February 21, 2009
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Maybe Rihanna Deserved to be Hit
I was just reading an article that claimed that some teens are likely to blame Rihanna for the domestic abuse by Chris Brown.
According to the article, some teens carry the attitude that Rihanna may have done something to provoke the attack. Here is the link: Link
Do you think that some women sort of have it coming?
Comments (222)
No. Domestic violence is never ok.
She does seem very intimidating
No! There’s absolutely no good reason to physically attack your significant other. And going by the picture, it wasn’t just a one-smack “stfu” hit.
There’s a difference between hit and completely and utterly beat up…
Ha, oh Dan.
Well, she is black.
You can’t be serious…that’s nonsense. No one has ‘right’ to put their hands on any human being…only self defense..
You’re silly.
No…there is no excuse for domestic violence.
No, and it’s very ignorant to think in such ways.
Not your most thoughtful post, Dan.
there is never an excuse for domestic violence. ever.
no, there’s never any justification. ever.
this is a stupid question.
Hahahahahahaha…….domestic violence is an easy joke.
I always have it coming.
The difference between Rhianna and I though is I know how to fight back.
Blame the victim mentality really ticks me off. Whatever may have led up to it, no one deserves to be beaten up. It’s ridiculous to say that someone ‘made you’ do anything. We always choose our own actions.
@PenaltyLife - no, there’s never any justification. ever.
What if the woman has a loaded gun?
@WakeUpLaughing - Blame the victim mentality really ticks me off.
But we don’t have the full story, do we? In the absence of absolute certaintiy, it doesn’t seem out of the question to speculate.
Domestic violence is never justified, however,I’m sure there are times when women need to be put in their place - but there are other ways to do that then violence.
omg that actually happened ??
Have heard this question over and over on the radio. It’s a good way to stir the pot, certainly. And you’re going to get people who think she deserved it. I wonder how many people are going to respond in that way, since the internet is a little less anonymous than calling into a radio station…
No one ever deserves to be hit…in normal situations…if she was threatening his life, then maybe there’s justification…but that’s not the case…at least to the media’s knowledge…
Well, I don’t think that you should ever intentionally harm a person unless you have to defend yourself or someone else..
However, we all have a breaking point. Some people just push around others, and make them miserable until they snap. Obviously, you should still not be violent with these people, but sometimes they are partly to blame for what happened to them.
If I was her I’d buy someone to beat him up because if someone deserves to be hit then it’s that guy.
@nattata - Everyone who has seen the picture must be feeling this to some degree.
Chris Brown is fucked. The only question now is what kills him first: Public backlash or criminal prosecution.
Violence against another human for any purpose other than self-defense is unacceptable. There’s nothing she could have said or done, short of place him in a situation where he had to hurt her to defend himself, that would make that deserved. If he had been defending himself, he would probably also have some serious injuries visible
No woman deserves to be beaten by a man who professes to love her. But sometimes, women in an abusive relationship can feel the tension building and know it’s only a matter of time before he snaps and the violence starts again. And sometimes they can’t stand waiting for it to play out to his agenda and do something to make him snap and get it over with. Does this mean they deserve the beating? No! It may have been only a sigh, a dropped fork, turning her back when he was talking – knowing it was coming anyway and choosing her own time for it. I have no idea what precipitated the attack on Rihanna, but unless she was attacking him with a deadly weapon I see no excuse for it.
@ImaPINKGirlx - Ha, I think Dan was joking.
But someone outta smack you bit! ;D
@huginn - You know, it could help his career.
@hellaz - Sure, if he branch out into S&M.
You’re so drama-prone these days!
My complaint is, any white celebrity who beat his girlfriend would be charged with a misdemeanor felony and fined. Chris Brown is black, he hits his girlfriend, and he will be tried for attempted murder. WTF?!?
Who the hail is Rihanna?
One of the things most sure to provoke my anger is a man trying to harm a woman. I can even think of a recent instance where the intended harm was only emotional, and that made similarly angry. What’s happened to chivalry? What’s happened to the male protective instinct?
there is never an excuse to beat up on somebody. even if they hit you first. if someone punches you once, you have a right to punch them back once – not kick the crap out of them.
@randomneuralfirings - What’s happened to chivalry? What’s happened to the male protective instinct?
Feminism happened.
@huginn - then it’s not the same situation as just normal domestic violence, it’s self defense. in that case, yes, it’s okay to hit your girlfriend. though i’d advise against it because then she’d be even more mad and be more likely to shoot you in the face.
If no one wants to see a reason for someone to do it then no one will but there obviously are reasons that exist where it is warranted and would totally get agreement from everyone present if they heard the circumstances or scenarios.
@huginn - no, we don’t have the whole story. But even to speculate about blaming the victim to me is wrong…if the woman hadn’t flirted, she wouldn’t have been raped, if she hadn’t made the guy mad, he wouldn’t have hit her. It’s bull. Unless she was physically attacking him, there is no reason for him to hurt her. Even then, he doesn’t have to beat her up. My brother was physically abused by his ex. She would come after him with knives and things to hit him with because of her own inner rage and mental issues. He never laid a hand on her except to restrain her until she would calm down. You may say that he had justification to hurt her, but he made the choice not to.
No, some women don’t deserve to be hit. But a woman should never provoke a man to hit her. The court of public opinion is heavily against Chris Brown right now, but the court of public opinion constantly changes.
there’s no excuse to hit her, but i did read in star magazine that apparently she kept trying to take his cell phone from him because some young model texted him and she wanted to see…
SOMETIMES YOU JUST GOTTA CHOKE A BITCH OK?
@PenaltyLife - The definition of domestic violence captures all instances of “violence or abuse against an individual livingin one’s household.” link
There’s nothing in the definition that necessarily excludes instances of self defense.
no one has the right to be hit, beaten. no matter if she edged him on. no matter if she hit him first. this isn’t a silly question as some have said. your question is totally ignorant.
@cheesebadger - Sometimes? Well as long as its sometimes…. by all means please demonstrate and get arrested.
I don’t think anyone ever deserves to be hit. There are other eats to handle your angry towards someone.
Xo
They are most probably haters. This kids should grow up. Look, maybe Rihanna did do something to provoke it, but should Chris actually land his hand to her face and actually injure her? I believe a real gentleman would not bring a fist to a woman he loves.
There are rumors that Leona Lewis might be related to their fight but she denies it. Anyways, we’ll see how it goes when Chris face the court in March.
you plugged yourself? seriously? god, of all the people who would never EVER need to plug!
for shame.
and to answer the question, no, i don’t think anyone can ever have physical abuse “coming”. i mean, let me put it this way: if someone abuses their SO and you know that the abuser was provoked, you can make them look less crazy. however, this does NOT make it okay. ever.
@Baroness_Fritinanci - ”no one has the right to be hit, beaten. no matter if she edged him on. no matter if she hit him first…”
In other words.
Woman: Holy cow.
Man: Punching bag.
Once again I will attempt to fascinate your readers by answering a concise post with long, boring comment.
Who knows what really happened between those two? They were alone in the dead of night and by all accounts they seemed fine merely moments before. I guess everybody agrees and he at least tacitly admits he hit her.
It was late, they are young and strangers still to each other, there was alcohol and lots of loose morals at those parties. Some have questioned if that really is a photo of Rhianna – maybe it is, but I certainly can’t be certain. Whoever it is took a beating, though.
Let me bore you some more.
Nobody “deserves” to be hit. There are degrees of violence though. Do people “deserve” to be insulted? Do people “deserve” to be betrayed? Sometimes gloves come off without physical offense and the other side, bewildered, frightened without recourse, strikes back the way an animal might when cornered and injured. It ain’t right, but it ain’t black and white, either.
Perhaps a definition of violence is in order. In a strict sense, “violence” is a neutral term used to describe all manner of phenomena, animal, vegetable or mineral. But in human society and a discussion of violence I think it will be helpful to separate offense from defense. I suggest that violence is offense, or offensive; it arises unbidden, unneccessary, out of anger, fear or sheer malice and lack of compassion or empathy – perpetrated against the unwilling. Violence is always wrong. I believe violence is really the big problem that humans are struggling with all the way around. Self defense is what we do in response to violence – it resembles that same action it resists, but it is not violence.
she didnt deserve anything, hitting anyone is not okay. unless its self defence, of corse.
@hellaz - What the hell does your comment mean?
@huginn - As much as I hate you (remember me? Evolutionary_21?), you hit the nail on the head.
Anyway, hell no, Rihanna didn’t deserve to get hit. What the hell gave Chris Brown the right to beat her? Did he get mad because she’s hot and had as many Grammy nominations as he did? Did he get jealous of her? It makes no sense.
No one deserves that…
The fact that some people think she had it coming is indicative of societal problems on so many levels…
@revolveloverocknroll22 - =P
Hi! ^_^
what happend
@revolveloverocknroll22 - I was being sarcastic.
@StandUp2Life - Put in their place? You have to be kidding me? Where is a woman’s place? Taking shit from a man? Being his compliant doormat? No thanks.
As for causing someone to “snap” then that person should have left the relationship long ago. Why would you stay with someone that makes you so mad you want to hit them? And why if you are the one being hit, do you stay? Don’t walk people run!
No
No woman deserves to be hit! If the guy has a problem with her…then all they need to do is leave.
no one really knows what went down but them two, maybe their close family/relatives, and possible witnesses of the incident when it happened. so why don’t we all stop judging them and finding who we should put the blame on and just agree that violence is never the answer to solving anything; people just end up getting hurt.
No women have it coming. Ever.
hitting iz not ok unless yer being attakd if she wuz komin @him witha knife alryte letz fight but if yer just pissd off you need to leev the room b4 you hit sumone
hal0=]
who are y0u..?..’?????
my english is very bad-____-!!!s0rry..T^T
@indigolady - No, not being a complient doormat, but women (and men too) can get a little carried away sometimes. I’m not saying a woman has to be subserviant to a man - there has to be a mutual respect. When that mutual respect is lost…something needs to be done. Not violence though. Maybe “put in their place” wasn’t the right wordage, and I only said women, because that what the question was…it works the same for men respecting women, obviously.
sometimes, if a woman does something that would force you to hit a man, shes playing with fire.
No.
No matter what she may have done, I don’t think she deserved to be hit.
I heard that she hit him first.
Almost as much as he deserves the ass beating he will eventually get for being the pussy who did that to her…
No. Some people might be annoying or stupid, but no one deserves to be hit.
@huginn - hehe huginn <3
@StandUp2Life - Okay, your off the hook!
There’s nothing that justifies physical violence towards anyone unless that person is self defending. In this case, no.
If anything, violence is a big part of their life so Chris Brown might go up in sales.
i mean, even if you’ve got a really bad attitude or have a talent for pushing someone’s buttons, that’s no justification…
yea. those type of women have it coming. i mean, i have it coming too, but i know how to fight back. rihanna should stop acting all helpless and learn to lift some weights. maybe than she wouldn’t be sacked around so much.
Ok, ok. So, initially, I was thinking, we as woman can do some crazy stuff, that can warrant us being shaken up a bit. I thought that that was the situation here, they got in a little tussle, no big deal. THEN, I saw that picture. There is NOTHING that warrant a man beating up a woman like that. I can even let a little slap across the face slide in rare situations, but nothing that would leave bruises like that.
Blah.blah.blah. poor Rihanna. and I’m really tired of hearing about all of this. Everyone is being one sided. Yeah Chris didn’t have the right to put his hands on her. but sources say that they had an abusive relationship, where Rihanna would be beating on him. I think if I was a guy, after a while I would smack the bitch.
And TMZ leaked that picture, and won’t tell anyone where they got it, personally I think it’s photoshopped, I do all kind of digital altering on my computer. CNN showed what she would look like if all the allergations were true, and they kind of looked simular. I’m just saying….
There IS more to this story. I feel that Rihanna is trying to tarnish his career, and I’ve been saying this from the get go. Well whatever. I just had to get that off my chest, and I might be back to say something else. lmao
nope. you don’t resort to violence for anyone whom had provoked you
@hellaz - I know he was, he does a lot of entries like this (sarcasm over the internet doesn’t portray well on his page).
Bitch, please, ain’t no one gunna try to hit me.
Well, except my dad. But he doesn’t count. haha.
Do some MEN “sort of have it coming?” The question you ask is inherently sexist, and suggests that a rational discussion can occur as to whether violence against women is ok. And it can’t.
Sure, I’m guessing some people would answer yes to their question, and I’m pretty sure they will spend a significant portion of their lives in prison if they act out on their sick beliefs.
sure the women play a part, even trigger it. but violence is STILL no excuse.
Even if she did do something to provoke the attack, domestic violence is never okay. Those teens are… I don’t know, ignorant?
Yes. She does have that aura about her.
@WakeUpLaughing - i agree.
some women do have it coming but that doesnt mean u should resort to violence
No matter how much someone “deserves” being beat up, it’s never ok. Ever. Unless it’s self defense, of course.
No.
Hey the way I see it NO ONE deserves to be hit. Now if she went bonkers and started beating him up, I would have advised him to get the HELL OUTTA DODGE!
But I don’t think it happened that way, and he’s a sick fuck for laying his hands on her.
BTW, no man should ever lay a hand on a lady.
@hellaz - bahah
Timestamping a post that already has 75+ comments is just rude
It doesnt matter what happend. Physical violence is never right.
No.
And so much for Chris Brown being the good kid, right?
WHAT the fuck those kids are immature really you ask the advice of uneducated highschoolers and plus girls said that they would hit her, you dont know the full story what if they dont like that artist that exists, you know. I bet if it was ooo miley cyrus OMG bleh. LAME p.s. ladies I saw some of your comments that cowardly said, well she is black That is ilogical in so many ways ok? No human being deserves to be maltreated and abused, that is wrong, and I dont know why you guys see justification in this, the reasons are probably rumors because only Rhianna and that coward knew what happen! and when someone got hit like that in the public eye, you know what most likely that has happened many times before.
To those that agree that domestic violence is fine… “-_-”
I am not saying that she deserved her beating but I do get sick of women who freaking cause trouble, reap the consequences, and the suddenly even though they were the one provoking it all, they are the victim. It’s pure sexual bias in the system and it’s stupid. It’s all equality talk until they NEED to be treated like a woman. Utter BS. It no excuse for what Chris Brown did of course, but we don’t know what SHE did.
No matter what, a man should be able to just walk away, even if he is being treated poorly. NEVER should a man hit a woman for any reason!
@the_real_anna - But it’s ok for a lady to lay her hands on a man?
it is NEVER right to lay your hands on someone. I can’t believe those kids. Especially teenage girls.
No matter how provoking she is he has no right to lose his temper and do such thing.
I wouldn’t say anyone “has it coming”. Either gender.
lol… while many people “have it coming”, it shouldn’t “come” in the form of domestic abuse because then the abuser also “has it coming”
and then we get into the concept of karma.
According to an article I read, Rihanna perpetually hit and accused him of things… and I guess his anger built up. I’m not saying what he did is justified but you have to admit that women get away with a lot just because we’re women. No one bothered to question him and hear his side of the story… I mean, that is what an investigation is about.
I am a woman and even I have met a few women who are so over the top crazy/bitchy that punching them is tempting. But I don’t punch them because I believe it is never OK to beat someone like that. I think the best option is to walk away. It is not OK for him to beat her like that even if she started it, or cheated on him, or even if she hit him first he should have just walked away…….~Echo
I don’t know the details but the battering must stop. Both need counseling.
Well, I realize the title of your post was really just to grab our attention (unless you do indeed believe that Rihanna deserved to be attacked..?
) but I’ll go ahead and state the obvious.
No way.
Domestic abusers < Dirt.
personally i dont think hitting someone for any reason is ok but ! if what the rumors say is true about him hitting her b.c she has herpes and gave it to him … HELL yeah id fuck that person up. it would make me extremly angry and fuck my who life up but then again if i loved that person then id cry in pain and hurt … but yes hitting any person is wrong but hiding shit like that is worst than just a hit
I’m a pretty progressive woman, but let’s face it- when a dude hits a chick, it’s not okay. If she slaps him for being fresh, it’s fine. That’s society’s double standard. Of course she didn’t deserve it. And girl or guy who thinks she did is obviously living in a dangerous state-of-mind.
Oh, and the title of the post wasn’t originally his- google it. There’s a number of news articles out stating the consensus of the young population as “yes, she deserved it.”
Is this a serious question? -_-
You are kidding, right? This wasn’t a slap across the face. This was a beating. A beating. There is no justification for the bruises on her face. And Chris Brown isn’t denying anything. He isn’t apologizing either. And going to Mama’s and Granny’s house to confer with family isn’t getting help.
No, there’s never an excuse for violence, especially within a love relationship.
“Do some women sort of have it coming?” This “sort of” makes me sick. I hope you just asked that to be the devil’s advocate and provide discussion material.
Chris Brown may have talent up the wazoo, and Rihanna may have gang-banged the Barbados bobseld team, but you just don’t hit a woman. Or put bite marks on her arm. Or choke her. Serrrrriously man.
Women are weaker physically, period.
You can’t be considered a man if you hit women, simply because it’s too goddamn easy to pummel us. It isn’t a fair fight.
Wrestle a tiger or something if you’re trying to flex nuts.
@StandUp2Life - Heh. I hope you’re kidding.
@countryangel926 - Haha, it’s Dan. What do you think? =P
@proverbs163_03 - While I agree that it’s really easy for women to take advantage of the system, no one asks to be beaten. If a woman beat up a man this way, I would say the same thing, even if he was “asking for it”. Unless the victim started the physical fight, there is no reason what-so-ever that a person should be blamed for getting beaten up.
It is never a good idea to beat up your girlfriend/wife. If you can’t deal with the situation with using your words then you should not be in a relationship.
@AibellFaeire - I had to clairify for someone else, and I realized what I wrote coule have been taken the wrong way. Here’s what I wrote to them, to clear things up:
Women (and men too) can get a little carried away sometimes. I’m not saying a woman has to be subserviant to a man - there has to be a mutual respect. When that mutual respect is lost…something needs to be done. Not with violence though. Maybe “put in their place” wasn’t the right wordage, and I only said women, because that what the question was…it works the same for men respecting women, obviously.
abuse is abuse. people don’t go around asking for it. plus the keyword in this post is teens; you have to think about their level of cognitive ability to think about this. what they think and what an adult thinks is going to be different.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with a man trying to stop another man or woman from beating/hitting/shooting/stabbing/choking him. Holding their wrists, attempt to disarm, etc. But it is never OK for one human being to beat/hit/slap/shoot/stab another human being even to “protect yourself”.
I suppose there are scenarios where the use of force, even deadly force is appropriate (police, soldier, etc.), but a male beating/hitting/etc. a female? Never. Ever. OK. Ridiculous. You are not a man if you do that, and you should be locked up with other abusive males.
@proverbs163_03 - Did I say DV was ok and fine for one and not the other? No…..
A man should not hit a woman. There are other ways a man can be a man about a situation. Like LEAVE AND RUN THE HELL AWAY. Same can go for a woman too.
So you are saying it’s fine for men to hit woman?
@the_real_anna - If she is threatening my life? Yes, a girl or guy pulls a gun or knife on me and I have done nothing wrong, I’ll do whatever it takes to end the threat to me. I’m not running away.
I would say there is never any justification for a man to hit a woman, but that’s total BS and sexist.
I say, if they gave you a black eye, you have the right to give them two black eyes.
@proverbs163_03 - But if you had the chance WOULD you?
i think that its not ok my fiance says it depends
@maebemaebenot - Trigger it? Are you kidding?????
Just because she DESERVES** it doesnt make it RIGHT* to hit her
ITS NEVER RIGHT* to hit someone no matter how much* they deserve it
No one ever deserves to be abused. That’s like saying women (or men) deserve to be raped, murdered, etc.
@the_real_anna - Only if she was threatening my life. How about you?
no.
well at least Chris admitted it.
No.
no.
She prob did.
No, violence is not OK. Even 5 year olds show know not to hit each other, and especially not to hit girls, unless self defense is needed (ie, running away didn’t work).
I actually don’t rule that out as a possibility. Not likely, but it could’ve been the issue. Funny I just wrote about this.
@StandUp2Life - Haha, I assumed it was something like that. Thanks for clarifying. That I can definitely respect.
You’ve GOT to be kidding! Sure, blame the victim, that’s an intelligent attitude. Immature to say the very least.
@proverbs163_03 - Well since I’m a girl I’d say it would be a fair fight. EXP if she was threatening my life. It was a big tough guy, I might be screwed, I’ll take my chances and run and hide if I could.
If I were a big strong guy, and the GIRL was threatening my life. I would try to hold her down, knock the gun away, take stab from her, and run like mad. No use killing her when I have more chance at survival, than me breaking her neck, and getting it for murder. HELLO!
No.
No woman deserves to be beatened and abused. :
Hahahaaha
About that particular situation, I don’t know what was going on. I don’t know if it was self-defense or whatnot. So I’m going to leave that alone.
As for your question, NO ONE deserves to be abused. Ever. Guy or girl. I’ve been cheated on in the past and I’d have loved to beat the shit out of the guy and strangled the girl. But I didn’t. Because it’s wrong. It’s best to just walk away. They made their choices, however hurtful. And you can be the bigger person and make the right choice by walking away instead of getting physically violent about it.
I find it interesting how many guys are jumping on the “never hit a woman” bandwagon and judging Chris Brown.We’ve all had a moment where we wanted to slap our SO for doing or saying something stupid. Anger and frustration are real human emotions. The difference between the average guy and men like Chris? Restraint.
Hop down off your high horses guys, because a split second of decision-making makes all the difference. That said, I’m no longer a fan of his, because he’s no different that those saggy pants-wearing, mush mouth scum that I can’t stand to listen to anyway.
I just posted a pulse about this and saw the pictures on TMZ last night.
No matter what someone does, no one deserves to be beat up like that, man or woman. If you think she deserved it, ask yourself: what would you do if your mother or sister came home like that? Would you tell her she must have had it coming?
As for some saying it may have been self defense: c’mon, are you kidding me? Do you know how much stronger and bigger than Rihanna he is? She’s a toothpick compared to him. Plus, she has multiple bruises and cuts on her face. That didn’t come from just one blow, that came from repeated beating. And, the fact that he left her unconscious and just ran off makes me have absolutely no pity for him at all. That’s just inhuman. You wouldn’t even do that to a stranger, so, how could you do that to someone you’ve dated and supposedly care about? Things like this happen every day; I guess it’s a real eye-opener when it happens to celebrities, because it lets us know that despite their fame and fortune, they’re not so different from the rest of us, after all.
no
yeah but she deserve ANY OF THAT? oh please.
Some women sort of do seem to…er…provoke that response…
I would say that some people have it coming.
never.
There is no excuse that would make what happened to her okay or right.
I have heard several people say they think she deserved it or what not. I don’t understand how anyone could think that.
That’s why teens aren’t allowed to vote, they are idiots.
No one should be hit in any circumstance unless it is self-defense.
Rihanna is famous. Think about all of the women whose names we do not know who are getting smacked around at this very moment.
No one deserves to be domestically abused. A woman [or man] may be out of control, a total bitch/asshole or whatever other horrible quailty you can think of but that still doesn’t mean that anyone has the right to abuse them…
@huginn - What if the woman has a loaded gun?
If someone had a loaded gun I wouldnt punch/hit them in the face multiple times…It wouldn’t accomplish anything and they would still have the gun [and probably shoot you for beating their face]…Wouldn’t you instead be trying to get the gun away from them so they cant shoot you?
My goodness. I don’t know where to begin because this is so wrong! EVEN IF Rihanna did provoke Chris Brown, he should’ve been man enough to hold back and refrain from causing any violence. Can you look at those bruises and release Chris Brown from the blame? Nothing can justify violence. I know Chris Brown has a hell of a fan base, but each of his fans needs to realize that he’s done something very wrong. No excuses.
He had it comin’.
He had it comin’.
He had it comin’ all along.
If you’da been there.
If you’da seen it.
I betcha you would have done the same.
There’s instigating and then flat out no control. Maybe she could have said something to ‘pick for it’ but in no way did she or anyone for that matter deserve a beating like that. If it would have happened to him, I would feel the same way about the situation. A person needs to know self control and how to use it, obviously Chris Brown is not man enough to walk away.
Chris Browne punched Rihanna for giving him herpes
all i know is rihanna looks fucked up in that picture. I’ve heard that he said he was gonna kill her. Cmon now. If this situation was the other way around, hell yeah rihanna should be slapped with domestic violence. Since this is a typical female getting beat by a male… then yes, I believe Chris Brown should be punished. In this society, any type of violence should not be tolerated. It doesn’t matter whether Rihanna provoked him (i heard she threw his keys out on the street). It’s not about feminism, or women banning together. Its about standing up against violence! Calm the fuck down! People shouldn’t have the right to hit anyone unless its self defense. People needa just take control of their anger. Now since this is a public situation and everyone knows about it, I think we have to use Chris Brown as a scapegoat to let everyone else know it’s not okay to beat your significant other to a pulp especially younger kids. I’ve known so many girls who were in violent relationships and guys too. The worse part about it is that they justify it. How do you justify that picture of Rihanna. It looks like he hit her a couple times…not just once and then took it back… he went ape shit on her.
Even if she did start it, that’s no reason for him to hit her. If she started it, he should have been the bigger person and just walked away.
Nobody deserves to be beaten.
Most of the kids that said that are more than likely Rihanna haters though.
And I am sorta okay with the occasional swat at the head, but judging by that picture … Chris really punched the shit outta her. No one deserves that. Man or woman.
@theslayer1992 - Saw that movie last night. It. was. awesome.
‘If you’dda been there
If you’d have seen it
How could you tell me that I was wrong.”
She did not deserve to be beaten up.
under no circumstances should a guy hit a girl. ever
Hell yea, I bet she was probably being a bitch.
I think that there is a point where someone is provoked enough that they can’t take it anymore whether that person be a woman or a male.
Now this doesn’t mean that violence is ever the answer. Violence is never the answer.
However, I can’t say that it’s all Chris Brown’s fault without listening to why he did what he did.
It takes two to tango.
Absolutely not. Never, ever.
I don’t think he did it.
And if he did, he’s stupid.
According to sxephil, he may have just been sick of the “umbrella-ella-ella-ay-ay-ay” song.
but abuse is abuse. it could go both ways. unless anyone can prove rihanna beat up chris brown as well, she’s going to get all the sympathy and his career is going to take a beating as well.
I think what happened to Rhianna was awful and what Chris did was terrible and unjustified.
But I want to know if she did something or maybe Chris got angry at her for a reason that seemed unlikely like if they fought over a item/problem/whatever.
No one deserves to be hit?
I can think of about 100 people I see daily that deserve a backhand.
I am not condoning it but it’s not like you haven’t wanted to kick someones butt every once in awhile…
Chris Brown just had the balls to actually do it.
There is no room in a romantic relationship for violence like that.
A lot of people are saying that the only excuse for violence is self defense. Either I have anger issues or the internet world is full of pussy’s. There are things people will not say or do to me without getting a closer view of my knuckles.
I used the word people to include both sex’s because I am a feminist and it would be discrimination to treat women differently than men.
The whole situation is completely messed up. Methinks some of Rihanna’s homeboys and girls should gang up on him and teach him a lesson.
even if rihanna did provoke chris, why would it be rihanna’s fault?
if a xanga reader was provoked by a xanga author’s post, would it be okay for the xanga reader to beat up the author?
take the high road, control your emotions.
Definitely not, even if she did provoke something, that still gives a man NO RIGHT to hit a woman.
@staceinyrface - haha, a backhand, I know about a 100 myself deserving of one.
I don’t think “nobody deserves to be hit” is really a valid response to this issue, because people are hit all the time. When we see 2 guys brawl in UFC, it’s ok. When a girl slaps her boyfriend in rage, it’s a little unnerving, but still acceptable. If a guy hits a girl? WIFE BEATER. People should stop drawing conclusions without any facts.
I wonder if the ones in the article would feel any different if they were the ones being hit. -.- Would they think they ‘deserved it’ ?
**While young fans have plastered Rihanna’s myspace page with notes of support, many comments on Brown’s page express delight at the possibility that he battered a woman.**
**There was a girl at school this week with a scratch on her eye,” Jackson said. “She was talking openly about her boyfriend hitting her, but she was smiling and saying it was funny.**
I can see where some girls (and male people) may have grown up in some poisoned family/household–and think this is okay–but it’s a sick attitude to have.
No matter what; violence is NEVER the answer. I’d say the same thing if it had been Rihanna beating up Chris Brown.
I don’t care if she’s the biggest bitch in the world, I doubt she deserved what happened to her. To put it simply, unless it is self defense, you shouldn’t hit anybody. Call me sexist, but I don’t think a man should ever hit a woman.
Listen folks, the trade off is this: We can’t hit women, but they can hit us.
However, we can fuck as many women as we want, and can be players, the man, a total baller, etc buf if you do the same and have a vagina, you’re a slutty slutty slut slut slut whore slut. So it’s fair.
I don’t think anyone has the right to lay a hand on another person but i can understand why people say that she deserves it. No one beats the shit out of you like that because they feel like it there has to be something behind, that’s what many teens think. After the picture and everything i think that Chris Brown needs to serve some jail time i don’t care if the public stones him but i want to see for once the legal system work
You get what u deserve, If u live in a glass house dont throw stones……..
Domestic violence doesn’t get you anywhere.
No. The thought is abominable.
The thought of anyone thinking it’s okay and a normal part of a relationship is disturbing enough to make me naseous. What’s next? We go back to cartoon caveman days and start clubbing prospective mates and dragging them back to our caves?
If she was acting like those black women on maury, you know… “YOU DON’T KNOW ME, SHUT THE FUCK UP!” kind of girls, then yes, she had it coming.
That’s still no excuse, unless she provoked him by hitting him (in the face) first.
I hate the fact that some women will start shit with men, even hit them, just because they know (or think) that men can’t hit them back.
Seriously, if I was a man and a woman hit me (and I mean actually punched me in the face and we weren’t joking around or anything) just because she thought she could get away with it… I’d hit her right back.
@cheesebadger - “Slutty slutty slut slut slut whore slut.” ROFL! Seriously, that made my night.
no, i don’t think that some women “have it coming.”
unless the woman is physically threatening the man’s wellbeing, i don’t think that there should be a need to resort to violence.
there is such a thing as walking away / leaving the situation.
each gender should have the decency not to hit ( or assault in any fashion ) another person, unless they’re acting in self-defense.
@cheesebadger - that provided me with my “lol” moment of the morning.
Are you still living in the stone age ???
To answer the actual question without going off track, yes I do.
Some women don’t feel like you love them unless you smack them around a little. To the point where they have visible contusions on their forehead, probably not so much.
@figachewy - look at the picture again. I have hit and been hit by boyfriends and my father and to be honest no one has ever left me looking like that (maybe my eye) nor have I left anyone looking like that. I have been strangled, punched in the face, kicked, been lifted up in the air while being stragled and been thrown stuff at me, etc. Never been left looking like that, so think about it. From a girl who’s been there, he really must have gone crazy on her.
Doubtful.
I don’t know this Brown character from anyone. However, has anyone ever listened to the music these guys put out? It advocates violence in many cases. Should we expect them to do any less in reality?
some women think that because they’re women, they can get away with anything. my sister in law, sitting behind my brother (her husband), in the car, got mad at him and began to curse at him, popping him in the back of his head, while he was driving. he didn’t even do anything back to her and still she went on. as soon as he reached his breaking point, the first thing she did was dare him to hit her. i’ve seen this too many times before. i dont know what it means, but it happens.
I find it hard to believe this was the first time she was abused. No one deserves to be hit, no matter what their gender, but to answer your question, no, she didn’t deserve it.
@hellaz - Actually she is Barbadian and serves as a cultural ambassador for Barbados.
Regardless of what she may or may not have done physical violence is wrong. That article just shows how people are becoming more dehumanized towards violence. Doesn’t anyone have compassion anymore?
@harryswifie - Well, if you look at human history, we’ve done a lot worse. To suggest that our generation is somehow desensitized to violence is inaccurate.
A more valid question might be:
Does ANYONE ever have it coming?
If so, are women exempt?
even if a woman had it coming.. NO MAN should give it to her!
No. No one deserves to be hit or hurt. No one.
@Xperfect_decisionX - Oh ugh… that’s not cool at all. I guess she just wants to see him react. Some people get a thrill out of arguing. *shrugs* ):
Except in an absolutely necessary case of defending onself or others from a potentially deadly attack, there is no excuse for a man to physically assault a woman or child. To do so is a denial of our very purpose on Earth… which is to protect and provide for those who insure the future.
I don’t think what chris brown did was legit. for whatever reason.
but i seriously do. not. like. rihanna.
I could care less of what happened to her.
and i think people are making this way out of proportion just because it was a man hitting a woman.
i know it’s never okay, but since it’s “celebs” it’s even more “taboo” or “unforgivable”.
it’s not like this doesn’t happen every single day. because it does happen.
Hell. What if it was some woman who beat on Rihanna? then what?
Would it still be this “hot” of a topic that a woman beat on another woman? I think not.
I am a feminist in many ways.
And I do not support chris brown’s action toward Rihanna (although i do hate her music).
Somehow, this totally erased the whole “michael phelps smoking from a bong!” situation.
=P
I’m just getting annoyed of how this is getting so much attention.
I mean, sure, mention it once, but more??
We don’t know who these people are in real life, besides their songs/fame.
So I wouldn’t judge or assume anything until both sides are represented.
I don’t think women have it “coming”. I just think people in general need to control their anger.
Do I think some women deserve to be hit? Sure, just like I think some men deserve it to. However, do I think that we should hit? No way. I like grace, and am very thankful to not always get what I deserve. Lots of people deserve lots of mean things in my honest opinion.. but, that doesn’t men that we, as other human beings/people, should be the ones to raise a hand against them, especially over such silly things as people are beat for in this day and age.
People need to learn to control themselves. It makes you less of a human if you give into that “primal urge” to hit and just what it says.. it makes you more of an animal. So, don’t be an animal.. Prove your humanity and get a hold of yourself. It’s possible. In a situation where said person deserves it, the person who isn’t the said person should most likely just leave the person instead of hitting. It just would make more sense and leave only one “guilty party” instead of two. You know?
Anywho. *goes to read the link posted*
<3, ~*Akarui Mitsukai*~
No woman “has it coming”. That’s just stupid.
No woman, man, or child “sort of have it coming”. It isn’t just men against women, it’s also women against men, children against men and women, and men and women against childern. It goes every which way. Yes you hear more towards women and children then men being abused. Maybe that’s because the men are embarrassed or as my son said, “afraid of their pride being wounded”…just as in rape…it’s not always men raping women but women raping men and as my son also pointed out men raping men.
Perhaps they deserved each other?
whoow….
Some women DO have it coming but eh, it should never get violent. What goes around, comes around! KARMA!!
Rhianna is hot and Chris Brown is NOT!. Who the F*@#K is Chris Brown anyway?
@hellaz -It’s not just your “generation”. It’s all age groups I’m referring too,even though the article was surveying teens. I think it’s sad that some people can’t practice more tolerance and compassion today.
I don’t condone violence for either sex. It’s just as wrong for a woman to hit a man as it is a man to hit a woman. Unfortunately anger makes people do stupid things. Hopefully Chris Brown will learn from his mistakes.
what a pathetic question sir. domestic violence is NEVER OK – provoked or unprovoked, a man should never lay his hands on a woman.
Provoke? That’s not enough reason to beat up someone to that extend.
@harryswifie - We are more compassionate and openminded than ever before. We were far more intolerant and closeminded in the 1950s than we are now. You must be joking.
Are you serious? Do you really think there are exceptions to domestic violence?
No matter what someone does to provoke someone else, there is no excuse. Period. Violence does not solve anything.
She might have provoked frustration (I’m not entirely sure what the whole situation surrounding the abuse is, looking into it right now), but in no way did she “deserve” to be beaten.
There is ALWAYS another way to deal with your anger, Mr. Brown.
Domestic violence is NEVER ok. My best friend has gotten beat up by her man a few times, whom she always leaves and eventually comes back to. She is strong willed, states her opinion and can be very argumentative. However, just because she will call his bluff doesn’t mean that he has the right to put his hands on her. Check out the blog I wrote about this matter at livejournal http://pinktinkandra.livejournal.com/ I don’t care if Rihanna looked at him and told him to punch her in the face. He STILL didn’t have that right.
Never!!
Hitting is never the answer. Words can be abusive too, but it’s always better to talk it out. First time he hits you, he’s out.
Well,the dispute in my school was, “if that b**ch gave me herpes,I’d slap her ass,too.”
I don’t think that means she has it coming. I think it depends on what she did exactly to provoke him, and how hard he hit her. Rihanna looks like she was being brutally beaten, not getting her just desserts, or whatever.
It’s not right for EITHER sex to be using abuse for anything.
No. Same for men.
That depends. Some could deserve it. Ever see a woman hit somebody first? That is assault, though not usually damaging to the victim. Self defense is legal and some women just deserve a crack in the jaw. Of course some people of both genders do. The rule of the old west was NOT don’t hit a woman but rather don’t hit a lady. A lady would not assault some one first but some women might.
As a family counselor with a PHD in the field, these days I see just as many anger management problems with women as with men. Many women abuse and hide behind the weak and wounded female facade. Many women in criminal activity blame men after gettin arrested when in fact the woman, in many instances, initiates the criminal activity. Yet the judicial system still punishes men harder and that is somehow supposed to be equal.
So, some women deserve a good hard crack to the jaw. Men will still pay for it even when in the right and I’m sure that opinion will piss off the famanazis in the crowd who can just run into my fist a few times before we talk and get it out of the way. Their anger stirs mine. They undermind every hard working woman out there who needs help. Femenazis are just male haters with no real agenda other then hurting men. They should be steralized for the betterment of all MANkind.
Well, from my observations, women scream and claw for full on 100% “equality” both in the workplace and outside it. But most of the time this is not the case. Now, I don’t know if this chick came at him or tried to deck him prior to getting the shit knocked out of her. What I’m getting at is, I’m tired of women saying they’re my equal and this and that, but when they want to get violent and crazy, I’m just supposed to get wailed on? F*ck that. You want to swing at a man like you’re a man, you can get decked like a man. There’s your equality. But you don’t really want *true* equality do you? You want equality *UNTIL IT STOPS BENEFITING YOU* and that’s what’s disgusting and breeds a lack of respect. Something to think about.
Those teenagers are idiots…
No woman (or man for that matter) “asks for” rape or domestic violence. That’s stupid. It is the person’s choice to hit the other person, regardless of the preceeding events.
I have an exboyfriend who began to be violent with me…I never did anything to him, he just had really bad anger management.