October 25, 2009

  • Picking a Babysitter

    I saw this question on misterpoll.com:

    African American

    Hispanic/Latino

    White

    Asian

    Middle Eastern

    Christian

    Atheist

    Homosexual

    Who would you least consider to babysit your children?

                                                    
                                  

Comments (112)

  • A really, really old person, or someone under 16.

  • Homosexual. they’ll fuck your kids

  • Middle eastern.  lol.

  • A human. By and large they’re untrustworthy =)

  • Any person who is extremely religious. I wouldn’t mind religious people in general, but I don’t want any one person to influence the religious view of my children. I’d rather they decide where their faith belongs and if to believe in a religion at all. As for race, I wouldn’t care. It would depend on the references, job experience, etc.

  • someone too old or too young. none of those are that big deal too disqualify them

  • PICK SOMEONE NAMED NOREEN!!

    I love kids….<3<3<3

    lol. 

    -_-

  • i agree with darkdestiny. any of the above means nothing at all because those are just labels and race. but a totally religious person would be a problem because of the general “i’m right and you’re wrong” attitude. 

  • I would pick someone I trusted.

  • Your picture is clearly biased as to the answer. It’s influencing our decision-making abilities. 

  • I don’t even know.  I try not to discriminate.

  • This isn’t on the list, but Mormon….sorry, just being honest.

  • @DarkDestiny666 - Never thought of that, good point!

  • Honestly, none of these would really factor into my decision. It would just be personality and experience.

  • If i’m trusting someone with my child.. i’d have to look into it, not just the race or religion, i’ll need a background check and everything!!

  • We usually had one of our parents the few times we went out, or a good friend. You don’t trust your kids to just anyone. I would not pick anyone on the list you have if I didn’t know them. Going out is not THAT important to put your kids at risk.

  • I’ve had friends, coworkers, babysitters and family members that are all of the above. The only problem I ever had with a babysitter was when I hired my friend’s 13-year-old daughter. 

  • I would hire any of the above the same if I trusted them.

  • Someone in high school or college who needs the money but is maybe a good kid :)  @striemmy - agreed :)

  • a religious fundamentalist definitely

  • @saintvi - haha i started babysitting at the end of 5th-grade. and then of course i thought i was old enough to, and now it’s like what the fuck?!! who would trust someone that young to be able to take care of their kids! even middle-school, the prime age for babysitting, seems WAY too young.

    …i’m probably going to be one of those crazy over-protective moms.

  • Christian.  Because I am one.  I would want my [nonexistent at this point] kids to be educated about different cultures/religions.

  • Whoever was praised the most by people that I know and trust. 

  • A dog. From what I’ve heard, that doesn’t always go well.

  • Big, small, short, tall. We’re all the same.

  • I’d be least likely to hire a stranger. Don’t have kids, but I will not let strangers watch them. Other than that, I don’t care.

  • haha what a volatile question. none of them are least qualified. but I guess, a homosexual/Mormon/pagan, if I had to choose. hey, you asked!

  • I only use family as babysitters.

  • @nodiadau - That’s a paedophile, fool.

  • Neither – ONE OF MY RELATIVES!

  • @BelisaAmbrose - dude, all gays are pedophiles.

  • None of the above.
    I wouldn’t leave my kid with some stranger. That’s what family is for.

  • @nodiadau - Why or How do you come to that conclusion?

  • @BelisaAmbrose - well… first of all, i’m joking.

  • The youngest/least experienced/least confident one.

    /shrug

  • Best answer I can give is Middle Eastern, because on average they are who I have the most difficulty understanding when they speak.  That’s really the only factor I can think of.

  • Whoever is trustworthy! 

  • whatever ethnicity mary poppins was.

  • This is an interesting thing…I was actually think about something very similar to this the other day (in terms of day care). I would have to say I would not choose the middle easterner.

  • @JessxMaxine - Amen. I don’t need my kid being indoctrinated by Skynet :P

  • I wholeheartedly think this is sexist and wrong but, my answer is “male.”

    Honestly, though, i would not let anyone babysit unless i personally knew the person for at least a year.  Right now, if my boyfriend and i suddenly had a baby (and this also applies to the daughter he already has), i would only trust his parents, my parents, my sister, and my best friend.  (As for his daughter, i also trust her mother.)  I’ve seen too many people–including most of my family–fucked up by “trustworthy” people, so i don’t trust anyone, regardless of race or religion.

  • Hispaic/Latino

  • Professionals.Well..maybe not…hmm
    Sounds like I am being overprotective.
    I might as well just babysit my own kids.

  • Anyone from an ad on craigslist.   I keep seeing ads asking for overnight babysitters, wanted THAT DAY! on craigslist… 

  • Hmmm…  That’s tough.  Assuming that all of the candidates have a good enough grasp on the English language to communicate with my kids, I’d have to say the Christian, depending on what kind of Christian they are.  If I feel that they can do their job without bringing religion into it and preaching to my kids, then why not?  Other than that, they would all have a fair chance with me.

  • Someone who has an active record or is a pedophile or someone who is really, really religious

  • if i had to choose one, i’d say christian.  leave my kid alone please.

  • Asian. I do not like them because they caused me a lot of trouble in the past by setting the curve too high >:(

  • Hispanic/Latino – There would be fiestas and shit going on when it should be naptime/bedtime for your kid.

  • christian. theyre always trying to convert people. 

  • It should have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with any of that.  I never would have anyone babysit my kids unless I knew them personally.  

  • i’d have to say Christian, because that’s the only religious category in there. There’s something fundamentally wrong with them. -_-

  • If I had kids I wouldn’t hire someone who was too old or too young or really religious. Because, I’d rather have my kids (if I ever kids) to choose what they believe in and not have someone that chooses for them. But really, I don’t know if I’d be trusting of someone I’d just met, I’d need to do a background check and things like that.

  • None of those matter to me. However…I wouldn’t pick a male babysitter.

  • I really don’t care.  I’d look at all their other attributes besides their race or sexual orientation.  Are they reliable?  Good with kids?  Clean?  On time?  Etc.  My only concern with a muslim would be that he or she might stop to pray periodically (if he or she is devout) and that my children would go unwatched.

  • The gay person. Cause if they are a guy they will make your children look fabulous. And if they are a lesbian they will teach your kids karate.

  • I wouldn’t want an extremist from any of those categories. ♥

  • o least consider? Prolly asian cause they beat their kids. Depends on how long they’ve been in America.

  • There isn’t really anybody I wouldn’t consider, but I’d have to trust them with my kids, I’d have to know them somehow.

  • @ShimmerBodyCream - That isn’t racist at all.

    Sarcasm ^

  • i wouldn’t get a babysitter for my kids.
    my family watches my son when I need it, no strangers.
    I don’t trust people

  • @DyingWhileIWaitToDie - I dont mean in terms of race I mean in terms of culture. Asians tend to beat their children and women more overseas. If they are americanized it isn’t a problem.

  • family or very close friends that I’ve known for years. or the daycare that she goes to, that has done background checks on every person that works there. although there is one dude there that makes me a bit uncomfortable….

  • @ShimmerBodyCream - Ahh, I see.

    I apologize for insinuating racism there.

  • The only baby sitter I use is my mom… and sometimes the in-laws… if I had to choose another babysitter, I wouldn’t base it on race, sexuality, or religion.  It would have to be a person I absolutely love, and that’s all there is to it.  I’m extremely anal over who has care over my children, which is why it’s always me.

  • I want the person I feel most comfortable with. It doesn’t matter if they are orange, green, blue, or pink; take great care of my kids and you are hired.

  • this poll would be valid if you had a picture of every type of person you described.
    I call this a Bullshit Poll.
    I have three kids, and never in my 16 yrs as a mother have i left them with a “sitter” WTF is that?
    Family , YEs. My parents, MY sisters, My cousin. BUt never a random stranger who i have to pay money too.=/

  • It would really just depend on the individual person.  Looking at the list I thought atheist, then I realized my BIL is one and I would totally trust him with my boys. So yeah you can’t judge a book by its cover!

  • sertainly i will pec up some who has a wake mind not bcz he’s black or whiteor asian……..

  • Christian, or really any religious person. I don’t want someone that prefers to believe in something with zero evidence to science, which has tons of evidence. It’s just not rational, and I need a rational person to keep my kid safe.

  • Someone who didn’t like kids. I would never hand any kids of mine to someone if I wasn’t certain that they would actually get along.

  • My son is 11 weeks old, so at this point, I still say NO ONE.  Seriously, right now, I’d want someone who is family and/or someone who has kids of their own.  I’m sure I’ll expand my considerations as time goes on, but letting your little one go for the first time is really hard.  Race/religion/etc. has no bearing.

  • Someone who’s all of the above?

  • Since no one’s said “Atheist” yet….! 

    They’d probably tell my kids the horrible truth about Santa and the Easter Bunny and what really happened to their Grandma…..! 

  • That is a really impossible question Dan. I would have to go with someone that I didn’t know. . . no matter what color, religion, creed, sexual orientation, etc.

  • @DarkDestiny666 - You’re way fanatic to the point of excluding your kids from other viewpoints. You ended up looking quite bigoted whereas  @velvetrevolverchick87  who is apparently Christian, looks quite open minded.

    Why not let your kids see different viewpoints, like she does?

  • Well, if the Hispanic didn’t speak English, then them, because they may not understand if my child needed something if they didn’t speak the same language. If they did speak English, then Homosexual would be my least.

  • It varies depends from person to person, everyone has flaws, and if we overgeneralize, then we’re not helping to eradicate racism. Excuse me, profiling.

  • None of those. None of them sound bad at looking after children… haha.

  • @MsKittyCatty - I find it interesting you say that. A Middle Eastern, an Asian, or any of those, really, could also not speak English.

  • @velvetrevolverchick87 - I like your answer. I would say the same. :)

  • @OhItWontBeForever - I suppose you’re right! I’ve just never met an Asian or Middle Eastern that didn’t speak English around here, but I have met plenty of Hispanics around who I can’t understand and who don’t understand me.

  • @MsKittyCatty - That makes it all the more interesting. That’s probably the case in the US, obviously, but living in the UK, I’ve seen many many more Asians and Arabs who don’t speak English than Hispanics. There aren’t even that many Hispanics here anyway! :)

  • @OhItWontBeForever - Yup, I definitely think it’s a regional thing! Lots of Hispanics here. And I remember seeing a lot more Middle Easterners when I went to Europe.

  • @MsKittyCatty - Yeah, they are a lot in England, and even more in France, Germany, Sweden and the likes. I guess because that’s closer to North Africa where a lot of (not necessarilly Middle Easterners, but) Arabs are. 

  • Race, sex, sexual orientation have nothing to do with it. I’d choose based on credentials and a background check. Someone’s race, gender or sexual orientation does not make them more or less likely to molest, rape or otherwise mistreat or neglect a child. Bad guys look just like the good guys, you can’t point out someone who is different from you and say, “monster!” and have it hold water. That’s why credentials and background checks are necessary.

    Even so, its still taking a risk to let anyone babysit your child, because you just never know. Just because they’ve got good credentials and they come up clean on a background check does not mean anything, necessarily. They may just not have gotten caught, yet. And you never know how well you know someone or not. :/ So nothing is fool proof. But, you can at least take as much precaution as you possibly can.

  • someone that I trusted.

  • Really, few know. When it comes to the kinds of internal biases that make you likely to reject a certain type of babysitter, if you’re self-aware enough to know which ones you have and honest enough to be willing to admit them then you’re definitely in the very small minority. Most just have no idea.  And most who do know would not out and say them in a public forum.

    No, most people are going to say that they’d only reject people based on generally accepted supposedly “neutral” criteria such as how safe the person is, how well they know the person, how honest the person is, or how much the person likes children. People will say it depends on the individual and that they’d take each incident on a case by case basis.

    The one exception to this is the borderline case of indoctrination which many consider an acceptable general non-biased criteria for rejection whereas others think it’s fine to choose someone who would “indoctrinate” their kids. I think the difference depends on whether the person thinks their children CAN be indoctrinated by a babysitter.IE if your world view is that children need to be sheltered by alternative ideas then you’re likely to reject anyone with strong opinions who might influence your children. But if your view is that kids needs exposure to lots of different views you’re likely to only have a problem if a single babysitter were spending so much time with the kids, that their strong world view became the primary influence on the kid and they weren’t also exposed to alternative perspectives.

    Indoctrination aside though, it’s way less interesting who people SAY they will allow to babysit their kids than who people actually DO allow to babysit their kids.

    For example if you were to study the data and see that lower middle class heterosexual males almost never selever a homosexual male to babysit their kids, then that might be an indication of a bias conscious or unconscious amongst lower middle class heterosexual males against homosexual males. On the other hands if those same lower middle class heterosexual males choose homosexual males to babysit their kids an inordinately large amount of the time then that might be an indicator of a bias in the other direction. Perhaps heterosexual males see homosexual males as safer by and large than heterosexual males. Or perhaps heterosexual males are concerned about the appearance of bias and OVER-correct by choosing homosexual males more frequently.

    Similar analysis can be done for all those categories.  And although I have no hard data I’d be willing to bet large amounts of money that there’s generally a similar community bias across most categories to some degree or another. People tend to want someone who they perceive as similar to them and the people they know and interact with on a regular basis to babysit their kids because those are the people that they generally associate with being “safe”. There are almost certainly additional biases that exceed and transcend that, but I’d bet that that’s the biggest bias that drives babysitting choices. I’m also pretty sure economic standing and political ideology also could be added to the list of biases that drive unconscious tests to see if a potential babysitter is sufficiently “safe”.

  • We’re talking about a babysitter….not a nanny, yes? I think some of these comments seem to refer to someone who is a full time nanny, not to someone who is going to watch your kids for 3-5 hours at a time. 

    To me, I have no problem with any of these as long as they are first aid and CPR certified and come with good recommendations.  And even the comments about “super religious people” is kind of silly, because how is a babysitter going to indoctrinate your kids in three hours? That seems silly to me.

  • So irrelevant.   I would never use anyone without any babysitting experience. Actually, I only use people with credentials (e.g. certificate/cpr training,etc) through an agency. 

  • Hmmm, I would ask a family member to watch my children. :b

  • I really hope you included “homosexual” to make some sort of point. They are not a different class of people, different gender, or different race; and homosexual certainly isn’t a synonym for “pedophile.”

  • religious extremists.
    people who don’t speak english
    super old people who wont be any fun
    my mother.

  • homosexual.
    i have a very dirty mind.
    i really dont trust anyone.

  • I’m probably going to get flamed for it, but I would be least likely to hire a homosexual.  As a devout Christian (no, I’m not a “homophobe” – that term assumes I’m afraid of them), I don’t want my children exposed until it is absolutely necessary that they be aware of that particular lifestyle.  Children will be exposed soon enough – I don’t want them exposed in their own home.

  • I would choose a babysitter who I knew personally and, prefereably, was a firend of mine and good with children.  That has nothing to do with their race, religion, or sexual preference.  I would be most reluctant to allow an atheist or homosexual to babysit my children because I am a Christian and would prefer that my babysitter have the same values system that I have and would like my children to have.  However, any babysitter who could babysit without imposing their beliefs or lifestyle on my children may be an acceptable choice.

  • Who would I consider least? Ouch, probably homos. Maybe I’m a bigot that way, but when kids are involved all the critics can go **** themselves….

  • I wouldn’t want someone if they’re really religious, as in they’ll preach to my kids or try to turn them towards their religion because I want them to be entitled to their own opinion. So if they find out that they want to be Christian it’s fine with me, as long as the babysitter doesn’t make it their life’s purpose to turn my kid Christian.
    But otherwise I don’t care unless the person is a wanted criminal, a pedo, a rapist, etc. 

  • If I absolutely had to choose based only on the above information… Christian.
    But that’s me assuming you mean one of those hardcore, TV preaching, healer type Christians.  I would not want anyone preaching to my child.

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