June 20, 2009
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Superficial People Make Superficial Comments
I want you to know that I am disappointed in all of you. I have noticed that many of you are leaving superficial comments.
This was highlighted by a blogger this morning. She wrote a post and posted some of your comments about an overweight woman who was wearing a bikini. Here is the link: Link
Some of you left comments that were hurtful to others. After looking carefully at your comments, I couldn’t help but to agree with her.
I am sick of the superficial attitude of some of you. I want you to know that I will not allow a superficial attitude to take over the tone of my site. I want to call each one of you out to be the very best you that you can be.
I want you to focus more on what is on the inside than what is on the outside.
Thank you for your support in this matter.
Comments (122)
I love boobs.
Er, I mean…women’s lib! Rights! Opinions! Stuff.
Ha, you’re wonderful.
I’d like to focus on what’s inside her to.
Um …. ok ha ha.
Guess wich part of mt anatomy I would like to focus.
Oh…I’m glad my comment wasn’t too rude to be superficial! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wearing a bikini, really. I just personally lie one pieces better. ^^
She does raise some good points in that post!
And this is why people should learn to hold their tongues… or bite, if need be.
If you’re being serious, thank you.
i’m a hoe
how wonderfully sensitive of you ! the fat woman in the bikini , shouldn’t have been wearing one. how’s that for attitude ?
the “inside” of a person is a load of crap…
@Queen_of_You188 - Yeah same here, My girlfriend wears one pieces, I think they look better plus they also protect more of the skin from the sun.
@Justin_DeBin - that is pretty sexual.
xo
who’s next, mentally handicapped people?
Dan, you are like Wilson on House.
And @JessxMaxine guesses correctly.
I hate your layout.
yes!!!!!! finally. thanks, dan. i knew you had it in you.
@kyleberg29 - me too. I love one pieces. In my opinion, they’re just more comfortable to me. =D
I KNOW…I KNOW…I CAN BE A SUPERFICIAL TARD SOMETIMES….
I agree some people can be hurtful, especially using the term “beached whale.” But I think there really is a point where you shouldn’t wear a bikini. I don’t think I’m being superficial either.
The comments on your site sicken me too.
@polishswede - yeah I agree with you. That’s what I was thinking.
That post had some good points though.
Dan, I haven’t been around here in a while, but it’s nice to see you haven’t changed a bit.
@popcultureref - Yes, I’m glad she stood up for the bigger people.
Bitch didn’t even link my site. Fucking cunt.
Dan likes that picture.
If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all?
I’d never want to hurt a person’s feelings…
As someone who use to weigh a lot than I do now — yes I do think there comes a point when you’re just too fat for a bikini. And yes I believe that the whole “don’t ridicule fat ppl b/c they don’t deserve it” is bullshit. Very few are obese b/c of a medical condition, the majority are fat b/c of overeating, or eating the wrong food (processed) and not getting enough exercise. Are they lazy? Yes, b/c our generation as a whole ar getting more sedentary each day due to all the convenience.
Every pound that I gained, I knew it and yet I didn’t care. So I kept gaining. Then there comes to a point when I looked at myself and realized… I’ve let myself go! 146 lbs at 5ft tall? Yeah, that’s fat. So I did something about it and lost about 40 lbs. Now I’m back around 140, but I’m not as big as I was b/c I have more muscle than back then, but I still know that I need to lose weight.
I hate ppl who claimed they don’t know how they got so fat. BS! They knew it with every morsel of food they put into their mouths.
So do I ridicule them for it? No, but I won’t hesitate to say something to ppl who make fun of smaller ppl and say shit like they’re anorexic or sickly, etc… If you’re fat, you’re fat. Why should we be so PC and refrain from stating the truth? Just look at the person and you’ll know: he/she’s fat.
Superficial? I beg to differ.
Hey, I just said that most people are too fat to wear a bikini, and I included myself in that assessment.
She didn’t get your question right………
Where would humanity be without superficiality? Honestly…
woot.
I think a lot of people are not quite sure what to make of this.
Luckily, I am.
You’d think a simple request for mutual respect would go over better, since it benefits everyone involved.
…my deepest apologies for defending her choice to wear a bikini…
<.<
:[ I’m sorry….
@x_Butterflies_and_Hurricanes_x - Yes, I’d say I have to agree. He really does like that picture.
On a more serious note, I agree with what you’re saying here Dan.
oh noez! where’s the real Dan!? Who are YOU!?!?! haha jk. i havent read that post yet!
Oh Dan, you make me laugh. Beth says hi.
eh, I’d rather not.
No comment….well, I guess saying no comment WAS a comment!
@saintvi - Tell Beth Grampy says Hi!
Teach her a few things vi…or is it the other way around 
If you can’t stand the heat, then you’re really gonna hate hell.
So that lady in the picture, pass my question on to her. What’s her opinion on the Iranian election?
Why are you allowing paul_partisan to comment ? I thought you 2 were fighting.
Booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooobs
Don’t blame us. If only you wrote a meaning, insightful and well written blog, then you won’t get any superficial comments from us. You brought this on yourself and us. And it takes a smart woman like neverforqetmex3 to point out the weaknesses in us all.
hahaha… oh Dan we can always count on you to lighten the mood
The sooner we stop tolerating the bull shit the sooner people will stop spewing it at us.
Thanks Dan. =]
@EltonxEvermore - <– He is right however Dan. You wouldn’t get superficial responses if you didn’t ask superficial questions.
Did I ever tell you about the time I was starring in Jew fetish retard porn and ended up with a prolapsed… oh nevermind. This is a family site.
For Christians.
Who are sometimes Asian.
Or fat.
Or both if they are living on Long Island, an oxymoron to be sure, but whatevs…
That is such a typical thing for you to say, Dan.
I am totally confused by all of this.
i agree and i hope you are serious. ♦
What can I say? My inferior male mind flutters hither and thither to things like turtles, turtles eating strawberries, and turtles posed scandalously.
Om-nom-nom.
It would be easier to do so… if you didn’t ask superficial questions
I don’t even know what to say.
MAN THE HARPOONS!
Are you going to propose to her soon? Cause I’m going, even if I’m not invited. *The girl in the picture*
*Sigh*
YEAH! Preach it.
So nice of you that you are going to change the online world into a more sensitive one! In fact I’m already moved to tears.
I love how you trash us while you have a pic of a hot chick in your post. haha
Not to start an arguement, BUT your question was ‘Do you think there comes a point when you are too fat for a bikini?’ Is that not a superficial question itself? I mean, you didn’t ask us anything about what was on the inside. You asked about the outside.
Now, yes, some people did make some hurtful and hateful comments. But, it is a superficial question, therefore, you will get superficial answers. Unfortunately.
I think people in general, fat or skinny wear some things they shouldn’t wear because its unflattering and unattractive. Yes, I’m all for being comfortable in your own skin, but some things on certain people are just unattractive.
You’re welcome.
Word.
ive read it..its hurtful but at the same time, an opinion..not everyone should take it at heart..its either you agree or disagree..and i know..no one deserves that kind of ridicule..
UGLY PEOPLE RULE!
i can feel the sarcasm spilling out of this.
There was a woman I knew who always said, “I hate complainers”…..
…well…that made me think for a moment.
Is that superficial?
I don’t like superficial people, either. They’re so superficial and stuff. But to stop superficial people from making superficial comments, you have to stop posting superficial stuff. It invites superficial people to bring their superficial minds in and write superficial stuff.
Also, I’m ashamed of you. The girl in the picture above isn’t fat at all. She’s no moose, but she’s definitely not fat. How dare you feed into the crap that makes girls stop eating and puke up their lunches in the bathroom! Shame!
Dan, why do you care if we leave superficial comments?
I agree that some people should watch what they say because it could be hurtful… but even though we want that, it unfortunately won’t stop them.
@Paul_Partisan - I love House!
But you said it. It’s like trying to better people who aren’t going to change.
I’m confused…..
Seriously, there are four Bekkas in Bikinis on this page alone.
But isn’t the only answer to a question like that superficial, or a lie?
I love the way a non-superficial woman looks
@CallMeQuell - This page being your frontpage.
You see, and that’s why I didn’t chose to comment on that post. If I don’t agree with something, I’d rather not say anything. Some people can be really harsh with their words.
I like cake.
Yeah. Some of that nonsense was over the top.
But…
@polishswede - Whole-heartedly agreed!
It’s funny, when I first joined Xanga I really thought you were a bunch of people discussing theology.
Some of the pictures I saw, um well, eek! Lol! It is never my intention to hurt anyone but sometimes I’m a little superficial. It’s hard to be serious and wise all the time. I like silliness too.
Now that I think about it. There’s either some subtle sarcasm in this post (seeing as your message is ironic when considering you have a picture of a HOT girl, as opposed to–let’s say–an obese girl), or you’re just being serious. Why am I inclined to assume the former?
That question was bound to provoke superficial and hurtful responses, though >_< not your fault that people are pathetic, but surely you foresaw it would happen?
I hope my comment didn’t offend people though. That wasn’t the aim of it =|
Sorry Dan, but I rather enjoy my superficial comments!
LOL
I don’t think people are remembering that your initial post showing that woman was pretty superficial in itself…
As has been many of your other posts.
But whatever. Not many pick up on your sarcasm, which I find fascinating.
- John
I repent. Sorry.
that’s so damn rude! I dunno why people expect everyone to be skinny o r perfect! No wonder plump people are not happy!
Why should looks matter?? Looks fade overtime
I agree with people who say that true beauty is on the inside, but I also like to take it a step further and suggest they make some effort to drag a little of what’s on the inside to the outside.
So…then why did you include a picture of a hot underwear model?
Dan,
I went and read the young woman’s site. She had some interesting comments and replies. Here’s the deal…we can say it’s none of our business what people wear, do, or say…BUT when you wear something out in public, say something out in public, do something out in public, guess what…YOU MADE IT THE PUBLICS BUSINESS! People, by right and law, are entitled to their opinion, whether you like or not. When you ask for an opinion in a public forum you are opening yourself up for all kinds of comments, the good, the bad, and the down right ugly. You don’t have to like it. As a matter of fact, if you don’t like then don’t ask the question or block the unwanted commenter(s) from your site. The truth of the matter is we, as Americans, have a variable opinion on beauty and the woman noted does not fit the description and by choosing to wear that suit opened herself up for ridicule. The same could be said for someone wearing a 1970′s leisure suit out in public today. That is part of our culture. You don’t have to like people’s comments, but you can choose to ignore them. Anger will get you nowhere. Change yourself and let everyone else worry about their own hangups.
BTW…this comes from a 5foot 6inch woman who up until a year ago weighed approximately 185lbs and wouldn’t even consider buying shorts…forget a bathing suit! It took a year, but I lost 55lbs and just bought my first two piece in YEARS! I know the public opinion and I wasn’t about to open myself up to it.
@tigerdauphin - Kind of sort of agree.
Not trying to be mean, but mostly unattractive people say beauty is on the inside, and teachers.
I just think at a certain point, a girl shouldn’t be wearing a bikini. Not only overweight people, but also sometimes extremely underweight people, you know, the ones where you can see every bone jutting out.
Plus, one pieces are more modest.
Yeah, we’re all can be superficial, but that’s just the way society is. We put so much focus on beauty and the perfect size. No matter what, someone can always make a bad comment on you. Some people are just more open with their superficiality.
Dan started it. He was asking a superficial question. Obviously, you’ll get superficial answers.
@droptop11 - You have the nerve to say that woman shouldn’t be wearing the bikini. I don’t think you look very striking in that little black piece of cloth you are wearing. I’m not sure how many other people do either.
HAHAHA, By the second paragraph I was laughing my butt off..thanks Dan,I needed that.
agreed.
i agree 100%. they are very immature to say things like that. they sound like kids.
@AnimalLoverXO - now you’ve made me sad ! you are showing an extreme lack of sensitivity. your dogs look gay, by the way.
-looks up at you on your high horse-
how quickly we forget about posts we make that may hurt others’ feelings.
preachy preachy preachy.
this is not the kind of stuff i like to read.
you’re not a moderator, you’re not any better than anyone else.
but i am tolerant because i know sometimes people forget that they are no better than the person misspelling and cussing someone out. we’re all human and absolutely completely imperfect and hypocritical.
you should remember that.
i hate to break it to you..but its too late. those jackasses have already taken over.
The first time you posted her picture I thought she was attractive, but now she seems to be some what creepy.
some day, people will be able to look beyond the outward appearance….
but let’s face facts… the first impression you get of a person, isn’t what is on the inside, but what you see on the outside. before a word of our heart, soul and mind leave our body, our appearance is the first thing you see (barring, you read a book i wrote and based your impression on some work of literature/blog/etc.
As time is spent with that person, then the impression of that person on the outside slowly blends in with the person we get to know on the inside… for better, sometimes worse, and depending on what that person looks on the outside… you compensate your view of that person (i.e. a beautiful, hot girl, who’s a bitch… a guy may tolerate for a while, b/c she is so hot/beautiful/(place ur attraction here).
as for the original question of whether this overweight person should be allowed to wear a bikini or not.. of course she can wear it; but she should be aware that depending on what part of the world she goes to, she’ll either be accepted, ignored, ridiculed (openly or in private) b/c she is overweight and all the pros/cons that go with that weight.
as for the whole superficial comment… everyone is superficial. just in varying degrees. just like everyone is a hyprocrite, just in varying degrees, like everyone is a bigot, racist, agist, sexist, etc, etc, etc, in varying degrees… it’s just that depending on the society that we may currently live in… tolerate some level of the above mentioned, and thereby acceptable.
so yes, i’m superficial, yet not.
Happy Father’s Day everyone.
l feel its her choice to wear a bikini, in her backyard.
I was noticing the large woman in the picture isn’t even that big. She’s probably average for an American woman.
I like the German phrase “Der trefende Hund baehlt”, or loosely translated, ‘The dog that is stepped on yelps’.
Thanks for not letting the rudeness of some bloggers take over. It really isn’t what’s on the outside. Toady’s society is so hung up on looks. If you look at some old black and white pictures of couples you can tell they weren’t all about looks. Some really good looking men were with ugly women and visa versa. They knew what it took to make a relationship and looks wasn’t the major key. Thanks again for standing up to rudeness!
I don’t really care. If that is the Kind of attention someone wants, Then by all means wear a two peice while you weigh in at 300 lbs.
Why are you trying to pose as the “noble knight in shining armor?”
Have you actually read the posts you write?
And you’re honestly surprised you get “superficial” comments?
C’mon. Surely you aren’t that naive.
Although, reading over the rest of your posts, I’m honestly tempted to call shenanigans. You have to be saying some of these things in a sarcastic light.
I hope so, anyway. I really do.
Superficial questions lead to superficial comments…
What gives people the right to judge another whether it be race, size, age etc? People need to start taking at look at themselves, and look at their own faults (we ALL have faults,) and judge thenselves. Nobody is exempt from flaws, and yes I agree it’s what’s on the inside that counts. Remember this people paint peels, so be careful whom and what you judge, for it will come back on you one way or another….
Wow- that woman has nice… … (…superficial…) … … um, lungs?
Who is more attractive: a fat girl who’s full of hugs for her friends, helpful, and a good cook or a skinny chick who’s a snob, a jerk, and likes to glare?
Hot is only an image that perceived as being unachievable for the majority.
When I read the original post, I wanted to comment, but I held myself back. yay self control saving me from dan’s wrath and keeping me from being too much of an asshole!
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