is the main focus. For example, we could remind ourselves to celebrate a fresh start at any point, but we always make our resolutions for January 1.
That being said, I think Valentine’s Day is OVERCOMMERCIALIZED. I don’t by any of the stupid Valentine’s day crap the stores are selling. None of the stupid hearts full of stale, disgusting chocolate. No, sir. I handmake my boyfriend something. It’s not a huge, fabulous gift, but it’s from the heart and reminds him that I love him and I will always be there for him. That is, afterall, what love is about.
It’s not a day to be bitter. And it’s not a day to just celebrate love with a significant other.
It’s a day to celebrate LOVE, the greatest emotion of them all. Find someone you love and tell them. It could be your mom, your brother, your grandparents.
/end lengthy rant.
Pssshhh, that’s like asking “Is Christmas forced joy?” or “Is the 4th of July forced patriotism?”
…oh wait…
JUST KIDDING. If it seems like forced romance, it shouldn’t. Nobody is forcing anybody to celebrate anything. Take it if you like it, skip it if not, it’s that simple. I have yet to see fully armed Hallmark reps taking aim at people who walk past card displays. The blame for the “forced” feeling fall as much on the significant other who is demanding a super romantic event as it does on the advertisors.
Sure, it is so commercialized like Christmas with all the money going out the door. I dont celelbrate with my husband on the 14th. My dad passed away on Valentines Day comming 2 years ago.
Christmas we should only receive 3 gifts not a whole stroe full.
I posted the history of Valentines Day on my site a couple a days ago – so like any other holiday it’s become commercialized. You have the choice to NOT participate.
My dad died on Valentines Day 7 years ago so it has taken on a new meaning for me anyway.
Oh – HAPPY VALENTINES DAY! LOL
not at all, i feel like its a romance holiday, an excuse to do a little more
Well, it’s true that Valentine’s day is for a reason.
If we don’t have enough time for our partners due to work, etc, then Valentine’s Day is the special day to celebrate your love for your partner. ^^Lol.
for those that dont know any history of it, I think that it is forced, but it is to celebrate and remember a priest that would marry young lovers in a time where the emperor thought that single men were better soldiers than those with families. Valentine was put to death for marrying them. That is the most common legend.
No, it’s a good idea. It helps those that need a little push to be romantic.
yes..i think so….
No! I love Valentines Day. Whether I have a boyfriend or not, all of my friends each get each other something. It’s about friends, love, chocolates, and flowers. =D
I never thought of it that way until this post.
What a bunch of crybaby self-made victims. “Boohoo, some evil entity is forcing holidays upon me. Look out! Here comes Saint Patrick’s Day! A bunch of crazed Irish hooligans are going to force feed green beer down my throat! What am I going to do on Memorial Day when they force me to honor fallen warriors? Or the Fourth of July? Maybe I should move out of the US so I won’t be forced to celebrate liberty … maybe China would be a good place to go. And the worst of all is Easter and Christmas. Good Lord, I hate holidays that force me to think about Jesus when it so much easier to shout His name in vain every other day of the year.”
I’m all for married folks getting the day off on Valentines and the rest who don’t want it can go to work like any other day.
I don’t think it’s forced. If your in a great relationship, or marriage in my case… Everyday is a holiday of love.. And I think that’s how it works between us. But we celebrate Valentine’s Day, simply cause we want to.. It’s like a day on the calender for us, that just says let’s celebrate what we have, not cause we feel forced, but because we want to.. And to us it doesn’t have to be cliche, as in flowers and candy, or cards.. Sometimes it as simple as dinner, and just spending quality time.. And just sharing expressions of our love.. Valentine’s Day is whatever you make it to be… To me it’s a celebration that I met, fell in love with the woman of my dreams, and were still together and in love…
nah, not really. i like the idea behind it
@pillowpixies - Who would do flowers every day of the year… LOL I have a guy friend who sends me a rose every single day and has for a very long time… When he is in town he brings it over personally…. when he is out of town he orders it….. and it never does get old. Every day when i see that rose I am reminded of the day I cried on his shoulder and he promised to always be there for me. It’s nice to know that there is one person in this world who loves me even though he has seen my worst and who has my back every single day. He is my best friend……………………..As for valentines day I don’t really hate the day but it is not one of my favorite days either. I do hate that as a caterer/cake designer I have to work weddings all day on that day of the year…and trust me being behind the scenes of a wedding with a bridezilla or two every year is enough to make even a hopeless optimist like me swear off Valentines day “romance”……………………..~Echo
No.
Hmm. I don’t think so, it should just seem like that one day a year that’s super-special to a couple. But then again, you’re kinda right. But it’s only forced if someone MAKES you do it.
Definitely YES.
I think it is only forced if you allow yourself to succumb to the expectations of (mostly American) society.
sometimes, yes. for example, i have a friend in a very new relationship who’s buying his girlfriend relatively expensive jewelry and going all out for the occasion when he barely knows her. it’s kinda making me sick, actually.
@TooManyMuchMe - It’s not fucking me if I’m still benefiting from it..He still participates in the silly rituals of the day… I just dont… or is it?
One more thing: People insist that we should be Christmas’y allllll year long (meaning buying presents and spending time together, etc). Because, people shouldn’t only buy presents for their family and friends once a year. People also complain that we should treat every day as Thanksgiving, being thankful for what we have and eating a big fat turkey and stuffing our faces.
While we can treat every day as Christmas in the sense that we spend time together, not everyone can buy presents every day.
While we can treat every day as Thanksgiving in the sense that we’re thankful for what we have, not everyone can afford a huge dinner every day. There are other ways to show appreciation.
We can treat every day as Valentines Day, being romantic, but the presents and dinners aren’t things people can afford year-round. It’s that one day that’s marked on your schedule as the day you should save up for and make plans for. Everything -including holidays- is commercialized now; it’s all about making money.
You shouldn’t be required to spend money to prove your love. But we can treat every day as special, minus the expensive gifts.
Yes we can.
Yes!!! It’s most definitely a Hallmark Holiday and I hate it.
Every year my husband jokes that we could celebrate ‘steak & blowjob day’
instead, which supposedly takes place the day after Valentine’s Day. I
have a feeling that’s a holiday that most men would get behind : )
I can’t stand valentine’s day, therefore we don’t celebrate. I do prefer the ‘all year round’ method, which my husband is very good at. We avoid restaurants and all things crowded on Valentine’s Day. He doesn’t do stuff every day, but he does surprise me with little (and big) things every now and then on random days. It’s better to not expect it.
I like when I get things from friends
But is valentine day a forced holiday, yes it is.
Does Christmas feel like forced peace and goodwill? It’s the same principal. Why are we limited to one day of brotherhood when we should be passing that around ALL year?
No. I could care less about VTD.
I will be in class discussing comparative education from 8:00-6:00 PM, then I have to go home and get ready to travel.
Hubby and I never made a big deal out of it any other year either.
Yup, that darned hallmark!
Nah. They’re just bitter.
yes…my hubby and i don’t even celebrate it…love isn’t about gifts to show it…it’s in the every day stuff you do for each other and how you show each other…no gift can capture that..
kind of! You see people around yourself and try to blend in to the crowd thinking “I should do it as well” or your partner might expect something regarding this cute.
We should do it all around the year. But if we could keep it simple would have been better but V day is becoming a major pain in the @$$ for the last few years!
It is what you make of it. There’s no reason to be romantic if you don’t feel like it. It’s an excuse for me to give candy and cookies out to people.
The BF and I don’t really celebrate Valntines Day. It’s sorta pointless in my opinion.
for the singles – NO
for the married couples – hell to the yes.
@jennybombdotcom - Amen to that.
For individuals the holiday can be whatever they want it to be. It doesn’t have to be forced. I just hate the way companies use it to sell more crap people don’t really need. You can have a romantic valentines without an array of pink things in the shapes of hearts.
i hate valentine’s day.
yes its forced and if my husband tried to get a way with just being kind and romantic 1 day a year, ..he would be fired.
fortunately Im blessed with my best friend for my husband and he ALWAYs does kind things…. its been 4 years and its never faded…..*awww*
It gives people the to celebrate their love with millions of different people. And then there are people who hate the holiday to lock themselves up in the house all day.
no , it’s pathetic attempts at something-seen-on-tv-type-romance …
oh vd .
I don’t think its forced…You could celebrate your marriage everyday but you do on your Anniversary…I think its kinda like that!
yeah, maybe. i guess it’s forced if you *make* it forced. but yeah. i’ll have a more definitive answer to this after the day itself
@trynstopme - Exactly. I’d rather hang out with my loved one on that day rather than him buy me something. The time spent together is far more valuable than anything else.
@echois23 - Aw, it’s really sweet that he does that. (: It’s definitely admirable that he’s so devoted to it. As for the caterer / cake decorator thing.. Wow. I’ve always wanted to do that kind of thing, but I’d never actually considered the bridezilla’s that would probably be involved. Yikes.
you shouldn’t need an excuse (or a special day) to tell someone how you feel about them
Any excuse to catch a loved one off guard is a good one. So there are expectations for Valentine’s Day, like Christmas, or birthdays. Just be a little creative and find an unexpected or unconventional way to make life a little more interesting on what would otherwise be a staid yearly ritual. Or so movies like Amelie or Chocolat would have us believe.
Yes. And I love the picture btw.
Only if you make it that way! We don’t ask if birthdays force people to prove their appreciation/devotion to one another, do we? I love Valentine’s. I don’t feel forced to do anything at all! I like making people feel special and I don’t need a holiday to do it, but I’ll take it!!!
YES!!! While I love my wife (of nearly 30 years) dearly, I hate Valentines Day.
yep.
People celebrate anniversaries and birthdays, that doesn’t mean they aren’t happy to have been born or to have been together every other day. Valentine’s day is no different.
pffff
Yes….it is…i hate vday…i think it’s stupid. i want a love exchange everyday….not just one day. I don’t want a love overload on one day….
i completely agree.
if you really love each other,
then you don’t need one day to tell each other “i love you” and be all googly-eyed.
Yep. Spontaneuity is so much hotter.
why do we buy gifts for each other for Christmas. It’s just as absurd as buying your sweetheart flowers and chocolate, maybe even more so because at least on valentines day you’re celebrating your love for someone else rather than some guy’s supposed birthday. I think velentines day for those that have a significant other to remember how lucky they are and for everyone else to get drunk.
i think what a lot of people forget is that most couples DO celebrate their love for each other all year ’round. some even go so far as to have monthly anniversarys, after all, and i am sure they are sufficiently goo-goo-eyed and lovey-dovey with one another during the days in between. so when someone says that one should celebrate their affection for their romantic partner on other days aside from valentine’s day, it’s like … uh, okay - as if that’s not already happening? people don’t just dry up in the love department because it’s not THAT day; they can and do express it 365 days a year. and to say that this day somehow forces people to be romantic and loving is inaccurate. however it might INFLUENCE some to be more expressive with their feelings towards their partner …
i don’t have anything against the holiday, actually. it was fun in elementary school, giving and getting little cards and candy. it was a negligible distraction in middle school, when i did not give a crap about exchanging such things, nor did i have the money. but i did not complain about it. in high school, i had a partner for a couple 2.14′s. … and it was pleasant. i’ve been single, i’ve been apathetic, i’ve been involved - i just enjoyed it for what it was, whatever my circumstance, which is what a lot of people should learn to do.
i mean, if you’re single, take it as an excuse to drink a glass of wine and have some chocolate … don’t mope about it or wish ill on those that ARE taken. it’s 24 hours. ONE DAY. it’ll end, and rather quickly.
I can see her point, but I believe it’s just a day to spread the love. :]
“Forced romance?” Geez, I think it’s just for fun of love!…
i havent celebrated valentines day in 2 years, and i’m totally fine. The only thing vday is good for is the candy.
omnom.
Yes, if the couple love each other they can show it through out the year not just one day.
I think it’s a great opportunity to spend some time with a significant other and maybe do something special for them, but I don’t expect flowers or teddy bears or anything like that. Last year my boyfriend stayed up all night making origami roses for me, which was the perfect Vday gift – it was thoughtful and showed he put in effort instead of just going and buying me something. So show your significant other how much you appreciate them all year, and maybe do something special on Vday.
No more than Christmas is forced happiness or Thanksgiving is forced feeding. A holiday is, ultimately, what you make of it.
Yes it is forced romance and completely demeans the whole idea of showing someone that you love them. I don’t need flowers, diamonds, or pajamagrams to know if my boyfriend loves me. It’s a load of crap and more shit that I don’t need. Plus it is a waste of money. No I am not single. My boyfriend and I do NOT celebrate this holiday because of how bogus and lame it is. We show our love on a daily basis and therefore do not need a holiday to remind us or “teach” us how to do that.
Yes. It is forced.