February 23, 2009
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Would You Marry Someone Who was Dying?
Jade Goody is a famous British reality TV star who is dying of cancer. She has video cameras following her around and she is allowing them to video her dying moments.
She has become famous for being on the show “Big Brother.” She got married on Sunday even though she is dying. Here is the link: Link
Could you marry someone that was in the process of dying?
Comments (160)
the idea’s sweet, but no, probably not. i probably wouldn’t be able to handle it.
though, on a completely unrelated note, i think it’s a little sick that celebrities let people film them DYING. i mean, c’mon.
If I loved him and I wasn’t already married, yes. Didn’t you watch Forrest Gump? You have to have a heart of stone to not cry when he finally marries his Jenny.
Yes, of course. If I loved them.
I wouldn’t marry someone who was about to die for their money or anything, that’s weird.
I could, but I’d have to come to terms with my lover dying before saying I do.
I think I could.
It’s a bit A Walk to Remember isn’t it?
@shinymeshapples - Technically were all in the process of dying its just some are going a bit faster than others…
If I was in love with him… I don’t think I could justify refusing to marry him for that reason. He would be as deserving of happiness as anyone else.
Yes.
Because, technically, we’re all dying, we just get to stick around a while.
@theslayer1992 - I effing love that movie.
Depends.
Does she have money?
Yes
Only if he is rich.
If I loved her and she’d have me, then yes, I would marry her. That applies whether she’s soon dying or not.
Yes, I would marry someone who was dying, if I really loved that person. But… the heartache of having to go it alone after that person has died… unbearable. But I would, yes.
Yes,I would.
I mean, the way I see it, if you’re marrying for love, you’ll be just as heartbroken when that person dies, so why not go ahead and get married?
Even though this entire thing contradicts my feelings toward marriage, but that isn’t the point.
Yes, I could.
@huginn - lots; for doing comparatively little.
Yes. Aren’t we all in the process of dying?
Sure. It’s not as big of a deal as marrying someone who may die *after* you. Now that is a commitment!
Yes
Aren’t we all dying… So sure.
@K_Dean - Not Benjamin Button. He’s getting younger!
lol – how much money do they got?
I think I would….
@maniac_rose - LOL
@Dare2BDiferentt - I was going to saythe exact same thing!
@DommieGirlLovie - Nuh uh!
I could never marry anyone, dying or not.
we do it every day…we just aren’t usually as aware of it as they are.
cs lewis married a dying woman but me well i wudnt marry enywun for eny rezun so i guess thatza no
I believe I could… but not if they were having cameras following them around.
I think so.
doesnt every one who gets married … marry someone that is dying? Every day … every one gets closer to death … it doesnt matter wheather they are slowly dying or have five months to live … if you love them you should marry them. I mean I could marry the healthiest person alive today and tomorrow they get hit by a bus. You never know … so why does it matter?
If it was somebody I cared very strongly about, of course.
I mean, the person is going to die regardless of if you marry him or her, so it’s not like you’re going to change that just by a short walk down the aisle. However, it would be one hell of a good memory to have of that person before he or she passed away, and it would give the dying person something to enjoy. If somebody was planning on spending that time with the person anyway, what difference does being married make, aside from having a nice memory upon which to reflect in the future?
Yeah, as long as the funeral was already paid for…
@pansybradshaw - I love cs lewis … Narnia series is amazing! Im reading them right now …
this question reminds me of that movie a walk to remember
You betcha.
@DeepDarkSecr3t - im notta fan but the childryn i werk with love narnia so i reed it to them enyway
Yes, of course. It would suck to be widowed at 19, but it would be worth it to be able to cherish him as much as possible while he lived.
@pansybradshaw - oh … ok .. thought since you knew about him that you might like him lol guess i was wrong
lol
That’s a tough one. I probably would, but being married doesn’t really change the love I would have for the person anyway.
@DeepDarkSecr3t - itz cool he wrotta buk about hiz marriage to the dying woman i wish i cud remember the tytle now that wuzza gud reed
google it itza very beautiful story
yes, i actually would. for the sake of having showed them that i truly and ultimately love them.
Yes if I truly loved the person and saw myself grow old with them and not because it was their dying wish. Knowing me, I’d probably stay “married” to this person and not re-marry.
@pansybradshaw - honestly i never heard of him till my friend gave me narnia to read … and i just started that now but i love the way he writes … i need to find more books by him but not yet because i still have three more narnia books to read … maybe ill find that one you are talking about and read it ..
Everyone’s dying. Some at a faster pace than others.
Depending on their life insurance policy…
@DeepDarkSecr3t - you can never go rong witha great author well sumtymez but mostly not finish narnia then google him hez quite the theologian
I have haterz!
hell yeah, if you love that dying someone, you should make every moment you have with that person count (face it no one is gonna live together forever, eventually we all will die someday?!)altho you might not both be together forever, atleast you’ll have good memories of your times together forever atleast thats if you don’t suffer from alzheimer’s or something like it in your future..
@Masochish - shaddup, punk.
@pansybradshaw - cool … i guess i willz
@hater - Screw you.
@Masochish - you would.
@hater - Stupid hater.
Only for the money.
@Masochish - stupid troll.
If I wanted their money.
Why would dying stop you if you loved them enough? If you wouldn’t it only shows the relationship wasn’t worth having. Better to die in the arms of someone you love than alone.
The ‘we’re all dying’ thing is a total copout.
I don’t know if I could…it would depend on the circumstances…I think I might feel worse after their death if I married them than if I didn’t…I don’t know why, but I think I would.
aww I love Jade.. It will be a sad day when she leaves this world..
of course, if i was the one who’s dying, i’d want somebody who’s willing to have me too. and just like they said, we’re all going to that direction anyways.. and if you love a person, nothing else matters.
Yes, I would. If he was a dying, rich, old man with no kids.
@huginn - Hehehehe…
i would, if the plans to get married were already set in motion before the illness was discovered, or if it was my partner’s wish to do so before death. otherwise, if my parner really was headed towards his grave ( and showed no yearning to be wed ), i’d say eff the process of getting married; i’d just spend as much time with him as i possibly could before he passed away. i wouldn’t want to waste time with marriage arrangements.
It’s likely I would, depending on the circumstances and the reasons she has to marry.
If I love him, in a heartbeat.
I don’t think I could. I couldn’t handle the heartbreak that kind of thing would cause.
We can’t live forever, so I voted yes for this.
Yes.
I think I could…of course, I’m not in the situation right now, so I don’t REALLY know how exactly I would be feeling.
But as of now, I think I could.
I think I could, if I was really really really in love.
If I loved them, whatever I could do to give them joy! Life is short, no matter who you are!
Absolutely. I have found true love once and lost it. Even if that person was dying I would marry. Two days, two weeks or two years, I don’t care. I would want that time. Hopefully that doesn’t sound selfish.
what you didnt mention- and, i think this changes everything- is that she is selling the rights to photos of her wedding and all the footage of her last days so that she can make sure her sons will have good educations.
id marry someone doing that even if i didn’t love them, it would be over soon and it would be a nice thing for those kids.
she is a bit of a racist knob though.
yes!
If you love them that much, maybe. “It’s better to have loved than never loved at all…”
sure.
Yes.
And I thought this was sweet of her bridesmaids.
I think we have to live today to the fullest because no one is guaranteed a tomorrow. So yes if we were in love I would marry a dying man…….. ~Echo
Yes.
yes, but i’d definitely be sad.
If that person really loved me.
@Dare2BDiferentt - very true.
I’ve often wondered about this too. I know that if I were dying I would want the experience of a wedding and being married but I have to wonder if then going through with a wedding would be ethical.
In all honesty, probably not :[
but i would definitely stay with them until their very last moment.
yes
That’s a tough question. It would depend on the caliber of love.
sure, let them die happy with marital bliss. and they might leave you something in their will, so that’s an added bonus
If I loved them and would have married them had they not been dying, yes, I would. But if it was just for the ake of them saying they were married, no, I wouldn’t.
If I really loved them, yes. My love for that person wouldn’t change due to their health condition. If they’re dying, marrying them would give me a chance to spend every moment possible with them. Isn’t that what you would want if you loved them?
@Dare2BDiferentt - true that
Yes, if I loved them of course, plus we are all dying in one way or another. We don’t know when we will die even if we are heathly and fit. A freak accident could happen or being at the wrong place at the wrong time…so I say live everyday like its your last.
Yes. If I loved him, I’d want to marry him. Even if he was going to die soon. I wouldn’t want to go around wishing I had married him, but didn’t.
Only if I was truly in love.
Yes.
Yes.
Reminds me of the theme in “A walk to Remember” movie.. except this would be the R rated version.
To answer your question.. depends. I might.. when I was really young and before I married the love of my life.
More importantly, is she bald?
Sure.
But the thing goes further:
“People will say I’m doing this for money,” she was quoted as saying by The Sun tabloid earlier. “And they’re right. I am, but not to buy flash cars or big houses. It’s for my sons’ future.”
That’s nice.
@Zeke777G - chemotherapy.
For the record, technically, we’re all dying.
But to answer your question, if I were in love, yes. I married a soldier…during wartime…knowing without uncertainty that he would eventually go to war. I try not to think about the “what ifs” though. Who has time for that?
if i was in love with that person, i think so. it would be like a long lost love found. so romantic <3.
I think I’d be able to, it’d show how true our love was.
yes and i dont know how anyone could say no unless they didnt truly love that person=]
Yes. It’d be heartbreaking, but I would do my best to enjoy every last second with the one I love.
Yes. If I loved them and that’s what we wanted, why should the fact that they’re dying matter?
Only in a movie. I intend to get marry once, so marry to someone who is dying means I be alone for the rest of my life. That’s just isn’t fair. I’ll probably stay by his side the whole time until he die. Is that good enough? Promising something we both can’t keep is silly and unrealistic.
*shrugs*
yes, we’re all really just dying anyways.
…who would want to watch her die?!?
maybe if i was in love
yes, definately.
it’d really be hard afterwards though.
I dont think so. Then again, when they die you become widowed. I don’t suppose that would make living any eaiser, though. Married or not, it doesn’t fully prove your love to its fullest. I think it’s sort of a half-assed commitment.
@K_Dean -
Dammit that is what I was going to say.
Yes, absolutely
I’m not sure…I mean, after all I would know that I will lose the person and doubt that I could deal with that…Btw, what have ya been up to lately?
yes. I absolutely would. He is amazing
strange you would mention it at a time like this in my life… but yes, i believe i would.
If I loved him, yes.
Hmm. Coincidence?
I would, if the love were real.
If I loved him, then I don’t see why not. (Well, I’m assuming he loves me, too.)
Hi : )
Yes.
Have a great day!
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why yes. because then you know you can go for the multiple-marriage thing that seems to be a craze these days without that divorce thing getting in the way.
/dry.
Not to keen on the camera’s following around the couple here. But yes. Why wouldn’t you marry someone you loved just because they were dying? What kind of person is that?
in a heartbeat.
YES!
If that is her wish I will…
awalktoremember.
Yes, if I wasn’t otherwise married and we were in love already. I wouldn’t marry someone because he was dying, but if I was in love, I may accelerate the process a little.
If I truly, truly loved someone, then I would. Because we all learn to love and let go at some point in time.
@Dare2BDiferentt - i agree. that’s what i think too. and i suppose that if she is getting married, they are getting married.. is probably because they understand each other and love each other that much that they want to be together in all ways possible; and gettin married in my opinion is kind of telling the world and to whoever is peeking in on their lives, will see that those two people, that they’re married. kinda like leaving proof –something behind, (marriage license wise lol).
feb 22nd of 2005 i met the most amazing person that completed me like the perfect piece of a puzzle. when we met i knew he was battling cancer and i knew it was a battle he was unlikely to win but i loved (and still do) him with every ounce of my being. he was the man i wanted to marry, the man i wanted to have children with. we were together for two years and then may 25th of 2007 he lost his battle. honestly i would’ve married him without a second thought. i’ve never felt about anyone the way i felt about him. why deny myself such strong pure feelings? i have the best memories of him and i together, i wouldn’t trade them for absolutely anything in the world.
Yes, I would. I believe there is an after-life to this life as we know it and we can meet our love ones again some day.
It’d be hard knowing they were dying, but I think I could do it.
if she was:
1. pretty
2. smart
and 3. if she loved me
If I loved them, yes.
@theslayer1992 - exactly what i was thinking when i first saw this. xD
i would.
Yes, if Anna Nicole Smith can do it, we all can. Plus, aren’t we all in the process of dying. Unless you folks have discovered the fountain of youth.
Well If I really loved the guy, then sure why not !
aww, thats sad
but we’re all going sometime, and if you love them its okay
aren’t we all dying?
If I loved that person with all my heart and soul, yes I would marry him.
yes I would
I’m not sure what would win out:
my love
-or-
the unbearable thought of eternal separation from them
I guess so, if i really do love them. But perhaps it’ll be a totally different story when placed in the actual situation.
yes because you would regret it later… if you don’t… if it is meant to be… you both should treasure the time together no matter how less of it
that’s kinda like A Walk to Remember which is an awesome movie (I LOVE SHANE WEST)!
I think I could, just cause I might not be able to fall in love again. But I think if it’s the other way around, it’s really complicated. Because I wouldn’t want him to be sad alone and not be able to let go.
Yes. Because isn’t life the process of dying?
I’d imagine it’d be tough…. but highly possible.
<3, ~*Akarui Mitsukai*~
Short term commitment.
If I loved them then yes. For sure.
@Dare2BDiferentt - Agreed.
if i loved them? in a heartbeat.
Well, if you were in love with the person anyway, and acting ‘as if’ married in every other way, what difference would it make to you? And if it would make the person you’re in love with happy, and s/he doesn’t have long to live, then why wouldn’t you? Makes sense to me.
If I was in love, yes.
If I was already in love with them, without a doubt. If I found out my boyfriend was dying, I would marry him in a heartbeat. I’d want to be with him as much as I could, and I plan to marry him one day anyway.
No, they’re dying and you won’t get to spend the rest of your life with them, and isn’t that the point of marriage?
Only if they were rich. Otherwise, it would be stupid.
Yes I would.
Oh my fifteenth birthday my doctors told me I had ten years (approx.) left to live. I’m seventeen now and while highschool relationships are one thing, I’ve decided that when it comes down to it- I’m not going to persue serious relationships. Instead I plan on focusing on travelling and living and making myself happy.
Personally, as the person in the dying position, I would never want to do that to someone that I loved.
On another note… why on earth is that women letting cameras film that?