…Well, isn’t that a cheery photo. Let me add that I want to go at home, if at all possible.
I would like some time to say good bye if I can have it
Warning. I’m way too young to feel justified only by what I’ve done so far.
I would like time to prepare and say goodbye to my friends and family.
Suddenly.
A few months
few months
suddenly. short n simple.
A few months.
Despite having copious amounts of unfinished business, suddenly and without advance notice will suit me just fine. That’s how I remember getting here.
Warning.
Time.
a few months
If I had time to think about it, I’d go crazy. Sudden is the only way to go.
Sad really, we don’t Live like it could be our last. Much better things would get said if we did.
I’d want notice, but not more than a week or two. Otherwise it would be two depressing. You really only need a day to say goodbye to those you truly love…
M
Suddenly, those tend to be more fun (beforehand) or dramatic.
I would like to say a few months, but I don’t honestly know if I could handle the suspense!
Without a doubt I would rather just fall over dead randomly with no warning or suffering.
After seeing my dad go through 9 1/2 years of being told he only had 3-4 months at best? I’m thinking I want to go suddenly. I’d rather my wife and daughters not have to go through the long drawn out choice. I’d feel kind of selfish.
“… or would you rather be a mule?”
I’d rather have a few months to do the things I’d want to do before I die. I’d imagine that knowing I were to die soon would actually be very freeing.
I would like to die suddenly and quietly in my sleep. There’s something to be said for having time to say goodbye, but having gone through a long and drawn out (as in five years) ordeal with my dad, I don’t want to put my family through that.
depends on me mood
a few months.
As long as I’m young, suddenly and I’d like to go out with a bang. I want to be able to tell a great story about it later. I’d like to avoid the Darwin awards if at all possible, though.
suddenly. i want to live a normal life. but i’m living as if i’m dying anytime though. i say I love you to people I love and live life to the fullest
It’s scary either way. Because if you have no advance, you might die committing a sin and you won’t get to tell everyone you care about that you love them and forgive them. But if you have advance notice, you’ll live in fear and depression for months because of all the things you won’t get to experience. I don’t like thinking about this question! I’d rather the world end/the Rapture happen in my lifetime so I won’t have to die. But I won’t be too scared either way because I try to live every moment in preparation for the end.
Few months.
I’ll just never die.
In all sincerity, it’d probably be more fair for my family and friends to want to have a few months, but I’d probably prefer to do it suddenly. I’m awful with goodbyes.
I’m torn…a few months warning generally means I’d be weak and not able to do a whole ton of the things I might want to…however dying suddenly means I wouldn’t be able to plan my fucking funeral.
“Yada yada yada yada yada yada yada aaayyyyyyyyyyyy…………chur.” - Walter
i wanna go suddenly with no attempts to revive me watta crok o shit that wud be eh or if i knew i wuz gunna croak out big tyme but hadda linger several months i wud chooze my free will card & end it by by own hand no fuss no muss narayama heer i kom
Would I be fading those few months? If so, I might just want to go suddenly.
A few months.
In a twisted way, I have always wanted to have some kind of terminal cancer that didn’t put me through suffering until the very end: so I could say goodbye, tell the people who mean something to me what they meant. Say sorry, give advice, do things.
Death has always been a liberating concept to me more than something to fear, so I would want to know that it’s coming
- John
out with a bang.
why would u think about it? there’s no point in pondering questions such as these
my son…age 15…having lost both his grandfathers a year apart…. one each way
thinks both ways stink
Suddenly…
I dont want to have to kiss everyones ass and say sorry for being such an asshole my whole life.. and I dont want people feeling sorry for me either… I want to go when the final trumpet blows… that’s be the ultimate way…
a few months.
That’s hard. On one hand I’d rather die suddenly, and in my sleep if You don’t mind, haha, but on the other hand, if I had a few months, I could get things in order and prepare myself through therapy and prayer.
To say your goodbyes and/or your ‘I love yous’ should be said every day to people you love. You never know when you’ll die.
Warning, definitely.
I’d want to be able to skydive, get a tattoo, hang with friends a few more times, go out of the country, etc.
Suddenly.
A few months, but I wouldn’t tell people right away, but it would feel good to get my affairs in order, and get rid things so that no one has to deal with it after. Just exit stage left : ) Maybe have a video for the ”wake” and cause some controversy!
As I won’t in practice have choice, I won’t speculate. The classic answer is to live each day as though it were your last.
Suddenly.
Months. That way I could make sure to ramp up my already crazy antics. Oooooh how great those last months would be…
Few months’ warning. I’d want to make sure everyone knew that I love them and live life as fully as I could.
Both. Live painlessly for a few months and then die suddenly.
Suddenly. Fuck all y’all, you’d never even know what happened to me.
Suddenly.
Suddenly, but while finishing something heroic or epic. Maybe.. finding the cure for cancer? Or.. saving the world from an alien attack! Really though.. Dying suddenly after saving someone from a fire.
Strangely enough, I’ve already had both. I had a sudden heart attack at 16 years old, and was dead for about a minute. After that, I had over a year to set my affairs in order before I died again. Neither is pleasant. Frankly, out of the two I’ll take sudden, since now I’m living my life literally as if each day could be my last. I take every chance in my life to tell my girlfriend I love her, to show my friends how much they mean to me, and to take the time to make myself happy.
Suddenly and painlessly, don’t make it messy and draw it out, no tubes, no rib breaking compressions nothing like that….
For my friends’ sake, a few months. It hurts, knowing that there was so much left to say, and you didn’t say it, because you were naive enough to believe in forever.
Suddenly. I’d freak out if I knew.
A few months. It’d be a little scary, but I like to be mentally prepared for things.
Suddenly. I’ll be dead so it wouldn’t really bother me that I never said goodbye.
I can’t say.
I’d like some warning, but when the time comes I’d like it to be sudden and without pain
I’d like to have a little while, I guess.
suddenly
I don’t think I would really want to know in advance.
Die suddenly with the least pain as possible.
few months. gives me some time to kill the people on my shit list.
I cant decide
It depends upon whether I’ve had a chance to express my love for my family recently. Otherwise, death should be…inspired.
Suddenly so I don’t have to worry about saying everything just right and leaving everyone without guilt. I know I would get really OCD about leaving everyone feeling at peace about my death if I knew I was going to die. Plus I’m not big on suffering:)
I’d want time to say “Goodbye” and tie up loose ends.
suddenly
I’d want about half a year so I can travel around the world and see everything I’d always wanted to see.
i would say time, but saying goodbye to my fiance would devastate him. gagh! i dont even want to think about it!
right now, i’m just hoping i don’t have cancer.
a few months of course.
Quickly, that way I’ll not concern myself with when I might die or from what. I live life to the fullest possible extent, so that when I do die, in the about 0.1% chance there is an afterlife, I won’t have any regrets as I reflect upon my own life.
Suddenly. I would love a few months to say goodbye and do the things I want to do… but I couldn’t bear to put my family through that. Plus, I would drive myself crazy.
Suddenly. Like, right now would be neat.
As long as I get a two minute warning I will be satisfied with suddenly.
suddenly, and painlessly.
depends on what i’m feeling
A few months.
I do volunteer work with people who know they are dying and have only a short time left. For the most part they are wonderful people. I help them get the things they want finished up taken care of before they die. Helping them “tie up loose ends” so to speak is the main part of my job. I also work with their familys to ensure they understand what is happening and I fight very hard to see that the people who want to die at home get to die at home…. and though the idea of having that time to say goodbye is a romantic one, it comes at an awful price because the sicknesses that lead to a timed death usually also mean a slow weakening of the mind and body. These are not diseases that make for romantically packaged deaths. These diseases torture your body and completely humiliate you as a person. Worst of all these diseases force the one dying to spend a painfully slow agonizing time watching their loved ones watch them wither away in pain and die. For me I would rather have the quick sudden death. I really hope I never have to watch the ones I love so much in this world stand helplessy by while I die………..~Echo
If I hadn’t had any time to think, I’d say time. But I’d want suddenly after processing the choices.
At this age, I’d like some warning…but shorter than a month so I and no one else has to suffer the wait.
At first, I was thinking a few months of course! But then, I think I couldn’t handle the fact that i was going to die, and I would go through so much emotional pain.
Suddenly. Please.
Suddenly.
Selfishly I would say suddenly, but for the sake of my loved ones I’d rather they have time to patch things up if they need to so they don’t go on wishing they had reconciled.Plus taking longer when you know you are dieing usually means a lot of pysical pain, don’t really like pysical pain if I can keep from it
Suddenly. Short, sweet and to the point. No need to drag anyone through a long, drawn out and potentially painful process…
Suddenly
suddenly…
few months. i dont want to die all of a sudden. like BAM.
suddenly. fuck everyone around me, including my family. it’d be much more interesting this way, instead of having months of agony and sorrow.
suddenly.
warning
this one is a toughie–I wish we could just all go in one fell, painless swoop.
Suddenly. If you live everyday as if it wasnt your last and dont live your days knowing you dont appreciate and show that you care about people then thats their problem
a hail of bullets,,,,, do bullets give warning???
Suddenly.
Well, by default I’d be inclined to go with the one that lets me know I’m going to die in advance. But I’m wondering, what would I do with all those extra months? I’d like the time to say goodbye to everyone, but I’d also like to do some pretty extreme stuff before I hit the bucket. But then, once I actually do die, it’ll be kind of pointless what fun stuff I did in the last few months of my life. And as cynical as it may sound, I could do a crapload of awesome stuff for the rest of the world in those months, and I could very well become famous or a legend, but there wouldn’t be much in that for me, either.
I guess I’d just have to go with the stereotypical thing. Make amends with God, be close to family, spend what time I can with the woman of my dreams…
But that’s assuming I were to accept the death. I think that more characteristic of me would be to will myself to live on until a somewhat less premature end of my life. At the very least I’d try to keep on truckin’ until I’d published the last of the Seven Novels I’ve had planned out since, like, high school. (Pirate novel, fictional autobiography, stick figure novel, the fantasy/epic, super hero novel, and two others I haven’t thought up yet. Plus sequels.)
I’d prefer to die suddenly. My grandmother passed away so fast that my mother and uncle weren’t even able to make it to the hospital. My grandfather recently passed and it was a heartbreaking decision to pull life support when it was apparent that the machines were keeping him alive. I think everyone involved (myself included) wished that he had passed away as my grandmother did.
There are pros and cons to both.
I never want to make that decision.
Suddenly.
Check back in 60 years!
say good bye….i might not get to go sky diving
I’d want a few months so that I could take the time to say goodbye and live life to it’s fullest
a few months.
either way… I try to make sure everyone I love knows it… just in case… but when it happens it happens… I don’t care how.
Oh, it’s a hard decision to make. i don’t want to let my family undergo the agony of waiting for me to die, but neither do i want to leave them suddenly too
suddenly at least that would be soemthing I did not procastinate
In my experience …. I would rather have time to get things in order and to say my good-byes. And not necessarily for myself … but to have time for my loved ones to “prepare” themselves — as much as one can. A sudden death is traumatic to them.
Suddenly. Lets keep it short sweet and to the point.
This ? made me think back to my husband’s gma. She had a few months warning, and one of the questions I had to ask her before she died was whether or not it was her that didn’t allow my husband to attend my grandfather’s funeral. Her bitterness coldly told me that she didn’t think he needed to be there. It hurt and I would’ve rather she died suddenly so I didn’t have the oppty to ask her that ?.
Suddenly. It’d be too scary to know im going to die soon. Like, perparing my own funeral? Planning all that stuff would make me wanna like kill myself before its time! Its like, someone tells you that you have 2 months left to live, wouldn’t you like spazz ++ go crazy and stuff??? I would freak.
hahaa…
i choose to die instantly like when im on a stage after receive the Nobel then sum1 shot me right to my brain no pain, instant death pretty cool huh… i bet my death will be headline on every newspapers and get the highest rate on tv LOLZ
Suddenly. Let me live life for life and not waiting for death.
die slowly… it would be worth it just to stick around with my family to say good bye.
basically to say i love you how much you mean to me etc.
Immediately.Without hesitation. Instant, over.
suddenly, I wouldn’t want to dwell on it.
to me more time is better than no time. i have lost grandparents, both ways, one was expected because of sickness and 2 were sudden….I don’t think either one was easier than the other. but, if it were me, I would want to spend every second I have left with my kids and my husband.
would love to just peace out.. my peeps know i love them
A few months – I’d want to get my affairs in order. Besides, I’d hate to leave Xanga with everyone wondering what happened to me!!
Regarding my dream: Pretty interesting eh? I knew it was you, I recognised your face in my dream. It was a very nice dream!!
*HUGS*
Very much depends, but right now I’d say a few months.
I’d rather die suddenly. Ive been told I wouldn’t live to be 1, 5, 15 Hell no. I defy odds. (22 and loving life by the way) I want it to be tragic too. Like getting hit by a car or to die saving the worlds last panda bear. lol
A few months. That way I can prepare and say good bye.
suddenly, but i don’t want to feel pain.
If i had time to think about it, it would just make it worse.
Oh hell, that’s easy. I am about to be a new mom with an amazing husband. Yeah, definitely some time. I lost my father with NO warning and it kills me to this day that I didn’t get to say any last things or say goodbye.
depends on if those few months would be painful or not.
also, I think if I knew I would drive myself nuts before it even happened.
that’s a disturbing picture, by the way.
A few months.
Definitely a warning! I’ve always feared dying suddenly and not getting to say goodbye to people…
I just hope I don’t die with my mouth open like that picture.
I try to show my love for people everyday, I wouldn’t have to tell them so in a good-bye.
Also, I write letters to people all of the time, that aren’t really sent to them. They’re in journals and such, that would be discovered after I died. I think it’d be some form of closure for people.
So I could go either way.
What a fantastic and interesting question Dan?
I’m not sure.
I’d like some warning…so I could box up my things and clean up my apartment…
I wouldn’t want to suffer for a few months, but if it was painless I would want the time.
Suddenly.
If I can stay out of the hospital then I would rather have a few months. I have sat by many bedsides now and I can see how much it helps the family to accept things better. Sure, we would like to escape the fear and pain of dying, but having that chance to say, “Good-bye” means so much.
I’ve always wanted to die in my sleep.
So. Suddenly.
I would like a day to say me goodbyes then be gone. Well actually this depends on if I was in pain or not. If I was in pain I would rather just not wake up the next morning.
Sudden death, please.
Is it an either-or? I’d like a day, maybe.
I’ve thought about this a time or two, and for me the best way to die would be while listening to my favorite music right after having great sex.
Depends on what that few months entails. If I were able to move around on my own and stuff, I’d pick the few months.
few months warning and make it the best days of my life and also to write everyone a goodbye. :O
I’d rather have some time
@Made2sing4Jesus - if you really think about living every day like its your last it’s pretty depressing. and can really screw you over. like that guy who thought he had cancer so he sold everything and he found out the doctors screwed up so hes pretty much broke.
Those few months would suck but it would give me a lot of time to say goodbye and tell the people I love that I love them.
If having a warning would mean I would have to suffer in pain, then suddenly.
I think I would rather die suddenly becuase I would feel a lot easier about not having to say goodbye to family or friends as they would get upset and so would I. But I had a friend who died in a car crash and knowing I would never see him again just sent a shockwave through my body and my friends were all crying so in respect, neither is easier.
This is a sad subject at best. However, We are all born terminal.
I personally deal with this question everyday.I have severe emphysema and copd, In addition to this 2yrs ago I fell breaking my back from T1 to T10, requiring two emergency surgeries, two rods and sixteen pins. Also, A year ago this month my colon ruptured, leaking waste into my organs causing me to be septic, which in turn required life saving emergency surgery.Because of my emphysema and copd, any surgery is life threatening, as putting me under anesthesia, makes it diffficult to take me off of intubation, so with every surgery there is a chance, I won’t be able to breathe on my own.Obviously, I did survive these surgeries, but recently a pulmonary specialist told me, she couldn’t guarantee, I would live three years.I have chosen, to live until I die, My husband and I bought a travel trailer and went on the road.Will I die in within three years, I don’t know, do I want to die suddenly, or slowly, in time to say farewells?It doesn’t matter to me, I make sure I live everyday as if it’s my last, my farewells have all been said.I only want to live with as much quality as I can, I don’t want to spend my last days, minutes hours, hooked to machines, unable to talk or breathe on my own. In a hospital, or care facility, I have dealt with my own mortality, I will go, fast or slow when the good Lord calls me home. In the final reality, only he can decide when I will die.They say it’s a miracle I’ve survived through all of this, and I agree. It’s a combination, of my will and more importantly Gods. This subject is painful and touches to close to home, I’m not afraid to die, I would say, I’m more afraid to live with no quality of life.I actually had one Dr. claim I had no right to travel with my health, but as long as I have a single breath, I will fight, I will travel, I will endure the chronic pain, I refuse to just sit at home waiting for an ambulance or worse the coroner. Live every moment, love every moment, and laugh every moment. Sometimes reality does indeed suck, it’s how we chose to handle it.
Suddenly. I’d be at a loss of what to do in my last few months!
I would say suddenly because I would like to know
I’ve accomplished many things without knowing that I am going to die.
And ha,
“NO NEED FOR CRYING AT THE END OF MY LIFE.
JUST REMEMBER ME RIGHT.”
Let me start by apologizing, for being so long winded on this topic.
However, I feel I must say one more thing, I could prolong my life bysitting at home and taking my pain meds, but what ultimately would this give me? One more day, or week, or even year, and at what price?I’m afraid it’s not a price I’m willing to pay.I thank God for my many blessings, for with each trial, my faith has grown stronger.My heart goes out, to the many people that don’t have the chance to make a choice.
I’d rather have some warning.
A few months of the people around me acting all mopey and depressed? No thanks. I’d rather go quickly. And the younger the better.
Suddenly. I think if you live your life properly, there is no need for sappy goodbyes. The people I love know how much I love them, and vice versa. That’s very important to me.
Good question!
It doesn’t make a difference what the heck I want. It’s not up to me. And….if you don’t have your life in order now…why would you want the time to get it there…when NOW is a perfect opportunity to do the right thing. Everyone wants to get into Heaven and no one wants to die…unless it’s on their terms. That is exactly what is wrong with so many things in the USA….in the World…Arrogance is the emotion which allows anyone to think anything…everything…something or nothing is within their control. It’s NOT.
definitely time. but the thought of dying makes me cry. so i don’t want to think about it.
suddenly…the other way is just too sad
People have always said I have a different view on death. I’ve lost friends suddenly, and I’ve lost friends to things like cancer which slowly kill them. The latter seems more painful for both the dying and the surviving. That being said, I’d prefer the former for myself. I try to keep my affairs in order so that in the case I suddenly die, everything is already taken care of.
Well…I’ve planned the day I’m going to die…so I guess a few mouths.
A few months
Depending on the pain factor, but most likely I’d like a few months to do the absolute things I want to and say my good-byes and whatnot.
I’d take the time…
suddenly would be good. having a while to say goodbye makes me think i’d be suffering too much to really do anything. people would have to come to my sick bed to say bye to me, you know? it sucks. i’ve known too many people with cancer.
Suddenly… then no one could feel pity for me as I died slowly… they would only feel pity for my family after I was gone.
The anxiety of knowing I had some time to before hand would kill me anyway–sudden death is best.
Well, not months, butI do want to know ahead of time when I will die.
I just want to make sure that I don’t live a wasted life.
few months
Warning: more time to say goodbye but also more time to connect with the people you’re saying goodbye to and it just sucks to part knowing you didn’t, and never will, have enough time to say goodbye]= Suddenly: no goodbye which means no “attachments”? Don’t feel as if you’re dying with not having tied up all loose ends? That’s just my view on both. I’d probably go with having a warning though =/
suddenly without warning, i wouldnt want to live knowing that im going to die anyways.
@Sushi_pridE - or most definitely with you, but since you’re Asian you would probably have to kill me.
warning.
a few months notice yh… but the catch was i would die suddenly ‘cus doctors didn’t have an exact exact date.
theoretically, i would rather, have the knowledge to know ahead of time that i would be dying. that way i could make sure everything was settled. make plans to do everything i wanted. the downside to this is that you don’t really have a definate time in which you are scheduled to die, and what if you don’t. you sell your house, spend all your money, and then. you find out you have another 6-12 months to live? what then.
A few months. This way, my family and friends would not feel so tragic when I die. They are mentally prepared and accepted the fact I’m not going to be there.
If you have a few months then you are probably going to die a painful death? No, thanks.
@TheBenjitect - stereotyping is soooo much fun. you ass.
oh, definitely time to say goodbye and prepare my kids. I hate even the thought~
IF i had the choice to either of these, i would go with the few months of knowing so when i do pass there would be less grief and regrets. I find myself taking my days to advantage and treating the closest people to me with a lack of respect. So if i had a few months left i would treat them as they please my heart and bless my life. And vice versa so they wont be angry for the rest of their life with ‘what ifs’ flooding their minds, What if they hadn’t screamed at me while i left that house and crashed my car to my death?
with a few months of waiting i can die with a smile on my face and satisfactory in my soul.
Depends. If Im in much pain, I’d rather die quickly. BUT if I hv to choose, I’d rather die in a few months so I can do everything I want (like Bungee jumping), learn how to fly and crazy stuff like that b4 I say goodbye to everyone.
Warned. Saying goodbye is important, and hopefully will make the transition for friends and family easier. Also, to tie up loose financial ends and the like.
Depends on the circumstances at the time. NORMALLY I’d pick sudden death though.
“Pull the plug, don’t want to live this way” – Death
Speaking with some experience of this subject, as I have terminal cancer which will take me within the year. At first I would have said a bit of warning because I wanted to visit my girlfriend in Georgia USA for the first and would have been the only time, I’m in England and haven’t been able to get there until now.
But she decided to dump me a month ago , there’s nothing else I wanted to do before dying, other than to hold her in my arms at least once, we had a 3yr relationship. So now without her, I would prefer to go now please.
Sudden Death.
I hate waiting around.
suddenly, please. kthx. xD
The longer the better. Well, in relative terms, since it might be painful.
I’d rather be in pain for a few months and have time to say goodbye than just fall over dead just like that.
If I had a few months, the waiting would make me a little anxious.
Suddenly doesn’t sound so fun either…
i think i will want to have a warning.. although i know i’ll get really emotional about it. HOpefully i get over it soon~ lol
No.
uhhh good quetsion…
3 or so months so i could go do things i would never have done (like sky dive) and travel and of course say goodbye.
Few months notice, I believe.. It’s hard for me to say good-bye, but there’s so much I’d like to do before I die, and so many people to let know how I feel, too. A few months, please, I think. What about you?
<3, ~*Akarui Mitsukai*~
@wolvenchic - Heart attacks from a neurological misfiring.
I used to work with hospice care once a week and saw a few people pass away with months of warning, and if I have the choice I wouldn’t want to die that way. It’s heartbreaking for people closest to you and you need to continually struggle to stay positive as your body deteriorate. However, others made use of the time well like the guy in Tuesdays With Morrie. That’s just amazing.
I had a short time to say good by to my wife and kids, 18 months ago I went to the hosplital to have a test done. They found in the cat scan that my aorta had torn at some point and that when it rutured I would die with in a couple of minutes. They rushed me to the E-R, lowered my blood preasure and operated on me 2 days later. I had time to say good by if I didn’t make it. They replaced my aortic value in my heart and my desending aorta. I have been told I am extermly lucky.
NO LUCK….. GOD WASN’T FINISHED WIRTH ME YET HERE ON EARTH. I was only 42 when this happened. Seriously you have to be ready to meet God at anytime.
I’d like time to say goodbye, but the most important thing to me is that I want my death to have meaning.
hmm, i think suddenly, i dont want to handle all the pain
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A few months.
…Well, isn’t that a cheery photo. Let me add that I want to go at home, if at all possible.
I would like some time to say good bye if I can have it
Warning. I’m way too young to feel justified only by what I’ve done so far.
I would like time to prepare and say goodbye to my friends and family.
Suddenly.
A few months
few months
suddenly. short n simple.
A few months.
Despite having copious amounts of unfinished business, suddenly and without advance notice will suit me just fine. That’s how I remember getting here.
Warning.
Time.
a few months
If I had time to think about it, I’d go crazy. Sudden is the only way to go.
Sad really, we don’t Live like it could be our last. Much better things would get said if we did.
I’d want notice, but not more than a week or two. Otherwise it would be two depressing. You really only need a day to say goodbye to those you truly love…
M
Suddenly, those tend to be more fun (beforehand) or dramatic.
I would like to say a few months, but I don’t honestly know if I could handle the suspense!
Without a doubt I would rather just fall over dead randomly with no warning or suffering.
After seeing my dad go through 9 1/2 years of being told he only had 3-4 months at best? I’m thinking I want to go suddenly. I’d rather my wife and daughters not have to go through the long drawn out choice. I’d feel kind of selfish.
“… or would you rather be a mule?”
I’d rather have a few months to do the things I’d want to do before I die. I’d imagine that knowing I were to die soon would actually be very freeing.
I would like to die suddenly and quietly in my sleep. There’s something to be said for having time to say goodbye, but having gone through a long and drawn out (as in five years) ordeal with my dad, I don’t want to put my family through that.
depends on me mood
a few months.
As long as I’m young, suddenly and I’d like to go out with a bang. I want to be able to tell a great story about it later. I’d like to avoid the Darwin awards if at all possible, though.
suddenly. i want to live a normal life. but i’m living as if i’m dying anytime though. i say I love you to people I love and live life to the fullest
It’s scary either way. Because if you have no advance, you might die committing a sin and you won’t get to tell everyone you care about that you love them and forgive them. But if you have advance notice, you’ll live in fear and depression for months because of all the things you won’t get to experience. I don’t like thinking about this question! I’d rather the world end/the Rapture happen in my lifetime so I won’t have to die. But I won’t be too scared either way because I try to live every moment in preparation for the end.
Few months.
I’ll just never die.
In all sincerity, it’d probably be more fair for my family and friends to want to have a few months, but I’d probably prefer to do it suddenly. I’m awful with goodbyes.
I’m torn…a few months warning generally means I’d be weak and not able to do a whole ton of the things I might want to…however dying suddenly means I wouldn’t be able to plan my fucking funeral.
“Yada yada yada yada yada yada yada aaayyyyyyyyyyyy…………chur.” - Walter
i wanna go suddenly with no attempts to revive me watta crok o shit that wud be eh or if i knew i wuz gunna croak out big tyme but hadda linger several months i wud chooze my free will card & end it by by own hand no fuss no muss narayama heer i kom
Would I be fading those few months? If so, I might just want to go suddenly.
A few months.
In a twisted way, I have always wanted to have some kind of terminal cancer that didn’t put me through suffering until the very end: so I could say goodbye, tell the people who mean something to me what they meant. Say sorry, give advice, do things.
Death has always been a liberating concept to me more than something to fear, so I would want to know that it’s coming
- John
out with a bang.
why would u think about it? there’s no point in pondering questions such as these
my son…age 15…having lost both his grandfathers a year apart…. one each way
thinks both ways stink
Suddenly…
I dont want to have to kiss everyones ass and say sorry for being such an asshole my whole life.. and I dont want people feeling sorry for me either… I want to go when the final trumpet blows… that’s be the ultimate way…
a few months.
That’s hard. On one hand I’d rather die suddenly, and in my sleep if You don’t mind, haha, but on the other hand, if I had a few months, I could get things in order and prepare myself through therapy and prayer.
To say your goodbyes and/or your ‘I love yous’ should be said every day to people you love. You never know when you’ll die.
Warning, definitely.
I’d want to be able to skydive, get a tattoo, hang with friends a few more times, go out of the country, etc.
Suddenly.
A few months, but I wouldn’t tell people right away, but it would feel good to get my affairs in order, and get rid things so that no one has to deal with it after. Just exit stage left : ) Maybe have a video for the ”wake” and cause some controversy!
As I won’t in practice have choice, I won’t speculate. The classic answer is to live each day as though it were your last.
Suddenly.
Months. That way I could make sure to ramp up my already crazy antics. Oooooh how great those last months would be…
Few months’ warning. I’d want to make sure everyone knew that I love them and live life as fully as I could.
Both. Live painlessly for a few months and then die suddenly.
Suddenly. Fuck all y’all, you’d never even know what happened to me.
Suddenly.
Suddenly, but while finishing something heroic or epic. Maybe.. finding the cure for cancer? Or.. saving the world from an alien attack! Really though.. Dying suddenly after saving someone from a fire.
Strangely enough, I’ve already had both. I had a sudden heart attack at 16 years old, and was dead for about a minute. After that, I had over a year to set my affairs in order before I died again. Neither is pleasant. Frankly, out of the two I’ll take sudden, since now I’m living my life literally as if each day could be my last. I take every chance in my life to tell my girlfriend I love her, to show my friends how much they mean to me, and to take the time to make myself happy.
Suddenly and painlessly, don’t make it messy and draw it out, no tubes, no rib breaking compressions nothing like that….
For my friends’ sake, a few months. It hurts, knowing that there was so much left to say, and you didn’t say it, because you were naive enough to believe in forever.
Suddenly. I’d freak out if I knew.
A few months. It’d be a little scary, but I like to be mentally prepared for things.
Suddenly. I’ll be dead so it wouldn’t really bother me that I never said goodbye.
I can’t say.
I’d like some warning, but when the time comes I’d like it to be sudden and without pain
I’d like to have a little while, I guess.
suddenly
I don’t think I would really want to know in advance.
Die suddenly with the least pain as possible.
few months. gives me some time to kill the people on my shit list.
I cant decide
It depends upon whether I’ve had a chance to express my love for my family recently. Otherwise, death should be…inspired.
Suddenly so I don’t have to worry about saying everything just right and leaving everyone without guilt. I know I would get really OCD about leaving everyone feeling at peace about my death if I knew I was going to die. Plus I’m not big on suffering:)
I’d want time to say “Goodbye” and tie up loose ends.
suddenly
I’d want about half a year so I can travel around the world and see everything I’d always wanted to see.
i would say time, but saying goodbye to my fiance would devastate him. gagh! i dont even want to think about it!
right now, i’m just hoping i don’t have cancer.
a few months of course.
Quickly, that way I’ll not concern myself with when I might die or from what. I live life to the fullest possible extent, so that when I do die, in the about 0.1% chance there is an afterlife, I won’t have any regrets as I reflect upon my own life.
Suddenly. I would love a few months to say goodbye and do the things I want to do… but I couldn’t bear to put my family through that. Plus, I would drive myself crazy.
Suddenly. Like, right now would be neat.
As long as I get a two minute warning I will be satisfied with suddenly.
suddenly, and painlessly.
depends on what i’m feeling
A few months.
I do volunteer work with people who know they are dying and have only a short time left. For the most part they are wonderful people. I help them get the things they want finished up taken care of before they die. Helping them “tie up loose ends” so to speak is the main part of my job. I also work with their familys to ensure they understand what is happening and I fight very hard to see that the people who want to die at home get to die at home…. and though the idea of having that time to say goodbye is a romantic one, it comes at an awful price because the sicknesses that lead to a timed death usually also mean a slow weakening of the mind and body. These are not diseases that make for romantically packaged deaths. These diseases torture your body and completely humiliate you as a person. Worst of all these diseases force the one dying to spend a painfully slow agonizing time watching their loved ones watch them wither away in pain and die. For me I would rather have the quick sudden death. I really hope I never have to watch the ones I love so much in this world stand helplessy by while I die………..~Echo
If I hadn’t had any time to think, I’d say time. But I’d want suddenly after processing the choices.
At this age, I’d like some warning…but shorter than a month so I and no one else has to suffer the wait.
At first, I was thinking a few months of course! But then, I think I couldn’t handle the fact that i was going to die, and I would go through so much emotional pain.
Suddenly. Please.
Suddenly.
Selfishly I would say suddenly, but for the sake of my loved ones I’d rather they have time to patch things up if they need to so they don’t go on wishing they had reconciled.Plus taking longer when you know you are dieing usually means a lot of pysical pain, don’t really like pysical pain if I can keep from it
Suddenly. Short, sweet and to the point. No need to drag anyone through a long, drawn out and potentially painful process…
Suddenly
suddenly…
few months. i dont want to die all of a sudden. like BAM.
suddenly. fuck everyone around me, including my family. it’d be much more interesting this way, instead of having months of agony and sorrow.
suddenly.
warning
this one is a toughie–I wish we could just all go in one fell, painless swoop.
Suddenly. If you live everyday as if it wasnt your last and dont live your days knowing you dont appreciate and show that you care about people then thats their problem
a hail of bullets,,,,, do bullets give warning???
Suddenly.
Well, by default I’d be inclined to go with the one that lets me know I’m going to die in advance. But I’m wondering, what would I do with all those extra months? I’d like the time to say goodbye to everyone, but I’d also like to do some pretty extreme stuff before I hit the bucket. But then, once I actually do die, it’ll be kind of pointless what fun stuff I did in the last few months of my life. And as cynical as it may sound, I could do a crapload of awesome stuff for the rest of the world in those months, and I could very well become famous or a legend, but there wouldn’t be much in that for me, either.
I guess I’d just have to go with the stereotypical thing. Make amends with God, be close to family, spend what time I can with the woman of my dreams…
But that’s assuming I were to accept the death. I think that more characteristic of me would be to will myself to live on until a somewhat less premature end of my life. At the very least I’d try to keep on truckin’ until I’d published the last of the Seven Novels I’ve had planned out since, like, high school. (Pirate novel, fictional autobiography, stick figure novel, the fantasy/epic, super hero novel, and two others I haven’t thought up yet. Plus sequels.)
I’d prefer to die suddenly. My grandmother passed away so fast that my mother and uncle weren’t even able to make it to the hospital. My grandfather recently passed and it was a heartbreaking decision to pull life support when it was apparent that the machines were keeping him alive. I think everyone involved (myself included) wished that he had passed away as my grandmother did.
There are pros and cons to both.
I never want to make that decision.
Suddenly.
Check back in 60 years!
say good bye….i might not get to go sky diving
I’d want a few months so that I could take the time to say goodbye and live life to it’s fullest
a few months.
either way… I try to make sure everyone I love knows it… just in case… but when it happens it happens… I don’t care how.
Oh, it’s a hard decision to make. i don’t want to let my family undergo the agony of waiting for me to die, but neither do i want to leave them suddenly too
suddenly
at least that would be soemthing I did not procastinate
In my experience …. I would rather have time to get things in order and to say my good-byes. And not necessarily for myself … but to have time for my loved ones to “prepare” themselves — as much as one can. A sudden death is traumatic to them.
Suddenly. Lets keep it short sweet and to the point.
This ? made me think back to my husband’s gma. She had a few months warning, and one of the questions I had to ask her before she died was whether or not it was her that didn’t allow my husband to attend my grandfather’s funeral. Her bitterness coldly told me that she didn’t think he needed to be there. It hurt and I would’ve rather she died suddenly so I didn’t have the oppty to ask her that ?.
Suddenly. It’d be too scary to know im going to die soon. Like, perparing my own funeral? Planning all that stuff would make me wanna like kill myself before its time! Its like, someone tells you that you have 2 months left to live, wouldn’t you like spazz ++ go crazy and stuff??? I would freak.
hahaa…
i choose to die instantly
like when im on a stage after receive the Nobel
then sum1 shot me right to my brain
no pain, instant death
pretty cool huh…
i bet my death will be headline on every newspapers and get the highest rate on tv
LOLZ
Suddenly. Let me live life for life and not waiting for death.
die slowly… it would be worth it just to stick around with my family to say good bye.
basically to say i love you how much you mean to me etc.
Immediately.Without hesitation. Instant, over.
suddenly, I wouldn’t want to dwell on it.
to me more time is better than no time.
i have lost grandparents, both ways, one was expected because of sickness and 2 were sudden….I don’t think either one was easier than the other. but, if it were me, I would want to spend every second I have left with my kids and my husband.
would love to just peace out.. my peeps know i love them
A few months – I’d want to get my affairs in order. Besides, I’d hate to leave Xanga with everyone wondering what happened to me!!
Regarding my dream: Pretty interesting eh? I knew it was you, I recognised your face in my dream. It was a very nice dream!!
*HUGS*
Very much depends, but right now I’d say a few months.
I’d rather die suddenly. Ive been told I wouldn’t live to be 1, 5, 15 Hell no. I defy odds. (22 and loving life by the way)
I want it to be tragic too. Like getting hit by a car or to die saving the worlds last panda bear. lol
A few months. That way I can prepare and say good bye.
suddenly, but i don’t want to feel pain.
If i had time to think about it, it would just make it worse.
Oh hell, that’s easy. I am about to be a new mom with an amazing husband. Yeah, definitely some time. I lost my father with NO warning and it kills me to this day that I didn’t get to say any last things or say goodbye.
depends on if those few months would be painful or not.
also, I think if I knew I would drive myself nuts before it even happened.
that’s a disturbing picture, by the way.
A few months.
Definitely a warning! I’ve always feared dying suddenly and not getting to say goodbye to people…
I just hope I don’t die with my mouth open like that picture.
I try to show my love for people everyday, I wouldn’t have to tell them so in a good-bye.
Also, I write letters to people all of the time, that aren’t really sent to them. They’re in journals and such, that would be discovered after I died. I think it’d be some form of closure for people.
So I could go either way.
What a fantastic and interesting question Dan?
I’m not sure.
I’d like some warning…so I could box up my things and clean up my apartment…
I wouldn’t want to suffer for a few months, but if it was painless I would want the time.
Suddenly.
If I can stay out of the hospital then I would rather have a few months. I have sat by many bedsides now and I can see how much it helps the family to accept things better. Sure, we would like to escape the fear and pain of dying, but having that chance to say, “Good-bye” means so much.
I’ve always wanted to die in my sleep.
So. Suddenly.
I would like a day to say me goodbyes then be gone. Well actually this depends on if I was in pain or not. If I was in pain I would rather just not wake up the next morning.
Sudden death, please.
Is it an either-or? I’d like a day, maybe.
I’ve thought about this a time or two, and for me the best way to die would be while listening to my favorite music right after having great sex.
Depends on what that few months entails. If I were able to move around on my own and stuff, I’d pick the few months.
few months warning and make it the best days of my life and also to write everyone a goodbye. :O
I’d rather have some time
@Made2sing4Jesus - if you really think about living every day like its your last it’s pretty depressing. and can really screw you over. like that guy who thought he had cancer so he sold everything and he found out the doctors screwed up so hes pretty much broke.
Those few months would suck but it would give me a lot of time to say goodbye and tell the people I love that I love them.
If having a warning would mean I would have to suffer in pain, then suddenly.
I think I would rather die suddenly becuase I would feel a lot easier about not having to say goodbye to family or friends as they would get upset and so would I. But I had a friend who died in a car crash and knowing I would never see him again just sent a shockwave through my body and my friends were all crying so in respect, neither is easier.
I personally deal with this question everyday.I have severe emphysema and copd, In addition to this 2yrs ago I fell breaking my back from T1 to T10, requiring two emergency surgeries, two rods and sixteen pins. Also, A year ago this month my colon ruptured, leaking waste into my organs causing me to be septic, which in turn required life saving emergency surgery.Because of my emphysema and copd, any surgery is life threatening, as putting me under anesthesia, makes it diffficult to take me off of intubation, so with every surgery there is a chance, I won’t be able to breathe on my own.Obviously, I did survive these surgeries, but recently a pulmonary specialist told me, she couldn’t guarantee, I would live three years.I have chosen, to live until I die, My husband and I bought a travel trailer and went on the road.Will I die in within three years, I don’t know, do I want to die suddenly, or slowly, in time to say farewells?It doesn’t matter to me, I make sure I live everyday as if it’s my last, my farewells have all been said.I only want to live with as much quality as I can, I don’t want to spend my last days, minutes hours, hooked to machines, unable to talk or breathe on my own. In a hospital, or care facility, I have dealt with my own mortality, I will go, fast or slow when the good Lord calls me home. In the final reality, only he can decide when I will die.They say it’s a miracle I’ve survived through all of this, and I agree. It’s a combination, of my will and more importantly Gods. This subject is painful and touches to close to home, I’m not afraid to die, I would say, I’m more afraid to live with no quality of life.I actually had one Dr. claim I had no right to travel with my health, but as long as I have a single breath, I will fight, I will travel, I will endure the chronic pain, I refuse to just sit at home waiting for an ambulance or worse the coroner. Live every moment, love every moment, and laugh every moment. Sometimes reality does indeed suck, it’s how we chose to handle it.
Suddenly. I’d be at a loss of what to do in my last few months!
I would say suddenly because I would like to know
I’ve accomplished many things without knowing that I am going to die.
And ha,
“NO NEED FOR CRYING AT THE END OF MY LIFE.
JUST REMEMBER ME RIGHT.”
Let me start by apologizing, for being so long winded on this topic.
However, I feel I must say one more thing, I could prolong my life bysitting at home and taking my pain meds, but what ultimately would this give me? One more day, or week, or even year, and at what price?I’m afraid it’s not a price I’m willing to pay.I thank God for my many blessings, for with each trial, my faith has grown stronger.My heart goes out, to the many people that don’t have the chance to make a choice.
I’d rather have some warning.
A few months of the people around me acting all mopey and depressed? No thanks. I’d rather go quickly. And the younger the better.
Suddenly.
I think if you live your life properly, there is no need for sappy goodbyes.
The people I love know how much I love them, and vice versa.
That’s very important to me.
Good question!
It doesn’t make a difference what the heck I want. It’s not up to me. And….if you don’t have your life in order now…why would you want the time to get it there…when NOW is a perfect opportunity to do the right thing. Everyone wants to get into Heaven and no one wants to die…unless it’s on their terms. That is exactly what is wrong with so many things in the USA….in the World…Arrogance is the emotion which allows anyone to think anything…everything…something or nothing is within their control. It’s NOT.
definitely time.
but the thought of dying makes me cry.
so i don’t want to think about it.
suddenly…the other way is just too sad
People have always said I have a different view on death. I’ve lost friends suddenly, and I’ve lost friends to things like cancer which slowly kill them. The latter seems more painful for both the dying and the surviving. That being said, I’d prefer the former for myself. I try to keep my affairs in order so that in the case I suddenly die, everything is already taken care of.
Well…I’ve planned the day I’m going to die…so I guess a few mouths.
A few months
Depending on the pain factor, but most likely I’d like a few months to do the absolute things I want to and say my good-byes and whatnot.
I’d take the time…
suddenly would be good.
having a while to say goodbye makes me think i’d be suffering too much to really do anything. people would have to come to my sick bed to say bye to me, you know? it sucks. i’ve known too many people with cancer.
Suddenly… then no one could feel pity for me as I died slowly… they would only feel pity for my family after I was gone.
The anxiety of knowing I had some time to before hand would kill me anyway–sudden death is best.
Well, not months, but I do want to know ahead of time when I will die.
I just want to make sure that I don’t live a wasted life.
few months
Warning: more time to say goodbye but also more time to connect with the people you’re saying goodbye to and it just sucks to part knowing you didn’t, and never will, have enough time to say goodbye]=
Suddenly: no goodbye which means no “attachments”? Don’t feel as if you’re dying with not having tied up all loose ends?
That’s just my view on both. I’d probably go with having a warning though =/
suddenly without warning, i wouldnt want to live knowing that im going to die anyways.
Suddenly- right after SEX
Everything happens for a reason.
I would like to die suddenly while having sex
@wolvenchic - maybe with you.
@Made2sing4Jesus - Or especially with you.
@Sushi_pridE - or most definitely with you, but since you’re Asian you would probably have to kill me.
warning.
a few months notice yh… but the catch was i would die suddenly ‘cus doctors didn’t have an exact exact date.
theoretically, i would rather, have the knowledge to know ahead of time that i would be dying. that way i could make sure everything was settled. make plans to do everything i wanted. the downside to this is that you don’t really have a definate time in which you are scheduled to die, and what if you don’t. you sell your house, spend all your money, and then. you find out you have another 6-12 months to live? what then.
A few months. This way, my family and friends would not feel so tragic when I die. They are mentally prepared and accepted the fact I’m not going to be there.
If you have a few months then you are probably going to die a painful death? No, thanks.
@TheBenjitect - stereotyping is soooo much fun. you ass.
oh, definitely time to say goodbye and prepare my kids. I hate even the thought~
IF i had the choice to either of these, i would go with the few months of knowing so when i do pass there would be less grief and regrets. I find myself taking my days to advantage and treating the closest people to me with a lack of respect. So if i had a few months left i would treat them as they please my heart and bless my life. And vice versa so they wont be angry for the rest of their life with ‘what ifs’ flooding their minds, What if they hadn’t screamed at me while i left that house and crashed my car to my death?
with a few months of waiting i can die with a smile on my face and satisfactory in my soul.
Depends. If Im in much pain, I’d rather die quickly. BUT if I hv to choose, I’d rather die in a few months so I can do everything I want (like Bungee jumping), learn how to fly and crazy stuff like that b4 I say goodbye to everyone.
Warned.
Saying goodbye is important, and hopefully will make the transition for friends and family easier. Also, to tie up loose financial ends and the like.
Depends on the circumstances at the time. NORMALLY I’d pick sudden death though.
“Pull the plug, don’t want to live this way” – Death
Speaking with some experience of this subject, as I have terminal cancer which will take me within the year. At first I would have said a bit of warning because I wanted to visit my girlfriend in Georgia USA for the first and would have been the only time, I’m in England and haven’t been able to get there until now.
But she decided to dump me a month ago
, there’s nothing else I wanted to do before dying, other than to hold her in my arms at least once, we had a 3yr relationship. So now without her, I would prefer to go now please.
Sudden Death.
I hate waiting around.
suddenly, please. kthx. xD
The longer the better. Well, in relative terms, since it might be painful.
@GodlessLiberal - how did you die again?
I’d rather be in pain for a few months and have time to say goodbye than just fall over dead just like that.
If I had a few months, the waiting would make me a little anxious.
Suddenly doesn’t sound so fun either…
i think i will want to have a warning.. although i know i’ll get really emotional about it. HOpefully i get over it soon~ lol
No.
uhhh good quetsion…
3 or so months so i could go do things i would never have done (like sky dive) and travel and of course say goodbye.
Few months notice, I believe.. It’s hard for me to say good-bye, but there’s so much I’d like to do before I die, and so many people to let know how I feel, too. A few months, please, I think.
What about you?
<3, ~*Akarui Mitsukai*~
@wolvenchic - Heart attacks from a neurological misfiring.
I used to work with hospice care once a week and saw a few people pass away with months of warning, and if I have the choice I wouldn’t want to die that way. It’s heartbreaking for people closest to you and you need to continually struggle to stay positive as your body deteriorate. However, others made use of the time well like the guy in Tuesdays With Morrie. That’s just amazing.
I had a short time to say good by to my wife and kids, 18 months ago I went to the hosplital to have a test done. They found in the cat scan that my aorta had torn at some point and that when it rutured I would die with in a couple of minutes. They rushed me to the E-R, lowered my blood preasure and operated on me 2 days later. I had time to say good by if I didn’t make it. They replaced my aortic value in my heart and my desending aorta. I have been told I am extermly lucky.
NO LUCK….. GOD WASN’T FINISHED WIRTH ME YET HERE ON EARTH. I was only 42 when this happened. Seriously you have to be ready to meet God at anytime.
I’d like time to say goodbye, but the most important thing to me is that I want my death to have meaning.
hmm, i think suddenly, i dont want to handle all the pain