November 26, 2009
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My Birthday With a Photo of Me
I turned 38 today. I am now halfway to 76 years old. The average age a person lives to in the U.S. is 78 and women bring up the average. So I am probably halfway to my death.
It is probably time for a midlife crisis but once again this year I am not up for it.
My hair is turning gray. I took a special photo of it here for you.
Do you think it is right when they say men look better with gray hair?
Comments (148)
yes.
No, Dan, I don’t think that’s try.
Basically, people over 35 look better with gray hair. It looks natural on them.
My hair started going white when I was 16. Bleh. Can’t wait to grow into these white strands.
Happy birthday! ^.^
Happy Birthday (ya old fart)
Happy Birthday!!! That’s a very morbid way of looking at it, Dan…halfway to your death! One of my co workers’ hair has been turning gray, and he says his girlfriend won’t let him dye his hair because she thinks it looks distinguished. Well, I agree, and for you too Dan
Better start getting it dyed.
I think you mean true.
And depends on the guy.
Doesnt work for you. lol ♥
Happy Birthday.
you look distinguished ^.^
Happy Birthday, Dan, and Happy Thanksgiving
Happy birthday!!!!
I think it depends on the person. We cannot generalize and say every man looks great in gray hair, for we cannot tell until we see that person and I think that some do not look good in gray hair whereas some do.
I’d hit it.
Happy birthday
Happy birthday it shows experience
Happy Birthday old timer. Grey hair means nothing – don’t worry about it. Just work on changing your personality.
don’t know… ask the girls
Dan,you are like a young man,I was so surprised at the youth and energy that you have.
But for the record,I think that men only get better with age.
Happy Birthday my good friend.
Happy birthday, Dan!
men look handsome grey or bald even
Happy birthday
I think it depends on the guy.
My dad is 51 and barely has any gray hair. And yes, he still has hair.
Happy birthday!
I’ll be 33 in Jan and I’ve got more than enough gray hair now. Half tempted to dye it.
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!
I think men look much better with gray hair =)
Happy worthday honey. Beauty is inner, no matter how outer is:)
I think its fine on a guy…actually. It does depend on the guy!
Haha, Happy birthday and happy thanksgiving, I think men can grow more distinguihed looking with grey hair, as women dont always.
Seems to me you found a creative angle to take a photo with =P
I think you’re either older than 38, or you’re aging rather quickly.
Better than what?
Not at your age dan, lol, get some “just for men” and yeeehaw. At 50 salt and pepper hair is sexy.
Happy Birthday!! I think some men look great with Grey hair, I. E. Anderson Copper, George Clooney, ect. I have grey had, I’ve had it since I was born…but just a few.
YES!!! And Happy Birthday to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We’re having this BIG dinner today with all my friends and relatives to celebrate your birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hope you have a great day with much to be thankful for! BIRTHDAY Hugs!!! 
You look like George Clooney. He seems to do ok.
Happy birthday Dan-o! and happy thanksgiving!
Happy birthday Dan.
I think you look very extinguished.
Happy Birthday. I think men look a lot better with gray hair than women do.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Sexy party with the gray hair!
Happy Birthday Dan!
ha .. what a society we have, men look good w/grey hair – women look old … go figure
Well, in your case, it’s pretty impossible to tell since it’s a picture of a patch of your head and your shoulder and not an actual picture of you, you chicken. HBD
Happy Birthday Dan….WOW,I remember when you had brown hair
Depends.
Happy birthday!
That’s not a picture of you, that’s a picture of your ear.
On the other hand, happy birthday.
Depends on the guy and the distribution of gray hair. On some guys it just makes them look older, on others a splash of gray makes em look distinguished.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Happy birthday! I wish you all the best and stay as you are!
Yep. You’ve got a case of the Cloones!
YES. IT IS FUCKING HOT. SALT AND PEPPER IS THE BEST. Seriously, though, not because of looking distinguished either. It is sexy. Very sexy. You can thank George Clooney for popularizing the sexiness factor.
Yes.
@onlyxlovexremains - Agreed!
Wait ’til you hit 50!
I think some people do look good with it. you included!
happy birthday!!
Every girl loves a silver fox…You are no exception!! Happy Birthday Dan!!!
Happy Birthday Dan!! I hope it’s a wonderful day for you. And happy thanksgiving too.
I’m collecting new ones. I’ll let you know what people say about my hair when I start to look like bride of Frankenstein.
Happy Birthday, Dan.
Grey hair = distinguished for a man.
Try being a girl! Its harder on us to get older!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! (told you I wouldn’t forget!)
happy birthday
I certainly hope it’s right, Dan–otherwise, I’m in trouble.
One of my best friends turned 38 on Tuesday.
I hope your birthday is a happy one.
Salt and pepper hair is dignified. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday Dear Dan… Happppppy birthday to you. We think you’re neato that’s why we talk about you so darn much. :0)
I think men look really nice with greying hair.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
I’m very very glad to have met you.
*hugs&love*
Happy Birthday, Dan! I hope you have a great day!
i hope you have a good birthsgiving.
hahaha.
Happy Birthday
Happy Birthday! (:
@ghostcomplex - LOL
Did you have a party, Dan? I don’t care if people say they look better with gray hair.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
@HisKeiki - i kinda made it sound like he was giving birth. oops. haha.
Happy birthday, Dan! I’d give you a mini, but let’s face it you already have enough credits.
Graying hair honestly makes a man seem more modest somehow, which is very appealing to a lot of women. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and birthday.
@ghostcomplex - Lmao, and now Dan is popping out babies. What will he think of next?!
HBD
Happy birthday!
ps. Gray hairs have to come eventually and yes, they can still look attractive.
lol. sometimes.
it depends on the guy.
happy birthday and happy thanksgiving.
xo
haha loving ‘I am not up for it’
get keen, Dan, get keen!
Happy Birthday.
Grey hair suits most men.
@CrazyKey123 - he’s going to make an army, hahaha.
Grats on getting older.
At least the grey hair makes you look more dignified and full of wisdom and stuff.
i’m getting a few grays. my dad started graying at 19. yah. but i kinda like it. he also gave me my freckles.
and happy birthday
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Happy birthday!
And I thought you have Mr Spock’s ears?? Hmm… damn stupid gossip mongers….tsk tsk…
Yer only 4 years older than me, and you look more like 15 years older, at least. Sad.
Happy Birthday!
I don’t know the answer to that question but I don’t mind women with gray hair, it looks better on some – natural.
Happy Birthday
Happy birthday! :] Grey hair just turns a cute guy handsome.
No grey hair means your old, and not good looking.
e.g.
“ewww, how old do you think he is?”
“I don’t know he must be old, his hair is grey!”
I plan on dying before I have a grey hair appear. Women/ladies never look good with grey hair.
As long as you keep your monotone, subtle sarcasm, everything in the Xanga world will be right.
Happy birthday Dan! Grey hair can be distinguishable I say.
It’s your crown of glory dude.
Dear Dan,
Mine is silver. What’s left of it anyway. I think both men and women look better “natural” than when they color their hair.
Happy birthday.
Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool
Happy birthday, Dan!
happy birthday :]
I think it looks good. =)
happy birthday!
Having grey hair is better than being dead. Might even qualify one for a senior’s discount. But I don’t think I agree when ‘they’ say men look better with grey hair. Looks good on many people, but no need to consider it a truism.
Happy Birthday! Gray hair is something to be proud of. It means you’re alive! lol
Happy birthday! =]
Happy Birthday!
I don’t think a photo of your ear and a patch of your hair qualifies as a photo of you. Call me nit-picky.
Scripture says, by the way, that a greying head is a crown of glory and wisdom. Wear it proudly.
happy birthday dan!
grey ftw
Happy birthday, Dan. (:
happy birthday and happy thanksgiving!
happy birthday (=
We’d need to see a picture of your WHOLE FACE before we can accurately decide.
Happy Birthday and some men do (you pull it off nicely) =)
Just think… with gray hair, you look more and more like Harrison Ford. And he’s considered sexy.
…Not the right thing to say?
too bad you didn’t die
Hm… it depends. xD Happy birfday!!!!!!!!!
Happy birthday old man
SHOW US YOUR BOOBS.
happy birthday
we can’t all look like george clooney
Happy Birthday Dan!
Yes, it’s true, too bad it doesn’t work as well for women.
Depends on the guy. I’d comment on your good looks but it’d help if there was more than a grainy shot of one ear to work with.
I think so… it looks distinguished, man.
happy birthday!!!!!
mmm, you should ask Mrs. TheoCafe what she thinks.
personally, i hope i get white hair. a snow white ‘fro. that’ll be me.
Happy Birthday, Dan. you’re hardly old, though. we’ll soon be in the same decade.
Remember how long a week used to seem when you were say, seven? And now that same period just zips by doesn’t it? Our perception of time is non linear, it’s inversely proportional to the time we have already experienced. You’re not halfway to death, you’ve hurtled past the 75% stage already.
Happy birthday!
I’m glad you aren’t up for a middle-age crisis. It has been a ruin of many a poor man.
Happy Birthday, again.
And, yes, I think some men actually grow into themselves when the gray hair appears. Not all, but I have seen pictures of men in their 20′s and 30′s who looked absolutely ridiculous at the time, but end up looking very distinguished in their 40′s, 50′s and beyond. Maybe it is the hair, maybe it is the filling out of the body, who knows? I just know that they look a lot better.
Yep. Dr. Drew is my #1. Happy Birthday Dan!
Happy Birthday and Happy Thanksgiving, Dan! So you turned 38 today! I turned 78 yesterday! Which means I had my 40th birthday the day before you were born!
As to this thing about the average person in America living only to the age of 78, that may be so, but are you merely an average person? I don’t accept that fate for myself or I would be reconciled to the fate of dying before my next birthday! A few years ago an old friend of mine died at the ripe old age of 106, and he was still in his right mind and able to carry on an intelligent conversation!
Here’s wishing you good health, happiness, and many more productive and fulfilling years!
God bless you Dan!
hell no, I love my grey and take special pains not to cover it when dying my hair silly colors!
Happy birthday. I think men with gray hair look OK, as long as they don’t hit on me =)
You look a little older than your age.
Happy birthday!
Don’t be sad, in China,a man who is in 40 is the greatest year!!
Midlife crisis? Are you kidding me? My mom’s older than you…
Nice picture.
I don’t know if it’s right or not but since I can’t get my hubby to dye his I guess I’m gonna find out!
Oh and I almost forgot. Hope you had a great birthday and felt like it was an actual celebration and not just tacked on at the end!
Men get better looking with age, but men who only show a portion of the face are dorks………I’m just sayin’
Oh Happy Birthday – You are still younger than ME!
Just because someone has lots of gray already doesn’t mean they’re lying about their age. I was 25% gray by the time I was 19 and so was my mom. I was completely gray by 30. It’s an inherited thing.
As for the primary question of it being wrong to say that men look better with gray hair….well…it is what it is. I don’t see it as a right or wrong thing. Because our culture has different ideals for men and women, it means we are more likely to see gray hair as more attractive on a man than on a woman. Why? Because youth and fertility are what we want to see in women…shiny hair, the full coloring of youth (even if it comes from makeup), large breasts, full hips….those are all things you usually see in young, still fertile woman.
Men however, are seen more in terms of providing and protecting, so gray hair and even wrinkles on a guy seem attractive because they represent age, maturity, stability. Being young isn’t as important in a man (as far as cultural generalizations go) because let’s face it, technically men can produce offspring until…well…until the day they die. Age doesn’t have nearly the impact on their fertility like it does women.
So I don’t think it’s a matter of right or wrong. I think it’s just some sort of innate inclination to see attractiveness in the opposite sex in terms of youthfulness and fertility.
happy bday!!
Cute!
Salt and pepper hair is cool, Dan. But then I’m a little biased….lol.
Hey! I that’s the same shirt I saw you wearing last time. haha
Gray hair on men is sexy – particularly around the temples. I was thrilled when Kevin started turning gray. He always reminded me that it was a sign of wisdom, according to the scriptures. Nothing more attractive than a wise man, Dan!
And happy birthday!
I’m 24 and I’m already balding (mostly around the front). If you look closely, you can see it on my profile pic. I think it started happening around my Jr. yr. in High School or my Soph. yr. in college.
isnt it too early for the whites?
38? my dad had his around 45. you’ve got a few more years before you really freak out.
Happy Belated Birthday! It was my birthday too!
Men get better and more distinguished looking as they age. Soooo not fair =P
How about this: I will go through my midlife crisis for you? I am pretty sure I am in the middle of at least one of the few I am destined to have. Grey hair looks better than bad black dye job.
Don’t worry too much Dan, I know a few people in the Army who are early in their 30s and graying out worse. Work with what you have.
happy late birthday!
I think gray hair is cool. Happy belated birthday.
I feel your pain. My birthday was yesterday. In my family, (historically speaking) males only live to be in their 50′s and only once has anyone made it past 60 and that is my 84-year-old grandfather. Said grandfather is also the only one that does not have a certain condition that all the males in the family tend to have that we suspect is behind the early deaths. I am, by that definition, middle aged. My background makes me wonder though… I mean, if someone has that background and is single, would it then be better to just give up on the idea of ever having a family? Would it be selfish to want to eventually pursue it, knowing the probability of having death leave the individual’s kids without a father?
I think some people look better with grey hair. At least the “salt and pepper” thing looks okay, but the “white grey” doesn’t look very good on anyone