December 2, 2009
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Cheating: Could Tiger Help Himself?
Tiger woods has admitted on his website to “transgressions” and also admitted “I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves.” Here is the link: Link
Now Tiger is married to a woman that was a model. In other words, she is an attractive woman.
Do you think some men are just wired to cheat?
Comments (103)
Perhaps he got bored of her.
Me? I have yet to find a man who has not..
No. Some people are just dumb and immoral.
Nope, and not all models are necessarily attractive.
Negativo, my querido Watson.
@striemmy - How can you get bored of someone who takes a golf club to your windshield?
no, some are wired assholes
Dear Dan,
9192 comments on his post. Now THAT’s fame.Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool
Maybe his wife cheated first.
Well, if you’re failing a class, you’re bound to take desperate measures or else end up on academic probation, and that’s no fun.
Everyone is wired to cheat on everything. That does not remove the responsibility to respect marriage vows.
hybris
@ItsWhatEyeKnow - It still wouldn’t make it right though…
no, they’re just assholes.
@forever_4_real - I agree. My comment was my way of pointing out that we have no idea what’s going on in their relationship.
I just think some men are douchebags.
@ShimmerBodyCream - LOL, I do so love your responses.
Generally, we all look out for ourselves, our wants/desires, etc. Love is putting someone else before ourself. So “cheating” is our choice to put that selfishness (me) before others.
hmmm what’s that saying? …a man is only as faithful as his options…?
no one is wired to cheat or anything else. it’s a choice we all make.
No, but some people are selfish and stupid.
Some men just think with the wrong head.
He was wrong, let me get that straight. If he cheated he was wrong, but you gotta realize that there’s a difference between going looking to cheat, and being seduced by someone who makes it her aim in life to sleep with big name stars. Yeah, he was stupid, but this is a whole lot different situation than a guy looking for a strange woman. At least as it appears it is.
many men(esp. the wealthy ones) tend to think they deserve more. so he’s a sleazebag…what’s new?
I think he’s a dumb ass for risking his family like that.
wired to cheat? Oh please. All humans are wired to sin if that is what you mean, but a little self control goes a long way.
There is NEVER a valid excuse for cheating. Ever.
Yes. We all are tempted everyday, but we still do the right thing.
I don’t think attractiveness is the only thing that influences cheating. It’s ridiculous to think that because his wife is attractive he’s “wired” to be a cheater…
@Peridot21 - Exactly. And if one of his options buys him a Chia Pet from the pharmacy, well he’ll probably not be too faithful to that option.
There’s always choice. He screwed up because he wanted to. That’s not wiring, that’s selfishness.
I think we’re all wired for temptation, but in the end, it’s a choice. Such a disappointment. I know he’s a celebrity and isn’t above anyone else, but I always respected the fact that he managed to live what seemed to be a… what’s the word… ‘normal’ life instead of always being in the tabloids or going all crazy.
if he even cheated in the 1st place….it seems that’s what expected of relationships in the spotlight.
what i want to know is, if the paps/media are so much in your business, how can you not think you’d get caught?
@Rob_of_the_Sky - hahaaa …ok that’s it, i’m returning The Clapper too …no gift for you! ;P
@Peridot21 - Why do you gotta be like the Soup Nazi? He denied me my soup because I wanted some bread. Now you’re denying me my The Clapper.
Relationships go deeper than looks. Halle Berry was cheated on. Eva Longoria was cheated on. Fergie was cheated on. The list goes on and on and the only lesson that nobody speaks of is that relationships if they are successful are deeper than being based on just looks. Now celebrities like Woods get practically jumped by women looking to get with him. You can take Tiger to task but all those women knew he was married also. It takes two to tango…
nope..some are just born ignorant.
People should stuck to the old ways. Stick to the proven values of the past, stick to the methods that time has tested and found to always be true.
In short, he should say “I was drunk.”
iono do you think so? in a guy’s perspective.
That’s definitely learned behavior. Most behaviors are and can be modified with patience, practice, and perseverance.
@Rob_of_the_Sky - I always forget we’re playing this game!!
@RaVnR - Yes. Yes we are.
I think that we all have the ability to cheat but I don’t think that it is something we naturally tend to do. IT is a choice and a stupid one at that.
Some men are really dogs and some men are really men.
No men can do what they will them selfs to do. They cheat or do not cheat based on the strength of their character.
@ShimmerBodyCream - @zombiejuices - @SilverBird_Loves - @Peridot21 - Perhaps, just perhaps, he thinks that her alone isn’t enough. maybe he wants two people to love instead of one.
idgaf.
@Gerald_Washington - I’m not sure if you’re trolling or not, but I’ll keep my redhead temper under wraps either way.
If that’s the case he shouldn’t have gotten married. /end
@lightnindan - cheating is cheating. it doesn’t matter if he went to look for an affair or someone seduced him and had a one night stand. He still went over the line. He has a brain therefore no one can force him to do anything other than him.
hate to say it, but the billions and the lifestyle play a factor. no excuse and he is a jerk for risking his family and he WILL REGRET it.
But you should really stay single if your that rich, that young and that worldy. Jerk and shallow thing to say, but just the truth for a alpha-male athlete.
Plenty of females cheat too…
humans are wired to be polyamorous, and then some take it further…
One of Tiger’s exes came forward and said that while they have sex he loves to yell ‘It’s in the hole, it’s in the hole!” Maybe his wife cut him off from sex because she didn’t like hearing that every time so he had to cheat to meet his needs.
I think some men just want what they don’t have.
Since when was attractiveness of your partner the basis for your level of morality to cheat? Clearly attractiveness means nothing if your personality is shit.
@SnOwY_x_II - you’re right, but the one would be easier to take than the other. That said, the new news coming out makes it appear that it was more than just a short seduction and one night stand. It appears it was at least one affair that lasted almost 3 yrs. Hard to find extenuating circumstances for that one.
Maybe he just wanted to be around someone who wouldn’t swing on him with a golf club.
Any man or woman is capable of cheating on their spouse if they don’t guard their heart. She could’ve cheated on him just as easy as he did on her. Was he wrong ? YES!
nope, people just make dumb and selfish choices.
meh.
She probably wouldn’t do the things he wanted in the bedroom. And ya know what? One life.
i think some people have so much that they get addicted to more and that more turns to sex. i am sure we will see Tiger at the betty Ford clinic for sex addicts soon.
@zombiejuices - I’m not trolling.
Kurt Vonnegut a famous(?) author made the same theory.
all men are wired to cheat if we’re using that word…
Saying that some people are wired to cheat is an excuse for immoral behaviour. I would not put the blame on biology. Some men are just disrespectful and unable to control themselves. Tiger Woods is a man who is presented with many opportunities. Considering his status and reputation, I’m sure he feels a great sense of entitlement and he does not care for anyone but himself and his own needs. With that kind of mentality, it’s no wonder he committed those indiscretions.
Yes, I do believe that there are just someone men who cheat to cheat. I don’t think they are HARD-wired to cheat. Just unable to resist temptation.
on a side note… Tiger crashed his car not far from where I live and was in the hospital of Ocoee which is literally like two miles from my house. Coolness for golf fans.
@CuaSo - Well said.
hotness (former model) does not equal “satisfying”.
not that I’m condoning cheating.
Hot girls don’t put out.
Tiger Woods aside, I think humans are not meant to be monogomous. A brief look at history tells you monogomy is the exception (think back to even elizabethan England ); if it was easy to be monogomous, would two of the ten commandments deal with controlling our desires and actions toward the opposite sex?; and last women need 9 months to conceive and breed, while men just need 2 minutes. Ha.
Tiger is an Alpha, he must do as many as possible!
No. I think we (as in everyone) get lonely with who we have & go looking for love somewhere else. Simple as that. Not just guys cheat.
That gives them a free pass, if you ask me. I really don’t care if they’re just wired to cheat or not. One of the major reasons that we are separated from the rest of the animal kingdom (although not the only major reason) is that we have the ability to reason, to stop ourselves from acting purely on instinct or purely on what we WANT to do rather than what we SHOULD do.
There is no excuse for cheating. I don’t like hearing the, “i couldn’t help myself” excuse, or the “humans are not meant to be monogamous” excuse, or anything like them. Whether we’re hardwired to be monogamous or not doesn’t mean jack. Why? We aren’t just animals dragging our knuckles in the jungles and humping anything we meet to make as many babies as we can.
Human beings are above such base instincts, because we can suppress them. Should we? Well, that’s another debate entirely. To answer the question of this post, I think he could have helped himself if he seriously wanted to. The operative phrase there would be, “if he wanted to”
Now, that being said, I don’t condemn people forever for cheating. I think it shows a real character flaw and I probably wouldn’t trust a guy, myself, to be in a relationship with me if I knew he’d cheated on a prior girlfriend/wife in the past. But, that doesn’t mean I’d hate them forever and never have anything to do with them again.
As far as I’m concerned, whether or not he cheated on his wife has nothing to do with the things he endorses or with his golfing skills. Of course, he’s in the limelight, so just because it has nothing to do with those things doesn’t mean that other people are going to treat this as separate issue.
Uh I think she’s a psycho bitch. The ACTUAL story is that they had a tiff inside, he raced out of the house and drove down his driveway to get away, she chased him with a golf club. He crashed, and instead of her going back into the house to call 911, she took his golf club and started smashing the car. That’s why there’s SO MUCH damage to the car.
Psycho bitch. No one’s perfect, leave the man alone, but she’s a frigging psycho. Like Kate from Jon and Kate +8, I think she was asking for it.
I didn’t know he married Micheal Jackson.
I agree, Obama should not have been elected
no, that is just an exuse. Cheating is cheating no matter who is doing it. I am sick of hearing the “boys will be boys” theory.
I need to read more stuff. Tiger Woods?? Cheating? Whaat
Actually, he is exactly true to his values. People act according to their values and who they are. Cheating on a spouse is a choice made based on one’s character.
Most men when wealthy, famous, and powerful tend to think they are above the law. When away from home and beautiful women throw themselves at them they often weaken and cheat. Oh I don’t know some people just cheat both men and women. A few don’t.
only about 97% of all men are wired to cheat. the others can’t get it up!
@gwacemom@momaroo - hahahahaha
This just proves why more women than men suffer depression
I believe all men are wired to sleep around. It’s up to them to control themselves.
It isn’t just men who cheat… The grass is greener, we want what is forbidden to us, moments of weakness happen… The problem… some things cause us more pain than pleasure, and after we’ve allowed this intense pain into our lives, we may learn from the experience.
Wire to cheat? No, it’s a concious decision.
I think she is one of the most beautiful women, so obviously it was a bad decision
Nope. He didn’t have to do it. He made a choice.
As for her being an attractive woman, who knows? I’ve known plenty of beautiful looking people that were unpleasant to be around. Looks aren’t everything.
Could Tiger help himself? Yes and he did, he just kept helping him self to more and more and more cheating…
So, just because a woman is attractive a man shouldn’t want to cheat.
Has anyone thought the possibility that she could have a very unattractive personality?
i don’t know the whole circumstance of his situation and I really don’t give two hoots.
but your remark on him being married to someone who use to model and being attractive set off my wanting to leave this comment.
No. People can control themselves..If you’re really unhappy in a relationship, break it off and THEN go find someone else. You can never justify cheating.
Women are just as likely to cheat as men are.
what dose it mean “wired to cheat”?
All men lust, I believe all men can also discipline themselves.
Its an ego thing.
His wife and Michael Jackson have the same nose.
Yeah, I think people just get bored and the every day life tasks take the fun out of the bedroom.
I said earlier he is an Alpha Male and so yea he is wired to cheat……..But he should strive to be a Master Beta Male…….
@gwacemom@momaroo - Actually those who generalize are…..wouldn’t you agree?
@RdKingClassic03 - No, I wouldn’t . My statement read very clearly “some” men. I see no generalizing in that statement.
Interesting article on that: http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2009-12-02/mistress-lookalikes/?cid=hp:beastoriginalsL3
Of course we are wired to cheat. Fortunately we can overcome our internal wiring if we want.
Maybe his wife can’t satisfy him.
maybe simply: he was not in love with her in the first place to begin with, and neither was she. He told his mistress his marriage was ‘loveless and sexless’. or either he is just stupid
does it REALLY matter if she is a former model? After awhile, even that sort of superficial attractiveness wears off.
No. It’s called ‘self-control.’