August 3, 2010
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Unfriending
My wife was on Facebook this morning and she mentioned she wanted to drop a friend because she was updating too much.
I told her it never bothered me when people update too much. In fact, it is not the kind of thing I notice.
Would you drop someone as a friend that updated too much?
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I don’t go on FB enough to notice. I’m thinking of dropping a few friends on here right about now, though.
I don’t really notice that much. Only if I’ve seen it more than once over the course of a few days.
no, but you can hide the updates from certain people on your feed.
No. I am like you. And you know this.
Nope.
@Megan@revelife - Sure glad that we aren’t friends then because I would hate to be dropped as your friend if we were. haa
Probably not.
i dropped dearricky on xanga because he updated too much
no…unless I didn’t care about them in the first place. but at the same time if i didn’t care about them. I shouldn’t have added them in the first place…
I just hate all the farm-vile updates in my news feed on FB. I have considered it.
No. But I did drop because she updated so much of things that annoyed me and pissed me off.
No. I do not feel warm towards those who write a post and timestamp it so many times I can’t get away from it. But updating with *original* material several times a day would be ok for the most part. Unless I really hated those posts.
no i would just hide them
I probably have a lot of friends who update too much, but I don’t check Facebook enough to be annoyed by it.
None of my friends update frequently at all. I wouldn’t know what would happen if someone updated too frequently.
I don’t notice and if I do, I don’t care. But hey, your wife can delete whoever she wants. No problem with that.
I do on twitter. People who tweet 20 times in one hour are just horribly annoying.
Reminds me that I have to get around to deleting my Facebook account. I don’t care about the frequent updating, mainly because I don’t log on anymore – it’s all boring, hardly anything interesting ever “happens” in these updates! So I quit logging in.
No. I only un-add someone if I don’t like them (chances are I wouldn’t add them in the first place).
I’ve been dropped on here because someone said they didn’t want to miss my posts (back when I did mostly poetry-type things) and that I was too prolific for that.
Nope. But there are other things as of late that may cause me to delete some people
I drop people who are not actually friends. That’s about it.
Well…not that I have many people on my fakebook (not a typo, it’s a dummy account)…and not that I’m ever on there.
I have thought about it, but I know I could hide them if I wanted to. So not a real chance of that happening. I don’t update too much in fear of annoying my friends. People don’t need to know what I have for dinner each night, or what movie I am watching. Get real.
i did that on twitter.
No, but I have been thinking of doing a friend list “clean-up” and deleting everyone who doesn’t actually fit my definition of “friend”. Meaning, everyone who doesn’t share with me a mutual feeling of even the slightest concern for one another. The idea of having 600+ friends is nice, but I can only deceive myself for so long.
On Tumblr, however, I do delete people who fill up the page with too much reblog spam.
If they were an actual friend then no.
i unfriend them when they’re uber annoying.
I just hide them from my news feed.
No.
Nah. Change is a constant.
I’m about to unfriend my stepmom. She updates every hour, no joke, and she’s always asking people to pray for her. ”I have a headache and a runny nose, pray for me to get well soon,” or “I had such a long day at work, pray that tomorrow is easier.”
She asks for prayers like a homeless dude asks for change. Drives me batshit insane.
it doesn’t bother me on facebook, but it kinda does here when one person takes up the entire feed with their recommendations or reposts.
Depends on what the updates are. One chick I was fb friends with would always complain about how horrible her life was, how ugly she thought she was, and how bored she was. I couldn’t stand it. There would be five or more updates all within seconds of each other like that.. It got so annoying.
depends…
I unfriended someone once because they were so negative. I never saw anything positive. Her kids were always evil, she was always sick, her friends were unreliable, her husband wasn’t what she wanted him to be. I understand that everyone has problems, and that it’s nice to be able to vent about things sometimes, and you should be able to… but put a smile on your face sometimes!
Otherwise I just hide them if they update a lot, or if all they do is play games. I don’t play games on facebook. I think I deleted you from facebook… is that bad? It’s not personal, lol! I wish I had the guts to delete everyone on facebook that is not an actual friend, but that’s kind of scary to think about.
unfriend then!
only people who keep giving me ingredients for their farm and im definitely not close with them.
You don’t need to un-friend them, you can just Hide them, which is what I do.
Sure do!
my sub list is not updating much!
No. even though I don’t use the Facebook chat.
As for Xanga is does not bother me.
i deletepeople all the time.. dont think they’ll mind >.<
Uhm, no. I just click “hide”, and it hides their future updates..
@ribbonsxnxlace - True story. ROFL
No, but I do hide their feed and complain about them often. .___________.
my rule of thumb is, i would only delete someone if they really annoy me or not even interact with me on some level.
I’m just going to unsubscribe a bit. Some people, I’ve TRIED reading… )-:
If you don’t care what someone has to say then youshouldn’t have checked the updates box when you accepted them. By the way I thought the whole point of FaceBook was to be more knowledgable about what your friends were up to.
It’s called the hide button. Use it.
It happens on youtube, but I didn’t know enough people still used
xanga for there to be ‘too many updates’.
I don’t spend enough time on FB to be annoyed by anything going on there.
Nope
@ribbonsxnxlace - LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!
On faceache you can ‘Hide’ overposters but on twit you cant.
You can disable updates from particular friends. Just sayin’
No but I’ve considered deleting my exbf he’s now posting stuff just to hurt me. :/
you can just hide their updates. if its really bad for me and the person posts on my wall too much, i delete them.
Nope. If it’s on Facebook, just ignore them. But I’ve done that on Twitter…
@SomeoneInTheWolf - Why did you block me?
No I just hide them. lol
I would stop going on Facebook and actually leave the house.
No.
I have done before, but that’s because it was literally 4 status updates every 45-60 minutes. And they were all about him falling in love with about 3000 girls. Different girl almost every status. And he complained about his life all of the time.
But with other people, i just hide their updates.
I’m thinking of deleting my Facebook altogether. It’s a stupid, pointless site and I don’t use it anymore.
I don’t use Facebook as often as I once did. Now in xanga I notice and sometimes it’s annoying to see blog after blog after blog, all within 5 minutes apart from one another but I probably wouldn’t drop the friend. I just figure that this person’s mind is moving nonstop and he/she has to get it all out in a post before they’re at peace with themselves.
I’ve dropped facebook “friends” for any number of reasons and a few for no reason at all.
I think you can “Hide” updates from friends whom you don’t want to “follow”. This is available on the profile page and will simply filter friends you don’t really care for. Those people still remain your friends, with all the privileges there are to it, and you can still check their updates through their profiles.
To be sure, you can easily “Unhide” your friends (and even see a list of those) if you change your mind later.
the only people I delete on facebook are the ones that I dont talk to much and ones who are always broadcasting their drama.
You mean on xanga? I drop people who attack others by name. I’m about to drop a few who send annoying mass messages to announce their every post. I’ve had a headache for six days now and the pain has depleted my normal store of patience.
Just hide their updates, but keep them on your friends list….problem solved. I’ve done this for multiple people.
no. i would just ignore them. but if i dont even talk to them, then yes id drop them.
nope. tell her to click “hide” to the right of one of their updates… that will take them off of her feed so she no longer sees their updates. that’s what i do. haha
Yes and No. This kid named jacob got a girlfriend and posted about 30 statuses a day about how much he loved her and dumb lyrics from songs. I removed him from my news feed but I didn’t delete him as a friend.
It doesn’t really matter to me. Plus, I’m nosy and I enjoy reading their updates, haha
Only on Twitter. I have someone on FB who updates constantly, and I wouldn’t “drop” her just because of that.
No. I wouldn’t drop them, but I might “hide” them, that way I’m not seeing 50 updates a day, but can check on them on their page when I feel like it.
You really don’t have to defriend them… Just use your options on the “home” page to not see any more of their updates.. Out of sight..out of mind.
Christy
My uncle unfriended me, not to mention both of his sisters and almost all of the rest of his family, as well as BLOCKED me, because I didn’t comment on his facebook as much as he wanted, or respond to his comments on my status enough. Most of his comments on my status said simply, “Hm.”
I don’t think facebook should be used as a means to control people and force them to talk to you. I have a life, a job, a fiance, school to finish, a wedding to plan…it’s not my fault that he hasn’t been employed in years and spends the majority of the time that his wife is at work on the internet and wants people to keep him company there. My mom’s family is entirely screwed over when it comes to their relationships with each other. The men especially have a tendency to disown the rest of their family for stupid reasons like canceling an insurance plan or being included in somebody’s will…I’m still waiting to find out if we’ve all been disowned again, or just facebook blocked.
I have before.
Not if they updated their facebook status too much, I know that I do that upon occasion. Especially today when I wanted info on cell phones. I do however hide people like my grandmother who don’t ever update their actually status, they just flood my page with all the games that they play.
I have on xanga before. On FB I just block applications.
if it gets to where i’m annoyed i just hide them. but i don’t drop them.
Seperate but related: People here seem to be sensitive about their timestamping. I can be an asshole on their site without rebuke, but when I allude to timestamping, I’m unfriended or blocked.
No.
I have on xanga. Not updating too much, but too much timestamping or people rec’ing people I utterly hate. I also dropped people on twitter who updated a lot, like Ellen Degeneres and Perez Hilton.
The friends that update a lot are the ones I hide.
The only time I unfriend a person is when I’m going through my friends list and I haven’t talked to them (at all) for at least 6 months. THen it’s bye-bye.
Yes.
I even dropped a friend because she was blogging about her sex life too much. It was totally TMI.
this post is very boring. fyi
I usually use the hide updates function.
only when it’s outrageous. i had to drop somebody because they literally updated their status 35 times in ONE day! and it was all really unimportant statuses that nobody ever commented on.
Definitely delete/unfriend people who talk about lame things like the weather, their shoes or the shopping they did a week ago. Seems fair.
No b’coz I don’t use FB lol
Facebook’s a little different than Xanga because it’s primarily geared for updating instead of actual blogging, but @jing116 is correct; you can ‘hide’ any person’s updates without actually blocking or unfriending them. On my Facebook, I have a couple friends who update with some very innocuous and trivial passages constantly: “I’m getting up now…” “Getting ready for work…” “Coffee, hmmm…” etc. It’s drivel of course, but I just ignore it, recognizing that it’s the influence of the cell phone being used for updates.
No. I would just hide their updates.
I just hide the updates myself. I only unfriend if there is a real issue.
i wouldn’t drop a friend like that
No even though I don’t do face book.
On facebook, you can block people from coming up on your feed, by clicking “hide” beside their name on your feed, and can add them back into your feed by clicking “edit options” at the bottom of the home page, while still remaining facebook friends. I’ve discovered this is far superior to defriending someone, because personally when someone defriends me and I run into them in the real world, there’s a cold barrier between us that could have been otherwise avoided.
Ehh, It’s whatever.
Gives me something to read when I’m bored x]
As long as my feed isn’t totally dominated by them and their updates are thought out, I don’t mind.
No, I don’t mind
No..
Na.
No.
As many friends as you have, do you even notice it when someone updates too much?
I just took some people off my newsfeed.
@markearthtourist - You can block Farmville from your newsfeed.
If I am bothered by someone’s boring ass status messages, then I’m smart enough to hide them! You don’t have to drop a friend to avoid seeing their mundane thoughts every few seconds. HIDE THEM
I just hide them.
No, wouldn’t drop someone for updating so much. But if they’re not that much of a friend and we don’t communicate that much through facebook I’ll delete them. Been deleting a lot of people on facebook lately. Don’t care the number of friends I have…I just want real true friends on my list. The ones I won’t delete though even if we don’t talk are family. They stay no matter what.
Only if I had my phone set to notify me every time this particular person updated. But really, then I should change MY notifications and let my friend connect as much as s/he wants. However, I check facebook between twice a week to twice a month, and my phone gets 0 notifications. Soooo…maybe the wife is checking facebook too much from whatever media?
I’ve been randomly de-friended a few times. These are people who knew who I was, but never really knew them that much. The issue here is that after they de-friend me, they still have 900+ some odd friends. You know, it’s as if they’ve gone out of their way just to remove someone individual. It gives the impression that some people just don’t like your face.
I don’t really care if someone updates too much. I wouldn’t go out of my way to remove them from my list. I don’t even check that much anyway.
I have blocked certain applications from posting (like that darn FarmVille) because sometimes that’s ALL I’d see on my feed… about 4 dozen posts from the same person from the game. When the person actually posts substantial status updates I enjoy reading them, so I’ve simply blocked the application.
As for “unfriend” well, if they’re guilty of obsessive cursing and “sexy” posts then I “unfriend.” I am not interested in the details of your sex-life and I don’t care for the constant cursing. I’ve also blocked someone who did nothing but complain about her life. We all complain, don’t get me wrong, but every single status update is about how hard your life is when, let’s see, you own your own home, you’re married, have a beautiful child, you own two businesses of your own that you run from home, and you have excellent health. I don’t want to hear about how bad things are for you all the time. Try spending the summer in the hospital and then tell me how bad things are.So, long answer, even longer
there are various reasons that I might ‘unfriend’ someone, but not because they update TOO often… again, unless it’s because their updates are pointless and annoying.
@SoapAndShampoo - Right there with ya!
She is probably just being paranoid, you can always change your own setting of how much and what updates you want to see from your friends.
um… does your wife realize you can take people out of your news feed? haha. No need to unfriend, maybe she means that it’s what is in the updates that bothers her?
I had one friend who updated semi-constantly with posts that annoyed me so i just clicked to take her out of my news feed. It worked out well.
Don’t worry Dan. You’re still on my friends list.
I’m the kind of person your wife talks about. I don’t update with statuses as much as everyone else . . . although I’ve already made three today, which is rare. Usually, my updates are news-related. If not, then it’ll probably show up on your newsfeed that I’ve wished multiple people happy birthday. There’s also different videos I share. Considering most things I see on my newsfeed are random statuses, (“I’m 6 feet tall . . . “) PM’s from one person to another, (the ever-popular “lol!”) or some app that tells me what item or level someone gained, (I don’t need an example for that, do I?) I think mine are at least a -little- less annoying.
i do drop people who update too much. it’s annoying, like, “yes, i saw that you were bored when you posted it 5 minutes ago. you don’t need to post it again.”
i’ll also delete people who are negative all the time, try to start crap with me or other people, or spam my wall with every app under the sun.
I don’t drop friends just for obsessive updating. Instead I hide them from my news feed. That way I don’t have to see them and they don’t get offended because we aren’t “friends” anymore, that way if I ever need a kidney they are still there.
I don’t do FB~ but Meteorology Man does. He used to do it all the time~ but it ends up hurting folks. Now he just hides their updates~ and goes directly to their site, if he wants to read it.
She could just click “show less” about the person. And it won’t show up on her newsfeed.
I no longer have a Facebook, but when I did, if someone was a hyper-updater, I just hid their feed rather than unfriending them.
No, I just change the settings so I can’t see their updates.
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I’ve went through quite a few “cleanings” of my FB profile actually. Mostly people I’ve (literally) never talked to. And sometimes people I never really liked who always update their status in some depressing way (liiiike “He dumped me and I’m all alone.” or “Fml (insert something lame here)” spamming up my recent updates. I know these people have legitimate reasons (probably) for feeling sad, or lonely I get that trust me…but when it’s posted on FB and I have to look at it constantly!? That’s my 2 cents anyways
No, it doesn’t bother me.
I have. If it’s someone I’m not too fond of to begin with, then when they update too much it just sends me over the edge. I figure I’m better off just getting rid of them before I do something stupid like make a nasty comment on their status or something. I actually removed a friend on Xanga last night for the first time because she time stamped everything more than I could handle, and I was finding her entries aggravating to begin with.
I hide people who update too much/are super annoying about their political and religious beliefs via updates. I never delete people for that, though.
No need to “unfriend.” Just hide their posts if you get tired of them, and avoid the drama. I’ve done that with “friends” whose posts have become overly dramatic and attention-seeking.
In principle, I’m not against it. Tell her that you can “hide” the person, instead of unfriending them. This will allow them to stay friends (so they can still visit each others page when they want), but she won’t see that persons updates on her news feed.
i just delete ‘em from my newsfeed if they get annoying
No. You can just hide their feed so you don’t see their updates.
No need to unfriend… makes it inconvenient if you need/want to contact them via FB in the future.
I don’t usually drop them as friends, but I have used the “hide” feature for people who update constantly with boring or negative statuses.
no i wouldn’t i just block the application that they update too much =P people take unfriending too seriously and i dont need all the drama lol
they have a “hide” feature now.. tell her about it! because unfriending might cause some unwanted drama for her… :
No – maybe your wife is jealous?
No, but I would delete most of their posts so I can see other people’s stuff.
You can change it so you see less updates from a specific person if it bothers her that much. I don’t delete people for updating too much, but for status’ that are all about politics and how Obama ruined the country, I would delete in a second. I am not saying I put my full support behind the president but there is no need to sit and complain about the country, get off your butt and doing something about it if it bothers you that much! lol
No, I don’t do that, but I click on their name in the newsfeed and hide them so I don’t get their updates.
she can just hide the person from her news feed. just hover the mouse over one of the posts in the wall feed, and a ‘hide’ button will appear to the right, click that and she wont see updates in the feed anymore.
No I have people on there that do… but there’s this handy dandy little thing called the hide button. Or I just ignore it.
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I have done it on Xanga, well someone I subscribed too
but on Facebook you can just “hide” them from your newsfeed
Not on often enough to notice, I guess. I read their statuses in Tweetdeck, but I haven’t noticed anybody posting with inordinate frequency.
There is a “hide updates from this friend” button for that reason.
@markearthtourist - you can hide that app you know
It’s something that’s noticed, but it’s not something to unfriend them over. Like if they are updating their status every minute, I’d definitely limit them on my friend’s list.
I used to, but now I just hide their feed.
Nope. They are my friends so therefore I should want to receive there updates. I am probably a main offender of update crashing though but no one has cut me yet… or have they?
I wouldn’t know, I’m never on there anymore anyway.
you can hide them on your newsfeed.
why is this a TOP BLOG on the xanga front page?! and no, i wouldn’t.. cuz u can just.. hide them. on the news feed. duh.
Tell her to hide them on her FB feed then. She’ll never see them then.
@jimmyneyugn - And to answer your question, because it’s Dan.. And he’s popular so it gets a lot of comments and view and bing bang boom, top blogs.
Doesn’t bother me.. I update a lot lol. @mae - I thought that’s the point of twitter?
No. I like to see anyone to updating post on Xanga.
Yea, I’ve done that. But I didn’t really like the person either so it worked out.
when i had fakebook everyone updated every five to ten minutes, so i left. if i would have stayed, then yes, i know those people would’ve gotten deleted from my friends list.
@MochaSprinkle - some updates waaayyyy to much that scrolling down 10 times later, it’s still ALL their tweets.
had a fried who tweets excessively on negative issues and thoughts. they are filled with so much pessimism, one friend even deactivated her twitter to avoid seeing those tweets,
I’ve hidden a person from my feed because they constantly whine about how unfair farmville is to them, and I did that because I was going to post a response I might regret. So instead I hide them.
What about the “Hide” command?
Nope, thats why they have the hide feature.
I do unfriend those who are outright ignorant with their posts and updates. As for Twiiter, I don’t care…isnt that what it’s for?
you can unsubscribe from a person’s updates by clicking on the hidden icon on the right and clicking “hide updates from This Friend”. don’t have to unfriend them.
“facebook friend” and “friend” should not be treated as meaning the same thing.
Only if their updates weren’t interesting to me.
no need to drop or defriend them…all you have to do is click on the X to the right of one of their posts. you can just hide them on your feed. then you are not bothered by multiple postings. easy fix with nobody getting hurt feelers.
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No, in fact, I like it when people update often.