September 22, 2009

  • Forced to Give Up Your Baby

    A woman is being forced to give up her baby even though she is 8 months pregnant.

    The pregnant mother was given the wrong embryos at an IVF clinic.  So the baby was not her baby. 

    The women decided to carry the baby even though she found out the baby was not her baby early in the pregnancy.  It is against the woman’s religious beliefs to get an abortion.  Here is the link:  Link

    Would you carry the baby if you knew you would have to legally give the baby up?
                                                                                               
                                         

Comments (101)

  • I probably would.

  • OMG that’s awful. I personally don’t believe in abortion (although I am pro-choice), so yes, I would carry the baby.

  • thats BRUTAL!!

    anyways, i would have to give it up even if i didnt want to

  • I wouldn’t have been anywhere near an IVF clinic in the first place.

  • No.

    There would be a trade-off of time, well-being, and school/work. Plus, as a morally ambigious godless heathen, I do not morally object to early-term abortions.

  • At this point, YES.  If I was a women. But I would pray the baby doesn’t become rich and famous and shower the other mother with mansions and cars. 

  • Only if the correct parents felt it was the right thing to do.

    Otherwise I see those 9 months as a good time to sue the hell out of which ever doctor made the mistake of knocking me up with the wrong kid.

  • It would be hard as hell but it is a baby a little life that wants to be born, so yes I think i would.

  • @LyricallyCharged - Sue them penniless if such a thing could happen.

  • No.

  • CRAP!!!!!

    Idk WHAT I’d do in that situation.  But then I doubt I would ever consider IVF when I can adopt, just my opinion.

  • Yes, I would carry the baby and give it back to his/her parents.  Then I would sue the hospital for all its worth. No woman should EVER have to make that decision because of a mistake that the hospital made.

  • I think I would be able to give up a child I carried like Phoebe in Friends as long as I have no contact with the child after he or she was born and I was carrying the child for a grander reason than my own selfish purposes.

    In a most ideal situation, a child should only go into the world to a supportive family.  I was blessed with such.  I would put the needs of my child ahead of my own feelings.

  • Yes, but I don’t think she should have to give the baby up.

  • oh yes. it is not the baby’s fault. i would definitely sue the pants off that clinic though.

  • if I wanted a baby so deeply that I went to those lengths I think I would indeed carry the child to term…

  • absolutely carry the child and do exactly what they are doing. and absolutely sue the hell out of every decision maker involved.

  • I wouldn’t carry a baby in any case.  

  • Yes i would, but she shouldn’t have to give the baby up. That’s horrible!

  • I don’t know, that’s tough.

  • Tough situation indeed.

  • as long as the baby gets sacrificed to the Devil in the end 

  • There is no question here… of course I would carry the baby to term.  I think terminating the pregnancy would be selfish.

  • I’d carry the baby.

  • Damn!  Regardless, I’d be suing the life out of somebody.

  • i’d be terribly angry!! but i suppose as long as other couples were having a baby for me, i would accept this error as a blessing. however if i was pregnant by a wrong one, i’d probably sue the ivp [or wherever that place is] because being pregnant is TOUGH!!! and letting go the baby is even worse.
    just something nobody should ever go trhough

  • Yes, and hand it over to the rightful parents immediately so I don’t get any more attached to it.

  • No chance.  Then I’d sue the shit out of that clinic.

  • I wouldn’t.  I don’t even know how I could carry the baby anyway.  Or how the baby would come out.  That would be painful.

  • I would never ever get an IVF
    I wonder whay THAt isn’t against more people’s religious believes

  • Oh, poor woman.

  • oh heavens!

    i dont think i could have an abortion in that case, so i would. consider it a practice run? :- (agree with lawsuits suggested above)

  • Yes.  Giving it up would be tough, but not as tough as an abortion.

  • aww that’s sad ): I think if I  was the one who’s embryo accidentally got stuck in her I would ask if she wanted to keep the baby, maybe we would even become BFFs and raise it together!  If she didn’t want to keep the baby I would offer to carry her embryo next time so that she didn’t have to go through the pregnancy again, and we each get a baby.

  • Yeah. It would be hard but I would see it as an act of kindness. I’d give the baby to his/her real parents, but wouldn’t kill it. It’s not the baby’s fault.

  • Oh my word, that’s awful. 

  • Of course this innocent life should be brought to term.  I don’t understand the need for the question.

  • Pregnancy Nutrition

    When you’re pregnant, you are indeed “eating for two.” But this doesn’t mean eating twice as much as you did before, as a lot of people assume. What’s most important to remember is that everything you eat and drink passes directly to your baby, so make sure you cut out the things that are bad for both of you and stock up on the healthiest items possible.

    A reasonable, though not enormous, weight gain during pregnancy is essential for your baby’s health. Generally, moms-to-be will gain between 10 and 15 kg. As your pregnancy progresses eat smaller amounts more frequently, rather than two or three large meals a day. This way, you won’t overload your stomach, which is being squeezed by the growing uterus, and you are less likely to suffer from indigestion.

    A general rule is that foods have a higher nutritional value when they are raw and unprocessed, so concentrate on fresh foods whenever you can. And don’t even think about dieting. If you eat the right things, you won’t gain weight permanently. In fact, you may find that your new, healthy eating habits will help you to stay slimmer after the birth more than you were before you got pregnant. Ask your doctor for specific instructions, but here are some basic “dos” and “don’ts” for good pregnancy nutrition:

    Protein

    Your protein requirement doubles when you’re pregnant. Protein is found in lean meat, fish, chicken, hard cheeses (gouda, falamenc etc.), milk, hard-boiled eggs, legumes (for example, lentils, beans and chickpeas) and nuts.

    Calcium

    Your calcium requirement is 50 percent higher when you’re pregnant, particularly during the first two months when the baby’s teeth and bones start to form. Calcium-rich foods include milk and milk-based products like yogurt and cheese. You’ll need four or five servings a day (a serving equals 1 cup of milk, 1 cup of yoghurt or about 30 gm of cheese). Choose low-fat or skimmed products. Calcium is also found in sardines, gargeer, spinach, nuts, and bamia.

    Fiber

    Fibers Help to combat any tendency towards constipation when you’re pregnant. Found in aysh baladi, brown bread, raw vegetables and fruit, beans (ful, white beans etc.) and nuts.

    Folic Acid

    Research suggests that getting enough folic acid before conception and for the first few months of pregnancy can reduce the risk of your baby being born with a neural tube defect. Found in spinach, fresh orange juice, ful, lentils and peanuts. Many doctors prescribe a folic acid supplement, so ask yours about this.

    Iron

    Extra iron is needed to cope with your increased blood supply. Lean red meat is one of the best sources. You can also get iron from chicken, shellfish and tuna, raisins, apricots, prunes, artichokes, gargeer and spinach.

    Carbohydrates

    Carbohydrates can help to alleviate morning sickness. More nutritious sources are bread, crackers, macaroni, rice and potatoes.

    Liquids

    Drink at least eight glasses of water a day or vary this with un-sugared fruit or vegetable juices or herbal teas that your doctor approves. Also drink at least a half-liter of pasteurized milk every day – or use it on cereals or in soups and sauces.

    DON’Ts

    *Liver, including liver sausage or spreads

    These contain high levels of vitamin A which could harm your baby

    *Raw eggs

    Soft cheeses and blue-veined cheeses
    Goat’s milk or cheese
    Un-pasteurized milk or milk products
    All the above may contain harmful bacteria

    *Cakes, biscuits, chocolate

    Salty foods
    These contain too much fat, sugar or salt

    *Sugary, fizzy drinks

    Tea, coffee and hot chocolate
    These contain sugar and/or caffeine

    *Smoke or drink alcohol

    Both cigarettes and alcohol are poisons which can harm your baby very seriously

  • Of course. Children are not property they are children. I would never kill a child just because I wouldn’t be allowed to “own” them.

  • HOSTAGE BABY, RANSOM THAT SHIT

  • How terrible!! :(   I would have the baby, and sue the bajevies out of the clinic.

  • I would try to locate the true mother first, and even if I didn’t find her, I’d still carry the baby. You don’t kill a child for a reason as stupid as “it’s not your baby”. 

  • @echois23 - that’s what I’m saying!! 

  • Hmmm… I have to say i would. The only problem i’d really have is an attachment issue. I loved my babies with all of my heart before they were even born… I couldnt imagine having a human being inside of me that i’d love like that but couldnt keep.

  • I wish I knew what I’d do.

  • Yeah, actually I think I would.

  • It’s a hard choice,, but yeah. I’d do it.

  • yes, I would but I would want to sue for pain and suffering.

  • i would as opposed to getting an abortion.

  • I would consider getting it sucked out. They obivously are desperate to start their own family because they are going down the IVF route, and don’t neccessarily have the time to waste.

    Okay I read the link they already have kids, but they want another one, I would still consider abortion if that happened to me.

  • What choice would I really have?

  • I would probably keep it & find the parents that it belongs to & give it to them. BUT this is a weird situation & its hard to say what I would do in this situation….

  • That’s messed up.

  • Personally, yes I would. As many others have said, I would then look into making whomever made such a tragic error pay for that mistake.

  • nope. i think that once it’s inside the woman, and all that womans DNA is being used to produce that child, she’s got every right to it.  That woman can give up her eggs to the other woman. Why should she be penalized because the doctors Effed up? wasn’t her fault.

  • Yes. And I would make a huge stink that it is MY baby!

  • fuck yeah i would! 

  • Yes, give the child to it’s rightful parents who had no control over the mistake either. I think it would be best if they never laid eyes on the child when it is born or tried to keep in contact. Yes, sue for all the expenses incurred but not to make yourself rich. Afterall to err is human.

  • I would keep the baby. Obviously, the women involved are infertile. I know firsthand what this feels like. It’s one of the most terrible, heartbreaking things you can face as a woman. So, though I would be devastated that my child was not the one I was carrying, my heart would be overjoyed to make another woman’s dream come true. (I’m assuming she has to give the baby to the bio mother…)

    Besides, since it was the clinic’s fault, I would assume they’d be willing to do the now-surrogate-mother’s next IVF procedure free of charge. If not, then she has a hell of a lawsuit on her hands, and she can probably get ten IVF procedures done with the money she’ll receive. So to me, though there would be some heartbreak in giving up the child I carried for nine months, all the wrongs could easily be made right in time, and two women who feared they may never have a chance to become a mother would now have their children. 

  • Yes of corse… things happen for a reason.  Perhaps this child was destined to be born!

  • Oh geez, that’s horrible!

  • That would be so hard. I hope that the fertility clinic gets in trouble for that kind of mix up. Talk about emotional trauma.

  • That is horrible.  She definately should not have to give up that baby!!!

  • I would carry it.  It’s not the baby’s fault and it’s not fair to kill it just because it was the wrong egg.

  • Yes.

  • I would carry the baby and raise the baby.  The only way I would give it up is if the family was proven (by me) to be fit parents.  It is not a judgment on the family because of the mistake made, but a sincere feeling that I know would happen.  This baby inside that mother is hers.  She has felt it kicked, she has talked to it, she will deliver it.  In her mind, it is hers. If I was that mother, I would need to know that “my” baby is going to a family who truly wants the baby at that time.  Surrogate mothers have a different start.  They know right from the beginning that the baby is someone else’s.  They are doing it out of love, or possibly a need for money.  This case is different.

  • I would but I want an asprin for the birth.

  • Kudus to this women, she as more class then all the congress put together. She knows that it was not the childs problem so why kill an inocent child. I have a lot of respect for this couples dession. I would hold the IVF company liable, I would want compansation for each strech mark LOL seriously it wasn’t the couples fault.

  • That is one HUGE fuck up!
    yeah, i would carry it, but it would be really hard to give it up.

  • yes, I would carry the baby.

  • @LyricallyCharged - …that’s a solution that I didn’t think of…and it’s genius!

  • @mrcolorful - word. nothing but trouble from those places.

  • doesn’t the wording of the law define the mother as the person who “gave birth” to the child?

  • Yes.  I know it would be tough, but what a wonderful gift to be able to give someone else who is also unable to conceive without medical intervention.

  • If they can use IVF, then I don’t see why they can’t have an abortion too, since both are playing God.  I guess spawning abominations of nature are more acceptable than terminating a fetus.  It’s what Jesus would have done.

  • i just want to know why it’s against her religious beliefs to get an abortion but it’s not against them to have a baby implanted in you.
    aren’t both just like playing god?

  • @coolmonkey - didn’t even realize you wrote that before i wrote the same thing!

  • It would be hard, but absolutely. That little child has every right to live.

  • Well… if it was a case where the original family was intending to use the eggs to have a child then maybe I’d go ahead and have the kid and give it to them. I’m only saying this though because if I was to get myself artificially inseminated it would probably be because I wanted to have a kid anyways. lol.
    Also: it would give me first hand experience on pregnancy and whether or not I actually want to go through. lol.

  • Yep and then I’d sue the fertility clinic’s asses for effing that up. How horrible for her.

  • i would move out of the country.. and keep my baby. because i would be the one carrying and suffering with it for 9 months. and gaining all that weight. i’m selfish and therefore i would not give up MY baby.

  • This is truly heart-wrenching.

    I realize that whatever my response, I honestly do not know what it is to live this situation. Therefore it is much more simplified for me to answer.

    I want to say yes, if not just for the fact that I could have known that I can and did carry a baby once. What if she were to have the abortion and not be able to concieve again? (Worst case scenario, I know.)

  • I would not carry the baby to term.  I’m not equipped to carry a baby–except in my arms, in a carrier, etc. after it is born.

  • if i was a woman i would give up the baby. come on. the lady was having a tough time conceiving. so why not let her have a child to raise. i’m sure emotionally i would be a train wreck. words are cheap.

  • no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no

  • So its just like having an adoption, except giving birth to it. 

  • Yeah I would.  They were trying hard to have children, I can help them out by delivering them a healthy baby.

  • @supsoo - I agree, though I’d think I would feel very happy to help someone out with something that will give them some of the greatest happiness they will ever experience.

  • yes the baby doesn’t deserve to die

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