April 1, 2010
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Is Every Male a Potential Rapist?
I was reading an article by a woman who felt that all men are rapists. She mentioned that women put themselves in harm’s way by going out on dates with men.
The author felt that women should limit alone time with men in order to prevent rape.
One of the commenters in the comment section wrote, “We need to regard EVERY male as a potential rapist/abuser.” Here is the link: Link
Should every male be regarded as a potential rapist/abuser?
Comments (165)
Absolutely not. There are tons of good men out there. It just takes time to find them. I think she’s more than a little paranoid.
Caution isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
I think i’d be to lazy to rape someone.
no thats ridiculous!! and shes obviously paranoid if not outright demented
No. Hell no.
Bitch is just paranoid.
Yes, and so are females.
EVERY MALE IS A RAPIST. PROVE ME WRONG.
i like grapes
Not. I don’t necessarily agree with that assertion. That implies that ALL males have the inability to control themselves and I don’t think that’s true. I think it’s important to be safe and not put yourself in a position for things to happen. I think that mentality lends itself to being fearful of men.
“Potential” is the key word.
I agree that women should be cautious around men until they know them better.
Oh, you know, I was out with the fellas raping the other night, talking about this…
HOLY SHIT I JUST NOTICED 1.3 RAPES PER MINUTE? Does that mean one guys like DRY HUMP RAPING A GIRL?
@Kevin_is_a_pirate - hahahahahah!! good to know.
No.
No way. Seriously, there is a difference in being cautious and being completely paranoid.
No!
She sounds a bit uptight. Maybe she needs a good angry fuck..haha..
Sorry, I’m in a mood.
clearly, she’s pushing it a bit. It’s great to be cautious of anyone, but lets not go overboard.
Um no. That is just sexist with a large pinch of stupidity. Be careful, but not paranoid.
@Drakonskyr - lol!!!
Yes. For that matter, I’m going to regard every woman as a potential rapist. Let’s face it, I’m irresistible.
and before anyone says anything rude to me, I’ve been raped.. and I’m not that resentful… so.. yeah
No on the average I think most guys would not even think of raping anyone
No.
Not in a paranoid way, no. But I agree every person is capable of raping someone. I think every one is capable of any horrendous act. It’s a matter of how far down that path you are. It’s a series of choices and we’re all given those. I don’t think we need to look at every person in fear wondering when they’ll crack and start hurting us.
~V
@betterdesigned - What you said
Well i think everyone should be suspicious of everyone whether it be rapist or serial killers. Personally my gaurd is up 24/7 around guys and gals. If i dont know you i believe you’re a killer. Dont make sudden movements. I might karate chop your throat. I’m even suspicious of people i know. We’re all one breakdown away from being america’s most wanted but its not cool to go around saying someones a rapist or whatever..Keep your suspicions quiet until they exibit crazy behavior ofcourse.
Walking home alone at 4 in the morning in a pair of heels in the ghetto? Yes, every man is a potential rapist. Yeah, I’m paranoid.
But otherwise, no
@AmeSoeur - Haha, I was overcome with a desire to say “*rawr*” to you, and to make it less weird, I embedded it in this rambling sentence…
*facepalm* this is ridiculous.
No. Maybe just potential killers.
Well, if she were only saying that all men should be regarded as rapists, then I could see that maybe she meant we should be cautious with everyone to a degree that will keep us safe. But saying to just limit time alone altogether, and avoid dates? Jeez. That sounds extreme to me.
Well that’s a bit extreme. I always tend toward caution with people, but never going on dates? That’s too much.
no. If all men are potentially rapists, why not all women too?
Not every guy is a rapist. Yeah a lot of alone time with a guy and yes, I have even been uncomfortable being alone with a guy for that reason… and “potential” is a key word… every guy has the potential to do anything. But they do have the brain to think between “right” and “wrong”… just like ANY man can steal, or hurt another person.
but not every guy is a rapist.
Uh NO. Nothing wrong with being cautious on first dates and such, but to regard every guy as a potential rapist? That’s paranoia.
@hilaw - Ima grape you! >:)
Not really, no.
But then again…
I DO in fact have a penis, and so do rapists, so maybe the correlation means it’s true.
I mean…Obama =Osama remember?
ZAMMMMMMMM!
If she has that perception, she should never leave her house. Ever.
And my answer to that question is definitely no!
No, of course not.
I think she meant it more like “be careful because you never know who you’re with- you can’t trust anyone” rather than “yes, he will rape you, you,will die!!”.
If she did mean the latter statement, than she’s just some idiot within an unsound opinion.
@TheMarriedFreshman - Awkward rambling is my biggest turn on.
I’ve been on the receiving end of those kinds of feelings. I don’t like not being trusted to not go crazy. Is my sanity and self control really in question?
Just another fanatic in my opinion.
I also have the potential to kill, steal, and fatally injure others. Does that mean I’ll do it? No. This is the main theme of the movie “Minority Report.”
Not to the point of being paranoid.
any potent male
I have the potential to rape. If someone were to put some kind of mind control device on me, I might end up raping someone against my will. Though whoever would use a mind control device to get me to rape someone is one twisted fuck. Personally, if I had developed a mind control device, I’d put it on someone who works at the Pentagon to get access to super secret plans so that I can take over the world! Oops, I’ve said too much. I guess I’ll go out and rape someone before people start to question why I, as a male, haven’t raped anyone lately (which may lead them to my top secret plan).
Lol this is so ridiculous.
If I think of every male as a potential rapist, I have given myself a victim mentality. That’s a sad way to go through life.
I dunno I think i might have to agree a little I got raped as a teen by a friend who just got so mad at me turning him down and i never thought he would hurt me i just think that yes all guys have the potential just like all guys and girls have the potential the hit someone to just get so angry the feeling explode The only reason i dont say i thik all girls have the potential is the well size and strength part and the sexual parts
NO.
The commenter said “potential rapist” not that every male IS a rapist. Any man with a penis and the ability to grab hold has the POTENTIAL to rape. …doesn’t mean they ARE a rapist.
In a sense we are all sinners and are all capable of great evil. But still, if I were to announce that every woman is a potential prostitute I’d be denounced as a knuckle-dragging sexist, and rightfully so.
After commenting, I read the link. That chick is out there.
@Rob_of_the_Sky - Nice.
@MySecretLoveAffair - In that case, everyone who is human has the potential to rape. You don’t need a penis to force sexual acts on someone. We’re not arguing the semantics here, of course we all have the potential to do a lot of things, but this commenter is being obsessive.
I read the link; the whole site is dedicated to radical feminists who hate men, so there ya go.
That’s stupid. If every man is a rapist, every woman is a victim? BS.
I respect women and was raised respecting women. I will never raise my hand to a woman nor will I go against my beliefs by forcing myself on anyone. That’s not only disrespectful to the woman, that’s disrespectful to me.
@phantomblogger30 - I agree. I was just stating the obvious. We ALL have the potential. I will leave the paranoia up to someone else.
@MySecretLoveAffair - Well, in that case.. right on!
They it bring upon themselves.
Well, you can’t just gladly go off alone with any guy off the street, but there are definitely (and obviously) plenty of guys you can trust, you just have to know them first.
no I dont think we should consider all guys are that way..i feel everyone human, guys and girls, could be rapist. we only think of guys becasue they are the stronger sex. but anyone could be that way. Im not saying if your doing a blind date thing alone, not to be careful. I think cautious is smart. but dont be ignorant and automatically think, “hey hes going to rape me.” so targeting guys is not the right thing to do becasue anyone could rape someone. but i do believe from how people were raised or how they saw their parents acting could cause them to grow up to be a rapiest. but not every guys has that intention.
Every male is a potential rapist? Certainly. Does everyone have the potential to kill? I’d hope so. But I don’t go around killing people all the time, and I hope to never kill a person in my lifetime. I think there are some males who never want to be a part of a rape.
I wouldn’t let a guy I don’t know get me alone, but I do trust several men in my life. It’s hard to NOT be around half of the world’s population.
The numbers are depressing. Everyone has to be cautious.
No, that’s just stupid paranoia and ignorance.
@Alyxandri - Agreed.
Thats like saying every person in downtown is possibly a mugger. >_>
If every man is a rapist then every woman is a rape victim.
I learn that in feminism class
Some lady thinks that because all men have a penis, and penis + penetration = rape
Therefore all men are POTENTIAL* rapist
That’s so messed up to think all guys are rapist -.-” people are so paranoid
@MySecretLoveAffair - I completely agree.
If we’re going to say potential, we’re going to include every woman too because we live in a world of equal opportunity and no double standards after all.
I think that lady should watch a Blaxploitation flick called “Abby.” She will see that women are also potential rapist, become afraid of everyone, and stop spreading this nonsense.
That’s just pushing it too far. I disagree!!!
Great post. My next blog shall answer the dilemma implied.
Is every human a potential murderer?
Women are just as capable and likely of committing rape. If anything, men should be just as cautious. >.>
its not fair to say that every man is a potential rapist/abuser. There are some really good men out there and if we label them as potential rapist/abusers how are we suppose to be close to them??? That label prevents you from opening up and letting someone who could POTENTIALLY be the love of your life…your soulmate…YOUR happily ever after…
@MySecretLoveAffair - That’s an important distinction and it’s why we tell out teenage girls to play it smart. Don’t let yourself be alone in a potential rape setting with a guy (any guy) you don’t know well. It’s just good safety practice.
Not all men are rapists, that’s really unfair.
Does that mean no woman could get married, or be in a serious relationship, because the male would rape her? Does that mean every partnership is doomed? No.
Are you kidding? We INVENTED rape.
Well, All men are naturally aggressive..
But I wouldn’t go as for as saying all men are rapist/abusers.
Some understand and respect the word “NO!” unlike others.
Definitely not. That’s a ridiculous notion.
@hilaw - Hahahahaha! Evreyone else was answering so seriously and then I read your comment and I roflmao! Grapes are awesome btw
One word: PARANOIA!!!!
on the contrary we need to regard every FEMALE as a potential rapist/abuser
jk jk
I think that’s just being paranoid. Being cautious though isn’t always a bad thing.
But seriously, that’s bullshit. I think there is a time and place to be cautious. I wouldn’t go out to bars alone or walk in dark alleys late at night, or spend time alone with someone I feel is questionable. But not every male is a potential rapist. I mean, what about my dad? He’s definitely not going to rape me. My brother. Nope. No way. DearRicky couldn’t rape anyone even if he tried
And there are so many guys in my church that I love spending one on one time with. These people are not going to rape me. Some strange guy I don’t know in a bar? maybe. My point is don’t put yourself in dangerous situations, like drinking alone or with people you’re unfamiliar with, or walking around in the ghetto at night and that would significantly reduce your risk of being raped. By no means do I think that all rapes happen because the person was drinking by themselves or with strange people, or running around half clothed in the ghetto at night. I know that a sometimes it is by someone the person knows and trusts, a classmate, a boyfriend, which is really terrible. But if we ladies use our heads, it’s less likely to happen.
I think it’s good to be cautious, but if you’re straight out paranoid and avoid alone time with every male, how are you ever going to develop a healthy, strong relationship? He’s going to think you’re terrified of him and what average/normal/non-rapist guy wants that?
I wouldn’t say every man is a potential rapist. How about a rapist with potential?
I think women should protect themselves because even people you know have that potential, I would say that when first meeting someone, you should excersize caution in where and how you meet someone. Public places are good, starting lunch dates and such, invites with friends. Not every man is a rapist, just like not every woman is, but that doesnt mean you should throw away your social/romantic life or put yourself into a shady situation either. I have known too many girls to get into a car with a complete stranger…not a good idea.
@MangoWOW - ooh good april fools one. Okay, not really.
I only will rape them if they ask nicely, and the schedule permits. I can’t go and rape someone when I need to be raiding in WoW.
@schallerbrandon - one can dream…actually you’re right. In Soviet Russia, woman rape man!
Well….I guess we’re ALL capable of anything…potentially. But not likely.
Ahahaahaha woman needs to be locked up cause she’s so damn paranoid. You can’t live your life like that. *snort*
Oh my God what a sad perspective on men. If she really thinks that they’re all potential rapists, why even bother to have relationships with them? Why not become a lesbian and then she wouldn’t ever have to go on ANY dates with them? Sheesh. That reminds me of this crazy woman, Maryromantic who used to have a very detailed personal ad where she was looking for a man who didn’t masturbate. LMFAO
@hilaw - me too.
No, but YOU are. BAM!
Even Stephen Hawking?
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welcome to 2010, where every man is now seemingly a rapist lurker.
“rape”
“abuse”
emotionally charged, emotionally polarizing.
how many men are really “potentially abusive”? how many men are really “potential rapist(s)”?
how many women hide behind the “potential victim” label while being (consciously or not) “potential abusers” themselves? Impossible? NOT.
I have to wonder if some research would reveal what, if any, proportion of the female population use their “freedom of speech (expression)” in such a way that men of certain pathological backgrounds and emotional landscapes respond as “abusers” and “rapists”? It might be argued that neither one can “help being the way he or she is”, which implies guilt in both parties.
When both parties take responsibility for themselves, things are less cloudy. The presumption that “all men are potential rapists” is asinine, inane, unfair, and points to a need for extensive psychological counseling.
Propaganda from man-hating lesbian communists. Note how that statistic is strangely absent about *where* in the world most of those rapes are occurring.
That is a very naive statement for someone to make. Every PERSON should be considered a potential rapist. No matter what age, race, color, or creed.
if every male is a potential rapist then every female is a potential gold digger. Every woman with big boobs is a potential skank, every white person is a potential racist.. and so on.
My daughter was raped by a man but I don’t feel like all men are rapists!
I’m gonna go tell this to my sister and advise that she should be careful while babysitting our neighbor’s five year old son BECAUSE HE COULD RAPE HER!
No I don’t think all men are rapists. Silly.
We all know queers stick dick to dem hoes without consent
Not going to lie: I take night classes and when I’m walking campus at night, I’m weary of EVERYONE. Males, females, kids, etc.
@phuck_diz_shiz - i would say that the equation is off. penis+penetration = sex. the equation for rape goes like this (penis + penetration) – consent = rape.
Women just develop/need a higher sense of caution when out alone in the world – it’s hard to explain to men sometimes, who don’t know how it feels to constantly be on the alert. If you hold yourself confidently, and keep aware of your surroundings, you become less of a target. Also, women should keep a small bottle of pepper sprayor something in their purse or coat pocket, it’s just good to be on the safe side. Most men are not potential rapists, but it’s nearly impossible to tell just from looking at someone what they are capable of. It’s best just to make sure you are prepared and alert, and to get to know someone before you spend time alone in a non-public place. I always meet new guys in cafes or popular lunch spots first – if they don’t want to do that, if they’d rather meet somewhere dark and private, then that’s a good sign to stay away.
Not every male. I think girls does have a sixth sense. A lot of times girl feel something is wrong but don’t act upon it, or is too drunk to act upon it. I think unless you trust a guy 100% (I do believe there are guys out there you can trust 100% , think im naive but I do) , don’t drink , or does anything stupid like go to a dark area with them. Its what you do with the guy that lead him on.
what an idiotic statement. I’m a woman (a small one at that) and I’m a bit paranoid at times when I’m outside at night (even with a group of friends) just because of being raised to be careful of my surroundings, but I would NEVER go as far as to say that ALL men have the potential to be rapists. there’s a big difference between all people having the potential to attack someone and having the potential to rape someone. if someone did something absolutely terrible like kill one of my family members, who knows, I might flip out and try kill them too, but I can’t possibly see a situation where I’d feel like raping someone. you’d have to be incredibly fucked up in the head.
Yeah, I clicked on the Stephy plug. I was secretly hoping you and iSteph were doing some kind of April Fools relationship. Oh I wish someone on here would do that…
No.
*snicker*…this topic is gold.
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@ionekoa - oh, I know. that’s what I was referring to
I wont even dignify this with a response. Except to say that she is most likely sitting at her front door right now clutching a handgun, surrounded by sick cats.
Because of our genitalia, an argument could be made that we’re all potential rapists. Then again, because of their genitalia, all women are potential prostitutes. Most of us have a hand or two we could use to choke somebody, so we’re all potential murderers.
Maybe it would be best if we just considered everyone innocent until proven guilty.
Everybody knows I start my day with a big bowl of Rape Nuts.
@MangoWOW - hahahahahaha
Were you intentionally commuting a burden of proof fallacy?
If so I love you for it.
It was either my adviser or another philosopher whose book I was reading that challenged the read “Prove to me you aren’t a pedophile.”
Yes.
A girl climbed into bed with me a week ago. I got the hardest erection in the longest time, but I made sure no part of me went inside of her -_-
Freaking A. Girls are dumb. I found out later that she also accused a previous guy of rape once.
But I still know I’m in love with her.
@jenigrins - Weary of strangers if different then all males.
@obsessgirl - Eh, I wouldn’t risk depending on your ESP to make sure someone is safe.
@ionekoa -
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no. I already don’t like that lady.
Of course. All men are rapists. Didn’t you know?
Yes, every male is a potential rapist. Just like every person you meet could potentially hurt you. But does that mean we have to become overly cautious in our relationships? No. Most men you meet won’t rape you. Most people you meet won’t rob you blind, poison your cornflakes, or drive you down a dark deserted road and murder you. There’s always the chance, since you never know what someone’s like when you first meet them. But walking around looking at everyone you meet as a potential damage-doer is no way to live life. Go out and have fun, but trust your intuition. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation and you aren’t chronically nervous, then there’s probably a reason. But most new people you meet are just other people who are also looking for a good time and mean no harm. Just take a few common sense precautions, like letting a friend know where you are if you’re on a date with someone you don’t know, keep first meetings to public places, don’t walk around a big city after dark, stay out of the bad parts of town if you’re alone, etc.
I spy, with my little eye, somebody who Fails Pattern Recognition Forever.
Girls get bedroom eyes too
@FoliageDecay - Yes, from that current perspective, I don’t know any of the males or ALL of the current ones, so hence every stranger male could be a potential males.
And every woman could be a potential murderer.
that’s taking paranoia to the extreme. should we regard everyone we meet as a potential murderer?
@jenigrins - ha, once I was trapped at the wrong train station at 3 am in France. Amongst the sketching people there I decided to instead use my broken french to ask a woman for directions–because women have a much lower incidence of becoming serial killers.
Welllll, I think she means if you are a female and in a vulnerable situation or alone with a man that you don’t know who can overpower you…. always be on your toes…
But honey, honestly….. being stuck in an elevator with a GAY man , and your only likely to end up with some fashion tips and maybe a new BFF.
Sheesh….
I think it is wise for women to be careful and leery of men, many rapists are really nice guys, other than the fact that they are rapists…
Look at Ted Bundy… who would have thought? He would be very suave or impersonate an authority figure, or even pretend to be hurt and need help.
I think the point is that a rapist can easily pass as a trustworthy person , even gain your trust, rather than implying that ALL men will rape.
From a woman’s perspective, safety is always better, even if people DO think you’re paranoid.
this is probably difficult to understand from a man’s perspective… not that I completely do, but I accept it as a sad fact.
people always called me paranoid before 9/11/01…. now, not so much anymore…
I disagree and I have been raped before.
Hahahahaha
OH NO LOOK OUT, I’M MIGHT RAPE YA! HOO DADDY!
Maybe they should put their tits away and meet guys somewhere other than a bar.
my husband thinks all men are but he’s very protective of me and if someone needs to be in the house he would stop by and be home so I won’t be alone with a repair man or whoever which was funny because when he would leave to go back to work he would give me a kiss (he was the telephone man and still would have his tool belt on) so the guy would get out of there fast-probably thinking I would want the same from him.
I have far more potential to be a rapist than most of the guys I know.
Not a chance. Thats just insanity.
No. As a man, no. That’s just as prejudiced as any other sexist assertion.
@FoliageDecay - oh im not sayin DEPEND on your sixth sense..just saying trust it… i do believe it knows if something its wrong or not for sure
No, that would just make our lives harder.
I read the post and the comments. It reminds me of the days when I’d go on Stormfront and argue with white supremacists. There’s a facade of reason up until the conclusion, which then veers into generalizations and radicalism, and ignores all problems with their conclusion as well as all alternative ideas/solutions.
Yes… Potentially.
Or no, not really, because I could never imagine……. nvm. =/
@AmeSoeur - lol indeed you are.
@Eternalimplosion - at least you’re thinking.
@hilaw - 10/10
No not every man is a potential rapist, but most can get a little over enthused with excitement, depending on their age.
The absurdity of such a claim is beyond belief.
Let’s not get all offended.
It’s always better to be safe, so of course you should limit alone time with a man you don’t know and trust. But going on dates is in public, like a restaurant or something, it’s not like you go home on the first date. I hope not, anyway.
As a victim of rape, I can understand why this woman would put all her eggs in one basket. It’s a traumatic experience for sure–I still have trouble doing certain things with my partner, because it brings me back to that day. I don’t believe that she’s correct in her thinking, however. Since I was raped, I’ve dated tons of guys who have never, EVER made any move like that one me. My current and last partners (last being my best friend now) are the people that I feel the safest around, and both are male. I don’t think either of them would ever do anything like that to anyone. There ARE good men out there, it’s all a matter of finding them. Yes, you need to be cautious, but that doesn’t mean that you need to eliminate men altogether and put them all in one category. There are good fish in this sea.
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Being cautious is a great thing. I read a story a few years ago about a girl and a guy who had been friends since they were very, very little. The guy had a crush on the girl, but she didn’t return his feelings. When they were both in their last years of High School, he finally went nuts when she refused him, and he raped and killed her. Everyone in the town they lived in was completely shocked. Especially the killer’s girlfriend.
Now I’m not saying that means you should consider EVERY guy a rapist. Not at all. That would be slightly ridiculous. Everyone, however, should be cautious and try not to let their guard down, especially on the first few dates. The same goes for men. Sometimes (though it’s less frequent) women rape men. That’s just my opinion of things.
Not DearRicky. He’s too crippled to carry out any physical sexual assualt.
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don’t know if they should be, but I do regard them as…..
The only way every man should be considered a potential rapist, is if every woman is too. Yes, I know that rape of a man doesn’t happen as often, but still. Every human has their sexual urges, and I guess sometimes it can get out of control, and you force it upon someone else. (I amin NO WAY saying that rape is justified. Rape is horrible and is done of the last things anyone should have to go through)
seeing all men as a violent threat is ridiculous. the simple fact of the matter is this, rapists aren’t all me. rape of men by women is grossly underreported… everyone should be cautious about with whom they choose to spend time alone and should be cognizant of the fact that things like rape and sexual assault can happen… in the majority of sex crimes the victim knows their attacker.
isnt this, being sexist against men? i think sexism swings both ways and that woman is just too intent to defend the female population by condemning all men
Not in a paranoid way where you suspect every man at all times. I mean, all men have the potential to rape someone, that doesn’t mean they would ever do it. It’s fine to be cautious.
No..that is just absurd.I think that the women is trying to convince all women to be Lesbians or man haters. AND..what about women who rape men? Should men be afraid of women?And don’t tell me that females raping males doesn’t happen;it’s just that Society refuses to acknowledge it.
@MangoWOW - Thats like saying you have a pussy….so your a prositute right?
Or all women have viaginas so theyu must all be whores
Rape is a very common crime that men commit against women. Like to admit it or not its true. But no not every man is a rapist. However a smart women should always be aware that any man she encounters might be one.
Rape is a very common crime that men commit against women. Like to admit it or not its true. But no not every man is a rapist. However a smart women should always be aware that any man she encounters might be one.
the raping result is horrible.
But every men didn’t like rapes .I know men like sex but they control them self.
this horrible result one reason is also a girls who doesnt cover them self.
If a men see her a sexy they want it.
so i think u all understand .
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