January 27, 2010
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Sexual Bending
I was just reading an article about a high school that was attempting to stop kids from dancing in a way that was seen as sexual. The school has outlawed “sexual bending” and other activities like “touching of breasts, buttocks, or genitals.” They have also been told “Both feet must remain on the dance floor at all times” which is how I dance. (I am not sure how that works with dancing). Here is the link: Link
But that is not what I want to focus on. I want you to look at the photo that came with the article.
Is the dancing in the photo “too close” for high school dancing?
Comments (107)
nnnaaahhh. let the kids dry hump!
haha, I’d tell them good luck with that. HSer’s are going to dance sexually more often than not.
If they aren’t dancing that way at school–they are doing it elsewhere.
Well, I’m going to have to assume that their student population includes no people of carribean descent.
It’s not dancing unless you’re grinding on a wang. kthnx
I don’t think so.
OMG THEY’RE HAVING SEX!!!!1!111
you can’t dance with both feet on the ground. that’s a quick way to fail at Dance Dance Revolution.
those kids are just practicing for college.
@striemmy - i was about say something like that.
How do we even know they are dancing? Maybe they are on a really crowded bus.
They’re not even dancing!
I personally will never dance that way as it is contrary to my values..but…i think that rule is stupid and there is no way they can have a “school dance” and still enforce that rule.
Oooh… I did not dance like that in high school. That’s repulsive.
The kids could argue that what they are doing in that photo is not actually dancing. Therefore creating a legal loophole. But then again, these are public school kids; they ain’t too bright.
@dlmcniel - yeah. the lady who kicked me out of the dance thought that too. but i think its cause she was a lesbo and wanted me
how does telling us to keep two feet on the floor at all times prevent them from grinding? hahahaha i dont understand. and get the fuck over it, strict uptight people hahaha. at least our clothes are on.
It’s all about the message you’re trying to send. And by shoving your butt into a guy’s crotch, like that girl seems to be doing, you’re sending some pretty strong signals. Nothing is sacred to kids anymore.
That aside, making them keep both feet on the ground? That may be a bit extreme. But at least it reassures me that the public school system (I’m assuming it’s a public school) is only 95% in the crapper, and not 100% like I thought.
This is a dreadful error: you have used the wrong pic! The young people shown are actually attempting to mingle their life force, or “chi,” in order to achieve world peace, prolonge the Age of Aquarius, and fortify their growing bodies against such illnesses as cancer, aids, bad breath and flatulence.
yes.
@ShimmerBodyCream - most unfortunate however, I was the one cutting a rug solo while my date was elsewhere… all night.
@dlmcniel - yeah I was dancing solo too. kicked out anyway. lame
If they don’t do it at the school dances then they’ll just do it afterwards. Assuming of course that they don’t decide to just skip the dance altogether.
Keeping both feet on the dance floor even bans walking on the dance floor so I guess everyone is supposed to shuffle their feet to get out there and then just wave their arms?
“Both feet on the ground” ??? If standing still or swaying is dancing for them, I wonder what they think about breakdancing. Or ballet.
Re: kids in the picture… No way I’d be the girl sandwiched in between crotches… I like subtlety.
@MsKittyCatty - yeah, that’s what I would want to say, too.
…she looks like she’s going to lose that tank-top.
I find it incredibly funny that “bumping” and “grinding” is too informal for their official school code… it would at least clear up confusion and lessen the margin for error.
so, what, the chicken dance is coming back in style now or something?
They are going to burn!!!
Tag Team! 2 boners at once.
not really appropriate for school.
lols.. that’s what happens at my high school dances. x.x
@ShimmerBodyCream - Or in my case it’s not dancing unless someone is grinding on my wang. kthanx.
Well, one can do the wave with both feet plated on the floor. Though, it would be difficult to, well walk with both feet remaining firmly on the floor.
high school? i think so, life should be easier then—-now if your thirty and decide to behave as if you did not have good breeding-by all means–once or twice THEN decide to only dance at home with your husband expressing fun and sexuality! I am not at all stuffy—but manners are free, it would be superfantastic if more people freely used them. a
I don’t think it’s too much to ask for a little modesty in public from a bunch of irresponsible teens. Yup, it’s too close for my taste.
let me laugh… how about “sexual bending” when not close to someone? This kinda dance exists, I’ve been to a club where it was pretty much girls on one side against a wall and guys on the other side facing them, with the exception of a few couples. There are even more explicit dances than this but I won’t even start on those, it’s just dancing.
@scrambledmegsntoast - Good point. Quite possible, yes. Haha
Well, no one even showed up to high school dances back when I was there simply because no one cared.
How do you dance like a fool with both your pants AND your feet on the ground?!?! I don’t get it!
But really, I think I probably danced like that in high school and I was as innocent and naive as could be. The fact that it looks like bumping uglies never occurred to me…
My high school didn’t allow back-to-front dancing at all. The chaperones stood on the chairs that ran around the perimeter of the cafeteria where we had all of our dances.
umm kinda.. >.<
well I don’t think it’s appropriate for schools because it looks more like a strip club instead of a HS dance. but if I were at a party or something with the bf then I might… lol
Banning something usually makes it worse, so I’ll go with ‘FUCK NO’
Kind of a loaded question for me.
First, I don’t even know what the hell dancing is considered anymore.
Second, my daughter is 10 and the thought of her doing something like that (with full knowledge that is most likely is more than possible) makes me want to scream.
But, dancing, hmmmmm, dunno.
probably.. but they look old.. not like high school students.
telling them not to will only escalate the issue. 3footloose
Both feet on the floor? Yup, um, good luck with that.
There will always be conflict between the adults and the kids over dancing. Remember when they use to bring around a balloon and you had to be at least that distance apart from your partner? (Or at least that is something I saw in the movies.)
it depends on how provocative they are being. but in general, no, grinding is fun.
it’s not like they’re having sex or anything.
No grinding and no sandwiching, it seems. Good cause both should be left to drunk, horny adults at clubs who will go home with blue balls.
they could just caqncel all school dances instead – and save themselves a lot of headache.
you shouldve seen my high school and junior high school dances. some girls litterally got on the floor doggie style and it was a dance move hahhaa. it was insane. this picture is NOTHING compared to what I saw when I was 12.
I don’t think they should be grinding, or dance humping at high school dances. The key is to set clear rules before the party. In school, before the dance, administration should clearly state, “There’s a time and place for everything. No humping or inappropriate touching at our high school dance or you’ll have to sit it out.”
harmless grind.
Fucking puritan shit. Let ‘em grind and rub their crotches together, says I.
If they want topolice the way kids dance they should probably just quit having them altogether. I mean, you can show a presence of accountability with adults who pull the random couple (or group) apart and shake a finger at ‘em, but they’re still going to dance like that if they feel like it. It’s exciting and they want to try it.
Really the only way to stop the trend would be for parents and teens to have a solid relationship in which they discuss and accept that our bodies are precious things, not objects for other people’s entertainment. That way teens would think for themselves and not even want to be dry-humping on the dance floor.
Such a drastic solution, I know.
~V
They might as well say “No ethnic movement.”
High school dances were lame in my days.
LOL
But I think that might be too close. Only because I’m not down with that! I wouldn’t want two guys crowding me.. I’d probably end up hitting both of them!
HAHA!
kids these days
Yes. They should call it bumping and grinding because that’s really what they are doing. I don’t know what parent would think it’s OK for their teenage daughter to be sandwiched between two boys, hips aswivel. There’s no way this is close to appropriate.
I remember people doing things like this in high school but back then they were in the minority. Most kids were there to dance and have fun. This was the mid to late 90s. Am I really that old? LOL
hah at my high school we couldn’t be too close either. we have people walking around watching kids. it was kind of lame but at the same time eliminated that “awkward” factor when kids next to you start making out or someone “accidentally” swipes a… part of you…..Â
yep. that is to graphic. if i was a parent and showed up to pick my daughter up at a high school dance and found her dancing with guys like that……well lets just say i would be going to jail caus i would have to administrate some ass beatings
what are they allowed to do?
the kids should be allowed to dance at their dance.
hilarious.
I think dancing with two feet on the floor is probably impossible. BUT, they shouldn’t be grinding like that at school. Look at that picture! I know I wouldn’t my high school daughters dancing like that.
Well… as for the “keep your feet planted on the ground” ordeal… I’ve been recently enlightened about a certain dance move that does not require the feet planted on the ground from the show Jersey Shore, when the girl hops onto the guy while he’s standing, straddling him from the front, and grinds him like that. Anddd… I’m sure all the teens have been watching Jersey Shore, since it’s the newest “cool” thing to watch (though, not gonna lie, I’ve watched it too…and enjoyed it… I just don’t think it’s a show for teens to be watching tho). So.. they probably think all the stuff they do on the Shore is the cool thing to do (which I think is dumb. I just watched it for entertainment).
no
Adults should spend less time obsessing over the sexuality of underage kids. Geez, people, kids dancing like that is nothing new. So long as the teens are only doing it with each other, shocked adults should go look at something else.
Yeah, that’s too much for a high school dance. I know people say that if they’re not doing it at school, they’re doing it elsewhere. Yeah, well, advocating it at a high school dance isn’t exactly sending the best message, is it? Not sure about that two feet on the ground thing, though.
@The44thHour - LOL!! Wait, is it bad that I laughed?
@s_a_r_a_h_1 - yep, better dry humping than… well, yeah, than the alternative. @dani9512 - I know, right? Like, just exactly what do the school officials want the students to do?
It’s really gross and trampy.
haha. I can just see the HIGH SCHOOL DANCE POLICE. “Sir, your left foot is in the air. Please replace it on the ground.” “Ma’am! Ma’am, one metre safety gap!!”
uh i dont know what that pic is about, doesnt look bad at all.
although, i understand what high school dances can be like, i remember it being very vulgar and crazy
Well schools have codes they have to follow for both students and teachers, so I guess as long as the students are not humping the teachers then in todays society, it is all accepted.
That really looks akin to a dry hump, to me. If that’s how they want to dance, then let them…outside of school. Wherever it is that they meet, at parties that are not sponsored by the school.
It is nothing new that schools do not like “dirty dancing,” and the like. Its been something schools will stop whenever they see it happening at one of their sponsored dances or whatever. I don’t see how this is even news enough to make an article. :p
And, I’m sure what they meant by the feet being on the floor at all times is not quite as literal as you are taking it. It probably just means that the students aren’t allowed to put, for example, one leg around the waist of their dance partner to make for easier dry humping.
I read the article and I don’t feel that the punishments are inappropriate. Students will know beforehand how to behave and what to expect. If they choose to break the rules and freak dance (what we called it when I was in school) anyway, then they will just have to take the consequences. If that means no dance privileges for the rest of the year and they miss out on some very important dance, that is their fault entirely. If they didn’t know the rules, that would be one thing. But, if they just choose not to read the rules, or choose to ignore the rules, that’s not an excuse to get out of the punishments set in place before the dance even began and that were sent out with the notice.
I have no sympathy for people who break the rules and then go, “but its not fair that you’re punishing me this way!” and I have even less sympathy for them when they knew what the punishment would be beforehand. And, I roll my eyes at parents who coddle their children and more or less essentially say, “I agree, we knew about this beforehand and we understood the punishments, but that doesn’t mean they should really be enforced, we thought you were bluffing!”
I hope that none of that happens here.
Also, I just wanted to say one more time, these kinds of rules and punishments are not abnormal for schools. If you don’t want to adhere to the rules, then take your lumps or don’t go to the dance. Or do what everyone else does, and just complain about it verbally between your friends and whatnot, and then get over it.
Lol, I swear. :p
I always just had a group of girl friends to dance with at school dances or proms, but I thought it was incredibly tacky when people were grinding like that, especially at prom, which is generally supposed to be a classy occasion.
@MochaSprinkle - ha, not in the least.
That’s funny.
Of course. They should let me get in there instead! lol
Two feet on the ground?? They are so over thinking things. That dance is like a prison. For that, they may as well have a fundraiser and rent out a hotel and have an informal party.
If they really wanted to stop grinding they need to say “keep a couple of inches away from your dance partner.” Grinding IS done with both feet on the ground.
Besides some dances need to be that close just so you can be in sync. Others you need space.
@Guys: Be gentlemen. Don’t touch where you don’t need to touch.
@Girls: If your gonna do that, set the rules. And don’t wear a skirt. I still don’t understand why people do that.
@Old People: I’m sure your parents found your style of dance repulsive. Try it before you reject it.
@Young People: Really, be practical. Hormones are great and getting back at those “old farts” may be fun but be respectful to the actual art of dancing. Have some class.
Anyway, dancing is dancing. Its supposed to be fun, no matter the definition. XD Trying to stop it is futile. They can only “advise” in this.
Also, those rules are extreme. It’s like they are trying to be overprotective grandmothers, no offense intended to all those grandmothers who understand what’s going on in the world.
LOL.
Not going to lie, that’s basically how I dance. Oops?
And unfortunately, I do know what they mean by “both feet on the ground.” I’ve seen girls wrap one leg around the guy and dance that way. I think that’s what they’re trying to avoid. I don’t know how to dance with both feet on the ground all the time though…
lol sandwich
Yeah.
Hahaha!!! That is NOTHING!!!
Wait till they get to my highschool!
So, uhh, no!
ok, i can see where they are comming from but at the same time, what the hell are they thinking? they are gonna dance like that somehow, if you ban it from the schools they WILL, not maybe do it elsewhere. girls tho understand, it may be a dance to you, but guys kinda take it as you want to have sex with them so choose wisely. also if your feet dont leave the floor, how do you walk let alone dance, thats really stupid. whos idea was that? if you want us all to dance properly instead of resorting to grinding and such, then give us free dance lesons instead of gym, tango, cha cha, hip hop, anything exept square dancing ok. also dancing is kinda like making love on the dance floor remeber, so in a way they are doing a good job lol
@Luscious_Life - LOL! My thoughts exactly
@ShimmerBodyCream - Pure win, as always -lol
i guess it might be but at my prom you could not get off that dance floor with out lots of people humping you. thats just how kids dance now. and who cares? kids are gonna have sex which is the reason they dont want them dancing like that so just let it go and give them condoms
hahahaha “sexual bending”
We danced much worse than that in Jr. high.
As a high schooler, yes. As a Christian, yes. As a teenage boy, yes, its too close.
I only never liked that style of dancing, but only because I’m a real dancer, and it kind of pissed me off that dry-humping on the dance floor was considered much sexier than the twisting and gyrating that I could do. I just always figured that if I was going to do those moves, it wouldn’t be in front of a crowd, and it wouldn’t be while clothed.
Ugh, brings back memories of homecoming dances…
Nothing’s worse than getting stuck awkwardly in the middle of a packed dancefloor with people ALL OVER each other. All I could say is, if you absolutely have to do that to each other at that very moment, go somewhere else. There are bathrooms. Even cars in the parking lot. Just…no. -.-
Teach them to tango.
lol @ dude in striped shirt. His body language suggests that he can’t handle the bootay
in my high school prom, dance, whatever, they were like orgies, seriously, way to much, worse then clubs. I say let them have their fun, even if its a way to get them to stp having sex it wont, because teenagers just will have sex no matter what.
Absolutely too close –
Its too close, I believe.
That’s nothing. I saw like eighty nips at Christmas Ball. That’s not the point though.
Let the kids hump if they wanna. It’s pretty much inevitable anyways because do you realize how packed it gets in there? Sometimes you don’t really have a choice if you’re sandwiched or not. Besides, how else are you supposed to dance? An arms length away? That’s dumb. I don’t know why you would touch someone’s boobs when you’re dancing cause that’d be weird. But honestly ass and junk is gonna meet eventually. I’d rather have people at a school dance grinding on each other than at home fucking. Just sayin’. (Or if you go to my school: Having sex next to the pond where half the school can see you…hahahaha)
ha okay. that’s kinda dumb maybe cuz i am in high school……but i don’t dance like that…
i mean unless you heard the sandwhich party is going for a threesome in the locker room afterwards then let em i say fuck it. what’s the difference between “sexual bending” (ha thats funny) and having sexx when you’re a teen? because there is alot of that too.
if you have something against this you have to remember there is alot of HS sex going on too. don’t bring up one issue and forget the rest if you know what i mean.
@Endowedbythecreator - haha i agree he’s like “wait…what do i do with that….and what should i do if she bend over?” LOL
@Drewsius - AMEN
yes it’s too close.
some of the responses here make it clear how far our society has gotten from living by the rules God set for us (let alone even KNOWING them at all).
@laurenmaureen - Valid points…some of these school systems are bordering on the ridiculous trying to restrict every last little thing. It’s not like that will stop anyone from “bumping” and “grinding” anyway, it just winds up happening elsewhere
Psh, I wouldn’t be worried until you can’t see the guy’s shorts under his XXXXL shirt and the girl’s mini skirt is higher than her tube top. Then the real concern will be genital warts.
it’s way too close but this generation and the ones after are going into the shitter
I understand they don’t want people wrapping legs around others, but why not outlaw grinding, instead of saying both feet on the ground. As far as I remember the running man, the sprinkler and many other innocent 90′s moves involved lifting the feet. I can do way worse (without sexually bending) with two feet on the ground, than with one in the air.
A middle school I know of had a rule – ten years ago now – that the teachers chaperoning the dance had to see light between the couples. So this sort of thing is seen as a problem even in the younger grades. Why would kids want to do that stuff in front of teachers and parents chaperoning these things is beyond me. But why some parents let their kids get motel rooms for proms and homecoming is even farther beyond me.
lol are you serious? anyone who thinks this is too close has clearly not been to the average american high school today.
idccc.
I don’t see anything wrong in dancing on the street or so, it’s beyond to be something sexual, I saw on the web a girl who was dancing and as she danced she was wearing a costume of a Cheap Viagra, she was making campaign on sexual health or so.