February 15, 2009
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Father at 13
I had at least 10 people send me this story in the last week.
It is the story about how a 13 year old boy has become a father. Now it is not surprising that a 13 year old has become a father. But the boy looks like he is 8 or 9. The girl is 15 years old.
Now new information has come out suggesting that the boy may not really be the father. A few other boys are claiming to have had sex with the 15 year old girl. Here is the link: Link
I want to forget about the 13 year old boy for a second and focus on the 15 year old girl. My son is 15 years old.
Is 15 years old too young to be having sex?
Comments (249)
how sad!
im 14, and i could never imagine being a mother so young, especially having sex so young
those two will never have a normal life, they are screwed.
15 is to young in my opinion. 13 is WAY to young.
Naw.
Wait, maybe so. But then, in this modern age, nobody really cares. So maybe, but maybe not, but then again, maybe, but who cares. Herpes for everyone! Yaaaaaaaaaaaaay!
In my own opinion yes.
But it’s their decision ultimately.
I fucking lost it when I was 14.
LOST IT!
That’s pretty amazing that kid can jizz; looks like a fucking 5 year old.
If you are old enough to be responsible, care for yourself and your kid…
Basically if you can deal with whatever consequences that may or may not come with your sexual encounters on your own, then sure you are old enough.
i see nothing wrong with having sex at 15 but at least have some common sense and know what youre getting yourself into. for exampe… CONDOMS
Yes, it’s a bit too young.
Yes, 15 is too young to be having sex… At that age, most kids dont have a realistic view on what finances are about and how much responsibility it is to take care of themselves first…
in my opinion, no. but she should’ve been more responsible, and in my opinion, i don’t think he’s the father of that baby.
Yes, but it happens.
In my opinion, yes. I’d hope my (future) kids won’t be having having sex at that age…
From my experiences, I think people should wait until they’re 30. BUT, since that isn’t practical…15 is about the going age for losing virginity. I wish kids would wait until they’re atleast legal adults but that’s just me wishing.
YES!
@pocketfulofsunshiiine -
LITERALLY!!!!
Maturity level wise, most 13-15 year olds should not be having sex. Period.
I don’t think there is a “too young” to be practicing safe sex.
It’s getting knocked up at 15 that I think is a little unacceptable.
Oh. My. God. What has the world come to? Pregnant Jamie Lynn at 16, teenage girls making pact to get pregnant, and now this. The more I hear – the more in shock I am. Honestly – what is going on with these parents and their kids?
Yes.
Supposedly 15 is the average age that teenagers lose their virginity. I really don’t know how accurate that is, but it honestly wouldn’t surprise me any.
Of course its too young but most do it anyway. Everyone’s in such a hurry to grow up.
@tigerdauphin - You’d be surprised to know that teenage pregnancy is actually lower than it was fifty years ago. By a lot.
Hell yeah it is! That kid looks like a baby himself. It looks so unnatural for him to be holding that baby in his arms.
Also, in the article, he stated they would be sleeping in the same bed and he’d stay the night over at her house, while the girl’s mom was at home. I don’t blame these kids – I blame their parents!
15 is too young! Kids are growing up way to fast these days.
I guess that little boy was functional
. Some 13 year olds are little men, but that guy is not one of them. He is just a little boy. I say blood test. Are you sure it was not someones daddy or uncle, doing the heavy lifting?
@FireMapleSong - agreed.
That depends. For me, it was.
But sixteen was not too young, for me. So, I guess it really depends on the kid.
(In general, yes, 15 is far too young.)
In my opinion, if you are not responsible enough to care for a child by yourself, you are not responsible enough to be having sex, regardless of age. I realize that not all sex leads to babies, but nothing’s 100%.
I was thinking of starting a campaign to teach alternative methods of gratification to kids, but it got shut down. Apparently, calling it ‘ ‘Blowjobs for Adolescents’ isn’t the best marketing move.
@The44thHour -
basically your saying they are too young then.. What 15 yearolds do we know are responsible enough to take care of kids?!? I’m 22 and scared out of my mind to be a mom!
@kike@revelife - Yes but 50 years ago most of the teenage pregnancies, were married 18 and 19 year olds. Take the married mothers numbers out of it and what are the results then?
15 is too young.
Seems like whorism is the new fad for preteens as well.
if they are both the same age, and consenting, and using birht control…
there must be lots of 15 year olds having sex
btw Romeo an Juliet were around that age in the Shakesoeare play … historically lots of girl were, and still are married away at 15 , or younger.
i’m 15, and for me, yes it is. not for a lot of people my age though, in their minds.
that boy looks so young it’s ridiculous. kinda creepy, actually, to think that he and her had sex
Sex 15 . . .lets not go there
@trunthepaige - Not true, Trun. And most teenage pregnancies weren’t even reported then, so the numbers could be a lot larger.
I know I wasn’t ready for sex at 15. My younger sister is 15 and while she has had/given oral sex but is still a virgin. In my opinion that is almost too experienced for someone that young. It depends probably from person to person. She is very mature and smart for her age.
Great, Dan. I’m pregnant and already freaking about my kid’s teen years. My mom had sex the first time when she was 14, which blows my mind. My sister had sex around the same age for the first time. And that was how many years ago? We live in different times where things don’t seem to be as taboo as they once were. I was 19 and in college when I first had sex, and it was with my future husband and high school sweetheart after we’d been together for two years. I never thought about sex at that age. But now days, even anal sex and oral sex are acceptable at such a young age, and they don’t even consider it ‘sex’. In my opinion – hell yeah it’s too young! I know people like to say schools need to do something, but parents need to get back to parenting!
yess
I think, like most things, this depends on the maturity of the teenager in question. I lost my virginity at the age of 15, but I was well-educated about safe sex and the risks of unsafe sex.
Every teen should understand sex and how to play it safe.
I think 15 is too young to be having sex, especially if they are not responsible enough to protect themselves.
Most 15 year olds aren’t mature enough to be having sex. So yes, it is too young.
@kike@revelife - If they were not reported then how do you know that? With out all the information, then we really don’t know anything at all do we?
That informations is on birth certificates by the way. They had those 50 years ago. So the information is valid. I know that most teenage pregnancies were to married teenagers back then. But that is all I know. Maybe the unmarried teenage pregnancy rate was higher then as well. I just doubt it, going by the stats on un married births from that time, compared to now
I don’t think most 15 year olds are mature enough to be doing that and dealing with any consequences.
@trunthepaige - Not one word misspelled in your response. I’m impressed. Perhaps, even truned on a little. Turned on, I mean.
this was like reading an inappropriate version of the little rascals. (remember how mature they were, despite their age?) yes, i referred to these kids as mature, but that is not necessarily a good thing.
-“We didn’t use any contraception. It wasn’t my first time. But when we split
up I found out that she was having sex with lots of other boys I knew.”
-“Only a DNA test is going to sort this out properly. If I am the father, I
have the right to know.”
-Chantelle claimed she was on the Pill but forgot
to take it.
all of those statements sound like they are coming from individuals much older than them. sounds like a case of kids who have simply grown up too fast..
Good grief, YES!
of course it is!
No.
I think the two kids mentionned in this story weren’t too young to be having sex, but just too stupid.
Omg. I think 18 is around the “okay” age, but then again I have other views.
That kid doesn’t even look like he can produce sperm! What a dumb ass. He probably thought he hadn’t gone thru puberty.
If everyone comes from a responsible party, 15 is not too young to have sex.
That is hardly ever the case though. If it is, no one in the media reports about how a pair of teenagers are having safe sex.
Anyways a lot of people commenting on those articles can not spell.
At 15 years-of-age, I don’t think a person is mentally mature enough for sex, let alone to have a child. Hopefully the grandparents will step up a bit to rear the child a bit…
If you are too young to be a responsible father or mother, you are too young to have sex.
ROFLMAO All I have to say is…. Sucks to be you man. glad that wasnt me.
holy crap. he looks like a scared five-year-old.
honestly I’m surprised he had it in him.
and yes, 15 is way too young. I’m 15- you can’t even drive at this age, and most kids I know have little or no concept of reality.
Nice boobs on that mom, eh? In all seriousness, this is a real shame. No one who looks as young as that “father” should be able to have sex, in my opinion, and I have a feeling that unless their parents make them drop their childhood and take responsibility, they and their kid will be SOL.
unfortunately there has not yet been a cure for stupidity, other than eradicating the genes that cause it.
I would say yes, but I’m a virgin so I don’t know.
well, most 13 year olds are masturbating, so the question of producing sperm isn’t a no brainer. he just looks young – doesn’t mean he’s not *physically-able* to have sex
To say that fifteen is too young for sex would be hypocritical. I lost my virginity at a young age and I don’t regret it. However, I didn’t become a mother at that age. Becoming a mother before you’re old enough to have a full time job and understand responsibility, both emotional and financial is wrong.
Shit happens. That girl looks like an amazon woman compared to that kid. But who are we to judge?
no, 15years old is not too young to have sex if youre ready for it….
I think I might be the wrong person to ask concidering I got pregnant at 18 and had my son when I was 19.
So,I say No. 15 is not to young,but please no kids ontil your atleast 18!
lol, that bish is a whore, and practically a paedophile to boot. She looks like she’s at least 30, and Alfie looks 8. HAH.
Arghhh this story sickens me. :@
@kike@revelife - But then again – teenagers of fifty years ago were much more different than we are of today. Not that I’m a teenager, but you get what I’m saying. My aunts and uncles had kids when they were in their teens, but then they were married before having sex and getting pregnant!
@writingsongsforBlair - Physically-able to have sex can be as early as 4 or 5 years old. Getting arouse is not limited to an age. But producing sperm is. A kid can be physically able to have sex at a very young age but he could be shooting blanks and not be able to get anyone pregnant. Just like a girl can have sex even before she ever gets her menstrual cycle.
In my opinion, yes.
15 is too young for unprotected sex.
I would have guessed that allowerance money would have been enough to cover the condom purchase.
Apparently not.
Nah. I had my first a few days after I turned 15. It happens.
IMO the minute you have a sex drive, you’re old enough.
Yes. Especially in our culture.
I saw the title of this blog and was like, “WTF 13?!!!”
Yes.
Of course.
15 is too young.
Just because you’re able to procreate does not mean you should.
But, I guess if the kid feels like they’re mature enough, I would hope they would use a condom or something like that…
i think it’s intentionally misleading for you to title something “father at 13″ and then want opinions on the 15 year old instead. I guess the more sensational the title, the better it pays?
in my opinion 15 is way too young but it’s probably close to the average these days- and 15 year olds can be in their first or second year of high school so they’re not babies…
I read the article. It was honestly the most disturbing thing I have read in a long time. EIGHT different guys claim they could be the father? I have no words.
Physically we are/ were all there… but I am a big believer in oxytocin and I just think everyone needs a chance to grow up mentally without all of the physical distractions..
yes
Yes, 15 is too young for sex.
You can’t even hold a job yet, in most states! I think you should be at least 18+. Just my $0.02.
@kike@revelife - It has been a lone while since you acted like this. Is the old funny and just a little mean Kike back? Or did you just kill a middle aged mother, and are feeling mellow for a while?
in the article it says that one of the boys never fancied her and thought she was ugly….but he still slept with her. hahahahahahhaahha that makes him look so bad!
I wouldn’t want my child having sex at that age.
I don’t have any kids but if i did….i’d hope that they wouldn’t be interested in that til a little bit later in life!
yes. way too young.
I have my doubts, anyway. That kid doesn’t even look like he’s gone through puberty yet!
I think it just looks very bad cause the kid looks so young. I saw the video clip and his voice hasn’t even cracked from puberty. He should be playing Pokemon or some shit instead of impreganating people.
@trunthepaige - actually it wasn’t. there were more unplanned, (unmarried) teenage pregnancies back then b/c birth control was not as readily available, and abortions were illegal, and thus really hard to obtain, and almost never safe to obtain.
in most cases of the middle and upper classes, the families would send their daughter to an “aunt’s house for a semester”, when in reality they were being forcefully shoved into teenage mother boarding houses, where most of them were treated like servants, even when they were just about pop, and then they were forced to give their babies up for adoption.
some people back then were….lucky enough…to get forced into marriage once they found out they were pregnant.
but anyway, moral of the story, there were many more unplanned, teenage pregnancies back then
@trunthepaige - Ha! He’s like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
I am 15, and I think it is too young.
I definitely think that 15 is too young to be having sex. I lost my virginity when I was 16 years old. I know that might sound hypocritical saying that 15 years old is too young. But I was kind of mature for my age. I still am (being as I’m only 18 right now.) I think it definitely depends on the maturity rather than age. I do believe the same as some of the others above that they should be smart enough to use a condom. Parents need to talk to their children about these kind of things because it really does make a difference. The parents that have a box of condoms underneath the bathroom sink “just incase,” those kids won’t be having children at a young age. Some people may argue and say that the parents are just encouraging certain behaviors. But its better to be safe than sorry. I know that I’ve had a few scares myself, but I also know that I would be able to handle being a mother. I also know that at 15 or 16, I probably wouldn’t have been able to handle being a mother. Ultimately, you can’t stop your children from taking part in sexual activities, but you can talk to them about it and give them the tools to be safe about it.
i was so surprised to see her photo.. she is disgusting
-adieu, stace
depends on maturity of the 15 year old.
Yeah I saw that story, but I never thought that the boy may not be the father–PATERNITY TEST!! I only hope this was a weird story, and not the norm. Obviously kids are making all sorts of choices these days, and this is why I think education is so important.
@bodyheartmindsoul - any sources for that? I am not saying I don’t believe you, I just want to see
I lost my virginity when I was 15. But I was in love with the boy and we dated for three years. We were properly educated and used contraception.
You can’t make blanket statements like that. I believe it all depends on the amount the persons involved have been schooled in sex education and the maturity level of both of them.
This is really a sickening story. Now we’re seeing stories about kids having kids.
@trunthepaige - I’m just using kindness to lure in my victims.
I can’t really judge, I was 16 when I first had sex. In retrospect I wouldn’t have minded waiting an extra few years but what’s done is done
I’m just shocked the kid makes sperm. Who has sex with someone who looks like they should still be in daycare
I think those boys just wanted a chance to motor boat those huge tits. It’s weird that they call it “full sex”, I wonder what “half full sex” would be? That boy is half the size of that girl, I can’t wrap my head around why these kids would be having sex this young.
Wow, that paragraph is quite random and doesn’t make a lot of sense. But that’s my thought process for you.
When I first saw this story…I could not believe that the boy was a father. It just was too strange to be real. I still dont think he is the father. But whatever, that was not the point here.
15 is too young only because the maturity is not there.
@bodyheartmindsoul - I have been looking into this since this comment. And well sorry the stats are saying you are wrong. Those teenage pregnancies of 50 years ago, were by far mostly married woman. The rate of unmarried young woman having babies as a percentage of births, has gone up way up these last 50 years. But not the number of childern born to them. That would be imposable, as 50 years ago was the heart of the baby boom. But those babies were being born to married woman.
Thats just insane!
why should such a young girl take care of someone else if she can’t even take care of herself?
Like not spreading her legs to little boys!
Her mother should be shoot, I don’t care if some people accept this shit today or back in the day.
It’s just wrong!
If they know how to take care of their child, then it’s not a problem.
Of course 15 is too young to have sex nowadays (though I suppose back in the day it wasn’t that big of a deal, as many of our grandparents and great-grandparents were married by that time). That certainly doesn’t make it newsworthy. I’m smacking my head just contemplating the fact that the reason that this is news is because the kids looks younger than he is. Good grief.
yesss
15 is too young. Not to mention 13.
I’m almost 24 and I’d freak if I had a kid now. I am SO not ready. There’s too much I want to do in my life before I have a human life depending on me 24/7.
I suppose everyone’s different, though.
“To be honest, any one of my mates could be the dad.”
She was sleeping with potentially 8 different boys around the same time??
holy shit! thats more action in a matter of months than ive had in my whole life!
@trebleclef402 - Oops, I was thinking kids, not sex. 15 and sex? Again, everyone’s different. It was too young for me. I wouldn’t have known what to do with a man (or boy as the case may be *shudders* gross) at that age. I’m still a virgin, but now I have a pretty darn good idea of quite a few things I’d like to do to a man…I mean, with a man.
Yes, in my opinion. No idea what they’re getting themselves into.
I think so…
omggggggggggggg
its ok as long as its not my kid
i think each person becomes ready or is mature enough to handle the responsibility involved. at their own pace and time.
Reading this article then reading some of those pathetic and disgusting comments make me wanna lock up my kids when I have them.
It looks like I am far to old to comment on your blog!
HA!
Sail on… sail on!!!
15 is too young. they shouldn’t even be thinking about it!
Oh my that kid … a father!?!?! PREPOSTEROUS D: He doesn’t even look like he went through puberty =____=
It depends on the person, on their maturity and stuff.
I had just turned 15 and my bf was about to turn 15 when we first had sex. I thought I was mature enough.
Now that I look back though, I REALLY wish I had waited. Also, my younger sister is now 15 and I look at her and think there’s NO way she’s mature enough.
So yes, I think 15 is too young. 13 is DEFINITELY too young.
i lost my virginity when i was 14, so i personally dont think its too young. maybe 13 is, i dont know. it depends on the person, and that boy LOOKS way too young.
oh boy…
It depends on the two people. I was fifteen when I lost my virginity, but I grew up in a household with a pregnant teenager, so I knew all about the consequences and how to do it safely. Also, my boyfriend at the time and I had talked it over for months before anything happened.
A lot of teenagers, though, aren’t quite as thorough about it.
I’m actually surprised in this case that this girl slept with a thirteen year old that looks like he’s nine. I think someone had daddy issues… Or maybe grew up in a trailer park… {woops, was that insensitive?}
Way too young!
I don’t know, but it makes me sick watching them sit on that bed with that adorable little infant and play video games. BLEH.
And I was 2 weeks away from turning 16 when I lost my virginity, so apparently I’m “average”. I don’t blame my parents though. They brought me up well, I was just determined to grow up and be like the cool kids. All I can say is thank the good Lord I didn’t end up pregnant.
that family is so awkward looking.
@steph843 - Can you imagine, your prime, your bests years are behind you. Before you even turn 16 years old
The girl was a doorknob at 14 years old. And being a doorknob was the poor girls “glory days”
Hmm, well as a 15-year-old I say that only the teenager themselves can decide if they are too young. In other countries, girls are made mothers at the age of 12 and 13. So is there really an answer to that question?
I think 15 is the youngest anyone should have sex and be able to handle it. I think the majority of 15 year olds are way way way too unprepared to deal with it. There are only a few that I’ve met that could “deal with it”…
Yes, what’s wrong with these younger generation. Do anyone wait anymore? Am I the last person in the world who wait till I get married? -sigh-
I WAS 16 WHEN I STARTED HAVING SEX, AND I WISH I WOULD OF WAITED. WE DONT KNOW WHAT WE ARE GETTING INTO AT THAT AGE, AND I THINK THEY ARE BOTH TO YOUNG NOT JUS THE BOY. BUT MY QUESTION IS WHERE WERE THER PARENTS??? WY IS YOUR 13YR. OLD EVEN DATIN LET ALON DATIN A 15YR OLD. BUT I LIVE IN AMERICA AND SAD TO SAY THERE IS NOTHING NEW ABOUT THIS. YOU WATCH MAURY.
sorry I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.. that kid.. kid! i cant even call him a guy.. he looks like my five year olds at daycare. in my opinion… yea 15 is a little young but 13 is way worse!
15 is too young for sex. I don’t think anyone should have sex at the age of 15. Just makes you wonder what the world is coming to these day.
~Alexx
I certainly feel too young
Dear God! I read the article and felt like I was watching an episode of Maury. “Who mah baby daddeh?!”
NO WAY he’s 13.
Yes.
i waitid until i wuz 22 but my mom & dad wer 15 & 16 wen i wuz born most of my peerz hav admittid to having sex between the agiz of 12 & 14 gawd why did i wait sooooooooooooo long
@trunthepaige - yeah, i spent my whole last semester writing a research paper on that. unfortunately, my computer is dead (i’m using my boyfriends), so i can’t list my sources.
one of them was a book called “the girls who went away”, it talked about what you are saying, about a lot of the teenage mothers were married, but most of them weren’t married at the time of conception. b/c of the stigma of those times (not that is has subsided that much today…). usually both soon-to-be parents dropped out of school got married, and started working.
teenagers will be teenagers, well people will be people i guess, they were still having sex just as much then as we are now, it was just kept more under wraps. and w/out the resources that we have today (b.c. and safe/legal abortions) most girls ended up having the kids.
i looked up a few sources, this is a good one: http://www.americanvalues.org/Teen.PDF on page 3 it says, “Since the early 1970′s, the proportion of all teenage mothers that concieved their child out of wedlock, but got married before the birth, has dropped from 47% to 16%.”
in this book it says “As the referenced report of the Center for Population Research, at the National Institute of Health, stated the only difference between pregnancy figures at the end of the 20th century and in the early 1950′s, is that in the 1950′s, ‘pregnant teens got married.’”
i know that was only 2 sources, but i didn’t feel like doing all that research again haha. i wish my computer was working.
I teach in a middle school and it just kills me to see so many sexually active children. We had a seventh grader father a baby this year, the mother is an eighth grader. A few years ago, a little girl in seventh grade had her second baby. The first was born the summer before sixth grade. And I have sixth graders who tell me they want to have a baby. I don’t understand it at all.
How can a 15 year even understand all the consequences that goes along with sex? I’m 21 and married and I still worry about pregnancy (I’d be happy about a baby, but I’m not currently planning for one). Plus there are health issues that often come up, especially for girls – UTIs, yeast infections, etc. A 15 is not mature enough to think long term for things like STDs and pregnancy.
eh.. not really. A few of my friends lost it at 15. As long as your son knows about contraception and the sideeffects of sex, then it’s fine. In my 8th grade science class, we learned about sex, so make sure his school teaches it, because it would be uncomfortable with you teaching him.
at 15, you should be jackin off 3 or 4 times a day. that’s all.
I’d say yes, but I did it. I lost my V at 15. But I know that I my life would have turned out dramatically different if I had waited. It would have been, “better” I guess you could say.
@bodyheartmindsoul - No those sources fit what I read elsewhere. I thin I was doubting your interpretation of facts, not the facts themselves. Combined with the low 1950 divorce rate, why do we even think of these married young mothers, in the same light as those who never provide a father for there childern? One is a social problem, but the other is simply a normal healthy family structure. Getting married after conception is not a tragedy if the family stays intact. While fatherless households are a serious social problem.
@trunthepaige - I feel sorry for her; she is too young and stupid to know better. I read the brain doesn’t fully develop to be able to properly interpret and weigh risk until almost 25. That is a lot of potential years to make bad decisions and think it’ll be a-okay. Her glory days are behind her but on the bright side she probably doesn’t even realize it yet. In 10 years she’ll be kicking herself
you shouldn’t be doing it until you can handle the consequences
yes
Seriously, it is pretty young to be having sex at 15. You are not fully matured and you don’t necessarily understand your hormones. But at what age is the correct time to start? I think it is when you are responsible for the consequences that may happen because of sexual intercourse. [getting pregnant or getting a STD]
Personally, I think that is way too young to be sexually active. Call me old fashioned but I think both young children and teenagers should hold on to their youth and innocence for as long as they can. What’s the hurry to grow up? You only get one chance to be a kid and there are other ways of enjoying life than putting yourself at risk for unwanted pregnancies, STDs and death (HIV/AIDS).
Uh, No.
She’s too young to be a mother though.
I lost it when I was 14, a couple months before i turned 15. I was, and still am, very mature for my age. I had a rough childhood and grew up really fast. I fully understood the consequences at the time, and I was safe. I also acknowledge the fact that most of my peers were not mature enough to have sex at that age, and a lot of my friends hadn’t even thought about it. It all depends on the maturity level of the person… and some people are just more mature than others.
But the town I come from also had three pregnant 6th graders (11 or 12 years old) a few years ago. I think it’s an issue of education. Kids are going to experiment and have sex, and if they aren’t educated about how to do it safely, they are going to end up pregnant.
i cant really wrap my head around this.
@trunthepaige - oh i completely agree, about the
fatherless households thing. through high school i knew about 8 people
that got pregnant and not a single “father” stayed. most of them have
nothing to do with the children at all.
i was just stating that to bring up the fact that the rates of unplanned teenage pregnancies now are a lower than they were in the 50′s, even though most peoplethink otherwise. but i do disagree with what you said about the family staying together, the low divorce rates were just b/c of the stigma around divorce, just like the stigma around unmarried mothers. it doesn’t mean that they were happier families. a lot of those kids that got pregnant got married b/c they felt like they had to, and ended up regretting it completely.
@bodyheartmindsoul - There is no support for the idea that families staying together due to stigma, were less happy and well adjusted, than those that divorced. The studies out there show the opposite. That divorce is so destructive, that it is hard to think of very many times (abuse) were staying together is not a better thing for all involved. That was a common idea once, that divorce was better than a combative marriage. But the idea turned out to be very wrong. Working on a combative marrage is far better for everyone and the kids most of all.
Yes.
@trunthepaige - i don’t agree at all. if someone is living with a partner that neglects their marriage and doesn’t ever try to change it, or abuses them or the children, it’s better to get away from them. a lot of kids are happier having two divorced, happy parents, than they would have been living in a home where the parents don’t love each other, don’t treat them right, or are always fighting.
and people staying together back then had A LOT to do with stigma. i can tell you first hand, my grandma got a divorce from my grandpa in the 60′s. when they were married she was a social butterfly, and once they divorced she was made an outcast. he was too, but not to the same extent.
scientific studies don’t always mean anything. i’ve always been really interested in the family politics of those times, i’ve read a lot of memoirs, and auto-biographies, and essays etc., on this and families weren’t necessarily happier then.“Studies conducted in 1948 and 1953, found that 26 percent of women and
a whopping 50 percent of men had an extramarital sexual experience. But
today, in our sex- and sin-saturated culture, the number of married
people who have had an extramarital affair has plummeted to 6 percent
of women and 10 percent of men.” people then just weren’t liberated. they put more emphasis on keeping a failed marriage together, than they did on making themselves happy. the abuse rates were higher then, people just didn’t report it as much, hardly ever. i mean, think of how hopeless people feel today when they are in an abusive relationship. even today, it’s estimated that only 1/3 of rape/abuse issues are reported. think about what it would be in the 50′s? This basically says in a little more detail what i just said.
and don’t get me wrong. i support couple’s therapy, and i support doing everything you can to keep a marriage together. i don’t even believe in pre-nups b/c i feel like if you feel the need to have someone you’re marrying sign a pre-nup, then you probably shouldn’t be marrying them.
but some marriages fail, they were never gonna work. EVERYTHING then was based off of society’s norms and morees, including the low divorce rates….and the low number of abuse incidences reported.
@bodyheartmindsoul - Some marriages fail, but only some. you just addressed extremes, not 50%. These extremes prove very little and the results of a high divorce rate are very well documented and extremely distructive. There is no point defending the devorce rate incresses of the last 50 years as a good thing. It is really not a debatable issue. You don’t think it is do you?
i lost it when i was 14 wich was like a year and a half ago so no i mean its whatever tehse days if you don’t give it up your an outcast and nobody likes you and if you do your a whore and get a bunch of attention i choose being a whore adn getting a lot of attention and personally i love the attention i get exspecially form some of the hottest guys in school
Yes because they are not mature enough to handle the consequences.
@trunthepaige - i do and i don’t.
i think it’s a bad thing b/c it shows that people are taking marriage a lot less seriously. marriage is a sacred thing. and people aren’t treating it like that. these days so many people just jump the gun, treating marriage like a boyfriend-girlfriend thing, instead of what it is–a loving partnership that should last for the rest of your life. i for one, will not marry someone until we’ve been together for years, i know all of their in’s and out’s, and i know that he respects family, and me, as much as i respect family and him (and myself).
while i do think it’s a good thing in other ways. people are more apt to get out of scarring, abusive (physically or otherwise), and/or neglectful relationships, b/c it’s not as looked down upon. some marriages were just never going to work. but sometimes you don’t see that going into it. after going through the divorce, you can go on to find your life partner, or you can not, and you can love in other ways. i brought up my grandma before, and i’ll bring her up again, she never remarried, by choice. she was proposed to numerous times, and she turned them all down. some people just realize that the married life isn’t for them, and some people just aren’t willing to make that painful risk again. but no matter what it is, you have to do what is right for yourself. b/c what is right for yourself will make you happy, and in turn will make others happy. no doubt the divorce was hard on my mom and aunt, but they both said it was worth it. it was an unhappy household for a long time.
@bodyheartmindsoul - Thank you for the discussion. it was interesting
13 years old boy father? HE LOOKS LIKE A BABY HIMSELF
I love how they’re just sitting there playing play station like nothing xD.
My theory is, if you’re gonna have sex without giving two shits about how you can protect yourself or caring about what could happen if you get pregnant or an STD, you might as well start licking toilet seats everywhere you go. Because that’s just dumb.
Why are they playing video games right now?
They should be too busy freaking-the-heck out.
of cos. anyway the boy looks 6!
Woah. She’s 15?! Tell me that’s not true. No way she looks like a 15 year old! And yeah, he looks like an 8 year old
i think thats tooooo young, considering now that i have my son to think about. when that baby is 13 he’s going to in his mid 20′s?!
15 is too young sheeesh. seems like kids are growing faster and faster. They are going to look back and wish they enjoyed their youth a little more.
Yes, and I hope there are mature, responsible adults taking care of that baby.
My youngest son is 15 and he can barely take care of himself.
I think so, yes. Of course when I was 14-15, I thought it was perfectly acceptable… maybe because all the cool girls at school were at it… skanks ¬_¬
people are becoming stupid these days, including me.
That is the most disturbing picture I’ve seen you post.
@trunthepaige - I agree.
that’s a bit… disturbing.
I think 13 is way too young, although I do know a few people that lost it around that time…
15 is a bit young, maybe 17 or 18 is acceptable?
but regardless of the age, people should use birth control unless they can afford to support a kid…
If they do paternity tests and it turns out that the 13 year old kid is the father, I’d probably find the nearest skyscraper and jump off it if I was one of the new grandparents.
I definitely think it is too young, yes.
15 is too young. I can’t believe that boy is 13, though. Geez! He looks eight!
My son turns 15 today.
It sure is too young, emotionally, spiritually consequentially.
I definitely think it’s too young.
15 having sex.. 16 having my first baby.
I am anti-abortion and anti-teen-pregnancy. It happens, I did it. So can other people. I wasn’t on the news for anything. WTF?
It’s too young. Any reasonable person would know that, but even the age we must remember that kids don’t think logically. Teenagers act upon emotions and what feels good or will make them look good or accepted. Logic is not progamed in the teenage psyche. They don’t think about the ramifications of their actions. These children do not think about the burden they are placing upon their parents or how the entire situation will change not only thier lives but also the lives of those around them. This is just a sad, sad situation. And I have the exact some thing going on in my classroom. A post a made a few weeks ago about a pregnant young lady in my class, it well appears that now the young man she is claiming as the father may not be. Others have stepped forward claiming they too had sex with her. Sad, sad, sad.
I think it is, but I’m not sure if my opinion is valid coz I’m 21 and I’ve never had sex by choice, so yeah.
YES. Unless they’re married. Though I don’t think that a 15 should get married.
I am very glad that she didn’t have an abortion!!
Historically – and I refer to real history, not the changing social attitudes of the last century or so – 15 is not too young for either sex or childbirth. Whether it’s desirable or not is another question. But…. the drives of biology are usually kicked in by that age, so it’s the ancient battle between want to and shouldn’t do.
Questions like this, which are basically practical questions on how people handle the conflict between practicality and one of the most serious of inborn drives, usually become muddled with vague ideas of ‘purity,” in a religious or spiritual sense. Strange that this should happen. Is the cause perhaps the contradiction between the idea that a Creator commands us to “go forth and multiply,” yet we have created a monastic and priestly system that – for 80% of the Christian world - sees abstinence as being holy, and somehow necessary to in some way be a conduit for that Creator?
That stupid 15 year old has bigger tits than me and Im fucking 20!
Wow she is a whore too. 3 men in 3 months. Bitch.
15 years is definitely still too young. can’t even drive yet, smoke yet, gamble yet, drink yet. so add to that, can’t have sex yet.
I wouldn’t say who is ‘too young’ but its whether or not they can handle the responsibilities that they could face if they have sex. If you can financially support a child and give it what it needs to be brought up properly then great. However, ppl these days don’t think about the child, they think about themselves, they have a kid cause they want it - they don’t think about whether they are going to be able to provide a great environment for the child. At 13 and 15 you don’t even have the responsibility of driving, how the hell can you take care of a child? lol
Yes
yes. way too young. but, what bothers me more is that she was doing it with a 13 yo boy. i’m 15 myself, and i am repulsed at the idea of sex with a 13 yo. i mean, ew. my little brother is 13. its just doesn’t seem right. ew.
That’s hella young. Needless to say though and I’m not trying to offend anyone but I live in El Monte, Cali and it is common for girls to already have a baby (ok not common but it is not rare either) at 15, when I was in high school. My next door neighbor is 14 and had a baby girl with a girl that already had a baby when she was 11 thus, she is 14 and already has a 3 year old baby girl from a previous relationship. It is also heard of in other countries. But what it is shocking is that it is here in America. Even Caucasian families are just shocked about watching a movie like Juno it is almost unheard of coming from here, because we are supposed to be educated, I suppose.
That’s not my point. These kids are far too young to be having unsafe/unprotected sex. I head that girls are becoming too overweight because of the excess hormones added in the food. Overall, there’s stress. Hormones in the food are making girls as early as 11 to start growing breast. And most shockingly a girl in Africa who started getting her period at 9!!!!
I think raging hormones is common at pre teens, that is not new at all. Protection is needed though because these kids guess what are still KIDS some reinforcement should be passed or at least talk to them about other options if not abstinence then protection should be critical. Because not only could a baby be a consequence but a sexually transmitted disease is life changing as well.
I’m not saying a baby is a negative consequence and didn’t meant to relate it to a disease, just meant life changing, I’ve seen too many Maury episodes, and all those young teens CRY they don’t jump for joy knowing they are a young parent, because there’s too much responsibility involved.
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100% yes. 15 year olds have no concept on the consequence of their actions and sex has some life changing consequences. Now considering that many boys claim to have had sex with this girl you then have to wonder WHERE ARE THE PARENTS!!!! My parents always knew what I was up to and believe me sex was not an option. This whole story is just insane.
Yes, but many start far before 15.
If you’re mature enough to handle the situation of a child that may be conceived, then I would say you’re old enough.
13, 14, 15, 16, 17… is WAY too young to be having sex! Now I realize that I grew up in a different era but at the same time, I grew up with morals and values. That seems to be something that somewhere along the way got cast aside in favor of other things like internet porn, drive through wedding chapels and Mexican divorces. I have an 8 year old daughter and I can honestly say I’d flip my lid if I found out she’d offered herself willingly to a boy at that age!
Why is it “bad” you ask? Because children that age don’t have the emotional depth and understanding of a life-long commitment that comes with having a child. It’s not like a puppy you can put in boarding at the vet’s & go away for the weekend. I feel most sorry for the baby.
I somehow doubt that kid’s the actual father.
I am one of those old-fashioned types who think people should just wait before having sex. Fifteen is too young, but if you were ten (or even twenty!) years older and just as immature, then that’s not right either.
Good luck to that girl. She’s now publicly humiliated and fucked–quite literally.
whoaa that boy looks like he’s 7 & ready to shit himself … & is it too young … i’m sure that the majority of people on here are going to go “oh my goodness of course that’s too young,” but realistically speaking, i don’t think so
What is wrong with the world these days???? That boy is so innocent looking. He looks frightened. He looks like he should be watching Pokemon still and not Poke-woman. That girl looks a lot older than 15.
lol everytime i see a picture of this kid he looks like his whole world is fucked. he has like the most pitiful, defeated look on his face always, it’s sad but funny.
i think 13 is too young, and i think it depends on the maturity of the 15 year old when it comes t having sex. i have had friends lose their virginity at both ages, and the ones who lost it at 13 are whores now and the ones who lost it at 15 are healthy when it comes to sex in relationships, and some aren’t. it just depends on the person.
Too young, yes-
My boyfriend’s sister had a baby at 13 (got pregnant when she was 12). The baby was adopted, and everything worked out. But yes, too young.
And that boy looks so young! I agree- 8 years old. Maybe 7.
15 is too young if you aren’t mature enough to know how to deal with it properly. By no means do I even condone premarital sex, but some 15 year olds are at least smart enough to be safe about it.
It’s not just whether 15 is too young to be having sex, but to be having it with at least three guys at the same period. In my view that is way too young for someone to be having sex. We might like to think that modern kids are more mature but at 15 they’re still figuring out their identities. This girls childhood is over as is that of all those other kids, regardless of which one of them is the father.
I personally think 15 is way too young to be having sex, 13 is just crazy. At that age you’re putting yourself at risk for STDs or other diseases. I would say wait until marriage and then let let yourself go crazy, but then again, with this new age, every teenager thinks it’s the new “trend” to be having sex. Sure, you have a boyfriend, but the minute you get pregnant… yeh, he’s walking out of your life (well, most of them do). I’m 15 years old and I would NEVER think about having sex right now or even when I’m 18. I’m all for waiting until marriage
Maybe…I think it depends. Kids seem less mature these days, but this girl could be an exception. ???
I honestly think 15 is too young to be a mom, I had friends that became mothers when they were that young. I see them struggle when I was in high school, its not easy being a mother that young. Their life would never be normal like this, it’s just too young to be having a child and taking all the responsibility, when you can’t really take care of yourself yet.
But the boy does look really young, he definitely doesn’t look like he is 13 years old for sure.
that kid looks like he’s 5 it still amazes me that he can father a child…and now that it comes out that the girl is a slut. wow
oh God yes. I think people should have sex for the first time when they’re mature enough to handle what “could” happen.
Well im 16 and I guess you would say i’m in with the “in” crowd. I had an agreement with my best friends that we wouldn’t have sex tell we were 16 now were all 16 and it still seams like were way to young for sex. Maybe thats just us though.
15 is quite young to be having sex but loads of people around that age start to do it so I don’t see anything wrong just as long as its with someone the same age, not 2 years younger like this. And having a kid at this age is just something that shouldn’t have happened but it did so oh well. But they are really going to struggle to pay for it.
did anyone even notice that not only is he holding the baby, but the video game controller too?!
Babies shouldn’t be having babies. End of Story!
You’re too young until you’re like 20… And even at 20 I’m still too young [to have sex or get pregnant]. UGHHHH.
as far as maturity level goes, i think it’s a bit too young to have sex. if that action were to result in pregnancy, most fifteen year olds are not equipped emotionally, physically, or financially to deal with the birth of a child / raising a child. the burden would probably fall heavily on the parents / guardians of the pregnant teen. if one cannot handle the consequences of having sex – like potentially becoming pregnant, then it would be intelligent not to engage in the risky action, or at least take extreme precautions …
Ummmm Not Yes But Hell Fuck Yes, Where the hell where either mom or dad?
yeah… 15 is way too young, I think.
OMG. People are doing things early and earlier. XO
Yes.
I was one of those 10 that sent it to you.
Yes it is. And in my opinion, the girl is either a slut…. or these other boys want media attention.
You’re too young to be having sex if you have a kid and your parents have to raise it!
Hell yes. They are not old enough to deal with the consequences of sex.
I lost my virginity at 12, going on thirteen, and I totally wish I would have waited. I hadn’t really had much sex since then because I’d prefer to wait and I believe in abstinence, not to the point where you have to wait until marriage but more along the lines of old enough to be able to be responsible of the consequences. My little sister is fifteen and my best friend’s sister is 14 but I treat her like a sister as well and I’d beat them senseless if one of them got pregnant or I found out they were being promiscuous.
If you’re too young to support a child, you’re too young to have sex. ><
in the uk it’s illeagal until you’re 16
i am just a few months short of that & tbh i probably will have sex when i get to 16.
i know about birth control and everything so i won’t be doing anything unprotected.
but my boyfriend & i have by then will have been going out close to two years
we’re both so comfortable around each other it’s the natural progression.
however that boy is a year older than my brother & no way in hell is my brother ready to have a kid & he’s more mature than most at his age.
i don’t think it’s the lad that should be blamed more the parents & the schools. apparently the girl has had no sex education which is why condom’s were not used.
myself & my friends know the risks & know what we need too. but it’s obvious that some kids just aren’t getting told that. the fact that that lad can get hard at 13 amazes me tbh, he looks about 8.
YES! If you are too young to drive a car–you are sure too young to have sex!
Until you can take care of yourself–how can you engage in activity that might require you to care for others?
I was not even considering having sex at 15–I hadn’t even had my first kiss yet!
Everyone has to make their own decisions at some point–and we have to live with the consequences.
But gosh, if this were my kid–I would not allow them to do anything unsupervised until they left home! (okay, maybe not that, but it would certainly take a long time to trust them again.)
This is why I want to put my girls on the pill and talk to them about safe sex as soon as they start their cycles. Oof! I feel for these kids. Such a shame. Babies having babies sigh…
That kid seriously does not look like he’s 13. If I hadn’t known, I would’ve guessed maybe 9 or 10.
i find it sort of…strange
that the fifteen year old girl did it with that boy…
and has other people claiming the babies?!
how many people is she sleeping with?
15 is definitely too young
theres so much more growing, learning, experiencing to do, before having a child…imo
i can’t understand the need to “do it” at such an age…
yes.
sorry but that’s just disgusting.
It never fails to baffle me that you need to go through 6 months of training at 15 to learn how to drive a car…yet there is no mandatory prep course for becoming a parent. Sheesh.
Yes, I think it’s way too young. Besides, it really doesn’t even matter what I THINK is too young. Studies show that humans aren’t mentally or emotionally ready for sex until MUCH later.
i would say ( esp. as a parent, lol) that 15 is way to early. but would have to admit that it was younger than that for me.
That boy better say goodbye to the Playstation controller he’s holding. And all his games. Poor kid.
13-15year olds are too young to have sex, dammit, they just are!
Well, i dont really know. But i know some people that are younger than her that has had sex before. Even though the legal age here to have sex is 16 or over.. i believe xD
Yes I think that 15 is to young to be having sex…
but then again I lost my virginity when I was 14 and I regret it.
I didn’t even love the guy I hunogout with older people and they were all doing it so I was like maybe I should too.
But yes I believe 15 is to young.
Ha, I’m not even 20, and to me, 15 seems too damn young to be having sex. But I remember being 12 and aware that girls my age weren’t virgins anymore. I think the older I get, the younger an age seems.
15 and 13 are definitely too young. I say if sex is going to be “unavoidable” or “appropriate” or “okay“, it should at or above 18 years old–but that’s just me.
@meadowland_dreams - agreed!!
that’s disgusting!!!!
I strongly believe in no sex tell marriage because it’s worth it!
But for some messed up reason people have this mentality that it’s “cool” to have sex and it’s not.
back in the day they didn’t tell their kids about sex tell it was their wedding day back in the day it was the parents job to teach their kids about sex and marriage not some teacher who says “you can have sex if you use a condom” well I say screw condoms(haha) they don’t always work what works is not having sex tell marriage.
Also, I think kids have proofed their not mature enough to learn about sex tell their at least 16 but if otherwise if you teach them about sex please stress the importants of waiting tell marriage!!!!!
it very well may help to prevent teen pregnancies!
But anyway people mess up and yes their are still some dummies who are going to have sex either way but honestly kids are losing their innocents younger and younger nowadays because of computer and t.v
anyway that’s my two cents and I know some may disagree
but they can deal
I wonder if the photographer had them pose like that or they naturally find the playstation more interesting. Either way, brilliant.
Oh my gosh! The poor little infant….well,now it has happened so where are the adults? Wait,who in the hell would let two kids of the opposite sex sleep together upstairs in bed together? Come on! It doesn’t take a rocket science….oh my gosh! Yes,15 is too early for sex,there is soo much more out there for a 15 year old to experience.
Honestly, it depends of the maturity, and (i know it sounds stupid for a teenage kid) relationship status of the kid. If you’re a fifteen-year old with some common sense, and you’re truly in love, hey, we all get “in the mood” sometimes! Proper sex education is nessicary though, along with the simple truths about using a condom, and, as a parent, one should always be open to birth control. However, if this is not the case, we get a new born like our wonderful happy parents above, who have just completely screwed up their lives by not being carefull in the least bit.
15 is WAY too freaking young for sex. Seriously.
obv these kids have not been exposed to sex ed…
I guess you’re taking it for granted that 15 is too young to have multiple partners (as it seems this mother might)?
I remember having a friend that lost hers at 14, and it was pretty shocking for us at the time. But her and her boyfriend looked mature, if anything. I can’t get over how tiny the boy looks. My cousin had a kid at 22 and we thought that was young. I’ll stop talking.
uhm yes. no job, no car, no responsibility
yea, im bewildered at this one.
@kike@revelife - That is actually very true. I heard the same thing. My auntie is Korean and had her kid (not by choice) when she was 16. It was common with everyone back then. Many people had abortions though..
But it’s whatever have sex at that age. But don’t go off and have a baby…15 years old is a baby.
No one should be having sex until they’re at least able to hold down a job, or have lived long enough to be qualified to advise another living being on life lessons. We won’t trust them to take part in who becomes leader of the free world, but we shrug at the prospect that they play baby lottery every time they disappear together?
And I know people are going to say some crap about how it (sex) brings people together, which it doesn’t. Between the internet, pornography, masterbation, and one-night stands, it seems human kind in general prefers isolation in sex.
Personally, I find it inefficient that humans upload information to each other using fluids with a double helix, but that’s not my decision. (especially since it’s only for the purpose of temporary arousal: this makes drugs seem sensible.)
…And don’t give me that shit about educating teens about safe sex, because look what they do with education about basic math!
There’s more, but no one has the time.
yeahh a little bit. watch secret life, you’ll deffinately see that its too young!
15 years old is definitely too younger to be having sex! They shouldn’t have sex until they’re 33!
Really, they should be at least 17 yo, because that’s when they can legally date older people anyway.
O my, she’s such a slut! :X
this is disturbing on so many levels. when i was 15, i had NO desire to have sex. i still wanted to “play” outside, hang with friends and not worry about being sexually active. it’s a shame our kids want to experience sex at such a young age…without love…without respect for their body.
they can go ahead and have sex if they’re 15. but chances are, they’re not doing it correctly. so, the joke’s really on them.
and i don’t care how insensitive this sounds.. but.. it would SUCK BALLS to get pregnant AND have unsatisfying sex.
15 is pretty young. You’re barely starting high school. I knew girls though when I was young that were losing it at 12-13. Now that’s WAY too young.
I think you shouldn’t be having sex under 18. I, unfortunately, made the mistake, and I wish I hadn’t, but when you’re experiencingall of those hormones, you’re not thinking, or contemplating the long-term effects, or anything like that. They’re ‘experimenting with their new merchandise,’ so I understand.
hell yea
I think it really all depends on the maturity level of the 15 year old, like most 15 years old I don’t think have a good enough grip on life to risk having sex. I think many adults don’t even have a good enough grip on life either.
But side note, that girl must have some emotional baggage to be slutting around that young. She should have higher standards for herself.
The huge red flag to the mom should have been her daughter inviting boys over to spend the night…in her bed.
and the father looks to be about 5 years old!
my goodness!
wow.
Yes, and I can’t even imagine that boy having sex.
she’z laughinf she knew wut it would do to dat poor lil boy. aww. dat ugly trikk he look like he 7 wtf??? well he screw boys will b boys. dere like microwaves one clikk of a button dere ready to go. girls r like oven dey need time to heat up. but dem parents let dem sleep together……mhm. well fukk dem all! i would kill myself if i wuz dat baby. DA MOTHE RN FATHER LIVEZ R FUKKIN SCREWED!!!! im 15 lost mine at 14 but im wise i got on shots plus im still witem> so yea….. DUMASS!